Have I upset him? Cancer men help me out x

Hi everyone..

Totally new story here! Hooray!

It's a bit long.

I met a Cancer guy 3yrs ago at his workplace. A cafe I go to regularly. Nothing happened except gazing at each other, smiling, and chit-chat about how our day is going and eventually on to things we like.

There was chemistry too, whenever we looked at each other. I loved it. I'm a Capricorn woman and so I know its a good natch.

Plus as most of you know here, I was in love with a Pisces guy so I was more interested in the Pisces at the time so didn't do anything about the Cancer guy.

Anyway in the last month, I finally gave the Cancer guy my number because the Pisces has finally bored me after 7yrs of complaining about his partner, telling me how much he loves me, how insane our connection is, but..going back to his partner.

The Cancer guy is much younger than me and is very shy and not had a long-term relationship. Plus he told me he likes his woman to be older than him.

However since we started seeing each other, his flatmate had covid so after only 1 date of coffee and a little kissing, we couldn't see each other for 10 days!

It upset both of us. So we were messaging loads and he began asking me to send photo's of myself so he can look at me. This I find ADORABLE!

Once he was out of isolation, we had a 2nd date, by the river which we walked to holding hands and chatting. Then we sat down and kissed. LOTS!

Everything was going well until I flirted with him a little too far! In my opinion anyway! I'm a Capricorn and anyone who knows anything about Caps deep down inside, we LOVE to flirt!

And I certainly do!

I asked him if he would like to go for dinner. He said yes. I booked a table on a night where we are both free.

Now...due to the 10 days of not seeing each other and both of us feeling upset, things got MORE than flirty on messages.

He got very excited indeed and couldn't wait to see me so he said that after our dinner date he's going to "make you mine."

He meant make love to me.

I loved this too. But...wasn't sure because it would only be our 2nd date!

Is that ok??



Anyway this is where I think I took the flirting too far, and may have unintentionally hurt him.

I didn't want to jump straight into bed with him, because i really like him, so after much sexual flirting, between both of us, I said to him..

"I need to calm you down."

He said..

"I'd like to see you try."

So I responded with..

"In that case, after dinner, you're going home."

Meaning, No Sex.

He said..

"That's going to be torture."

I said..

"I know."

Was that Mean of me??

I was showing him I CAN calm him down. I was flirting by teasing him into thinking he won't get to sleep with me.

I hadn't really decided yet to be honest. But I considered inviting him back to my place after dinner, for coffee and because we can be completely alone (my little one was with her dad).

The very day of our dinner date - a day or 2 after I told him (flirtaciously), "You're going home," he messages me and tells me he can't see me tonight because he's got Covid!

I didn't believe him! It was too quickly said and too convenient after my possibly hurtful flirty comnent.

However after sending him voice messages rather than typed ones, he voice-messaged me back and he sounded awful! Really bad cough. He said he had a headache.

Yet he was still messaging me "Good morning beautiful" and calling me his "gorgeous girlfriend" and was already sending me photo's of him - on WhatsApp- almost topless with his shirt open ❤

Yet he had a bad cough and was feeling rough!

However over the last 2 days he has barely spoken to me. The girlfriend comments have gone. Along with his Good Morning Beautiful so I have been worrying about how ill he is! Covid is serious! I can't just go and see him.

Then I got paranoid and felt that maybe I DID hurt him so now he's using covid to get out of seeing me anymore once his isolation is over.

😭

Is he??

Because my flirty comment Hurt and he's had time alone to think about it.

Or is he testing me to see how much I care?

He did send me a message telling me that once he is better he is going to give me a big cuddle. So I told him Likewise and I want to kiss him. Because I do. I'm missing him.

He is barely responding to my messages. I have sent 2 or 3.

His last text message yesterday said,

"Hi ☺️ Ive got a terrible migraine so I'm not looking at anything that can trigger it, just trying to rest."

This was in response to my..

"Hello my handsome boyfriend xx

Are you ok?

I'm really worried about you..."

His message to me sounded like, "I'm not reading your messages so leave me alone."

And he only started his message with Hi.

I know he is not well But..

Even when feeling rough he was flirting and sending me photo's of him.

Sorry for this being so LONG!

But what do you think has happened?

Have I scared him off?

He said "Nothing can scare me away from you."

Is he lying/pretending?

Help!

I really like him!

I meant to add that now that HE has Covid, its now ANOTHER 10 days of isolation.

So 20 days not seeing each other.

😔

I don’t think he is actually sick, or bothered by your behaviour

It’s no nut november

the Cancer men/Cap women pairing is dogshit btw, you may want to see other people.

Do you even really like this guy?

I feel like you’re still waiting on the Pisces

Yeah…he’s seriously sick and maybe dying, but all you care is that he stopped flirting with you….

Did you know that Covid also affects the brain? Or that being seriously sick affects the mood? Calm down and wait for 10 days.

Also, if you said you didn’t want sex on a second date…then stick to it! Nobody has ended a promising budding relationship because of a small delay, but many would end one if the person of interest says one thing but does something else.

Posted by DMV

Do you even really like this guy?

I feel like you’re still waiting on the Pisces

I'm not waiting on the Pisces. I like him BUT I am genuinely BORED AF!

And Yes..I like this Cancer guy A LOT! ❤

Posted by stardustmop

I’ve dealt with Cancers before. I am thinking you probably thought you had the upper hand here because he is hyping you up big time making you feel good by telling you everything you want to hear and you’re eating it up. Cancers are good future fakers. Challenging him to calm him down and send him home was a little odd. You slammed the breaks on him. If you don’t play by the Cancers rules they take their ball and go home. Whole time you thought he was putty in your hands and he’s letting you know he’s not. Who knows what he’s doing.

I’m not saying you can’t reject sex with a Cancer but you probably should reject him a little more subtly next time. Men are men at the end of the day. You took sex off the table and he had nothing to work for.

I see what you're saying and I feel a bit stupid now for "slamming the breaks on him." I was actually teasing him into thinking he wasn't going to get to make me his - but i didnt mean it because i was flirting.

I don't think it was odd because the convo had gone away from talking about things we both like to sex talk. Which I also enjoy.

But i was worried that once we sleep together it just all be about sex. Hence..trying to calm him down.

Once the flirting started, it was flirt flirt flirt all the time, and him telling me he wants to "make you mine" which I love hearing. But it seemed the chat had gone. It was all sex talk. Not dirty. But naughty and romantic sex.

He is a little inexperienced because he's really shy and hasn't had many girlfriends and I'm older than him too.

He still hasn't spoken to me.

I asked him yesterday if he's OK and that I'm worried about him but as I wrote in my First post here, his reply just came across as 'I'm not reading your messages. Leave me alone.'

Have I screwed up?

I feel like I have.

Maybe I should have just taken the Going Home comment back immediately and told him I was just joking wtc.

Once he told me he had covid I explained on WhatsApp that i said Going Home because I was flirting with him.

He responded by saying that he didn't pick up on my wordplay . So hopefully he's ok.

But its the 3rd day of not saying much. He messaged me yesterday morning then it all dissolved into nothing by early evening.

Today? Nothing.

I'm worried because he was talking to me every day once he started isolating. Even when feeling rough.

I just want to reassure him I'm here and have feelings for him but I'm not sure now my feelings will be welcome.

What shall I do now?

Posted by KimboSlice

I don’t think he is actually sick, or bothered by your behaviour

It’s no nut november

the Cancer men/Cap women pairing is dogshit btw, you may want to see other people.

Not helpful 😔

Posted by Undine

Yeah…he’s seriously sick and maybe dying, but all you care is that he stopped flirting with you….

Did you know that Covid also affects the brain? Or that being seriously sick affects the mood? Calm down and wait for 10 days.

Also, if you said you didn’t want sex on a second date…then stick to it! Nobody has ended a promising budding relationship because of a small delay, but many would end one if the person of interest says one thing but does something else.

Sure I do know that.

But what I'm saying is that even when he felt rough and coughing he was messaging me on WhatsApp.

You said in your post..

'but many would end one if the person of interest says one thing but does something else.'

And that's my worry. I've said One thing - eg flirting and how much I want him.

Then I've done/said something else "You're going home"

I have explained though why i said that and he seemed to understand but he may still be hurt.

I hope not.

I really like him A Lot!

This is common for a guy to pull back when a girl says no to sex too fast, and then girls end up freaking out, just like this, and giving in.

Get back to normal communication and quit throwing it in his face that you're not putting out. He may take it as rejection over and over again. The tease with rejection is frustrating and boring.

Try letting him know that you're super attracted to him but that you aren't comfortable having sex just yet until you get to know him a little better, but that you can't wait for it once it happens because you guys already seem to have so much chemistry.

Leave it alone for now, don't mention sex anymore and get back to the basics of getting to know him and seeing how he's feeling while he's sick. Men are big babies when they're sick.

Posted by saggurl88

This is common for a guy to pull back when a girl says no to sex too fast, and then girls end up freaking out, just like this, and giving in.

Get back to normal communication and quit throwing it in his face that you're not putting out. He may take it as rejection over and over again. The tease with rejection is frustrating and boring.

Try letting him know that you're super attracted to him but that you aren't comfortable having sex just yet until you get to know him a little better, but that you can't wait for it once it happens because you guys already seem to have so much chemistry.

Leave it alone for now, don't mention sex anymore and get back to the basics of getting to know him and seeing how he's feeling while he's sick. Men are big babies when they're sick.

Thanks so much 😁

Really appreciate this x

I haven't been banging on and on about it though, luckily.

I just flirted/teased him that One time. Then I explained. Then he understood.

But he still hadn't messaged me since yesterday evening. He read my WhatsApps but didn't reply. He normally does.

I asked him how are you feeling?

He said "I feel worse."

I asked him how his throat is..

He replied

"Sore"

These were WhatsApp messages.

So he's gone down to one word answers.

Yes he has Covid. I get it.

I'm not expecting him to be super flirty etclije he was a few,days back. But a little chatter would be nice.

Ok..

I will take your advice because I think its Great!

But which one do I do First?

Leave it alone for now?

Or..

Let him know I'm super-attracted to him?

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Undine

Yeah…he’s seriously sick and maybe dying, but all you care is that he stopped flirting with you….

Did you know that Covid also affects the brain? Or that being seriously sick affects the mood? Calm down and wait for 10 days.

Also, if you said you didn’t want sex on a second date…then stick to it! Nobody has ended a promising budding relationship because of a small delay, but many would end one if the person of interest says one thing but does something else.

Sure I do know that.

But what I'm saying is that even when he felt rough and coughing he was messaging me on WhatsApp.

You said in your post..

'but many would end one if the person of interest says one thing but does something else.'

And that's my worry. I've said One thing - eg flirting and how much I want him.

Then I've done/said something else "You're going home"

I have explained though why i said that and he seemed to understand but he may still be hurt.

I hope not.

I really like him A Lot!

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My Covid-struck nephew was also messaging me a storm on Whatsup last week...that's what people do when off work and not in the ICU! I'm also off today, with flu like symptoms, although I tested negative, so back to work tomorrow.

You didn't tell him you'll be sleeping with him during your 2nd date, only that you wouldn't! Your conversations since suggest that the expectancy of sex is still very much on the table, although for a later date. None of you have been friendzoned, so why all these regrets, for practically asking him to wait a bit?

If he's lying about Covid and is doing a slow fade, he's just a coward. If he's not, he should be grateful that he found out that he was infectious on time, and didn't come to the date to pass it on to you!

Posted by pooface222

Posted by saggurl88

This is common for a guy to pull back when a girl says no to sex too fast, and then girls end up freaking out, just like this, and giving in.

Get back to normal communication and quit throwing it in his face that you're not putting out. He may take it as rejection over and over again. The tease with rejection is frustrating and boring.

Try letting him know that you're super attracted to him but that you aren't comfortable having sex just yet until you get to know him a little better, but that you can't wait for it once it happens because you guys already seem to have so much chemistry.

Leave it alone for now, don't mention sex anymore and get back to the basics of getting to know him and seeing how he's feeling while he's sick. Men are big babies when they're sick.

Thanks so much 😁

Really appreciate this x

I haven't been banging on and on about it though, luckily.

I just flirted/teased him that One time. Then I explained. Then he understood.

But he still hadn't messaged me since yesterday evening. He read my WhatsApps but didn't reply. He normally does.

I asked him how are you feeling?

He said "I feel worse."

I asked him how his throat is..

He replied

"Sore"

These were WhatsApp messages.

So he's gone down to one word answers.

Yes he has Covid. I get it.

I'm not expecting him to be super flirty etclije he was a few,days back. But a little chatter would be nice.

Ok..

I will take your advice because I think its Great!

But which one do I do First?

Leave it alone for now?

Or..

Let him know I'm super-attracted to him?

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There's no rush. He's sick and you guys haven't even talked about when you will see each other for now.

Check in with him and see how he's doing. He feels like crap and he's telling you that, and all you can think about is what you've said to him to make him be distant, when it's most likely not the case. The guy is just sick. Having sex with you is not in the forefront of his mind if he's feeling like crap.

Most men and women lose their sex drive completely when they're sick.

His sickness and lack of communication probably has nothing to do with you. You kind of are turning it into your problem an making it about you.

So chill out, see if he needs soup, medicine, liquids- see if there's anything you can help with from afar and just wait it out.

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by pooface222

Posted by saggurl88

This is common for a guy to pull back when a girl says no to sex too fast, and then girls end up freaking out, just like this, and giving in.

Get back to normal communication and quit throwing it in his face that you're not putting out. He may take it as rejection over and over again. The tease with rejection is frustrating and boring.

Try letting him know that you're super attracted to him but that you aren't comfortable having sex just yet until you get to know him a little better, but that you can't wait for it once it happens because you guys already seem to have so much chemistry.

Leave it alone for now, don't mention sex anymore and get back to the basics of getting to know him and seeing how he's feeling while he's sick. Men are big babies when they're sick.

Thanks so much 😁

Really appreciate this x

I haven't been banging on and on about it though, luckily.

I just flirted/teased him that One time. Then I explained. Then he understood.

But he still hadn't messaged me since yesterday evening. He read my WhatsApps but didn't reply. He normally does.

I asked him how are you feeling?

He said "I feel worse."

I asked him how his throat is..

He replied

"Sore"

These were WhatsApp messages.

So he's gone down to one word answers.

Yes he has Covid. I get it.

I'm not expecting him to be super flirty etclije he was a few,days back. But a little chatter would be nice.

Ok..

I will take your advice because I think its Great!

But which one do I do First?

Leave it alone for now?

Or..

Let him know I'm super-attracted to him?

There's no rush. He's sick and you guys haven't even talked about when you will see each other for now.

Check in with him and see how he's doing. He feels like crap and he's telling you that, and all you can think about is what you've said to him to make him be distant, when it's most likely not the case. The guy is just sick. Having sex with you is not in the forefront of his mind if he's feeling like crap.

Most men and women lose their sex drive completely when they're sick.

His sickness and lack of communication probably has nothing to do with you. You kind of are turning it into your problem an making it about you.

So chill out, see if he needs soup, medicine, liquids- see if there's anything you can help with from afar and just wait it out.

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I did this. I asked him if he needs some medicine and can I get him anything..

My worst fear has been confirmed.

His almost silence has not been due to covid. He does have it because we spoke on the phone and he sounded awful.

However my fear is not me caring MORE about me, than him having covid.

He nessaged me earlier to tell me, hespoke to his best friend earlier today - he didnt say whether phone or WhatsApp video call and as a result of that..

He sent me a couple of messages on WhatsApp a few hours ago, I haven't replied because he sent then at 1.18am and didn't want to wake him.

Anyway...

As you all know, I've been worrying he has gone quiet because he us having 2nd thoughts about continuing to see me.

I mean its only been about a month, but with 20 days of isolation its almost nothing. We've inly had 2 dates.

I don't know what he wants to say but I'm going to copy & paste his 2 messages so you can tell me what you think.

I'm feeling sick he doesn't want to see me anymore.

Most of you know I've been though hell with my ex-husband (Aries). And hurt a lot over my Pisces lover.

So I'm dreading more pain over this cute Cancer guy who I really like!

Here are his 2 messages..

"Sorry I haven't been talking today, had a conversation with my best friend who I haven't spoke to in a while and it's put me in thought the whole day."

"But if I'm up when you wake up I want to say somethings because I've been thinking."



See?

I KNEW something was up with him - beyond covid.

Calm down, you're overthinking this.

Posted by Carl8

Calm down, you're overthinking this.

Hi..😊

Are you a Cancer?

And have you read the entire thread?

Especially his 2 messages to me yesterday.?

Talk to him, building trust takes time, and no he isn't going to dump you.

Also, tell him your concerns.

Hi everyone x

Thanks so much for all your messages.

.i really do appreciate all of them.

I AM all over the place right now because I rally like him!

He's cute as hell. Both to look at.. talk with. Be with and kiss/cuddle with.

I actually shake inside when I'm with him.

Yet he is Younger than me. And I'm way more experienced than him in relationships.

Posted by Carl8

Talk to him, building trust takes time, and no he isn't going to dump you.

He dumped me.

I am older than him (but not old). He wants a proper relationship with *someone more his age and without kids, and someone he can tell his parents about.

I think he worries about his parents disapproving of me being older than him..he may have controlling parents and he is too soft.

I knew his silence was more than just covid.

He apologised for not talking then basically told me this *

Posted by stardustmop

Posted by pooface222

My worst fear has been confirmed.

His almost silence has not been due to covid. He does have it because we spoke on the phone and he sounded awful.

However my fear is not me caring MORE about me, than him having covid.

He nessaged me earlier to tell me, hespoke to his best friend earlier today - he didnt say whether phone or WhatsApp video call and as a result of that..

He sent me a couple of messages on WhatsApp a few hours ago, I haven't replied because he sent then at 1.18am and didn't want to wake him.

Anyway...

As you all know, I've been worrying he has gone quiet because he us having 2nd thoughts about continuing to see me.

I mean its only been about a month, but with 20 days of isolation its almost nothing. We've inly had 2 dates.

I don't know what he wants to say but I'm going to copy & paste his 2 messages so you can tell me what you think.

I'm feeling sick he doesn't want to see me anymore.

Most of you know I've been though hell with my ex-husband (Aries). And hurt a lot over my Pisces lover.

So I'm dreading more pain over this cute Cancer guy who I really like!

Here are his 2 messages..

"Sorry I haven't been talking today, had a conversation with my best friend who I haven't spoke to in a while and it's put me in thought the whole day."

"But if I'm up when you wake up I want to say somethings because I've been thinking."



See?

I KNEW something was up with him - beyond covid.

Something is up that possibly has nothing to do with you lol. Just calm down. Wait to hear what he has to say

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I did wait.

I got dumped 😭

Posted by Aquarelle

I have a feeling he is not going to say what you want to hear....

Me too.

I had that Exact feeling.

And..

He dumped me.

What the serious fuck is wrong with people? Someone you've known for 3 years, flirted, kissed, made plans and NOW he's had this epiphany that you are *too old* for him? Suddenly now you're not ok? Well, guess what? HE'S not ok and it sounds like you're well rid of him. What an ass.

Posted by geminiflyby

What the serious fuck is wrong with people? Someone you've known for 3 years, flirted, kissed, made plans and NOW he's had this epiphany that you are *too old* for him? Suddenly now you're not ok? Well, guess what? HE'S not ok and it sounds like you're well rid of him. What an ass.

I know!

Well we didn't exactly know each other for 3yrs. He works in a coffee shop I go to almost every day. We always smiled intimately at each other but he is really shy.

So yeah.. after only 2 dates and lots of flirting..he dumped me!

Hey, you wanna strike back? Reply "alrighty" and block his ass.

Posted by stardustmop

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Carl8

Talk to him, building trust takes time, and no he isn't going to dump you.

He dumped me.

I am older than him (but not old). He wants a proper relationship with *someone more his age and without kids, and someone he can tell his parents about.

I think he worries about his parents disapproving of me being older than him..he may have controlling parents and he is too soft.

I knew his silence was more than just covid.

He apologised for not talking then basically told me this *

How much older are you?

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14yrs.

He's 26.

I'm 40.

He likes 'elder women' he said.

But..



I'm feeling less upset now.

He needs to grow up and let go of mummy's apron strings in my opinion!

Posted by goldenfish

Hey, you wanna strike back? Reply "alrighty" and block his ass.

Lol. Do you think that will work?

I haven't responded x

Posted by pooface222

Posted by goldenfish

Hey, you wanna strike back? Reply "alrighty" and block his ass.

Lol. Do you think that will work?

I haven't responded x

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Yeah, it will. Cancers are sensitive folks, indifference will get on his nerves lol. At the very least you will save your face. He probably thinks he punched you right in the gut, don’t give him a pleasure of confirmation.

Posted by geminiflyby

What the serious fuck is wrong with people? Someone you've known for 3 years, flirted, kissed, made plans and NOW he's had this epiphany that you are *too old* for him? Suddenly now you're not ok? Well, guess what? HE'S not ok and it sounds like you're well rid of him. What an ass.

Hi again..

Here is his message to me yesterday 😫😖🤦‍♀️

(A**ehole as far as I'm concerned)

'My friend made me realize that I can't do anything I should be doing,with you. I want to experience introducing someone to my family, I want to talk about someone with my friends, and just have a normal relationship without having to hide it. My friend was talking about how his dad likes his current girlfriend, and I want to experience normality for my first long-term relationship.

Don't get me wrong I do like elder women but I want to have a normal relationship. I couldn't stop thinking about this after the conversation I had with him.

I do want to stay friends tho I know this is random and coming out of nowhere but I felt like I should say this before we go further'

He actually said 'I do want to stay friends.'

HA! We never reached a level of friendship in the first place because I would go for coffee where he works so it was just ordering coffee, chit-chatting about things we both like eg music, movies and other interests, plus flirting.

Then a month ago - after 3yrs of This 👆 I finally gave him my number.

He was VERY excited. Calling me his girlfriend. Saying "I can't believe you are mine. You're finally mine."

Even saying "I love you" to me.

Ok a bit soon to say that but it was really endearing because he's so shy due to lack of rship experience.

We made plans to go for dinner and the cinema.

He was upset that he will be out of isolation This weekend but as I have my little one, we can't see each other.

So yeah!

As you said..What in the serious fuck!?

Reply with something “I’m sorry for you having such immature friends that they would get jealous or intimidated of you dating a confident, more experienced and classy woman. I hope you are not too ashamed of them. Keep making me a good cup of coffee in the future.”

Scared what his mammy thinks

Tell him to go suck his soother

What a jerk

😡

Nothing worse than a man(?) that lacks courage

I’d let him have it and not let him away with his terrible behaviour.

“I can't believe you are mine. You're finally mine."

Even saying "I love you" to me”

Bullshit

🙄😐

This being said, I once got the same offensive crap from a Pisces who was only 7 years younger. He was clinging onto a “friendship” afterwards, conflicted between what he wanted and what he though his friends and mother wanted for him. I ended up ghosting him.

I’d far more respect a bloke who didn’t give a toss what other people thought.

It’s nothing to do with his mother, father or anyone else who he dates. He’s an adult(?)

Some people never grow up

Such a turn off 👎🏻

Posted by MyStarsShine

“I can't believe you are mine. You're finally mine."

Even saying "I love you" to me”

Bullshit

🙄😐

Exactly!

Utter Bullshit!

It sounded cute but knowing how inexperienced he is, it was a little far-fetched.

Posted by Undine

Reply with something “I’m sorry for you having such immature friends that they would get jealous or intimidated of you dating a confident, more experienced and classy woman. I hope you are not too ashamed of them. Keep making me a good cup of coffee in the future.”

That is HILARIOUS!

I love it!!

Xx

Posted by pooface222

Posted by MyStarsShine

“I can't believe you are mine. You're finally mine."

Even saying "I love you" to me”

Bullshit

🙄😐

Exactly!

Utter Bullshit!

It sounded cute but knowing how inexperienced he is, it was a little far-fetched.

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Just words

What are you going to say to him?

I feel angry 😠 for you girl

Posted by Undine

This being said, I once got the same offensive crap from a Pisces who was only 7 years younger. He was clinging onto a “friendship” afterwards, conflicted between what he wanted and what he though his friends and mother wanted for him. I ended up ghosting him.

I have so far ghosted him!

Mainly because I don't know what to say to him except WELL DONE LITTLE BOY!

But even then I just can't be bothered saying Anything!

He's in isolation until this Saturday and will no doubt be back working an early morning shift on Tues when I'd normally see him before starting my work.

I'll just avoid him and find another cafe lol!

😄

Posted by stardustmop

He thinks he has to hide you 😐

I do give him points for giving you an explanation and not ghosting. I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction of being friends though.

Exactly!

I like his honesty.

But he is Not getting my friendship!

Because if he did find a 'more suitable girlfriend and it goes wrong, he may come back to me whining and saying "can we try again. I really like you."

Screw that! No!

Posted by Undine

This being said, I once got the same offensive crap from a Pisces who was only 7 years younger. He was clinging onto a “friendship” afterwards, conflicted between what he wanted and what he though his friends and mother wanted for him. I ended up ghosting him.

Oh God! No!

I don't blame you for ghosting him!

Posted by goldenfish

Posted by pooface222

Posted by goldenfish

Hey, you wanna strike back? Reply "alrighty" and block his ass.

Lol. Do you think that will work?

I haven't responded x

Yeah, it will. Cancers are sensitive folks, indifference will get on his nerves lol. At the very least you will save your face. He probably thinks he punched you right in the gut, don’t give him a pleasure of confirmation.

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🤣 Ok cool.

Will say just that.

I've said nothing so I don't know if he is interpreting that as me being hurt. Or not.

I've read and heard that the best revenge (for want of a better word), is ice cold Silence!

But saying Alrighty is just as good because it shows you don't give a shit either way!

The funny thing was that after he messaged me he kept checking back to see if I'd responded!!

I admit I was at first Expecting to be dumped.

Then I thought Maybe he won't.

Then I WAS dumped.

Then I cried.

Then I thought Screw You! Grow Up!

So I also admit that I kept going back to WhatsApp to see if he was looking for a response.

I gave him ZERO.

But he knew I was there because he would have noticed my Last Seen, as I also noticed his!

So we were both checking for each others response 🤣

Posted by MyStarsShine

I’d far more respect a bloke who didn’t give a toss what other people thought.

It’s nothing to do with his mother, father or anyone else who he dates. He’s an adult(?)

Some people never grow up

Such a turn off 👎🏻

Me too. What should matter is Your Relationship with that person - Not what other people think!

In my experiences as a cancer male with cap women:

I think he felt the rejection was a little too harshly delivered and he wasnt able to anticipate it. Also, from what i've noticed from the caps I've dealt with, is the rejection continues for a long time afterwards even past if there is no longer any attraction on my end. It's like they will have a "just in case he likes me or wants to sleep with me, i need to pre-emptively reject him" mindset and the topic will be brought up out of nowhere or in a tangent. I think they have no idea how harshly and painfully it is received. I think someone alluded to it a little earlier with the state about not throwing it in his face that you will not sleep with him.

Some cap gals who I was never attracted to but were attracted to me and thought I had reciprocated went a little overboard in trying to let me know that they too were not attracted which damaged things from ever being more than... well nothing. And cancers are acutely aware that a majority of caps will not take fault or blame to the death, for a lot of things, which is actually far from the truth as a cap will do this once you are "in" with them.

From my experience, if it ever goes to more than friends or anything in a romantic sense the aftermath is not friendship.

If you get what I'm saying this may save you both time.

Posted by rabidtalker

In my experiences as a cancer male with cap women:

I think he felt the rejection was a little too harshly delivered and he wasnt able to anticipate it. Also, from what i've noticed from the caps I've dealt with, is the rejection continues for a long time afterwards even past if there is no longer any attraction on my end. It's like they will have a "just in case he likes me or wants to sleep with me, i need to pre-emptively reject him" mindset and the topic will be brought up out of nowhere or in a tangent. I think they have no idea how harshly and painfully it is received. I think someone alluded to it a little earlier with the state about not throwing it in his face that you will not sleep with him.

Some cap gals who I was never attracted to but were attracted to me and thought I had reciprocated went a little overboard in trying to let me know that they too were not attracted which damaged things from ever being more than... well nothing. And cancers are acutely aware that a majority of caps will not take fault or blame to the death, for a lot of things, which is actually far from the truth as a cap will do this once you are "in" with them.

From my experience, if it ever goes to more than friends or anything in a romantic sense the aftermath is not friendship.

If you get what I'm saying this may save you both time.

Hi there 😊

Yes you are right. I was a little harsh in my delivery of him Going home and us not making love. But I was flirting with him because he challenged me with "I'd like to see you try" when I (flirtaciously) mentioned Calming Him Down due to all the sexy comments we made to each other.

I can't speak for every Capricorn woman but I have read many times that Caps Love to flirt! LOTS! And they are confident about it!

And I certainly am Both of these.

I Love to flirt with a man I truly do Want for a relationship ...And I'm confident with flirting too!

So maybe I scared him.

I never meant to.

I really REALLY like him. He's as cute a hell and I wanted a relationship with him.

So the More I flirt and the stronger I flirt with him, then the More I want him.

So by flirting that much, it shows Just How Much I Want him!

I think saying alrighty will let him off the hook. He behaved badly as though he was ashamed to be seen with you...

I’d call him out on it, if not his immature self may think he didn’t do any wrong?

Posted by pooface222

Posted by goldenfish

Posted by pooface222

Posted by goldenfish

Hey, you wanna strike back? Reply "alrighty" and block his ass.

Lol. Do you think that will work?

I haven't responded x

Yeah, it will. Cancers are sensitive folks, indifference will get on his nerves lol. At the very least you will save your face. He probably thinks he punched you right in the gut, don’t give him a pleasure of confirmation.

🤣 Ok cool.

Will say just that.

I've said nothing so I don't know if he is interpreting that as me being hurt. Or not.

I've read and heard that the best revenge (for want of a better word), is ice cold Silence!

But saying Alrighty is just as good because it shows you don't give a shit either way!

The funny thing was that after he messaged me he kept checking back to see if I'd responded!!

I admit I was at first Expecting to be dumped.

Then I thought Maybe he won't.

Then I WAS dumped.

Then I cried.

Then I thought Screw You! Grow Up!

So I also admit that I kept going back to WhatsApp to see if he was looking for a response.

I gave him ZERO.

But he knew I was there because he would have noticed my Last Seen, as I also noticed his!

So we were both checking for each others response 🤣

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Being sad is totally okay. But really, do not give your power away. Send "Alrighty", get dress up, call your friends, have some fun. Even better - go on a weekend trip. It has been a rough year, no need to get into drama and waste your energy. His loss - case closed. Oh! And do not accept any invitations "to talk" for a month (in case he asks). He already said what he wanted.

Hey, I actually know a Cap woman, Cancer man couple with a wide age gap! She is a stunning Brazilian, the type who gets hundreds of likes on social media. He, a decent but pretty average looking Joe.

I met them at Salsa dancing. Impressed by her exotic beauty (and not so much by the way my Gem ex was flirting with her in front of me, hehe) I looked her up on social media and other channels. She was a hairdresser and beauty salon owner, that's how I found out she was 40. Cancer was in his late twenties. Very proud of her, practically showing her up everywhere on his FB...he even had a pic where he was hugging both his GB and his mum! The women could have passed as friends, they even looked somewhat alike. Cancer, eh?

So it is possible! Don't buy any of the crap your Cancer is trying to sell you....Hell, maybe you should even stop buying his bloody coffee...

@Undine had it - hit him with it.

Posted by MyStarsShine

I think saying alrighty will let him off the hook. He behaved badly as though he was ashamed to be seen with you...

I’d call him out on it, if not his immature self may think he didn’t do any wrong?

What shall I say to Call Him Out?

I don't want to sound like I'm hurt etc as don't want to give him power.

What shall I say and How shall I say it?

I wan4 to make HIM feel shitty while maintaining my power and self-respect.