Not a lot of people REALLY catch my eye.....

It’s always been popular going back to old flames after separations and divorces huh

This why y’all gotta stay woke when they stay friends with their exes

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

What's the question?

I guess there’s not really a solid question, but more like I’m not sure how to interpret any of this haha. Or if it even matters?! Really I just take it as it comes.

I’ve asked a few different times what he thought of me. And it was not insinuating in a romantic way. But he refuses to share that. When I asked in person, he just made it out like it didn’t matter casually and I didn’t push. Do I just listen to what he’s telling me, or just not care?! I feel like I sound goofy......

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What's the question?

I guess there’s not really a solid question, but more like I’m not sure how to interpret any of this haha. Or if it even matters?! Really I just take it as it comes.

I’ve asked a few different times what he thought of me. And it was not insinuating in a romantic way. But he refuses to share that. When I asked in person, he just made it out like it didn’t matter casually and I didn’t push. Do I just listen to what he’s telling me, or just not care?! I feel like I sound goofy......

I'm always reluctant to guess at someone's motives. Let me rephrase. I'm just as guilty as anyone of trying to guess at people motives, but I think it's a fool's errand, especially in romance. In the first couple of paragraphs, I see you looking backward, fitting in places in your life with this guy, as if he's always been your soulmate. Are you sure that's an accurate memory of what has gone on? I ask because my cousin did this with 6 different men one year when she was on the rebound. "We dated back a few years ago...blah blah blah...I've never stopped thinking about him." And that was bullshit. A fact I knew. She'd been in love with someone else and had not mentioned any of these guys in years.

Anyway, I ask because my warning is do not romanticize what's happening as fate or destiny and assume he's thinking the same. He's probably not. It might grow into something, and it might not.

I know I sound like an asshole. I'm not trying to piss on your parade. I've just seen people make this mistake a lot (the thinking it's destiny thing).

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No, you don’t sound like an asshole lol. I want to hear truths. I’m realistic, but also never thought we would click so well after all. Though, i don’t fully feed into that whole cliche about soul mates, I believe vibes are very real and honest.

No, I do not have similar stories to bust out along with this one lol Few stories total, if you catch my drift. It is surely not for lack of males trying., I’m picky. And he knows all of this. He has referred to us having history, so that’s why I felt like it was relevant to mention. Perhaps that’s why I guess I’m thrown for a loop, and possibly why I am so smitten...

Thank you for letting me know that I caught your eye 😉

I'm currently dating though.

Play the what "if" game with him. Ask what if questions. Beat around the bush intentionally. He he has a brain he will pick up on it. Make it obvious with tonality or wording. Texting not recommend btw.This will allow you to get a feel for things without much risk. If you or him get responses you are unhappy or uncomfortable with, you can both laugh it off as just "a game" and pretend it didn't happen.

You've set the stage for a FWBs encounter. So, I believe that that's what you'll get out of it.

He fixed his lips to tell you that he met another woman that he'll be using sex toys on her. And after THAT, your question is "How do you feel about me?"

Posted by sweetpea2977

You've set the stage for a FWBs encounter. So, I believe that that's what you'll get out of it.

He fixed his lips to tell you that he met another woman that he'll be using sex toys on her. And after THAT, your question is "How do you feel about me?"

See, that’s what I was wondering. I’m pretty good at putting my own foot in my mouth. Especially, since we only text so it’s hard to distinguish sarcasm and humor at times. I just thought the timing was weird about the comment of sex with another person. I say that because I offered to be friends with sex if that made him feel more comfortable just the day before. So I’m still wondering if it was even a true statement. I still never got a completely straight answer. Always at arms length....or I’m just overthinking it?!

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What's the question?

I guess there’s not really a solid question, but more like I’m not sure how to interpret any of this haha. Or if it even matters?! Really I just take it as it comes.

I’ve asked a few different times what he thought of me. And it was not insinuating in a romantic way. But he refuses to share that. When I asked in person, he just made it out like it didn’t matter casually and I didn’t push. Do I just listen to what he’s telling me, or just not care?! I feel like I sound goofy......

I'm always reluctant to guess at someone's motives. Let me rephrase. I'm just as guilty as anyone of trying to guess at people motives, but I think it's a fool's errand, especially in romance. In the first couple of paragraphs, I see you looking backward, fitting in places in your life with this guy, as if he's always been your soulmate. Are you sure that's an accurate memory of what has gone on? I ask because my cousin did this with 6 different men one year when she was on the rebound. "We dated back a few years ago...blah blah blah...I've never stopped thinking about him." And that was bullshit. A fact I knew. She'd been in love with someone else and had not mentioned any of these guys in years.

Anyway, I ask because my warning is do not romanticize what's happening as fate or destiny and assume he's thinking the same. He's probably not. It might grow into something, and it might not.

I know I sound like an asshole. I'm not trying to piss on your parade. I've just seen people make this mistake a lot (the thinking it's destiny thing).

No, you don’t sound like an asshole lol. I want to hear truths. I’m realistic, but also never thought we would click so well after all. Though, i don’t fully feed into that whole cliche about soul mates, I believe vibes are very real and honest.

No, I do not have similar stories to bust out along with this one lol Few stories total, if you catch my drift. It is surely not for lack of males trying., I’m picky. And he knows all of this. He has referred to us having history, so that’s why I felt like it was relevant to mention. Perhaps that’s why I guess I’m thrown for a loop, and possibly why I am so smitten...

History is definitely relevant, it’s just not a guarantee that he’ll be more upfront and ethical than otherwise.

Is he picky too? One unfortunate thing about being picky (I am too) is that we put more importance on each person we date. People who are into options tend to devalue people, I’ve noticed.

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I’ve never asked if he’s picky. I know he told me a couple years ago that he hadn’t had a “gf” since his divorce. But as far as partners, the only thing that’s been mentioned is that he does have “women on deck” (my choice of words) but it’s all a matter of whether he wants them or not. Always very open ended.

I had started a conversation one day (trying to open up) about how I am learning to be more conscious about how my energy effects people. There had been a few weeks where I had guys basically trying to make moves on me. I get frustrated sometimes because I love meeting new people and I mentioned how it limits my interactions with people. Just bouncing ideas off his brilliant mind, thinking of ways I can make it better. I think he was completely getting the wrong idea, and was asking if I had slept with someone. But did so in a joking manner. And I told him no, so I asked if he had. Before he answers he asks “would I be upset if he had?” I said “no, just a question that you really don’t have to answer.” But then told me “no, unfortunately.” Then that was all that was mentioned until now the new comment.

I know that he atleast likes me, which may be all I am to ever know lol but I guess my huge question is if we are on the same page. I don’t expect him to suffer physically because of the distance thing. But I guess ultimately for me if I wasn’t enough to keep him attention, or if the spark wasn’t or isn’t for as intense for him as it was for me, I don’t want it lol I would happily be his friend, distantly lol

Probably overthinking 🤔

If I sound like a blabbering idiot, DO NOT BE AFRAID TO SAY 😂

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Posted by Phantom_Dangus

What's the question?

I guess there’s not really a solid question, but more like I’m not sure how to interpret any of this haha. Or if it even matters?! Really I just take it as it comes.

I’ve asked a few different times what he thought of me. And it was not insinuating in a romantic way. But he refuses to share that. When I asked in person, he just made it out like it didn’t matter casually and I didn’t push. Do I just listen to what he’s telling me, or just not care?! I feel like I sound goofy......

I'm always reluctant to guess at someone's motives. Let me rephrase. I'm just as guilty as anyone of trying to guess at people motives, but I think it's a fool's errand, especially in romance. In the first couple of paragraphs, I see you looking backward, fitting in places in your life with this guy, as if he's always been your soulmate. Are you sure that's an accurate memory of what has gone on? I ask because my cousin did this with 6 different men one year when she was on the rebound. "We dated back a few years ago...blah blah blah...I've never stopped thinking about him." And that was bullshit. A fact I knew. She'd been in love with someone else and had not mentioned any of these guys in years.

Anyway, I ask because my warning is do not romanticize what's happening as fate or destiny and assume he's thinking the same. He's probably not. It might grow into something, and it might not.

I know I sound like an asshole. I'm not trying to piss on your parade. I've just seen people make this mistake a lot (the thinking it's destiny thing).

No, you don’t sound like an asshole lol. I want to hear truths. I’m realistic, but also never thought we would click so well after all. Though, i don’t fully feed into that whole cliche about soul mates, I believe vibes are very real and honest.

No, I do not have similar stories to bust out along with this one lol Few stories total, if you catch my drift. It is surely not for lack of males trying., I’m picky. And he knows all of this. He has referred to us having history, so that’s why I felt like it was relevant to mention. Perhaps that’s why I guess I’m thrown for a loop, and possibly why I am so smitten...

History is definitely relevant, it’s just not a guarantee that he’ll be more upfront and ethical than otherwise.

Is he picky too? One unfortunate thing about being picky (I am too) is that we put more importance on each person we date. People who are into options tend to devalue people, I’ve noticed.

I’ve never asked if he’s picky. I know he told me a couple years ago that he hadn’t had a “gf” since his divorce. But as far as partners, the only thing that’s been mentioned is that he does have “women on deck” (my choice of words) but it’s all a matter of whether he wants them or not. Always very open ended.

I had started a conversation one day (trying to open up) about how I am learning to be more conscious about how my energy effects people. There had been a few weeks where I had guys basically trying to make moves on me. I get frustrated sometimes because I love meeting new people and I mentioned how it limits my interactions with people. Just bouncing ideas off his brilliant mind, thinking of ways I can make it better. I think he was completely getting the wrong idea, and was asking if I had slept with someone. But did so in a joking manner. And I told him no, so I asked if he had. Before he answers he asks “would I be upset if he had?” I said “no, just a question that you really don’t have to answer.” But then told me “no, unfortunately.” Then that was all that was mentioned until now the new comment.

I know that he atleast likes me, which may be all I am to ever know lol but I guess my huge question is if we are on the same page. I don’t expect him to suffer physically because of the distance thing. But I guess ultimately for me if I wasn’t enough to keep him attention, or if the spark wasn’t or isn’t for as intense for him as it was for me, I don’t want it lol I would happily be his friend, distantly lol

Probably overthinking 🤔

Whoa, that's a big leap from saying that you're annoyed that guys are hitting on you to you sleeping with someone. It's a little weird that he would make such a leap. It's probably not a good idea to bring that stuff up with a guy you're interested in, though. I've done it so I understand that shit just comes out. I think it's because you're having feelings of attraction toward him, so your conversations naturally lean toward those topics. It's the same reason people end up saying too much about their exes in the beginning.

You shouldn't offer to be FWBs if it's going to be a problem for you. I'm sensing it's going to be a problem for you. What do you think?

As for him sending you pictures of toys and saying they're for someone else, that definitely means that he's currently defining this as non-committed. Maybe he was testing where you think things or making sure you won't get jealous. Maybe it turns him on to have a female friend or a lover who likes hearing about his exploits. Maybe he hoped you would get jealous. So many possibilities, honestly, but none of them seem to point to him wanting a serious, committed relationship.

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You’re right, so many possibilities. Hence why I choose to keep my life limited. Ive learned to be choosey with how I spend my energy. Ive already spent more time than I care too trying to decode the happening.

He told me the whole pic of the toys thing “was a more of a joke.” I’m all for things being a “joke” more often then not, I tell everyone I know to never take me seriously. Laughing is my favorite 😂 but I will make it clear friends is just friends. And hopefully that sits comfortably for everyone. If not, it’s not like we run into one another....

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Following the visit, we talked about how nice it was and he mentioned more than a few times that he regretted having me leave the first day. I assure him that it was an okay choice because I’m again trying to not be stingy or clingy, but he really is my weakness. We talk a lot about sex and how bad we physically want eachother, so I wasn’t sure if it was just that?

Moving forward to the present. Still 8 hours away, we still talk. Mostly sharing funny memes and sexual desires. He sends me a photo of some “toys” that he got, which he had mentioned us trying before, and says that he met a girl and they are to try it this weekend. And while he does so, he will think of me? Now I did just mentioned prior to that how I didn’t want him to think he couldn’t go with someone else, trying to be realistic because it’s reality. We are not together. So I’m not sure if I accidentally just gave him the idea that I’m all for just a platonic friend. Truthfully, if it is something that he really wanted; one, he’s going to do it anyways, and two, I wouldn’t want to be THAT person to want someone to stop their life for me. Part of growing and learning is to be able to be happy for those you care about, even if it is not something that you would personally choose. Though, I do have a way of sugar coating things......

I know this is a lot but really it’s just the basics. Feel free to ask questions.

Id love to hear opinions! I know every person is different, but I am all for learning from other experiences😎

He just sees you as casual sex.

I don't think he sees you as a friend. I don't think he would keep putting effort into the friendship if he didn't think you would have sex again.

And from what you say ..you don't actually have a friendship ..you just talk about sex.

You are fuckbuddies.

If you are cool with that ..cool.

I wouldn't be. But i ain't you.

If you like being fuckbuddies with him ....go for it.

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I wouldn’t say that we don’t have a friendship. We aren’t extra close, but we know each others children and family. I would feel comfortable calling him with a problem if I felt the need.

As far as fuckbuddies or FWBs, PASSSSS

I don’t share, for many reasons lol We are able to be friends and not physical.

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Play the what "if" game with him. Ask what if questions. Beat around the bush intentionally. He he has a brain he will pick up on it. Make it obvious with tonality or wording. Texting not recommend btw.This will allow you to get a feel for things without much risk. If you or him get responses you are unhappy or uncomfortable with, you can both laugh it off as just "a game" and pretend it didn't happen.

Funny because he had just told me the other day to stop “beating around the bush.” I think because he had taken something I said the wrong way, and kinda jumped the gun a little. So when I told him his assumption was wrong he said that I shouldn’t “beat around the bush” lol

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Following the visit, we talked about how nice it was and he mentioned more than a few times that he regretted having me leave the first day. I assure him that it was an okay choice because I’m again trying to not be stingy or clingy, but he really is my weakness. We talk a lot about sex and how bad we physically want eachother, so I wasn’t sure if it was just that?

Moving forward to the present. Still 8 hours away, we still talk. Mostly sharing funny memes and sexual desires. He sends me a photo of some “toys” that he got, which he had mentioned us trying before, and says that he met a girl and they are to try it this weekend. And while he does so, he will think of me? Now I did just mentioned prior to that how I didn’t want him to think he couldn’t go with someone else, trying to be realistic because it’s reality. We are not together. So I’m not sure if I accidentally just gave him the idea that I’m all for just a platonic friend. Truthfully, if it is something that he really wanted; one, he’s going to do it anyways, and two, I wouldn’t want to be THAT person to want someone to stop their life for me. Part of growing and learning is to be able to be happy for those you care about, even if it is not something that you would personally choose. Though, I do have a way of sugar coating things......

I know this is a lot but really it’s just the basics. Feel free to ask questions.

Id love to hear opinions! I know every person is different, but I am all for learning from other experiences😎

He just sees you as casual sex.

I don't think he sees you as a friend. I don't think he would keep putting effort into the friendship if he didn't think you would have sex again.

And from what you say ..you don't actually have a friendship ..you just talk about sex.

You are fuckbuddies.

If you are cool with that ..cool.

I wouldn't be. But i ain't you.

If you like being fuckbuddies with him ....go for it.

I wouldn’t say that we don’t have a friendship. We aren’t extra close, but we know each others children and family. I would feel comfortable calling him with a problem if I felt the need.

As far as fuckbuddies or FWBs, PASSSSS

I don’t share, for many reasons lol We are able to be friends and not physical.

Uhm you just posted in the other thread that he will use the toys on another woman and think of you. That's clearly sharing. Otherwise, you would've stopped contact when he told you about that.

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Yes, that’s is what he said then turned around and also said that it was a joke?! So that’s when I got the most confused. Was this an effort to fish for info? Or just a way to say “hey I’m bored and looking for strange.” I haven’t seen him for a couple months, and probably won’t for atleast a couple more. And I can promise you that if things aren’t more clear by that time, it will strictly be a friendly visit. I truly don’t and won’t share.

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Following the visit, we talked about how nice it was and he mentioned more than a few times that he regretted having me leave the first day. I assure him that it was an okay choice because I’m again trying to not be stingy or clingy, but he really is my weakness. We talk a lot about sex and how bad we physically want eachother, so I wasn’t sure if it was just that?

Moving forward to the present. Still 8 hours away, we still talk. Mostly sharing funny memes and sexual desires. He sends me a photo of some “toys” that he got, which he had mentioned us trying before, and says that he met a girl and they are to try it this weekend. And while he does so, he will think of me? Now I did just mentioned prior to that how I didn’t want him to think he couldn’t go with someone else, trying to be realistic because it’s reality. We are not together. So I’m not sure if I accidentally just gave him the idea that I’m all for just a platonic friend. Truthfully, if it is something that he really wanted; one, he’s going to do it anyways, and two, I wouldn’t want to be THAT person to want someone to stop their life for me. Part of growing and learning is to be able to be happy for those you care about, even if it is not something that you would personally choose. Though, I do have a way of sugar coating things......

I know this is a lot but really it’s just the basics. Feel free to ask questions.

Id love to hear opinions! I know every person is different, but I am all for learning from other experiences😎

He just sees you as casual sex.

I don't think he sees you as a friend. I don't think he would keep putting effort into the friendship if he didn't think you would have sex again.

And from what you say ..you don't actually have a friendship ..you just talk about sex.

You are fuckbuddies.

If you are cool with that ..cool.

I wouldn't be. But i ain't you.

If you like being fuckbuddies with him ....go for it.

I wouldn’t say that we don’t have a friendship. We aren’t extra close, but we know each others children and family. I would feel comfortable calling him with a problem if I felt the need.

As far as fuckbuddies or FWBs, PASSSSS

I don’t share, for many reasons lol We are able to be friends and not physical.

Uhm you just posted in the other thread that he will use the toys on another woman and think of you. That's clearly sharing. Otherwise, you would've stopped contact when he told you about that.

Yes, that’s is what he said then turned around and also said that it was a joke?! So that’s when I got the most confused. Was this an effort to fish for info? Or just a way to say “hey I’m bored and looking for strange.” I haven’t seen him for a couple months, and probably won’t for atleast a couple more. And I can promise you that if things aren’t more clear by that time, it will strictly be a friendly visit. I truly don’t and won’t share.

Hmmm you haven't seen him for months and maybe for a bit longer. It's not looking good. Because for one, this is like his second chance to have you. If he's really into it, he would've jumped on it already by now. And the kids, I'm not trying to be insensitive here but if he does live you, he will find a way. With or without kids involved. I hope you are not making excuses for him. With aquas, it is what it is. I don't think aquas like to confuse people or complicate things when it can be avoided hence the many exes they remain friends with. Please consider this thought.

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I don’t feel like you’re being insensitive.

I do kinda feel as if it was the “love” thing, he maybe woulda spoke up by now. But I just didn’t know if I missed the signs in hopes to hear the words instead.

When he was here for his visit, he had made a a couple comments like “you’ll be alright” and “you’ll find someone” but never elaborated on what that supposed to mean.

Truthfully, I feel like his feelings for me is an inconvenience to him. And that he’s trying to fight them. I could be wrong. But it is so hard for me to read when he’s not in front of me. But I’m pretty intelligent myself 😉

Posted by Aquaman2

Okay ......someone with the same name was here before i think..

Anyways, he truly loves you for sure...I have the similar thing with capricorn girl...but no-one is married yet... she's the cutiest girl I have ever met.

What happens to the kids if you want to return to him ?

Well, I didn’t think it posted anywhere else. But I did get your replies on both😉

What similar experiences do you have to share?

As far as the kids, that would be something to discuss for sure. Perhaps why so much thought would have to be brought into this, on both sides. Unfortunately, my children’s father has not been in their lives very much, incarcerated mostly. And as I have stated, I have not dated in a longtime, so I’ve never brought another male around my kids. I tend to overthink everything.... huge flaw.

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You've set the stage for a FWBs encounter. So, I believe that that's what you'll get out of it.

He fixed his lips to tell you that he met another woman that he'll be using sex toys on her. And after THAT, your question is "How do you feel about me?"

OMG! I didn’t know what I felt about this story but after I read your response I was like THAT!!!

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Following the visit, we talked about how nice it was and he mentioned more than a few times that he regretted having me leave the first day. I assure him that it was an okay choice because I’m again trying to not be stingy or clingy, but he really is my weakness. We talk a lot about sex and how bad we physically want eachother, so I wasn’t sure if it was just that?

Moving forward to the present. Still 8 hours away, we still talk. Mostly sharing funny memes and sexual desires. He sends me a photo of some “toys” that he got, which he had mentioned us trying before, and says that he met a girl and they are to try it this weekend. And while he does so, he will think of me? Now I did just mentioned prior to that how I didn’t want him to think he couldn’t go with someone else, trying to be realistic because it’s reality. We are not together. So I’m not sure if I accidentally just gave him the idea that I’m all for just a platonic friend. Truthfully, if it is something that he really wanted; one, he’s going to do it anyways, and two, I wouldn’t want to be THAT person to want someone to stop their life for me. Part of growing and learning is to be able to be happy for those you care about, even if it is not something that you would personally choose. Though, I do have a way of sugar coating things......

I know this is a lot but really it’s just the basics. Feel free to ask questions.

Id love to hear opinions! I know every person is different, but I am all for learning from other experiences😎

He just sees you as casual sex.

I don't think he sees you as a friend. I don't think he would keep putting effort into the friendship if he didn't think you would have sex again.

And from what you say ..you don't actually have a friendship ..you just talk about sex.

You are fuckbuddies.

If you are cool with that ..cool.

I wouldn't be. But i ain't you.

If you like being fuckbuddies with him ....go for it.

I wouldn’t say that we don’t have a friendship. We aren’t extra close, but we know each others children and family. I would feel comfortable calling him with a problem if I felt the need.

As far as fuckbuddies or FWBs, PASSSSS

I don’t share, for many reasons lol We are able to be friends and not physical.

Uhm you just posted in the other thread that he will use the toys on another woman and think of you. That's clearly sharing. Otherwise, you would've stopped contact when he told you about that.

Yes, that’s is what he said then turned around and also said that it was a joke?! So that’s when I got the most confused. Was this an effort to fish for info? Or just a way to say “hey I’m bored and looking for strange.” I haven’t seen him for a couple months, and probably won’t for atleast a couple more. And I can promise you that if things aren’t more clear by that time, it will strictly be a friendly visit. I truly don’t and won’t share.

Hmmm you haven't seen him for months and maybe for a bit longer. It's not looking good. Because for one, this is like his second chance to have you. If he's really into it, he would've jumped on it already by now. And the kids, I'm not trying to be insensitive here but if he does live you, he will find a way. With or without kids involved. I hope you are not making excuses for him. With aquas, it is what it is. I don't think aquas like to confuse people or complicate things when it can be avoided hence the many exes they remain friends with. Please consider this thought.

I don’t feel like you’re being insensitive.

I do kinda feel as if it was the “love” thing, he maybe woulda spoke up by now. But I just didn’t know if I missed the signs in hopes to hear the words instead.

When he was here for his visit, he had made a a couple comments like “you’ll be alright” and “you’ll find someone” but never elaborated on what that supposed to mean.

Truthfully, I feel like his feelings for me is an inconvenience to him. And that he’s trying to fight them. I could be wrong. But it is so hard for me to read when he’s not in front of me. But I’m pretty intelligent myself 😉

When he told you that you'll find someone, what was the dialogue you were having with him? The reason I ask is because I had an aqua ex who told me that. I didn't take it seriously but... He actually meant it. He always knew I wasn't the one for him. I just didn't listen so it took me 2 years to get around our situation and realise that actually, he isn't the one as well.

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When he made those statements, they were random. No conversation that lead up to them at all.... that’s what left me curious. I do well with piecing things together, but when certain parts are left unsaid “he was probably thinking out loud” it’s hard to pin point.

Other random statements have included: “You think I just see this as a physical thing, but I actually respect you.”

“You thought everyone you had picked would be as good as me”

“Haven’t forgot about you yet after all these years...”

“Just accept the fact that you’re attractive and have something that people want, not me but some people😉”

BUT, these can all be taken as a friendly statement as well. I’m not trying to just see it one sided.

All in all, I will just chill and let it play out. I only want good things for both of us. If it were to come a day that he was to ask me advice about another female, I would be flattered as a friend and be as helpful as I could 🙃

Other random statements have included: “You think I just see this as a physical thing, but I actually respect you.”

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I don’t seem it looks food when man separates sex and respect. It’s him saying that he has sex with women whom he doesn’t respect? But you are ‘special’ because he has sex with you AND respects you...as supposed to what?

This whole story if fucked up really...

Another ‘dick power’ mess. IMO

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Play the what "if" game with him. Ask what if questions. Beat around the bush intentionally. He he has a brain he will pick up on it. Make it obvious with tonality or wording. Texting not recommend btw.This will allow you to get a feel for things without much risk. If you or him get responses you are unhappy or uncomfortable with, you can both laugh it off as just "a game" and pretend it didn't happen.

Funny because he had just told me the other day to stop “beating around the bush.” I think because he had taken something I said the wrong way, and kinda jumped the gun a little. So when I told him his assumption was wrong he said that I shouldn’t “beat around the bush” lol

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Lol. When your both in on it it's fun though! It's not really flirting at that point though. Got into a hypothetical if she won the lottery thing once. Apperiently she had plans for me lol. I realized then she had real intent at that point.

"As for him sending you pictures of toys and saying they're for someone else, that definitely means that he's currently defining this as non-committed"

Lol

How very age of Aquarius 🙃

I hope you're not a water sign woman, OP?