Mike is completely innocent in that saga.
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I am so sorry you are going through this shit with your Aqua I wanted to punch him after reading this! They can be so heartless! The fucked up part is that he will pretend he doesn't care then contact you a year from now like three whole thing never happened! Fuck him. Respect yourself don't get any less than you deserve. We as Libra's tend to hang on out of curiosity and look for deeper meaning into things because we can't believe that someone can just be that shity but just know that they can. Someone can pretend to give a shit about you and lead you on and someone can also give a little but if a shit about you but also be so selfish that they can't function any other way!
The only way we can fix it is to do better. Want better for yourself. No more of this bending to "fixed" wills. If someone isn't what you want don't sacrifice your needs. Let that curiosity go. You don't need any answers from him he gave you the only one that matters and that was that he didn't value you. Fuck him
The only way we can fix it is to do better. Want better for yourself. No more of this bending to "fixed" wills. If someone isn't what you want don't sacrifice your needs. Let that curiosity go. You don't need any answers from him he gave you the only one that matters and that was that he didn't value you. Fuck him
Posted by ladylibra21Thank you!! OMG that is so true that we hang on to figure out the deeper meaning because it's too hard to wrap my mind around someone being so horrible. I always try to see their perspective but I just can't imagine doing that to someone..
I am so sorry you are going through this shit with your Aqua I wanted to punch him after reading this! They can be so heartless! The fucked up part is that he will pretend he doesn't care then contact you a year from now like three whole thing never happened! Fuck him. Respect yourself don't get any less than you deserve. We as Libra's tend to hang on out of curiosity and look for deeper meaning into things because we can't believe that someone can just be that shity but just know that they can. Someone can pretend to give a shit about you and lead you on and someone can also give a little but if a shit about you but also be so selfish that they can't function any other way!
The only way we can fix it is to do better. Want better for yourself. No more of this bending to "fixed" wills. If someone isn't what you want don't sacrifice your needs. Let that curiosity go. You don't need any answers from him he gave you the only one that matters and that was that he didn't value you. Fuck him
Thanks for your words, I totally agree with you. I can't wait until he tries to contact me again and I just never respond 🙂
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
Good luck. It's not gonna be over anyways if you guys are working together. Lol. Now you will see him whenever you want, if he shows up for work.
Good luck. It's not gonna be over anyways if you guys are working together. Lol. Now you will see him whenever you want, if he shows up for work.
Posted by AerialViewI can't with you!! 😂😄😄
Mike is completely innocent in that saga.
Posted by saggurl88I'm his counselor! 😂Posted by AerialViewI can't with you!! 😂😄😄
Mike is completely innocent in that saga.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
Posted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
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But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
Posted by AerialViewYes, you are always rooting for your fellow male Aquas. A constant state of rose color glasses cause you lot can do no wrong! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88I'm his counselor! 😂Posted by AerialViewI can't with you!! 😂😄😄
Mike is completely innocent in that saga.click to expand
Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.click to expand
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.click to expand
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
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We're no one's side piece 😑
Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑click to expand
A loyal side piece. 😛
That's her friend, I don't think she's done. A 7 year friendship doesn't end cause a 3 week relationship didn't work lol.
Her feelings are hurt but she communicates very well with him and still helped him out with a job.
She's being a good friend.
Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
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Posted by AerialView😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
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What happens if you don't know about it?? That ego doesn't take a hit and you guys can still do what you want.
What you don't know won't hurt you! 🤓
What about being a "Main" side piece— 😄😄
Where's your sense of adventure!! 🤣🤣🤣
Posted by saggurl88It's obvious I am not a Sag.Posted by AerialView😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
What happens if you don't know about it?? That ego doesn't take a hit and you guys can still do what you want.
What you don't know won't hurt you! 🤓
What about being a "Main" side piece— 😄😄
Where's your sense of adventure!! 🤣🤣🤣click to expand
I'm loyal. No side piece bollocks 😑
Posted by AerialViewI'm loyal too. But I enjoyed teasing you like this!! LmaoPosted by saggurl88It's obvious I am not a Sag.Posted by AerialView😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
What happens if you don't know about it?? That ego doesn't take a hit and you guys can still do what you want.
What you don't know won't hurt you! 🤓
What about being a "Main" side piece— 😄😄
Where's your sense of adventure!! 🤣🤣🤣
I'm loyal. No side piece bollocks 😑click to expand
Posted by AerialViewI hope you mean Nick. Because Mike is an asshole in this saga 😄
Mike is completely innocent in that saga.
Posted by AerialViewThere is nothing but bad to consider 😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
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Posted by Seleukos😂 are you adding names to this saga? No complicated enough for you?Posted by pisceswoman123Weird, I was thinking about Tom.Posted by AerialViewI hope you mean Nick. Because Mike is an asshole in this saga 😄
Mike is completely innocent in that saga.click to expand
Posted by SeleukosIf they both wanted to have fun it wouldn’t be a problem. But they both agree that they were going to try something more. He is not doing his part. AssholePosted by AerialViewWhat if both just want to have fun until they have come to a conclusion about what they want?Posted by saggurl88It's obvious I am not a Sag.Posted by AerialView😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
What happens if you don't know about it?? That ego doesn't take a hit and you guys can still do what you want.
What you don't know won't hurt you! 🤓
What about being a "Main" side piece— 😄😄
Where's your sense of adventure!! 🤣🤣🤣
I'm loyal. No side piece bollocks 😑click to expand
Posted by SeleukosThat sounds fun. Please share. 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Yes, after all the drama stories I heard at the gym yesterday I need stories with at least seven participants!Posted by Seleukos😂 are you adding names to this saga? No complicated enough for you?Posted by pisceswoman123Weird, I was thinking about Tom.Posted by AerialViewI hope you mean Nick. Because Mike is an asshole in this saga 😄
Mike is completely innocent in that saga.click to expand
Posted by SeleukosIf they both happy about it, there’s never a problem 😄Posted by pisceswoman123I know. I meant a hypothetical scenario.Posted by SeleukosIf they both wanted to have fun it wouldn’t be a problem. But they both agree that they were going to try something more. He is not doing his part. AssholePosted by AerialViewWhat if both just want to have fun until they have come to a conclusion about what they want?Posted by saggurl88It's obvious I am not a Sag.Posted by AerialView😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
What happens if you don't know about it?? That ego doesn't take a hit and you guys can still do what you want.
What you don't know won't hurt you! 🤓
What about being a "Main" side piece— 😄😄
Where's your sense of adventure!! 🤣🤣🤣
I'm loyal. No side piece bollocks 😑click to expand
Posted by SeleukosPosted by pisceswoman123Nope, those stories were told in confidence.Posted by SeleukosThat sounds fun. Please share. 😄Posted by pisceswoman123Yes, after all the drama stories I heard at the gym yesterday I need stories with at least seven participants!Posted by Seleukos😂 are you adding names to this saga? No complicated enough for you?Posted by pisceswoman123Weird, I was thinking about Tom.Posted by AerialViewI hope you mean Nick. Because Mike is an asshole in this saga 😄
Mike is completely innocent in that saga.
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I respect that 😊
Posted by SeleukosI think it will just go back to how it was, with no pressure and her accepting how he is.Posted by AerialViewWhat if both just want to have fun until they have come to a conclusion about what they want?Posted by saggurl88It's obvious I am not a Sag.Posted by AerialView😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
What happens if you don't know about it?? That ego doesn't take a hit and you guys can still do what you want.
What you don't know won't hurt you! 🤓
What about being a "Main" side piece— 😄😄
Where's your sense of adventure!! 🤣🤣🤣
I'm loyal. No side piece bollocks 😑click to expand
She knew he was talking to someone when she asked him to be committed to her. Why not wait till he was single? She gave him an option between A and B and he chose C.
It probably made him want to get to the know the other girl even more cause he was supposed to be committed to someone else. Lol
I actually like the idea of fun but I push for a relationship, or at least a steady sex life with the same person, pretty fast. I don't like bed hopping.
Last time, when you posted about your conversation about your relationship, you thought that the convo went amazing and you were on cloud 9..
I asked you, if you really think that the conversation about your possible relationship went really amazingly? because from your post then I didnt see anything amazing in that conversation...
he basically told you about the other girl, he wants that other girl still, even thou she is behaving horribly to him, maybe thats why he wants her so much? inviting her to NYE party, where she didnt show up, buying her a christmas gift, which she didnt want to meet him to exchange.... and he was waiting for her to come back from her trip, to see, whats up... that conversation didnt well amazingly, you deluded yourself, I am sorry to say
she doesnt want him, he wants her, he doesnt want you, you want him.... I am really sorry for this situation, I think all of us been there some time in our lives...
He texted you, that you are only invited, if you are cool with this Michelle beeing in that party, otherwise you shouldnt come to the party...... how mean is that? how humiliating?? he doesnt care about your feelings one bit....
you are just a good friend, who is always there for him and handy, if Michelle or some other girl during this 7 years is not available, which it seems is often is that?
this Mike is an idiot, who is using you, but he has a 7 years practice in this, so he knows he can do anything and you will forgive him anyway
I asked you, if you really think that the conversation about your possible relationship went really amazingly? because from your post then I didnt see anything amazing in that conversation...
he basically told you about the other girl, he wants that other girl still, even thou she is behaving horribly to him, maybe thats why he wants her so much? inviting her to NYE party, where she didnt show up, buying her a christmas gift, which she didnt want to meet him to exchange.... and he was waiting for her to come back from her trip, to see, whats up... that conversation didnt well amazingly, you deluded yourself, I am sorry to say
she doesnt want him, he wants her, he doesnt want you, you want him.... I am really sorry for this situation, I think all of us been there some time in our lives...
He texted you, that you are only invited, if you are cool with this Michelle beeing in that party, otherwise you shouldnt come to the party...... how mean is that? how humiliating?? he doesnt care about your feelings one bit....
you are just a good friend, who is always there for him and handy, if Michelle or some other girl during this 7 years is not available, which it seems is often is that?
this Mike is an idiot, who is using you, but he has a 7 years practice in this, so he knows he can do anything and you will forgive him anyway
@FitNebula
First thing to know is that you did the right thing by cutting this guy off. You owe him know favors, not even your friendship. He clearly didn't treat you like a friend/lover, so there's no reason to keep him around. Likewise, emotions aside, you tried to actually talk to him like an adult. Unfortunately he has avoidant/passive aggressive tendencies and therefore can't communicate like an adult. Getting high to increase his apathy toward a difficult conversation screams immaturity and is a big red flag. If this is how he tackles problems, you don't need his dead weight.
One thing to know is that Aquas are often terrible at dealing with emotions (including their own) and emotional situations. It's more jarring for them, so if you have a concern/problem it's best to communicate with them calmly and succinctly. Appeal to their sense of logic instead of pulling at their heart strings.
Once you heard that another woman was possibly in the picture, you should set some clear boundaries by stating that you wanted to exclusively be his sole romantic partner. If he didn't agree to this, you would've had your answer right there. If he did agree and later crossed that line, you could have dropped him like a bad habit. Instead you apologized for your emotional outburst, then brushed the subject under the rug until it became an inevitable problem once again.
Also don't be mad at Nick. Nick is obviously stuck in the middle and clearly has a longer relationship with Mike. It speaks to Nick's loyalty that he wouldn't throw his friend under the bus. Likewise he may have not known the full situation either. Aquas are known to not divulge much information to people, even those you think are close to them. They keep the truth of their inner working to themselves and among the VERY few they actually trust.
To give you some perspective, I had a similar situation with an Aqua girl. We were seeing each other because she led me and our mutual friends (who introduced us) to believe that she was broken up with her ex. She even went so far as to proclaim that she hated him and never wanted to see him again because he was a emotionally abusive lunatic (which was corroborated by a mutual friend). Come to find out that she was actually dating her (not) ex the entire time and lying to everyone about it. We all found out though once the "ex" started inexplicably popping up at events.
At the last event the Aqua's friend (a Virgo who I had met once before) took me aside and told me the truth. She told me the Aqua had a pattern of lying to get attention and was a truly toxic person. So after hearing this, I chose to cut her out of my life. My friends and even some of her friends chose to do the same after seeing the type of person she was. I'm actually still cool with the Virgo and some of the Aqua's friends to this day.
The moral is, know your value and take the high ground. As you mentioned some of his friends still like you. Use that to your advantage. People (the non toxic ones) generally gravitate toward non toxic people. The Aqua is clearly adept at digging his own hole, so let him do it. If he manages to burn his own bridges in the process, that's on him. Unless you think Nick and these other people are toxic, no point in you losing out on decent connections. Just cut all communication with the Aqua so that he can't take advantage of you.
First thing to know is that you did the right thing by cutting this guy off. You owe him know favors, not even your friendship. He clearly didn't treat you like a friend/lover, so there's no reason to keep him around. Likewise, emotions aside, you tried to actually talk to him like an adult. Unfortunately he has avoidant/passive aggressive tendencies and therefore can't communicate like an adult. Getting high to increase his apathy toward a difficult conversation screams immaturity and is a big red flag. If this is how he tackles problems, you don't need his dead weight.
One thing to know is that Aquas are often terrible at dealing with emotions (including their own) and emotional situations. It's more jarring for them, so if you have a concern/problem it's best to communicate with them calmly and succinctly. Appeal to their sense of logic instead of pulling at their heart strings.
Once you heard that another woman was possibly in the picture, you should set some clear boundaries by stating that you wanted to exclusively be his sole romantic partner. If he didn't agree to this, you would've had your answer right there. If he did agree and later crossed that line, you could have dropped him like a bad habit. Instead you apologized for your emotional outburst, then brushed the subject under the rug until it became an inevitable problem once again.
Also don't be mad at Nick. Nick is obviously stuck in the middle and clearly has a longer relationship with Mike. It speaks to Nick's loyalty that he wouldn't throw his friend under the bus. Likewise he may have not known the full situation either. Aquas are known to not divulge much information to people, even those you think are close to them. They keep the truth of their inner working to themselves and among the VERY few they actually trust.
To give you some perspective, I had a similar situation with an Aqua girl. We were seeing each other because she led me and our mutual friends (who introduced us) to believe that she was broken up with her ex. She even went so far as to proclaim that she hated him and never wanted to see him again because he was a emotionally abusive lunatic (which was corroborated by a mutual friend). Come to find out that she was actually dating her (not) ex the entire time and lying to everyone about it. We all found out though once the "ex" started inexplicably popping up at events.
At the last event the Aqua's friend (a Virgo who I had met once before) took me aside and told me the truth. She told me the Aqua had a pattern of lying to get attention and was a truly toxic person. So after hearing this, I chose to cut her out of my life. My friends and even some of her friends chose to do the same after seeing the type of person she was. I'm actually still cool with the Virgo and some of the Aqua's friends to this day.
The moral is, know your value and take the high ground. As you mentioned some of his friends still like you. Use that to your advantage. People (the non toxic ones) generally gravitate toward non toxic people. The Aqua is clearly adept at digging his own hole, so let him do it. If he manages to burn his own bridges in the process, that's on him. Unless you think Nick and these other people are toxic, no point in you losing out on decent connections. Just cut all communication with the Aqua so that he can't take advantage of you.
He clearly knew you liked him before you told him. That’s why he didn’t invite you to the New Year’s Eve party. He didn’t want to hurt your feelings if you saw a girl all over him.
Soooo he already knew your feelings. But doesn’t feel the same way about you romantically or else he’d be with you by now.
I don’t think he’s worth anymore time. Stop being his friend so you can move on and find someone else
Soooo he already knew your feelings. But doesn’t feel the same way about you romantically or else he’d be with you by now.
I don’t think he’s worth anymore time. Stop being his friend so you can move on and find someone else
@saggurl88 -- lol NO WAY IN HELL he is working at my firm. My dad would never allow that anyways.
Also no, I am definitely done with him. We can't be friends. He disrespected me and lied to me.
IF he had come to me and said he changed his mind about wanting a relationship right now, fine, I would respect it and the fact that he was honest and up front with me. INSTEAD, he is the one who wanted a relationship and then apparently changed his mind but didn't tell me and kept acting like we were dating.
So no way in hell I will ever even speak to his sorry ass again.
Also no, I am definitely done with him. We can't be friends. He disrespected me and lied to me.
IF he had come to me and said he changed his mind about wanting a relationship right now, fine, I would respect it and the fact that he was honest and up front with me. INSTEAD, he is the one who wanted a relationship and then apparently changed his mind but didn't tell me and kept acting like we were dating.
So no way in hell I will ever even speak to his sorry ass again.
Posted by ChuckcemThanks for typing all this out! Yes, he is very immature and unable to have adult conversations apparently. I did try to appeal to his sense of logic, I actually didn't get emotional at all during that conversation. I just asked him very straight forward questions.
@FitNebula
First thing to know is that you did the right thing by cutting this guy off. You owe him know favors, not even your friendship. He clearly didn't treat you like a friend/lover, so there's no reason to keep him around. Likewise, emotions aside, you tried to actually talk to him like an adult. Unfortunately he has avoidant/passive aggressive tendencies and therefore can't communicate like an adult. Getting high to increase his apathy toward a difficult conversation screams immaturity and is a big red flag. If this is how he tackles problems, you don't need his dead weight.
One thing to know is that Aquas are often terrible at dealing with emotions (including their own) and emotional situations. It's more jarring for them, so if you have a concern/problem it's best to communicate with them calmly and succinctly. Appeal to their sense of logic instead of pulling at their heart strings.
Once you heard that another woman was possibly in the picture, you should set some clear boundaries by stating that you wanted to exclusively be his sole romantic partner. If he didn't agree to this, you would've had your answer right there. If he did agree and later crossed that line, you could have dropped him like a bad habit. Instead you apologized for your emotional outburst, then brushed the subject under the rug until it became an inevitable problem once again.
Also don't be mad at Nick. Nick is obviously stuck in the middle and clearly has a longer relationship with Mike. It speaks to Nick's loyalty that he wouldn't throw his friend under the bus. Likewise he may have not known the full situation either. Aquas are known to not divulge much information to people, even those you think are close to them. They keep the truth of their inner working to themselves and among the VERY few they actually trust.
To give you some perspective, I had a similar situation with an Aqua girl. We were seeing each other because she led me and our mutual friends (who introduced us) to believe that she was broken up with her ex. She even went so far as to proclaim that she hated him and never wanted to see him again because he was a emotionally abusive lunatic (which was corroborated by a mutual friend). Come to find out that she was actually dating her (not) ex the entire time and lying to everyone about it. We all found out though once the "ex" started inexplicably popping up at events.
At the last event the Aqua's friend (a Virgo who I had met once before) took me aside and told me the truth. She told me the Aqua had a pattern of lying to get attention and was a truly toxic person. So after hearing this, I chose to cut her out of my life. My friends and even some of her friends chose to do the same after seeing the type of person she was. I'm actually still cool with the Virgo and some of the Aqua's friends to this day.
The moral is, know your value and take the high ground. As you mentioned some of his friends still like you. Use that to your advantage. People (the non toxic ones) generally gravitate toward non toxic people. The Aqua is clearly adept at digging his own hole, so let him do it. If he manages to burn his own bridges in the process, that's on him. Unless you think Nick and these other people are toxic, no point in you losing out on decent connections. Just cut all communication with the Aqua so that he can't take advantage of you.
ALSO, I did try to set clear boundaries once I heard about the other woman. That is when I invited him over and told him my feelings for him. I told him I don't want him to date anyone else. He agreed and then he said we should be in a relationship. I still don't know why he said that if it's not what he wanted. I didn't pressure him or put a gun to his head, I didn't even know if it's what I wanted. I had told him we could just start dating more seriously and see what happens, and he said No, let's try a relationship since we get along so well. He's never been the guy to tell you what you want to hear, and he seemed genuine, so I believed him.
I'm trying to hard not to resent Nick or take it out on him, but I think I need some space from him for awhile. I would never ask him to choose between us. But it just hurts overall and I need space.
I'm sorry you were in a similar situation, but it sounds like you did the right thing and the Aqua girl suffered the consequences.
But yeah, I am definitely going to take the high ground. Thanks for your perspective 🙂
Posted by Pandora101I remember your comment. I considered it, but I truly don't think I deluded myself. I would agree that I deluded myself if he had been wishy-washy or said something like "we can maybe try a relationship in the future." But it was me saying "we can just start dating more and see what happens' and he cut me off and said "no, lets try a relationship, it would be fun and we get along so well."
Last time, when you posted about your conversation about your relationship, you thought that the convo went amazing and you were on cloud 9..
I asked you, if you really think that the conversation about your possible relationship went really amazingly? because from your post then I didnt see anything amazing in that conversation...
he basically told you about the other girl, he wants that other girl still, even thou she is behaving horribly to him, maybe thats why he wants her so much? inviting her to NYE party, where she didnt show up, buying her a christmas gift, which she didnt want to meet him to exchange.... and he was waiting for her to come back from her trip, to see, whats up... that conversation didnt well amazingly, you deluded yourself, I am sorry to say
she doesnt want him, he wants her, he doesnt want you, you want him.... I am really sorry for this situation, I think all of us been there some time in our lives...
He texted you, that you are only invited, if you are cool with this Michelle beeing in that party, otherwise you shouldnt come to the party...... how mean is that? how humiliating?? he doesnt care about your feelings one bit....
you are just a good friend, who is always there for him and handy, if Michelle or some other girl during this 7 years is not available, which it seems is often is that?
this Mike is an idiot, who is using you, but he has a 7 years practice in this, so he knows he can do anything and you will forgive him anyway
Saying I deluded myself seems to put the fault of this situation on me. Those were his words, he was genuine, he is not the type of guy to tell you what you want to hear and he is very blunt. So, of course I believed him. I don't think I deluded myself, but I do think I am naive.
I do agree with you that he knows he can do anything and I'll forgive him. I always have, and he always comes back like nothing happened. I'm sure he thinks he can do it again, but not this time. This time is different. I put myself out there and was honest, and I thought he was honest back. The reality is he lied to me and disrespected me and thought he could get away with it.
Posted by saggurl88Fine if he chose C, but he should've told me.Posted by SeleukosI think it will just go back to how it was, with no pressure and her accepting how he is.Posted by AerialViewWhat if both just want to have fun until they have come to a conclusion about what they want?Posted by saggurl88It's obvious I am not a Sag.Posted by AerialView😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
What happens if you don't know about it?? That ego doesn't take a hit and you guys can still do what you want.
What you don't know won't hurt you! 🤓
What about being a "Main" side piece— 😄😄
Where's your sense of adventure!! 🤣🤣🤣
I'm loyal. No side piece bollocks 😑
She knew he was talking to someone when she asked him to be committed to her. Why not wait till he was single? She gave him an option between A and B and he chose C.
It probably made him want to get to the know the other girl even more cause he was supposed to be committed to someone else. Lol
I actually like the idea of fun but I push for a relationship, or at least a steady sex life with the same person, pretty fast. I don't like bed hopping.click to expand
NO WAY IN HELL will this go back to the way it was. I can't accept it. He disrespected me and straight up lied.
If he had come to me and had a conversation and said "I like you a lot, but I changed my mind and I don't want to be in a serious relationship with anyone" then I would've been upset BUT I wouldn't be angry at him and I would respect him and we could still be friends.
But he didn't do that at all, not even close. It just shows his lack of character. Why would I want to be with someone who can't even be honest or communicate in a meaningful way? I wouldn't even want to be friends with that type of person.
Posted by Senorita_LLThanks, girl. I think I did like that type of excitement for awhile, but now I'm over it. We were on a roller coaster ride for 7 years. I can't do it anymore.
Cut him off. He sounds like a disaster. Loyalty doesn't seems to be his life key. You're someone with a successful career and why would you wanna be with a loser who can't even keep his words.
He looks like he's gonna put you on a roller coaster ride. Unless you like that kind of excitement, I would suggest for you to get out of it now.
I know it's not easy but you have to apply logic in this situation. Emotions wouldn't be of any use. He did not show any remorse at all. I am trying to read if there's any good to outweigh the bad but I can't even find one.
I'm sorry. :/
I did get out of it, although I'm not sure if he understood that. He will eventually probably try to come back since I'm soooo forgiving, but this time it won't work. 🙂
Posted by pisceswoman123Yup!!! If, when I told him I had feelings for him, he had said he does too but just wants to have fun for now then ok!! I would've been alright with that, maybe it wouldn't have been what I'd hoped for but at least I wouldn't be thinking we were something more. Instead he chose to say he wanted a relationship and then change his mind (without telling me) but still continue to act like we were dating. Yes, he is an asshole. BYE FELICIAPosted by SeleukosIf they both wanted to have fun it wouldn’t be a problem. But they both agree that they were going to try something more. He is not doing his part. AssholePosted by AerialViewWhat if both just want to have fun until they have come to a conclusion about what they want?Posted by saggurl88It's obvious I am not a Sag.Posted by AerialView😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88No 😬Posted by AerialViewLol yes you are, you make good side pieces while you figure out what you want! 😂😂😂😂Posted by saggurl88She dumped him. It's over. OP told me that.Posted by AerialViewLol. He didn't get dumped! He told her he wasn't feeling the relationship thing. I bet, she's still gonna be his friend and things will continue to be the same and go back to how they were before.Posted by saggurl88What rehab ffsPosted by AerialViewHey I didn't say anything about him in between both women! 😄😄😄Posted by saggurl88Only focus on the bad I see smh.
So he smokes weed all day, drinks, is flaky as fucc, got fired from his last job and you got him a job working with you and your father—
But his career goals don't seen to be going so well and she got him a job so she could probably see him more. This isn't over lol.
I hope he does show up for work and find happiness at this job. But it will suck if he blows it and looks bad in front of her dad and she's trying to have him as a boyfriend.
I always think ahead to the future and his career goals seem like he needs a little rehab to go along with it.
All he need is a little consideration from her yet he got his ass dumped. What a poor guy.
She'll balance it all out and keep him as a side piece lol.
It will all work out in the end! 😉
We're no one's side piece 😑
A loyal side piece. 😛
What happens if you don't know about it?? That ego doesn't take a hit and you guys can still do what you want.
What you don't know won't hurt you! 🤓
What about being a "Main" side piece— 😄😄
Where's your sense of adventure!! 🤣🤣🤣
I'm loyal. No side piece bollocks 😑click to expand
Posted by Senorita_LLYup! Luckily he doesn't have FB anymore (although he deletes it and reactivates like every few months lol...)Posted by FitNebulaI know. Been there, done that. It's exciting in the beginning but eventually you'll get sick and tired of everything.Posted by Senorita_LLThanks, girl. I think I did like that type of excitement for awhile, but now I'm over it. We were on a roller coaster ride for 7 years. I can't do it anymore.
Cut him off. He sounds like a disaster. Loyalty doesn't seems to be his life key. You're someone with a successful career and why would you wanna be with a loser who can't even keep his words.
He looks like he's gonna put you on a roller coaster ride. Unless you like that kind of excitement, I would suggest for you to get out of it now.
I know it's not easy but you have to apply logic in this situation. Emotions wouldn't be of any use. He did not show any remorse at all. I am trying to read if there's any good to outweigh the bad but I can't even find one.
I'm sorry. :/
I did get out of it, although I'm not sure if he understood that. He will eventually probably try to come back since I'm soooo forgiving, but this time it won't work. 🙂
The chase, the silent treatments, the disappearing act. Like wtf! Cut him off, block him from everywhere so that he couldn't reach out again.
That is the only way for you to heal. By having NO CONTACT!
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I don't think I will block his # because I just want to know if he reaches out again lol. I won't respond but it would give me so much satisfaction!! 🙂
Posted by FitNebulaWe will see, only time will tell lol. Time heals everything and you might miss the friendship.
@saggurl88 -- lol NO WAY IN HELL he is working at my firm. My dad would never allow that anyways.
Also no, I am definitely done with him. We can't be friends. He disrespected me and lied to me.
IF he had come to me and said he changed his mind about wanting a relationship right now, fine, I would respect it and the fact that he was honest and up front with me. INSTEAD, he is the one who wanted a relationship and then apparently changed his mind but didn't tell me and kept acting like we were dating.
So no way in hell I will ever even speak to his sorry ass again.
Posted by saggurl88I might miss the friendship, but I'll just wind up in the same position again so there's no point. Plus, my pride won't allow me to ever reach out again!Posted by FitNebulaWe will see, only time will tell lol. Time heals everything and you might miss the friendship.
@saggurl88 -- lol NO WAY IN HELL he is working at my firm. My dad would never allow that anyways.
Also no, I am definitely done with him. We can't be friends. He disrespected me and lied to me.
IF he had come to me and said he changed his mind about wanting a relationship right now, fine, I would respect it and the fact that he was honest and up front with me. INSTEAD, he is the one who wanted a relationship and then apparently changed his mind but didn't tell me and kept acting like we were dating.
So no way in hell I will ever even speak to his sorry ass again.click to expand
Posted by FitNebulaYou may not reach out but he will lol. All the best to whatever you decide.Posted by saggurl88I might miss the friendship, but I'll just wind up in the same position again so there's no point. Plus, my pride won't allow me to ever reach out again!Posted by FitNebulaWe will see, only time will tell lol. Time heals everything and you might miss the friendship.
@saggurl88 -- lol NO WAY IN HELL he is working at my firm. My dad would never allow that anyways.
Also no, I am definitely done with him. We can't be friends. He disrespected me and lied to me.
IF he had come to me and said he changed his mind about wanting a relationship right now, fine, I would respect it and the fact that he was honest and up front with me. INSTEAD, he is the one who wanted a relationship and then apparently changed his mind but didn't tell me and kept acting like we were dating.
So no way in hell I will ever even speak to his sorry ass again.
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Posted by saggurl88Y'all have been fooled by Nick.Posted by FitNebulaYou may not reach out but he will lol. All the best to whatever you decide.Posted by saggurl88I might miss the friendship, but I'll just wind up in the same position again so there's no point. Plus, my pride won't allow me to ever reach out again!Posted by FitNebulaWe will see, only time will tell lol. Time heals everything and you might miss the friendship.
@saggurl88 -- lol NO WAY IN HELL he is working at my firm. My dad would never allow that anyways.
Also no, I am definitely done with him. We can't be friends. He disrespected me and lied to me.
IF he had come to me and said he changed his mind about wanting a relationship right now, fine, I would respect it and the fact that he was honest and up front with me. INSTEAD, he is the one who wanted a relationship and then apparently changed his mind but didn't tell me and kept acting like we were dating.
So no way in hell I will ever even speak to his sorry ass again.
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Posted by RambeauAw thank you!! 🙂 Wow sounds very similar maybe it's the same guy lol
Wow, I feel like you wrote about an ex I was with for 1,5 years. Very good you cut him out of your life, he seems toxic with lack of morality. For me it was also the communication and disrespect on his end. Told him he should figure out whatever he has with the other woman and pulled back. Also, I don't want to be someone's second choice. And you shouldn't either. You seriously sound like a catch and deserve a real man.
Also the friends part sounds familiar. His friends still like me and I'm still part of their life sometimes even though my ex doesn't like it. But his friends told the ex that he doesn't own his friends and can choose whoever they want to be friends with, and this case that's up to Nick.
Posted by LibraMudraUgh that is spot on!! I don't get it! 😢
Oh yea and they get ya with the fun date or the nice dinner. That's how they reel ya back in lol. And the way they look at you from across the table. Like god damnit, we are gonna bang tonight and he's gonna make those awesome eggs in the morning and everything will feel perfect until you actually just become confused af again lol
Posted by Senorita_LLThank yoU!Posted by FitNebulaJust make sure you have the strength to fight the feeling of wanting to respond. It's air signs weakness. Haha!Posted by Senorita_LLYup! Luckily he doesn't have FB anymore (although he deletes it and reactivates like every few months lol...)Posted by FitNebulaI know. Been there, done that. It's exciting in the beginning but eventually you'll get sick and tired of everything.Posted by Senorita_LLThanks, girl. I think I did like that type of excitement for awhile, but now I'm over it. We were on a roller coaster ride for 7 years. I can't do it anymore.
Cut him off. He sounds like a disaster. Loyalty doesn't seems to be his life key. You're someone with a successful career and why would you wanna be with a loser who can't even keep his words.
He looks like he's gonna put you on a roller coaster ride. Unless you like that kind of excitement, I would suggest for you to get out of it now.
I know it's not easy but you have to apply logic in this situation. Emotions wouldn't be of any use. He did not show any remorse at all. I am trying to read if there's any good to outweigh the bad but I can't even find one.
I'm sorry. :/
I did get out of it, although I'm not sure if he understood that. He will eventually probably try to come back since I'm soooo forgiving, but this time it won't work. 🙂
The chase, the silent treatments, the disappearing act. Like wtf! Cut him off, block him from everywhere so that he couldn't reach out again.
That is the only way for you to heal. By having NO CONTACT!
All the best girl!
I don't think I will block his # because I just want to know if he reaches out again lol. I won't respond but it would give me so much satisfaction!! 🙂
He will use all kind of words just to get you to return back his messages or calls. I think they do like the chase and then once you gave in, they will be back to square one.
The other girl probably gave him a hard time which is why he still sticks around. So...prepare for that. Good luck!
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That is so true, I feel like I can't relax if I don't respond to a message, from anyone lol. I have ignored his messages a few times and it did make him come on a little stronger... wondering wtf happened to me because I've rarely ignored him, maybe only one time.
Yeah, the worst part about this whole thing is a blow to my ego. I keep thinking if I were prettier or skinnier or more interesting or more something then he would treat me better. What does this other girl have that I don't? I know he told me he didn't really know if he liked her or if he just liked it because it was 'new and exciting'. Maybe he figured he could always come back to me if it didn't work with her since I'm always there. At least, that's what I'm telling myself.
Posted by saggurl88We'll see lol... Thanks 🙂Posted by FitNebulaYou may not reach out but he will lol. All the best to whatever you decide.Posted by saggurl88I might miss the friendship, but I'll just wind up in the same position again so there's no point. Plus, my pride won't allow me to ever reach out again!Posted by FitNebulaWe will see, only time will tell lol. Time heals everything and you might miss the friendship.
@saggurl88 -- lol NO WAY IN HELL he is working at my firm. My dad would never allow that anyways.
Also no, I am definitely done with him. We can't be friends. He disrespected me and lied to me.
IF he had come to me and said he changed his mind about wanting a relationship right now, fine, I would respect it and the fact that he was honest and up front with me. INSTEAD, he is the one who wanted a relationship and then apparently changed his mind but didn't tell me and kept acting like we were dating.
So no way in hell I will ever even speak to his sorry ass again.
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wow what a douchebag for sure - just move on and get new friends - they don't deserve you
Posted by Senorita_LLAhh, yes that is true. I've never actually blocked anyone. Honestly, I've been so hung up on Mike since I was 18 that I really didn't have feelings for anyone else so I don't really have any other exes unless you count a few insignificant ones from middle school and high school. So I'm not really sure if I can be friends with exes or not. I imagine I'll always have some feelings for Mike.. I don't think I could be friends without those feelings coming up again.Posted by FitNebulaAnd this is why I normally will block the person from everything once I knew I can't do that shit anymore. Because, like you, that is also my weakness. It's easier to heal and move on when I don't hear anything from them. But once I knew I am over it completely, I have no issue talking to them and treating them like friends. I don't have problem staying friends with my exes, maybe because I am more logical than emotional. As long as they bear no grudges and won't talk about the past, I am cool with friendship.Posted by Senorita_LLThank yoU!Posted by FitNebulaJust make sure you have the strength to fight the feeling of wanting to respond. It's air signs weakness. Haha!Posted by Senorita_LLYup! Luckily he doesn't have FB anymore (although he deletes it and reactivates like every few months lol...)Posted by FitNebulaI know. Been there, done that. It's exciting in the beginning but eventually you'll get sick and tired of everything.Posted by Senorita_LLThanks, girl. I think I did like that type of excitement for awhile, but now I'm over it. We were on a roller coaster ride for 7 years. I can't do it anymore.
Cut him off. He sounds like a disaster. Loyalty doesn't seems to be his life key. You're someone with a successful career and why would you wanna be with a loser who can't even keep his words.
He looks like he's gonna put you on a roller coaster ride. Unless you like that kind of excitement, I would suggest for you to get out of it now.
I know it's not easy but you have to apply logic in this situation. Emotions wouldn't be of any use. He did not show any remorse at all. I am trying to read if there's any good to outweigh the bad but I can't even find one.
I'm sorry. :/
I did get out of it, although I'm not sure if he understood that. He will eventually probably try to come back since I'm soooo forgiving, but this time it won't work. 🙂
The chase, the silent treatments, the disappearing act. Like wtf! Cut him off, block him from everywhere so that he couldn't reach out again.
That is the only way for you to heal. By having NO CONTACT!
All the best girl!
I don't think I will block his # because I just want to know if he reaches out again lol. I won't respond but it would give me so much satisfaction!! 🙂
He will use all kind of words just to get you to return back his messages or calls. I think they do like the chase and then once you gave in, they will be back to square one.
The other girl probably gave him a hard time which is why he still sticks around. So...prepare for that. Good luck!
That is so true, I feel like I can't relax if I don't respond to a message, from anyone lol. I have ignored his messages a few times and it did make him come on a little stronger... wondering wtf happened to me because I've rarely ignored him, maybe only one time.
Yeah, the worst part about this whole thing is a blow to my ego. I keep thinking if I were prettier or skinnier or more interesting or more something then he would treat me better. What does this other girl have that I don't? I know he told me he didn't really know if he liked her or if he just liked it because it was 'new and exciting'. Maybe he figured he could always come back to me if it didn't work with her since I'm always there. At least, that's what I'm telling myself.
However, I find it funny cos it's only the fire signs exes that were able to do the friendship thingy. The air signs are the ones that's having issue with that terms. Meh...
There's nothing wrong with you. Like I've mentioned, I think that girl were far more challenging than you and that's the reason why he enjoyed the chase. But yeah, he will try to come back when the girl starts to ignore him or when he gets bored. And he always thought you will be there, so this time around, please make his wish come true and poof! Man, I can't do with indecisive men or those that needs variety. Annoying af! 😒😒😬😬click to expand
That is ironic though because I thought I always heard aquas love to be friends with their exes?? Haha so it's weird that they would have trouble.
Thanks so much for the reassurance, it really helps. I know men in general love a challenge, and I made it so easy for him. I always responded quickly, always was available (or if I wasn't, I would suggest a different time), etc. But I was just trying to show I did really like him and there was no point to playing games.
Definitely never dating another indecisive guy who needs variety .... it's sooo annoying!! >:O
I wish we could grab a drink, loll, you seem really cool!
Posted by FafaHell noooo I will not!
i feel like you are going to take that piece of shyt back, good luck
Posted by tctaoYup!! Thanks it helps when people tell me they objectively think he's a douchebag haha. Also helps to know he got fired too because he's clearly incompetent in other areas of his life as well.
wow what a douchebag for sure - just move on and get new friends - they don't deserve you
Posted by FitNebulayeah, bad signs all around - find a new family of friends that care and love you right !Posted by tctaoYup!! Thanks it helps when people tell me they objectively think he's a douchebag haha. Also helps to know he got fired too because he's clearly incompetent in other areas of his life as well.
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Posted by tctaoTHanks 🙂 I already have!! I'm actually only good friends with one of Mike's friends.... all the other people are my friends and they think Mike is a douche lolPosted by FitNebulayeah, bad signs all around - find a new family of friends that care and love you right !Posted by tctaoYup!! Thanks it helps when people tell me they objectively think he's a douchebag haha. Also helps to know he got fired too because he's clearly incompetent in other areas of his life as well.
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Posted by AerialViewWhy do you say that?? Voice your opinion on the situation please. Inquiring minds want to know. 😁Posted by saggurl88Y'all have been fooled by Nick.Posted by FitNebulaYou may not reach out but he will lol. All the best to whatever you decide.Posted by saggurl88I might miss the friendship, but I'll just wind up in the same position again so there's no point. Plus, my pride won't allow me to ever reach out again!Posted by FitNebulaWe will see, only time will tell lol. Time heals everything and you might miss the friendship.
@saggurl88 -- lol NO WAY IN HELL he is working at my firm. My dad would never allow that anyways.
Also no, I am definitely done with him. We can't be friends. He disrespected me and lied to me.
IF he had come to me and said he changed his mind about wanting a relationship right now, fine, I would respect it and the fact that he was honest and up front with me. INSTEAD, he is the one who wanted a relationship and then apparently changed his mind but didn't tell me and kept acting like we were dating.
So no way in hell I will ever even speak to his sorry ass again.
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