Is he interested ? I'm losing myself

Hey everyone. I've seem some intelligent insightful individuals here. I thought i'd join the forum. Ive posted on other forums with no luck

I met an Aquarius guy at an indoor race track. I went with my friends . This guy was staring at me up & down like a hawk. I felt flattered and scared at the same time. He was trying his hardest to get close to me and stuff. Helped me with my helmet lol. He kept trying to talk to me and ask random questions. Even tried getting close to me physically. Anyway we left and I didn't get his number. For 3 days I couldn't stop thinking about him. He was on my mind 24/7. The chemistry I felt was sizzling. I wanted it. I regret I didn't take his number. I found him on social media by googling the name of the race track and then found he followed that page lol.

He was flattered. We speak. We open up to each other and he asked me to see him once I said "idk...you follow a lot of girls on social media lol" he said no those are his friends family and mutual friends. I told him i been hurt before and I'm careful about who i associate myself with. He reassured me that he "isn't like that" and that he's been burned before. So he told me he can confidently say he isn't like that. I continually tease him about the myriad of ladies on social media . We've flirted as well and he told me he hasn't had s*x since last year summer.

Anyway ever since then hes been careful not to add any random girls ...that and how he is the first one to view my stories on snapchat and instagram. I believe he has me on notifications.

We were supposed to meet but this covid-thing got in the way.

We were talking for 2 wks then he got busy with exams...that's when he stopped initiating . He doesnt Initiate anymore...if I txt him he responds right away.

Also hes the first one ALWAYS to view my snapchat stories ...however he never initiates anymore . Right now hes done exams..so I was expecting he would hit me up

Last time I spoke to him was 4 days ago to wish him luck on his Exams.

Idk if hes waiting to chill with me after this covid shit is over or not...or idk if hes still into me. What should I do ? Should I hit him up ? Please help me. Every forum I go to no one can give me advice lol

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Posted by HearttofTopazz

You met one time, searched him on social media, and then started inquiring about his friends list at the first open chance you get lol.

U didn’t even stop there & continued to keep mentioning it. I’m surprised he was so nice about it. Idk but I’d give him a chance and see how things go before you start assuming the worst.

With that being said.. He’s prob still interested lmao. Just give it time and do your own thing, he’ll come back around.

HeartofTopazz thanks so much . He responded to one of my posts yesterday . I'm a part time counselor so posted about how the quarantine is making people feel really down and if anyone needs to talk feel free "i dont bite"

Then I saw he was the first to view my story so i messaged him saying "I know I said I dont bite but for you I would (wink)."

He responds with "bite me where ? (Wink)?"

I told him nvm because I know you'd like it

He says "come bite me "

Then he disappeared lol. I'm guessing he wants me to chase .

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Posted by HearttofTopazz

You met one time, searched him on social media, and then started inquiring about his friends list at the first open chance you get lol.

U didn’t even stop there & continued to keep mentioning it. I’m surprised he was so nice about it. Idk but I’d give him a chance and see how things go before you start assuming the worst.

With that being said.. He’s prob still interested lmao. Just give it time and do your own thing, he’ll come back around.

HeartofTopazz thanks so much . He responded to one of my posts yesterday . I'm a part time counselor so posted about how the quarantine is making people feel really down and if anyone needs to talk feel free "i dont bite"

Then I saw he was the first to view my story so i messaged him saying "I know I said I dont bite but for you I would (wink)."

He responds with "bite me where ? (Wink)?"

I told him nvm because I know you'd like it

He says "come bite me "

Then he disappeared lol. I'm guessing he wants me to chase .

I know you are flirting. But if you have been hurt it's no harm to keep sexy flirts out of it to see if there is something more to him than that. See if he bites deeper.

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Thank you. Lol ... I should strike up a non flirty convo right ? I'm trying my best to guard myself and stay detached.

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Posted by HearttofTopazz

You met one time, searched him on social media, and then started inquiring about his friends list at the first open chance you get lol.

U didn’t even stop there & continued to keep mentioning it. I’m surprised he was so nice about it. Idk but I’d give him a chance and see how things go before you start assuming the worst.

With that being said.. He’s prob still interested lmao. Just give it time and do your own thing, he’ll come back around.

HeartofTopazz thanks so much . He responded to one of my posts yesterday . I'm a part time counselor so posted about how the quarantine is making people feel really down and if anyone needs to talk feel free "i dont bite"

Then I saw he was the first to view my story so i messaged him saying "I know I said I dont bite but for you I would (wink)."

He responds with "bite me where ? (Wink)?"

I told him nvm because I know you'd like it

He says "come bite me "

Then he disappeared lol. I'm guessing he wants me to chase .

Yah aqua men are like that. I wouldn’t chase too much though, just enough to show ur interest.

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Thanks so much. Makes more sense. I believe I can chase just enough..in the end I kinda came off strong I said "I wish " : $

Posted by Aquarelle

He seemed to be interested at first. But the fact that he is not initiating anything now, could be a sign he is losing interest. Not sure though. I could be wrong, but he seems mostly physically interested. Are you good looking?

We spoke yesterday briefly I posted above just now... umm.. I guess ? Lol ...he wouldn't stop staring when we met and tried to get too close to me physically so I'm guessing I'm good looking to him lol

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Posted by HearttofTopazz

You met one time, searched him on social media, and then started inquiring about his friends list at the first open chance you get lol.

U didn’t even stop there & continued to keep mentioning it. I’m surprised he was so nice about it. Idk but I’d give him a chance and see how things go before you start assuming the worst.

With that being said.. He’s prob still interested lmao. Just give it time and do your own thing, he’ll come back around.

HeartofTopazz thanks so much . He responded to one of my posts yesterday . I'm a part time counselor so posted about how the quarantine is making people feel really down and if anyone needs to talk feel free "i dont bite"

Then I saw he was the first to view my story so i messaged him saying "I know I said I dont bite but for you I would (wink)."

He responds with "bite me where ? (Wink)?"

I told him nvm because I know you'd like it

He says "come bite me "

Then he disappeared lol. I'm guessing he wants me to chase .

Yah aqua men are like that. I wouldn’t chase too much though, just enough to show ur interest.

Thanks so much. Makes more sense. I believe I can chase just enough..in the end I kinda came off strong I said "I wish " : $

Be genuine but don’t obsess over the situation either. Things could be worse. At least u don’t have the big corona

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For sure I will keep everyone updated.

Lol! Staying away from the big corona rn is my priority

A lot of pretty girls go there too. It's an indoor race track.

Well I was teasing me him when I mentioned the other girls lol. I'm kind of possessive and I was making sure he didn't have a gf or any other love interest . He was asking me "you should see me soon" I told him I dont see guys that idk too much about . He says " well how can I get to know you if we dont see each other ?"

In the beginning of the talking stage we spoke about anything and everything. He got to know who I am, what I do for a living , when I graduated etc ..he even opened up about his upcoming brand

I also made a tik tok account and I do see he views my videos frequently and laughs lol

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Posted by Aquarelle

He seemed to be interested at first. But the fact that he is not initiating anything now, could be a sign he is losing interest. Not sure though. I could be wrong, but he seems mostly physically interested. Are you good looking?

We spoke yesterday briefly I posted above just now... umm.. I guess ? Lol ...he wouldn't stop staring when we met and tried to get too close to me physically so I'm guessing I'm good looking to him lol

Yeah, to be honest I think it's nothing more than physical attraction at this point. Maybe there are not many women coming to the racetrack? So you showing up there may have suprised him in general and maybe that sparked some interest?

I agree with you mentioning the other girls on his social media is a bit too soon. I understand what you are trying to say by that but you two only just met.

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I responded above oups

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Posted by Aquarelle

He seemed to be interested at first. But the fact that he is not initiating anything now, could be a sign he is losing interest. Not sure though. I could be wrong, but he seems mostly physically interested. Are you good looking?

We spoke yesterday briefly I posted above just now... umm.. I guess ? Lol ...he wouldn't stop staring when we met and tried to get too close to me physically so I'm guessing I'm good looking to him lol

Yeah, to be honest I think it's nothing more than physical attraction at this point. Maybe there are not many women coming to the racetrack? So you showing up there may have suprised him in general and maybe that sparked some interest?

I agree with you mentioning the other girls on his social media is a bit too soon. I understand what you are trying to say by that but you two only just met.

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A lot of pretty girls go there too. It's an indoor race track. 

Well I was teasing me him when I mentioned the other girls lol. I'm kind of possessive and I was making sure he didn't have a gf or any other love interest . He was asking me "you should see me soon" I told him I dont see guys that idk too much about . He says " well how can I get to know you if we dont see each other ?" 

In the beginning of the talking stage we spoke about anything and everything. He got to know who I am, what I do for a living , when I graduated etc ..he even opened up about his upcoming brand

I also made a tik tok account and I do see he views my videos frequently and laughs 

So if we meet I feel like he is gonna want to have s*x . Should I hold off ?

Hes not that good looking but for some reason I find him so attractive and interesting . I dont want to mess this up

Since he ignored me last night he posted a story on instagram where we spoke and I'm guessing he wants me to respond to that . Maybe hes trying to see if I'm interested in more than sex ? In the beginning he playfully accused me of wanting to sleep with him

Posted by tiziani

I don’t know what to say.

I understand what you’re trying to get across but it’s too indirect to say anything meaningful.

Just keep in mind you’re the one who broke all social lines to go find him on the interwebz.

Then as soon as he shows even just polite social interest you say “I’m not like that” because you want to be chased.

It’s old school but it’s also tedious for me personally. I’m not him though and as long as you stay out of your head you should both have a good time meeting up when this quarantine blows over.

If it’s just going to be a conversation about how many hot girls he’s met at the track then forget about it.

I had similar thoughts reading her op.

It’s all well and good to play the docile innocent female role but kinda looses its impact if you search out the dude on fb. Like that’s some thirst dedication.

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Posted by tiziani

I don’t know what to say.

I understand what you’re trying to get across but it’s too indirect to say anything meaningful. Just keep in mind you’re the one who broke all social lines to go find him on the interwebz.

Then as soon as he shows even just polite social interest you say “I’m not like that” because you want to be chased.

It’s old school but it’s also tedious for me personally. I’m not him though and as long as you stay out of your head you should both have a good time meeting up when this quarantine blows over.

If it’s just going to be a conversation about how many hot girls he’s met at the track then forget about it.

I had similar thoughts reading her op.

It’s all well and good to play the docile innocent female role but kinda looses its impact if you search out the dude on fb. Like that’s some thirst dedication.

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I understand where you're coming from but by searching him out on the interwebs I hoped I responded to his interests well bc I can tell he was *very* interested in person. I'm pretty sure he would've kissed me or groped me (lolz) if he could lol. I could feel it ..the vibes . He had mars square pluto too

Posted by tiziani

I don’t know what to say.

I understand what you’re trying to get across but it’s too indirect to say anything meaningful.

Just keep in mind you’re the one who broke all social lines to go find him on the interwebz.

Then as soon as he shows even just polite social interest you say “I’m not like that” because you want to be chased.

It’s old school but it’s also tedious for me personally. I’m not him though and as long as you stay out of your head you should both have a good time meeting up when this quarantine blows over.

If it’s just going to be a conversation about how many hot girls he’s met at the track then forget about it.

Hes the one that said "I'm not like that " . We were talking about him and I thought maybe he had bad intentions

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Posted by Aquarelle

He seemed to be interested at first. But the fact that he is not initiating anything now, could be a sign he is losing interest. Not sure though. I could be wrong, but he seems mostly physically interested. Are you good looking?

We spoke yesterday briefly I posted above just now... umm.. I guess ? Lol ...he wouldn't stop staring when we met and tried to get too close to me physically so I'm guessing I'm good looking to him lol

Yeah, to be honest I think it's nothing more than physical attraction at this point. Maybe there are not many women coming to the racetrack? So you showing up there may have suprised him in general and maybe that sparked some interest?

I agree with you mentioning the other girls on his social media is a bit too soon. I understand what you are trying to say by that but you two only just met.

A lot of pretty girls go there too. It's an indoor race track. 

Well I was teasing me him when I mentioned the other girls lol. I'm kind of possessive and I was making sure he didn't have a gf or any other love interest . He was asking me "you should see me soon" I told him I dont see guys that idk too much about . He says " well how can I get to know you if we dont see each other ?" 

In the beginning of the talking stage we spoke about anything and everything. He got to know who I am, what I do for a living , when I graduated etc ..he even opened up about his upcoming brand

I also made a tik tok account and I do see he views my videos frequently and laughs 

So if we meet I feel like he is gonna want to have s*x . Should I hold off ?

Hes not that good looking but for some reason I find him so attractive and interesting . I dont want to mess this up

Since he ignored me last night he posted a story on instagram where we spoke and I'm guessing he wants me to respond to that . Maybe hes trying to see if I'm interested in more than sex ? In the beginning he playfully accused me of wanting to sleep with him

There are a lot of questions, lots of things you don't know, that only he can tell you. You do a lot of guessing and nobody can tell you whether or not to have sex with him. What does your gut feeling tell you?

He seems a bit arrogant and full of himself, judging by what you wrote.

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I think he wants both. Sex and to get to know me . I kinda asked what he wanted to do when we see each other he said "we can do whatever you want ". Sometimes hes dominant sometimes not ?

He seems arrogant I'm guessing because of his venus in aries ? Hmm

Posted by Wild_Flo

He’s losing interest and might come back around to hold you on the line whenever he wants too..

The reason he lost interest;

1. He’s busy so completing important tasks comes first.

2. You’re trying to control his social life when you just met. Aqua men do not like that and he’s not going to be mean about the situation but he will slowly MIA you. Remember we don’t like clingy possessive people. We’re only okay with that once the relationship is serious and truly heading towards something long term, which yours is not. I’m an aqua woman who has dated aqua men. The reason for it lasting so long was because we respected each other’s space and personal lives. If someone mention the amount of men on my friends list when we just started talking, I wouldn’t mention it, quietly observe you and when I’ve learned enough.. just leave.

Didnt mean to come off as controlling . When he mentioned we should meet up I teased him about the girls because I dont want to meet him and some other girl is involved with him . He took it well but you're right he may not like that. I teased him another time after that and hes like "If I had girls "like that" then I would be asking to see you ...🙂"

Ever since then tho hes been careful not to add too many girls or like their photos ..not that I care too much anymore . Your input changed my perspective

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A lot of pretty girls go there too. It's an indoor race track.

Well I was teasing me him when I mentioned the other girls lol. I'm kind of possessive and I was making sure he didn't have a gf or any other love interest . He was asking me "you should see me soon" I told him I dont see guys that idk too much about . He says " well how can I get to know you if we dont see each other ?"

In the beginning of the talking stage we spoke about anything and everything. He got to know who I am, what I do for a living , when I graduated etc ..he even opened up about his upcoming brand

I also made a tik tok account and I do see he views my videos frequently and laughs lol

In other words, you literally gave everything at once. If you don't keep a part of mystery, I understand why he might have lost interest. You're making it too obvious.

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I dont initiate that much anymore and I dont talk about feelings . There's a lot which he doesnt know and you cant know too much about a person online. We still have yet to meet

I will def consider the mystery part. I hardly post online anymore it keeps him wondering what I'm up to

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he asked me to see him once I said "idk...you follow a lot of girls on social media lol" he said no those are his friends family and mutual friends. I told him i been hurt before and I'm careful about who i associate myself with. He reassured me that he "isn't like that" and that he's been burned before.

then he got busy with exams...that's when he stopped initiating . He doesnt Initiate anymore...if I txt him he responds right away.

however he never initiates anymore . Right now hes done exams..so I was expecting he would hit me up

This alone is a recipe for disaster.

And the fact that you're here seeking to get your desire to pursue this man validated under the guise of "seeking advice" confirms that this is a indeed a recipe for disaster, and of epic proportions.

You are your own worst enemy. You don't know yourself well. You want what you want and only see what you want to see. You disregard your intuition to your own detriment and when you get fucked over, you point the finger at anyone except yourself.

Stop thinking with your vagina and start listening to your brain and gut. You don't always get what you want because you can't always control or mold outcomes and people to your liking. Accept this and work on being an adult.

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he asked me to see him once I said "idk...you follow a lot of girls on social media lol" he said no those are his friends family and mutual friends. I told him i been hurt before and I'm careful about who i associate myself with. He reassured me that he "isn't like that" and that he's been burned before.

then he got busy with exams...that's when he stopped initiating . He doesnt Initiate anymore...if I txt him he responds right away.

however he never initiates anymore . Right now hes done exams..so I was expecting he would hit me up

This alone is a recipe for disaster.

And the fact that you're here seeking to get your desire to pursue this man validated under the guise of "seeking advice" confirms that this is a indeed a recipe for disaster, and of epic proportions.

You are your own worst enemy. You don't know yourself well. You want what you want and only see what you want to see. You disregard your intuition to your own detriment and when you get fucked over, you point the finger at anyone except yourself.

Stop thinking with your vagina and start making use of your brain and gut. You don't always get what you want because you can't always control or mold outcomes and people to your liking. Accept this and work on being an adult.

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I needed to hear that. I guess I'm thinking with my V-spot as a method of being emotionally guarded myself. Maybe hes doing the same ? I guess I need to face my fears. I've never dealt with an aquarius guy before either

I just responded to one of his stories . Its non flirting content and he responded with "Lol"

Posted by poeticseraphim

Obv if he doesnt chat with u as if you are mates then he only is interested in one thing

True I'll take that advice. If I need to do any non flirtatious convo it has to be initiated from my end. I dont think he would initiate that

I have no problem initiating tho

I try to be spontaneous instead of the usual "hey" or "hello"

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Posted by Wild_Flo

He’s losing interest and might come back around to hold you on the line whenever he wants too..

The reason he lost interest;

1. He’s busy so completing important tasks comes first.

2. You’re trying to control his social life when you just met. Aqua men do not like that and he’s not going to be mean about the situation but he will slowly MIA you. Remember we don’t like clingy possessive people. We’re only okay with that once the relationship is serious and truly heading towards something long term, which yours is not. I’m an aqua woman who has dated aqua men. The reason for it lasting so long was because we respected each other’s space and personal lives. If someone mention the amount of men on my friends list when we just started talking, I wouldn’t mention it, quietly observe you and when I’ve learned enough.. just leave.

Didnt mean to come off as controlling . When he mentioned we should meet up I teased him about the girls because I dont want to meet him and some other girl is involved with him . He took it well but you're right he may not like that. I teased him another time after that and hes like "If I had girls "like that" then I would be asking to see you ...🙂"

Ever since then tho hes been careful not to add too many girls or like their photos ..not that I care too much anymore . Your input changed my perspective

Take it slow and enjoy being in the present. You can’t determine what will happen.. if he’s not the one, then he isn’t and take it as another experience to grow from so that you can use it positively for the next potential relationship.

It’s okay to set your boundaries but, not to the point where it destroys any natural connection.

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True staying the present will help me stay same...I'm glad for ur input

Thank you all I'm impressed by all the responses I got ...see I didnt just mean usernames haha 😉

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He seemed to be interested at first. But the fact that he is not initiating anything now, could be a sign he is losing interest. Not sure though. I could be wrong, but he seems mostly physically interested. Are you good looking?

We spoke yesterday briefly I posted above just now... umm.. I guess ? Lol ...he wouldn't stop staring when we met and tried to get too close to me physically so I'm guessing I'm good looking to him lol

Yeah, to be honest I think it's nothing more than physical attraction at this point. Maybe there are not many women coming to the racetrack? So you showing up there may have suprised him in general and maybe that sparked some interest?

I agree with you mentioning the other girls on his social media is a bit too soon. I understand what you are trying to say by that but you two only just met.

A lot of pretty girls go there too. It's an indoor race track. 

Well I was teasing me him when I mentioned the other girls lol. I'm kind of possessive and I was making sure he didn't have a gf or any other love interest . He was asking me "you should see me soon" I told him I dont see guys that idk too much about . He says " well how can I get to know you if we dont see each other ?" 

In the beginning of the talking stage we spoke about anything and everything. He got to know who I am, what I do for a living , when I graduated etc ..he even opened up about his upcoming brand

I also made a tik tok account and I do see he views my videos frequently and laughs 

So if we meet I feel like he is gonna want to have s*x . Should I hold off ?

Hes not that good looking but for some reason I find him so attractive and interesting . I dont want to mess this up

Since he ignored me last night he posted a story on instagram where we spoke and I'm guessing he wants me to respond to that . Maybe hes trying to see if I'm interested in more than sex ? In the beginning he playfully accused me of wanting to sleep with him

There are a lot of questions, lots of things you don't know, that only he can tell you. You do a lot of guessing and nobody can tell you whether or not to have sex with him. What does your gut feeling tell you?

He seems a bit arrogant and full of himself, judging by what you wrote.

I think he wants both. Sex and to get to know me . I kinda asked what he wanted to do when we see each other he said "we can do whatever you want ". Sometimes hes dominant sometimes not ?

He seems arrogant I'm guessing because of his venus in aries ? Hmm

Maybe its time to start thinking about what YOU want, instead of asking yourself what he may want?

The thing that strikes me is that he is leaving so much up to you. Like its your call. And he is just along for the ride. Are you ok with that?

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Yes I am ok with that. I dont want too much too soon anyway until I know about him.

Is it bad hes in it for the ride ?

There was another girl who knew him since last summer. I'm thinking they slept together. I know from stalking his instagram . Apparently he was hiting her up before I messaged him. Then he stopped liking her photos . And she became so depressed she posts pictures of her crying . Shes a leo. She seems so obsessed with him. At first I was threatened by her now I'm kinda calm bc I wanna see what he shows me



Also one more thing to everyone : when I kept bringing up the fact (or teasing) that he has so many girls on his instagram, he said "Come see me I'd rather show you with my actions ..and there was another reason why I noticed you but come see me I'lltell you 😉 "

So these things make me suspicious. And insecure. Like why so nice all too soon ? Just for talk ? It's my mars trine pluto talking lol

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Is this you on Dr. Phil?



https://www.drphil.com/videos/young-woman-says-shes-been-ghosted-8-times-and-has-no-idea-why/

Lollllllllllllll that stung...in a good way tho !!

Tbh I'm not even sure of a relationship . It's my first time dealing with a guy who had so many followers on instagram . Social media can make u crazy. In my first relationship the guy had a social media account of random girls and he would talk to them while dating me . That's the reason for my anxiety

I barely text him these days since april 1 so let's see I can remain detached

God, tik tok, instagram, snapchat, facebook....

Social media is so stupid.

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Posted by tiziani

I don’t know what to say.

I understand what you’re trying to get across but it’s too indirect to say anything meaningful. Just keep in mind you’re the one who broke all social lines to go find him on the interwebz.

Then as soon as he shows even just polite social interest you say “I’m not like that” because you want to be chased.

It’s old school but it’s also tedious for me personally. I’m not him though and as long as you stay out of your head you should both have a good time meeting up when this quarantine blows over.

If it’s just going to be a conversation about how many hot girls he’s met at the track then forget about it.

I had similar thoughts reading her op.

It’s all well and good to play the docile innocent female role but kinda looses its impact if you search out the dude on fb. Like that’s some thirst dedication.

I understand where you're coming from but by searching him out on the interwebs I hoped I responded to his interests well bc I can tell he was *very* interested in person. I'm pretty sure he would've kissed me or groped me (lolz) if he could lol. I could feel it ..the vibes . He had mars square pluto too

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It wasn't meant as shade.

You should just own it. You searched him out and slid into his dms. He knows your interested. Balls in his court. Let him show you if theres more than sexual chemistry. Thanks to these rona times you have the perfect excuse to get to know each other.

Set up some facetime or insta chat.

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Posted by tiziani

I don’t know what to say.

I understand what you’re trying to get across but it’s too indirect to say anything meaningful. Just keep in mind you’re the one who broke all social lines to go find him on the interwebz.

Then as soon as he shows even just polite social interest you say “I’m not like that” because you want to be chased.

It’s old school but it’s also tedious for me personally. I’m not him though and as long as you stay out of your head you should both have a good time meeting up when this quarantine blows over.

If it’s just going to be a conversation about how many hot girls he’s met at the track then forget about it.

I had similar thoughts reading her op.

It’s all well and good to play the docile innocent female role but kinda looses its impact if you search out the dude on fb. Like that’s some thirst dedication.

I understand where you're coming from but by searching him out on the interwebs I hoped I responded to his interests well bc I can tell he was *very* interested in person. I'm pretty sure he would've kissed me or groped me (lolz) if he could lol. I could feel it ..the vibes . He had mars square pluto too

It wasn't meant as shade.

You should just own it. You searched him out and slid into his dms. He knows your interested. Balls in his court. Let him show you if theres more than sexual chemistry. Thanks to these rona times you have the perfect excuse to get to know each other.

Set up some facetime or insta chat.

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Lmao no I know it wasnt i really liked ur insight. It makes sense. I wasnt thinking like this at all ..

Let's see if hes even confident enough for that 😉

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In my first relationship the guy had a social media account of random girls and he would talk to them while dating me . That's the reason for my anxiety

Lol you gotta chuckle at the irony.

Your worried he will entertain girls through his sm. But ironically this is the way you've found him and started to communicate with him.

Don't punish this dude for the sins of your ex.

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In my first relationship the guy had a social media account of random girls and he would talk to them while dating me . That's the reason for my anxiety

Lol you gotta chuckle at the irony.

Your worried he will entertain girls through his sm. But ironically this is the way you've found him and started to communicate with him.

Don't punish this dude for the sins of your ex.

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True ...we did spoke there on the first day and then we moved to regular texting. He is the one that gave me his number

Ladies I think I'm insecure because I never dealt with a guy who doesnt do too much chasing .... like an aqua guy

Yeah I'm just gonna back off now . Plus it's too soon to say. We only met once



You guys made me realize the true value of confidence. I need to show him he is free to do as he pleases

Should I appologize right now about pointing out the girls when we firs spoke or does it look lame now ?

Lol sorry ladies. I dont wanna fkx it up

Ladies I think I have this aquarius guy's knees buckling . Hes going crazy trying to get my attention posting stories like crazy

Let's see how this goes. I'll keep everyone up to date cheers 🙏🏻

Not sure if I can offer much outside of the advice others have posted. I think he sees you as a potential insta-gurl hook up. Like him telling you come to me and I’ll show you why I have so many followers etc

I’m a cap woman as well and have dated a few aqua men. I never had a problem with these men chasing or initiating contact, asking for dates etc. If they like you, they will tell you and show you. If he’s not initiating more contact than you, then he is not interested enough for anything to pop Off. Sorry. And he’ll just flirt with you online from time to time. I think the attention does something for their ego.

He is definitely interested in meeting you. But ofc is early days and the quarantine is not helping.

You shouldn’t bring up or apologize for that.

Just keep it light but don’t go too far.

Yea I'm def gonna meet him in a public area. I'm allowed to call the shots and I think with aquas they will allow that. let's see how it goes

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Not sure if I can offer much outside of the advice others have posted. I think he sees you as a potential insta-gurl hook up. Like him telling you come to me and I’ll show you why I have so many followers etc

I’m a cap woman as well and have dated a few aqua men. I never had a problem with these men chasing or initiating contact, asking for dates etc. If they like you, they will tell you and show you. If he’s not initiating more contact than you, then he is not interested enough for anything to pop Off. Sorry. And he’ll just flirt with you online from time to time. I think the attention does something for their ego.

He said "show me " as in show me through his actions that is a good guy lol

Yeah his actions def sounds confusing but who knows I don't know what I want yet I want to know him at least

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I don’t know what to say.

I understand what you’re trying to get across but it’s too indirect to say anything meaningful. Just keep in mind you’re the one who broke all social lines to go find him on the interwebz.

Then as soon as he shows even just polite social interest you say “I’m not like that” because you want to be chased.

It’s old school but it’s also tedious for me personally. I’m not him though and as long as you stay out of your head you should both have a good time meeting up when this quarantine blows over.

If it’s just going to be a conversation about how many hot girls he’s met at the track then forget about it.

I had similar thoughts reading her op.

It’s all well and good to play the docile innocent female role but kinda looses its impact if you search out the dude on fb. Like that’s some thirst dedication.

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I think everybody looks people up on facebook these days; it' not even for romantic interest. There's someone who was once acting irregular, staring and seemed to be investing a lot of effort into getting me to notice them at one of my jobs. It began happening more regularly, and, they were trying to "pretend" getting caught staring at me to induce me to approach them. I looked up their facebook profile (on a friend's account) just gain a little more insight into who they were and what their interests were, to try and access what about me might be provoking their interest. Also, I wanted to see how they present themselves to the public and what types of postings they make to see if they're sane or not and whether there's a cause for concern.

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Should I appologize right now about pointing out the girls when we firs spoke or does it look lame now ?

Lol sorry ladies. I dont wanna fkx it up

I think it's just better if you don't bring this up again. Pretend like nothing happened.

Omg. This is like the anxious lady bugging the Sag/Cap guy 😂 basically initiating contact to apologise for her actions. I just can't. Lol

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Except I didnt bug him lol

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@hershey_messes

Sorry if I sound harsh but I'm just being direct with how I see it. When you meet a guy, especially an aqua, show interest in knowing the guy. His hobbies, his personality without appearing too interested because it normally causes someone to get bored. Especially air sign men. Talk about something fun than talking about which girls he's friends with than simply prying if he's seeing any of the girls in his account. You have to mentally stimulate him before you can connect with him emotionally. As far as what you mentioned on here, you haven't reached that point yet. It didn't seem very interesting for an aqua to keep coming back. Flirting is flirting. He might be flirting with multiple women. But what makes you different? It's something to think about.

Na dear i'm not offended at all. It's just idk what to do. I can't stop thinking about him.

We spoke a lot in the first 2 weeks. I feel like he doesn't wanna talk anymore because it's quarantine and he thinks "why should I bother". It's so hard to talk to a guy in Quarantine. Like what we gonna do ? Text all day ?I bet you he finds it pointless to text me no ? We can't tell anyway but i have this feeling he don't wanna talk to no girl right now

What makes me different? i think i'm different when we flirt i try to show how sensual i am but he basically has an idea of who i am and my personality kinda. He knows about hobbies like reading nonfiction etc. Since you gave me pointers about inquiring about his hobbies and personality i will do that in person. We still have yet to spend quality time together

Should I just back off for now ? Make him wonder if I'm still interested ? Would that make him initiate ? lol

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@hershey_messes

Sorry if I sound harsh but I'm just being direct with how I see it. When you meet a guy, especially an aqua, show interest in knowing the guy. His hobbies, his personality without appearing too interested because it normally causes someone to get bored. Especially air sign men. Talk about something fun than talking about which girls he's friends with than simply prying if he's seeing any of the girls in his account. You have to mentally stimulate him before you can connect with him emotionally. As far as what you mentioned on here, you haven't reached that point yet. It didn't seem very interesting for an aqua to keep coming back. Flirting is flirting. He might be flirting with multiple women. But what makes you different? It's something to think about.

Na dear I'm not offended at all. It's just idk what to do. It's so hard to talk to a guy when you're in Quarantine. What we gonna do ? Talk on text ? I bet you he doesn't wanna text no girl right now. But since you gave me the pointers about being into his hobbies and personality I'll do that in person. We still have yet to meet in person.

I already mentally stimulated him in the first 2 weeks over txt but that was when the covid shit was uncertain and we didnt start full quarantine yet. We spoke about pretty much everything under the sun

Should I even bother to continue to text him ? I've already backed off. If i dont look at his stories I can tell he goes crazy trying to figure out if im still interested.

Well, distance don't mean a thing. Me and my husband were in long distance for 6 months. It just made the conversations more interesting as he did his stuff and I did mine. We got heaps to talk about daily. I'd advise you to let him come to you. It's also a way to figure out if he is genuinely interested or not. You showed your interest in him already. Now it's his turn. You can't be making all the effort and all he does is use Snapchat on you. Plus, Snapchat is not really a good way to speak. Lol its basically like Tinder but videos. The category is like: Facebook - can either be a lover or someone you friendzone, Twitter - People that don't matter to you personally, Tinder - - Hookups, Snapchat - - for sending nudes, Instagram - - Hookups, Friends etc. Which category do you fall into? Does he Skype you? Does he call you? Does he send you WhatsApp messages? Emails?

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He used to text me using my phone number but not anymore. That was in the first 2 weeks. So i stopped because I'm not gonna force it. The thing is we only met once so maybe he's not sure.

You're right im just gonna back off .

But see one time i ignored him for a week and he went crazy. He thought I wasnt interested anymore and flirted with the same girl who's been obsessed with him for a year. Now he ignored her again after i hit him up. I feel like he is interested but being lazy about it

True. I started spicing up my instagram adding throw backs of my vacation and NBA. I should keep doing it maybe it will interest him. Yea i started posting my cooking on snapchat. I try to show off the different aspects of my personality. One i can be funny. Two i can be sensual. Three i have a serious side. 4 I have an active side etc lol

I get what you're saying but the trick is to get him to come to me. I will keep my life interesting without talking to him. I haven't spoken since yesterday .

That's sounds awesome you guys have a good connection and friendship together. I like that

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@hershey_messes

Sorry if I sound harsh but I'm just being direct with how I see it. When you meet a guy, especially an aqua, show interest in knowing the guy. His hobbies, his personality without appearing too interested because it normally causes someone to get bored. Especially air sign men. Talk about something fun than talking about which girls he's friends with than simply prying if he's seeing any of the girls in his account. You have to mentally stimulate him before you can connect with him emotionally. As far as what you mentioned on here, you haven't reached that point yet. It didn't seem very interesting for an aqua to keep coming back. Flirting is flirting. He might be flirting with multiple women. But what makes you different? It's something to think about.

Na dear I'm not offended at all. It's just idk what to do. It's so hard to talk to a guy when you're in Quarantine. What we gonna do ? Talk on text ? I bet you he doesn't wanna text no girl right now. But since you gave me the pointers about being into his hobbies and personality I'll do that in person. We still have yet to meet in person.

I already mentally stimulated him in the first 2 weeks over txt but that was when the covid shit was uncertain and we didnt start full quarantine yet. We spoke about pretty much everything under the sun

Should I even bother to continue to text him ? I've already backed off. If i dont look at his stories I can tell he goes crazy trying to figure out if im still interested.

Well, distance don't mean a thing. Me and my husband were in long distance for 6 months. It just made the conversations more interesting as he did his stuff and I did mine. We got heaps to talk about daily. I'd advise you to let him come to you. It's also a way to figure out if he is genuinely interested or not. You showed your interest in him already. Now it's his turn. You can't be making all the effort and all he does is use Snapchat on you. Plus, Snapchat is not really a good way to speak. Lol its basically like Tinder but videos. The category is like: Facebook - can either be a lover or someone you friendzone, Twitter - People that don't matter to you personally, Tinder - - Hookups, Snapchat - - for sending nudes, Instagram - - Hookups, Friends etc. Which category do you fall into? Does he Skype you? Does he call you? Does he send you WhatsApp messages? Emails?

He used to text me using my phone number but not anymore. That was in the first 2 weeks. So i stopped because I'm not gonna force it. The thing is we only met once so maybe he's not sure.

You're right im just gonna back off .

But see one time i ignored him for a week and he went crazy. He thought I wasnt interested anymore and flirted with the same girl who's been obsessed with him for a year. Now he ignored her again after i hit him up. I feel like he is interested but being lazy about it

If you feel that way that he jumps ship when you don't show interest, then he might not be genuinely interested. Red flag. And he's got back up women too. You don't want to be one of his options until someone more interesting comes along.

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Well we aren't in a relationship so i dont have expectations. And if we meet and start something and he continues to have back up women then I know when to leave. But judging from his chart he seems pretty serious in relationships and he hasn't had s*x since summer so to me I guess he is somewhat serious about dating idk

True. Well these are questions i can enquire more about in person too. I don't know if i believe it . I'm just going by what he says for now

yeah i noticed that. If he cut her off it means he was interested in me i'm guessing. He cut her off as soon as he got my number too. She's been chasing him for so long i don't think he actually likes her. She's just a back up because maybe they werent compatible with s*x. I think it was her who he had s*x with lol.

I'm just gonna let him go. If he's for me he will come back when quarantine is over. if he really WANTS to talk to me he can reach out.

Maybe i can find some back up guys myself lol. I will keep it low key though.

from first glance, there's a lot of positive synergy; Aquarius and capricorn have a unique understanding; both ruled by Saturn. Moon signs are trine, Mercury signs are completly off but that's not necessarily a total fail; your mercury is his moon and his mercury is your sun. When you both speak, you awaken his emotion and he awakens your ego. His lilith is conjunct your mars. This is real raw sexual attraction. His south node is conjunct your moon--soulmate territory. Your north node is his moon--soulmate territory (double whammy). Your moon is his venus, his moon is your sun sign.

**Without further investigation, and without knowing your actual birth date and chinese zodiac, this relationship has the potential to be one for the record books. My advice is play your cards correctly and adhere towards the traditional rules of dating. He's going to try and see if you're easy with the sex talk. Don't even play a little. Completely dodge it and reciprocate with your real character. Be committed to being friends. Be positive. Don't discuss personal problems in too much detail and become a buzzkill. The best relationships start out as friendships. The most lasting relationships establish respect first and foremost. Make small moments together (also, if you give in and sleep together, he might be tempted to reduce you to bragging rights to his friends at the racetrack. He could point you out sublty to his boys and describe every aching detail of what you did with him, plus exaggerations. You'll loose out on this experience, and, probably get a reputation at that racetrack that'll scare you from going back.

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from first glance, there's a lot of positive synergy; Aquarius and capricorn have a unique understanding; both ruled by Saturn. Moon signs are trine, Mercury signs are completly off but that's not necessarily a total fail; your mercury is his moon and his mercury is your sun. When you both speak, you awaken his emotion and he awakens your ego. His lilith is conjunct your mars. This is real raw sexual attraction. His south node is conjunct your moon--soulmate territory. Your north node is his moon--soulmate territory (double whammy). Your moon is his venus, his moon is your sun sign.

**Without further investigation, and without knowing your actual birth date and chinese zodiac, this relationship has the potential to be one for the record books. My advice is play your cards correctly and adhere towards the traditional rules of dating. He's going to try and see if you're easy with the sex talk. Don't even play a little. Completely dodge it and reciprocate with your real character. Be committed to being friends. Be positive. Don't discuss personal problems in too much detail and become a buzzkill. The best relationships start out as friendships. The most lasting relationships establish respect first and foremost. Make small moments together (also, if you give in and sleep together, he might be tempted to reduce you to bragging rights to his friends at the racetrack. He could point you out sublty to his boys and describe every aching detail of what you did with him, plus exaggerations. You'll loose out on this experience, and, probably get a reputation at that racetrack that'll scare you from going back.

Always be having a good time in his presence; not crazy party girl, contained, smiling and people friendly. Do not contact him first, if he is relentless with the sex talk. Ever. When you do talk, and he is relentless, comment after comment with the sex talk after you've dodged it a lot, change the subject and recommend something really fun to do; a tour in the city, going to a theme park, etc. *Make him be friends first. If he doesn't chase after you. Be willing to walk away. He will come back, even if it takes time, because you're building it properly. And if he doesn't come back, don't worry. He'll always think about you until it affects him. Sometimes, childish guys reach out to people after they've matured, years down the line when they've "experienced what's out there, ::yeesh::" and realize you've proven worthy of respect.

**DO NOT sweat him. DO NOT be thirsty. DO NOT try and make him jealous by flirting with other guys in front of him. DO NOT have to be in a position to "explain yourself" for any reason. When you cave in and contact him, a guy's translation is you're a weak little victim who will compromise her standards in life and right now, you're willing to antee up meaningless sex to have some scraps of time with him, and that his whole "cool, race car driver" fascade he's accumulating was enough to knock you over. Your place in his life's history will be, "oh yeah, I remember that little ego boost" over drinks with his buddies from the neighborhood years from now.

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from first glance, there's a lot of positive synergy; Aquarius and capricorn have a unique understanding; both ruled by Saturn. Moon signs are trine, Mercury signs are completly off but that's not necessarily a total fail; your mercury is his moon and his mercury is your sun. When you both speak, you awaken his emotion and he awakens your ego. His lilith is conjunct your mars. This is real raw sexual attraction. His south node is conjunct your moon--soulmate territory. Your north node is his moon--soulmate territory (double whammy). Your moon is his venus, his moon is your sun sign.

**Without further investigation, and without knowing your actual birth date and chinese zodiac, this relationship has the potential to be one for the record books. My advice is play your cards correctly and adhere towards the traditional rules of dating. He's going to try and see if you're easy with the sex talk. Don't even play a little. Completely dodge it and reciprocate with your real character. Be committed to being friends. Be positive. Don't discuss personal problems in too much detail and become a buzzkill. The best relationships start out as friendships. The most lasting relationships establish respect first and foremost. Make small moments together (also, if you give in and sleep together, he might be tempted to reduce you to bragging rights to his friends at the racetrack. He could point you out sublty to his boys and describe every aching detail of what you did with him, plus exaggerations. You'll loose out on this experience, and, probably get a reputation at that racetrack that'll scare you from going back.

Lolz i almost want to cry right now because of the amount of support I am getting. I hope you are all here when I finally meet him. Can't wait to tell you guys. you guys are the people i want to tell first 😄

Thanks so much for giving me a run down of our synastry. Makes sense why i am so drawn to him already. I'm gonna meet him somewhere that doesn't include his house and keep doing that until I can't hold back no more with the s*x.

Its gonna be hard to be friends online but I will try see if he reaches out after i back off. Last time we spoke i posted something about counselling to people who had depression due to covid and to feel free to send a message if anyone needed to talk about something and that i "don't bite". I saw he was the first one to view it and then i told him "i know i don't bite but if it was you i would " he asked me "bite where lol ? " Me: "nvm i know you'd like it" Him "come bite me"

then i said "i wish" . then he viewed my msg and didn't say anything. If he wanted he couldve continued sexting and asking for nudes. But he didnt. Mean anything or no ? we've sexted before though

Maybe hes trying to do the same ? trying to see if he can avoid the s*x talk with me? And see if im into him more than s*X?

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from first glance, there's a lot of positive synergy; Aquarius and capricorn have a unique understanding; both ruled by Saturn. Moon signs are trine, Mercury signs are completly off but that's not necessarily a total fail; your mercury is his moon and his mercury is your sun. When you both speak, you awaken his emotion and he awakens your ego. His lilith is conjunct your mars. This is real raw sexual attraction. His south node is conjunct your moon--soulmate territory. Your north node is his moon--soulmate territory (double whammy). Your moon is his venus, his moon is your sun sign.

**Without further investigation, and without knowing your actual birth date and chinese zodiac, this relationship has the potential to be one for the record books. My advice is play your cards correctly and adhere towards the traditional rules of dating. He's going to try and see if you're easy with the sex talk. Don't even play a little. Completely dodge it and reciprocate with your real character. Be committed to being friends. Be positive. Don't discuss personal problems in too much detail and become a buzzkill. The best relationships start out as friendships. The most lasting relationships establish respect first and foremost. Make small moments together (also, if you give in and sleep together, he might be tempted to reduce you to bragging rights to his friends at the racetrack. He could point you out sublty to his boys and describe every aching detail of what you did with him, plus exaggerations. You'll loose out on this experience, and, probably get a reputation at that racetrack that'll scare you from going back.

Do not contact him first, if he is relentless with the sex talk. Ever. When you do talk, and he is relentless, comment after comment with the sex talk after you've dodged it a lot, change the subject and recommend something really fun to do; a tour in the city, going to a theme park, etc. *Make him be friends first. If he doesn't chase after you. Be willing to walk away. He will come back, even if it takes time, because you're building it properly. And if he doesn't come back, don't worry. He'll always think about you until it affects him. Sometimes, childish guys reach out to people after they've matured, years down the line when they've "experienced what's out there, ::yeesh::" and realize you've proven worthy of respect.

**DO NOT sweat him. DO NOT be thirsty. DO NOT try and make him jealous by flirting with other guys in front of him. DO NOT have to be in a position to "explain yourself" for any reason. When you cave in and contact him, a guy's translation is you're a weak little victim who will compromise her standards in life and right now, you're willing to antee up meaningless sex to have some scraps of time with him, and that his whole "cool, race car driver" fascade he's accumulating was enough to knock you over. Your place in his life's history will be, "oh yeah, I remember that little ego boost" over drinks with his buddies from the neighborhood years from now.

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Thats so true your advice hit me hard. I really needed someone to tell me this. This is the wisdom i need. I can tell maybe he's into power plays with his mars square pluto and i don't want to get into that knot.

You think i can make him be friends first ? Is it possible ? He already sees me as a sexual encounter . I'm getting discouraged but i will try my best.

should i contact him first for friendly talk ? or just back off altogether. Just clarifying. Maybe he's also trying to do the same ? Trying to see if I am interesting in him more than sex?? Because if he wanted he wouldnt have ignored me that day when i said "i wish" to when he said " come bite me"

Ugh, Greek men....

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Posted by MikeNYNYC

from first glance, there's a lot of positive synergy; Aquarius and capricorn have a unique understanding; both ruled by Saturn. Moon signs are trine, Mercury signs are completly off but that's not necessarily a total fail; your mercury is his moon and his mercury is your sun. When you both speak, you awaken his emotion and he awakens your ego. His lilith is conjunct your mars. This is real raw sexual attraction. His south node is conjunct your moon--soulmate territory. Your north node is his moon--soulmate territory (double whammy). Your moon is his venus, his moon is your sun sign.

**Without further investigation, and without knowing your actual birth date and chinese zodiac, this relationship has the potential to be one for the record books. My advice is play your cards correctly and adhere towards the traditional rules of dating. He's going to try and see if you're easy with the sex talk. Don't even play a little. Completely dodge it and reciprocate with your real character. Be committed to being friends. Be positive. Don't discuss personal problems in too much detail and become a buzzkill. The best relationships start out as friendships. The most lasting relationships establish respect first and foremost. Make small moments together (also, if you give in and sleep together, he might be tempted to reduce you to bragging rights to his friends at the racetrack. He could point you out sublty to his boys and describe every aching detail of what you did with him, plus exaggerations. You'll loose out on this experience, and, probably get a reputation at that racetrack that'll scare you from going back.

Lolz i almost want to cry right now because of the amount of support I am getting. I hope you are all here when I finally meet him. Can't wait to tell you guys. you guys are the people i want to tell first 😄

Thanks so much for giving me a run down of our synastry. Makes sense why i am so drawn to him already. I'm gonna meet him somewhere that doesn't include his house and keep doing that until I can't hold back no more with the s*x.

Its gonna be hard to be friends online but I will try see if he reaches out after i back off. Last time we spoke i posted something about counselling to people who had depression due to covid and to feel free to send a message if anyone needed to talk about something and that i "don't bite". I saw he was the first one to view it and then i told him "i know i don't bite but if it was you i would " he asked me "bite where lol ? " Me: "nvm i know you'd like it" Him "come bite me"

then i said "i wish" . then he viewed my msg and didn't say anything. If he wanted he couldve continued sexting and asking for nudes. But he didnt. Mean anything or no ? we've sexted before though

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You really shouldn't be giving your time away like that. I understand what this sounds like, but hear me out. Unless this donated time is going towards college credit, or counting as an internship towards a degree in socialwork, or psychology you're going for, it looks like you're a naive person who forfeits one of their most precious commodities away--time. You look like someone who doesn't value her own time or understand the value of it. A man's translation of that is a sucker who'se easy to be used (what else of her value is she too blind to see? Sex?). You have to shut down any attempt to tempt him from coming on too strong in the beginning.

Lastly, you're "not going to hold out on sex until you can't hold out any longer," You're going to hold out until there's a relationship in place, period. Until then, just be slightly seductive. Emphasis on "slightly." If you're a tease who doesn't produce, guy lingo is "she's a little b*t*h." Don't be sexual if you can't produce. And your game plan is to wait. So don't be sexual. Be friendly.

That's allI got to say.

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Posted by MikeNYNYC

from first glance, there's a lot of positive synergy; Aquarius and capricorn have a unique understanding; both ruled by Saturn. Moon signs are trine, Mercury signs are completly off but that's not necessarily a total fail; your mercury is his moon and his mercury is your sun. When you both speak, you awaken his emotion and he awakens your ego. His lilith is conjunct your mars. This is real raw sexual attraction. His south node is conjunct your moon--soulmate territory. Your north node is his moon--soulmate territory (double whammy). Your moon is his venus, his moon is your sun sign.

**Without further investigation, and without knowing your actual birth date and chinese zodiac, this relationship has the potential to be one for the record books. My advice is play your cards correctly and adhere towards the traditional rules of dating. He's going to try and see if you're easy with the sex talk. Don't even play a little. Completely dodge it and reciprocate with your real character. Be committed to being friends. Be positive. Don't discuss personal problems in too much detail and become a buzzkill. The best relationships start out as friendships. The most lasting relationships establish respect first and foremost. Make small moments together (also, if you give in and sleep together, he might be tempted to reduce you to bragging rights to his friends at the racetrack. He could point you out sublty to his boys and describe every aching detail of what you did with him, plus exaggerations. You'll loose out on this experience, and, probably get a reputation at that racetrack that'll scare you from going back.

Do not contact him first, if he is relentless with the sex talk. Ever. When you do talk, and he is relentless, comment after comment with the sex talk after you've dodged it a lot, change the subject and recommend something really fun to do; a tour in the city, going to a theme park, etc. *Make him be friends first. If he doesn't chase after you. Be willing to walk away. He will come back, even if it takes time, because you're building it properly. And if he doesn't come back, don't worry. He'll always think about you until it affects him. Sometimes, childish guys reach out to people after they've matured, years down the line when they've "experienced what's out there, ::yeesh::" and realize you've proven worthy of respect.

**DO NOT sweat him. DO NOT be thirsty. DO NOT try and make him jealous by flirting with other guys in front of him. DO NOT have to be in a position to "explain yourself" for any reason. When you cave in and contact him, a guy's translation is you're a weak little victim who will compromise her standards in life and right now, you're willing to antee up meaningless sex to have some scraps of time with him, and that his whole "cool, race car driver" fascade he's accumulating was enough to knock you over. Your place in his life's history will be, "oh yeah, I remember that little ego boost" over drinks with his buddies from the neighborhood years from now.

Thats so true your advice hit me hard. I really needed someone to tell me this. This is the wisdom i need. I can tell maybe he's into power plays with his mars square pluto and i don't want to get into that knot.

You think i can make him be friends first ? Is it possible ? He already sees me as a sexual encounter . I'm getting discouraged but i will try my best.

should i contact him first for friendly talk ? or just back off altogether. Just clarifying. Maybe he's also trying to do the same ? Trying to see if I am interesting in him more than sex?? Because if he wanted he wouldnt have ignored me that day when i said "i wish" to when he said " come bite me"

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Listen, I'm not going to get into a cycle of repeating myself. I answered every question you have. Keep rereading everything until it sinks in and you believe in yourself.

Good luck--

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from first glance, there's a lot of positive synergy; Aquarius and capricorn have a unique understanding; both ruled by Saturn. Moon signs are trine, Mercury signs are completly off but that's not necessarily a total fail; your mercury is his moon and his mercury is your sun. When you both speak, you awaken his emotion and he awakens your ego. His lilith is conjunct your mars. This is real raw sexual attraction. His south node is conjunct your moon--soulmate territory. Your north node is his moon--soulmate territory (double whammy). Your moon is his venus, his moon is your sun sign.

**Without further investigation, and without knowing your actual birth date and chinese zodiac, this relationship has the potential to be one for the record books. My advice is play your cards correctly and adhere towards the traditional rules of dating. He's going to try and see if you're easy with the sex talk. Don't even play a little. Completely dodge it and reciprocate with your real character. Be committed to being friends. Be positive. Don't discuss personal problems in too much detail and become a buzzkill. The best relationships start out as friendships. The most lasting relationships establish respect first and foremost. Make small moments together (also, if you give in and sleep together, he might be tempted to reduce you to bragging rights to his friends at the racetrack. He could point you out sublty to his boys and describe every aching detail of what you did with him, plus exaggerations. You'll loose out on this experience, and, probably get a reputation at that racetrack that'll scare you from going back.

Lolz i almost want to cry right now because of the amount of support I am getting. I hope you are all here when I finally meet him. Can't wait to tell you guys. you guys are the people i want to tell first 😄

Thanks so much for giving me a run down of our synastry. Makes sense why i am so drawn to him already. I'm gonna meet him somewhere that doesn't include his house and keep doing that until I can't hold back no more with the s*x.

Its gonna be hard to be friends online but I will try see if he reaches out after i back off. Last time we spoke i posted something about counselling to people who had depression due to covid and to feel free to send a message if anyone needed to talk about something and that i "don't bite". I saw he was the first one to view it and then i told him "i know i don't bite but if it was you i would " he asked me "bite where lol ? " Me: "nvm i know you'd like it" Him "come bite me"

then i said "i wish" . then he viewed my msg and didn't say anything. If he wanted he couldve continued sexting and asking for nudes. But he didnt. Mean anything or no ? we've sexted before though

You really shouldn't be giving your time away like that. I understand what this sounds like, but hear me out. Unless this donated time is going towards college credit, or counting as an internship towards a degree in socialwork, or psychology you're going for, it looks like you're a naive person who forfeits one of their most precious commodities away--time. You look like someone who doesn't value her own time or understand the value of it. A man's translation of that is a sucker who'se easy to be used (what else of her value is she too blind to see? Sex?). You have to shut down any attempt to tempt him from coming on too strong in the beginning.

Lastly, you're "not going to hold out on sex until you can't hold out any longer," You're going to hold out until there's a relationship in place, period. Until then, release just be slightly seductive. Emphasis on "slightly." If you're a tease who doesn't produce, guy lingo is "she's a little bitch." Don't be sexual if you can't produce. And your game plan is to wait. So don't be sexual. Be friendly.

That's allI got to say.

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True its been a while since ive dated. That's why. I will def keep this in mind . Some of these things are refreshing my memory.

Hopefully it's not too late to change this around.

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Posted by MikeNYNYC

Posted by hershey_messes

Posted by MikeNYNYC

from first glance, there's a lot of positive synergy; Aquarius and capricorn have a unique understanding; both ruled by Saturn. Moon signs are trine, Mercury signs are completly off but that's not necessarily a total fail; your mercury is his moon and his mercury is your sun. When you both speak, you awaken his emotion and he awakens your ego. His lilith is conjunct your mars. This is real raw sexual attraction. His south node is conjunct your moon--soulmate territory. Your north node is his moon--soulmate territory (double whammy). Your moon is his venus, his moon is your sun sign.

**Without further investigation, and without knowing your actual birth date and chinese zodiac, this relationship has the potential to be one for the record books. My advice is play your cards correctly and adhere towards the traditional rules of dating. He's going to try and see if you're easy with the sex talk. Don't even play a little. Completely dodge it and reciprocate with your real character. Be committed to being friends. Be positive. Don't discuss personal problems in too much detail and become a buzzkill. The best relationships start out as friendships. The most lasting relationships establish respect first and foremost. Make small moments together (also, if you give in and sleep together, he might be tempted to reduce you to bragging rights to his friends at the racetrack. He could point you out sublty to his boys and describe every aching detail of what you did with him, plus exaggerations. You'll loose out on this experience, and, probably get a reputation at that racetrack that'll scare you from going back.

Lolz i almost want to cry right now because of the amount of support I am getting. I hope you are all here when I finally meet him. Can't wait to tell you guys. you guys are the people i want to tell first 😄

Thanks so much for giving me a run down of our synastry. Makes sense why i am so drawn to him already. I'm gonna meet him somewhere that doesn't include his house and keep doing that until I can't hold back no more with the s*x.

Its gonna be hard to be friends online but I will try see if he reaches out after i back off. Last time we spoke i posted something about counselling to people who had depression due to covid and to feel free to send a message if anyone needed to talk about something and that i "don't bite". I saw he was the first one to view it and then i told him "i know i don't bite but if it was you i would " he asked me "bite where lol ? " Me: "nvm i know you'd like it" Him "come bite me"

then i said "i wish" . then he viewed my msg and didn't say anything. If he wanted he couldve continued sexting and asking for nudes. But he didnt. Mean anything or no ? we've sexted before though

You really shouldn't be giving your time away like that. I understand what this sounds like, but hear me out. Unless this donated time is going towards college credit, or counting as an internship towards a degree in socialwork, or psychology you're going for, it looks like you're a naive person who forfeits one of their most precious commodities away--time. You look like someone who doesn't value her own time or understand the value of it. A man's translation of that is a sucker who'se easy to be used (what else of her value is she too blind to see? Sex?). You have to shut down any attempt to tempt him from coming on too strong in the beginning.

Lastly, you're "not going to hold out on sex until you can't hold out any longer," You're going to hold out until there's a relationship in place, period. Until then, release just be slightly seductive. Emphasis on "slightly." If you're a tease who doesn't produce, guy lingo is "she's a little bitch." Don't be sexual if you can't produce. And your game plan is to wait. So don't be sexual. Be friendly.

That's allI got to say.

True its been a while since ive dated. That's why. I will def keep this in mind . Some of these things are refreshing my memory.

Hopefully it's not too late to change this around.

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Joke off the biting comment you made. Say, "speaking of biting, what do you call someone who takes tiny bites out of human flesh? A Can-nibble." And then laugh it off. Say someone told you that corny joke which prompted you to make that silly biting comment because it was just stuck in your short term memory. Then, don't ever do it again and silently commit to building friendship.

You sound very young. Binge watch some classic comedy shows; Seinfeld, Friends, etc. have some fun little jokes to banter back and forth.

Good luck~