I texted Aqua I need space, thoughts?

Lol

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Lol

That’s helpful.

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Lol

That’s helpful.

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Not sure what you are... Pisces?

Damn....now I see why some people still use email lol.

I would gladly give you space like forever after such a looooooong and repetitive text like this 🙂

sorry

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Lol

That’s helpful.

Not sure what you are... Pisces?

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Cancer

Posted by Pandora101

I would gladly give you space like forever after such a looooooong and repetitive text like this 🙂

sorry

It was consistent to the amount of detailed communication we have been sharing with one another. Explaining why all the time. I’ll note she has a Pisces moon and rising

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Lol

That’s helpful.

Not sure what you are... Pisces?

Cancer

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ah. Read your "text" you sent. You have just highlighted a very large number of your "flaws". repeatedly. Hope the relationship progresses. Let us know what she responds. If she does respond.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Lol

That’s helpful.

Not sure what you are... Pisces?

Cancer

ah. Read your "text" you sent. You have just highlighted a very large number of your "flaws". repeatedly. Hope the relationship progresses. Let us know what she responds. If she does respond.

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Damn if you could only see our 3 day conversation you’ll understand. That is not even the longest text and she has sent even longer. we have both been very open with our flaws thus far. I also followed up with saying that for the most part I didn’t mean to come off so repetitive and “deep” about it and how I could see how it may come off that way. That I simply just wanted her to know why I’m like that as detailed as possible and in a “matter of fact” type of way. We have shared a lot of our strengths together. And have been very open thus far with no topic off the table and holding back of any kind except for emotional labor type things.

What's wrong with making a phone call?

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

Why did you hide this......?

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I was gonna give you some solid relationship advice but you hid your topic.....

She didn't come here for advice tho.

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The user who posted this message has hidden it.

Why did you hide this......?

Cause i realized its personal and irrelivant to show the text

She just responded:

“well i dont want to make a long drawn out response because in short i respect your choice, feelings and your boundary and i appreciate you communicating it with me. And although i am not you, I will try to understand the things that i dont and i do agree with many things you say”

She’s a keeper.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Lol

That’s helpful.

Not sure what you are... Pisces?

Cancer

ah. Read your "text" you sent. You have just highlighted a very large number of your "flaws". repeatedly. Hope the relationship progresses. Let us know what she responds. If she does respond.

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She responded: “well i dont want to make a long drawn out response because in short i respect your choice, feelings and your boundary and i appreciate you communicating it with me. And although i am not you, I will try to understand the things that i dont and i do agree with many things you say”

And she still wants to see me Friday. WHAT A KEEPER!

So let me get this straight...you need space (which you are entitled too like everyone else) but then state she is a keeper based on her response. Why do I get the impression that you are playing head games?? Saying shit to get a reaction and going to base the "relationship" on that reaction...like I'm curious if she would have responded another way...how you'd react to it?!

Maybe I'm wrong and you are being genuine and I do appreciate people that are honest but I'm still getting games here 🤷

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You easily post what she says as if that wasn't personal, but you hide what you have written...... insecure.

Nah. More so I am impulsive. I’m insecure in other ways but I’m pretty open about that. It’s a different kind of personal that I realized after the fact. Matched with my not wanting to second guess my self and get too many opinions on it. I’m aloud to change my mind 🤷🏻‍♀️

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So let me get this straight...you need space (which you are entitled too like everyone else) but then state she is a keeper based on her response. Why do I get the impression that you are playing head games?? Saying shit to get a reaction and going to base the "relationship" on that reaction...like I'm curious if she would have responded another way...how you'd react to it?!

Maybe I'm wrong and you are being genuine and I do appreciate people that are honest but I'm still getting games here 🤷

Ok let me say this once and clearly. NO ONE IS PLAYING GAMES. She is a keeper in a sense that I guess a part of me has PTSD with women who don’t understand space. But I genuinely genuinely need it and a lot of it. I was just so nervous that it was gonna be yet another person who didn’t understand and I would have been disappointed because I really liked her. So it was refreshing to get a response like that and made me like her even more, what’s that have to do with games? If I wanted to play games I’d just ice her out all together and see what her response to that would be. I wouldn’t even bother taking time and heart wanting my boundaries in details. And if she hadn’t responded I would have done exactly what I expressed in the text. Which is respect whatever it is she needed. And if we weren’t to be on the same page set it free. But what’s wrong with saying she’s a keeper for realizing she’s exactly the type of person I thought she was, otherwise I wouldn’t have even bothered? That’s something to get excited about I would think. But sounds like you are mixing clear boundary setting and communication with games so maybe that is something to look in to on your end since you are projecting your own insecurities on to me it seems like?

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So let me get this straight...you need space (which you are entitled too like everyone else) but then state she is a keeper based on her response. Why do I get the impression that you are playing head games?? Saying shit to get a reaction and going to base the "relationship" on that reaction...like I'm curious if she would have responded another way...how you'd react to it?!

Maybe I'm wrong and you are being genuine and I do appreciate people that are honest but I'm still getting games here 🤷

Ok let me say this once and clearly. NO ONE IS PLAYING GAMES. She is a keeper in a sense that I guess a part of me has PTSD with women who don’t understand space. But I genuinely genuinely need it and a lot of it. I was just so nervous that it was gonna be yet another person who didn’t understand and I would have been disappointed because I really liked her. So it was refreshing to get a response like that and made me like her even more, what’s that have to do with games? If I wanted to play games I’d just ice her out all together and see what her response to that would be. I wouldn’t even bother taking time and heart wanting my boundaries in details. And if she hadn’t responded I would have done exactly what I expressed in the text. Which is respect whatever it is she needed. And if we weren’t to be on the same page set it free. But what’s wrong with saying she’s a keeper for realizing she’s exactly the type of person I thought she was, otherwise I wouldn’t have even bothered? That’s something to get excited about I would think. But sounds like you are mixing clear boundary setting and communication with games so maybe that is something to look in to on your end since you are projecting your own insecurities on to me it seems like?

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No projections here...like I said if you are genuine that's cool and everyone needs space and you should set your boundaries (which could have been done in like 3 sentences) but I still feel like you're game playing...sorry not sorry 🤷

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So let me get this straight...you need space (which you are entitled too like everyone else) but then state she is a keeper based on her response. Why do I get the impression that you are playing head games?? Saying shit to get a reaction and going to base the "relationship" on that reaction...like I'm curious if she would have responded another way...how you'd react to it?!

Maybe I'm wrong and you are being genuine and I do appreciate people that are honest but I'm still getting games here 🤷

Ok let me say this once and clearly. NO ONE IS PLAYING GAMES. She is a keeper in a sense that I guess a part of me has PTSD with women who don’t understand space. But I genuinely genuinely need it and a lot of it. I was just so nervous that it was gonna be yet another person who didn’t understand and I would have been disappointed because I really liked her. So it was refreshing to get a response like that and made me like her even more, what’s that have to do with games? If I wanted to play games I’d just ice her out all together and see what her response to that would be. I wouldn’t even bother taking time and heart wanting my boundaries in details. And if she hadn’t responded I would have done exactly what I expressed in the text. Which is respect whatever it is she needed. And if we weren’t to be on the same page set it free. But what’s wrong with saying she’s a keeper for realizing she’s exactly the type of person I thought she was, otherwise I wouldn’t have even bothered? That’s something to get excited about I would think. But sounds like you are mixing clear boundary setting and communication with games so maybe that is something to look in to on your end since you are projecting your own insecurities on to me it seems like?

No projections here...like I said if you are genuine that's cool and everyone needs space and you should set your boundaries (which could have been done in like 3 sentences) but I still feel like you're game playing...sorry not sorry 🤷

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It was beyond just setting the boundary.I wanted to let her know why I am the way I am. I was being open with her about a very vulnerable side of my self that I keep to my self. Like letting her in on why. A lot of people need space from their partners but always fail to express why. And in the long run that could cause resentments. I personally know how I feel if i dont know why someone needs space from me. The depth not just the obvious reasons. So there was plenty of logic and depth behind why I sent such a detail message. But you expressing "i could have set boundaries in a hsort sentance" comes off like you think you are better than me. fyi

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Didn't you have a great date with her?

Amazing! just because Im super in to her doesnt mean i dont need space. I adore her! and I wanted to let her know I need space because i adore her. Because I see potential, and so i need to reveal early on before feelings get too deep that im the type who needs lots of healthy space. We have been talking everydya since our date, and I know if i would have kept it going without saying anything I would have started to feel suffocated and annoyed. And so preventative measures feel me? I was already feeling I didnt want to text her anymore, so i realized it was a good time to bring up the topic. Because I sometimes will stop looking at my phone for 2 days while i re charge, and with no warning. And so I wanted to communicate that with her so that she wouldnt feel insecure like I ghosted her or something. Secure that when that happens Ill come back. And assuring her that I want her to be there when I do come back. As I would be for her if she needed space.

Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Lol

That’s helpful.

Not sure what you are... Pisces?

Cancer

ah. Read your "text" you sent. You have just highlighted a very large number of your "flaws". repeatedly. Hope the relationship progresses. Let us know what she responds. If she does respond.

She responded: “well i dont want to make a long drawn out response because in short i respect your choice, feelings and your boundary and i appreciate you communicating it with me. And although i am not you, I will try to understand the things that i dont and i do agree with many things you say”

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Glad she replied. Hope you guys find a happy relationship x

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Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

Op is a female and the aqua girl is water dominant.

Getting all emotional and deep is prolly gonna speed up the bonding here.

Posted by SassyKiwi

Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

she's a pisces moon and rising. Shes been more emotionally vulnerable than me! I never thought possible. Our first date was 17 hours and for the first 9-10 hours we didnt even kiss yet! just talked a lot. about feelings A LOT. We both really love talking about love and ideals and philosophy, especially surrounding love and relationships. So I hear ya, but she's seen me vey vulnerable and matched it heavily. Seems for now Im the one needing more space. But also Im giving her her own space. So seems we match on that note.

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I think it's nice you explained yourself

Many ppl don't and think they can do what they want without consideration for the other and the interaction will be the same

exactly

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Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

Op is a female and the aqua girl is water dominant.

Getting all emotional and deep is prolly gonna speed up the bonding here.

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I feel so honored everytime the famous LadyNeptune comments on my posts lol. But yes yes. Our first date was filled with chats about love, astrology, philosophy and ideology. We both reallllly like talking about love and sex. And she already pealed so many layers to me. I expressed to her how much i felt that honor because she has been SOOOO vulnerable its overwhelming my own emotions which never happens. And so its space time for me, but im so looking forward to seeing her again this weekend. Our first date was 17 hours long and we talked about love for probably 10 hours out of the 7

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Posted by SassyKiwi

Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

Op is a female and the aqua girl is water dominant.

Getting all emotional and deep is prolly gonna speed up the bonding here.

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Oi a water dominant aqua, I never encountered one, would need to observe them. I wonder when their aqua would be prominent. I guess so!

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Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

Op is a female and the aqua girl is water dominant.

Getting all emotional and deep is prolly gonna speed up the bonding here.

I feel so honored everytime the famous LadyNeptune comments on my posts lol. But yes yes. Our first date was filled with chats about love, astrology, philosophy and ideology. We both reallllly like talking about love and sex. And she already pealed so many layers to me. I expressed to her how much i felt that honor because she has been SOOOO vulnerable its overwhelming my own emotions which never happens. And so its space time for me, but im so looking forward to seeing her again this weekend. Our first date was 17 hours long and we talked about love for probably 10 hours out of the 7

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Most aren’t brave enough to show their true selves in this era of presenting the perfect social media image.

But if you keep it real your gonna attract someone who is ride or die for you. The real you.

Whether it’s this aqua or not. Keep being vulnerable and you’ll attract the right one.

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Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

Op is a female and the aqua girl is water dominant.

Getting all emotional and deep is prolly gonna speed up the bonding here.

Oi a water dominant aqua, I never encountered one, would need to observe them. I wonder when their aqua would be prominent. I guess so!

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Water dominant Aquas are quite different.

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Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

Op is a female and the aqua girl is water dominant.

Getting all emotional and deep is prolly gonna speed up the bonding here.

Oi a water dominant aqua, I never encountered one, would need to observe them. I wonder when their aqua would be prominent. I guess so!

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I see a lot of her aqua when she is talking about her goals, passions and family. And once she was clearly in to me when we were together, it was how she was treating me. She offered to feed me, refused to let me serve my self. All in all made sure I was comfortable and happy and she was all smiles and geuine smiles the entire evening. especially when hooking up. Just so pure and open to all aspects of love difficult and not. Thats when i peeped her aqua.

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Posted by SassyKiwi

Ok wow. I guess most water men think and feel so much in such a short amount of time. You need to chill with coming off too emotionally sensitive/vulnerable because it will make an Aqua run. They have lots of emotions but don’t express them easily like a water sign, so they can be susceptible to getting overwhelmed whether it’s with their own emotions or others’. Just take it easy and focus on building friendship first because Aquas will not be able to talk deeply about themselves to relate with others as you are supposedly experiencing on a consistent level, at least in the beginning of a relationship, they’re an air sign, they like keeping things light like all air signs.

Op is a female and the aqua girl is water dominant.

Getting all emotional and deep is prolly gonna speed up the bonding here.

I feel so honored everytime the famous LadyNeptune comments on my posts lol. But yes yes. Our first date was filled with chats about love, astrology, philosophy and ideology. We both reallllly like talking about love and sex. And she already pealed so many layers to me. I expressed to her how much i felt that honor because she has been SOOOO vulnerable its overwhelming my own emotions which never happens. And so its space time for me, but im so looking forward to seeing her again this weekend. Our first date was 17 hours long and we talked about love for probably 10 hours out of the 7

Most aren’t brave enough to show their true selves in this era of presenting the perfect social media image.

But if you keep it real your gonna attract someone who is ride or die for you. The real you.

Whether it’s this aqua or not. Keep being vulnerable and you’ll attract the right one.

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Thanks 🙂 I honestly have very recently thinking iv'e grown a lot this last year in that respect.Im proud of muh self and the more I do it the more I want to do it. So far so good

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So let me get this straight...you need space (which you are entitled too like everyone else) but then state she is a keeper based on her response. Why do I get the impression that you are playing head games?? Saying shit to get a reaction and going to base the "relationship" on that reaction...like I'm curious if she would have responded another way...how you'd react to it?!

Maybe I'm wrong and you are being genuine and I do appreciate people that are honest but I'm still getting games here 🤷

Ok let me say this once and clearly. NO ONE IS PLAYING GAMES. She is a keeper in a sense that I guess a part of me has PTSD with women who don’t understand space. But I genuinely genuinely need it and a lot of it. I was just so nervous that it was gonna be yet another person who didn’t understand and I would have been disappointed because I really liked her. So it was refreshing to get a response like that and made me like her even more, what’s that have to do with games? If I wanted to play games I’d just ice her out all together and see what her response to that would be. I wouldn’t even bother taking time and heart wanting my boundaries in details. And if she hadn’t responded I would have done exactly what I expressed in the text. Which is respect whatever it is she needed. And if we weren’t to be on the same page set it free. But what’s wrong with saying she’s a keeper for realizing she’s exactly the type of person I thought she was, otherwise I wouldn’t have even bothered? That’s something to get excited about I would think. But sounds like you are mixing clear boundary setting and communication with games so maybe that is something to look in to on your end since you are projecting your own insecurities on to me it seems like?

No projections here...like I said if you are genuine that's cool and everyone needs space and you should set your boundaries (which could have been done in like 3 sentences) but I still feel like you're game playing...sorry not sorry 🤷

But you expressing "i could have set boundaries in a hsort sentance" comes off like you think you are better than me. fyi

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Now who's projecting their insecurities? I never said anything about being better than anyone else.

If you are being sincere...why are you pushing this with me? Why explain yourself to a stranger on the internet? I simply stated my opinion...you could take it or leave but the defensiveness tells a lot tbh.

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So let me get this straight...you need space (which you are entitled too like everyone else) but then state she is a keeper based on her response. Why do I get the impression that you are playing head games?? Saying shit to get a reaction and going to base the "relationship" on that reaction...like I'm curious if she would have responded another way...how you'd react to it?!

Maybe I'm wrong and you are being genuine and I do appreciate people that are honest but I'm still getting games here 🤷

Ok let me say this once and clearly. NO ONE IS PLAYING GAMES. She is a keeper in a sense that I guess a part of me has PTSD with women who don’t understand space. But I genuinely genuinely need it and a lot of it. I was just so nervous that it was gonna be yet another person who didn’t understand and I would have been disappointed because I really liked her. So it was refreshing to get a response like that and made me like her even more, what’s that have to do with games? If I wanted to play games I’d just ice her out all together and see what her response to that would be. I wouldn’t even bother taking time and heart wanting my boundaries in details. And if she hadn’t responded I would have done exactly what I expressed in the text. Which is respect whatever it is she needed. And if we weren’t to be on the same page set it free. But what’s wrong with saying she’s a keeper for realizing she’s exactly the type of person I thought she was, otherwise I wouldn’t have even bothered? That’s something to get excited about I would think. But sounds like you are mixing clear boundary setting and communication with games so maybe that is something to look in to on your end since you are projecting your own insecurities on to me it seems like?

No projections here...like I said if you are genuine that's cool and everyone needs space and you should set your boundaries (which could have been done in like 3 sentences) but I still feel like you're game playing...sorry not sorry 🤷

But you expressing "i could have set boundaries in a hsort sentance" comes off like you think you are better than me. fyi

Now who's projecting their insecurities? I never said anything about being better than anyone else.

If you are being sincere...why are you pushing this with me? Why explain yourself to a stranger on the internet? I simply stated my opinion...you could take it or leave but the defensiveness tells a lot tbh.

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im merely calling you out for being an ass hole. its common sense. But whatever helps you sleep at night

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So let me get this straight...you need space (which you are entitled too like everyone else) but then state she is a keeper based on her response. Why do I get the impression that you are playing head games?? Saying shit to get a reaction and going to base the "relationship" on that reaction...like I'm curious if she would have responded another way...how you'd react to it?!

Maybe I'm wrong and you are being genuine and I do appreciate people that are honest but I'm still getting games here 🤷

Ok let me say this once and clearly. NO ONE IS PLAYING GAMES. She is a keeper in a sense that I guess a part of me has PTSD with women who don’t understand space. But I genuinely genuinely need it and a lot of it. I was just so nervous that it was gonna be yet another person who didn’t understand and I would have been disappointed because I really liked her. So it was refreshing to get a response like that and made me like her even more, what’s that have to do with games? If I wanted to play games I’d just ice her out all together and see what her response to that would be. I wouldn’t even bother taking time and heart wanting my boundaries in details. And if she hadn’t responded I would have done exactly what I expressed in the text. Which is respect whatever it is she needed. And if we weren’t to be on the same page set it free. But what’s wrong with saying she’s a keeper for realizing she’s exactly the type of person I thought she was, otherwise I wouldn’t have even bothered? That’s something to get excited about I would think. But sounds like you are mixing clear boundary setting and communication with games so maybe that is something to look in to on your end since you are projecting your own insecurities on to me it seems like?

No projections here...like I said if you are genuine that's cool and everyone needs space and you should set your boundaries (which could have been done in like 3 sentences) but I still feel like you're game playing...sorry not sorry 🤷

But you expressing "i could have set boundaries in a hsort sentance" comes off like you think you are better than me. fyi

Now who's projecting their insecurities? I never said anything about being better than anyone else.

If you are being sincere...why are you pushing this with me? Why explain yourself to a stranger on the internet? I simply stated my opinion...you could take it or leave but the defensiveness tells a lot tbh.

im merely calling you out for being an ass hole. its common sense. But whatever helps you sleep at night

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Lol...how exactly am I being an asshole? Because I stated my opinion on your situation on a public forum? I mean I can be an asshole if you really want me to be but trust me...you don't want that! 😉

We require a lot of space and we catch a lot flak for it. Can't be sure by her being water dominate, but most likely she's relieved you sent that text. Just hope the time you two need space sync up.

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We require a lot of space and we catch a lot flak for it. Can't be sure by her being water dominate, but most likely she's relieved you sent that text. Just hope the time you two need space sync up.

Good to know! We are supposed to be meeting up on friday and I expect we may talk about it more than. I know aqua girls are spontaneous and like to surprise you. Drop by, ect. And I love that about them! We just need to find ways to navigate around that.

Posted by Jade_Alexander

I think being vulnerable is good

Just be sure you’re not throwing mixed signals to ‘test’ her

No tests here, everything was really because i needed space and i needed it before i got resentful because i like her. I really enjoy the spontaneity of an aqua though. so we may need to navigate through that boundary together when I see her

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Posted by STILL

We require a lot of space and we catch a lot flak for it. Can't be sure by her being water dominate, but most likely she's relieved you sent that text. Just hope the time you two need space sync up.

Good to know! We are supposed to be meeting up on friday and I expect we may talk about it more than. I know aqua girls are spontaneous and like to surprise you. Drop by, ect. And I love that about them! We just need to find ways to navigate around that.

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Spontaneous, meaning down for impromptu experiences, not infringing on someone's space.

Again, Aquas with water placements are quite different. So I'll just say, for most Aquas invading someone's space is not our thing and we hate that from others.

Keep up the communication. 👍

Have fun on your date! 🙂

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Posted by STILL

We require a lot of space and we catch a lot flak for it. Can't be sure by her being water dominate, but most likely she's relieved you sent that text. Just hope the time you two need space sync up.

Good to know! We are supposed to be meeting up on friday and I expect we may talk about it more than. I know aqua girls are spontaneous and like to surprise you. Drop by, ect. And I love that about them! We just need to find ways to navigate around that.

Spontaneous, meaning down for impromptu experiences, not infringing on someone's space.

Again, Aquas with water placements are quite different. So I'll just say, for most Aquas invading someone's space is not our thing and we hate that from others.

Keep up the communication. 👍

Have fun on your date! 🙂

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Thank you! That makes a lot of sense! And I’m looking forward to it 🙂))

I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.

Posted by pinkbird03

I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.

that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.

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Posted by pinkbird03

I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.

that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.

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If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.

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I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.

that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.

If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.

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Ok how old are you? Because I don’t know if you know this but SPACE is a healthy thing to ask for on a constant level and doesn’t constitute as side stepping. I’ve been really clear about why I need space and what that means and that it doesn’t mean I don’t want to talk to her or see her. It just means I need to re charge sometimes and Disconnect communication here and there and that I need someone who’s patient about that and understand why and trust that I’ll be back when I feel re charged. I have been nothing but direct. So I’m only asking your age because when I was younger and someone said they needed space I took it VERY to heart and would get upset, whereas now I understand it’s a healthy boundary and everyone needs different amounts of space relatively. I can see how someone could think it’s bad, but if you think space is a bad word than we (me and the partner) are simply not on the same communicative level emotionally speaking. And this girl seems smart.. IS smart as fuck and I don’t doubt from our long ass talks about boundaries that she wouldn’t understand that it’s not about her. It’s just about me and my needs as far as needing alone time in between seeing someone. But whenever someone thinks the word “space” is a bad word, it shows the emotional maturity level. And young crab that I see you are, if indeed you are slightly younger than I. I’m sure said word makes you cringe. But a lot of my best friends were aqua women. And more than anything they appreciated open communication. And crave more than talking to their spouse constantly. They just want to knowww their sounds and know who they are and why. And be respected of course. And I respect this girl immensely. Otherwise there wouldn’t have been a point in explaining my need for space at all. But I’m so frequently shutting off from the world. That I want the person who’s with me to know what they are getting in to before it gets to deep. To protect my self in case they realize I’m not who they think I am and decide to leave or something. I’d rather just be authentic and truthful. And if someone doesn’t gel with that, or misreads my intentions. Than it just isn’t meant to be. But what I’ve learned in life, is that sugar coating the good bad and ugly of who you are is never a good idea. “I’m a person who needs a lot of space”. There is really no better way to describe it. Because young crab, had I chosen any other word, than THAT would have been side stepping.

Posted by tiziani

Where I come from

"I need space" = breakup.

It's just colloquial use of language.

context and explanation is everything. i explained to her why i needed space and expressed that i hoped she understood because i like her a lot and want to start off on a good foot with balanced expectations. and after i had my space all day yesterday i felt like i was able to re charge and was missing her and feeling very appreciative of her. so i texter her at 3am when I got home to thank her for trying to understand me and my boundaries and telling her im looking forward to friday and to let me know when she is thinking cause id like to plan somthing and bounce ideas with her tonight when im done all i need to do for the day. thing is we were talkig A LOT about deep things throughout the day since we met on saturday and that is what i needed space from. becuse i get lost in the sauce when that happens and i forget to self care and i need time to miss someone. which i also expressed and that it doesnt last very long and i need to have the trust with a partner or potential partner that they will be patient with me and be there when i come back from my shell. And that I want her to be there. She seemed very receptive, so i really do hope it works out and she doesnt take it the wrong way and we are together on friday. But if she doesnt understand than it probably wont ever work long term realistically. Because of my abandonment issues i need to feel free without worrying you will flee! Other wise im there just trying to please my partner all the time and tip toeing around them sacrificing my own energy for the sake of avoiding conflict. NO THANK YOU

Posted by Raakac

You don't know how to express your feelings, when you say i need space what you really say is i need a break from you, what you should have said i enjoy freedom and thats part of who i'm rather than saying i need space.

Also as i said before you justify yourself and make excuses, you post her messages as if thats ok, but delete your own, thats such a double standard and you can't even admit, you simply say i can change your mind . I'd suggest you start some self awareness exercises and stop that victim mentality, it's so Cancer, but you can easily work of that and get a healthy mindset, even on these posts you get offended when people want to make you more aware and help you, if people you don't know can this easily offend you, people who are close can hurt you even more, you're afraid of that might be the reason you're starting that you need space. be aware of this and find out the reason you need your space/freedom, is it because you have something to do or is it because of your fears and insecurities, best of luck.

lol all the cancers commenting on the word "space" here is starting to show me a pattern. who abandoned you?

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Posted by tiziani

Where I come from

"I need space" = breakup.

It's just colloquial use of language.

context and explanation is everything. i explained to her why i needed space and expressed that i hoped she understood because i like her a lot and want to start off on a good foot with balanced expectations. and after i had my space all day yesterday i felt like i was able to re charge and was missing her and feeling very appreciative of her. so i texter her at 3am when I got home to thank her for trying to understand me and my boundaries and telling her im looking forward to friday and to let me know when she is thinking cause id like to plan somthing and bounce ideas with her tonight when im done all i need to do for the day. thing is we were talkig A LOT about deep things throughout the day since we met on saturday and that is what i needed space from. becuse i get lost in the sauce when that happens and i forget to self care and i need time to miss someone. which i also expressed and that it doesnt last very long and i need to have the trust with a partner or potential partner that they will be patient with me and be there when i come back from my shell. And that I want her to be there. She seemed very receptive, so i really do hope it works out and she doesnt take it the wrong way and we are together on friday. But if she doesnt understand than it probably wont ever work long term realistically. Because of my abandonment issues i need to feel free without worrying you will flee! Other wise im there just trying to please my partner all the time and tip toeing around them sacrificing my own energy for the sake of avoiding conflict. NO THANK YOU

Honestly you don't have to explain yourself, I haven't made any comment on you or your relationship.

I'm just sharing why your title could be misleading for those (like me) who understand the words differently.

As long as you both understand one another then no problem, that can only be a good thing.

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Yeah I kinda wish I could change the title to "communicated boundries with the aqua". All the cancers are getting hella triggered by that word ahahahaha. see my new post "cancers triggered by the word "space" lolz but word i feel you. and i definitely understad how someone could see it as such. But I was verrrry careful with my words.

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You don't know how to express your feelings, when you say i need space what you really say is i need a break from you, what you should have said i enjoy freedom and thats part of who i'm rather than saying i need space.

Also as i said before you justify yourself and make excuses, you post her messages as if thats ok, but delete your own, thats such a double standard and you can't even admit, you simply say i can change your mind . I'd suggest you start some self awareness exercises and stop that victim mentality, it's so Cancer, but you can easily work of that and get a healthy mindset, even on these posts you get offended when people want to make you more aware and help you, if people you don't know can this easily offend you, people who are close can hurt you even more, you're afraid of that might be the reason you're starting that you need space. be aware of this and find out the reason you need your space/freedom, is it because you have something to do or is it because of your fears and insecurities, best of luck.

lol all the cancers commenting on the word "space" here is starting to show me a pattern. who abandoned you?

Because we're starting facts and you're in denial and you can't accept the truth . No one abandoned me, as far as i can see you're the one thats insecure and afraid to be left or abandoned so you remove yourself first before it happens by asking for space, instead of making a clear communication. Even by asking me who abandoned me, you clearly show passive agressive shit with that rhetorical question. that comes from place or hurt/anger or pain. Do that all you want, but the truth doesn't change and just proves how right . ^^ saddest part is you're not even aware of why you say or do the things you do. goodluck with that.

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ok crabby crab

Come date a scorpio moon...

We dont need space. We want all of you all the time.