Guys, how do you ignore women?

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My ex is someone I want to forget, she’s a cheater and a liar and just after money, she has a coke addiction. I broke up with her three months ago, and then we became FWB a little after that. Then just friends, then we argued and we didn’t talk for a month. But now she’s back and up to her fake shit talk. Problem is... she’s kinda hot, and the sex is good. I keep thinking, I got this, I can walk away. A do gym and feel like I’m in control. Then she sends me a naked picture of herself somewhere and asks me to go round and I think, as a guy, why wouldn’t I just have sex right now? ... then she’s just like a fake bitch again, and I can only see her on her terms, her timeline, and she’s flakey, always cancelling. How do you walk away from this? And with messages, I don’t believe in blocking women, because it feels like running away, I want to stand and fight. So I reply with short answers, but then later the photo comes.. and it’s like I’m waiting for the photo. And I know she’s going to ask for money later and make me feel guilty, she’s already setting the scene. Her family member is in hospital, and work is slow.. and she doesn’t know what to do.. so I know it’s coming. But how do you just walk away from a bitch with a hot body wanting sex? Honestly, how? And I’m the time I tried not talking for a month, and I slept with two other women, it didn’t help. And actually the worst is, I’m ashamed of myself for this, sometimes she asks me to go round and pay her dealer, cos she has no money, and then she asks me to leave. Actually writing this out now, makes me feel shit, I’m just being honest though, now that I write it down, it’s even worse.
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I'm not a dude.

But until you break the cycle yourself, this will always happen. Not blocking her and using the excuse of "not running away" is just that, an excuse. You allowing her to come back into your life, is obviously toxic. So is " running away" from toxicity good or bad? I'd say good since you know nothing good is going to come from continuing to talk to her. It just sounds like you have zero will power to stop yourself.
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I personally think a big part of you likes it. It brings excitement ...the back and forth etc. Everyone else to you is boring. There are plenty of "hot bodies" out there...so thats just an excuse. Until you are officially done...you won't be done. Stop paying for shit tho... you're feeding and enabling her habit.

What if/when she overdoses...that shits gonna be on your soul. You'll never escape that!
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Posted by AriesJo

My ex is someone I want to forget, she’s a cheater and a liar and just after money, she has a coke addiction. I broke up with her three months ago, and then we became FWB a little after that. Then just friends, then we argued and we didn’t talk for a month. But now she’s back and up to her fake shit talk. Problem is... she’s kinda hot, and the sex is good. I keep thinking, I got this, I can walk away. A do gym and feel like I’m in control. Then she sends me a naked picture of herself somewhere and asks me to go round and I think, as a guy, why wouldn’t I just have sex right now? ... then she’s just like a fake bitch again, and I can only see her on her terms, her timeline, and she’s flakey, always cancelling. How do you walk away from this? And with messages, I don’t believe in blocking women, because it feels like running away, I want to stand and fight. So I reply with short answers, but then later the photo comes.. and it’s like I’m waiting for the photo. And I know she’s going to ask for money later and make me feel guilty, she’s already setting the scene. Her family member is in hospital, and work is slow.. and she doesn’t know what to do.. so I know it’s coming. But how do you just walk away from a bitch with a hot body wanting sex? Honestly, how? And I’m the time I tried not talking for a month, and I slept with two other women, it didn’t help. And actually the worst is, I’m ashamed of myself for this, sometimes she asks me to go round and pay her dealer, cos she has no money, and then she asks me to leave. Actually writing this out now, makes me feel shit, I’m just being honest though, now that I write it down, it’s even worse.


Think.

You're addicted to addict behavior. Who would a guessed, huh? Funny as we live we keep surprising ourselves.

You've let this develop in a fully reciprocal parasitic.... it's like in your post you separate the addict characterisics from the person. Granted, some people fall off because they succomb to lack of character but most just act possessed.

When it comes to things like this... um, don't let it become a spiritual battle, you know?

Nonetheless, you are learning more about your darkside and that's a good thing if you master it. It's weird and we creep ourselves out a bit when it's sexual? But, yours is weird cause it's a dark inclination with shallowness involved? Like a hot body can kick your dog to death or drown your baby with forgiveness....
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Posted by Sag898

Find someone who will fuck up your head more than you will forget her. Than you'll have to find another one to forget that one than than you will eventually jump off a bridge. Love man....

lmao....pretty much this....but try to have some hope and optimism in the meantime OP; that'll keep you motivated enough to go through all these stages and get to the end quicker....trust the process...
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And what's wrong with blocking her? You clearly can't resist her manipulation so just block her. Problem solved. Why make it more complicated than it is? 🙊

And whom is he going to fuck?

It’s really so easy. He is ok.

He will stop after she will get him in deep shit! Until then...nothing you say will do. Save your breath you all.

Well he asked for advice and I gave mine lol. But if he wants to keep paying her to fuck him and feel like shit then he is free to do so.
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...he knows

I supposed...😂
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What’s sex with a Coke head feel like

Why would you say that?? weirdo.

@AriesJo Don't make another thread about this chic. Be strong, King. 💪💪
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Because obvs I want to know!!

How does it feel?

Is she all strung out?

Is she too skinny?

Is she incoherent?

Is she batshit?

Is she flipping around like a gasping fish?

I wanna kno.

What kind of a question is “why do I want to know?”
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What’s sex with a Coke head feel like

Why would you say that?? weirdo.

@AriesJo Don't make another thread about this chic. Be strong, King. 💪💪

Because obvs I want to know!!

How does it feel?

Is she all strung out?

Is she too skinny?

Is she incoherent?

Is she batshit?

Is she flipping around like a gasping fish?

I wanna kno.

What kind of a question is “why do I want to know?”
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It’s a fucking joke question!

You have rights to know!

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You are not alone. Succumbing to base desires.

Wear a condom always.

Don't let her lead you to become an addict too. Which is a popular plot in this situation. I always guessed that addicts do this to increase your ability to be an unwavering resource.

This is not an uncommon situation... men sing songs and rap about this trap... honey trap... call them dog hoes and other things.

For example...

"Trap, she do licks

She the one I forget

She do coke, she do blow

She do dope, make a list

This the life, don't forget

Sober nights, make it lit

She the one, you the one

I'm the one, what a trip"
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You need to date someone else. You clearly enjoy the drama of it though or you wouldn’t put up with it. She had an addiction problem that she needs to fix herself.

You need to value yourself more and know that you can’t fix her issues.

Start meeting new women and cut her out of your life until she gets the help she needs and isn’t so toxic to you and disrupting your life.
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Hey, yeah I’ve been dating other women. I like the idea of the hot body cafe lol

It’s weird though, I was at her place Monday, we did have sex but I couldn’t be bothered. And after that it was like I’m just not attracted to her anymore, and I’ve been wondering what I saw in her in the first place. Her bed just stank of cigarettes because she smokes a lot and I didn’t really want to stay there.

And I think it was reading these comments and something my friend at work said too, he said I could go out with a girl and buy her a bottle of champagne and she’d be really happy, but this coke head isn’t happy with anything other than coke, and she’s just ungrateful. And that’s how it feels.

I have tickets for the theatre next week (book of Mormon actually) she said she’d go with me, like she says she’ll go hiking or cinema, but she always bails out last minute, cos she’s on a come down. I think she just says she’ll do things so afterwards she can ask for money. Anyway, she won’t remember I bought tickets, so I don’t have to go with her.

She’s sending me photos now still but I’ve not been replying, I just don’t feel attraction to her now, even with the photos. And it feels different to before, where I tried to ignore her and she’d just send them. If she continues I’ll tell her to stop and then block her. I shouldn’t care if I block her, I owe her nothing.

I’m good friends with her friend, like we’ve been hanging out behind her back. She sent me a photo of my ex with a bag of weed, a bag of coke and a bottle of champagne, and she said “obviously you don’t get these photos? Lol” ... and I just think she’s a mess. And on Monday I noticed how big her beer belly is now and how her breath stinks of cigarettes, so I think I was blinded before, because I felt something before. But I probably started feeling things for the fake version of her, what I saw at the start, and i’ve been trying to make things work since. But I can’t think what right now, maybe the coke addiction got worse.

Anyway, going to ask the friend out to the theatre now. She’s just a friend and would never be anything more, but she’s good company. Maybe this is a bad idea, as I would like to forget everything, but I’ll tell her never to talk about my ex and hopefully it will be ok.

Thanks for all your comments. I feel like I’ve been stupid for too long now, and hearing these things helps.
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Posted by AriesJo

Hey, yeah I’ve been dating other women. I like the idea of the hot body cafe lol

It’s weird though, I was at her place Monday, we did have sex but I couldn’t be bothered. And after that it was like I’m just not attracted to her anymore, and I’ve been wondering what I saw in her in the first place. Her bed just stank of cigarettes because she smokes a lot and I didn’t really want to stay there.

And I think it was reading these comments and something my friend at work said too, he said I could go out with a girl and buy her a bottle of champagne and she’d be really happy, but this coke head isn’t happy with anything other than coke, and she’s just ungrateful. And that’s how it feels.

I have tickets for the theatre next week (book of Mormon actually) she said she’d go with me, like she says she’ll go hiking or cinema, but she always bails out last minute, cos she’s on a come down. I think she just says she’ll do things so afterwards she can ask for money. Anyway, she won’t remember I bought tickets, so I don’t have to go with her.

She’s sending me photos now still but I’ve not been replying, I just don’t feel attraction to her now, even with the photos. And it feels different to before, where I tried to ignore her and she’d just send them. If she continues I’ll tell her to stop and then block her. I shouldn’t care if I block her, I owe her nothing.

I’m good friends with her friend, like we’ve been hanging out behind her back. She sent me a photo of my ex with a bag of weed, a bag of coke and a bottle of champagne, and she said “obviously you don’t get these photos? Lol” ... and I just think she’s a mess. And on Monday I noticed how big her beer belly is now and how her breath stinks of cigarettes, so I think I was blinded before, because I felt something before. But I probably started feeling things for the fake version of her, what I saw at the start, and i’ve been trying to make things work since. But I can’t think what right now, maybe the coke addiction got worse.

Anyway, going to ask the friend out to the theatre now. She’s just a friend and would never be anything more, but she’s good company. Maybe this is a bad idea, as I would like to forget everything, but I’ll tell her never to talk about my ex and hopefully it will be ok.

Thanks for all your comments. I feel like I’ve been stupid for too long now, and hearing these things helps.


@AriesJo, what the freak is her sign. Damn man. You owe this to us.
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Hey, yeah I’ve been dating other women. I like the idea of the hot body cafe lol

It’s weird though, I was at her place Monday, we did have sex but I couldn’t be bothered. And after that it was like I’m just not attracted to her anymore, and I’ve been wondering what I saw in her in the first place. Her bed just stank of cigarettes because she smokes a lot and I didn’t really want to stay there.

And I think it was reading these comments and something my friend at work said too, he said I could go out with a girl and buy her a bottle of champagne and she’d be really happy, but this coke head isn’t happy with anything other than coke, and she’s just ungrateful. And that’s how it feels.

I have tickets for the theatre next week (book of Mormon actually) she said she’d go with me, like she says she’ll go hiking or cinema, but she always bails out last minute, cos she’s on a come down. I think she just says she’ll do things so afterwards she can ask for money. Anyway, she won’t remember I bought tickets, so I don’t have to go with her.

She’s sending me photos now still but I’ve not been replying, I just don’t feel attraction to her now, even with the photos. And it feels different to before, where I tried to ignore her and she’d just send them. If she continues I’ll tell her to stop and then block her. I shouldn’t care if I block her, I owe her nothing.

I’m good friends with her friend, like we’ve been hanging out behind her back. She sent me a photo of my ex with a bag of weed, a bag of coke and a bottle of champagne, and she said “obviously you don’t get these photos? Lol” ... and I just think she’s a mess. And on Monday I noticed how big her beer belly is now and how her breath stinks of cigarettes, so I think I was blinded before, because I felt something before. But I probably started feeling things for the fake version of her, what I saw at the start, and i’ve been trying to make things work since. But I can’t think what right now, maybe the coke addiction got worse.

Anyway, going to ask the friend out to the theatre now. She’s just a friend and would never be anything more, but she’s good company. Maybe this is a bad idea, as I would like to forget everything, but I’ll tell her never to talk about my ex and hopefully it will be ok.

Thanks for all your comments. I feel like I’ve been stupid for too long now, and hearing these things helps.

@AriesJo, what the freak is her sign. Damn man. You owe this to us.

She's a Scorpio.
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Thank you