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Damn ?
Posted by CapwiththeanSounds messy
I met her through my sister (they've been working together for about a year now). My sister and I have a fairly strained relationship, we only deal with each other when we have to at this point. I've expressed to Gemini my issues with my sister here and there (never went too in depth), she's very understanding especially because... being her friend... she deals with a lot of the same bs. So I spent last weekend with Gemini, the entire weekend, it was great, lots of talking about everything, my sister being one of them. Long story short im now in a very sticky and annoying situation with both of my sisters because my Gemini went back and told her a few things that I said. I never gave her a chance to explain why because I immediately felt betrayed and I felt it wasn't her place to say anything to anyone about anything we talked about, regardless of what her intentions were. So that prompted me to tell her I can't trust her and idk where things will go from here. After all of that, I talked to my sister (the sane one) she offered clarity about the situation and explained Geminis intentions weren't malicious. So now I feel like an asshole, but my reason for saying that is justifiable..... right?
Posted by SaraFabExactly, apparently I jumped the gun, got way too comfortable with her too soon. I'll take the blame for that. I just hope it doesn't happen again, maybe it won't she won't even talk to me lol.
I'm a Cap, so I understand this. Loyalty is very important to us. It's like a betrayal in our minds when someone we trusted divulges personal information then repeats it. I am dating a Gemini right now and I always watch I say, because they are very sensitive. But, they also have a tendency to kind of be two-faced. Not meaning to be, but if they are in the company of someone else and they have information of some sort, they sometimes can't help it. Which is why I am very careful to divulge too much personal information to my Gem yet. Until I am more sure of him. For exactly this reason.
Posted by littlesnowYeah that's something I've noticed at least 3 times now, saying one thing, doing another. A few inconsistent here and there. I've taken it lightly because it's never effected me in a serious way but causing problems with my family on top of the problems we already have made me freak out. I like her enough to figure things out though, it's a wrap if somethin like this happens again.
I can see why you said that, I said the same thing before. They say one thing but they say the opposite after. He worried about it and brought it up often. All geminis are different. There are manipulative ones and there are ones with good intentions.
No point worrying about it, if she messes up.. then that will be the reason to leave. Don't assume offhand.
I dont even know how to date a gemini anymore, I give up
Posted by NotSoInstantI feel like almost as often as I hear "Gemini" I hear "lack of commitment".... "inconsistent"... I won't go any further, I'm not trying to piss any gems off I'm just being honest. But ironically every talk I've ever had with my gem about us being together has been initiated by her, if anything we aren't committed because I feel it's too soon.Posted by Capwiththean😆
So geminis are 9 times out of 10 incapable of long term relationships?
I'm curious to know how you reached this conclusion?
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Posted by littlesnowPosted by Capwiththeanif you can keep accommodating to your gemini then it could last long, they require work.. also you have to be able to supress some needs. you can decide if it's worth it, gems are challenging and fun but stability I wouldn't really expect it.. I've been with him for a year and we got into so many fights. there were always times we wanted to leave because either I was unhappy or didn't trust him or he wanted to try the single life
So geminis are 9 times out of 10 incapable of long term relationships?
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Posted by PootyButtPosted by Capwiththean
My Gemini and I got into our first argument and it resulted in me telling her I can't trust her and I don't know if I see a future for us. I calmed down and realized although she was definitely wrong, maybe I was being a bit dramatic and should've been more open to talking to her and allowing her to clarify some things. I've tried calling her, she won't answer, she did text me back to confirm "she wasn't mad, she's fine". Should I just leave her alone? Will she come around?
A Gemini is looking for her soulmate. A Gemini's soulmate won't tell her he sees no future with her. He doesn't tell her he doesn't trust her. He doesn't threaten to shut her out of his life for making a mistake that her personality makes her liable to make once in a while. Geminis are forgiving, and we expect to be forgiven. She's probably wondering now whether she should go forward. You've made it pretty clear that if she screws up again, and she knows she will, because Geminis know we are imperfect, you will leave her. Why should she chance that pain?click to expand
Posted by nevesThat is true of all women. Period.
In most cases, same as every other human being...
As for being two-faced - that shows best when a Gemini is hurt...
So, yeah... she's fine! ^ ^
Posted by CapwiththeanScrew the family. That's what. You have your own life to live.Posted by PootyButtPosted by Capwiththean
My Gemini and I got into our first argument and it resulted in me telling her I can't trust her and I don't know if I see a future for us. I calmed down and realized although she was definitely wrong, maybe I was being a bit dramatic and should've been more open to talking to her and allowing her to clarify some things. I've tried calling her, she won't answer, she did text me back to confirm "she wasn't mad, she's fine". Should I just leave her alone? Will she come around?
A Gemini is looking for her soulmate. A Gemini's soulmate won't tell her he sees no future with her. He doesn't tell her he doesn't trust her. He doesn't threaten to shut her out of his life for making a mistake that her personality makes her liable to make once in a while. Geminis are forgiving, and we expect to be forgiven. She's probably wondering now whether she should go forward. You've made it pretty clear that if she screws up again, and she knows she will, because Geminis know we are imperfect, you will leave her. Why should she chance that pain?
? I know I know it was a harsh thing to say. I feel like we'd both be chancing the pain though. It's been like 2-3 months we've been talking and she's already made a bad situation worse with my family. Be it intentional or not. What's next?
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Posted by 81gemsThat's the hardest part about moving forward with her, being a Gemini and all, I'm almost WAITING for her to f*** up. When will she run her mouth again? When will I catch her in a lie? I'm such a pessimist and I naturally expect the worst out of people but you're absolutely right, people make mistakes I must learn to stop being so critical (I swear I'm working on it). She's actually rubbed me the wrong way again, she stood me up this weekend, but instead of being a douche I just.... didn't say anything. She hasn't reached out to me, and I don't plan to reach out to her. The further I delve into Gemini land the more I realize why I don't work with you all lol.Posted by CapwiththeanScrew the family. That's what. You have your own life to live.Posted by PootyButtPosted by Capwiththean
My Gemini and I got into our first argument and it resulted in me telling her I can't trust her and I don't know if I see a future for us. I calmed down and realized although she was definitely wrong, maybe I was being a bit dramatic and should've been more open to talking to her and allowing her to clarify some things. I've tried calling her, she won't answer, she did text me back to confirm "she wasn't mad, she's fine". Should I just leave her alone? Will she come around?
A Gemini is looking for her soulmate. A Gemini's soulmate won't tell her he sees no future with her. He doesn't tell her he doesn't trust her. He doesn't threaten to shut her out of his life for making a mistake that her personality makes her liable to make once in a while. Geminis are forgiving, and we expect to be forgiven. She's probably wondering now whether she should go forward. You've made it pretty clear that if she screws up again, and she knows she will, because Geminis know we are imperfect, you will leave her. Why should she chance that pain?
? I know I know it was a harsh thing to say. I feel like we'd both be chancing the pain though. It's been like 2-3 months we've been talking and she's already made a bad situation worse with my family. Be it intentional or not. What's next?
My relationship with my brother is nonexistent. My parents aren't happy about it and they have sometimes given me shit for it. But I've stood my ground, and they realized that my brother and I are adults, with our own personalities, beliefs, and minds. They've reluctantly accepted it. I know your situation is different, but, yeah, like I said to Hell with them.
As someone else already said, FORGIVE. Earth signs fail to realize that everyone is a human being and everyone makes mistakes. Right?
Right.
Remember the slogans for each sign; Gemini - I communicate. Capricorn - I use. Poor rest of the human race.
Anyway, if you're involved with a Gemini, remember this. I'll tell you that it's true, some Gemini's can't commit, and some can't keep their traps shut, and some do inadvertently backstab. Some, you can't trust. But this isn't just "some Gemini." This is a girl you're seeing and getting to know. You're involved with her on some level. You shouldn't chuck the whole thing after one or two mistakes. Particularly since you'll make plenty of your own throughout your life.
I'm a gem with a virgo moon. The devoid-of-heart rigidity and ruthlessness of Capricorn does appeal to me on some level, but I am more sensitive than most Gemini's. When I'm hurt, I'm hurt. I may not talk and communicate. When someone comes around and apologizes, (or tires to in some way) I may be like, "Oh, you want to apologize now? Well, now it's YOUR TURN!" But that is usually how I get after being made to feel like shit more than a few times. Gemini's can be forgiving and let it go sooner rather than later. But we do take what others say to heart WHEN IT HURTS OUR FEELINGS.
Best of luck to both of you.
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Posted by CapwiththeanThat's not right on her part. She should have contacted you to say what the problem is/was. Like, "I need a break from you" or "I don't think I want to go out with you anymore." Or whatever the reason may have been...Posted by 81gemsThat's the hardest part about moving forward with her, being a Gemini and all, I'm almost WAITING for her to f*** up. When will she run her mouth again? When will I catch her in a lie? I'm such a pessimist and I naturally expect the worst out of people but you're absolutely right, people make mistakes I must learn to stop being so critical (I swear I'm working on it). She's actually rubbed me the wrong way again, she stood me up this weekend, but instead of being a douche I just.... didn't say anything. She hasn't reached out to me, and I don't plan to reach out to her. The further I delve into Gemini land the more I realize why I don't work with you all lol.Posted by CapwiththeanScrew the family. That's what. You have your own life to live.Posted by PootyButtPosted by Capwiththean
My Gemini and I got into our first argument and it resulted in me telling her I can't trust her and I don't know if I see a future for us. I calmed down and realized although she was definitely wrong, maybe I was being a bit dramatic and should've been more open to talking to her and allowing her to clarify some things. I've tried calling her, she won't answer, she did text me back to confirm "she wasn't mad, she's fine". Should I just leave her alone? Will she come around?
A Gemini is looking for her soulmate. A Gemini's soulmate won't tell her he sees no future with her. He doesn't tell her he doesn't trust her. He doesn't threaten to shut her out of his life for making a mistake that her personality makes her liable to make once in a while. Geminis are forgiving, and we expect to be forgiven. She's probably wondering now whether she should go forward. You've made it pretty clear that if she screws up again, and she knows she will, because Geminis know we are imperfect, you will leave her. Why should she chance that pain?
? I know I know it was a harsh thing to say. I feel like we'd both be chancing the pain though. It's been like 2-3 months we've been talking and she's already made a bad situation worse with my family. Be it intentional or not. What's next?
My relationship with my brother is nonexistent. My parents aren't happy about it and they have sometimes given me shit for it. But I've stood my ground, and they realized that my brother and I are adults, with our own personalities, beliefs, and minds. They've reluctantly accepted it. I know your situation is different, but, yeah, like I said to Hell with them.
As someone else already said, FORGIVE. Earth signs fail to realize that everyone is a human being and everyone makes mistakes. Right?
Right.
Remember the slogans for each sign; Gemini - I communicate. Capricorn - I use. Poor rest of the human race.
Anyway, if you're involved with a Gemini, remember this. I'll tell you that it's true, some Gemini's can't commit, and some can't keep their traps shut, and some do inadvertently backstab. Some, you can't trust. But this isn't just "some Gemini." This is a girl you're seeing and getting to know. You're involved with her on some level. You shouldn't chuck the whole thing after one or two mistakes. Particularly since you'll make plenty of your own throughout your life.
I'm a gem with a virgo moon. The devoid-of-heart rigidity and ruthlessness of Capricorn does appeal to me on some level, but I am more sensitive than most Gemini's. When I'm hurt, I'm hurt. I may not talk and communicate. When someone comes around and apologizes, (or tires to in some way) I may be like, "Oh, you want to apologize now? Well, now it's YOUR TURN!" But that is usually how I get after being made to feel like shit more than a few times. Gemini's can be forgiving and let it go sooner rather than later. But we do take what others say to heart WHEN IT HURTS OUR FEELINGS.
Best of luck to both of you.
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Posted by VageenkaYou are frigging Gem Man so shut up!
Contrary to popular belief, Geminis can be SUPER paranoid.
We have a VERY over-active mind. Like the most active mind in all of Astrology. You tell us you can't "trust us" when we're in a relationship and it's going to make us over-think and go crazy.
But the way we handle hurt is we just have to get away... Be alone... Have time to think and just re-charge our batteries.
She'll come to you when she's OK.
Posted by 81gemsPosted by CapwiththeanThat's not right on her part. She should have contacted you to say what the problem is/was. Like, "I need a break from you" or "I don't think I want to go out with you anymore." Or whatever the reason may have been...Posted by 81gemsThat's the hardest part about moving forward with her, being a Gemini and all, I'm almost WAITING for her to f*** up. When will she run her mouth again? When will I catch her in a lie? I'm such a pessimist and I naturally expect the worst out of people but you're absolutely right, people make mistakes I must learn to stop being so critical (I swear I'm working on it). She's actually rubbed me the wrong way again, she stood me up this weekend, but instead of being a douche I just.... didn't say anything. She hasn't reached out to me, and I don't plan to reach out to her. The further I delve into Gemini land the more I realize why I don't work with you all lol.Posted by CapwiththeanScrew the family. That's what. You have your own life to live.Posted by PootyButtPosted by Capwiththean
My Gemini and I got into our first argument and it resulted in me telling her I can't trust her and I don't know if I see a future for us. I calmed down and realized although she was definitely wrong, maybe I was being a bit dramatic and should've been more open to talking to her and allowing her to clarify some things. I've tried calling her, she won't answer, she did text me back to confirm "she wasn't mad, she's fine". Should I just leave her alone? Will she come around?
A Gemini is looking for her soulmate. A Gemini's soulmate won't tell her he sees no future with her. He doesn't tell her he doesn't trust her. He doesn't threaten to shut her out of his life for making a mistake that her personality makes her liable to make once in a while. Geminis are forgiving, and we expect to be forgiven. She's probably wondering now whether she should go forward. You've made it pretty clear that if she screws up again, and she knows she will, because Geminis know we are imperfect, you will leave her. Why should she chance that pain?
? I know I know it was a harsh thing to say. I feel like we'd both be chancing the pain though. It's been like 2-3 months we've been talking and she's already made a bad situation worse with my family. Be it intentional or not. What's next?
My relationship with my brother is nonexistent. My parents aren't happy about it and they have sometimes given me shit for it. But I've stood my ground, and they realized that my brother and I are adults, with our own personalities, beliefs, and minds. They've reluctantly accepted it. I know your situation is different, but, yeah, like I said to Hell with them.
As someone else already said, FORGIVE. Earth signs fail to realize that everyone is a human being and everyone makes mistakes. Right?
Right.
Remember the slogans for each sign; Gemini - I communicate. Capricorn - I use. Poor rest of the human race.
Anyway, if you're involved with a Gemini, remember this. I'll tell you that it's true, some Gemini's can't commit, and some can't keep their traps shut, and some do inadvertently backstab. Some, you can't trust. But this isn't just "some Gemini." This is a girl you're seeing and getting to know. You're involved with her on some level. You shouldn't chuck the whole thing after one or two mistakes. Particularly since you'll make plenty of your own throughout your life.
I'm a gem with a virgo moon. The devoid-of-heart rigidity and ruthlessness of Capricorn does appeal to me on some level, but I am more sensitive than most Gemini's. When I'm hurt, I'm hurt. I may not talk and communicate. When someone comes around and apologizes, (or tires to in some way) I may be like, "Oh, you want to apologize now? Well, now it's YOUR TURN!" But that is usually how I get after being made to feel like shit more than a few times. Gemini's can be forgiving and let it go sooner rather than later. But we do take what others say to heart WHEN IT HURTS OUR FEELINGS.
Best of luck to both of you.
I fell asleep
I was throwing up
I forgot
At least an "oops. I'm sorry."
Also, you should have said something. You don't need to be a douche. You can voice disappointment, irritation, anger and frustration without being a douche (you did know that right?) All you had to say was "Hey, what happened? Where were you? I waited for you and you never showed."click to expand
Posted by GemitatiThen clearly the chances of me working this out with my gem is slim to absolutely NONE lmao. I apologized once at the beginning of the conversation then again before departing. If she's waiting for anything more she will never get it.Posted by VageenkaYou are frigging Gem Man so shut up!
Contrary to popular belief, Geminis can be SUPER paranoid.
We have a VERY over-active mind. Like the most active mind in all of Astrology. You tell us you can't "trust us" when we're in a relationship and it's going to make us over-think and go crazy.
But the way we handle hurt is we just have to get away... Be alone... Have time to think and just re-charge our batteries.
She'll come to you when she's OK.
Women Gems are different and nothing like Gem frigging man!
I don't need any time to hide and anything!
If I have a problem with man I will talk him into telling me what's wrong until he will actually get red in a fave and tell me what's wrong!
Burned he will hurt me - I will not give in until he is down there somewhere looking so pathetic so I will just forgive him so I can dump him right after...unless of course he is a Scorpio - then roles reversed!
Lol
Seriously if Gem woman pissed off by you - just walk by and apologize until she will forgive you. But better yet dontnpiss her off! It's an ugly scene and you might going to want to get out willingly! To never experience it ever again in your life!
I know! I AM IT!!!
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Posted by CapwiththeanSo how it worked out?Posted by GemitatiThen clearly the chances of me working this out with my gem is slim to absolutely NONE lmao. I apologized once at the beginning of the conversation then again before departing. If she's waiting for anything more she will never get it.Posted by VageenkaYou are frigging Gem Man so shut up!
Contrary to popular belief, Geminis can be SUPER paranoid.
We have a VERY over-active mind. Like the most active mind in all of Astrology. You tell us you can't "trust us" when we're in a relationship and it's going to make us over-think and go crazy.
But the way we handle hurt is we just have to get away... Be alone... Have time to think and just re-charge our batteries.
She'll come to you when she's OK.
Women Gems are different and nothing like Gem frigging man!
I don't need any time to hide and anything!
If I have a problem with man I will talk him into telling me what's wrong until he will actually get red in a fave and tell me what's wrong!
Burned he will hurt me - I will not give in until he is down there somewhere looking so pathetic so I will just forgive him so I can dump him right after...unless of course he is a Scorpio - then roles reversed!
Lol
Seriously if Gem woman pissed off by you - just walk by and apologize until she will forgive you. But better yet dontnpiss her off! It's an ugly scene and you might going to want to get out willingly! To never experience it ever again in your life!
I know! I AM IT!!!
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by CapwiththeanExactly..... It's to early in the relationship for her to even have a "say /opinion" in your relationship. She should know better and know about boundaries... Basically, when to open her mouth and when to keep it shut.. But gems love a gossip and are always trying to be popular.Posted by PootyButtPosted by Capwiththean
My Gemini and I got into our first argument and it resulted in me telling her I can't trust her and I don't know if I see a future for us. I calmed down and realized although she was definitely wrong, maybe I was being a bit dramatic and should've been more open to talking to her and allowing her to clarify some things. I've tried calling her, she won't answer, she did text me back to confirm "she wasn't mad, she's fine". Should I just leave her alone? Will she come around?
A Gemini is looking for her soulmate. A Gemini's soulmate won't tell her he sees no future with her. He doesn't tell her he doesn't trust her. He doesn't threaten to shut her out of his life for making a mistake that her personality makes her liable to make once in a while. Geminis are forgiving, and we expect to be forgiven. She's probably wondering now whether she should go forward. You've made it pretty clear that if she screws up again, and she knows she will, because Geminis know we are imperfect, you will leave her. Why should she chance that pain?
? I know I know it was a harsh thing to say. I feel like we'd both be chancing the pain though. It's been like 2-3 months we've been talking and she's already made a bad situation worse with my family. Be it intentional or not. What's next?
They have FANTASTIC qualities and out of the air signs, they are the best Imo, but they can chat waaaaay too much before thinking about what they are saying....
Your relationship with her will never be the same as now you know what she is capable of.
Trust and loyalty are MAJOR factors for earthlings as those are the core elements of what we Base our relationships on... Without these there is no relationship
She has now made you question every thing you say to her, you will never be open to her as you were before this incident and it seems as this is not the first time she has done this...
Sorry OP, but this relationship will not go long term and you hold the cards... Not her...click to expand
Posted by GemitatiShe hasn't spoken to me since flaking on me last week lmao. Am I proving your point?Posted by CapwiththeanSo how it worked out?Posted by GemitatiThen clearly the chances of me working this out with my gem is slim to absolutely NONE lmao. I apologized once at the beginning of the conversation then again before departing. If she's waiting for anything more she will never get it.Posted by VageenkaYou are frigging Gem Man so shut up!
Contrary to popular belief, Geminis can be SUPER paranoid.
We have a VERY over-active mind. Like the most active mind in all of Astrology. You tell us you can't "trust us" when we're in a relationship and it's going to make us over-think and go crazy.
But the way we handle hurt is we just have to get away... Be alone... Have time to think and just re-charge our batteries.
She'll come to you when she's OK.
Women Gems are different and nothing like Gem frigging man!
I don't need any time to hide and anything!
If I have a problem with man I will talk him into telling me what's wrong until he will actually get red in a fave and tell me what's wrong!
Burned he will hurt me - I will not give in until he is down there somewhere looking so pathetic so I will just forgive him so I can dump him right after...unless of course he is a Scorpio - then roles reversed!
Lol
Seriously if Gem woman pissed off by you - just walk by and apologize until she will forgive you. But better yet dontnpiss her off! It's an ugly scene and you might going to want to get out willingly! To never experience it ever again in your life!
I know! I AM IT!!!
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Posted by CapwiththeanSo I say forget it!Posted by GemitatiShe hasn't spoken to me since flaking on me last week lmao. Am I proving your point?Posted by CapwiththeanSo how it worked out?Posted by GemitatiThen clearly the chances of me working this out with my gem is slim to absolutely NONE lmao. I apologized once at the beginning of the conversation then again before departing. If she's waiting for anything more she will never get it.Posted by VageenkaYou are frigging Gem Man so shut up!
Contrary to popular belief, Geminis can be SUPER paranoid.
We have a VERY over-active mind. Like the most active mind in all of Astrology. You tell us you can't "trust us" when we're in a relationship and it's going to make us over-think and go crazy.
But the way we handle hurt is we just have to get away... Be alone... Have time to think and just re-charge our batteries.
She'll come to you when she's OK.
Women Gems are different and nothing like Gem frigging man!
I don't need any time to hide and anything!
If I have a problem with man I will talk him into telling me what's wrong until he will actually get red in a fave and tell me what's wrong!
Burned he will hurt me - I will not give in until he is down there somewhere looking so pathetic so I will just forgive him so I can dump him right after...unless of course he is a Scorpio - then roles reversed!
Lol
Seriously if Gem woman pissed off by you - just walk by and apologize until she will forgive you. But better yet dontnpiss her off! It's an ugly scene and you might going to want to get out willingly! To never experience it ever again in your life!
I know! I AM IT!!!
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Yes, of course. Because once another person knows (me or anyone else), it's not a secret anymore. Just another impunity in your mind trying hard to come out, in a difficult birth. You told me, it translates you asked for my assistance. You should feel grateful that I midwifed you 😄!
@Undine, I see you have Sag rising as well... hmmm that explains it...
If a person wants their secrets advertise in a paper the next morning, tell a sag....
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I AM the drug 😄Posted by UndineGo back to your drugs...Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Yes, of course. Because once another person knows (me or anyone else), it's not a secret anymore. Just another impunity in your mind trying hard to come out, in a difficult birth. You told me, it translates you asked for my assistance. You should feel grateful that I midwifed you 😄!
@Undine, I see you have Sag rising as well... hmmm that explains it...
If a person wants their secrets advertise in a paper the next morning, tell a sag....
Sags also make many other people happy!
You, like the OP, attempt to make the important people in your life feel inferior and miserable.click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Actually, I'm a fish in the universal ocean, who has the gift to read any other mind.Posted by UndineOf course you are, in pisces fantasy land - your OWN mind... no one else has that opinion when they think of pisces. You are just a fish in a goldfish bowl.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I AM the drug 😄Posted by UndineGo back to your drugs...Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Yes, of course. Because once another person knows (me or anyone else), it's not a secret anymore. Just another impunity in your mind trying hard to come out, in a difficult birth. You told me, it translates you asked for my assistance. You should feel grateful that I midwifed you 😄!
@Undine, I see you have Sag rising as well... hmmm that explains it...
If a person wants their secrets advertise in a paper the next morning, tell a sag....
Sags also make many other people happy!
You, like the OP, attempt to make the important people in your life feel inferior and miserable.click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Dirt to dirt, ashes to ashes....😄
Good luck OP. Have no regrets ...
Better now than a few years down the line...
Its better to "put the rubbish out early"...
Earthling v Earthling - we speak the same language....
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Actually, Cap man Pisces woman is the best possible combination! Statistics showed that they marry often and their marriages lasts longer than between any other signs. Just saying!Posted by UndineYes, and the very same people who speak like you are on the "Earthling" boards trying to get with us in order to spend our money...
At least we follow the truth, not the money 😄
@OP, don't touch pisces whatever you do!
Better to get with a gem again than with a pisces for sure...
Also, beware what you reveal to someone until they can prove their loyalty.. 2-3 months in a relationship is not long enough to be disclosing family business 🙂 😉click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100I'm having a Gemini moment 😄Posted by Undine"statistics" ok! lol lolPosted by JohnTheBaptist100Actually, Cap man Pisces woman is the best possible combination! Statistics showed that they marry often and their marriages lasts longer than between any other signs. Just saying!Posted by UndineYes, and the very same people who speak like you are on the "Earthling" boards trying to get with us in order to spend our money...
At least we follow the truth, not the money 😄
@OP, don't touch pisces whatever you do!
Better to get with a gem again than with a pisces for sure...
Also, beware what you reveal to someone until they can prove their loyalty.. 2-3 months in a relationship is not long enough to be disclosing family business 🙂 😉click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by CrabraIam sorry to say this but you are making excuses and defending the Gemini.
This placement is all about gathering and distribution of information. Gem suns can have difficulty differentiating what is ok to disclose to others, and what should remain under wraps. Even if you mention that you would prefer she not tell anyone, she might come to the conclusion that it is in the other's person best interest to know, especially a friend. This is a big reason why they get the whole 'two face/untrustworthy' reputation. If getting serious with a Gem, it is a good idea to keep this in mind.
I am not placing the fault in your hands, but just offering hindsight for future conversations with this person. If she is at fault, try not to rub that in, and don't be passive aggressive. It is simply best to just talk things out once both of you are ready. Put the ball in her court, and take it from there.
My Jupiter is in Gemini and that makes me: sociable, gathering information, brainstorming, learning new things, etc. all the Gemini traits but the fact is LOYALTY is LOYALTY. It is basic common sense to know that you do not interfere with someone else's family and star "gossiping/trading information" with your SO family member.
The biggest mistake the OP did was to date a friend/ acquaintance of his sister... But this is usually a good way to meet someone but as we can see air and fire signs (including aqua and sag) cant keep their gobs shut . Their idea of "loyalty" obviously, does not hold the same deep level as loyalty does to an earth sign.
When you are with an earth sign "loyalty" is like joining a part of the "mob" - you keep your damn mouth shut and you take the information you have received to the grave... get it! Its a PACT, but its hard for you water signs (other than scorp), air and fire signs to understand this...
@OP, drop her. Even after what she did, she has the audacity to pull a "non-show"! Who the hell does she think she is....
You need someone you can value and who values you and will keep your confidances without you even having to say to them "oh, by the way this is just between me and you"... that should come as second nature. Like swearing an oath.
My ex was a Gemini and I was with him for four years (and "sorry" was his middle name and I told him so). When he "crossed" me his head would be on a platter... then I would just stick it back on his shoulders again. By the time his four years was up, this time his head rolled in that basket for good!! Don't waste any more time OP.
Caps, are proud honourable me and they want a woman who is discrete as they are; who can roll with them be their anchor and their confidante. The gem failed and it will not get better.....click to expand
Posted by blackphaseI can't shut up! I am a Gemini!Posted by GemitatiGuess what.. not all Gemini women are the same either.. we are just as different from one another as we are from our male counterparts.. so you shut up! 😄Posted by VageenkaYou are frigging Gem Man so shut up!
Contrary to popular belief, Geminis can be SUPER paranoid.
We have a VERY over-active mind. Like the most active mind in all of Astrology. You tell us you can't "trust us" when we're in a relationship and it's going to make us over-think and go crazy.
But the way we handle hurt is we just have to get away... Be alone... Have time to think and just re-charge our batteries.
She'll come to you when she's OK.
Women Gems are different and nothing like Gem frigging man!
I don't need any time to hide and anything!
If I have a problem with man I will talk him into telling me what's wrong until he will actually get red in a fave and tell me what's wrong!
Burned he will hurt me - I will not give in until he is down there somewhere looking so pathetic so I will just forgive him so I can dump him right after...unless of course he is a Scorpio - then roles reversed!
Lol
Seriously if Gem woman pissed off by you - just walk by and apologize until she will forgive you. But better yet dontnpiss her off! It's an ugly scene and you might going to want to get out willingly! To never experience it ever again in your life!
I know! I AM IT!!!
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Did he have nasty voice?Posted by GemitatiAin't that the truth.... My ex just wouldn't shut the hell up...Posted by blackphaseI can't shut up! I am a Gemini!Posted by GemitatiGuess what.. not all Gemini women are the same either.. we are just as different from one another as we are from our male counterparts.. so you shut up! 😄Posted by VageenkaYou are frigging Gem Man so shut up!
Contrary to popular belief, Geminis can be SUPER paranoid.
We have a VERY over-active mind. Like the most active mind in all of Astrology. You tell us you can't "trust us" when we're in a relationship and it's going to make us over-think and go crazy.
But the way we handle hurt is we just have to get away... Be alone... Have time to think and just re-charge our batteries.
She'll come to you when she's OK.
Women Gems are different and nothing like Gem frigging man!
I don't need any time to hide and anything!
If I have a problem with man I will talk him into telling me what's wrong until he will actually get red in a fave and tell me what's wrong!
Burned he will hurt me - I will not give in until he is down there somewhere looking so pathetic so I will just forgive him so I can dump him right after...unless of course he is a Scorpio - then roles reversed!
Lol
Seriously if Gem woman pissed off by you - just walk by and apologize until she will forgive you. But better yet dontnpiss her off! It's an ugly scene and you might going to want to get out willingly! To never experience it ever again in your life!
I know! I AM IT!!!
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by CrabraHe should have been able to trust her... Can't people keep confidences these days! Jeez! How hard is that.. People tell me stuff and it stays with me...simple...Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by CrabraIam sorry to say this but you are making excuses and defending the Gemini.
This placement is all about gathering and distribution of information. Gem suns can have difficulty differentiating what is ok to disclose to others, and what should remain under wraps. Even if you mention that you would prefer she not tell anyone, she might come to the conclusion that it is in the other's person best interest to know, especially a friend. This is a big reason why they get the whole 'two face/untrustworthy' reputation. If getting serious with a Gem, it is a good idea to keep this in mind.
I am not placing the fault in your hands, but just offering hindsight for future conversations with this person. If she is at fault, try not to rub that in, and don't be passive aggressive. It is simply best to just talk things out once both of you are ready. Put the ball in her court, and take it from there.
My Jupiter is in Gemini and that makes me: sociable, gathering information, brainstorming, learning new things, etc. all the Gemini traits but the fact is LOYALTY is LOYALTY. It is basic common sense to know that you do not interfere with someone else's family and star "gossiping/trading information" with your SO family member.
The biggest mistake the OP did was to date a friend/ acquaintance of his sister... But this is usually a good way to meet someone but as we can see air and fire signs (including aqua and sag) cant keep their gobs shut . Their idea of "loyalty" obviously, does not hold the same deep level as loyalty does to an earth sign.
When you are with an earth sign "loyalty" is like joining a part of the "mob" - you keep your damn mouth shut and you take the information you have received to the grave... get it! Its a PACT, but its hard for you water signs (other than scorp), air and fire signs to understand this...
@OP, drop her. Even after what she did, she has the audacity to pull a "non-show"! Who the hell does she think she is....
You need someone you can value and who values you and will keep your confidances without you even having to say to them "oh, by the way this is just between me and you"... that should come as second nature. Like swearing an oath.
My ex was a Gemini and I was with him for four years (and "sorry" was his middle name and I told him so). When he "crossed" me his head would be on a platter... then I would just stick it back on his shoulders again. By the time his four years was up, this time his head rolled in that basket for good!! Don't waste any more time OP.
Caps, are proud honourable me and they want a woman who is discrete as they are; who can roll with them be their anchor and their confidante. The gem failed and it will not get better.....
I'm not making excuses for her. Only enlightening to if it waddles and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck. You can always expect a Gemini, to be a Gemini.
Indeed, loyalty is loyalty, but where does her loyalty lie? With the OP? The friend/sister? Both of them? It can just as easily be pinned on the OP that it was his mistake putting this girl in a situation where she has to choose. We can say she should keep her trap shut, but who was to one to inform her in the first place? You don't keep information from spilling by spilling it.
Loyalty is a damned thing when remaining so requires you to break other oaths.
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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by CrabraNo. U use common sense and say to each of them respectively to talk to each other... EOPosted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by CrabraHe should have been able to trust her... Can't people keep confidences these days! Jeez! How hard is that.. People tell me stuff and it stays with me...simple...Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by CrabraIam sorry to say this but you are making excuses and defending the Gemini.
This placement is all about gathering and distribution of information. Gem suns can have difficulty differentiating what is ok to disclose to others, and what should remain under wraps. Even if you mention that you would prefer she not tell anyone, she might come to the conclusion that it is in the other's person best interest to know, especially a friend. This is a big reason why they get the whole 'two face/untrustworthy' reputation. If getting serious with a Gem, it is a good idea to keep this in mind.
I am not placing the fault in your hands, but just offering hindsight for future conversations with this person. If she is at fault, try not to rub that in, and don't be passive aggressive. It is simply best to just talk things out once both of you are ready. Put the ball in her court, and take it from there.
My Jupiter is in Gemini and that makes me: sociable, gathering information, brainstorming, learning new things, etc. all the Gemini traits but the fact is LOYALTY is LOYALTY. It is basic common sense to know that you do not interfere with someone else's family and star "gossiping/trading information" with your SO family member.
The biggest mistake the OP did was to date a friend/ acquaintance of his sister... But this is usually a good way to meet someone but as we can see air and fire signs (including aqua and sag) cant keep their gobs shut . Their idea of "loyalty" obviously, does not hold the same deep level as loyalty does to an earth sign.
When you are with an earth sign "loyalty" is like joining a part of the "mob" - you keep your damn mouth shut and you take the information you have received to the grave... get it! Its a PACT, but its hard for you water signs (other than scorp), air and fire signs to understand this...
@OP, drop her. Even after what she did, she has the audacity to pull a "non-show"! Who the hell does she think she is....
You need someone you can value and who values you and will keep your confidances without you even having to say to them "oh, by the way this is just between me and you"... that should come as second nature. Like swearing an oath.
My ex was a Gemini and I was with him for four years (and "sorry" was his middle name and I told him so). When he "crossed" me his head would be on a platter... then I would just stick it back on his shoulders again. By the time his four years was up, this time his head rolled in that basket for good!! Don't waste any more time OP.
Caps, are proud honourable me and they want a woman who is discrete as they are; who can roll with them be their anchor and their confidante. The gem failed and it will not get better.....
I'm not making excuses for her. Only enlightening to if it waddles and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck. You can always expect a Gemini, to be a Gemini.
Indeed, loyalty is loyalty, but where does her loyalty lie? With the OP? The friend/sister? Both of them? It can just as easily be pinned on the OP that it was his mistake putting this girl in a situation where she has to choose. We can say she should keep her trap shut, but who was to one to inform her in the first place? You don't keep information from spilling by spilling it.
Loyalty is a damned thing when remaining so requires you to break other oaths.
How do we know he should've been able to trust her? We don't know this person. Try to see the situation from the outside. OP's girlfriend is a Gemini. Female. And she's friends with his sister. Each of those, individually, should have the OP wary about exactly what he tells this person, let alone all of them. If you have deep underlying issues with a family member, it is best to let these things out with the member in question, or a therapist.
We should be able to confide in those we select for a romantic partner. But put yourself in the Gem's shoes. Can you imagine how difficult it would be to be a trustworthy significant other AND a trustworthy friend to two people related to each other? Especially when these two people already have issues with one another. I feel bad for the Gem, actually.
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Posted by CapwiththeanHmm... I feel the need to give a bit of insight into how I am as a Gemini when hurt. Dunno why this prompts me to do so.Posted by 81gemsPosted by CapwiththeanThat's not right on her part. She should have contacted you to say what the problem is/was. Like, "I need a break from you" or "I don't think I want to go out with you anymore." Or whatever the reason may have been...Posted by 81gemsThat's the hardest part about moving forward with her, being a Gemini and all, I'm almost WAITING for her to f*** up. When will she run her mouth again? When will I catch her in a lie? I'm such a pessimist and I naturally expect the worst out of people but you're absolutely right, people make mistakes I must learn to stop being so critical (I swear I'm working on it). She's actually rubbed me the wrong way again, she stood me up this weekend, but instead of being a douche I just.... didn't say anything. She hasn't reached out to me, and I don't plan to reach out to her. The further I delve into Gemini land the more I realize why I don't work with you all lol.Posted by CapwiththeanScrew the family. That's what. You have your own life to live.Posted by PootyButtPosted by Capwiththean
My Gemini and I got into our first argument and it resulted in me telling her I can't trust her and I don't know if I see a future for us. I calmed down and realized although she was definitely wrong, maybe I was being a bit dramatic and should've been more open to talking to her and allowing her to clarify some things. I've tried calling her, she won't answer, she did text me back to confirm "she wasn't mad, she's fine". Should I just leave her alone? Will she come around?
A Gemini is looking for her soulmate. A Gemini's soulmate won't tell her he sees no future with her. He doesn't tell her he doesn't trust her. He doesn't threaten to shut her out of his life for making a mistake that her personality makes her liable to make once in a while. Geminis are forgiving, and we expect to be forgiven. She's probably wondering now whether she should go forward. You've made it pretty clear that if she screws up again, and she knows she will, because Geminis know we are imperfect, you will leave her. Why should she chance that pain?
? I know I know it was a harsh thing to say. I feel like we'd both be chancing the pain though. It's been like 2-3 months we've been talking and she's already made a bad situation worse with my family. Be it intentional or not. What's next?
My relationship with my brother is nonexistent. My parents aren't happy about it and they have sometimes given me shit for it. But I've stood my ground, and they realized that my brother and I are adults, with our own personalities, beliefs, and minds. They've reluctantly accepted it. I know your situation is different, but, yeah, like I said to Hell with them.
As someone else already said, FORGIVE. Earth signs fail to realize that everyone is a human being and everyone makes mistakes. Right?
Right.
Remember the slogans for each sign; Gemini - I communicate. Capricorn - I use. Poor rest of the human race.
Anyway, if you're involved with a Gemini, remember this. I'll tell you that it's true, some Gemini's can't commit, and some can't keep their traps shut, and some do inadvertently backstab. Some, you can't trust. But this isn't just "some Gemini." This is a girl you're seeing and getting to know. You're involved with her on some level. You shouldn't chuck the whole thing after one or two mistakes. Particularly since you'll make plenty of your own throughout your life.
I'm a gem with a virgo moon. The devoid-of-heart rigidity and ruthlessness of Capricorn does appeal to me on some level, but I am more sensitive than most Gemini's. When I'm hurt, I'm hurt. I may not talk and communicate. When someone comes around and apologizes, (or tires to in some way) I may be like, "Oh, you want to apologize now? Well, now it's YOUR TURN!" But that is usually how I get after being made to feel like shit more than a few times. Gemini's can be forgiving and let it go sooner rather than later. But we do take what others say to heart WHEN IT HURTS OUR FEELINGS.
Best of luck to both of you.
I fell asleep
I was throwing up
I forgot
At least an "oops. I'm sorry."
Also, you should have said something. You don't need to be a douche. You can voice disappointment, irritation, anger and frustration without being a douche (you did know that right?) All you had to say was "Hey, what happened? Where were you? I waited for you and you never showed."
It just feels a bit forced for me to express my disappointment at this point, after going off on her not even a week earlier about all the family stuff, then squashing it just to turn around and complain about something else. I just look at it like, if she wanted to come, she would've come, if she cared to explain why she didn't come, she would explain (without me having to question it). A few gems commented and said things would shift after the whole family shabang so I'll just chalk it up to that.
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