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Aquarius Coworker Opens Up About Engagement Woes (Page 3)
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Posted by Happy_AquaMany pages back I had already said I observe everyone like so. People and how they act / think always interested me.
You talk about this person like he is some insect under a microscope you are studying.
I understand you are only working together for a short while so there's no warm bond between you but.....idk it just gives me a strange feeling the way you talk about him.
Also I think you are looking into it waaay to much. Is it really so strange for someone to confide in a coworker? Some people talk to bartenders (complete strangers) and tell them their whole life's story. So is it really that strange to talk to a coworker about your doubts and fears?
Sometimes we Aquas just need to vent and hear other people's reactions/points of view so we can get a sense of what options we have or which way we can go (but we always make up our own minds). It's nothing personal but you seem to take this very personal and make it about you. Maybe it's a Scorpio trait, I have seen Scorpios do this many times around here and in my own circles.
Perhaps he feels he can trust you and maybe he doesn't have many friends outside his work he can confide in so he talks to you.
I don't think this man wants anything from you other than you being some sounding board for him. And I don't think he is manipulating either.
Initially my train of thoughts were exactly matching your own until even other coworkers began to mention how strange they believe it is. They are noticing 'whatever this is' unfold, and made their remarks. I wanted to ignore the energy of this, and did until even others found it unnerving.
He made the conversation personal, and yet you somehow managed to turn the table on me. He had never shared anything in all the years he worked here, with anyone like so.
I am not trying to make it personal, as if I have a daft superiority complex that believes I am special. He is the one purposely throwing this attention my way, if not imposing it on me.
Posted by aquarius_manHe paid for 70% of it all, which translates to his family paying that amount and his SO or rather her family will pay the other 30% .
or did his family pay for his wedding, too? if that correct, then tell him to stfu and start earning some mullahs
Posted by aquarius_manStingers would care in regards to the money, because we are practical creatures. At least those of us who have their heads screwed on properly so.Posted by TheLadyScorpioevery scorpio i met beforePosted by aquarius_manAre you referring to me ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioand a scorpio would, too >🙂Posted by aquarius_manOf course, his family might.Posted by TheLadyScorpioeverything paid?Posted by aquarius_manIt is not in my place to judge his choices, but he most definitely does not seem ready to settle down.
man he should just break up with the pisces girl and start fucking about for 1-2 yrs
However, he is engaged with everything paid and everyone knowing it. Good Luck to him. 😆
aqua doesnt give a shit about money
i haven't met you, though which, obviously, excludes u
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Posted by AerialViewOh dear. 😐Posted by TheLadyScorpiolying tendencies, manipulative and mind games.Posted by AerialViewSuch as ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioeverything.Posted by AerialViewWhy is that ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioconfusing moon. i also never a fan of libra placements in aqua sun chart.Posted by AerialViewWhy is that ?Posted by lisabethur8no hope then.Posted by AerialViewlol he already has a Libra mars!! 😄
should you know his exact birth chart, i'm suspecting he's a libra moon. those weirdos!
What do you not like about it ?
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Posted by Impulsvidk, i see you quoted me, i even just saw the notification just now, but this is not an answer for me is it?Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by TheLadyScorpio
@Arielle83
No, I no longer want to know what he is thinking or what he admires or advise him.
The fact that he merely spilled all that he did on me, has made my world topsy turvy.
I did not need that as it is, but he did as he did, and now I no longer know what I think.
I regretted having listened to him, now the burden is unbearable.
Omg get a grip little girl. —
Omg burden!!! U need to
Learn not to take on others
U have no burden
Just say hi smile
Have sympathy for the man who chose death
And refer him to a close friend. If I were you I would tell them you need to talk to someone about this. Your mother lol
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Posted by aquarius_manPosted by TheLadyScorpiook, so he might ve picked u coz u r the only female available
Since he talked about his past, I also shared a bit about my own including someone I presume you could call my Water - Bearer ex, who eerily ...It was uncanny.
...
Our team / department is rather small, I am the only female within it.
i dont know but i would stop encouraging him if i were u
if hes about to get married, thats not the way to behave towards a work colleague
who on top of it finds him intriguing
ure feeding his fear of commitment by showing him there are still women who can 'get' him - women like yourself
but he is flirting w you, know this
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Posted by aquarius_manhm i dont know...depends on the Aquarius man. O_OPosted by TheLadyScorpioeverything paid?Posted by aquarius_manIt is not in my place to judge his choices, but he most definitely does not seem ready to settle down.
man he should just break up with the pisces girl and start fucking about for 1-2 yrs
However, he is engaged with everything paid and everyone knowing it. Good Luck to him. 😆
aqua doesnt give a shit about money
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there are TWO billionaires on the top 10 who are Aquarius suns.
these guys seem like they DO care about money, that's top ten billionaires, of the world
Carlos Slim,
and this guy just went into top ten this year.
why does this site think Aquarius isn't into money? 😕
i'm sure some are, but i notice alot are...
even Uma Thurman only has dated TWO aquarius sun male who are billionaire/ Millionaire..
😕
Andre Balaz and Arpad busson, they are BOTH Aqua suns, and billionaire/millionaire...
😕
so why does this site keep saying not into money. those are definitely guys who keep their money intact.
edit before anyone says, it's because they have jupiter in the 2nd and this and that..
they are STILL sun in aqua. lol
even Michael bloomberg is aqua moon, they have his rising (cancer rising) see??
Posted by aquarius_manlolPosted by lisabethur8Posted by aquarius_manhm i dont know...depends on the Aquarius man. O_OPosted by TheLadyScorpioeverything paid?Posted by aquarius_manIt is not in my place to judge his choices, but he most definitely does not seem ready to settle down.
man he should just break up with the pisces girl and start fucking about for 1-2 yrs
However, he is engaged with everything paid and everyone knowing it. Good Luck to him. 😆
aqua doesnt give a shit about money
there are TWO billionaires on the top 10 who are Aquarius suns.
these guys seem like they DO care about money, that's top ten billionaires, of the world
Carlos Slim,
and this guy just went into top ten this year.
why does this site think Aquarius isn't into money? 😕
i'm sure some are, but i notice alot are...
even Uma Thurman only has dated TWO aquarius sun male who are billionaire/ Millionaire..
😕
Oh well
I ain't skint either
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it just sounds like you gaslight your own sign, if you're an aqua.
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i know that some aren't millioniares/billionaires but there are plenty who are i notice.
1. If I may play @TheLadyScorp advocate...... why is everyone tripping on her? You'll be surprised how common it is for these types of situations to happen. You're married yes, but you're still human and you still become attracted to others. It's a matter of the energy and response you give it! Many married people or even people in relationships will become attracted to others, but do what it takes to fight off that attraction because people love their spouses. You can't fault her for the attraction, but if she acted on it it'd be wrong....
2. @TheLadyScorp I feel like you're placing all the attraction and blame on the Aqua coworker. You feel guilty hence not being honest with us nor yourself about what you're feeling for this Aqua. However it's evident to us, so I'm sure it's evident to him, your coworkers, and maybe even your Virgo. You need to sit down and have time with yourself to think clearly and figure out why you became attracted to him and think fast what you can do to get out of it.
3. Place yourself in your hubby's shoes.... how'd you feel if he was attracted to a coworker? How'd you react? Think of that every time the Aqua comes around.
4. Aquas are cerebral and he knows EXACTLY what he's doing. You may think he's dumb, but that may be what he wants you to think. He's coming for you wether it be for opportunity or the connection... you better think quick how to get out of this otherwise it's quicksand.
Remember I'd never judge you because I've kind of been there and kind of still there. We work together too... I'm the Aqua and he's the Scorp.
2. @TheLadyScorp I feel like you're placing all the attraction and blame on the Aqua coworker. You feel guilty hence not being honest with us nor yourself about what you're feeling for this Aqua. However it's evident to us, so I'm sure it's evident to him, your coworkers, and maybe even your Virgo. You need to sit down and have time with yourself to think clearly and figure out why you became attracted to him and think fast what you can do to get out of it.
3. Place yourself in your hubby's shoes.... how'd you feel if he was attracted to a coworker? How'd you react? Think of that every time the Aqua comes around.
4. Aquas are cerebral and he knows EXACTLY what he's doing. You may think he's dumb, but that may be what he wants you to think. He's coming for you wether it be for opportunity or the connection... you better think quick how to get out of this otherwise it's quicksand.
Remember I'd never judge you because I've kind of been there and kind of still there. We work together too... I'm the Aqua and he's the Scorp.
Posted by Wineaux15Well, for one thing, my Virgent and I are not married.
1. If I may play @TheLadyScorp advocate...... why is everyone tripping on her? You'll be surprised how common it is for these types of situations to happen. You're married yes, but you're still human and you still become attracted to others. It's a matter of the energy and response you give it! Many married people or even people in relationships will become attracted to others, but do what it takes to fight off that attraction because people love their spouses. You can't fault her for the attraction, but if she acted on it it'd be wrong....
2. @TheLadyScorp I feel like you're placing all the attraction and blame on the Aqua coworker. You feel guilty hence not being honest with us nor yourself about what you're feeling for this Aqua. However it's evident to us, so I'm sure it's evident to him, your coworkers, and maybe even your Virgo. You need to sit down and have time with yourself to think clearly and figure out why you became attracted to him and think fast what you can do to get out of it.
3. Place yourself in your hubby's shoes.... how'd you feel if he was attracted to a coworker? How'd you react? Think of that every time the Aqua comes around.
4. Aquas are cerebral and he knows EXACTLY what he's doing. You may think he's dumb, but that may be what he wants you to think. He's coming for you wether it be for opportunity or the connection... you better think quick how to get out of this otherwise it's quicksand.
Remember I'd never judge you because I've kind of been there and kind of still there. We work together too... I'm the Aqua and he's the Scorp.
I have been attracted to others before, both men and women but the attraction always faded at the third or fourth week mark. Yet here, for once, it is growing stronger and it will not go away. Each and every time prior, I have always spoken to my Virgent about it, and he would tease me yet trust that I would make the right decision in which I always have.
This time, I feel guilty and am battling whatever this is, that is going on inside. Nothing has happened, yet I feel guilty. To ponder over this and question why I felt this attraction, is but one thing which I have already been mulling over for the past few days now. The issue is, I still have yet to figure out an answer for it. In fact, we avoid even remotely brushing or touching each other at all as if we both have a contagious disease because I should think breaking that barrier would be a terrible idea. Even though, he and I are rather tactile individuals with everyone else.
I have placed myself in my SO's shoes and thought of it from his perspective. In fact, I think of this constantly, which increases my feelings of guilt. He has been attracted to others before, and I remember how it felt being on the other side. Sadly, I remember it all too clearly, the pain of it all.
He, the Water - Bearer, does not seem all that bright quite frankly therefore I doubt he knows exactly what he is doing.
What would make you say that he does ?
Since every single one of you lot here, the kind Water - Bearers, seem to believe that he knows exactly what he is doing. I still do not get the feeling that he is predatory in that manner. However, I could be very wrong.
If I may, what happened or is happening to your situation with the Stinger ?
Well.... we've been working together for like 4 going on 5 years. We began with just immediately being friends. For the first 3 years we were friendly, but only talking about work. He'd only talk to me, another Aqua lady, and a Leo male at work. He's very guarded about who he talks to. However I'm a social butterfly. 2 years ago we started working closer together. I became a boss and he still in our old position. He began to ask me a lot of personal questions.... A Lot... like, "does your husband make love to you"; "why are you taking a day off from work"; "how do you feel about me". I realized from those questions he really cared for me because tupicsllphe didn't ask those types of things. He st jest felt comfortable. He'd ask me all about my relationship... likes/ dislikes, but never divulged his. There's other prettier women at work (even though I'm a cutie) but unless he was looking at someone else to make me mad... he'd literally watch my every move like a hawk. He'd do things for me I know he didn't do for others. We were/ are like PB&J. We both had spouses when the attraction first started (both married) but my Pisces had become so manipulative and demanding.... so much do he put his hands on me once and I decide to take a break from the marriage and then ultimately decided to file for divorce. Then about 1 1/2 month to two months after I filed he separated from his wife. We started to talk more and even came close to doing something but nothing ever happened. I became his actual manager during this time and things REALLY got strange. He became more jealous and demanding while being distant and cold. I feel kind he's playing mind games which I hate so I decided to leave it alone. Since I made that decision he's been so angry and mean towards me.... and I wonder if he ever cared. I do love him but he'd never know and ultimately I think it's best to leave it be.... even though it hurts.
Posted by aquarius_manlol oh man i see whatyou mean 😛Posted by lisabethur8dr dre is aqua too and he aint poor eitherPosted by aquarius_manlolPosted by lisabethur8Posted by aquarius_manhm i dont know...depends on the Aquarius man. O_OPosted by TheLadyScorpioeverything paid?Posted by aquarius_manIt is not in my place to judge his choices, but he most definitely does not seem ready to settle down.
man he should just break up with the pisces girl and start fucking about for 1-2 yrs
However, he is engaged with everything paid and everyone knowing it. Good Luck to him. 😆
aqua doesnt give a shit about money
there are TWO billionaires on the top 10 who are Aquarius suns.
these guys seem like they DO care about money, that's top ten billionaires, of the world
Carlos Slim,
and this guy just went into top ten this year.
why does this site think Aquarius isn't into money? 😕
i'm sure some are, but i notice alot are...
even Uma Thurman only has dated TWO aquarius sun male who are billionaire/ Millionaire..
😕
Oh well
I ain't skint either
it just sounds like you gaslight your own sign, if you're an aqua.
😛
i know that some aren't millioniares/billionaires but there are plenty who are i notice.
but i mean not caring about money as in - flight company lost your luggage, you don't ask for refunds you just go on with your life. its only money & things
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i went to look him up.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dr._Dre
yeah 😛 he aint poor....
um hmm well i'm conflicted cause if the luggage has some of my fave clothes and perfume and stuff...
i dont know.. i coud just buy another. lol
but if they had my memoribilia and private stuff like a special jewelry from my grandmother ( i know...why would i have it in the luggage anyway?) well anyway it depends.
also i like to see a good airline be informed. i dont know, cause i dont like lost stuff. :/
i get upset when i know family /friends send a package and then the mail doesn't come and some postman stole it or something.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I have a daft superiority complex that believes I am special.
Barely scratches the surface on the vibe I git from you.
Posted by WhorpioPosted by TheLadyScorpio
I have a daft superiority complex that believes I am special.
Barely scratches the surface on the vibe I git from you.click to expand
Taking my words out of context a bit much, are you not ?
You chose to edit that part out of a longer sentence and greater paragraph.
You are more than welcome to keep your free flow of turd to yourself, whilst keeping your trap shut.
Posted by aquarius_manlolPosted by lisabethur8exactly
um hmm well i'm conflicted cause if the luggage has some of my fave clothes and perfume and stuff...
i dont know.. i coud just buy another. lol
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yes but by going by my character. i still would file a complaint.
i go back for refunds. lol
even if i have money i still do it.
i will waste my time to go all the way back to get my refund.
Posted by aquarius_mani'm pretty earthy in that way. I always think, someone needs that money if i'm not going to use, it.Posted by lisabethur8oh wellPosted by aquarius_manlolPosted by lisabethur8exactly
um hmm well i'm conflicted cause if the luggage has some of my fave clothes and perfume and stuff...
i dont know.. i coud just buy another. lol
yes but by going by my character. i still would file a complaint.
i go back for refunds. lol
even if i have money i still do it.
i will waste my time to go all the way back to get my refund.
im not like you aquas 😄
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if one of my poorer relatives are around, i'd give it to them.
notice, if they are around, it's an aquarius thing, to have people be CLOSE to you.
if you are far away, like live in Africa i will only send christmas and birthday cards to you, to remember you.
but you are so far away...
you have to be with me alot, like everyday, physically.
I read somewhere "out of sight out of mind" ...that is true to some extent. to some degree.
so if you want to keep an aqua or aqua placements, you need to be physically with them everysingle day.
and that's why my hubs is wth me every single day and we love it!!! i hate distance.
Posted by aquarius_manlolPosted by lisabethur8 i hate distance.i love distance, as it makes the heart grow fonder
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are you in a relationship with anyone?
Posted by aquarius_mandifferent strokes.Posted by lisabethur8i was until 2 weeks ago
lol
are you in a relationship with anyone?
why?
i was living abroad and still successfully maintained a healthy relationship
if i see the same person everyday i get sick
i need my space, in order to be able to miss the people i love
otherwise, if i see them daily, there s no mystery left, just routine and i abhor routine
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i need to have my man with me daily. i'm super clingy.
and besides i dont know any woman that doesn't like to have their man close. all the women in relationships are CLINGY and possessive, jealous.
with single women it's different, they spend alot of time working and doing other activiities with tehir girlfriends ect.
Posted by Gob_ShiteNo @Gob_Shite, merely the second.
Isn't this the THIRD work colleague, this calendar year, that you've started a thread about wishing to publicly dissect their behaviour?
Whether your concerns are genuine or not, I certainly wouldn't want to have a work colleague like that, as they would make me feel uneasy.
Sorry, but I'm simply voicing what I'm sure other level-headed dxpers are thinking...
What better place to discuss it than here. God forbid I truly were to discuss this in my real life, what an embarrassment that would be.
If DXPers wishes to judge me, then so be it. I could care less, better than to make a fool of myself in my real life.
Frankly, this is my place to vent, to get my thoughts out of my system.
He most certainly does make me uneasy (I do not enjoy that feeling either), and I am not offended at your voicing what you did.
Posted by aquarius_manNo truer words said, and words I live by as well.Posted by lisabethur8 i hate distance.i love distance, as it makes the heart grow fonder
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Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by WhorpioPosted by TheLadyScorpio
I have a daft superiority complex that believes I am special.
Barely scratches the surface on the vibe I git from you.
Taking my words out of context a bit much, are you not ?
You chose to edit that part out of a longer sentence and greater paragraph.
You are more than welcome to keep your free flow of turd to yourself, whilst keeping your trap shut.click to expand
Pretty much set yourself up for that one, podnuh ??♀️
Posted by EllygantAh, having had past experiences with Water - Bearer men in the past, and you would have expected that I would know better by now but no. They are quite the unassuming seducers and infiltrators, I must give them credit for that.Posted by TheLadyScorpioThere's a reason all the aquas say that he knows what's up.Posted by Wineaux15Well, for one thing, my Virgent and I are not married.
1. If I may play @TheLadyScorp advocate...... why is everyone tripping on her? You'll be surprised how common it is for these types of situations to happen. You're married yes, but you're still human and you still become attracted to others. It's a matter of the energy and response you give it! Many married people or even people in relationships will become attracted to others, but do what it takes to fight off that attraction because people love their spouses. You can't fault her for the attraction, but if she acted on it it'd be wrong....
2. @TheLadyScorp I feel like you're placing all the attraction and blame on the Aqua coworker. You feel guilty hence not being honest with us nor yourself about what you're feeling for this Aqua. However it's evident to us, so I'm sure it's evident to him, your coworkers, and maybe even your Virgo. You need to sit down and have time with yourself to think clearly and figure out why you became attracted to him and think fast what you can do to get out of it.
3. Place yourself in your hubby's shoes.... how'd you feel if he was attracted to a coworker? How'd you react? Think of that every time the Aqua comes around.
4. Aquas are cerebral and he knows EXACTLY what he's doing. You may think he's dumb, but that may be what he wants you to think. He's coming for you wether it be for opportunity or the connection... you better think quick how to get out of this otherwise it's quicksand.
Remember I'd never judge you because I've kind of been there and kind of still there. We work together too... I'm the Aqua and he's the Scorp.
I have been attracted to others before, both men and women but the attraction always faded at the third or fourth week mark. Yet here, for once, it is growing stronger and it will not go away. Each and every time prior, I have always spoken to my Virgent about it, and he would tease me yet trust that I would make the right decision in which I always have.
This time, I feel guilty and am battling whatever this is, that is going on inside. Nothing has happened, yet I feel guilty. To ponder over this and question why I felt this attraction, is but one thing which I have already been mulling over for the past few days now. The issue is, I still have yet to figure out an answer for it. In fact, we avoid even remotely brushing or touching each other at all as if we both have a contagious disease because I should think breaking that barrier would be a terrible idea. Even though, he and I are rather tactile individuals with everyone else.
I have placed myself in my SO's shoes and thought of it from his perspective. In fact, I think of this constantly, which increases my feelings of guilt. He has been attracted to others before, and I remember how it felt being on the other side. Sadly, I remember it all too clearly, the pain of it all.
He, the Water - Bearer, does not seem all that bright quite frankly therefore I doubt he knows exactly what he is doing.
What would make you say that he does ?
Since every single one of you lot here, the kind Water - Bearers, seem to believe that he knows exactly what he is doing. I still do not get the feeling that he is predatory in that manner. However, I could be very wrong.
If I may, what happened or is happening to your situation with the Stinger ?
Even the ditziest and spaceiest aquas I know, those that fit the quirky stereotype to a T, still know how to seduce and infiltrate like a pro. Doesn't make it predatory per say, perhaps exploratory is more apt. There's rarely always a good guy and a bad guy to a situation.
You can't let that water moon of yours run rampant with empathy in this situation. Sometimes the most kind thing you can do is to eliminate understanding for people's feelings. Especially for a double water sign like yourself.
Feeling empathetic emotions into how the Aqua feels, how you feel, how your Virgo feels, how the Aqua' Pisces feels, it's just sends you into emotions overdrive and clouds your judgement. It's why the aquas and others can clearly see what you can't in terms of the seriousness of this attraction and situation.
Focus less on feelings (impossible almost I know as a double water. 😭 I feel the struggle lols) and refocus on actions. How do you treat other male coworker's who you don't have suddenly convoluted connections with? Start to replicate those behaviors with the Aqua. I doubt you lack kindness with others. But your special treatment of him, initially made in order to make him productive, is taking on a different meaning now in context of an attraction and his own personal life circumstances.click to expand
Thank you dear Elly, you are spot on in regards to my difficulties. This is precisely it, my emotions are going into overdrive. Others may view this as silly daftness but my mind is also going into overdrive trying to section off the emotional implosion from all directions.
Perhaps, I could see but was in denial to the seriousness of it all, denial would have been easier in certain ways.
Posted by Gob_ShiteHah @Gob_Shite, I stand corrected. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by Gob_ShiteNo @Gob_Shite, merely the second.
Isn't this the THIRD work colleague, this calendar year, that you've started a thread about wishing to publicly dissect their behaviour?
Whether your concerns are genuine or not, I certainly wouldn't want to have a work colleague like that, as they would make me feel uneasy.
Sorry, but I'm simply voicing what I'm sure other level-headed dxpers are thinking...
What better place to discuss it than here. God forbid I truly were to discuss this in my real life, what an embarrassment that would be.
If DXPers wishes to judge me, then so be it. I could care less, better than to make a fool of myself in my real life.
Frankly, this is my place to vent, to get my thoughts out of my system.
He most certainly does make me uneasy (I do not enjoy that feeling either), and I am not offended at your voicing what you did.
Okay, I stand corrected. Your threads were on three separate situations, involving AT LEAST three work colleagues.
This one, the infatuation with the female Taurus and your query about Cap women.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/goat-ladies-within-the-work-habitat--8515091/
And I'm not keeping tabs here - just recalling the threads I remember browsing through...
UPDATE: Nope, the link above pertained to an individual, so I was correct the first time round. Three work colleagues...click to expand
The female Goat completely escaped my memory.
She became of complete unimportance to me, hence why.
Posted by EllygantRecently, I have been spending time with a dear Stinger friend of mine to refresh myself from all this madness. She needed time away from her child, and I needed a distraction.Posted by TheLadyScorpioDouble water life is prone to what looks like delusion and daftness from the outside. Because inside it's taking every single person's emotions to heart as much as we do our own. Gotta realize not everyone is built that way, to put such a naturally high importance on it like we do. Others have that separating mechanism naturally that we must build over time. That's why we have the other signs and combos, to help us get there! ??Posted by EllygantAh, having had past experiences with Water - Bearer men in the past, and you would have expected that I would know better by now but no. They are quite the unassuming seducers and infiltrators, I must give them credit for that.Posted by TheLadyScorpioThere's a reason all the aquas say that he knows what's up.Posted by Wineaux15Well, for one thing, my Virgent and I are not married.
1. If I may play @TheLadyScorp advocate...... why is everyone tripping on her? You'll be surprised how common it is for these types of situations to happen. You're married yes, but you're still human and you still become attracted to others. It's a matter of the energy and response you give it! Many married people or even people in relationships will become attracted to others, but do what it takes to fight off that attraction because people love their spouses. You can't fault her for the attraction, but if she acted on it it'd be wrong....
2. @TheLadyScorp I feel like you're placing all the attraction and blame on the Aqua coworker. You feel guilty hence not being honest with us nor yourself about what you're feeling for this Aqua. However it's evident to us, so I'm sure it's evident to him, your coworkers, and maybe even your Virgo. You need to sit down and have time with yourself to think clearly and figure out why you became attracted to him and think fast what you can do to get out of it.
3. Place yourself in your hubby's shoes.... how'd you feel if he was attracted to a coworker? How'd you react? Think of that every time the Aqua comes around.
4. Aquas are cerebral and he knows EXACTLY what he's doing. You may think he's dumb, but that may be what he wants you to think. He's coming for you wether it be for opportunity or the connection... you better think quick how to get out of this otherwise it's quicksand.
Remember I'd never judge you because I've kind of been there and kind of still there. We work together too... I'm the Aqua and he's the Scorp.
I have been attracted to others before, both men and women but the attraction always faded at the third or fourth week mark. Yet here, for once, it is growing stronger and it will not go away. Each and every time prior, I have always spoken to my Virgent about it, and he would tease me yet trust that I would make the right decision in which I always have.
This time, I feel guilty and am battling whatever this is, that is going on inside. Nothing has happened, yet I feel guilty. To ponder over this and question why I felt this attraction, is but one thing which I have already been mulling over for the past few days now. The issue is, I still have yet to figure out an answer for it. In fact, we avoid even remotely brushing or touching each other at all as if we both have a contagious disease because I should think breaking that barrier would be a terrible idea. Even though, he and I are rather tactile individuals with everyone else.
I have placed myself in my SO's shoes and thought of it from his perspective. In fact, I think of this constantly, which increases my feelings of guilt. He has been attracted to others before, and I remember how it felt being on the other side. Sadly, I remember it all too clearly, the pain of it all.
He, the Water - Bearer, does not seem all that bright quite frankly therefore I doubt he knows exactly what he is doing.
What would make you say that he does ?
Since every single one of you lot here, the kind Water - Bearers, seem to believe that he knows exactly what he is doing. I still do not get the feeling that he is predatory in that manner. However, I could be very wrong.
If I may, what happened or is happening to your situation with the Stinger ?
Even the ditziest and spaceiest aquas I know, those that fit the quirky stereotype to a T, still know how to seduce and infiltrate like a pro. Doesn't make it predatory per say, perhaps exploratory is more apt. There's rarely always a good guy and a bad guy to a situation.
You can't let that water moon of yours run rampant with empathy in this situation. Sometimes the most kind thing you can do is to eliminate understanding for people's feelings. Especially for a double water sign like yourself.
Feeling empathetic emotions into how the Aqua feels, how you feel, how your Virgo feels, how the Aqua' Pisces feels, it's just sends you into emotions overdrive and clouds your judgement. It's why the aquas and others can clearly see what you can't in terms of the seriousness of this attraction and situation.
Focus less on feelings (impossible almost I know as a double water. 😭 I feel the struggle lols) and refocus on actions. How do you treat other male coworker's who you don't have suddenly convoluted connections with? Start to replicate those behaviors with the Aqua. I doubt you lack kindness with others. But your special treatment of him, initially made in order to make him productive, is taking on a different meaning now in context of an attraction and his own personal life circumstances.
Thank you dear Elly, you are spot on in regards to my difficulties. This is precisely it, my emotions are going into overdrive. Others may view this as silly daftness but my mind is also going into overdrive trying to section off the emotional implosion from all directions.
Perhaps, I could see but was in denial to the seriousness of it all, denial would have been easier in certain ways.
This situation is perhaps just a simple reminder of that lesson. Not all lessons are permanent. Sometimes we need refresher courses in life and it's totally ok.
Now take a breather, go have a lovely day/afternoon/night with the Virgo. Talk about whatever it is that makes y'alls connection shine bright. Make this situation less worrisome by choosing to not worry about it any further, you've got 12 pages of that lol. It's just a series of actions that need to be taken to draw boundaries then all will be fine. 🙂click to expand
We had great meals together, polishing off bottles of free flowing Prosecco. 😆
I knew I could always depend on a fellow Stinger to lift me up, and bring me back to a place of sanity. Her Water - Bearer Moon is a riot, the things she says has me laughing so very hard. Her utter lack of a filter, once made comfortable, is rather hilarious.
Posted by EllygantMy Virgent knows I have been struggling, but he does not know what I am struggling with.Posted by TheLadyScorpioDouble water life is prone to what looks like delusion and daftness from the outside. Because inside it's taking every single person's emotions to heart as much as we do our own. Gotta realize not everyone is built that way, to put such a naturally high importance on it like we do. Others have that separating mechanism naturally that we must build over time. That's why we have the other signs and combos, to help us get there! ??Posted by EllygantAh, having had past experiences with Water - Bearer men in the past, and you would have expected that I would know better by now but no. They are quite the unassuming seducers and infiltrators, I must give them credit for that.Posted by TheLadyScorpioThere's a reason all the aquas say that he knows what's up.Posted by Wineaux15Well, for one thing, my Virgent and I are not married.
1. If I may play @TheLadyScorp advocate...... why is everyone tripping on her? You'll be surprised how common it is for these types of situations to happen. You're married yes, but you're still human and you still become attracted to others. It's a matter of the energy and response you give it! Many married people or even people in relationships will become attracted to others, but do what it takes to fight off that attraction because people love their spouses. You can't fault her for the attraction, but if she acted on it it'd be wrong....
2. @TheLadyScorp I feel like you're placing all the attraction and blame on the Aqua coworker. You feel guilty hence not being honest with us nor yourself about what you're feeling for this Aqua. However it's evident to us, so I'm sure it's evident to him, your coworkers, and maybe even your Virgo. You need to sit down and have time with yourself to think clearly and figure out why you became attracted to him and think fast what you can do to get out of it.
3. Place yourself in your hubby's shoes.... how'd you feel if he was attracted to a coworker? How'd you react? Think of that every time the Aqua comes around.
4. Aquas are cerebral and he knows EXACTLY what he's doing. You may think he's dumb, but that may be what he wants you to think. He's coming for you wether it be for opportunity or the connection... you better think quick how to get out of this otherwise it's quicksand.
Remember I'd never judge you because I've kind of been there and kind of still there. We work together too... I'm the Aqua and he's the Scorp.
I have been attracted to others before, both men and women but the attraction always faded at the third or fourth week mark. Yet here, for once, it is growing stronger and it will not go away. Each and every time prior, I have always spoken to my Virgent about it, and he would tease me yet trust that I would make the right decision in which I always have.
This time, I feel guilty and am battling whatever this is, that is going on inside. Nothing has happened, yet I feel guilty. To ponder over this and question why I felt this attraction, is but one thing which I have already been mulling over for the past few days now. The issue is, I still have yet to figure out an answer for it. In fact, we avoid even remotely brushing or touching each other at all as if we both have a contagious disease because I should think breaking that barrier would be a terrible idea. Even though, he and I are rather tactile individuals with everyone else.
I have placed myself in my SO's shoes and thought of it from his perspective. In fact, I think of this constantly, which increases my feelings of guilt. He has been attracted to others before, and I remember how it felt being on the other side. Sadly, I remember it all too clearly, the pain of it all.
He, the Water - Bearer, does not seem all that bright quite frankly therefore I doubt he knows exactly what he is doing.
What would make you say that he does ?
Since every single one of you lot here, the kind Water - Bearers, seem to believe that he knows exactly what he is doing. I still do not get the feeling that he is predatory in that manner. However, I could be very wrong.
If I may, what happened or is happening to your situation with the Stinger ?
Even the ditziest and spaceiest aquas I know, those that fit the quirky stereotype to a T, still know how to seduce and infiltrate like a pro. Doesn't make it predatory per say, perhaps exploratory is more apt. There's rarely always a good guy and a bad guy to a situation.
You can't let that water moon of yours run rampant with empathy in this situation. Sometimes the most kind thing you can do is to eliminate understanding for people's feelings. Especially for a double water sign like yourself.
Feeling empathetic emotions into how the Aqua feels, how you feel, how your Virgo feels, how the Aqua' Pisces feels, it's just sends you into emotions overdrive and clouds your judgement. It's why the aquas and others can clearly see what you can't in terms of the seriousness of this attraction and situation.
Focus less on feelings (impossible almost I know as a double water. 😭 I feel the struggle lols) and refocus on actions. How do you treat other male coworker's who you don't have suddenly convoluted connections with? Start to replicate those behaviors with the Aqua. I doubt you lack kindness with others. But your special treatment of him, initially made in order to make him productive, is taking on a different meaning now in context of an attraction and his own personal life circumstances.
Thank you dear Elly, you are spot on in regards to my difficulties. This is precisely it, my emotions are going into overdrive. Others may view this as silly daftness but my mind is also going into overdrive trying to section off the emotional implosion from all directions.
Perhaps, I could see but was in denial to the seriousness of it all, denial would have been easier in certain ways.
This situation is perhaps just a simple reminder of that lesson. Not all lessons are permanent. Sometimes we need refresher courses in life and it's totally ok.
Now take a breather, go have a lovely day/afternoon/night with the Virgo. Talk about whatever it is that makes y'alls connection shine bright. Make this situation less worrisome by choosing to not worry about it any further, you've got 12 pages of that lol. It's just a series of actions that need to be taken to draw boundaries then all will be fine. 🙂click to expand
However, he noticed I was unhappy and encouraged me to head out with friends, to enjoy myself.
Being away from him, away from the Water - Bearer, away from it all, and surrounded by those I care for and cherish. That positive energy is rebuilding the safe space in my own head. It grounds me.
I am damn well lucky to have such an understanding and patient Virgent, who figured something was not right yet encourages me to not spend time with him to figure it out but to go off and enjoy myself.
Ah, so now the Mermaid knows about me and is already rushing for him to purchase plane tickets for their destination wedding to make everything as concrete as possible (despite the wedding being held in April, he made multiple calls in the middle of a work session, loud enough for it to almost be a speaker phone call).
That pissed me off, because it was distracting everyone in the room and it also meant he was not doing the tasks we had set for him to complete. It was disrespectful. He was looking up and purchasing flight tickets in the middle of a project session, oblivious to everyone else. It was unprofessional, and a blatant lack of consideration for others. I might push for him to be fired, rather than have his contract be diminished.
He tried to get me to listen to him babbling about his SO and their troubles, whether they were so bad or not, although he loves her. He was talking about his friends calling off weddings, trying to discuss the mentality behind that, and discuss the mentality of jealousy in relationships. Constantly attempting to bring up a discussion of their relationship, which I am not having it anymore. Now I am beginning to see it as a game play, he is missing and craving attraction from other women because he is missing something from his own relationship. I am his 'type', so he keeps declaring so, well good luck with that. If he pushes me more, I would tell him that he should focus his attentions back on his fiancée and start getting his mess together at work.
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice (to be empathetic, to listen, to be a friend to him, whilst if I had my way I would have happily remained distant) knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted. Time to untangle myself from all of this.
Anyways, all you kind Water - Bearers were correct indeed, therefore thank you indeed for your patience. He wants something from me, with an intent, but I will not give it. I have enough self respect to know better.
That pissed me off, because it was distracting everyone in the room and it also meant he was not doing the tasks we had set for him to complete. It was disrespectful. He was looking up and purchasing flight tickets in the middle of a project session, oblivious to everyone else. It was unprofessional, and a blatant lack of consideration for others. I might push for him to be fired, rather than have his contract be diminished.
He tried to get me to listen to him babbling about his SO and their troubles, whether they were so bad or not, although he loves her. He was talking about his friends calling off weddings, trying to discuss the mentality behind that, and discuss the mentality of jealousy in relationships. Constantly attempting to bring up a discussion of their relationship, which I am not having it anymore. Now I am beginning to see it as a game play, he is missing and craving attraction from other women because he is missing something from his own relationship. I am his 'type', so he keeps declaring so, well good luck with that. If he pushes me more, I would tell him that he should focus his attentions back on his fiancée and start getting his mess together at work.
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice (to be empathetic, to listen, to be a friend to him, whilst if I had my way I would have happily remained distant) knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted. Time to untangle myself from all of this.
Anyways, all you kind Water - Bearers were correct indeed, therefore thank you indeed for your patience. He wants something from me, with an intent, but I will not give it. I have enough self respect to know better.
Posted by aquarius_manOh aquarius_man, you had mistaken my words in italics. I was describing my Virgent and not myself.Posted by TheLadyScorpiomessiah complex+
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice (to be empathetic, to listen, to be a friend to him, whilst if I had my way I would have happily remained distant) knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted.
Anyways, all you kind Water - Bearers were correct indeed. He wants something from me, with an intent, but I will not give it, I have enough self respect to know better.
we told you so
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Initially, I turned to my Virgent when I find personalities I am unsure about, to discuss it thoroughly with him as a sounding board. He felt I could have a softer approach in regards to dealing with the Water - Bearer.
That was a mistake.
Posted by aquarius_manIt does not sting, I am aware of my own ego enough to not let it get too bloated.Posted by TheLadyScorpiobingo
He tried to get me to listen to him babbling about his SO and their troubles, whether they were so bad or not, although he loves her. He was talking about his friends calling off weddings, trying to discuss the mentality behind that, and discuss the mentality of jealousy in relationships. Constantly attempting to bring up a discussion of their relationship, which I am not having it anymore. Now I am beginning to see it as a game play, he is missing and craving attraction from other women because he is missing something from his own relationship. I am his 'type', so he keeps declaring so, well good luck with that. If he pushes me more, I would tell him that he should focus his attentions back on his fiancée and start getting his mess together at work.
you aren't even that special to him (hope this stings >🙂) you're just his type, i.e. the only woman in the room to listen to him; but i think its your fault, too. its not like he opened up against your will.
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Well he said more than that, but I do not care to elaborate or wish to dwell on it.
It is my fault for being too kind and sympathetic / empathetic, I take responsibility of it.
Keep in mind, I am not the only woman in his life, he has his SO to go home to. He could have very well hashed it out with her and not impose on me.
He kind of did open up against my will, I was being friendly asking the usual polite questions of engagement when he decided to spill.
Posted by aquarius_manPosted by lisabethur8
i need to have my man with me daily. i'm super clingy.
and besides i dont know any woman that doesn't like to have their man close. all the women in relationships are CLINGY and possessive, jealous.
with single women it's different, they spend alot of time working and doing other activiities with tehir girlfriends ect.
you d be surprised to find out there are strong and independent women out there (not saying you are not among them, but i don't know you so i won't assume anything) who don't need to spend 24/24 with their hubby 🙂)
no, they are not clingy, possessive, and jealous
i disagree 100%
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i love being with my man though. if possible he works at home with me 24/7.
i LOVE it. 😆 😄
plus he's safe at home all the time, not at the freeway or in traffic and it's scary out there.
Posted by aquarius_manlolPosted by lisabethur8yes, i know some aqua girls who are like you; but only a few - theres this aqua girl who clings to her sag, coz she is clumsy and dumb and cant manage on her own; always creating drama, asking him if he still loves her, obnoxious, insecure little girl
i love being with my man though. if possible he works at home with me 24/7.
i LOVE it. 😆 😄
plus he's safe at home all the time, not at the freeway or in traffic and it's scary out there.
we guys are totally different
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my man has sagittarius and leo in his chart. haha
you must be super airy or something. cause my man has lacking in air.
Posted by aquarius_manHah, that mental arrogance of yours. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioi havent mistaken anything - i seldom do - if ever.Posted by aquarius_manOh aquarius_man, you had mistaken my words in italics. I was describing my Virgent and not myself.Posted by TheLadyScorpiomessiah complex+
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice (to be empathetic, to listen, to be a friend to him, whilst if I had my way I would have happily remained distant) knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted.
Anyways, all you kind Water - Bearers were correct indeed. He wants something from me, with an intent, but I will not give it, I have enough self respect to know better.
we told you so
😄
Initially, I turned to my Virgent when I find personalities I am unsure about, to discuss it thoroughly with him as a sounding board. He felt I could have a softer approach in regards to dealing with the Water - Bearer.
That was a mistake.
my quote was in correlation with your ''My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted.'' - thats what messiah coplex stands for.
besides, always follow your gut instinct
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Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
Bloody hell, do I love that man. He completely cleared the mental fog in my head, kept me grounded, and reminded me of my career goals yet again. That I have come this far, preserved this much to get where I am, not to be befallen by something this menial.
Posted by aquarius_manWhy the seeming bitterness in which I sense in your words.Posted by TheLadyScorpioi also resort to virgos when it comes to analyzing a situation
Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
i dont follow their advice, as its stupid, but i do listen to their words carefully
they re anal like that and give attention to detail, even more than i do
so its good to have one virgo around
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Virgins are hardly stupid, they may be too trusting and kind at times, but hardly idiotic.
Yes, they are very detail orientated but also very good strategists.
Posted by aquarius_manvirgos are really really good at that!!!Posted by TheLadyScorpioi also resort to virgos when it comes to analyzing a situation
Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
i dont follow their advice, as its stupid, but i do listen to their words carefully
they re anal like that and give attention to detail, even more than i do
so its good to have one virgo around
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they can find good information but they are mutable so they also go back and forth and look at all angles (a very mutable trait) which is very good to have imo.
they got fillers (you know....something that you can hold on to!)
Posted by lisabethur8Yes lisabethur, I am very thankful for his ability to look at this from all angles without being as emotionally pulled in as I am. He could detach and view it from a mental perspective, seeing it for what it is.Posted by aquarius_manvirgos are really really good at that!!!Posted by TheLadyScorpioi also resort to virgos when it comes to analyzing a situation
Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
i dont follow their advice, as its stupid, but i do listen to their words carefully
they re anal like that and give attention to detail, even more than i do
so its good to have one virgo around
they can find good information but they are mutable so they also go back and forth and look at all angles (a very mutable trait) which is very good to have imo.
they got fillers (you know....something that you can hold on to!)
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The fact that he does not feel threatened, and trusts me tells me a lot about him as a man. His self assuredness is very attractive, and again reminds me of why I have him in my life.
Posted by aquarius_manThis is text, I could be mistaken in how I interpret your words. However, if you like to think that I am an average Stinger, then so be it. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioif you feel a bitterness where there is none, it only means you're an average scorpio.Posted by aquarius_manWhy the seeming bitterness in which I sense in your words.Posted by TheLadyScorpioi also resort to virgos when it comes to analyzing a situation
Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
i dont follow their advice, as its stupid, but i do listen to their words carefully
they re anal like that and give attention to detail, even more than i do
so its good to have one virgo around
Virgins are hardly stupid, they may be too trusting and kind at times, but hardly idiotic.
Yes, they are very detail orientated but also very good strategists.
its not bitterness, let alone criticism. its exactly how i see virgo - good for some things (listening carefully, analyzing the situation, remembering all the minute details, etc)
good strategists, too, but they lack the guts to push things forward.
i have a business meeting with a virgo this week and i know by now what i will pitch to her so she greenlights my project. she never minces her words, even though i make her blush.
never called them idiotic, you need to start reading more carefully what i write. here, a smiling emoji 🙂
i find virgo a pretty good mental match for ppl like me
its their personality that annoys me
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They do not lack guts, they are more passive, that is all. When push comes to shove and when people push them to their limits, they will be surprisingly determined to see things through.
I find a Virgent a better match with Water Signs to be honest, not simply with my own sign. Our weaknesses and strengths balance each other out.
What is it about their personality which annoys you ?
Posted by TheLadyScorpio😛Posted by aquarius_manThis is text, I could be mistaken in how I interpret your words. However, if you like to think that I am an average Stinger, then so be it. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioif you feel a bitterness where there is none, it only means you're an average scorpio.Posted by aquarius_manWhy the seeming bitterness in which I sense in your words.Posted by TheLadyScorpioi also resort to virgos when it comes to analyzing a situation
Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
i dont follow their advice, as its stupid, but i do listen to their words carefully
they re anal like that and give attention to detail, even more than i do
so its good to have one virgo around
Virgins are hardly stupid, they may be too trusting and kind at times, but hardly idiotic.
Yes, they are very detail orientated but also very good strategists.
its not bitterness, let alone criticism. its exactly how i see virgo - good for some things (listening carefully, analyzing the situation, remembering all the minute details, etc)
good strategists, too, but they lack the guts to push things forward.
i have a business meeting with a virgo this week and i know by now what i will pitch to her so she greenlights my project. she never minces her words, even though i make her blush.
never called them idiotic, you need to start reading more carefully what i write. here, a smiling emoji 🙂
i find virgo a pretty good mental match for ppl like me
its their personality that annoys me
They do not lack guts, they are more passive, that is all. When push comes to shove and when people push them to their limits, they will be surprisingly determined to see things through.
I find a Virgent a better match with Water Signs to be honest, not simply with my own sign. Our weaknesses and strengths balance each other out.
What is it about their personality which annoys you ?
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we all have our biases heehee.
my father in law is a double virgo, and he's with a Gemini, (not really a great match according to astrologers and even astro community) but telling you, they really do love eachother and you may not notice the loyalty up front but she's super loyal and grateful and she loves him alot. He on the other hand is very happy with him, she calms him strangely enough.
My father in law is Scorpio stellium, (which makes sense why he is so intense and also very impatient alot and passionate about things and gets angry and annyed at incompetence easily) lol
so he needs the calmness for the inner workings of his mind.
Posted by aquarius_manAh, I was speaking of Virgents in the personal realm and not how they behave professionally.Posted by TheLadyScorpioi knew that 'average stinger' would not go unnoticed hahahahhahaPosted by aquarius_manThis is text, I could be mistaken in how I interpret your words. However, if you like to think that I am an average Stinger, then so be it. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioif you feel a bitterness where there is none, it only means you're an average scorpio.Posted by aquarius_manWhy the seeming bitterness in which I sense in your words.Posted by TheLadyScorpioi also resort to virgos when it comes to analyzing a situation
Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
i dont follow their advice, as its stupid, but i do listen to their words carefully
they re anal like that and give attention to detail, even more than i do
so its good to have one virgo around
Virgins are hardly stupid, they may be too trusting and kind at times, but hardly idiotic.
Yes, they are very detail orientated but also very good strategists.
its not bitterness, let alone criticism. its exactly how i see virgo - good for some things (listening carefully, analyzing the situation, remembering all the minute details, etc)
good strategists, too, but they lack the guts to push things forward.
i have a business meeting with a virgo this week and i know by now what i will pitch to her so she greenlights my project. she never minces her words, even though i make her blush.
never called them idiotic, you need to start reading more carefully what i write. here, a smiling emoji 🙂
i find virgo a pretty good mental match for ppl like me
its their personality that annoys me
They do not lack guts, they are more passive, that is all. When push comes to shove and when people push them to their limits, they will be surprisingly determined to see things through.
I find a Virgent a better match with Water Signs to be honest, not simply with my own sign. Our weaknesses and strengths balance each other out.
What is it about their personality which annoys you ?
they do lack guts, i always step on their dead bodies to get whats mine
trust me, ive got enough virgo collabs to know better
they might be determined, but there's something not so masculine about the virgo guys.
of course they fare better with water signs, as they re earth. besides, my favourite signs are - by far - fire signs. all im saying is in my line of work all the virgos i co-ordinate and supervise always respect me and my decision-making. and if they do have smth to say, i always encourage them to come forward.
personality - too butt-hurt, too shy, pondering too much and not in a good way. ambitious but seeking instant gratification. never chasing their dreams. hope this helps 🙂
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That is another topic entirely.
Yes, you are correct in saying there is something not so masculine about Virgents. However, that works well with my somewhat masculine determination in getting things done as a Stinger. If I had a man by my side who was as head strong as I am, all there would be would be arguments.
Virgents are easy people to work with professionally, I always value them, and they are rather useful if you know how to work with their strengths.
Posted by lisabethur8I am extremely biased, and unashamed of it either. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpio😛Posted by aquarius_manThis is text, I could be mistaken in how I interpret your words. However, if you like to think that I am an average Stinger, then so be it. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioif you feel a bitterness where there is none, it only means you're an average scorpio.Posted by aquarius_manWhy the seeming bitterness in which I sense in your words.Posted by TheLadyScorpioi also resort to virgos when it comes to analyzing a situation
Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
i dont follow their advice, as its stupid, but i do listen to their words carefully
they re anal like that and give attention to detail, even more than i do
so its good to have one virgo around
Virgins are hardly stupid, they may be too trusting and kind at times, but hardly idiotic.
Yes, they are very detail orientated but also very good strategists.
its not bitterness, let alone criticism. its exactly how i see virgo - good for some things (listening carefully, analyzing the situation, remembering all the minute details, etc)
good strategists, too, but they lack the guts to push things forward.
i have a business meeting with a virgo this week and i know by now what i will pitch to her so she greenlights my project. she never minces her words, even though i make her blush.
never called them idiotic, you need to start reading more carefully what i write. here, a smiling emoji 🙂
i find virgo a pretty good mental match for ppl like me
its their personality that annoys me
They do not lack guts, they are more passive, that is all. When push comes to shove and when people push them to their limits, they will be surprisingly determined to see things through.
I find a Virgent a better match with Water Signs to be honest, not simply with my own sign. Our weaknesses and strengths balance each other out.
What is it about their personality which annoys you ?
we all have our biases heehee.
my father in law is a double virgo, and he's with a Gemini, (not really a great match according to astrologers and even astro community) but telling you, they really do love eachother and you may not notice the loyalty up front but she's super loyal and grateful and she loves him alot. He on the other hand is very happy with him, she calms him strangely enough.
My father in law is Scorpio stellium, (which makes sense why he is so intense and also very impatient alot and passionate about things and gets angry and annyed at incompetence easily) lol
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Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by lisabethur8I am extremely biased, and unashamed of it either. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpio😛Posted by aquarius_manThis is text, I could be mistaken in how I interpret your words. However, if you like to think that I am an average Stinger, then so be it. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioif you feel a bitterness where there is none, it only means you're an average scorpio.Posted by aquarius_manWhy the seeming bitterness in which I sense in your words.Posted by TheLadyScorpioi also resort to virgos when it comes to analyzing a situation
Well, I spoke with my Virgent a bit more, and divulged everything to him. His utter trust and belief in me to make the wisest choice, and his new thoughtful advice has reminded me of why I love him so.
i dont follow their advice, as its stupid, but i do listen to their words carefully
they re anal like that and give attention to detail, even more than i do
so its good to have one virgo around
Virgins are hardly stupid, they may be too trusting and kind at times, but hardly idiotic.
Yes, they are very detail orientated but also very good strategists.
its not bitterness, let alone criticism. its exactly how i see virgo - good for some things (listening carefully, analyzing the situation, remembering all the minute details, etc)
good strategists, too, but they lack the guts to push things forward.
i have a business meeting with a virgo this week and i know by now what i will pitch to her so she greenlights my project. she never minces her words, even though i make her blush.
never called them idiotic, you need to start reading more carefully what i write. here, a smiling emoji 🙂
i find virgo a pretty good mental match for ppl like me
its their personality that annoys me
They do not lack guts, they are more passive, that is all. When push comes to shove and when people push them to their limits, they will be surprisingly determined to see things through.
I find a Virgent a better match with Water Signs to be honest, not simply with my own sign. Our weaknesses and strengths balance each other out.
What is it about their personality which annoys you ?
we all have our biases heehee.
my father in law is a double virgo, and he's with a Gemini, (not really a great match according to astrologers and even astro community) but telling you, they really do love eachother and you may not notice the loyalty up front but she's super loyal and grateful and she loves him alot. He on the other hand is very happy with him, she calms him strangely enough.
My father in law is Scorpio stellium, (which makes sense why he is so intense and also very impatient alot and passionate about things and gets angry and annyed at incompetence easily) lol
so he needs the calmness for the inner workings of his mind.
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well if you're with someone of those energies, you should be 😛
Posted by aquarius_manomgosh, aquairus_man, did the poetry read:Posted by TheLadyScorpiosure
Ah, I was speaking of Virgents in the personal realm and not how they behave professionally.
That is another topic entirely.
Yes, you are correct in saying there is something not so masculine about Virgents. However, that works well with my somewhat masculine determination in getting things done as a Stinger. If I had a man by my side who was as head strong as I am, all there would be would be arguments.
Virgents are easy people to work with professionally, I always value them, and they are rather useful if you know how to work with their strengths.
i was never romantically involved with a virgo and i wouldnt know what to say about it
ok, there was only one girl who kept on mailing me love poems with a lot of bitterness in them
because, you know, i had left without saying goodbye or anything
as for strong heads, since im the boss, i dont want to hear it. its either my way, or no way at all.
ppl hate me i know but i dont care, the job must be done like i say because i know best
if i dont know any better, i obviously consult with them, thats why i surround myself with the best people available
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"I hate you, because you left.
Your soul is dark
and ugly because you left,
how dare you,
you shall reap what you sow.
because you left me."
😆
omgosh i had too much coffee.
Posted by aquarius_manHaha, typical Water - Bearer, I myself have been guilty of pulling such a move as well.Posted by TheLadyScorpiosure
Ah, I was speaking of Virgents in the personal realm and not how they behave professionally.
That is another topic entirely.
Yes, you are correct in saying there is something not so masculine about Virgents. However, that works well with my somewhat masculine determination in getting things done as a Stinger. If I had a man by my side who was as head strong as I am, all there would be would be arguments.
Virgents are easy people to work with professionally, I always value them, and they are rather useful if you know how to work with their strengths.
i was never romantically involved with a virgo and i wouldnt know what to say about it
ok, there was only one girl who kept on mailing me love poems with a lot of bitterness in them
because, you know, i had left without saying goodbye or anything
as for strong heads, since im the boss, i dont want to hear it. its either my way, or no way at all.
ppl hate me i know but i dont care, the job must be done like i say because i know best, thats why im their boss and not the other way round
if i dont know any better, i obviously consult with them, thats why i surround myself with the best people available
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Ah, I meant headstrong in relationships. Although as a boss, as much as I relate / agree with your sentiment, I try to not be as fixed as that. It could blind me from seeing oncoming factors if I restrict myself to a tunnel vision. I make final decisions, but I keep myself open to other opinions, if not, I may be letting go of opportunities which may present itself that may have been better than my own.
Yes, surrounding yourself with the best and mutually beneficial is the way to go. Which leads me to the fact, that in the upcoming partners meeting in the next few days. I will push for the dismissal of the Water - Bearer, we have already given him ample opportunity and he is not stepping up at all. He has to go.
Posted by aquarius_manHah. 😆
she had gorgeous titties if this bit of info helps
and since im a boob-man, ill save her a personal place in my treasure chest
The Stinger sister of the Libran who was miserably in love with you, which you fooled around with.
How were her 'titties' ?
Posted by aquarius_manDear god, that reminds me of the neglect of my former Water - Bearer, obviously he did not feel it as so. Granted, I am already one who loves my independence and absolutely hate clinginess in a man. My preference is for both individuals to go conquer the world, and to come together to share what they had experienced out in the world. Yet Water - Bearer men could leave you feeling like you are not even a priority in his life at times. For a Stinger to fare well with your kind, we have to love your kind a lot less than you, us.Posted by TheLadyScorpioshe was skinny and tall, with small but perky breasts, she was ashamed of showing btw; kept her shirt on, although we were on the beach. i called her the (sex) predator as she was direct, ballsy and her drive was kinda scary. she was in a committed relationship with an aqua, who at the time being wasnt around (3rd or 4th time in my life i fooled around with a woman neglected by aqua; most likely other guys think the same about me hahaha); she always listened to my stories and found me interesting. always collecting new bits of info about me. and being blunt when it came to fooling around - as she initiated it; she askd me: so many girls and you not doing anything? i told her i wasnt in the mood and she made a pass (basically, she asked me to put my water-soaked swimming trunks in her bag and that sense of familiarity aroused me)Posted by aquarius_manHah. 😆
she had gorgeous titties if this bit of info helps
and since im a boob-man, ill save her a personal place in my treasure chest
The Stinger sister of the Libran who was miserably in love with you, which you fooled around with.
How were her 'titties' ?
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Hah, guilty. My Virgent always say I ravage him due to my insatiable appetite, thankfully he lets me take what is mine, not that he has much of a choice. 😆
I thought you enjoyed headstrong women, how come her drive was described as 'kinda scary'.
Yes, we love collecting information of others, as we enlarge of database of others. Yes, we could be rather blunt. We enjoy taking what we want, why beat around the bush and be coy if it is there for the taking.
You remind me of the fact that I miss my Water - Bearer friends. They are always busy, out in the world, experiencing new things, talking to new people, finding strange things to discover, and chasing the next adventure. Ah, when they return, I will make time to cherish their quirky strangeness and wild antics again.
Your kind make better friends to us Stingers, than significant others.
Posted by aquarius_manPosted by TheLadyScorpiooh, me im quite the opposite
Haha, typical Water - Bearer, I myself have been guilty of pulling such a move as well.
Ah, I meant headstrong in relationships. Although as a boss, as much as I relate / agree with your sentiment, I try to not be as fixed as that. .. I will push for the dismissal of the Water - Bearer, we have already given him ample opportunity and he is not stepping up at all. He has to go.
i do love headstrong women in relationships
as for me being fixed in a leading position is coz
1) im actually not a good leader - am just the best at what i do and somehow i ended up sueprvising ppl; not like i asked for this
2) in my line of work, there's a chain of command; and im at the top of the ladder, with only 1-2 ppl who can tell me what to do , ppl who actually pay me; otherwise, im the boss and i sometimes have more than 100 ppl under my command. and i have to make them listen to me. anyways, i wont go into more detail but i am a pretty stubborn bastard, as well
rather be dead than give in 😄
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where do you work, or what type of work?
Posted by aquarius_manIf you love headstrong women, then why do you avoid Stingers ?Posted by TheLadyScorpiooh, me im quite the opposite
Haha, typical Water - Bearer, I myself have been guilty of pulling such a move as well.
Ah, I meant headstrong in relationships. Although as a boss, as much as I relate / agree with your sentiment, I try to not be as fixed as that. .. I will push for the dismissal of the Water - Bearer, we have already given him ample opportunity and he is not stepping up at all. He has to go.
i do love headstrong women in relationships
as for me being fixed in a leading position is coz
1) im actually not a good leader - am just the best at what i do and somehow i ended up sueprvising ppl; not like i asked for this
2) in my line of work, there's a chain of command; and im at the top of the ladder, with only 1-2 ppl who can tell me what to do , ppl who actually pay me; otherwise, im the boss and i sometimes have more than 100 ppl under my command. and i have to make them listen to me. anyways, i wont go into more detail but i am a pretty stubborn bastard, as well
rather be dead than give in 😄
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Ah, that explains it. It takes a particular personality to lead, and not merely supervise a large mass of people.
Hah, I could already tell from your way of writing that you are a 'pretty stubborn bastard'. It is your fixed side showing itself. 😆
Posted by aquarius_manWhy that makes for a basis of a great friendship, the best type are like so.Posted by TheLadyScorpioshe was shameless, couldn't care about who might see her; the guys who wee with us knew she was into a relationship etc; maybe she & her aqua were more open-minded, more experimental, i don't know. im more shy. i like to tease the girls, make them aware of my existence, pull back when they re too interested and attack them when they don't see it coming. it s a game 🙂
I thought you enjoyed headstrong women, how come her drive was described as 'kinda scary'.
You remind me of the fact that I miss my Water - Bearer friends. They are always busy, out in the world, experiencing new things, talking to new people, finding strange things to discover, and chasing the next adventure. Ah, when they return, I will make time to cherish their quirky strangeness and wild antics again.
Your kind make better friends to us Stingers, than significant others.
as for the rest, i agree with you
with me & scorpios its always been about trading ,war' stories from the road
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Ah, she is that type of Stinger. She must have been in her phase and have not gotten it out of her system yet. I doubt her Water - Bearer would have been fine with her behaviour, but who would know except them.
I see, so you are the coy game player type of Water - Bearer. 😆
A bit of tease always make the anticipation of the final event, all the sweeter.
@TheLadyScorpio I hear you when you say it was rude that he was searching for tickets and such while at work, but I could be misinterpreting, but were you jealous? I do understand that's not something you should be doing at work, but why not just pull him to the side and address it? How do you know his woman knows about you?
Posted by aquarius_manlol heeheePosted by lisabethur8i know realised it sounds like im an army general
where do you work, or what type of work?
no, im not in the military/ navy nothing of this sort
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ok
😆
well i'm been online too long, for more than a couple hours now, and i got to get to work.
been up till the crack of dawn and cleaning up and running errands.
sounds like management though. 😛
have fun you two.
hope you get things resolved with that water bearer at work, Ladyscorpio.
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