We got engaged, but he's been ignoring me

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So, after the whole me telling me how I felt about that other girl. He ignored me. For days. Barely used his social media. Which is strange for him.

I showed up to his apartment. We talked. The next day, he showed up at my place and he asked me to marry him. I said yes.

Now? He's ignoring me. He doesn't even read my texts now. Just leave me on delivered.

He hasn't deleted me or unfollowed me. Just, ignore.

What's his deal?
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So, after the whole me telling me how I felt about that other girl. He ignored me. For days. Barely used his social media. Which is strange for him.

I showed up to his apartment. We talked. The next day, he showed up at my place and he asked me to marry him. I said yes.

Now? He's ignoring me. He doesn't even read my texts now. Just leave me on delivered.

He hasn't deleted me or unfollowed me. Just, ignore.

What's his deal?
He knows how to keep you around.
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Exactly what I was thinking. He just proposed to you @OP and you’re here wondering why he’s ignoring you, when right now you should be too busy celebrating your future together and feeling euphoric and excited.

It’s a really bad sign he’s ignoring you right after proposing. Never heard of someone doing that before :/
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Or his feelings scare himself and he’s having doubts after popping the question.
I doubt that, sadly. 😢

I've never known an Aries who would ignore someone they like or someone they want to marry. The Aries didn't even bother to open the messages. Even my Aries guyfriend has never ignored my messages. For myself, unless I dislike the person or not comfortable with the person, I generally respond within a day or 2 at max. If I don't say anything, I would at least read it. If I like someone, I tend to respond even faster to that person.

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Ah he’s an Aries? I don’t know the backstory with her and him. I was going to ask there signs.

I agree though, an Aries wouldn’t normally do that. They’re all in once they fall in love. And even with friendships like you said, they don’t leave someone they truly care about in a platonic or romantic way wondering about what they want or acting distant no matter what they’re dealing with personally. I always see Aries as reliable and there for the ones they care about in a heartbeat.

My Aries son (I have two of them but the older one is 18), is so reliable and good to everyone. Such a great kid. Young man. Whichever, he’s still my baby, lol. But when he’s talking to girls, and they confuse him and play games, he just doesn’t respond and asks me what he should say.

I used to find Aries guys confusing. One in particular. But I think that’s just them getting confused by others that don’t tell them exactly how they feel.

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Or his feelings scare himself and he’s having doubts after popping the question.
I doubt that, sadly. 😢

I've never known an Aries who would ignore someone they like or someone they want to marry. The Aries didn't even bother to open the messages. Even my Aries guyfriend has never ignored my messages. For myself, unless I dislike the person or not comfortable with the person, I generally respond within a day or 2 at max. If I don't say anything, I would at least read it. If I like someone, I tend to respond even faster to that person.


Ah he’s an Aries? I don’t know the backstory with her and him. I was going to ask there signs.

I agree though, an Aries wouldn’t normally do that. They’re all in once they fall in love. And even with friendships like you said, they don’t leave someone they truly care about in a platonic or romantic way wondering about what they want or acting distant no matter what they’re dealing with personally. I always see Aries as reliable and there for the ones they care about in a heartbeat.

My Aries son (I have two of them but the older one is 18), is so reliable and good to everyone. Such a great kid. Young man. Whichever, he’s still my baby, lol. But when he’s talking to girls, and they confuse him and play games, he just doesn’t respond and asks me what he should say.

I used to find Aries guys confusing. One in particular. But I think that’s just them getting confused by others that don’t tell them exactly how they feel.



Yes. OP was seeing this Aries guy. Then after some time, this other girl came into the picture. The Ram got distant. OP wrote to him about how she felt about the other girl. Basically if he is now interested in the girl, she will leave. He responded that he likes her and talked a bit of where the "relationship" was going and then ignored her for days. She shows up at his apartment and they talked. The next day, he proposed and then proceed to ignore her again.

That's whole lot of ignoring for an Aries that's supposedly interested in and supposedly wanted to marry OP. It seems more like OP confronts an issue and the Aries responds accordingly to keep her around.

lol, I don't know about that...If an Aries is this confusing, it probably means they are not all there in the "relationship". If an Aries is confused, the more likely scenario is that they will be the one to speak up.

IMO 🙂
It's almost like how a Libra would do it 😱

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Naw, libra would have to leave the fence. 😏
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Or his feelings scare himself and he’s having doubts after popping the question.
I doubt that, sadly. 😢

I've never known an Aries who would ignore someone they like or someone they want to marry. The Aries didn't even bother to open the messages. Even my Aries guyfriend has never ignored my messages. For myself, unless I dislike the person or not comfortable with the person, I generally respond within a day or 2 at max. If I don't say anything, I would at least read it. If I like someone, I tend to respond even faster to that person.


Ah he’s an Aries? I don’t know the backstory with her and him. I was going to ask there signs.

I agree though, an Aries wouldn’t normally do that. They’re all in once they fall in love. And even with friendships like you said, they don’t leave someone they truly care about in a platonic or romantic way wondering about what they want or acting distant no matter what they’re dealing with personally. I always see Aries as reliable and there for the ones they care about in a heartbeat.

My Aries son (I have two of them but the older one is 18), is so reliable and good to everyone. Such a great kid. Young man. Whichever, he’s still my baby, lol. But when he’s talking to girls, and they confuse him and play games, he just doesn’t respond and asks me what he should say.

I used to find Aries guys confusing. One in particular. But I think that’s just them getting confused by others that don’t tell them exactly how they feel.



Yes. OP was seeing this Aries guy. Then after some time, this other girl came into the picture. The Ram got distant. OP wrote to him about how she felt about the other girl. Basically if he is now interested in the girl, she will leave. He responded that he likes her and talked a bit of where the "relationship" was going and then ignored her for days. She shows up at his apartment and they talked. The next day, he proposed and then proceed to ignore her again.

That's whole lot of ignoring for an Aries that's supposedly interested in and supposedly wanted to marry OP. It seems more like OP confronts an issue and the Aries responds accordingly to keep her around.

lol, I don't know about that...If an Aries is this confusing, it probably means they are not all there in the "relationship". If an Aries is confused, the more likely scenario is that they will be the one to speak up.

IMO 🙂
It's almost like how a Libra would do it 😱


Naw, libra would have to leave the fence. 😏
He can always carry the fence with him.

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How do I get him to talk to me?

I know him, if he didn't care, he would have blocked me from Facebook and twitter. He hasn't.

Why are social media important to him? It's how he stays connected to the world. I can't really explain it. He's very political and into gaming. He doesn't have a lot of friends. He's a loner. But social media is how he socialize.

I read a lot about Aries in love. And before he ignored me, after I told him how I felt and that I wouldn't be his stand by girl while he chase that other girl, he was pretty into me. Always replying right away. Always messaging me. Telling me how he felt about life and his problem. I felt like his confident. We were really close.

But telling him how I felt, changed something. And he's been really silent. On twitter. Like he was brewing his feelings, or he was hurt. I didn't push. I waited. After a week, I went to him and we talked. We cleaned a lot of stuff. It felt good.

He always dated girl he had nothing in common with. I'm his first girlfriend he truly connected with. We're both in our 30's.

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Or his feelings scare himself and he’s having doubts after popping the question.
I doubt that, sadly. 😢

I've never known an Aries who would ignore someone they like or someone they want to marry. The Aries didn't even bother to open the messages. Even my Aries guyfriend has never ignored my messages. For myself, unless I dislike the person or not comfortable with the person, I generally respond within a day or 2 at max. If I don't say anything, I would at least read it. If I like someone, I tend to respond even faster to that person.


Ah he’s an Aries? I don’t know the backstory with her and him. I was going to ask there signs.

I agree though, an Aries wouldn’t normally do that. They’re all in once they fall in love. And even with friendships like you said, they don’t leave someone they truly care about in a platonic or romantic way wondering about what they want or acting distant no matter what they’re dealing with personally. I always see Aries as reliable and there for the ones they care about in a heartbeat.

My Aries son (I have two of them but the older one is 18), is so reliable and good to everyone. Such a great kid. Young man. Whichever, he’s still my baby, lol. But when he’s talking to girls, and they confuse him and play games, he just doesn’t respond and asks me what he should say.

I used to find Aries guys confusing. One in particular. But I think that’s just them getting confused by others that don’t tell them exactly how they feel.



Yes. OP was seeing this Aries guy. Then after some time, this other girl came into the picture. The Ram got distant. OP wrote to him about how she felt about the other girl. Basically if he is now interested in the girl, she will leave. He responded that he likes her and talked a bit of where the "relationship" was going and then ignored her for days. She shows up at his apartment and they talked. The next day, he proposed and then proceed to ignore her again.

That's whole lot of ignoring for an Aries that's supposedly interested in and supposedly wanted to marry OP. It seems more like OP confronts an issue and the Aries responds accordingly to keep her around.

lol, I don't know about that...If an Aries is this confusing, it probably means they are not all there in the "relationship". If an Aries is confused, the more likely scenario is that they will be the one to speak up.

IMO 🙂
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Hmm, thanks Sakura for the explanation of what’s happening. I fully agree with you. He’s interested in another girl and becomes distant. He’s not fully invested in a relationship with @OP If he was, she wouldn’t even be here questioning it.

Then she shows up to talk to him, and it seems like he’s grasping at straws to keep her in his life 😢

He sounds confused. And Aries that want something or someone bad enough, will ram there way through anyone and everyone until they get what they want.

Proposing is a big deal. But his actions saying otherwise makes it come across as disingenuous.

She’s on the back burner while he figures out who be wants to be with. I wouldn’t wait around to find out.

@OP I know this isn’t what you want to hear. But he’s just not being truthful enough and sure enough about what he wants. Treat yourself better then he’s treating you ❤️

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How do I get him to talk to me?

I know him, if he didn't care, he would have blocked me from Facebook and twitter. He hasn't.

Why are social media important to him? It's how he stays connected to the world. I can't really explain it. He's very political and into gaming. He doesn't have a lot of friends. He's a loner. But social media is how he socialize.

I read a lot about Aries in love. And before he ignored me, after I told him how I felt and that I wouldn't be his stand by girl while he chase that other girl, he was pretty into me. Always replying right away. Always messaging me. Telling me how he felt about life and his problem. I felt like his confident. We were really close.

But telling him how I felt, changed something. And he's been really silent. On twitter. Like he was brewing his feelings, or he was hurt. I didn't push. I waited. After a week, I went to him and we talked. We cleaned a lot of stuff. It felt good.

He always dated girl he had nothing in common with. I'm his first girlfriend he truly connected with. We're both in our 30's.




I’m sorry you’re going through this. A man who really wants to be with you would not be playing with your feelings this way.

Are your feelings a toy? No. So don’t let him play with them. If you need to show up at his door after being ignored, you’re heading into an uphill battle with him.

Proposal happened shortly after then he ignores you again. Is this really what you want with the rest of your life?

That is kind of odd behavior. Oh hey you’re here, let’s get married. Then I ignore you again. Fuck that, and you should want more than that. No ones perfect, but you still should expect more than what you’re getting.

Relationships aren’t always equal. A lot of times one person loves or cares so much more than the other. I think you love him a lot and want to look past these things. But they aren’t minimal. They’re big red flags.

And he’s back to acting the way he did before. Don’t waste your time please. For your own sake, look out for your future and your own happiness. I don’t think he’s right for you.

I don’t know the whole story but you know deep down. You wouldn’t be questioning this if you felt like you were both on the same page.

Will you ignore what I’m saying because it’s not what you want to hear? I get it. I just feel like you could do better for yourself and you need to want that as well.
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How do I get him to talk to me?

I know him, if he didn't care, he would have blocked me from Facebook and twitter. He hasn't.

Why are social media important to him? It's how he stays connected to the world. I can't really explain it. He's very political and into gaming. He doesn't have a lot of friends. He's a loner. But social media is how he socialize.

I read a lot about Aries in love. And before he ignored me, after I told him how I felt and that I wouldn't be his stand by girl while he chase that other girl, he was pretty into me. Always replying right away. Always messaging me. Telling me how he felt about life and his problem. I felt like his confident. We were really close.

But telling him how I felt, changed something. And he's been really silent. On twitter. Like he was brewing his feelings, or he was hurt. I didn't push. I waited. After a week, I went to him and we talked. We cleaned a lot of stuff. It felt good.

He always dated girl he had nothing in common with. I'm his first girlfriend he truly connected with. We're both in our 30's.




There is something you don't tell. If you were truly connected an aries would rather die than ignore you. You either did something was a red flag, or you have some quality give him no peace, or simply you lost his trust. Think back what happened you will find, then you gotta sort it out before it's too late. If he ignores you, it means he try to set himself up to live without you so you better hurry up

Aries is a walking detector, he not necessarily share what he see but take notes constantly.
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You can buy rings or use ones you were given from years ago.
Yes. But is a guy really going to go invest in a ring he doesn’t want to buy in the first place? And who would give him a diamond engagement ring to a malethat he could later use on a woman? Besides one passed down from family which I’m sure he wouldn’t frivolously give away to buy himself time.
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How do I get him to talk to me?

I know him, if he didn't care, he would have blocked me from Facebook and twitter. He hasn't.

Why are social media important to him? It's how he stays connected to the world. I can't really explain it. He's very political and into gaming. He doesn't have a lot of friends. He's a loner. But social media is how he socialize.

I read a lot about Aries in love. And before he ignored me, after I told him how I felt and that I wouldn't be his stand by girl while he chase that other girl, he was pretty into me. Always replying right away. Always messaging me. Telling me how he felt about life and his problem. I felt like his confident. We were really close.

But telling him how I felt, changed something. And he's been really silent. On twitter. Like he was brewing his feelings, or he was hurt. I didn't push. I waited. After a week, I went to him and we talked. We cleaned a lot of stuff. It felt good.

He always dated girl he had nothing in common with. I'm his first girlfriend he truly connected with. We're both in our 30's.




There is something you don't tell. If you were truly connected an aries would rather die than ignore you. You either did something was a red flag, or you have some quality give him no peace, or simply you lost his trust. Think back what happened you will find, then you gotta sort it out before it's too late. If he ignores you, it means he try to set himself up to live without you so you better hurry up

Aries is a walking detector, he not necessarily share what he see but take notes constantly.

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Aries is a walking detector, he not necessarily share what he see but take notes constantly.

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The thing is, this man can be confused, because he doesnt know exactly, what he wants... he doesnt want to lose the OP, because they share something special

but, just imagine:

his sun is Aries, his moon is Scorp, his venus and mars is Aquarius...

I wouldnt say he is a typical Aries and everything about aries ppl applies to him...

Aries - impulses, Scorp - hidden intensity and paranoia, Aqua - detachment.... put that together, and you have an individual, who is acting without logic

Aries - lets have fun and do something

Scorp - I am depressed and lonely, even if hundreds of people are around me, will anybody truly understand me ever

Aqua - just leave me alone everybody, unless you have an interesting project

Linoleumgirl (OP), I can understand more your relationship now, but you will need a lot of patience, if you chose to stick with this guy

try to focus more on your life, and try to gain some reliable friends... be more active in your life, not only towards him or with him, because he will not be consistent in his behaviour (the only consistent thing will be that this confusing behaviour of his will be repeated again and again)

So, focus on your life, dont take everything what he says like its written in stone, aries impulses versus his other placements will be hard to tackle without a bit of indifference on your side
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When he proposed, was there a ring?

A ring means this was planned out before hand. Means he’s given this serious thought.

A 3 person relationship, Immediately moving into a marriage proposal sounds.... messy.
There was a week of silence from him. She went to his apartment and talked. The next day he proposed. Now he's ignoring her again.

Doesn't this seem weird to you, if he had seriously intended on marrying OP?
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LMAO...it's not serious. And if it is - this man must be scared to death of her!

He is trying to hard not to! (do anything with her) but when he sees her - he is like numb. Paralyzed. Yes dear...

Lol...
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When he proposed, was there a ring?

A ring means this was planned out before hand. Means he’s given this serious thought.

A 3 person relationship, Immediately moving into a marriage proposal sounds.... messy.
There was a week of silence from him. She went to his apartment and talked. The next day he proposed. Now he's ignoring her again.

Doesn't this seem weird to you, if he had seriously intended on marrying OP?
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But..

But I thought that's how all proposals come to being? He ignores me for several weeks. I break down his door with tears dripping from my nostrils and he slips the platinum encrusted chancla on my foot.

Then vanishes to show his commitment.

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So, after the whole me telling me how I felt about that other girl. He ignored me. For days. Barely used his social media. Which is strange for him.

I showed up to his apartment. We talked. The next day, he showed up at my place and he asked me to marry him. I said yes.

Now? He's ignoring me. He doesn't even read my texts now. Just leave me on delivered.

He hasn't deleted me or unfollowed me. Just, ignore.

What's his deal?
Who is "that other girl" ?

Hi Star 🙂

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Hey miss.....how are you? 😃

Will have a read....thanks

Good, thanks. 🤓 Not loving winter one bit lol.

Yourself? 😊


Spring coming soon 😃🐑🌺

I'm doing great thanks

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What are you smiling Star? It's winter everywhere...isn't it? 👀

Ok! Now there is another girl in a same hotel room. But he is still marrying OP.

While ignoring her...

Is it most confusing thread after Indian guy loves his ex after 16 years of nothing?

Anyone? Word of wisdom. Please...
I want to read this, do you have a link to the thread?
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No. I don't save links. Maybe someone else has it.
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He was with her last night and he called her his girlfriend. It's over

I hung out with a friend last night to feel better. Another of her friend joined us and we had a small girls night. I didn't know that new girl til last night. I'll call her A

Last night was the beginning of his event. I didn't hear from him all day. It's ok, he's always busy with his friends. That event is his time with his best friend. They get drunk and hit all the parties.

Anywho, A texted him from her phone and pretended to be single at the event. Looking for some fun. He said Not interested. I'm with my girlfriend. Aka the other girl. Who is from FL but lives in our town now.

He tried calling her/us twice. We didn't pick up.

Minutes after, the other girl called A. We looked up her area code. A FL number. We knew it was her.

I cried all night and I don't know what to do. I wanna trash all his things.
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I call bs on the OP tbh.

She's acting like her namesake- getting walked all over.

But tbh, I don't believe her story. After all that bullshit her stupid ass said yes to an impromptu marriage proposal?

lolz. Who does that? On either side of the story? She's a goddamned troll.
I don't care if you believe me or not.

I'm an adventurous cap. I have Sag in my chart. I don't believe in living a boring life. A lot of people say yes to surprise proposal. I happen to be one of those person
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