Birthday vent..:(. Started my birthday ending things with my Aqua this morning.

He didn't do anything at all for me... no wine.. no presents no cake... just a happy birthday song he sang to me at midnight.. n on top of that, i felt his distant since last time we met.. colder and colder... also, saw a lubricant in his jacket which we never ever use ever... after sex( no kiss) on the lips... when I hugged him from behind when he went straight to his computer to do his assignment after sex.. I saw messages in another language with this girl.. a tongue emoticon and lots of capitals !!! Not sure what that was about but that's when I realised.. I can not see him anymore. I'm not doing this to myself.. no matter how much I love him, my love tank is way too empty... I can't be with someone who is growing more distant and who does not care enough about me. I told him how much my birthday meant to me because of my child hood and he said he's very sorry n asked me what I wanted n I said no, that's fine .. I don't want anything ( it shudnt work like that) .. last birthday I made sure I asked him what he wanted to do n if he planned anything special for a week before!!! And I got him a few small gifts even though I only knew him for a few months then..: it's been 5 with us... but he didn't even ask me anything ... I can c he's extremely crazily busy with his uni and work( or maybe another woman) but seriously man. I'm done... I walked him out and told him I can't see him anymore n gave him a good bye n he said what is this all about. I told him about the lubricant and he says... ah babe I carry them around with me..( seriously?) lol. So I just said that's fine u don't have to try to explain anything I know it's not for me... n he says ok babe I know you don't trust me then went to kiss me on the lips— I refused and hes like seriously—? n I'm like I'm very serious I'm sorry.... n he's like, ok I don't have time for this I need to go to work.... anyway... my birthday with 30 mins sleep... sufferered the whole night coz I was thinking heaps n he was snoring next to me. I was so angry I wanted to just kick him out lol..... anyway, it's over now. I don't wanna hear from him... I don't know if I wanna be friends. I'm not ready now..'I need to move on....😢

Just a birthday vent... I'm sorry.. but if I don't let this out, I can't enjoy the next 15 hours .... thank you for listening...

Ps:'plz no bad comments, I will take them tomorrow thank you.

Did you expect presents, cake and wine? The fact that he sang you a song means he did remember it was your birthday. Are you not happy with that?

Awww man...I went through this. It was condoms though, not lube.

Give it sone time, you'll be OK.



((((hugs))))

Posted by Algol-Rising
I'm sorry you're having a shitty birthday.

I understand why the distance and the messages upset you, but I really don't get why you're upset about the lack of birthday present, though. It sounds like you told him you didn't want one, and playing a song sounds pretty sweet from an outside point of view.

.... he asked me that afterr I told him it meant a lot to me... before my birthday I kept mentioning about it ( jokingly way) that I wud wanna get handcuff on my birthday or whatever lol n he says that wud b good but never asked me when it was etc... its like he kept ignoring about it ( messages or calls) and last night I asked to see him ( as I thought oh well even if he gets me nothing , waking up next to him will b good coz I love him ) turns out I spent 4 hours suffering in bed in pain crying uncomfortable n cudnt sleep while he was snoring !! .. I think what hurts me is that I know he does not care... and that really hurts...😢 at first I thought it doesn't mean anything but when it's with a person I love deeply , cooked for, gave massage to n u noe shared a great time with.. cudnt bother bringing me a wine or chocolate for my birthday.. that stinks

Posted by Aquistorm
Did you expect presents, cake and wine? The fact that he sang you a song means he did remember it was your birthday. Are you not happy with that?

Ofcoz he did remember. I mentioned it to him before he came to c me... but thank u.. u noe what he said * oh u noe I really wanted to get u the wine but the thought was just too much! * n I'm like no that's cool. I packed up frozen food for the man .. coz I noe he's crazily stressed with work and all that... trying to be supprtive but I can't do it anymore..

Posted by aquanib
Kinda shitty that he didn't do nothing. I liked your enthusiasm going into this honestly.

Thank you.. yeah I needdd to at least be clear to him faceto face. It will also help me.... move on... I told him I had no sleep n I walked out to talk to him in the morning in the cold but it was needed

Posted by sultrykitty
Awww man...I went through this. It was condoms though, not lube.

Give it sone time, you'll be OK.



((((hugs))))

I was trying to find condoms... but yes the lube is like... seriously? We don't need lube ever ever ever so what exactly is he carrying that for? Also he made some bullshit story about his beer in the car. Only for me to see another lube and the bottle lid at the back of the car. So he had some action at the back of his car. Anyway, it's better I know now... painful getting out in the rain and in the cold but I needed to c the truth so I can move on in peace.... 😢 shit birthday but I still have 15 hours to go.... I hope you r doing great xxxxx ..

Thank you everyone for kindness and support truly need it today.... tears are helping.... its a good birthday cleanse and I can start tomorrow with fresh eyes.... love

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Hehe love it thank you !! Bring smiles to my face

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Posted by sultrykitty
Awww man...I went through this. It was condoms though, not lube.

Give it sone time, you'll be OK.



((((hugs))))

I was trying to find condoms... but yes the lube is like... seriously? We don't need lube ever ever ever so what exactly is he carrying that for? Also he made some bullshit story about his beer in the car. Only for me to see another lube and the bottle lid at the back of the car. So he had some action at the back of his car. Anyway, it's better I know now... painful getting out in the rain and in the cold but I needed to c the truth so I can move on in peace.... 😢 shit birthday but I still have 15 hours to go.... I hope you r doing great xxxxx ..

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Yeah, we never used condoms and we had bee seeing each other for a few years.

Same kind of responses from him, too.

He's not ready.

Hope you feel better soon. 😢

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Posted by sultrykitty
Awww man...I went through this. It was condoms though, not lube.

Give it sone time, you'll be OK.



((((hugs))))

I was trying to find condoms... but yes the lube is like... seriously? We don't need lube ever ever ever so what exactly is he carrying that for? Also he made some bullshit story about his beer in the car. Only for me to see another lube and the bottle lid at the back of the car. So he had some action at the back of his car. Anyway, it's better I know now... painful getting out in the rain and in the cold but I needed to c the truth so I can move on in peace.... 😢 shit birthday but I still have 15 hours to go.... I hope you r doing great xxxxx ..

Yeah, we never used condoms and we had bee seeing each other for a few years.

Same kind of responses from him, too.

He's not ready.

Hope you feel better soon. 😢

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😢 I'm very sorry.. what happened in your case? U can pm me if u like.... that wud stink ... I really can't tolerate dishonesty. It brakes my every piece ...😢

Yeah.. when there's pain, we always rise stronger from it.. it's going to be ok.. thank you so much... xxxxx

Posted by Geminiforever23
Awwww hugs x focus on your birthday and deal with him tomorrow!

I don't want to deal with him at all. Done done

Posted by Geminiforever23
Awwww hugs x focus on your birthday and deal with him tomorrow!

Though thank you I will take a big hug right now

Yeah I'm sorry to hear about that. Happy birthday though. You're super fantastical! I can't tell you what to do. I just sat it's super important when your heart and head agree it's good. If it doesn't and you get those bad gut feelings it's best to go with it. It's better always better to talk to them about it. That way you can at least clear the table and know before you walk.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to go out with your girls and CELEBRATE!!!!

FORGET ABOUT HIM. I know it's hard but he doesn't deserve you to "suffer" during your birthday for a pos.

On the other hand, if it wasnt because of the lube and stuff you found I'd say that singing HBD to you was cute. Yeah don't expect stuff from people, many people don't like bdays. whay did he do for his bday?

Take tome.for yourself and don't worry about him for now. If he really wants to be with you he will come around and explain.

As aquas admit when we are wrong, maybe not in words but one way or another we do if we care about the person.

I hope you have a day filled with joy and close to your loved ones. ? (as hard as that might sound, you won't die bc of love and wasting your bday dwelling on love pains doesn't make it any better).

don't make decisions when you're mad.

calculate everything with a cool head.

Wow that's shitty. Not so much that he didn't make a grand gesture (most aqua's aren't about that life) but rather that he just brushed off your concerns and disappointment. If he really cared he would've done his best to lift your mood and allay your fears that he's cheating.

Instead he just pushes you off to the side and priorities himself ("I got work tomorrow") over his woman. Not cool.

Hope you can have a better end to your birthday despite this disappointing start.

Sounds like he doesn't value you and the lube thing is definitely weird. No guy just carries lube around unless he plans to use it. I think your gut is telling you to get out and it's probably for the best. He didn't make an effort for you, so why should you make one for him. If he's not making you feel loved, then don't keep him around.

Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Yeah I'm sorry to hear about that. Happy birthday though. You're super fantastical! I can't tell you what to do. I just sat it's super important when your heart and head agree it's good. If it doesn't and you get those bad gut feelings it's best to go with it. It's better always better to talk to them about it. That way you can at least clear the table and know before you walk.

Hi ! Thank you so much..... lovely I would have a conversation about it but what for? If they r going to lie ? I rather not at all.... it's ok.. I will b ok...🙂 he knows how important it is for me when it comes to honesty. He's sexing around ( that's fine if he tells me) he's saying no but he is doing it. I just needed proof n I got it

Posted by infires
I can see why you are mad, but maybe he really was busy with uni. Even though your birthday should be special, and a friend told me the gift is given out of their own will..and should not be expected.

He seems like a shitty boyfriend, so sorry you have to go through that

Like gemini suggested, ignore him for now and go out to celebrate

He isn't my boyfriend. Though I gave him something small for his birthday. N I mentioned my birthday. He was coming over knowing it will b my birthday. No matter how tired he is, he cud have grabbed a wine and a card. It's that simple n not just a dick and his lube hahaha meh.. I will get over it

Posted by Aerazo
The best thing you can do for yourself is to go out with your girls and CELEBRATE!!!!

FORGET ABOUT HIM. I know it's hard but he doesn't deserve you to "suffer" during your birthday for a pos.

On the other hand, if it wasnt because of the lube and stuff you found I'd say that singing HBD to you was cute. Yeah don't expect stuff from people, many people don't like bdays. whay did he do for his bday?

Take tome.for yourself and don't worry about him for now. If he really wants to be with you he will come around and explain.

As aquas admit when we are wrong, maybe not in words but one way or another we do if we care about the person.

I hope you have a day filled with joy and close to your loved ones. ? (as hard as that might sound, you won't die bc of love and wasting your bday dwelling on love pains doesn't make it any better).

Hi darling thank u for ur response ... I totally get u. I want Togo out and celebrate I still have sometime but I'm tying to survive here with 30 mins sleep. lol. I am ok, my heart isn't in pain anymore. I sing and cried it all out. I'm just exhausted though offered to do stuff with girlfriends today but I'm just going to take my son out and get a hair cut instead!!! Going to do a nice short sexy hair style ( typical heart broken style ?) hahaha.. that will b son blessing !!! n if I have the energy i will go out dancing tonight but I'm like a zombie. I wish he didn't come over now! Bloody hell ruined my night and day!! Too exhausted ...😢

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Posted by Aerazo
The best thing you can do for yourself is to go out with your girls and CELEBRATE!!!!

FORGET ABOUT HIM. I know it's hard but he doesn't deserve you to "suffer" during your birthday for a pos.

On the other hand, if it wasnt because of the lube and stuff you found I'd say that singing HBD to you was cute. Yeah don't expect stuff from people, many people don't like bdays. whay did he do for his bday?

Take tome.for yourself and don't worry about him for now. If he really wants to be with you he will come around and explain.

As aquas admit when we are wrong, maybe not in words but one way or another we do if we care about the person.

I hope you have a day filled with joy and close to your loved ones. ? (as hard as that might sound, you won't die bc of love and wasting your bday dwelling on love pains doesn't make it any better).

Hi darling thank u for ur response ... I totally get u. I want Togo out and celebrate I still have sometime but I'm tying to survive here with 30 mins sleep. lol. I am ok, my heart isn't in pain anymore. I sing and cried it all out. I'm just exhausted though offered to do stuff with girlfriends today but I'm just going to take my son out and get a hair cut instead!!! Going to do a nice short sexy hair style ( typical heart broken style ?) hahaha.. that will b son blessing !!! n if I have the energy i will go out dancing tonight but I'm like a zombie. I wish he didn't come over now! Bloody hell ruined my night and day!! Too exhausted ...😢

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Yeah him singing was cute... I know.. but nah, not enough lol. N he's like I'm sorry babe! What do u want for ur birthday?? N he's like * flowers? * and I'm thinking I told him I hated flowers . How's that for remembering something about me! Made it worst lol.. anyway? I don want him to come around with some stupid ass excuse about the lube.. yeah I carry around so I look cool you know lol...( so dumb!!) we never ever use lube.

Posted by AerialView
don't make decisions when you're mad.

calculate everything with a cool head.

I didn't already 😢😢😢 it's obvious he doesn't care about me at all... n that's enough to make me walk. I deserve so much more n he knows it !!!! He's the one going to b missing me coz I have done a lot for him. He's done zero. I can walk out with my head held high.. n maybe find a man who's more... willing to give rather than just taking all the time

Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like he doesn't value you and the lube thing is definitely weird. No guy just carries lube around unless he plans to use it. I think your gut is telling you to get out and it's probably for the best. He didn't make an effort for you, so why should you make one for him. If he's not making you feel loved, then don't keep him around.

Exactly . Any other day is fine. But my birthday? His head has been elsewhere !!!! UNi, assignments work and def a girl !!! Each time I c him he looks more steesss n dead every time and more distant.. but now there's someone else involved n no I deserve better

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Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like he doesn't value you and the lube thing is definitely weird. No guy just carries lube around unless he plans to use it. I think your gut is telling you to get out and it's probably for the best. He didn't make an effort for you, so why should you make one for him. If he's not making you feel loved, then don't keep him around.

Exactly . Any other day is fine. But my birthday? His head has been elsewhere !!!! UNi, assignments work and def a girl !!! Each time I c him he looks more steesss n dead every time and more distant.. but now there's someone else involved n no I deserve better

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Well if he decides to come back, put your foot down and let him know that you expect better from him. If he can rise to that, then great. If not, then he needs to step aside for a man who can.

Ok maybe he spent 45 mins giving me oral sex but no.... lol.. sorry out of topic .. thank you everyone for love and support.... honestly.. I cudnt tell or talk to anyone... this really makes my day better....sending birthday love

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Posted by Chuckcem
Sounds like he doesn't value you and the lube thing is definitely weird. No guy just carries lube around unless he plans to use it. I think your gut is telling you to get out and it's probably for the best. He didn't make an effort for you, so why should you make one for him. If he's not making you feel loved, then don't keep him around.

Exactly . Any other day is fine. But my birthday? His head has been elsewhere !!!! UNi, assignments work and def a girl !!! Each time I c him he looks more steesss n dead every time and more distant.. but now there's someone else involved n no I deserve better

Well if he decides to come back, put your foot down and let him know that you expect better from him. If he can rise to that, then great. If not, then he needs to step aside for a man who can.

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I will. Thank you. and I don't want him back. I think I'm reAlly done

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Posted by AerialView
don't make decisions when you're mad.

calculate everything with a cool head.

I didn't already 😢😢😢 it's obvious he doesn't care about me at all... n that's enough to make me walk. I deserve so much more n he knows it !!!! He's the one going to b missing me coz I have done a lot for him. He's done zero. I can walk out with my head held high.. n maybe find a man who's more... willing to give rather than just taking all the time

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you sounds very disappointed. i guess separate way is the best.

good luck to you my friend.

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Posted by AerialView
don't make decisions when you're mad.

calculate everything with a cool head.

I didn't already 😢😢😢 it's obvious he doesn't care about me at all... n that's enough to make me walk. I deserve so much more n he knows it !!!! He's the one going to b missing me coz I have done a lot for him. He's done zero. I can walk out with my head held high.. n maybe find a man who's more... willing to give rather than just taking all the time

you sounds very disappointed. i guess separate way is the best.

good luck to you my friend.

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Thank you so much... ps( he knows I have ditched a few men who chased me along the way... I chose to only see him... n this is what I got... oh well, my fault really ...) I hope you r doing great xxxx

Posted by Aquistorm
Did you expect presents, cake and wine? The fact that he sang you a song means he did remember it was your birthday. Are you not happy with that?

Maybe you missed the part where he's FUCKING OTHER WOMEN ON THE SIDE.

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Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Yeah I'm sorry to hear about that. Happy birthday though. You're super fantastical! I can't tell you what to do. I just sat it's super important when your heart and head agree it's good. If it doesn't and you get those bad gut feelings it's best to go with it. It's better always better to talk to them about it. That way you can at least clear the table and know before you walk.

Hi ! Thank you so much..... lovely I would have a conversation about it but what for? If they r going to lie ? I rather not at all.... it's ok.. I will b ok...🙂 he knows how important it is for me when it comes to honesty. He's sexing around ( that's fine if he tells me) he's saying no but he is doing it. I just needed proof n I got it

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Sometimes that's all you need. You should always put your emotional well being first. It's important to love yourself. I admire you when to walk away. A lot of people will tear theirself apart(I know I do sometimes) trying to just try and be your best and hope they are doing the same. When you know though you know.

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Posted by Aquistorm
Did you expect presents, cake and wine? The fact that he sang you a song means he did remember it was your birthday. Are you not happy with that?

Maybe you missed the part where he's FUCKING OTHER WOMEN ON THE SIDE.

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O.... I know ... lol...

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Yeah I'm sorry to hear about that. Happy birthday though. You're super fantastical! I can't tell you what to do. I just sat it's super important when your heart and head agree it's good. If it doesn't and you get those bad gut feelings it's best to go with it. It's better always better to talk to them about it. That way you can at least clear the table and know before you walk.

Hi ! Thank you so much..... lovely I would have a conversation about it but what for? If they r going to lie ? I rather not at all.... it's ok.. I will b ok...🙂 he knows how important it is for me when it comes to honesty. He's sexing around ( that's fine if he tells me) he's saying no but he is doing it. I just needed proof n I got it

Sometimes that's all you need. You should always put your emotional well being first. It's important to love yourself. I admire you when to walk away. A lot of people will tear theirself apart(I know I do sometimes) trying to just try and be your best and hope they are doing the same. When you know though you know.

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Thank you... right now my grieving process is happening. First anger .. then I will start to miss him etc and I will have this thread to go back on to why I made the decision I did....

Posted by topes
Why is this a thread if he's not considered an official boyfriend? U Bulls confuse me, particularly when u chose the most give a fuk zodiac sign to fwb. 2 rigid square signs.

What did u expect?

keep the closed minded opinion to your self . It's not a fwb.

Update: he's messaged me happy birthday with lots of kisses saying to have the best day etc.. then went to post on my fb wall... wishing me happiness etc and said kisses.. on my fb wall !!! arkkkk

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Yeah I'm sorry to hear about that. Happy birthday though. You're super fantastical! I can't tell you what to do. I just sat it's super important when your heart and head agree it's good. If it doesn't and you get those bad gut feelings it's best to go with it. It's better always better to talk to them about it. That way you can at least clear the table and know before you walk.

Hi ! Thank you so much..... lovely I would have a conversation about it but what for? If they r going to lie ? I rather not at all.... it's ok.. I will b ok...🙂 he knows how important it is for me when it comes to honesty. He's sexing around ( that's fine if he tells me) he's saying no but he is doing it. I just needed proof n I got it

Sometimes that's all you need. You should always put your emotional well being first. It's important to love yourself. I admire you when to walk away. A lot of people will tear theirself apart(I know I do sometimes) trying to just try and be your best and hope they are doing the same. When you know though you know.

Thank you... right now my grieving process is happening. First anger .. then I will start to miss him etc and I will have this thread to go back on to why I made the decision I did....

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That's very true. It's important to remember as well , that although you may be good for him. That doesn't mean that he is good for you. You're welcome, it's really no problem at all. Remember you're great , and I'm sure you have a lot to offer. You deserve someone that appreciates that.

Happy Birthday

I'm so sorry to hear that.

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Posted by topes
Why is this a thread if he's not considered an official boyfriend? U Bulls confuse me, particularly when u chose the most give a fuk zodiac sign to fwb. 2 rigid square signs.

What did u expect?

keep the closed minded opinion to your self . It's not a fwb.

I'll remain confused then where you stated on the previous page 'he isn't my boyfriend'..

Meh

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I give presents to my girl friends lol. When it comes to small gifts like that... you don't need to have label to show love or affection. It's a simple thing for people to understand lol

Posted by Astrology101
You should have stuck around for a month... become a pain in the ass... Literally torn down his house.. if he has a girl... made her life hell too.. then left him... But your way is good too ... 😄 😄

I took the high road with my ex too.. regret it. Now I think of all the ways I could have bitch slapped the girl he was with 😄 😄

Just joking.. fyi.

IMAo good one !!! It will make me feel good for a min.. but I'm better than that..😉 I will b horrible feeling after the act. beside I never slap anyone in my life lol. I can b an angel at times lol. Maybe too nice— Need to learn to b a nice bitch lol

Thank you all for all the birthday love n support !!!! I'm touched

What are you going to do when he comes crawling back? I see him trying to come back...2 of cups....I see him crying miserably- 9 of swords. And He may come with a gift....

Who leaves a good Taurus woman?

Don't cry sweet lady, I hate to see a woman cry. We may have different views about marriage, but you are sweet. Everything will be okay. He will come crawling back and then you get to decide if you want to continue. I promise. ☺

To be fair some guys use lube to masturbate

......not saying that he was actually faithful....

but possession of lube doesn't necessarily indicate infidelity.

Regardless to whether he was cheating you are not he doesn't sound like a good partner.

There are better suitors out there and, you definitely deserve better.

Happy Birthday by the way !!!

Posted by Shrewdsharp
What are you going to do when he comes crawling back? I see him trying to come back...2 of cups....I see him crying miserably- 9 of swords. And He may come with a gift....

Who leaves a good Taurus woman?

Right Taurus women are marriage material?

Posted by andswho
HBD I'd probably buy you some discount perfume that I can get for cheap but looks expensive

Hehe howndid u know that's my cup of tea? Ofcoz ur a Taurus?

Posted by Shrewdsharp
What are you going to do when he comes crawling back? I see him trying to come back...2 of cups....I see him crying miserably- 9 of swords. And He may come with a gift....

Who leaves a good Taurus woman?

Mmm you r right about this... you know, he taught me great lesson today... why did I crave love so much on my birthday.. not just from him... just from people around me. I used to always throw big party and shine bright... n now I really get and understand all of it... even my mum forgot my birthday lol.. everything is back from child hood..... fear of not being loved.. wow... Dalai Lama is my present this year. I turned the negative into a positive ... 🙂 and You do reading—?? Ps: if he does come back.... which I'm sure he wanna c me... I can only offer friendship at this stage... we r hurting each other with the timing at the moment so badly.. also, I can't trust him... ESP the women he may be sexing with.. he posted kisses on my fb wall. That's new... he introduced me to his friends in public n did not let go of my hands in dancing scene.. that was great.. now I need him to make me official.. n things might look less complicated.. in saying that, can you trust again??

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What are you going to do when he comes crawling back? I see him trying to come back...2 of cups....I see him crying miserably- 9 of swords. And He may come with a gift....

Who leaves a good Taurus woman?

.... when a Taurus woman loves you, you know where a king pedestal looks like.. the sensual massages, the yummy delicious food... the loyalty... the passion in bed.... the endless suppprt... hehe ok enough enough... we r in Aqua forum here... sending love to all signs 😉