This is for married Aries men..

Would you get a birthday gift for a female friend you've known for 15+ years, but you never got her any gifts before?

and would you ask her out and not mean anything outside friendship?

You're married, she's single.

So you want to know whether or not you should step in the big pile of shit in front of you or nah?

Feeling too naive now, our friendship was more like brotherly one, so I never thought of anything bad. Only after I agreed to it, I thought something seems odd, why now he brought me a gift and why now does he want to meet up (he's living abroad and asked me to meet up when he's back for a visit) Thinking of being in his wife's place, I won't feel any good about it.

I won't go, I'll probably be out of the country by that time anyway so will let him know that.

Do not judge anyone unless they have done something wrong.

He's on holiday and wants to sleep with you

Posted by TxOgal
Feeling too naive now, our friendship was more like brotherly one, so I never thought of anything bad. Only after I agreed to it, I thought something seems odd, why now he brought me a gift and why now does he want to meet up (he's living abroad and asked me to meet up when he's back for a visit) Thinking of being in his wife's place, I won't feel any good about it.


I won't go, I'll probably be out of the country by that time anyway so will let him know that.

i think you made the right decision to not go. i don’t know how the law is where you live but if a wife finds out about a possible affair, she can sue both you and the husband for consolation money. (dunno if that’s the right term ? but yeah)

in japan, wives often sue the “other woman” for causing distress.

in this survey of 150 women, apparently 60% of them said they will sue the “other woman” for some sorta financial compensation.

your life is more important than some married dude’s whimsical wishes. he’s probably not thinking anything through.

Posted by serenidad

Posted by TxOgal
Feeling too naive now, our friendship was more like brotherly one, so I never thought of anything bad. Only after I agreed to it, I thought something seems odd, why now he brought me a gift and why now does he want to meet up (he's living abroad and asked me to meet up when he's back for a visit) Thinking of being in his wife's place, I won't feel any good about it.

I won't go, I'll probably be out of the country by that time anyway so will let him know that.

i think you made the right decision to not go. i don’t know how the law is where you live but if a wife finds out about a possible affair, she can sue both you and the husband for consolation money. (dunno if that’s the right term ? but yeah)

in japan, wives often sue the “other woman” for causing distress.


in this survey of 150 women, apparently 60% of them said they will sue the “other woman” for some sorta financial compensation.


your life is more important than some married dude’s whimsical wishes. he’s probably not thinking anything through.

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I recently found out about such a law. Getting compensated for having to deal with trash is so beautiful. I wonder if it can be easily exploited.

wow that escalated so quickly .. we were just going for coffee. But yeh without any laws, I wouldn't want to be a reason for anyone's distress. When in doubt about someone's intentions, I just would avoid them altogether.

i wasn’t implying that you had any bad intentions.

i’m sorry if it came across that way.

i was just saying people don’t always interpret our intentions the way we want them to.

so you might run into some hassle later…

explaining “just coffee” to the wife might not be as easy as you think.

that’s all i was saying. 🙂 but hey, you’re not going so it doesn’t matter i guess lol

Posted by alexscaries
Why not just ask him? The one hour coffee date, what's going to happen you have sex in the middle of Starbucks?

He already told me it's been a long time and he never did anything to repay me some favour I've done for him so many years ago before he even got engaged lol ..it does sound like a lame excuse to meet me since he already got me a gift so it could be the repayment anyway. He's one of the very few respectful guy friends in my circle, never crossed any lines before, that's why I'm wondering

Posted by serenidad
i wasn’t implying that you had any bad intentions.

i’m sorry if it came across that way.

i was just saying people don’t always interpret our intentions the way we want them to.


so you might run into some hassle later…

explaining “just coffee” to the wife might not be as easy as you think.

that’s all i was saying. but hey, you’re not going so it doesn’t matter i guess lol

Oh it's alright, I meant his intentions 🙂

Thank you for sharing that and yeh it's right that I'm not going anyway

My husband would not do that. He's the farming, naturist type, "simple kinda man" with a dose of chauvinism. Chauvinism where he told me he doesn't want jobs working with women and has never had a female friend. It would be completely out of character. I buy all "his gifts" to others. So, if he did this (much less got on a plane, lol), it would be over. I have never dealt with any infidelity and it's been damned near 30 years. Yes, I would be certain and it would be over.

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by serenidad

Posted by TxOgal
Feeling too naive now, our friendship was more like brotherly one, so I never thought of anything bad. Only after I agreed to it, I thought something seems odd, why now he brought me a gift and why now does he want to meet up (he's living abroad and asked me to meet up when he's back for a visit) Thinking of being in his wife's place, I won't feel any good about it.

I won't go, I'll probably be out of the country by that time anyway so will let him know that.

i think you made the right decision to not go. i don’t know how the law is where you live but if a wife finds out about a possible affair, she can sue both you and the husband for consolation money. (dunno if that’s the right term ? but yeah)

in japan, wives often sue the “other woman” for causing distress.

in this survey of 150 women, apparently 60% of them said they will sue the “other woman” for some sorta financial compensation.

your life is more important than some married dude’s whimsical wishes. he’s probably not thinking anything through.

I recently found out about such a law. Getting compensated for having to deal with trash is so beautiful. I wonder if it can be easily exploited.

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Yes. It's certain states. I found out about it years ago through a famous celebrity situation. R&B singer Fantasia was being sued.

I always thought I wouldn't sue. I did not pursue child support when we were divorced. But today, I definitely would sue because now he is practically my life...and not by accident, time, happenstance, vows, etc... But because of his insistence and single handed determination.

My Aries male friend is always giving me gifts and discounts. I never think anything of it except he's generous and considers me a good friend. I buy him gifts as well, but not as many as he buys me.

maybe he wanted to ask for advice about something

Posted by DonnaLibra
My Aries male friend is always giving me gifts and discounts. I never think anything of it except he's generous and considers me a good friend. I buy him gifts as well, but not as many as he buys me.

I am glad someone could relate. He always wants to buy me gifts it's becoming strange really I kind of avoid this now

My ex husband (Aries) would have never done that. He was very loyal & no intention of cheating. I’d have to question something like that… because it’s so out of character.

We were together 20 years..