Aqua keeps using the R word but hasn't officially asked me to be his girlfriend.

Every time he says it I panic we have only been seeing each other for three weeks. But I just got this message " I was just thinking relationships are kind of dangerous because here I am missing you not even one day away." How do I say I didn't know we were in a relationship without hurting his feelings because he hasn't technically asked me yet and I don't know if I want to be with him yet yeah I like him we have a lot of fun together and were able to talk freely with each other but he knows I am at the end of getting over someone. And he never asked! He hasn't had much experience in the dating field so maybe he just doesn't know he has to ask I'm not sure but I really don't want to hurt this guy's feelings after he has been vulnerable with me. He has Scorpio Mars and rising. I haven't even seen him angry yet and he's trying to merge with me!

Posted by ladylibra21
Every time he says it I panic we have only been seeing each other for three weeks. But I just got this message " I was just thinking relationships are kind of dangerous because here I am missing you not even one day away." How do I say I didn't know we were in a relationship without hurting his feelings because he hasn't technically asked me yet and I don't know if I want to be with him yet yeah I like him we have a lot of fun together and were able to talk freely with each other but he knows I am at the end of getting over someone. And he never asked! He hasn't had much experience in the dating field so maybe he just doesn't know he has to ask I'm not sure but I really don't want to hurt this guy's feelings after he has been vulnerable with me. He has Scorpio Mars and rising. I haven't even seen him angry yet and he's trying to merge with me!

Scorpio mars ! Huh ! That explains it ...! 😉 n u have a cancer moon.... have u had sex?

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Every time he says it I panic we have only been seeing each other for three weeks. But I just got this message " I was just thinking relationships are kind of dangerous because here I am missing you not even one day away." How do I say I didn't know we were in a relationship without hurting his feelings because he hasn't technically asked me yet and I don't know if I want to be with him yet yeah I like him we have a lot of fun together and were able to talk freely with each other but he knows I am at the end of getting over someone. And he never asked! He hasn't had much experience in the dating field so maybe he just doesn't know he has to ask I'm not sure but I really don't want to hurt this guy's feelings after he has been vulnerable with me. He has Scorpio Mars and rising. I haven't even seen him angry yet and he's trying to merge with me!

Scorpio mars ! Huh ! That explains it ...! 😉 n u have a cancer moon.... have u had sex?

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Kinda. He gets too nervous. But I told him we can take your time we don't have to do anything and he explained last night that he feels like he has to be more forward since girls have walked in the past because he hasn't done anything with them. I don't want him to decide he wants to be with me out of a sense of insecurity if that is what it is.

Posted by Smidge
i only clicked in 'cause i couldn't figure out what the feckin R word was....

Relationship

well aquas are slow and careful using that R word.

not so long ago you were still hang out on Cap board.

you Libras are fast are you? 😆

Posted by AerialView
well aquas are slow and careful using that R word.

not so long ago you were still hang out on Cap board.

you Libras are fast are you? 😆

Don't be so judgmental I didn't have a relationship with the We were just friends and there was a connection but he was too afraid to have anything and I waited for him for a whole year And a half can you blame me for moving on also Aqua knows about the Cap so you can take your judgments and shove them up your ass

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Posted by AerialView
well aquas are slow and careful using that R word.

not so long ago you were still hang out on Cap board.

you Libras are fast are you? 😆

Don't be so judgmental I didn't have a relationship with the We were just friends and there was a connection but he was too afraid to have anything and I waited for him for a whole year And a half can you blame me for moving on also Aqua knows about the Cap so you can take your judgments and shove them up your ass

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lol i didn't judge you

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well aquas are slow and careful using that R word.

not so long ago you were still hang out on Cap board.

you Libras are fast are you? 😆

Don't be so judgmental I didn't have a relationship with the We were just friends and there was a connection but he was too afraid to have anything and I waited for him for a whole year And a half can you blame me for moving on also Aqua knows about the Cap so you can take your judgments and shove them up your ass

lol i didn't judge you

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Sure you did or you wouldn't have even mention that .

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Posted by AerialView
well aquas are slow and careful using that R word.

not so long ago you were still hang out on Cap board.

you Libras are fast are you? 😆

Don't be so judgmental I didn't have a relationship with the We were just friends and there was a connection but he was too afraid to have anything and I waited for him for a whole year And a half can you blame me for moving on also Aqua knows about the Cap so you can take your judgments and shove them up your ass

lol i didn't judge you

Sure you did or you wouldn't have even mention that .

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well maybe a little 😛

Posted by youngali
you're not that into him. i can tell. lol

yes, you might care for him but...

without realizing it, you're most likely using him to occupy your time until the one you really want starts acting right...

we all been there. ain't no judging over here.

but don't waste anymore time if you don't see yourself with this person.

the next one would have you forgetting your old one. on everything.



but this current one ain't it.

You think so? I never thought of it that way I pretty much know that nothing can ever happened between Me and the Cap guy especially after a recent conversation we had he is too stuck on fear of failure not just in relationships but in all aspects of his life. He refuses to take a chance on anything, even if it is going to put him in a good place, because he's afraid he will fail at that chance. And he can't focus on any relationship type stuff until that issue is resolved and he has already been dithering on this simple career decision for a couple of years now. So I have come to terms with the fact that we will never be together. I thought I was honestly giving this Aqua a fair chance but maybe you're right maybe I'm not.

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Every time he says it I panic we have only been seeing each other for three weeks. But I just got this message " I was just thinking relationships are kind of dangerous because here I am missing you not even one day away." How do I say I didn't know we were in a relationship without hurting his feelings because he hasn't technically asked me yet and I don't know if I want to be with him yet yeah I like him we have a lot of fun together and were able to talk freely with each other but he knows I am at the end of getting over someone. And he never asked! He hasn't had much experience in the dating field so maybe he just doesn't know he has to ask I'm not sure but I really don't want to hurt this guy's feelings after he has been vulnerable with me. He has Scorpio Mars and rising. I haven't even seen him angry yet and he's trying to merge with me!

Scorpio mars ! Huh ! That explains it ...! 😉 n u have a cancer moon.... have u had sex?

Kinda. He gets too nervous. But I told him we can take your time we don't have to do anything and he explained last night that he feels like he has to be more forward since girls have walked in the past because he hasn't done anything with them. I don't want him to decide he wants to be with me out of a sense of insecurity if that is what it is.

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Yeah he sounds a bit insecure just b mind full

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well aquas are slow and careful using that R word.

not so long ago you were still hang out on Cap board.

you Libras are fast are you? 😆

Don't be so judgmental I didn't have a relationship with the We were just friends and there was a connection but he was too afraid to have anything and I waited for him for a whole year And a half can you blame me for moving on also Aqua knows about the Cap so you can take your judgments and shove them up your ass

lol i didn't judge you

Sure you did or you wouldn't have even mention that .

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Aerialview judging— Lol I don't think so, he's the nicest man I ever met ?

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well aquas are slow and careful using that R word.

not so long ago you were still hang out on Cap board.

you Libras are fast are you? 😆

How slow? R word is...... scary

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well aquas are slow and careful using that R word.

not so long ago you were still hang out on Cap board.

you Libras are fast are you? 😆

How slow? R word is...... scary

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I prefer. Partnership hahahaha

Honestly I think this guy really likes you. If there's an attraction there then I say go for it. He seems like he would be good for you. Everyone has insecurities. Those are his. You have your own whatever they may be. No need to kill the fun , just go with it and see what happens. He seems sort of passive so try being more aggressive with him. He may surprise you. I think you should give the aqua guy a chance. I wouldn't address the R thing. Just go with it. He was probably just feeling out in a weird way your response about a relationship , as in if you would be open to one. Not that you are in one.

Don't pay attention to words from Aquarius men. They are sweet - talkers! I wouldn't trip at all.

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Posted by youngali
you're not that into him. i can tell. lol

yes, you might care for him but...

without realizing it, you're most likely using him to occupy your time until the one you really want starts acting right...

we all been there. ain't no judging over here.

but don't waste anymore time if you don't see yourself with this person.

the next one would have you forgetting your old one. on everything.



but this current one ain't it.

You think so? I never thought of it that way I pretty much know that nothing can ever happened between Me and the Cap guy especially after a recent conversation we had he is too stuck on fear of failure not just in relationships but in all aspects of his life. He refuses to take a chance on anything, even if it is going to put him in a good place, because he's afraid he will fail at that chance. And he can't focus on any relationship type stuff until that issue is resolved and he has already been dithering on this simple career decision for a couple of years now. So I have come to terms with the fact that we will never be together. I thought I was honestly giving this Aqua a fair chance but maybe you're right maybe I'm not.

man... i hate that the cap won't just take a chance. ?

but the best thing to do is to continue to be his friend tho. bring a little light into his super cold work oriented world. do you think u can help him make that career decision? ask him what the pros and cons are on the career choice he's been pondering about...

just to get the ball rolling. cause it shouldn't take yearssssss for him to decide like that.

depending on how much you like him...

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I have we have had the conversation twice I even offered to help him study for his test. He says he doesn't have time to go home every day and study because he works so many hours. But I told him he was gonna regret not getting his license later because he will be older and watching these young guys come into his field and be making more money even though they know less. He won't tear because he doesn't want to fail because he thinking he isn't book smart and this is all because he hasn't finished his degree so he assumes he isn't intelligent enough to do it. Everyone keeps telling him so what take it and fail then oh know what is on it as a matter of fact lots of people fail it the first time. He just won't allow his ego to be shattered.

Posted by Shrewdsharp
Don't pay attention to words from Aquarius men. They are sweet - talkers! I wouldn't trip at all.

Ooo thanks I don't have much experience with them except for one who I was talking to 2 years ago but I think he was gay and was trying hard to live up to something he was not.

He sounds a little desperate for a relationship, but maybe he just really likes you a lot and wants to be exclusive. That may help him feel more comfortable with your relationship. He might feel insecure because you told him about the cap. Has he said the L word yet??

Posted by pinkbird03
He sounds a little desperate for a relationship, but maybe he just really likes you a lot and wants to be exclusive. That may help him feel more comfortable with your relationship. He might feel insecure because you told him about the cap. Has he said the L word yet??

Ooo no id run if I heard that my Sag Venus can't handle that too early. Yeah maybe telling him about the Cap wasn't a good idea but I felt like I had to because me and the Cap are friends and I wanted him to know the situation he was putting himself in we have talked about being completely honest with each other I said the other night he wants me to be able to tell him anything and he wants to without judgment say OK.

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Posted by pinkbird03
He sounds a little desperate for a relationship, but maybe he just really likes you a lot and wants to be exclusive. That may help him feel more comfortable with your relationship. He might feel insecure because you told him about the cap. Has he said the L word yet??

Ooo no id run if I heard that my Sag Venus can't handle that too early. Yeah maybe telling him about the Cap wasn't a good idea but I felt like I had to because me and the Cap are friends and I wanted him to know the situation he was putting himself in we have talked about being completely honest with each other I said the other night he wants me to be able to tell him anything and he wants to without judgment say OK.

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It's good to be honest. You might need to tell him to slow down. How many times have u actually hung out?

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He sounds a little desperate for a relationship, but maybe he just really likes you a lot and wants to be exclusive. That may help him feel more comfortable with your relationship. He might feel insecure because you told him about the cap. Has he said the L word yet??

Ooo no id run if I heard that my Sag Venus can't handle that too early. Yeah maybe telling him about the Cap wasn't a good idea but I felt like I had to because me and the Cap are friends and I wanted him to know the situation he was putting himself in we have talked about being completely honest with each other I said the other night he wants me to be able to tell him anything and he wants to without judgment say OK.

It's good to be honest. You might need to tell him to slow down. How many times have u actually hung out?

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We have only hung out 5 times

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Posted by pinkbird03
He sounds a little desperate for a relationship, but maybe he just really likes you a lot and wants to be exclusive. That may help him feel more comfortable with your relationship. He might feel insecure because you told him about the cap. Has he said the L word yet??

Ooo no id run if I heard that my Sag Venus can't handle that too early. Yeah maybe telling him about the Cap wasn't a good idea but I felt like I had to because me and the Cap are friends and I wanted him to know the situation he was putting himself in we have talked about being completely honest with each other I said the other night he wants me to be able to tell him anything and he wants to without judgment say OK.

It's good to be honest. You might need to tell him to slow down. How many times have u actually hung out?

We have only hung out 5 times

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5 times is sort of a lot. For me personally at that point, I need to know if it's worth it to invest my time in this person. I need to know if they are on the same page as me and if they actually want a relationship or if they are only using me for a good time (I don't mean sexual). You definitely seem uncertain about this aqua compared to the cap. But let me ask you this, how do you honestly feel about the aqua?

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He sounds a little desperate for a relationship, but maybe he just really likes you a lot and wants to be exclusive. That may help him feel more comfortable with your relationship. He might feel insecure because you told him about the cap. Has he said the L word yet??

Ooo no id run if I heard that my Sag Venus can't handle that too early. Yeah maybe telling him about the Cap wasn't a good idea but I felt like I had to because me and the Cap are friends and I wanted him to know the situation he was putting himself in we have talked about being completely honest with each other I said the other night he wants me to be able to tell him anything and he wants to without judgment say OK.

It's good to be honest. You might need to tell him to slow down. How many times have u actually hung out?

We have only hung out 5 times

5 times is sort of a lot. For me personally at that point, I need to know if it's worth it to invest my time in this person. I need to know if they are on the same page as me and if they actually want a relationship or if they are only using me for a good time (I don't mean sexual). You definitely seem uncertain about this aqua compared to the cap. But let me ask you this, how do you honestly feel about the aqua?

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I like him but I don't feel a passionate connection to him. I feel like when his building but it hasn't been there yet and I feel like things are going to fast. I feel like I can talk to him openly about anything. But I still don't feel like I really truly know a lot about him I know about his past but I don't know about who he is at the core

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He sounds a little desperate for a relationship, but maybe he just really likes you a lot and wants to be exclusive. That may help him feel more comfortable with your relationship. He might feel insecure because you told him about the cap. Has he said the L word yet??

Ooo no id run if I heard that my Sag Venus can't handle that too early. Yeah maybe telling him about the Cap wasn't a good idea but I felt like I had to because me and the Cap are friends and I wanted him to know the situation he was putting himself in we have talked about being completely honest with each other I said the other night he wants me to be able to tell him anything and he wants to without judgment say OK.

It's good to be honest. You might need to tell him to slow down. How many times have u actually hung out?

We have only hung out 5 times

5 times is sort of a lot. For me personally at that point, I need to know if it's worth it to invest my time in this person. I need to know if they are on the same page as me and if they actually want a relationship or if they are only using me for a good time (I don't mean sexual). You definitely seem uncertain about this aqua compared to the cap. But let me ask you this, how do you honestly feel about the aqua?

I like him but I don't feel a passionate connection to him. I feel like when his building but it hasn't been there yet and I feel like things are going to fast. I feel like I can talk to him openly about anything. But I still don't feel like I really truly know a lot about him I know about his past but I don't know about who he is at the core

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Is he good looking? Are you attracted to him? Do you honestly want to continue dating him? To Me, it seems like u don't want to put a label on it yet. That's understandable because what if it doesn't work out? Then I personally think it's embarrassing, but I'm also more of a private person.

Why do people these days choose to label everything?



Just go with the flow...........

Are you happy? Do you enjoy his company? Then who cares what word he uses to describe it. Just enjoy the moment. Words are meaningless.

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Posted by Shrewdsharp
Don't pay attention to words from Aquarius men. They are sweet - talkers! I wouldn't trip at all.

Ooo thanks I don't have much experience with them except for one who I was talking to 2 years ago but I think he was gay and was trying hard to live up to something he was not.

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Aquarius surpasses Libra and Gemini with charm and verbal persuasion. Girl his charm had me in a stupid trance intoxicated with his poetic gift of gab. But experience taught me to wait, watch and observe. Despite his frothy emotional appeals when I had a flat....he was no where to be found. He would tell me he loved me, he is looking for a wife, I was the woman from God....yet when I sprang my ankle....he was no where to be found.... I found out he just wanted a conquest! Sex! And then he would be on his way.

I didn't sleep with him, because his words didn't match his behavior. Love is action!! That's why Jill Scott, a Libra said in her song.."...you constantly talking 'bout how much you love me, want me, need me, you told me...stop talking...no more conversation is necessary......show me show me show me show me...