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Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
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Posted by LadyNeptuneAnd that men are subconciously looking to spread their seed. When I say older women, I'm talking women who are not at the age to have a baby or at least without complications.Posted by OrchideeCorrect. It's ingrained in our subconscious.Posted by CheVirgoYou should know that women subconciously look for financial stability for themselves and their offspring. It's their nature. A woman that is looking to support a man financially is just thirsty for love and desperate to be in a relationship.Posted by OrchideeThat sounds like the woman is not looking for love but a father figure or sugar daddy, someone to take care of her and pay her bills. I'm not disagreeing or agreeing lol I honesty don't know.Posted by CheVirgoBut that's part of natural law because younger woman is looking for financial stability plus women mature faster than men sexually and mentally.
Is it against natural law for an younger woman to marry an older male? I don't know it all depends on the individual.
Just like how men are more attracted to a woman with a curvy voluptuous hip to waist ratio because it indicates fertility.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks to science but the risk are still there.Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
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A male who doesn't desire to have his own kids can do whatever he wants, but I see a man who does want a kid of his own to restrict himself to what biology dictates.
Posted by OrchideeUmmm that's a silly argument against it. You realize that without science childbirth is the #1 killer of women, irregardless of age.Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks to science but the risk are still there.Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'll prolly freeze my eggs at 35/36ish. Not cause I want kids but because I want to have options.Posted by LadyNeptunenah fuk that, too expensive. trap a nigga.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeSafer bet is just to freeze your eggs. Marry a billionaire and hire a surrogatePosted by LadyNeptuneNo, first knocked up within 6 months, marriage by 42.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeAren't you in your late 30s??
im hoping for twins by 41.
You need to settle asap. Cause you figure 1-1.5 years dating, 6-8months to plan the wedding and then give yourself a least 6 months to get knocked up. Just right there your looking at 3 years minimum for your twins.
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Kinda like how you have no desire to do something until someone tells you NOT to do it. I refuse to have my body tell me what to do ?
Posted by LadyNeptune#1 killer, you say. Where are your stats? Also, I'm not putting down science. Science makes our life easy and allows the lot of us to make things possible that we couldn't without it.Posted by OrchideeUmmm that's a silly argument against it. You realize that without science childbirth is the #1 killer of women, irregardless of age.Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks to science but the risk are still there.Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
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My comment is simply stating that even if it's possible, it doesn't mean there's no risk anymore. Late pregnancy isn't ideal. It's a last resort for women.
Posted by OrchideeYeah it's pretty obvious and proven. Open a history book sometime maybe. Educate yourself on the struggle to gain contraceptives that women went through.Posted by LadyNeptune#1 killer, you say. Where are your stats? Also, I'm not putting down science. Science makes our life easy and allows the lot of us to make things possible that we couldn't without it.Posted by OrchideeUmmm that's a silly argument against it. You realize that without science childbirth is the #1 killer of women, irregardless of age.Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks to science but the risk are still there.Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
My comment is simply stating that even if it's possible, it doesn't mean there's no risk anymore. Late pregnancy isn't ideal. It's a last resort for women.
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Posted by LadyNeptuneYou said #1 killer. It's one of the killers, not no.1. Stop farting stats out of your ass.Posted by OrchideeYeah it's pretty obvious and proven. Open a history book sometime maybe. Educate yourself on the struggle to gain contraceptives that women went through.Posted by LadyNeptune#1 killer, you say. Where are your stats? Also, I'm not putting down science. Science makes our life easy and allows the lot of us to make things possible that we couldn't without it.Posted by OrchideeUmmm that's a silly argument against it. You realize that without science childbirth is the #1 killer of women, irregardless of age.Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks to science but the risk are still there.Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
My comment is simply stating that even if it's possible, it doesn't mean there's no risk anymore. Late pregnancy isn't ideal. It's a last resort for women.
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Posted by MaxPowerThis isn't about me. I'm having a general discussion. Your butthurt is showing because you're trying to make it about me. hahahaPosted by OrchideeNo one is stopping you from restricting yourself to younger women.
A male who doesn't desire to have his own kids can do whatever he wants, but I see a man who does want a kid of his own to restrict himself to what biology dictates.click to expand
Posted by MaxPowerAnd who was putting down science? Not me.Posted by OrchideeShe said it was the #1 killer before modern science. It was. Since the dawn of history.Posted by LadyNeptuneYou said #1 killer. It's one of the killers, not no.1. Stop farting stats out of your ass.Posted by OrchideeYeah it's pretty obvious and proven. Open a history book sometime maybe. Educate yourself on the struggle to gain contraceptives that women went through.Posted by LadyNeptune#1 killer, you say. Where are your stats? Also, I'm not putting down science. Science makes our life easy and allows the lot of us to make things possible that we couldn't without it.Posted by OrchideeUmmm that's a silly argument against it. You realize that without science childbirth is the #1 killer of women, irregardless of age.Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks to science but the risk are still there.Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
My comment is simply stating that even if it's possible, it doesn't mean there's no risk anymore. Late pregnancy isn't ideal. It's a last resort for women.
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Posted by MaxPowerSee, this is the problem with people online. They make everything about themselves and start to get upset. If you can't handle this discussion, see yourself out. You're taking this personally. YOu mentioned a while back that I'm like that other guy and you were leaving. Why are you still here?Posted by OrchideeYou're the only one who cares who everyone else fucks. Go fuck whomever you please whenever you please.Posted by MaxPowerThis isn't about me. I'm having a general discussion. Your butthurt is showing because you're trying to make it about me. hahahaPosted by OrchideeNo one is stopping you from restricting yourself to younger women.
A male who doesn't desire to have his own kids can do whatever he wants, but I see a man who does want a kid of his own to restrict himself to what biology dictates.click to expand
Posted by tizianiI'm not assuming monogamy at all. I could clarify my OP and say that the multiple women that so and so could be dating are older.
If you're going with the scientific "premise" then you have to acknowledge the assumptions you've made.
Your "going against nature" argument assumes that a man and a woman are naturally monogamous and you don't have science to back you up on that assumption.
For the rest, I think it's already been answered.
Posted by MaxPowerWhen did I insult you? I stated a fact which is proven in your posts to me. You're getting riled up for no reason. This isn't about you. If you can't separate your emotions from the discussion, then don't participate. Now, you're thinking I'm DJ. Sigh.Posted by OrchideeDeflectPosted by MaxPowerSee, this is the problem with people online. They make everything about themselves and start to get upset. If you can't handle this discussion, see yourself out. You're taking this personally. YOu mentioned a while back that I'm like that other guy and you were leaving. Why are you still here?Posted by OrchideeYou're the only one who cares who everyone else fucks. Go fuck whomever you please whenever you please.Posted by MaxPowerThis isn't about me. I'm having a general discussion. Your butthurt is showing because you're trying to make it about me. hahahaPosted by OrchideeNo one is stopping you from restricting yourself to younger women.
A male who doesn't desire to have his own kids can do whatever he wants, but I see a man who does want a kid of his own to restrict himself to what biology dictates.
Ad hominem attack
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Posted by tizianiPolygamy is a whole different matter. People are already riled up on this post, imagine if I came in with polygamy. lol. Obviously, I live in the west and such natural instinct is restrained by law here.Posted by OrchideeAnd the thread title. So then no problem. We've found a case where a man could marry an older woman, have children by other women and still be acting naturally according to your definition.Posted by tizianiI'm not assuming monogamy at all. I could clarify my OP and say that the multiple women that so and so could be dating are older.
If you're going with the scientific "premise" then you have to acknowledge the assumptions you've made.
Your "going against nature" argument assumes that a man and a woman are naturally monogamous and you don't have science to back you up on that assumption.
For the rest, I think it's already been answered.
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No. It is already extremely difficult for me to find a woman even around my age at the same stage in life I am. I have no kids and never been married, and most women my age are raising teenagers and some even have multiple marriages under their belt. These women should probably be with more experienced men as the only thing I am going to bring to the table for them is a rollercoaster they've already been on.
If an older woman was to come around that was youthful, also has no kids, or marriage baggage then her age wouldn't even matter at that point.
If an older woman was to come around that was youthful, also has no kids, or marriage baggage then her age wouldn't even matter at that point.
Posted by CrabraWhen you say an "an older woman was to come around..." what age range are you referring to? Do you want children of your own?
No. It is already extremely difficult for me to find a woman even around my age at the same stage in life I am. I have no kids and never been married, and most women my age are raising teenagers and some even have multiple marriages under their belt. These women should probably be with more experienced men as the only thing I am going to bring to the table for them is a rollercoaster they've already been on.
If an older woman was to come around that was youthful, also has no kids, or marriage baggage then her age wouldn't even matter at that point.
Posted by tiziani
If you're going with the scientific "premise" then you have to acknowledge the assumptions you've made.
Your "going against nature" argument assumes that a man and a woman are naturally monogamous and you don't have science to back you up on that assumption.
For the rest, I think it's already been answered.
Are you tiziani from blackbook astrology?
Posted by tizianiYou are astro erudite it seems. If you don't mind I'd like to tickle your brain about some placements.Posted by OrchideeI be him, yes. You're not going to jump me are you? lolPosted by tiziani
If you're going with the scientific "premise" then you have to acknowledge the assumptions you've made.
Your "going against nature" argument assumes that a man and a woman are naturally monogamous and you don't have science to back you up on that assumption.
For the rest, I think it's already been answered.
Are you tiziani from blackbook astrology?
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Posted by tizianiThank you!! Much appreciated 🙂Posted by OrchideeWhen you make a thread about the placements you have in mind, I'll be there.Posted by tizianiYou are astro erudite it seems. If you don't mind I'd like to tickle your brain about some placements.Posted by OrchideeI be him, yes. You're not going to jump me are you? lolPosted by tiziani
If you're going with the scientific "premise" then you have to acknowledge the assumptions you've made.
Your "going against nature" argument assumes that a man and a woman are naturally monogamous and you don't have science to back you up on that assumption.
For the rest, I think it's already been answered.
Are you tiziani from blackbook astrology?
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Posted by OrchideeNo. #1 killer befor science. Educate yourself.Posted by LadyNeptuneYou said #1 killer. It's one of the killers, not no.1. Stop farting stats out of your ass.Posted by OrchideeYeah it's pretty obvious and proven. Open a history book sometime maybe. Educate yourself on the struggle to gain contraceptives that women went through.Posted by LadyNeptune#1 killer, you say. Where are your stats? Also, I'm not putting down science. Science makes our life easy and allows the lot of us to make things possible that we couldn't without it.Posted by OrchideeUmmm that's a silly argument against it. You realize that without science childbirth is the #1 killer of women, irregardless of age.Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks to science but the risk are still there.Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
My comment is simply stating that even if it's possible, it doesn't mean there's no risk anymore. Late pregnancy isn't ideal. It's a last resort for women.
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Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks, Captain obvious.Posted by OrchideeNo. #1 killer befor science. Educate yourself.Posted by LadyNeptuneYou said #1 killer. It's one of the killers, not no.1. Stop farting stats out of your ass.Posted by OrchideeYeah it's pretty obvious and proven. Open a history book sometime maybe. Educate yourself on the struggle to gain contraceptives that women went through.Posted by LadyNeptune#1 killer, you say. Where are your stats? Also, I'm not putting down science. Science makes our life easy and allows the lot of us to make things possible that we couldn't without it.Posted by OrchideeUmmm that's a silly argument against it. You realize that without science childbirth is the #1 killer of women, irregardless of age.Posted by LadyNeptuneThanks to science but the risk are still there.Posted by OrchideeWomen are fertile into their 40s.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt's not about sexual peak, my dear. It's about sexual maturity in terms of when you become fertile.Posted by OrchideeActually it's going WITH nature.Posted by rabidtalker
The problem is you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction. That is why I dont get upset if I see people of varying races or ages date each other, because it's their choice. It is true some cultures and parts of the country will be more open minded or have more people in "non-traditional" relationships, but in things like this "fair" has nothing to do with it.
Nobody is talking about fair or unfair and nor should anyone be getting upset when they see people of varying races and ages date each other. The premise of this post is nothing trumps natural law and the social deviance we see nowadays has got to have a more concrete explanation and something as simple as "you can't socially pressure someone to feel attraction" is not sufficient. The question is not of feeling attraction. You can feel attraction for multiple people at one time. It's about what's driving a person to go against nature.
Women live on average 10 years older than men. Also they reach their sexual peak later in life. So nature is telling you to get with a woman whose older.
My comment is simply stating that even if it's possible, it doesn't mean there's no risk anymore. Late pregnancy isn't ideal. It's a last resort for women.
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I have been the older woman to a few men, all committed and loving relationships. They all seemed to adore me 🙂, bless them.
One married me.....not too much of a gap, just 11 years
One married me.....not too much of a gap, just 11 years
A cougar... possibly
Posted by MyStarsShineNice!! How old were you at the time and him?
I have been the older woman to a few men, all committed and loving relationships. They all seemed to adore me 🙂, bless them.
One married me.....not too much of a gap, just 11 years
Posted by MyStarsShineI was joking hope I didn't offendPosted by Mike79I was never a cougar
A cougar... possibly
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Posted by Mike79No you never do.....you are a good guyPosted by MyStarsShineI was joking hope I didn't offendPosted by Mike79I was never a cougar
A cougar... possibly
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I rarely get offended these days
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Posted by OrchideeTeens and 20sPosted by MyStarsShineNice!! How old were you at the time and him?
I have been the older woman to a few men, all committed and loving relationships. They all seemed to adore me 🙂, bless them.
One married me.....not too much of a gap, just 11 years
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I was his first love and he was only my third
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Posted by OrchideeNot sexually. Men reach their sexual prime in their 20ies. Women, at least 10 years later. Do your homework!Posted by CheVirgoBut that's part of natural law because younger woman is looking for financial stability plus women mature faster than men sexually and mentally.
Is it against natural law for an younger woman to marry an older male? I don't know it all depends on the individual.
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Women looking for financial stability are career orientated.
Mentally? It depends on the individual. Remaining mentally young is a goal for everyone.
WTF are some of you going on and on about natural law, but using in a wrong sense?
Natural "law" is what is natural to each one of us, not a cultural artefact like the idea that men should marry younger women.
If we are talking about age gap between partners, the "natural law" predicts that it would follow a gaussian distribution. The majority would like similar age. Some would like younger, and a similar number will prefer older.
I prefer older men, despite being chased all my life by younger men. Similarly, my very handsome father prefered older women, despite being exposed to young flirty female students on a daily basis.
Natural "law" is what is natural to each one of us, not a cultural artefact like the idea that men should marry younger women.
If we are talking about age gap between partners, the "natural law" predicts that it would follow a gaussian distribution. The majority would like similar age. Some would like younger, and a similar number will prefer older.
I prefer older men, despite being chased all my life by younger men. Similarly, my very handsome father prefered older women, despite being exposed to young flirty female students on a daily basis.
Posted by OrchideePosted by CrabraWhen you say an "an older woman was to come around..." what age range are you referring to? Do you want children of your own?
No. It is already extremely difficult for me to find a woman even around my age at the same stage in life I am. I have no kids and never been married, and most women my age are raising teenagers and some even have multiple marriages under their belt. These women should probably be with more experienced men as the only thing I am going to bring to the table for them is a rollercoaster they've already been on.
If an older woman was to come around that was youthful, also has no kids, or marriage baggage then her age wouldn't even matter at that point.
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If she was able to fill those requirements, then her age wouldn't really matter. It is difficult to put an age range. Obviously a woman of any age can come along with no kids, or marriages, or at the very least, is divorced/widowed and has been for some time. But the youthful requirement is going to rule out a lot of older women though. She has to keep up, and I am speedster. The oldest I would go is probably 45ish.
As for kids of my own, I told myself that if I don't have kids by 40, then I wasn't going to have any, and I am about 6 weeks away from that.
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WTF are some of you going on and on about natural law, but using in a wrong sense?
Natural "law" is what is natural to each one of us, not a cultural artefact like the idea that men should marry younger women.
If we are talking about age gap between partners, the "natural law" predicts that it would follow a gaussian distribution. The majority would like similar age. Some would like younger, and a similar number will prefer older.
I prefer older men, despite being chased all my life by younger men. Similarly, my very handsome father prefered older women, despite being exposed to young flirty female students on a daily basis.
Is/was your dad very intelligent Undine?
Posted by MaxPowerHe's not DJ, but definitely a retread.
Are you DJ? LOL
Posted by MyStarsShineHehe! xPosted by Undine
WTF are some of you going on and on about natural law, but using in a wrong sense?
Natural "law" is what is natural to each one of us, not a cultural artefact like the idea that men should marry younger women.
If we are talking about age gap between partners, the "natural law" predicts that it would follow a gaussian distribution. The majority would like similar age. Some would like younger, and a similar number will prefer older.
I prefer older men, despite being chased all my life by younger men. Similarly, my very handsome father prefered older women, despite being exposed to young flirty female students on a daily basis.
Is/was your dad very intelligent Undine?click to expand
Posted by MaxPowerPosted by CancerOnTheCuspI just been willy-nilly accusing e'rybody o being e'rybody. LOLPosted by MaxPowerHe's not DJ, but definitely a retread.
Are you DJ? LOL
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Posted by CrabraPosted by OrchideePosted by CrabraWhen you say an "an older woman was to come around..." what age range are you referring to? Do you want children of your own?
No. It is already extremely difficult for me to find a woman even around my age at the same stage in life I am. I have no kids and never been married, and most women my age are raising teenagers and some even have multiple marriages under their belt. These women should probably be with more experienced men as the only thing I am going to bring to the table for them is a rollercoaster they've already been on.
If an older woman was to come around that was youthful, also has no kids, or marriage baggage then her age wouldn't even matter at that point.
If she was able to fill those requirements, then her age wouldn't really matter. It is difficult to put an age range. Obviously a woman of any age can come along with no kids, or marriages, or at the very least, is divorced/widowed and has been for some time. But the youthful requirement is going to rule out a lot of older women though. She has to keep up, and I am speedster. The oldest I would go is probably 45ish.
As for kids of my own, I told myself that if I don't have kids by 40, then I wasn't going to have any, and I am about 6 weeks away from that.
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no slow women with strollers huh?
sounds like you would love to have children though. you're one of those men who would LOVE children.
weirdly I chose men (one exception was my 2nd ex who incidentally is terrible!!! worst ever but he desired children) who didn't want children or have no desire...so weird. but when they do have one, they are good fathers.
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not saying you wouldn't..of course you would if you put your mind to it, and you are a good man...
just rambling and thinking out loud...
I think ...men who want older women usually don't want to have children by the way. it just occurred to me... it makes sense. Men who are more "selfish" types don't want children and want to be babied by older mature women who want mommy's.....
they feel like the babies/children are competition..
they feel like the babies/children are competition..
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by CrabraPosted by OrchideePosted by CrabraWhen you say an "an older woman was to come around..." what age range are you referring to? Do you want children of your own?
No. It is already extremely difficult for me to find a woman even around my age at the same stage in life I am. I have no kids and never been married, and most women my age are raising teenagers and some even have multiple marriages under their belt. These women should probably be with more experienced men as the only thing I am going to bring to the table for them is a rollercoaster they've already been on.
If an older woman was to come around that was youthful, also has no kids, or marriage baggage then her age wouldn't even matter at that point.
If she was able to fill those requirements, then her age wouldn't really matter. It is difficult to put an age range. Obviously a woman of any age can come along with no kids, or marriages, or at the very least, is divorced/widowed and has been for some time. But the youthful requirement is going to rule out a lot of older women though. She has to keep up, and I am speedster. The oldest I would go is probably 45ish.
As for kids of my own, I told myself that if I don't have kids by 40, then I wasn't going to have any, and I am about 6 weeks away from that.
no slow women with strollers huh?
sounds like you would love to have children though. you're one of those men who would LOVE children.
weirdly I chose men (one exception was my 2nd ex who incidentally is terrible!!! worst ever but he desired children) who didn't want children or have no desire...so weird. but when they do have one, they are good fathers.
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not saying you wouldn't..of course you would if you put your mind to it, and you are a good man...
just rambling and thinking out loud...
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Well, thank you! And I appreciate the vote of confidence. I won't lie. I've always wanted a daughter, and I wanted/would've brought her up as best as I could to be someone to let the world know that good people still exist.
If I was currently with someone, and sharing a life together I would still consider it, and even go past that 40 yr deadline I set. But this isn't the case, and I don't foresee the situation changing anytime soon. I no longer believe parenthood was written in stars for me.
Posted by lisabethur8Or they are attracted to females who are confident, successful, and know what they want out of life.
I think ...men who want older women usually don't want to have children by the way. it just occurred to me... it makes sense. Men who are more "selfish" types don't want children and want to be babied by older mature women who want mommy's.....
they feel like the babies/children are competition..
Posted by MaxPowerSays the person who can't keep their emotions in check and discuss something without being butthuet and making it personal. I still don't know why you're here when you were so bothered earlier that you were claiming to exit the thread. lol.Posted by CancerOnTheCuspI just been willy-nilly accusing e'rybody o being e'rybody. LOLPosted by MaxPowerHe's not DJ, but definitely a retread.
Are you DJ? LOL
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Posted by lisabethur8Hmm. You could be onto something there. I've seen some emotional selfishness there and their views on children was peculiar too. As in how they perceived children.
I think ...men who want older women usually don't want to have children by the way. it just occurred to me... it makes sense. Men who are more "selfish" types don't want children and want to be babied by older mature women who want mommy's.....
they feel like the babies/children are competition..
Posted by LadyNeptuneAnd this too.Posted by lisabethur8Or they are attracted to females who are confident, successful, and know what they want out of life.
I think ...men who want older women usually don't want to have children by the way. it just occurred to me... it makes sense. Men who are more "selfish" types don't want children and want to be babied by older mature women who want mommy's.....
they feel like the babies/children are competition..
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Posted by Orchideethat's mostly the type of men i attract. I have that dynamic of parent/child. It must be the 10th/4th house themes. I"m the mommy.Posted by lisabethur8Hmm. You could be onto something there. I've seen some emotional selfishness there and their views on children was peculiar too. As in how they perceived children.
I think ...men who want older women usually don't want to have children by the way. it just occurred to me... it makes sense. Men who are more "selfish" types don't want children and want to be babied by older mature women who want mommy's.....
they feel like the babies/children are competition..
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I've read in astrology that couples get together with the teacher/student thing, that is 9th house/3rd house theme...
and with 10th/4th house themes it's parent/child. It's a strong dynamic though. and it is what works.
it just doesn't sound so romantic. lol
edit -- i just realized years ago, my last ex has a pisces sun mother who was with a younger man 30 plus younger than him.
and look, her son chose me!!! it's weird but the psychology is TRUE....there is something similar....
not exactly on point but the psychology of your parents, either one...will show through somehow.
but we weren't that big gap like his mother, but the theme is there.
i thought in astrology, it is very true, and it is also a deeply psychological thing. My mother in law now, is a Capricorn with aqua placements. the astrology is sooo interesting.
I don't remember the actual question butttt guys around my way love older women.. can't really give an average age difference, maybe 5-15 years older
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