Why am I so annoying

As some of you might know I used to post a lot more in the past about this Aries guy I was seeing a year ago before he moved away.

Anyway, while he was away I was dating this Gemini guy but nothing serious as I still think about the Aries guy and now he's coming back!

But I can't figure out the obsession I have over this guy - physically I find him super attractive but he's not everyone's taste. I just feel like we need to have some sort of closure? We kept in touch since he moved over - random messages/liking each other pictures on social media.

It's torturing for me to be honest, to expect something out of this - let's face it, it's not healthy.

Lately, I've decided to enjoy myself and put myself out there, started dating more and came across this lovely Virgo.

My mother is a Virgo and to be honest. I'm indifferent towards Virgo.

I just feel like I should just go with it as It's been less than a week and he wants to go on a third date already?

Maybe I should let this Aries go...

but then in my mind, it's like why are you still keeping in touch with me? and told me that you were coming home and wanted to meet up? but went silent?

Like I just want to know what's going on in his head.

Here's his birthday- 14th of april 94 and mine is 10th Ocotober 93

Please figure this out for me ha

What's going on is he is not making you a priority but you continue to obsess over him. Yes it is time to leave him alone, move on and date guys who are truly interested in you and show it.

I don’t think the reason should be why anymore, it doesn’t matter, you won’t know, you don’t need to know. I know some things happen to us and they seem unfair and we ask why, and maybe things were great but it stopped, and you want to know why. It’s a normal question to ask, we are only human. But it doesn’t matter, because it can’t matter. What I’m trying to say, is if you want to carry on with your live, then it can’t matter.

We don’t water dead flowers for a reason, they were great but they died, we don’t ask why, we just move on.

I would speculate that he’s insecure. He feels insecure and then he messages you and feels a bit better, but you are either a second option or he isn’t sure about you, and this will never change. Once he feels secure, after you message him back, then he ignores you. At the same time, this just puts you down, makes you obsess and overthink. Then the process repeats until you lose yourself.

The simple fact is, you gave him a chance, and he didn’t take it.

But please look at yourself, and I’m trying to mean this in the best possible way. If something really is capable of knocking you off your feet like this for so long, then you need to think about working out a way to not let it happen again. What kind of future do you want? What kind of person do you want to be? In five years time this Aries will mean nothing to you, but you will have yourself, so who do you want to be? Move on, give this Virgo a fair chance.

Posted by AriesJo

I don’t think the reason should be why anymore, it doesn’t matter, you won’t know, you don’t need to know. I know some things happen to us and they seem unfair and we ask why, and maybe things were great but it stopped, and you want to know why. It’s a normal question to ask, we are only human. But it doesn’t matter, because it can’t matter. What I’m trying to say, is if you want to carry on with your live, then it can’t matter.

We don’t water dead flowers for a reason, they were great but they died, we don’t ask why, we just move on.

I would speculate that he’s insecure. He feels insecure and then he messages you and feels a bit better, but you are either a second option or he isn’t sure about you, and this will never change. Once he feels secure, after you message him back, then he ignores you. At the same time, this just puts you down, makes you obsess and overthink. Then the process repeats until you lose yourself.

The simple fact is, you gave him a chance, and he didn’t take it.

But please look at yourself, and I’m trying to mean this in the best possible way. If something really is capable of knocking you off your feet like this for so long, then you need to think about working out a way to not let it happen again. What kind of future do you want? What kind of person do you want to be? In five years time this Aries will mean nothing to you, but you will have yourself, so who do you want to be? Move on, give this Virgo a fair chance.

OHHH MYYY your reply was a bang on

Thank you! genuinely, it made so much sense from what you said.

Genuinely, thank you. what you said was just perfect, actually made me realised alot of things

I hope his reply to you will really make you see that what you have with this Aries guy is going nowhere and to give it up. You might try professional counseling at this point to help you get over this obsession. It has gone on too long and I'm sure you don't want to spend 2019 still obsessing over this guy.

Ummm cut the virgo loose if your indifferent to him and obsessed over some other dude.

Not fair to lead someone on like that. Think about how you would feel if someone was doing that to you.

Oh wait...

Thats basically what the aries has been doing.

Posted by DonnaLibra

What's going on is he is not making you a priority but you continue to obsess over him. Yes it is time to leave him alone, move on and date guys who are truly interested in you and show it.

No commitment, no relationship, quite naturally means "no priority."

Posted by LibraJackson

As some of you might know I used to post a lot more in the past about this Aries guy I was seeing a year ago before he moved away.

Anyway, while he was away I was dating this Gemini guy but nothing serious as I still think about the Aries guy and now he's coming back!

But I can't figure out the obsession I have over this guy - physically I find him super attractive but he's not everyone's taste. I just feel like we need to have some sort of closure? We kept in touch since he moved over - random messages/liking each other pictures on social media.

It's torturing for me to be honest, to expect something out of this - let's face it, it's not healthy.

Lately, I've decided to enjoy myself and put myself out there, started dating more and came across this lovely Virgo.

My mother is a Virgo and to be honest. I'm indifferent towards Virgo.

I just feel like I should just go with it as It's been less than a week and he wants to go on a third date already?

Maybe I should let this Aries go...

but then in my mind, it's like why are you still keeping in touch with me? and told me that you were coming home and wanted to meet up? but went silent?

Like I just want to know what's going on in his head.

Here's his birthday- 14th of april 94 and mine is 10th Ocotober 93

Please figure this out for me ha

If you have goals, then you are responsible for achieving them.

I don't know what's wrong with communicating with him if you're not in a relationship. Shit, drive yourself wild. If it hurts you, you'll stop.

Even with dating the Virgo... say no when he wants commitment. You can even tell him it's because you're obsessed.

Keep dating until someone woos you away from your obsession.

At least your trying.

You'd really be crazy if you didn't try to date.

Until then, enjoy the one-way passion.

My last two relationships has been with Aries.

I’m so drawn to their presence it’s annoying. I wasn’t attracted to my first Aries appearance but he was smart and showed kindness’s my second Aries, a beautiful woman but we had little to talk about. She’s been good to me in every way except emotionally and that’s our issue.

I’m not sure Aries and libra connect well emotionally. You have to want that kind of relationship where you struggle to like each other but love each other. I’m not sure what kind of love I have for her but I can’t communicate with her without being annoyed. Same with the ex.

Aries are very stubborn imo and As Libras we can be flexible because we value peace and harmony. Aries will take advantage of this regardless of its intentional or not, they will. That’s when the problems start because we Libras are excellent at keeping a file drawer in our subconscious minds that will never come out if we’re treated properly.

In all honesty hun just go with the natural flow and be careful the advice you take on here. They don't know you or him so you must use your intuition.

I've had some horrible nasty comments when I felt low and confused on here...was told when I liked someone I was a fwb only etc and he couldn't care less etc etc etc.

The bottom line was they were all wrong and we are happy together so be mindful of the advice..

Only YOU really know what is going on and in all honesty just in a fun way maybe ask him. Xx

Hi guys

thank you for all replies, most are genuinely good, amazingly I don't know what happened but I'm into this Virgo now and the Aries is back! like I wanted this guy for so long and out of nowhere, this Virgo showed up.I didn't expect this at all but all of you are right... if it's meant to be he would have made more of an effort and if he did now, it's a bit too late for me. I'm happy

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Posted by DonnaLibra

I hope his reply to you will really make you see that what you have with this Aries guy is going nowhere and to give it up. You might try professional counseling at this point to help you get over this obsession. It has gone on too long and I'm sure you don't want to spend 2019 still obsessing over this guy.

That was kinda mean...

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How was that being mean? There is nothing wrong with getting therapy to help you get over an obsession. That's what Therapist's are there for. I wasn't trying to be mean but helpful.

Posted by LibraJackson

Hi guys

thank you for all replies, most are genuinely good, amazingly I don't know what happened but I'm into this Virgo now and the Aries is back! like I wanted this guy for so long and out of nowhere, this Virgo showed up.I didn't expect this at all but all of you are right... if it's meant to be he would have made more of an effort and if he did now, it's a bit too late for me. I'm happy

Look I only told you about the therapy idea because like you I'm a Libra who was lost over an Aries man. It took therapy for me to move on from him. It helped me so much and that is why I suggested it for you. I know you are now with the Virgo but you and I know the Aries is still at the top of your heart and you can't shake it. I've been there. Therapy helped so if you still struggle you might try it.

Posted by DonnaLibra

Posted by LibraJackson

Hi guys

thank you for all replies, most are genuinely good, amazingly I don't know what happened but I'm into this Virgo now and the Aries is back! like I wanted this guy for so long and out of nowhere, this Virgo showed up.I didn't expect this at all but all of you are right... if it's meant to be he would have made more of an effort and if he did now, it's a bit too late for me. I'm happy

Look I only told you about the therapy idea because like you I'm a Libra who was lost over an Aries man. It took therapy for me to move on from him. It helped me so much and that is why I suggested it for you. I know you are now with the Virgo but you and I know the Aries is still at the top of your heart and you can't shake it. I've been there. Therapy helped so if you still struggle you might try it.

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I didn't say it was mean, I understand Therapy helps. I think sometimes in messages, people can interpret things differently. Thank you for taking the time out and give me your feedback though, looks like we've been in a similar situation. You're right, I'm not over and Aries just like that because of this Virgo, so maybe a longterm solution would help.

I know it may be wrong but I warn all my Libra sisters to stay away from Aries men. They are our detriment. We are blessed but we can't have them all, especially Mr. Ram.