
Pink Bird
@pinkbird03
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Posted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
Ok how old are you? Because I don’t know if you know this but SPACE is a healthy thing to ask for on a constant level and doesn’t constitute as side stepping. I’ve been really clear about why I need space and what that means and that it doesn’t mean I don’t want to talk to her or see her. It just means I need to re charge sometimes and Disconnect communication here and there and that I need someone who’s patient about that and understand why and trust that I’ll be back when I feel re charged. I have been nothing but direct. So I’m only asking your age because when I was younger and someone said they needed space I took it VERY to heart and would get upset, whereas now I understand it’s a healthy boundary and everyone needs different amounts of space relatively. I can see how someone could think it’s bad, but if you think space is a bad word than we (me and the partner) are simply not on the same communicative level emotionally speaking. And this girl seems smart.. IS smart as fuck and I don’t doubt from our long ass talks about boundaries that she wouldn’t understand that it’s not about her. It’s just about me and my needs as far as needing alone time in between seeing someone. But whenever someone thinks the word “space” is a bad word, it shows the emotional maturity level. And young crab that I see you are, if indeed you are slightly younger than I. I’m sure said word makes you cringe. But a lot of my best friends were aqua women. And more than anything they appreciated open communication. And crave more than talking to their spouse constantly. They just want to knowww their sounds and know who they are and why. And be respected of course. And I respect this girl immensely. Otherwise there wouldn’t have been a point in explaining my need for space at all. But I’m so frequently shutting off from the world. That I want the person who’s with me to know what they are getting in to before it gets to deep. To protect my self in case they realize I’m not who they think I am and decide to leave or something. I’d rather just be authentic and truthful. And if someone doesn’t gel with that, or misreads my intentions. Than it just isn’t meant to be. But what I’ve learned in life, is that sugar coating the good bad and ugly of who you are is never a good idea. “I’m a person who needs a lot of space”. There is really no better way to describe it. Because young crab, had I chosen any other word, than THAT would have been side stepping.
I’m 29. Not saying space is bad. I’m dealing with an aqua and they need freedom/independence. I’m saying your choice of words is poor. Asking for space sounds like you don’t want her around at all. Choose your words more carefully and explain them fully to her. Not me.click to expand

Posted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.click to expand

Posted by STILLPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
This is so true.click to expand

Posted by WaterDevilPosted by STILLPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
This is so true.
where is the grey area? needing space and needing a break are two different meanings. SPACE IS RELATIVE. so how am i not saying what i mean? especially with detailed explanation of what space means relatively to me? have you read the dictionary meaning?click to expand

Posted by STILLPosted by WaterDevilPosted by STILLPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
This is so true.
where is the grey area? needing space and needing a break are two different meanings. SPACE IS RELATIVE. so how am i not saying what i mean? especially with detailed explanation of what space means relatively to me? have you read the dictionary meaning?
After you explained everything I got what you were saying. You didn't explain that initially.
Everything @pinkbird03 stated in that post was absolutely correct if the case was what we all thought it was. Very good advice for the future.
click to expand

Posted by WaterDevilPosted by STILLPosted by WaterDevilPosted by STILLPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
This is so true.
where is the grey area? needing space and needing a break are two different meanings. SPACE IS RELATIVE. so how am i not saying what i mean? especially with detailed explanation of what space means relatively to me? have you read the dictionary meaning?
After you explained everything I got what you were saying. You didn't explain that initially.
Everything @pinkbird03 stated in that post was absolutely correct if the case was what we all thought it was. Very good advice for the future.
I have some common sense but advice for someone else, sureclick to expand

Posted by STILLPosted by WaterDevilPosted by STILLPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
This is so true.
where is the grey area? needing space and needing a break are two different meanings. SPACE IS RELATIVE. so how am i not saying what i mean? especially with detailed explanation of what space means relatively to me? have you read the dictionary meaning?
After you explained everything I got what you were saying. You didn't explain that initially.
Everything @pinkbird03 stated in that post was absolutely correct if the case was what we all thought it was. Very good advice for the future.
click to expand

Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
Ok how old are you? Because I don’t know if you know this but SPACE is a healthy thing to ask for on a constant level and doesn’t constitute as side stepping. I’ve been really clear about why I need space and what that means and that it doesn’t mean I don’t want to talk to her or see her. It just means I need to re charge sometimes and Disconnect communication here and there and that I need someone who’s patient about that and understand why and trust that I’ll be back when I feel re charged. I have been nothing but direct. So I’m only asking your age because when I was younger and someone said they needed space I took it VERY to heart and would get upset, whereas now I understand it’s a healthy boundary and everyone needs different amounts of space relatively. I can see how someone could think it’s bad, but if you think space is a bad word than we (me and the partner) are simply not on the same communicative level emotionally speaking. And this girl seems smart.. IS smart as fuck and I don’t doubt from our long ass talks about boundaries that she wouldn’t understand that it’s not about her. It’s just about me and my needs as far as needing alone time in between seeing someone. But whenever someone thinks the word “space” is a bad word, it shows the emotional maturity level. And young crab that I see you are, if indeed you are slightly younger than I. I’m sure said word makes you cringe. But a lot of my best friends were aqua women. And more than anything they appreciated open communication. And crave more than talking to their spouse constantly. They just want to knowww their sounds and know who they are and why. And be respected of course. And I respect this girl immensely. Otherwise there wouldn’t have been a point in explaining my need for space at all. But I’m so frequently shutting off from the world. That I want the person who’s with me to know what they are getting in to before it gets to deep. To protect my self in case they realize I’m not who they think I am and decide to leave or something. I’d rather just be authentic and truthful. And if someone doesn’t gel with that, or misreads my intentions. Than it just isn’t meant to be. But what I’ve learned in life, is that sugar coating the good bad and ugly of who you are is never a good idea. “I’m a person who needs a lot of space”. There is really no better way to describe it. Because young crab, had I chosen any other word, than THAT would have been side stepping.
I’m 29. Not saying space is bad. I’m dealing with an aqua and they need freedom/independence. I’m saying your choice of words is poor. Asking for space sounds like you don’t want her around at all. Choose your words more carefully and explain them fully to her. Not me.
your missing the point, the term is in the eyes of the beholder and the weight of the word is relative to your own personal experiences. i used the word as its defined followed up with detailed reasoning and reasurrance paired with time frame. in short, with no explination id agree it seems shady. but i never said vebatim "i need space" as in "i need a break". i said " i need a few days to disconnect from my phone for im a person who needs lots of space, to recharge from social interaction and self care ect. and its difficult for me to do while in constant contact, i need alone time. however it doesnt mean i dont want to talk to you. im telling you because i really like you and want to start on the right foot. and simply put, just space. 🙂 AND IT GIVES ME TIME TO MISS SOMEONE TOO, WHIVH USUALLY DOESNT TAKE ME TO LONG. WITHOUT SPACE THOUGH I LOSE MY SELf and neglect my responsibilities. but id like to have the trust with someone as id give them that they would be patient with me and trust the process and still be there once iv re charged. for i want you to be there and i would do the same. im looking forward to seeing you friday, ect ect" in short, but i was even more detailed than that. and she was actually extremely receptive and appreciated my communication a lot. and in so many words said she will still be there, and respect my boundary and be patient and understanding. see how that works?click to expand

Posted by pinkbird03Posted by STILLPosted by WaterDevilPosted by STILLPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
This is so true.
where is the grey area? needing space and needing a break are two different meanings. SPACE IS RELATIVE. so how am i not saying what i mean? especially with detailed explanation of what space means relatively to me? have you read the dictionary meaning?
After you explained everything I got what you were saying. You didn't explain that initially.
Everything @pinkbird03 stated in that post was absolutely correct if the case was what we all thought it was. Very good advice for the future.
Thank you 🙂click to expand

Posted by WaterDevilPosted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
Lol
That’s helpful.click to expand

Posted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.click to expand

Posted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
Ok how old are you? Because I don’t know if you know this but SPACE is a healthy thing to ask for on a constant level and doesn’t constitute as side stepping. I’ve been really clear about why I need space and what that means and that it doesn’t mean I don’t want to talk to her or see her. It just means I need to re charge sometimes and Disconnect communication here and there and that I need someone who’s patient about that and understand why and trust that I’ll be back when I feel re charged. I have been nothing but direct. So I’m only asking your age because when I was younger and someone said they needed space I took it VERY to heart and would get upset, whereas now I understand it’s a healthy boundary and everyone needs different amounts of space relatively. I can see how someone could think it’s bad, but if you think space is a bad word than we (me and the partner) are simply not on the same communicative level emotionally speaking. And this girl seems smart.. IS smart as fuck and I don’t doubt from our long ass talks about boundaries that she wouldn’t understand that it’s not about her. It’s just about me and my needs as far as needing alone time in between seeing someone. But whenever someone thinks the word “space” is a bad word, it shows the emotional maturity level. And young crab that I see you are, if indeed you are slightly younger than I. I’m sure said word makes you cringe. But a lot of my best friends were aqua women. And more than anything they appreciated open communication. And crave more than talking to their spouse constantly. They just want to knowww their sounds and know who they are and why. And be respected of course. And I respect this girl immensely. Otherwise there wouldn’t have been a point in explaining my need for space at all. But I’m so frequently shutting off from the world. That I want the person who’s with me to know what they are getting in to before it gets to deep. To protect my self in case they realize I’m not who they think I am and decide to leave or something. I’d rather just be authentic and truthful. And if someone doesn’t gel with that, or misreads my intentions. Than it just isn’t meant to be. But what I’ve learned in life, is that sugar coating the good bad and ugly of who you are is never a good idea. “I’m a person who needs a lot of space”. There is really no better way to describe it. Because young crab, had I chosen any other word, than THAT would have been side stepping.
I’m 29. Not saying space is bad. I’m dealing with an aqua and they need freedom/independence. I’m saying your choice of words is poor. Asking for space sounds like you don’t want her around at all. Choose your words more carefully and explain them fully to her. Not me.
your missing the point, the term is in the eyes of the beholder and the weight of the word is relative to your own personal experiences. i used the word as its defined followed up with detailed reasoning and reasurrance paired with time frame. in short, with no explination id agree it seems shady. but i never said vebatim "i need space" as in "i need a break". i said " i need a few days to disconnect from my phone for im a person who needs lots of space, to recharge from social interaction and self care ect. and its difficult for me to do while in constant contact, i need alone time. however it doesnt mean i dont want to talk to you. im telling you because i really like you and want to start on the right foot. and simply put, just space. 🙂 AND IT GIVES ME TIME TO MISS SOMEONE TOO, WHIVH USUALLY DOESNT TAKE ME TO LONG. WITHOUT SPACE THOUGH I LOSE MY SELf and neglect my responsibilities. but id like to have the trust with someone as id give them that they would be patient with me and trust the process and still be there once iv re charged. for i want you to be there and i would do the same. im looking forward to seeing you friday, ect ect" in short, but i was even more detailed than that. and she was actually extremely receptive and appreciated my communication a lot. and in so many words said she will still be there, and respect my boundary and be patient and understanding. see how that works?
I couldn’t even read what you said because it seems way too long and defensive. Good luck talking to an aqua like that. Your first fight will be your last.click to expand

Posted by stope
Next thread 'Cancer w4w lost Aqua. How to get her back?'
GL.

Posted by dilettante
OP - do u have sag in yr chart? moon or mars?

Posted by aquarius09Posted by pinkbird03Posted by WaterDevilPosted by pinkbird03
I’m confused. You just said you need space, yet you are meeting her on Friday.
that has nothing to do with needing space in between dates. space mentally throughout the week. to do me when we arnt together, as id give that same respect. not "space"like " i dont want to see you". we have been planning for friday since our last date, i never wanted to cancel that. i like her and want to see her. i just am a person who needs a lot of space and prefers not to text constantly.
If that’s the case, I think your choice of using the words need space is a poor decision. It implies a whole different meaning. You’re a crab right? Don’t side step with aquas. It might work right now, but I promise it won’t be tolerated later. Say what you mean and mean what you say. With no gray area in between.
Now this is sound advice coming from a Cancer to another Cancer dealing with an Aqua. You’re new in this whateve it is, yet you’re already displaying batshit,
emotional pendulum tendencies which Aquas abhor. Even water dominant Aquas don’t like contradictory behaviour like this. I don’t think this is going to last unless you pace yourself.click to expand

Posted by stopePosted by WaterDevilPosted by stope
Next thread 'Cancer w4w lost Aqua. How to get her back?'
GL.
Meanwhile she told me how much she adored me for how much open communication I give her 😉.
Keep us postedclick to expand

Posted by dilettantePosted by WaterDevilPosted by dilettante
OP - do u have sag in yr chart? moon or mars?
Sag moon! What gave it away? Lolol
your detached neediness - emotional pouring immediately followed w/ “i need space”. sag moon can be very “be there for me but only when i want you”.
its classic sag moon. i find them emotionally irresponsible & messy.
my 2 housemates, mom, & a virgo i fuck w/ are all sag moons.click to expand
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I’m 29. Not saying space is bad. I’m dealing with an aqua and they need freedom/independence. I’m saying your choice of words is poor. Asking for space sounds like you don’t want her around at all. Choose your words more carefully and explain them fully to her. Not me.