Fuck Buddy (Page 2)

Posted by nikkistar
Not one person thinks you are a victim. Not at all. You haven't been victimized.

He wasn't a predator. He told you over a year ago that he just wanted to bang. If what you say is true, then he banged you, and ghosted you. And a year later, you are still obsessing over him.

You negate all comments telling you what you do not want to hear. You were a hit it and quit it. Instead of facing that fact, you keep being a glutton for punishment and go back for more.

You are no victim. You are a willing participant in your own delusional fantasy when it comes to this guy.

This time I agree with you. I'm a willing participant, why are you the one getting upset?

tiziani guru, tell me please, how do I make it enough?

Hahahaha looks like I'm not much further from square one...

?? Thank you tiziani, over_thinker

Now I know the ball is back in my own hands ?

Okay, I have a question...

He told me he's flying away this weekend. I asked him if he needs transport to the airport (me driving him), he answered that he'll take the train. So I asked again if he's sure & I could sensed the hesitation on his end, so I just continued & said okay you take care... & he replied...

I really don't mind to send him & I actually really wish to. What does his hesitation mean? Should I just show up at his door hoping to catch him there & force him into my car? LOL

over_thinker, you have a point there... it dawns on me that I've not taken real action to show him I really mean it because I always hold back myself for fear of offending him (honestly because I have no idea whether he actually wants to or not).

Fun4Life, thanks for the input.

I am more annoyed with the people feeding into your delusional thought processing, than you, yourself. I actually somewhat feel sad for you as a person.

I get it, I will never get through to you because I am not feeding you rhetoric you want to hear. I just don't logically understand how women and men like you exist in this world. All logic processing is negated, and every decision made is based on the over analysis of every action, and that analysis is flawed. Then you have the people validating the obvious fallacy, and you continue to perpetuate behavior that is not productive or constructive for you to continue. But I think you actually like living in an illusion then to face the reality of the situation.

You would rather continue to exact your will upon the man.

It's actually quite sad you have no one in your real life to bring you back to reality.

Yes, nikkistar, in your life, you wouldn't bat an eyelid over guys like him. In your logical world. But love is not logic. What I experienced with him is not illusion.

I choose to take a chance... there are these people here who believe in giving love a chance.

I know what I may fall to... perhaps in the end, nothing, none of him at all. He may meet another person, falls in love & forgets about me... nobody knows what will happen.

Now, let me tell you why I'm doing this. I mentioned, I moved on, I met other guys, at the end of the day, I'm still here. So this is simple... simply, why not?

Posted by taupixie
Okay, I have a question...

He told me he's flying away this weekend. I asked him if he needs transport to the airport (me driving him), he answered that he'll take the train. So I asked again if he's sure & I could sensed the hesitation on his end, so I just continued & said okay you take care... & he replied...

I really don't mind to send him & I actually really wish to. What does his hesitation mean? Should I just show up at his door hoping to catch him there & force him into my car? LOL

Stop. That's what it means. Why would you even make yourself appear so desperate, not only to him but to everyone here? Lol

It means he is feeling pressured and crabs are super nice and they don't want to hurt others.

He already told he he'd rather take the train.

What more do you need him to tell you?

I am too starting to think you are a troll at 'this point lol

Also no one is saying you are a victim, no one is being "mean" just because we say what you don't want to hear. Again, broken record from your previous threads.

justagirl, this is why I asked... I want to understand his hesitation, wanting to say no but couldn't say it for the sake of being nice? Or was he dilly dallying? It's not I don't want to listen to peeps here telling me otherwise, but I wish you would see this kind of guy I'm dealing with who hasn't exactly been direct all the time. I'm taking in your input now, it puts me in a dilemma ?

over_thinker, I'm not playful. I haven't had too many dates, or boyfriends, or sexual partners. This side you're seeing is just me being optimistic & audacious, you can blame it on my Aries Venus. I'm still very much grounded by Taurus & my Leo Moon. I don't want to hurt him intentionally because that is not my intention.

He shall take the train ??

Hahaha that's not very helpful ?

Posted by taupixie
Yes, nikkistar, in your life, you wouldn't bat an eyelid over guys like him. In your logical world. But love is not logic. What I experienced with him is not illusion.

I just noticed this comment.

I have no idea how you keep making these asinine assumptions about the Cancer guy you are speaking about, or me now. You're completely illogical, as well as being delusional.

You seriously have some interesting idiosyncrasies.