Aerazo
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Break up. How do Caps handle breaking up with someone?
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"Break up of our whatever relationship we had"
I'm going to start by saying that their reaction is probably proportional to the type of relationship that ended.
I'm going to start by saying that their reaction is probably proportional to the type of relationship that ended.
Posted by LillyPetalI know I will have to give details for people to understand.
"Break up of our whatever relationship we had"
I'm going to start by saying that their reaction is probably proportional to the type of relationship that ended.
So here it goes:
We were friends, we like each other but we kept things from us so that it wouldn't look like we were crossing a line to be bf/gf when we weren't ready to step up.
I planned a trip with my best friend sort of last minute weekend getaway and he ended up booking a trip for the same days in the same city. Miami
I got upset over something and blocked him, I didn't want to ruin our trips since we were both on different ways.
As an Aqua I know I'm cold as ice and I regret it now. I blocked him through the whole trip, never met or answered him and I texted him again on Friday, days after we got back.
I initially wanted to go and talk to him about several issues and why I did what I did.
But my mind and feelings were blocked, I couldn't bring anything up and he even asked me if I had something to say and I said no.
He was really upset, I could see it.. he then told me he met someone and the story was the same thing as when he met me, but anyway he told me that how did I expect to dissappear and then come back all of a sudden like nothing happened. He's right. I know.
He also said that if I told him to stop talking to the girl he would. I told him I wasn't anyone to make him stop talking to someone that if that's what he wants then to go with it but I wasn't gonna be part of it.
He said that he likes me a lot bc I know him and I understand him, we have a good friendship primarily but
Then he told me a lot of hurtful things, to which I obviously answered to in a bad attitude as well.
Yes, everything was wrong that night.
He told me everything in a way that he was extremely upset, now i don't know either if it's actually what he wanted or he was just upset.
We have had little contact since then but he's still making comments as in " don't sweat it" and comments like that.
Maybe it's over for good.
Posted by ScorpioTruthHe's an Aries moon, I'm Gemini moon.
does he have a Scorpio moon? lol
Initially I was thinking just take astrology out of the equation and to take him at his word instead of trying to figure him out. But in my early 20s I dated a cap with a Scorpio moon as well as a cancer with a Scorpio moon and they were evil as hell when they were mad at me.
My sons dad is a cap with a cancer moon and to this day, after almost 9 years, he still has not said anything even remotely disrespectful to me even after I've said some hurtful things like called him a coward and told him he disgusted me (after he had the affair). ?
He refers to me as "his world" so I'd assume that I mean a lot to him and even after I've pissed him off he's never said anything mean or disrespectful, but he has raised his voice out of frustration.
Yes I try taking astrology out of it and try to understand him, I know a huge part of it was my fault, I know he doesn't take negative emotions well.
I just go senseless when I'm upset too, so I'm not the type to beg or cry for attention or even in nature. I go cold and calm, so it may be taken as if I don't care.
and he even said he thought I wasn't gonna talk to him ever again. I have never gone more than a day without replying to him and he never did either.
Posted by Gob_ShiteI know it's also on my side. which is why I'm asking if there's a possibility to fix this.
Going by your utterly clueless posts and threads, can you really blame him?
This reminds me of my ex when he was so upset at me many times he said he wouldn't even marry me, but we were together for 12 yrs and he tried to keep me away from people.
when I ended things with him over the fact that he wouldn't marry me, and be possessive he said he loved me.
Also, Cap wanted to get me drunk that night to talk. Same as my ex cap one day told me to drink with him and it turned out bad.
I keep seeing the same patterns but I wish I could do something to change the direction.
Posted by ScorpioTruthYes, and it was even worst than that.
Oh ok, yeah I think it's more his Aries moon that's talking versus his sun sign.
I just saw your post about the entire incident... I can kinda see where he was coming from too. But men typically want what they can't have so maybe you being so detached is a turn-on for him. Who knows. Men are strange creatures. Lol but on the flipside if he thinks you're playing games I imagine that won't sit well with him and maybe that's why he lashed out.
He told me he's running away from love, he doesn't like it bc of the trust, people cheat. (I know he was hurt badly before).
I told him why tell me this if he knows how I feel about him. He said I don't know how you feel about me. I said, I have feelings for you, why do you think I've been with you all this time.
He said: I don't know, you never told me.
(True, I never spoke about my feelings, he told me he liked me several times, but is hard for me to say it)
They were a lot of things that came up in the argument that I don't know how to take.
I told him after I went home:
Sorry, I had to take it on you somehow. it really hurt me to see that I never meant anything to you. Not even respect me and I tried my best to show that I have strong feelings for you.
He answered: Don't sweat it.
I was married to a Cap and he used to say some of the meanest things. He would find out my weakness and use it against me in arguments.
After having our son, I was self conscious about the baby weight. Looking back now, it wasn't even much but it bothered me. He got mad once and called me a cow and tortured me until I "mooed". I can't speak of every Cap but he was a mean bastard.
After having our son, I was self conscious about the baby weight. Looking back now, it wasn't even much but it bothered me. He got mad once and called me a cow and tortured me until I "mooed". I can't speak of every Cap but he was a mean bastard.
Posted by RindarooI deleted him off from certain social media where I knew I could see what he's doing and I didn't want to have the anxiety to check, Snapchat, ig. I honestly didn't think he cared that much about it but it looks like he did.Posted by AerazoDid you block him as in not talk to him or on your phone? It sounds to me like he was hurt, someone else appeared so he went there. I think he needed to have you show you cared, instead you shut him out.Posted by LillyPetalI know I will have to give details for people to understand.
"Break up of our whatever relationship we had"
I'm going to start by saying that their reaction is probably proportional to the type of relationship that ended.
So here it goes:
We were friends, we like each other but we kept things from us so that it wouldn't look like we were crossing a line to be bf/gf when we weren't ready to step up.
I planned a trip with my best friend sort of last minute weekend getaway and he ended up booking a trip for the same days in the same city. Miami
I got upset over something and blocked him, I didn't want to ruin our trips since we were both on different ways.
As an Aqua I know I'm cold as ice and I regret it now. I blocked him through the whole trip, never met or answered him and I texted him again on Friday, days after we got back.
I initially wanted to go and talk to him about several issues and why I did what I did.
But my mind and feelings were blocked, I couldn't bring anything up and he even asked me if I had something to say and I said no.
He was really upset, I could see it.. he then told me he met someone and the story was the same thing as when he met me, but anyway he told me that how did I expect to dissappear and then come back all of a sudden like nothing happened. He's right. I know.
He also said that if I told him to stop talking to the girl he would. I told him I wasn't anyone to make him stop talking to someone that if that's what he wants then to go with it but I wasn't gonna be part of it.
He said that he likes me a lot bc I know him and I understand him, we have a good friendship primarily but
Then he told me a lot of hurtful things, to which I obviously answered to in a bad attitude as well.
Yes, everything was wrong that night.
He told me everything in a way that he was extremely upset, now i don't know either if it's actually what he wanted or he was just upset.
We have had little contact since then but he's still making comments as in " don't sweat it" and comments like that.
Maybe it's over for good.
I've been going through stuff with my Cap. I've seen patterns too that have scared me. But what I've finally realized is he is not my ex, he reacts differently & I shouldn't let my fear make me shut down. I noticed he got distant & cold like he was protecting himself. For 3 weeks I let that go on & I honestly believe he was talking to someone else cuz he was hurt & thought it was about to end. Then I communicated my feelings & things are much better now. Not the same as before, but I hope we are healing. I realize from your post that I need to suck it up & be more open about my feelings. I think they need that. To know you are really there & not running away. To know they are loved or liked a lot. Anyway, so what if there is someone he was talking to. He wasn't your bf - but I don't quite know how you break up if it wasn't a relationship ? If you want to make it work, tell him how you feel.click to expand
Saturday he texted me to meet but he didn't show. (he said later: it rained so he figured no pool party , but he was already upset)
Sunday he asked me if I was still in Miami and I didn't answer. I left Tuesday and posted it on fb leaving from the airport (I still had him there) he put a shock face, I didn't say anything. I posted a comment at night which he liked and a friend I met in Miami put "love" which I think irritated him more. he asked me about the friend during the argument.
I tried reaching out to him even after he was being disrespectful to me, I told him I lost respect for him and he said that I just don't like truths, sometimes it hurts and is not what we want to hear.
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
I do want to fix things but I don't know if it will be the best, I tried to understand his busy schedule and selfishness when it comes to work and school but he definitely has to do more if he wants something serious, at least for me to respond to him and not disappear like I did.
Is hard to get to him, I know it will be hard for me to go see him or talk, he's always defensive and then attacks. :/
I wonder if he will come back on his own..
I replied to his text from yesterday this morning at 6am and he replied right away
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Posted by Deedee86Wow!!! No!! that's just crazy..
I was married to a Cap and he used to say some of the meanest things. He would find out my weakness and use it against me in arguments.
After having our son, I was self conscious about the baby weight. Looking back now, it wasn't even much but it bothered me. He got mad once and called me a cow and tortured me until I "mooed". I can't speak of every Cap but he was a mean bastard.
I'm sorry you went through that. But yes I can relate to the mean comments.
I remember most of them and if I bring it up to my ex cap he says he doesn't know why he'd say something like that, he said he would just have a mental block and go on fire.
Posted by AerazoPosted by Deedee86Wow!!! No!! that's just crazy..
I was married to a Cap and he used to say some of the meanest things. He would find out my weakness and use it against me in arguments.
After having our son, I was self conscious about the baby weight. Looking back now, it wasn't even much but it bothered me. He got mad once and called me a cow and tortured me until I "mooed". I can't speak of every Cap but he was a mean bastard.
I'm sorry you went through that. But yes I can relate to the mean comments.
I remember most of them and if I bring it up to my ex cap he says he doesn't know why he'd say something like that, he said he would just have a mental block and go on fire.
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Exactly. I could write a book of his nasty comments but he would always say that it meant nothing.
Posted by Gob_ShiteYou just described everything that happened. it was very explosive and I don't know if it was my gem moon or what but I know I said really bad things to him too.Posted by Aerazo
He's an Aries moon, I'm Gemini moon.
Aries mooners, regardless of their sun sign, never hold back when they're angry.
One of their strategies is to hurt the recipient as much as possible, even if that includes lying, highlighting the recipient's flaws and bringing up things originally said in confidence.
Rarely do they only focus on the issue being 'discussed' and, during the heat of the moment, they conveniently forget the virtues of the recipient. It may seem childish, counterproductive and reckless but that's one of the downsides of getting involved with an Aries mooner.
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I even told him that I never trusted him which was the reason I never introduced him to my kids. and other shit that I regret now.
Should I just give him time, if he wants me he will come back...?
I guess that's how it is with guys.
http://www.forestforwomen.com/2012/03/moon-in-aries-with-moon-in-gemini.html?m=1
He loves having arguments with me, which I posted before as him being dramatic, but yes I can see myself pushing his buttons.
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Posted by Deedee86W T actual F!!!!
I was married to a Cap and he used to say some of the meanest things. He would find out my weakness and use it against me in arguments.
After having our son, I was self conscious about the baby weight. Looking back now, it wasn't even much but it bothered me. He got mad once and called me a cow and tortured me until I "mooed". I can't speak of every Cap but he was a mean bastard.
I can't even ENVISION my Sea-Goat doing something like that. I mean, he does liken me to animals (like when I wore a SCUBA wetsuit type of swimsuit and he said I looked like an otter - but that was one of the best compliments I have ever received!) But I can't see him deliberately hurting me like your ex did you. I hope your experience doesn't continue to give you a bad idea about Capricorn men.
Your ex sounds like he was just sadistic. I'm happy you were able to get away from that! ?
Is this the guy that said the mutual stuff ?
Posted by SofiaV87Yeah he had told me all that about us before my switch flipped and decided to block him everywhere to have time for myself, relax and think about everything in a calm way while in Miami. When I finally reached out to him this past Friday, we had a huge fight.
Is this the guy that said the mutual stuff ?
:/
Posted by Gob_Shiteit's been a roller coaster of emotions. Mostly I guess bc we both have our guard up very high.Posted by AerazoPosted by Gob_ShiteYou just described everything that happened. it was very explosive and I don't know if it was my gem moon or what but I know I said really bad things to him too.Posted by Aerazo
He's an Aries moon, I'm Gemini moon.
Aries mooners, regardless of their sun sign, never hold back when they're angry.
One of their strategies is to hurt the recipient as much as possible, even if that includes lying, highlighting the recipient's flaws and bringing up things originally said in confidence.
Rarely do they only focus on the issue being 'discussed' and, during the heat of the moment, they conveniently forget the virtues of the recipient. It may seem childish, counterproductive and reckless but that's one of the downsides of getting involved with an Aries mooner.
I even told him that I never trusted him which was the reason I never introduced him to my kids. and other shit that I regret now.
Should I just give him time, if he wants me he will come back...?
I guess that's how it is with guys.
http://www.forestforwomen.com/2012/03/moon-in-aries-with-moon-in-gemini.html?m=1
He loves having arguments with me, which I posted before as him being dramatic, but yes I can see myself pushing his buttons.
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On the bright side, Aries mooners quickly forget about what made them angry in the first place. However, IMHO, that potentially entertains co-dependency.
From what you've posted to date, you should move on.
Aquas and Caps have great potential but, from personal experiences, Aquas are too tactless, clueless (especially in romantic relationships) and devoid of sufficient empathy for Caps to tolerate in the long-term.
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and is hard to be expressive without knowing what the other person feels.
Thanks!
Yes, I am clueless in romantic relationships but the Cap usually is the only sign that makes me feel romantic in some way.
Posted by RindarooThanks! yes, I know that wasn't my best move and I thought he wasn't gonna care since we both planned the trips separately, just confidentially ended up there and I didn't want to have my hopes too high for him so I wouldn't be dissappointed, I thought blocking him was gonna be best for both to enjoy our trips as planned and come back fresh. Yes. I can see he has a temper and fiery, I'm cold and calm which makes him even more upset. He pushes me too until I react.Posted by AerazoPosted by RindarooI deleted him off from certain social media where I knew I could see what he's doing and I didn't want to have the anxiety to check, Snapchat, ig. I honestly didn't think he cared that much about it but it looks like he did.Posted by AerazoDid you block him as in not talk to him or on your phone? It sounds to me like he was hurt, someone else appeared so he went there. I think he needed to have you show you cared, instead you shut him out.Posted by LillyPetalI know I will have to give details for people to understand.
"Break up of our whatever relationship we had"
I'm going to start by saying that their reaction is probably proportional to the type of relationship that ended.
So here it goes:
We were friends, we like each other but we kept things from us so that it wouldn't look like we were crossing a line to be bf/gf when we weren't ready to step up.
I planned a trip with my best friend sort of last minute weekend getaway and he ended up booking a trip for the same days in the same city. Miami
I got upset over something and blocked him, I didn't want to ruin our trips since we were both on different ways.
As an Aqua I know I'm cold as ice and I regret it now. I blocked him through the whole trip, never met or answered him and I texted him again on Friday, days after we got back.
I initially wanted to go and talk to him about several issues and why I did what I did.
But my mind and feelings were blocked, I couldn't bring anything up and he even asked me if I had something to say and I said no.
He was really upset, I could see it.. he then told me he met someone and the story was the same thing as when he met me, but anyway he told me that how did I expect to dissappear and then come back all of a sudden like nothing happened. He's right. I know.
He also said that if I told him to stop talking to the girl he would. I told him I wasn't anyone to make him stop talking to someone that if that's what he wants then to go with it but I wasn't gonna be part of it.
He said that he likes me a lot bc I know him and I understand him, we have a good friendship primarily but
Then he told me a lot of hurtful things, to which I obviously answered to in a bad attitude as well.
Yes, everything was wrong that night.
He told me everything in a way that he was extremely upset, now i don't know either if it's actually what he wanted or he was just upset.
We have had little contact since then but he's still making comments as in " don't sweat it" and comments like that.
Maybe it's over for good.
I've been going through stuff with my Cap. I've seen patterns too that have scared me. But what I've finally realized is he is not my ex, he reacts differently & I shouldn't let my fear make me shut down. I noticed he got distant & cold like he was protecting himself. For 3 weeks I let that go on & I honestly believe he was talking to someone else cuz he was hurt & thought it was about to end. Then I communicated my feelings & things are much better now. Not the same as before, but I hope we are healing. I realize from your post that I need to suck it up & be more open about my feelings. I think they need that. To know you are really there & not running away. To know they are loved or liked a lot. Anyway, so what if there is someone he was talking to. He wasn't your bf - but I don't quite know how you break up if it wasn't a relationship ? If you want to make it work, tell him how you feel.
Saturday he texted me to meet but he didn't show. (he said later: it rained so he figured no pool party , but he was already upset)
Sunday he asked me if I was still in Miami and I didn't answer. I left Tuesday and posted it on fb leaving from the airport (I still had him there) he put a shock face, I didn't say anything. I posted a comment at night which he liked and a friend I met in Miami put "love" which I think irritated him more. he asked me about the friend during the argument.
I tried reaching out to him even after he was being disrespectful to me, I told him I lost respect for him and he said that I just don't like truths, sometimes it hurts and is not what we want to hear.
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
I do want to fix things but I don't know if it will be the best, I tried to understand his busy schedule and selfishness when it comes to work and school but he definitely has to do more if he wants something serious, at least for me to respond to him and not disappear like I did.
Is hard to get to him, I know it will be hard for me to go see him or talk, he's always defensive and then attacks. :/
I wonder if he will come back on his own..
I replied to his text from yesterday this morning at 6am and he replied right away
😢
Well it definitely sounds like he was hurt. You acted like you wanted nothing to do with him. Not everyone should have to put up with disappearing acts. You know if you care, you stay and work it out or not. Also, I was married to an Aries & they have a BAD temper. Sounds like his Aries moon was flaming. Let it all cool down and try talking later on. You need it decide if it's worth it also. If you are scared he's like someone in your past or if it's actually about him. Space sounds like a good thing right now.
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Posted by RindarooLol that is actually true. He's really fiery, he knows what to say to get me mad and he knows I try to leave and walk away but he comes after me so I could listen to his complaints. But not when he's ok, usually when he's drunk and can't hold it. Since he keeps coming after me, I can't hold it but to slap him or hit him. it doesn't do anything to him, I'm 5'2" slim He's 6ft and a ex pro boxer. So to him is like poking him. Usually he then comes all sweet to get me back and make me laugh but this time he didnt. He did seem very upset.Posted by AerazoYeah I know a Leo like that. What I have generally done is let him flame aka spout off and realize he just needs to get the energy out. My Aries ex held it in til it exploded which is actually worse. As a fire sign, how it works with Leo's is better for me. The way it goes is when they hear your emotion & feelings then they feel better and calm down. But if it never comes out, they don't know and it just boils in there. I honestly don't know about you with his Aries moon. I have never dated an air sign before, but I used to have a best friend who was a Gemini & lord she would really retreat if I flamed at all. Sounds kinda like this.Posted by RindarooThanks! yes, I know that wasn't my best move and I thought he wasn't gonna care since we both planned the trips separately, just confidentially ended up there and I didn't want to have my hopes too high for him so I wouldn't be dissappointed, I thought blocking him was gonna be best for both to enjoy our trips as planned and come back fresh. Yes. I can see he has a temper and fiery, I'm cold and calm which makes him even more upset. He pushes me too until I react.Posted by AerazoPosted by RindarooI deleted him off from certain social media where I knew I could see what he's doing and I didn't want to have the anxiety to check, Snapchat, ig. I honestly didn't think he cared that much about it but it looks like he did.Posted by AerazoDid you block him as in not talk to him or on your phone? It sounds to me like he was hurt, someone else appeared so he went there. I think he needed to have you show you cared, instead you shut him out.Posted by LillyPetalI know I will have to give details for people to understand.
"Break up of our whatever relationship we had"
I'm going to start by saying that their reaction is probably proportional to the type of relationship that ended.
So here it goes:
We were friends, we like each other but we kept things from us so that it wouldn't look like we were crossing a line to be bf/gf when we weren't ready to step up.
I planned a trip with my best friend sort of last minute weekend getaway and he ended up booking a trip for the same days in the same city. Miami
I got upset over something and blocked him, I didn't want to ruin our trips since we were both on different ways.
As an Aqua I know I'm cold as ice and I regret it now. I blocked him through the whole trip, never met or answered him and I texted him again on Friday, days after we got back.
I initially wanted to go and talk to him about several issues and why I did what I did.
But my mind and feelings were blocked, I couldn't bring anything up and he even asked me if I had something to say and I said no.
He was really upset, I could see it.. he then told me he met someone and the story was the same thing as when he met me, but anyway he told me that how did I expect to dissappear and then come back all of a sudden like nothing happened. He's right. I know.
He also said that if I told him to stop talking to the girl he would. I told him I wasn't anyone to make him stop talking to someone that if that's what he wants then to go with it but I wasn't gonna be part of it.
He said that he likes me a lot bc I know him and I understand him, we have a good friendship primarily but
Then he told me a lot of hurtful things, to which I obviously answered to in a bad attitude as well.
Yes, everything was wrong that night.
He told me everything in a way that he was extremely upset, now i don't know either if it's actually what he wanted or he was just upset.
We have had little contact since then but he's still making comments as in " don't sweat it" and comments like that.
Maybe it's over for good.
I've been going through stuff with my Cap. I've seen patterns too that have scared me. But what I've finally realized is he is not my ex, he reacts differently & I shouldn't let my fear make me shut down. I noticed he got distant & cold like he was protecting himself. For 3 weeks I let that go on & I honestly believe he was talking to someone else cuz he was hurt & thought it was about to end. Then I communicated my feelings & things are much better now. Not the same as before, but I hope we are healing. I realize from your post that I need to suck it up & be more open about my feelings. I think they need that. To know you are really there & not running away. To know they are loved or liked a lot. Anyway, so what if there is someone he was talking to. He wasn't your bf - but I don't quite know how you break up if it wasn't a relationship ? If you want to make it work, tell him how you feel.
Saturday he texted me to meet but he didn't show. (he said later: it rained so he figured no pool party , but he was already upset)
Sunday he asked me if I was still in Miami and I didn't answer. I left Tuesday and posted it on fb leaving from the airport (I still had him there) he put a shock face, I didn't say anything. I posted a comment at night which he liked and a friend I met in Miami put "love" which I think irritated him more. he asked me about the friend during the argument.
I tried reaching out to him even after he was being disrespectful to me, I told him I lost respect for him and he said that I just don't like truths, sometimes it hurts and is not what we want to hear.
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
I do want to fix things but I don't know if it will be the best, I tried to understand his busy schedule and selfishness when it comes to work and school but he definitely has to do more if he wants something serious, at least for me to respond to him and not disappear like I did.
Is hard to get to him, I know it will be hard for me to go see him or talk, he's always defensive and then attacks. :/
I wonder if he will come back on his own..
I replied to his text from yesterday this morning at 6am and he replied right away
😢
Well it definitely sounds like he was hurt. You acted like you wanted nothing to do with him. Not everyone should have to put up with disappearing acts. You know if you care, you stay and work it out or not. Also, I was married to an Aries & they have a BAD temper. Sounds like his Aries moon was flaming. Let it all cool down and try talking later on. You need it decide if it's worth it also. If you are scared he's like someone in your past or if it's actually about him. Space sounds like a good thing right now.
My Cap is heavily earth, and super calm until really pushed to his limit. so a little different. I'm the fiery one except I work on being calm lol.click to expand
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Posted by AerazoPosted by SofiaV87Yeah he had told me all that about us before my switch flipped and decided to block him everywhere to have time for myself, relax and think about everything in a calm way while in Miami. When I finally reached out to him this past Friday, we had a huge fight.
Is this the guy that said the mutual stuff ?
Oooo sorry ugh
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The caps I know usually just sleep with someone else really fast.
Posted by Gob_Shiteexcuse me??Posted by Rindaroo
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
Are you fucking serious? You completely iced him out, during your trip to Miami - the same trip he went on to spend more time with you (and many had to point this out, on your thread about it, even though it was so bloody obvious). And you're now expecting him to remain civil with you?! You practically shat on him!
This is why I would never date an Aqua again - you lot are complete dunces, regarding affairs of the heart, it's not even funny.
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you are so wishy washy. you say it's not just sun sign, but because this OP doesn't know how to keep a man or get one that is good,
you blame the sun sign?
you have a venus aquarius. I know what that is all about from my family relatives.
you all love detached love.
Posted by Aerazo
I had a recent argument with Cap which led to the break up of our whatever relationship we had.
He was very hurtful and we said a lot of hurtful things to each other. I know we werent very good at communicating and sometimes some things just need to come out.
If a Cap realizes she's not the one he wants. I would have thought that he would be calm and talk nicely about breaking the bond but it went down with a lot of drama on his side.
I've seen another thread where people asked if Caps mean what they say when they are mad and another Cap told me that most of the time the are hurtful is with the person they care about bc if it's something they can't control, it upsets them to the point of trying to hate the other person to push them away or forget about them.
After all, is there a way to fix things? there's no doubt that we like each other a lot.
Maybe I should give up on Cap men lol
why don't you just stay away from relationships until you are ready for full time commitment?
Posted by Gob_Shitelol okPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_Shiteexcuse me??Posted by Rindaroo
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
Are you fucking serious? You completely iced him out, during your trip to Miami - the same trip he went on to spend more time with you (and many had to point this out, on your thread about it, even though it was so bloody obvious). And you're now expecting him to remain civil with you?! You practically shat on him!
This is why I would never date an Aqua again - you lot are complete dunces, regarding affairs of the heart, it's not even funny.
you are so wishy washy. you say it's not just sun sign, but because this OP doesn't know how to keep a man or get one that is good,
you blame the sun sign?
you have a venus aquarius. I know what that is all about from my family relatives.
you all love detached love.
Get off your high horse and put a sock in it. You just can't stand the harsh truth.
As for me allegedly claiming "it's not just sun sign", it really depends on the situation and what aspect of the person's characteristic is being discussed (e.g. ego, emotions, actions, etc.). I know you're able to grasp that and it doesn't need to be spelt out to you.
Lastly, with regards to my Aqua Venus, I have my Pisces moon to balance things out, so throwing that in my face isn't going to work.
The OP's previous posts and threads speak for themselves, and further supports my own personal experiences with Aqua women. And, as I have yet to encounter an exception to the rule, I will continue holding this POV until I'm proven otherwise.
If you want to get on the defensive, due to your peer group mentality, more the fool you.
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i get you then.
she does constantly make topics on cap men.
she can't keep one it seems.
Yes they will try to hate you, to get you out of their head...and its very obvious. My ex would literally make crap up and message me stupid shit like-"you are fucking this basketball player dude, I knew you were a whore" LOL!
Literally trying to convince himself of shit that wasn't true. I was all sorts, including a prostitute. I found it amusing.
Literally trying to convince himself of shit that wasn't true. I was all sorts, including a prostitute. I found it amusing.
OP,
no offense....but it's true.
if you can't keep 'em....something is up.
no offense....but it's true.
if you can't keep 'em....something is up.
Posted by Aerazowhat are his placements?
I had a recent argument with Cap which led to the break up of our whatever relationship we had.
He was very hurtful and we said a lot of hurtful things to each other. I know we werent very good at communicating and sometimes some things just need to come out.
If a Cap realizes she's not the one he wants. I would have thought that he would be calm and talk nicely about breaking the bond but it went down with a lot of drama on his side.
I've seen another thread where people asked if Caps mean what they say when they are mad and another Cap told me that most of the time the are hurtful is with the person they care about bc if it's something they can't control, it upsets them to the point of trying to hate the other person to push them away or forget about them.
After all, is there a way to fix things? there's no doubt that we like each other a lot.
Maybe I should give up on Cap men lol
it would give a great idea of what his placements are.
because if a Capricorn man is not with you, staying with you even though he is upset.
he is not into you.
I've seen it with my uncles. they don't want to be with a woman who lets them down a lot.
they forgive but if it's too much, they would rather be alone than be let down all the time.
they love complicated women i notice.
Posted by Gob_Shitei agree, with her having Gemini moon....Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_Shitelol okPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_Shiteexcuse me??Posted by Rindaroo
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
Are you fucking serious? You completely iced him out, during your trip to Miami - the same trip he went on to spend more time with you (and many had to point this out, on your thread about it, even though it was so bloody obvious). And you're now expecting him to remain civil with you?! You practically shat on him!
This is why I would never date an Aqua again - you lot are complete dunces, regarding affairs of the heart, it's not even funny.
you are so wishy washy. you say it's not just sun sign, but because this OP doesn't know how to keep a man or get one that is good,
you blame the sun sign?
you have a venus aquarius. I know what that is all about from my family relatives.
you all love detached love.
Get off your high horse and put a sock in it. You just can't stand the harsh truth.
As for me allegedly claiming "it's not just sun sign", it really depends on the situation and what aspect of the person's characteristic is being discussed (e.g. ego, emotions, actions, etc.). I know you're able to grasp that and it doesn't need to be spelt out to you.
Lastly, with regards to my Aqua Venus, I have my Pisces moon to balance things out, so throwing that in my face isn't going to work.
The OP's previous posts and threads speak for themselves, and further supports my own personal experiences with Aqua women. And, as I have yet to encounter an exception to the rule, I will continue holding this POV until I'm proven otherwise.
If you want to get on the defensive, due to your peer group mentality, more the fool you.
i get you then.
she does constantly make topics on cap men.
she can't keep one it seems.
She has an air sun and moon. She'd probably do a lot better with either an air or fire sun. Unless air dominant, Caps simply aren't for her.
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as well. and an aqua sun and aqua venus? with sag mars?
no way!!!!
she needs a very airy man. Capricorn placements will get very annoyed and pissed off, and some of the posters here seem to think that's a language of love.
that is NOT.
only a man with low self esteem will stay with someone who doesn't VALUE them,
and OP, i don't get the feeling you value him.
Posted by AerazoPosted by ScorpioTruthYes, and it was even worst than that.
Oh ok, yeah I think it's more his Aries moon that's talking versus his sun sign.
I just saw your post about the entire incident... I can kinda see where he was coming from too. But men typically want what they can't have so maybe you being so detached is a turn-on for him. Who knows. Men are strange creatures. Lol but on the flipside if he thinks you're playing games I imagine that won't sit well with him and maybe that's why he lashed out.
He told me he's running away from love, he doesn't like it bc of the trust, people cheat. (I know he was hurt badly before).
I told him why tell me this if he knows how I feel about him. He said I don't know how you feel about me. I said, I have feelings for you, why do you think I've been with you all this time.
He said: I don't know, you never told me.
(True, I never spoke about my feelings, he told me he liked me several times, but is hard for me to say it)
They were a lot of things that came up in the argument that I don't know how to take.
I told him after I went home:
Sorry, I had to take it on you somehow. it really hurt me to see that I never meant anything to you. Not even respect me and I tried my best to show that I have strong feelings for you.
He answered: Don't sweat it.
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ok i only saw the aries moon.
if he's voicing this out to you that he's UNSURE...
then you aren't the one.
he needs to feel SECURE of your love.
you haven't made him feel that way.
that's being CONSISTENT in your actions.
Posted by Gob_Shiteoohhh i haven't followed her posts/topics.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by AerazoPosted by ScorpioTruthYes, and it was even worst than that.
Oh ok, yeah I think it's more his Aries moon that's talking versus his sun sign.
I just saw your post about the entire incident... I can kinda see where he was coming from too. But men typically want what they can't have so maybe you being so detached is a turn-on for him. Who knows. Men are strange creatures. Lol but on the flipside if he thinks you're playing games I imagine that won't sit well with him and maybe that's why he lashed out.
He told me he's running away from love, he doesn't like it bc of the trust, people cheat. (I know he was hurt badly before).
I told him why tell me this if he knows how I feel about him. He said I don't know how you feel about me. I said, I have feelings for you, why do you think I've been with you all this time.
He said: I don't know, you never told me.
(True, I never spoke about my feelings, he told me he liked me several times, but is hard for me to say it)
They were a lot of things that came up in the argument that I don't know how to take.
I told him after I went home:
Sorry, I had to take it on you somehow. it really hurt me to see that I never meant anything to you. Not even respect me and I tried my best to show that I have strong feelings for you.
He answered: Don't sweat it.
ok i only saw the aries moon.
if he's voicing this out to you that he's UNSURE...
then you aren't the one.
he needs to feel SECURE of your love.
you haven't made him feel that way.
that's being CONSISTENT in your actions.
And icing him out in Miami, even though she was fully aware of why he tagged along, was the final straw...
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yeah that's messed up.
OP is way too FICKLE.
fickle is not attractive to Capricorn. it's very gross infact.
I remember you and I warned you but you were being stubborn regarding my warning.
"If he's communicating with your girl friend then you don't have this wrapped tight.
Be too distant and he'll be gone. You're a young Aqua. I been there too. You could be reading this all wrong. I'm forewarning you.
As for the trip, relax, be observant and see how it all plays out."
"Can you help me figure this out and decide what to do?
I'm an Aqua too and we always do this distant cold approach and then wonder why the guy we really want has moved on. Not all Aquas behave this way but the ones that do are confusing and send come here go away I really don't care kind of signals and men tire of it quickly.
I'm not sure but it seems he's shifting his interest to someone else. If you want him this would be the time to drop the apathy act and open up a lil bit."
But here it is weeks later and as I predicted he would move on from you.
Why you stubbornly chose to stone wall him during the trip I dunno. You're just a little too crazy for Cap.
"If he's communicating with your girl friend then you don't have this wrapped tight.
Be too distant and he'll be gone. You're a young Aqua. I been there too. You could be reading this all wrong. I'm forewarning you.
As for the trip, relax, be observant and see how it all plays out."
"Can you help me figure this out and decide what to do?
I'm an Aqua too and we always do this distant cold approach and then wonder why the guy we really want has moved on. Not all Aquas behave this way but the ones that do are confusing and send come here go away I really don't care kind of signals and men tire of it quickly.
I'm not sure but it seems he's shifting his interest to someone else. If you want him this would be the time to drop the apathy act and open up a lil bit."
But here it is weeks later and as I predicted he would move on from you.
Why you stubbornly chose to stone wall him during the trip I dunno. You're just a little too crazy for Cap.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Aerazowhat are his placements?
I had a recent argument with Cap which led to the break up of our whatever relationship we had.
He was very hurtful and we said a lot of hurtful things to each other. I know we werent very good at communicating and sometimes some things just need to come out.
If a Cap realizes she's not the one he wants. I would have thought that he would be calm and talk nicely about breaking the bond but it went down with a lot of drama on his side.
I've seen another thread where people asked if Caps mean what they say when they are mad and another Cap told me that most of the time the are hurtful is with the person they care about bc if it's something they can't control, it upsets them to the point of trying to hate the other person to push them away or forget about them.
After all, is there a way to fix things? there's no doubt that we like each other a lot.
Maybe I should give up on Cap men lol
it would give a great idea of what his placements are.
because if a Capricorn man is not with you, staying with you even though he is upset.
he is not into you.
I've seen it with my uncles. they don't want to be with a woman who lets them down a lot.
they forgive but if it's too much, they would rather be alone than be let down all the time.
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Is not that I'm that complicated lol but we do go head to head sometimes. I know he wants a housewife, we've had some small disagreements when it comes to what he wants in a girl vs me.
He's very laidback even though he doesn't see it and I've been in a relationship like that so I show him that with me he has to be more open minded.
Our placements are:
Him. . / Me
Sun Capricorn. / Aquarius
Moon Aries. / Gemnini
Mercury Capricorn. / Aquarius
Venus Aquarius. / Pisces
Mars Scorpio. / Saggitarius
Jupiter Aries. / Aries
Saturn Saggitarius. / Saggitarius
Uranus Saggitarius. / Saggitarius
Neptune Capricorn. / Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio. / Scorpio
We have similar placements
Thanks for helping out 🙂
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Aerazo
I had a recent argument with Cap which led to the break up of our whatever relationship we had.
He was very hurtful and we said a lot of hurtful things to each other. I know we werent very good at communicating and sometimes some things just need to come out.
If a Cap realizes she's not the one he wants. I would have thought that he would be calm and talk nicely about breaking the bond but it went down with a lot of drama on his side.
I've seen another thread where people asked if Caps mean what they say when they are mad and another Cap told me that most of the time the are hurtful is with the person they care about bc if it's something they can't control, it upsets them to the point of trying to hate the other person to push them away or forget about them.
After all, is there a way to fix things? there's no doubt that we like each other a lot.
Maybe I should give up on Cap men lol
why don't you just stay away from relationships until you are ready for full time commitment?
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We weren't looking for a relationship when we met. which is the reason why we aren't in a relationship. Is hard to fight it bc I like him a lot, We were just going with the flow for over 6 months and our feelings without compromising each other. But the longer we are in it the harder it gets.
Posted by lisabethur8I understand but it's a give and take.Posted by AerazoPosted by ScorpioTruthYes, and it was even worst than that.
Oh ok, yeah I think it's more his Aries moon that's talking versus his sun sign.
I just saw your post about the entire incident... I can kinda see where he was coming from too. But men typically want what they can't have so maybe you being so detached is a turn-on for him. Who knows. Men are strange creatures. Lol but on the flipside if he thinks you're playing games I imagine that won't sit well with him and maybe that's why he lashed out.
He told me he's running away from love, he doesn't like it bc of the trust, people cheat. (I know he was hurt badly before).
I told him why tell me this if he knows how I feel about him. He said I don't know how you feel about me. I said, I have feelings for you, why do you think I've been with you all this time.
He said: I don't know, you never told me.
(True, I never spoke about my feelings, he told me he liked me several times, but is hard for me to say it)
They were a lot of things that came up in the argument that I don't know how to take.
I told him after I went home:
Sorry, I had to take it on you somehow. it really hurt me to see that I never meant anything to you. Not even respect me and I tried my best to show that I have strong feelings for you.
He answered: Don't sweat it.
ok i only saw the aries moon.
if he's voicing this out to you that he's UNSURE...
then you aren't the one.
he needs to feel SECURE of your love.
you haven't made him feel that way.
that's being CONSISTENT in your actions.
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He can't ask me for rela9tionship benefits (to know where I am and what I do) when we aren't in a relationship. I give him exclusivity, I haven't been with anyone else since I met him and I try to show him that but he doesn't think that way.
Posted by lisabethur8Lol this is the only one I like, it isn't that I can't keep one.Posted by Gob_Shitelol okPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_Shiteexcuse me??Posted by Rindaroo
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
Are you fucking serious? You completely iced him out, during your trip to Miami - the same trip he went on to spend more time with you (and many had to point this out, on your thread about it, even though it was so bloody obvious). And you're now expecting him to remain civil with you?! You practically shat on him!
This is why I would never date an Aqua again - you lot are complete dunces, regarding affairs of the heart, it's not even funny.
you are so wishy washy. you say it's not just sun sign, but because this OP doesn't know how to keep a man or get one that is good,
you blame the sun sign?
you have a venus aquarius. I know what that is all about from my family relatives.
you all love detached love.
Get off your high horse and put a sock in it. You just can't stand the harsh truth.
As for me allegedly claiming "it's not just sun sign", it really depends on the situation and what aspect of the person's characteristic is being discussed (e.g. ego, emotions, actions, etc.). I know you're able to grasp that and it doesn't need to be spelt out to you.
Lastly, with regards to my Aqua Venus, I have my Pisces moon to balance things out, so throwing that in my face isn't going to work.
The OP's previous posts and threads speak for themselves, and further supports my own personal experiences with Aqua women. And, as I have yet to encounter an exception to the rule, I will continue holding this POV until I'm proven otherwise.
If you want to get on the defensive, due to your peer group mentality, more the fool you.
i get you then.
she does constantly make topics on cap men.
she can't keep one it seems.click to expand
I tried to keep one for 12 yrs who had me caged and hidden from the world basically. He didn't like me going to college or anywhere bc he always thought I'd meet someone better and leave him. When I left him it wasn't bc I met someone.
The other Cap is my mentor who wants to be with me but he's married. lol he knows that's a dead end even though he insists.
Not my fault that I attract them :/
Posted by Gob_ShiteI have no attraction towards Fire signs.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_Shitelol okPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_Shiteexcuse me??Posted by Rindaroo
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
Are you fucking serious? You completely iced him out, during your trip to Miami - the same trip he went on to spend more time with you (and many had to point this out, on your thread about it, even though it was so bloody obvious). And you're now expecting him to remain civil with you?! You practically shat on him!
This is why I would never date an Aqua again - you lot are complete dunces, regarding affairs of the heart, it's not even funny.
you are so wishy washy. you say it's not just sun sign, but because this OP doesn't know how to keep a man or get one that is good,
you blame the sun sign?
you have a venus aquarius. I know what that is all about from my family relatives.
you all love detached love.
Get off your high horse and put a sock in it. You just can't stand the harsh truth.
As for me allegedly claiming "it's not just sun sign", it really depends on the situation and what aspect of the person's characteristic is being discussed (e.g. ego, emotions, actions, etc.). I know you're able to grasp that and it doesn't need to be spelt out to you.
Lastly, with regards to my Aqua Venus, I have my Pisces moon to balance things out, so throwing that in my face isn't going to work.
The OP's previous posts and threads speak for themselves, and further supports my own personal experiences with Aqua women. And, as I have yet to encounter an exception to the rule, I will continue holding this POV until I'm proven otherwise.
If you want to get on the defensive, due to your peer group mentality, more the fool you.
i get you then.
she does constantly make topics on cap men.
she can't keep one it seems.
She has an air sun and moon. She'd probably do a lot better with either an air or fire sun. Unless air dominant, Caps simply aren't for her.
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on Saturday I met an Aries guy, he's hot. but I didn't feel attracted to him. He knows how to dance and took me out and he's sexy alpha male but when i met the Cap he didn't know how to dance he took me out to dance the first time and I felt totally different.
When i like someone is generally at first sight (talk) if that doesn't happen then is hard for me to like that person later.
Posted by lisabethur8What! no! I do value him, I just don't want to be invested in it when we aren't official but even though I'm detached, with him is totally different.Posted by Gob_Shitei agree, with her having Gemini moon....Posted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_Shitelol okPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Gob_Shiteexcuse me??Posted by Rindaroo
Again, it just seems as he's being revengeful. We could have talked without hurting each other.
Are you fucking serious? You completely iced him out, during your trip to Miami - the same trip he went on to spend more time with you (and many had to point this out, on your thread about it, even though it was so bloody obvious). And you're now expecting him to remain civil with you?! You practically shat on him!
This is why I would never date an Aqua again - you lot are complete dunces, regarding affairs of the heart, it's not even funny.
you are so wishy washy. you say it's not just sun sign, but because this OP doesn't know how to keep a man or get one that is good,
you blame the sun sign?
you have a venus aquarius. I know what that is all about from my family relatives.
you all love detached love.
Get off your high horse and put a sock in it. You just can't stand the harsh truth.
As for me allegedly claiming "it's not just sun sign", it really depends on the situation and what aspect of the person's characteristic is being discussed (e.g. ego, emotions, actions, etc.). I know you're able to grasp that and it doesn't need to be spelt out to you.
Lastly, with regards to my Aqua Venus, I have my Pisces moon to balance things out, so throwing that in my face isn't going to work.
The OP's previous posts and threads speak for themselves, and further supports my own personal experiences with Aqua women. And, as I have yet to encounter an exception to the rule, I will continue holding this POV until I'm proven otherwise.
If you want to get on the defensive, due to your peer group mentality, more the fool you.
i get you then.
she does constantly make topics on cap men.
she can't keep one it seems.
She has an air sun and moon. She'd probably do a lot better with either an air or fire sun. Unless air dominant, Caps simply aren't for her.
as well. and an aqua sun and aqua venus? with sag mars?
no way!!!!
she needs a very airy man. Capricorn placements will get very annoyed and pissed off, and some of the posters here seem to think that's a language of love.
that is NOT.
only a man with low self esteem will stay with someone who doesn't VALUE them,
and OP, i don't get the feeling you value him.
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I have always been there for him, this time the trip was for me to relax, have a good time and not think about issues. We get into problems sometimes and there was the guy who introduced us telling me bad things about him during the trip. I confronted him and he told me the complete opposite which is why I let it go, but he wasn't doing much to see me either.
He contacted me but he expected me to go where he was when I was with a group of people. I invited him and his friends to come with us but he didn't go.
So I figured he didn't care and decided to block him and enjoy my trip instead of worrying about him.
Posted by Gob_ShiteNo. He told me he was on his own adventure!!Posted by lisabethur8Posted by AerazoPosted by ScorpioTruthYes, and it was even worst than that.
Oh ok, yeah I think it's more his Aries moon that's talking versus his sun sign.
I just saw your post about the entire incident... I can kinda see where he was coming from too. But men typically want what they can't have so maybe you being so detached is a turn-on for him. Who knows. Men are strange creatures. Lol but on the flipside if he thinks you're playing games I imagine that won't sit well with him and maybe that's why he lashed out.
He told me he's running away from love, he doesn't like it bc of the trust, people cheat. (I know he was hurt badly before).
I told him why tell me this if he knows how I feel about him. He said I don't know how you feel about me. I said, I have feelings for you, why do you think I've been with you all this time.
He said: I don't know, you never told me.
(True, I never spoke about my feelings, he told me he liked me several times, but is hard for me to say it)
They were a lot of things that came up in the argument that I don't know how to take.
I told him after I went home:
Sorry, I had to take it on you somehow. it really hurt me to see that I never meant anything to you. Not even respect me and I tried my best to show that I have strong feelings for you.
He answered: Don't sweat it.
ok i only saw the aries moon.
if he's voicing this out to you that he's UNSURE...
then you aren't the one.
he needs to feel SECURE of your love.
you haven't made him feel that way.
that's being CONSISTENT in your actions.
And icing him out in Miami, even though she was fully aware of why he tagged along, was the final straw...
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Not everything is my fault.
😢
Posted by lisabethur8I'm not like that with him, I give what I get from him.Posted by Gob_Shiteoohhh i haven't followed her posts/topics.Posted by lisabethur8Posted by AerazoPosted by ScorpioTruthYes, and it was even worst than that.
Oh ok, yeah I think it's more his Aries moon that's talking versus his sun sign.
I just saw your post about the entire incident... I can kinda see where he was coming from too. But men typically want what they can't have so maybe you being so detached is a turn-on for him. Who knows. Men are strange creatures. Lol but on the flipside if he thinks you're playing games I imagine that won't sit well with him and maybe that's why he lashed out.
He told me he's running away from love, he doesn't like it bc of the trust, people cheat. (I know he was hurt badly before).
I told him why tell me this if he knows how I feel about him. He said I don't know how you feel about me. I said, I have feelings for you, why do you think I've been with you all this time.
He said: I don't know, you never told me.
(True, I never spoke about my feelings, he told me he liked me several times, but is hard for me to say it)
They were a lot of things that came up in the argument that I don't know how to take.
I told him after I went home:
Sorry, I had to take it on you somehow. it really hurt me to see that I never meant anything to you. Not even respect me and I tried my best to show that I have strong feelings for you.
He answered: Don't sweat it.
ok i only saw the aries moon.
if he's voicing this out to you that he's UNSURE...
then you aren't the one.
he needs to feel SECURE of your love.
you haven't made him feel that way.
that's being CONSISTENT in your actions.
And icing him out in Miami, even though she was fully aware of why he tagged along, was the final straw...
yeah that's messed up.
OP is way too FICKLE.
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I go to his house to hang out with him instead of being out partying with my girlfriends bc I alwayspreferred to spend time with him.
I dont know how to be more direct. It isn't that it will simply not work. This is the first time we have this time of argument and when I went to his house I wanted to go and talk to him about the trip and why I blocked him. it wasn't to stay away from him, it was so we both enjoyed our trips separately like we planned at the beginning.
He likes to get me into my feelings when we go out in public and I know he does it on purpose bc he likes the girl to fight for him, I tried to avoid that and decided to enjoy the trip instead.
Yes I know it was very cold but he didn't tell me.he was going with friends (He later said they tagged along) but when I told him we could meet there to go out or the beach one day he said "don't count on me, I'm on my own adventure "
He changes a lot too. I was trying to go with what he said.
Posted by tiki33I still see nothing wrong about him and my friend talking. we all met at the same time and hang out together along with her boyfriend and she has talked to him and me about her issues with her boyfriend.
I remember you and I warned you but you were being stubborn regarding my warning.
"If he's communicating with your girl friend then you don't have this wrapped tight.
Be too distant and he'll be gone. You're a young Aqua. I been there too. You could be reading this all wrong. I'm forewarning you.
As for the trip, relax, be observant and see how it all plays out."
"Can you help me figure this out and decide what to do?
I'm an Aqua too and we always do this distant cold approach and then wonder why the guy we really want has moved on. Not all Aquas behave this way but the ones that do are confusing and send come here go away I really don't care kind of signals and men tire of it quickly.
I'm not sure but it seems he's shifting his interest to someone else. If you want him this would be the time to drop the apathy act and open up a lil bit."
But here it is weeks later and as I predicted he would move on from you.
Why you stubbornly chose to stone wall him during the trip I dunno. You're just a little too crazy for Cap.
The girl he mentioned that he likes and was telling me to tell him to stop talking to him. He wants me to aggressively fight for him , like saying if you don't tell me that I'm going away.
This chick lives across the country and he met her a week ago.
I'm not gonna tell him to stop talking to her to be with me, I told him it's his choice and that He'd rather talk to her than me then I had nothing to do there. I respect myself I have no reason to beg someone to be with me. I will work to do fix and work things out but never beg, mostly if there's someone else involved.
Also his story with the girl made no sense, and it was the same way we both met. so idk.
Posted by youngali
Girl, i think you're obsessed with this man. ?
but something about you might be off, if he hasn't committed to you by now. And don't tell me it's because you both don't want a relationship because i'm not buying into that shit. ??
it might be because you're giving too much and you come off as slightly emotionally unstable.
i think you overthink things and you are not being honest with yourself.
you low-key want more from this man than you are admitting to.
i also have an aqua venus... and when someone doesn't respond or ignores me when i reach out... i lose more respect for them because it's fucking disrespectful. i'm surprised he didn't block your ass yet. deep down he doesn't trust you enough. not yet anyway.
things will only go downhill from here if you don't admit to him what it is you really want from him.
stop giving us the half ass truth, and dedicating all these threads to him and tell him what it is you really want from him.
i can see through it all.
best of luck boo.
Of course I want more from him! that's no doubt, otherwise I wouldn't be here in the first place.
He told me he's running away from love bc he doesn't want to get hurt but that he likes me a lot.
I think the one fighting it is him. I've been there if he wants me to, I've tried to stay away when I see he's overwhelmed with school work or something but then he wants to see me so I give in and meet him.
I'm trying to not stress him out with relationship issues so he can be focused on his work and school, I even hang out with him until he's done and we can spend time together.
He can't say I'm detached when we are together bc I'm not. We are always all over each other and we love that. We spend hours in bed hugging and talking, kissing, watch videos, talk.
He treats me very well, he likes to carry me and do other things that show me a lot from him, like he says we enjoy our time together. but he's not in a good time for a relationship so Id rather spend the good times with him and not give him crap about the meaningless things.
Now the meaningless things have accumulated and it's like it blew up.
Posted by lisabethur8This Cap in particular seems to think that if a girl fights over him then she likes him. He even told me he likes it when guys are after me, but then he gets jealous.
OP,
no offense....but it's true.
if you can't keep 'em....something is up.
I know some people who like to feel and provoke jealousy. Aside from zodiac signs, some people like that.
I'm not the person who likes to make a guy jealous, when I'm with him I like to make him feel confident about me. Yes, I know what I did in Miami wasn't the best way to go about him but I guess now he finally showed that he can't take me for granted just bc I like him.
I would definitely try to be in a relationship with him if he wants to and I would definitely turn things around for the best.
Posted by youngaliThat's why I said to him that if he likes her then to go with her, he said that if I tell him to stop he will stop talking to her, bc he has me here. I honestly don't know if this person exists or not, he apparently talked to her on the phone in front of me and told her that he has a relationship here and that he would be jeopardizing a lot I told him I didn't have to be there to hear that, I wanted to leave but he wouldn't let me leave, he wanted me to stay, hear it, more like just to hurt me.Posted by Aerazoit all sounds wonderful on paper. but if it's that good... why is he not with you? ? why is he talking about being interested in someone else that he met long distance?Posted by youngali
Girl, i think you're obsessed with this man. ?
but something about you might be off, if he hasn't committed to you by now. And don't tell me it's because you both don't want a relationship because i'm not buying into that shit. ??
it might be because you're giving too much and you come off as slightly emotionally unstable.
i think you overthink things and you are not being honest with yourself.
you low-key want more from this man than you are admitting to.
i also have an aqua venus... and when someone doesn't respond or ignores me when i reach out... i lose more respect for them because it's fucking disrespectful. i'm surprised he didn't block your ass yet. deep down he doesn't trust you enough. not yet anyway.
things will only go downhill from here if you don't admit to him what it is you really want from him.
stop giving us the half ass truth, and dedicating all these threads to him and tell him what it is you really want from him.
i can see through it all.
best of luck boo.
Of course I want more from him! that's no doubt, otherwise I wouldn't be here in the first place.
He told me he's running away from love bc he doesn't want to get hurt but that he likes me a lot.
I think the one fighting it is him. I've been there if he wants me to, I've tried to stay away when I see he's overwhelmed with school work or something but then he wants to see me so I give in and meet him.
I'm trying to not stress him out with relationship issues so he can be focused on his work and school, I even hang out with him until he's done and we can spend time together.
He can't say I'm detached when we are together bc I'm not. We are always all over each other and we love that. We spend hours in bed hugging and talking, kissing, watch videos, talk.
He treats me very well, he likes to carry me and do other things that show me a lot from him, like he says we enjoy our time together. but he's not in a good time for a relationship so Id rather spend the good times with him and not give him crap about the meaningless things.
Now the meaningless things have accumulated and it's like it blew up.
this doesn't sound like someone that is afraid to love again. this sounds like someone who is taking advantage, someone who has options. someone occupying his time with you until the right fit comes along. this sounds like someone making excuses as to why he can't give you 100 percent.
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
we can string you along if we like CERTAIN qualities about you, and if you benefit us in certain ways, but i'm here to tell you that this ain't it.
you need to let go of this guy or be prepared to be forever confused. i think he likes the comfort of you being there. he likes the attention, but that's it.click to expand
I went to the room to sleep it off and planned on leaving early before he woke up but he went to wake me up to tell me things. I was just so confused by his attitude, he wouldn't let me go, I told him I was gonna leave for good, I understood he found someone (blah blah) I just don't have to be here anymore and he insisted that I stayed, but when I stayed he just kept telling me things that he thought I was never gonna contact him again, that he thought Id just leave him but that he was happy when he saw my text, but then I wanted to act like nothing was happening. which I understand I'm at fault, but when I tried to talk to him about how I felt, he wouldn't let me, he just got aggressive and said hurtful things to me to which I answered back.
I put on my shoes to leave, he even walked behind me and I even hit him with my sweater bc he kept on.
it was too much and I'm not the type of girl to cry and beg to a guy if he says he met someone else. I just walk away.
@lisabethur8 I just realized we are both Aries Ascendant.
Would that change something? we aren't a regular Cap/Aqua. He's different to all the caps I've met.
Would that change something? we aren't a regular Cap/Aqua. He's different to all the caps I've met.
Posted by AerazoPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Aerazowhat are his placements?
I had a recent argument with Cap which led to the break up of our whatever relationship we had.
He was very hurtful and we said a lot of hurtful things to each other. I know we werent very good at communicating and sometimes some things just need to come out.
If a Cap realizes she's not the one he wants. I would have thought that he would be calm and talk nicely about breaking the bond but it went down with a lot of drama on his side.
I've seen another thread where people asked if Caps mean what they say when they are mad and another Cap told me that most of the time the are hurtful is with the person they care about bc if it's something they can't control, it upsets them to the point of trying to hate the other person to push them away or forget about them.
After all, is there a way to fix things? there's no doubt that we like each other a lot.
Maybe I should give up on Cap men lol
it would give a great idea of what his placements are.
because if a Capricorn man is not with you, staying with you even though he is upset.
he is not into you.
I've seen it with my uncles. they don't want to be with a woman who lets them down a lot.
they forgive but if it's too much, they would rather be alone than be let down all the time.
they love complicated women i notice.
Is not that I'm that complicated lol but we do go head to head sometimes. I know he wants a housewife, we've had some small disagreements when it comes to what he wants in a girl vs me.
He's very laidback even though he doesn't see it and I've been in a relationship like that so I show him that with me he has to be more open minded.
Our placements are:
Him. . / Me
Sun Capricorn. / Aquarius
Moon Aries. / Gemnini
Mercury Capricorn. / Aquarius
Venus Aquarius. / Pisces
Mars Scorpio. / Saggitarius
Jupiter Aries. / Aries
Saturn Saggitarius. / Saggitarius
Uranus Saggitarius. / Saggitarius
Neptune Capricorn. / Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio. / Scorpio
We have similar placements
Thanks for helping out 🙂
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sure thing. but if you know he wants a housewife, and you both want that and you love him, why is it a problem??
Posted by youngaliOooo girl. #preachPosted by Aerazoit all sounds wonderful on paper. but if it's that good... why is he not with you? ? why is he talking about being interested in someone else that he met long distance?Posted by youngali
Girl, i think you're obsessed with this man. ?
but something about you might be off, if he hasn't committed to you by now. And don't tell me it's because you both don't want a relationship because i'm not buying into that shit. ??
it might be because you're giving too much and you come off as slightly emotionally unstable.
i think you overthink things and you are not being honest with yourself.
you low-key want more from this man than you are admitting to.
i also have an aqua venus... and when someone doesn't respond or ignores me when i reach out... i lose more respect for them because it's fucking disrespectful. i'm surprised he didn't block your ass yet. deep down he doesn't trust you enough. not yet anyway.
things will only go downhill from here if you don't admit to him what it is you really want from him.
stop giving us the half ass truth, and dedicating all these threads to him and tell him what it is you really want from him.
i can see through it all.
best of luck boo.
Of course I want more from him! that's no doubt, otherwise I wouldn't be here in the first place.
He told me he's running away from love bc he doesn't want to get hurt but that he likes me a lot.
I think the one fighting it is him. I've been there if he wants me to, I've tried to stay away when I see he's overwhelmed with school work or something but then he wants to see me so I give in and meet him.
I'm trying to not stress him out with relationship issues so he can be focused on his work and school, I even hang out with him until he's done and we can spend time together.
He can't say I'm detached when we are together bc I'm not. We are always all over each other and we love that. We spend hours in bed hugging and talking, kissing, watch videos, talk.
He treats me very well, he likes to carry me and do other things that show me a lot from him, like he says we enjoy our time together. but he's not in a good time for a relationship so Id rather spend the good times with him and not give him crap about the meaningless things.
Now the meaningless things have accumulated and it's like it blew up.
this doesn't sound like someone that is afraid to love again. this sounds like someone who is taking advantage, someone who has options. someone occupying his time with you until the right fit comes along. this sounds like someone making excuses as to why he can't give you 100 percent.
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
we can string you along if we like CERTAIN qualities about you, and if you benefit us in certain ways, but i'm here to tell you that this ain't it.
you need to let go of this guy or be prepared to be forever confused. i think he likes the comfort of you being there. he likes the attention, but that's it.click to expand
Posted by lisabethur8I'm Not just a housewife. I like the family environment, I have kids, i have already been in a marriage. I have a business, a busy life basically to work for my kids and my family, help other people (if it includes a husband)Posted by AerazoPosted by lisabethur8Posted by Aerazowhat are his placements?
I had a recent argument with Cap which led to the break up of our whatever relationship we had.
He was very hurtful and we said a lot of hurtful things to each other. I know we werent very good at communicating and sometimes some things just need to come out.
If a Cap realizes she's not the one he wants. I would have thought that he would be calm and talk nicely about breaking the bond but it went down with a lot of drama on his side.
I've seen another thread where people asked if Caps mean what they say when they are mad and another Cap told me that most of the time the are hurtful is with the person they care about bc if it's something they can't control, it upsets them to the point of trying to hate the other person to push them away or forget about them.
After all, is there a way to fix things? there's no doubt that we like each other a lot.
Maybe I should give up on Cap men lol
it would give a great idea of what his placements are.
because if a Capricorn man is not with you, staying with you even though he is upset.
he is not into you.
I've seen it with my uncles. they don't want to be with a woman who lets them down a lot.
they forgive but if it's too much, they would rather be alone than be let down all the time.
they love complicated women i notice.
Is not that I'm that complicated lol but we do go head to head sometimes. I know he wants a housewife, we've had some small disagreements when it comes to what he wants in a girl vs me.
He's very laidback even though he doesn't see it and I've been in a relationship like that so I show him that with me he has to be more open minded.
Our placements are:
Him. . / Me
Sun Capricorn. / Aquarius
Moon Aries. / Gemnini
Mercury Capricorn. / Aquarius
Venus Aquarius. / Pisces
Mars Scorpio. / Saggitarius
Jupiter Aries. / Aries
Saturn Saggitarius. / Saggitarius
Uranus Saggitarius. / Saggitarius
Neptune Capricorn. / Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio. / Scorpio
We have similar placements
Thanks for helping out 🙂
sure thing. but if you know he wants a housewife, and you both want that and you love him, why is it a problem??
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I'm not the type of housewife who will simply stay home taking care of the kids and the home. He wants that but at the same time he loves that we share a business interest and we are both in this journey to help others. We are both spiritual driven but is hard for me to open up to him, because I don't want him to think that I'm just trying to catch him because we share the same interests and he's "husband material" I've been trying to show him that I have feelings for him, as a man, as someone who I have been devoted to.
During this time I haven't "cheated" on him, even though it wouldn't be cheating since we aren't together but he just doesn't want to trust me bc he thinks I'm gonna turn my back on him.
He gets desperate when he argues, he walks from one side to another, tries to reason with his feelings and his thoughts so he gets very contradicting. Is not the first time this happens. But is the first time he verbally hurts me.
It's like he pushes me away and I think he just doesn't want me so I do go away. but then he does things to get my attention again and I come back to him as friends but he makes other moves and we are back in the same thing, but doesn't assure a relationship because I know and I understand that right now he wants to focus in school, his business and his job.
Another thing is that we never talked about exes. and he brought that up during the argument. He asked me about the people I've been with and I was honest, the he goes, see— like 3 guys in a year?? But they are all instant connections that I don't get attached to bc they aren't what I want, doesn't mean we can't have a short good time.
That's where we are contradicting, he thinks I'm probably just gonna go and sleep with any guy I find but is not like that.. oh and he brought up the fact that I took him home the first day we met and we slept (had sex, he woke up naked bc he did try, we kissed until he knocked out lol) I was sober, I took him home because I was worried about him, I could have gone to a club with my friends and leave him at the place but he wanted to come with me wherever I went and I said ok, so we are going to your house.
I left before he woke up because we were at his parents home and I'm not the type to just stay over at guys house like that mostly if I just met them.
He asked me if we had sex bc he didn't remember and I just said if you don't remember it didn't happen. (but this whole time I'm sure he has that in his head for him to bring it up during the arguments twice in a week) Now he wants to be victim like if I took him home just to have sex with him, it's stupid. He just can't take the fact that I do like him. At the beginning he told me that girls just leave him bc he's not really interested in women like that but I didn't see a reason to leave him, if I complained about something he would fix it and make sure I knew he did it for me.
Honestly, if it wasnt because I could see that he was into me I would have just stayed as friends and not worry about anything. I'm trying to figure this out because there is something that keeps us together in a different level.
Is not like I'm a newbie with guys, I've met and gone through guys like nothing, I don't get attached easily and if I see the other persons interest is simply Fun (sex) and I want the same then sure why not. But I never had fights or aguments over things like these with this guys, or even worried to ask people for their opinion or even use astrology to see if we are compatible or what the issues are between us.
So, talking about Venus Retrograde. Do you think this has something to do with it?? Someone mentioned this before that it may cause an issue for us.
I just checked an apparently it was gonna affect me in my communication which for me communication and intution are very good traits of mine.
Even when I had my chakras read, I don't know if any of you are into it but I have a high level of communication, intuition and healing.
Some people are skeptical about this.
Again, yes I like him but I don't want to force him into something with me. I'm aloof but I try to show him, I just think he wants me to be crazy about him and fight or ahownhim that I'm obsessed with him for him to know it's real.
He definitely likes when I'm all over him, I get submissive with him, but he doesn't like it when I get dominant in the relationship.
I'm the skeleton of my household, business and my job, so in my head I have no reason to be on someone's ass to be with me.
Sorry for the long message but I guess people here just assume based on a few words and posts.
Posted by @youngali
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
So true..
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
Posted by youngaliOmg you just said exactly what I was going to put!
Girl, i think you're obsessed with this man. ?
but something about you might be off, if he hasn't committed to you by now. And don't tell me it's because you both don't want a relationship because i'm not buying into that shit. ??
it might be because you're giving too much and you come off as slightly emotionally unstable.
i think you overthink things and you are not being honest with yourself.
you low-key want more from this man than you are admitting to.
i also have an aqua venus... and when someone doesn't respond or ignores me when i reach out... i lose more respect for them because it's fucking disrespectful. i'm surprised he didn't block your ass yet. deep down he doesn't trust you enough. not yet anyway.
things will only go downhill from here if you don't admit to him what it is you really want from him.
stop giving us the half ass truth, and dedicating all these threads to him and tell him what it is you really want from him.
i can see through it all.
best of luck boo.
I also have aqua Venus and feel exactly the same although I've learnt with my cap not to take it personally as other factors are involved and he'll get back to me when he can but at first it used to upset me, when I addressed it with him he did change.
Anyway back to @aerazo girl you really need to just be honest with yourself, we can all see it. I know I can come across a bit blunt or harsh but that's only because I'm trying to hero and sometimes feel you just need to hear it.
Wish you well ?
Posted by poison_ivyPosted by @youngaliI locked my cap down straight away ?, everything @youngali is saying about aqua Venus is spot on in my opinion, I can relate.
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
So true..
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
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Posted by WonderWoman14Right!! It took him NO time.. Even before our first date he would ALWAYS say, "You're mine.." Wasted NO time.. 😉Posted by poison_ivyI locked my cap down straight away ?, everything @youngali is saying about aqua Venus is spot on in my opinion, I can relate.Posted by @youngaliSo true..
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
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Posted by poison_ivyPosted by WonderWoman14Right!! It took him NO time.. Even before our first date he would ALWAYS say, "You're mine.." Wasted NO time.. 😉Posted by poison_ivyI locked my cap down straight away ?, everything @youngali is saying about aqua Venus is spot on in my opinion, I can relate.Posted by @youngaliSo true..
with venus in aqua... if we feel we have met the right fit, we want to lock them down asap. no matter what.
My cap has Venus in Aqua and he made me his on our first date.. Never gotta guess with them..
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Yup which is why it's been like this for 6 months.
How old are you?
only in high school I took relationships like that. you never know if he's tge one until you actually get to know the person. otherwise is just dating not a relationship.
He was taking things too fast at the beginning and I've been through a fast relationship that ended too quick too and we agreed on taking things slow and go with the flow.
Just because we werent official since day q doesn't mean what we have isn't real.
As an Aqua, being friends with my lover is a #1 rule, being able to be ourselves when we are together and that's something he says he loves about us.
Now, I do get what you say. Since day 1 we hang out together most of the time. if he goes with his friends he tells me to go and if I'm with my friends I do the same.
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He was very hurtful and we said a lot of hurtful things to each other. I know we werent very good at communicating and sometimes some things just need to come out.
If a Cap realizes she's not the one he wants. I would have thought that he would be calm and talk nicely about breaking the bond but it went down with a lot of drama on his side.
I've seen another thread where people asked if Caps mean what they say when they are mad and another Cap told me that most of the time the are hurtful is with the person they care about bc if it's something they can't control, it upsets them to the point of trying to hate the other person to push them away or forget about them.
After all, is there a way to fix things? there's no doubt that we like each other a lot.
Maybe I should give up on Cap men lol