Posted by TheAviator
Yeah. He constantly asks for assurance and compliments. He wants attention. I give it to him. But at this stage, I am unclear to whether he is genuinely interested or using me just for emotional support. He keeps flirting and using all these emoticons but I feel like he is being superficial. I hate Leo guys. My ex was also a Leo and acted the same way.
Posted by TheAviatorSimple enough... if you're still dating someone
Yeah. He constantly asks for assurance and compliments. He wants attention. I give it to him. But at this stage, I am unclear to whether he is genuinely interested or using me just for emotional support. He keeps flirting and using all these emoticons but I feel like he is being superficial. I hate Leo guys. My ex was also a Leo and acted the same way.
Posted by crocodilePersonally I love when people don't admire me. It gives me a challenge and something to work for. If everyone admired me I'd just get bored. I rather work my way to the top, try my best to destroy everything, then work from the bottom back up again. I love the struggle and hard grind at the beginning of things. I love getting to the bottom of things and the cold hard truth too.
Because deep down they are little cats. Not lions. And they are afraid that this truth will come out and people will stop admiring them. Respecting them. So they have to keep the farce to keep the attention coming. Truth and honesty is a rare commodity under such circumstances. Don't expected them. You won't get it.
Look at how much they are avoiding me here. They cannot talk in terms of honesty. It will be a very quick end for them.
Posted by TheAviatoryou could be projecting
Strangely I have a Leo moon but I hate Leos and don't consider myself one. I can be fine with being friends with Leos though.
Posted by TheAviatorIt's not lying it's being emotionally flamboyant. We like to express our feelings outwards even if those feelings are just a fleeting crush.. just as say Scorpio people never give you the satisfaction of fully expressing theirs.
What my Leo says are overly exaggerated, flowery and fake. I prefer them to be genuine to me, and I want the truth rather than fake promises and compliments..
Posted by enfant_terribleExactly. the air signs get it though...Posted by TheAviatorIt's not lying it's being emotionally flamboyant. We like to express our feelings outwards even if those feelings are just a fleeting crush.. just as say Scorpio people never give you the satisfaction of fully expressing theirs.
What my Leo says are overly exaggerated, flowery and fake. I prefer them to be genuine to me, and I want the truth rather than fake promises and compliments..
You just don't understand our style , is all.click to expand
Posted by TheAviatorI'd say your the superficial one. Play acting with someone you actually hate. Wtf is that??
Yeah. He constantly asks for assurance and compliments. He wants attention. I give it to him. But at this stage, I am unclear to whether he is genuinely interested or using me just for emotional support. He keeps flirting and using all these emoticons but I feel like he is being superficial. I hate Leo guys. My ex was also a Leo and acted the same way.
Posted by TheAviatorHe probably senses your disdain and is trying to overcompensate. He'll wake up soon and leave you for a female that isn't two faced and all your problems will be at an end.
I am trying to stay away from Leo guys. The good ones are my friends. My friend Leos are very faithful, loyal and honest. Strangely, I feel that there is something off about my partner. I don't know if he is socially awkward or trying to match my words that I feed to him. Or if he wants to be admired for his fake personality. They are all high maintenance and clingy.
Posted by TheAviatorSo just to recap...
Well I don't know. I constantly think that he's cheating on me with multiple girls, is lying and manipulating me so I can stroke his ego. Give him wmptional support. I feel that he's lying about everything and he's really good at faking it. Leos are really good actors and are able to convince you how they want to be portrayed.
Posted by crocodileIn this case, I think it is.Posted by MontgomeryIt is not that simple. You probably know that too. So what about a little honesty game here?Posted by TheAviatorSimple enough... if you're still dating someone
Yeah. He constantly asks for assurance and compliments. He wants attention. I give it to him. But at this stage, I am unclear to whether he is genuinely interested or using me just for emotional support. He keeps flirting and using all these emoticons but I feel like he is being superficial. I hate Leo guys. My ex was also a Leo and acted the same way.
you not only resent, but HATE, the problem is
yours.
His biggest crime appears to be using too
many emoticons-- and yours is being overly
suspicious due to gross insecurity.
??❤—
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Posted by MiaouI've been telling that to CC all year ?Posted by TheAviatorThat's 'cause you're not leo?
Strangely I have a Leo moon but I hate Leos and don't consider myself one.
Having a leo moon - no matter how much people enjoy twisting astrology placements around -
Still doesn't make you leo sun. 😉
& you'll be missing out on a lot of good if you allow astrology to control/ influence your love life.
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Posted by bumboklattIs that what you got from this silly post (that'sPosted by Montgomeryive noticed fire signs are so jealous of each oher hahahaPosted by TheAviatorSimple enough... if you're still dating someone
Yeah. He constantly asks for assurance and compliments. He wants attention. I give it to him. But at this stage, I am unclear to whether he is genuinely interested or using me just for emotional support. He keeps flirting and using all these emoticons but I feel like he is being superficial. I hate Leo guys. My ex was also a Leo and acted the same way.
you not only resent, but HATE, the problem is
yours.
His biggest crime appears to be using too
many emoticons-- and yours is being overly
suspicious due to gross insecurity.
??❤—
but speaking on signs alone and not individuals, Sag is always suspicious thinking someone is gonna fence them in, they can be very defensive and on edge
and of course Leos are great actors
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Posted by crocodileMy advice to you is just move on. I know you just want to troll people which is actually pretty common these days, but no one will fall for it like you expect. People know what you're about now. Sure people will still quote you, but the amount of seriousness they take will be very little. There is a fine line between trying preach your opinions to people from behind a keyboard, and troll tactics. You have a balance of both when you type. People will never take you seriously for a few reasons. One you don't physically know the people. Two you can't give solid opinions from behind a keyboard. Mostly because there is no tone of voice, body language, or connection whatsoever. It's pretty synthetic and fake. Lastly you're an asshole. Hey do what you want though. It's a free public space where people can act however they want. Just don't think it's not easy to dissect you and your opinions.Posted by SoulAlthough I admire your attempt at being honest, I do not think it as bad as you put it forward. Yes you are confused, yes you do not know what people think about you, but with a good amount of guidance you can be put into good use. (of course that guidance is a person like me).Posted by crocodilePersonally I love when people don't admire me. It gives me a challenge and something to work for. If everyone admired me I'd just get bored. I rather work my way to the top, try my best to destroy everything, then work from the bottom back up again. I love the struggle and hard grind at the beginning of things. I love getting to the bottom of things and the cold hard truth too.
Because deep down they are little cats. Not lions. And they are afraid that this truth will come out and people will stop admiring them. Respecting them. So they have to keep the farce to keep the attention coming. Truth and honesty is a rare commodity under such circumstances. Don't expected them. You won't get it.
Look at how much they are avoiding me here. They cannot talk in terms of honesty. It will be a very quick end for them.
Getting no attention is the best thing life could do for a human. They way they keep trying and actually become good at something.
You can only go as far as your keyboard let's your imagination go. In the end you actually know nothing about people.click to expand
Posted by bumboklattGetting catty in your old age, bumbo?Posted by Montgomeryblowing smoke is a Pisces (moon) thingPosted by bumboklattIs that what you got from this silly post (that'sPosted by Montgomeryive noticed fire signs are so jealous of each oher hahahaPosted by TheAviatorSimple enough... if you're still dating someone
Yeah. He constantly asks for assurance and compliments. He wants attention. I give it to him. But at this stage, I am unclear to whether he is genuinely interested or using me just for emotional support. He keeps flirting and using all these emoticons but I feel like he is being superficial. I hate Leo guys. My ex was also a Leo and acted the same way.
you not only resent, but HATE, the problem is
yours.
His biggest crime appears to be using too
many emoticons-- and yours is being overly
suspicious due to gross insecurity.
??❤—
but speaking on signs alone and not individuals, Sag is always suspicious thinking someone is gonna fence them in, they can be very defensive and on edge
and of course Leos are great actors
getting waaay too much mileage imo)...
jealousy?
You're a 5th House Sun... do you blow smoke at
people for fun, or as an act?
I don't.
I do enjoy attention thoclick to expand
Posted by TheAviator
Well I don't know. I constantly think that he's cheating on me with multiple girls, is lying and manipulating me so I can stroke his ego. Give him wmptional support. I feel that he's lying about everything and he's really good at faking it. Leos are really good actors and are able to convince you how they want to be portrayed.
Posted by TheAviatorOh my gosh you sound nutty
He kept on pursuing his innocence even when I did the jedi mind trick where I told him I cheated just to get him to confess. He never did.
Posted by TheAviatoris your rising aquarius??
I feel that they are all fake and I can't trust them. I don't know why, as a Sagittarius, that I seem to attract them. What my Leo says are overly exaggerated, flowery and fake. I prefer them to be genuine to me, and I want the truth rather than fake promises and compliments. I don't know why he would waste his time doing this and I don't trust him at all.
Posted by TheAviatoraha....
I am a Capricorn rising. And he is Pisces moon.
Posted by TheAviatorMars is more action rather then romance. But it does influence how one performs in bed.
Well I try to. He's has a Cancer in Mars. I heard the way women act in love is influenced by Venus while for men, it is for Mars?
Posted by TheAviatorIf he's in the military that means HE'S BUSY. If he's a virgin, he's probably not sleeping around or talking to any other women to any serious degree. As you've already said, you two aren't in love with each other. This all sounds like you're basically overreacting. He sends you a bunch of emoticons. So what? If you think that's an issue, the problem isn'thim. It's your own paranoia stemming from your own personal insecurities. You should probably date around a bit more so you can get an idea of what's really out there.
He's in the military. And we're also doing long distance. I understand that trust is the only thing that can fuel and bring hope to a relationship. I am working on it, but I don't know why I feel so insecure about him. Maybe it's because he's perfect. To me, he seems kind. And he's very attractive. We're both virgins too, and to find a good looking military guy at this age that wants to wait til marriage, it's like hitting a lottery. I guess I don't want to lose him, but I am trying to let him go. Let all my worries go, because there is nothing I can do if he finds a closer woman. I have to stop thinking for myself and should be happy for him. I will never control or force him into anything uncomfortable.
By the way, we're not in love with each other. We never exchanged that as of yet.
Posted by TheAviatorFrom what you've said, it doesn't sound like he's done anything wrong. Sounds like you're afraid of getting burned and assuming the worst. If you're a commitmentphobe, then an LDR is the LAST thing you'd want to to do. LDRs are quite difficult on their own. I was in one with a Sag woman years ago that was completely fine and I still ended it due to logistical issues. Regardless, if you can't trust your partner, then you should consider being with someone else. However just know that if you have commitment/trust issues, no relationship can fix that for you.
I was planning to date around until he told me straight away that he wanted a committed relationship straight off the bat. He told me he would only be loyal and faithful to me. That I would only receive his love, kisses and kindness. At first, I was freaking out since he talked about marriage and kids. But later, I agreed to be his as well. He said he no longer talks to other girls cause he thinks I am perfect. If no commitment was established, I would never have any fears about this. And I never ask for commitment in the first place in any sort of relationships because I am a commitment phobe. Usually the guys do. I focus too much time on my career and I do have better things to care about.
Posted by crocodileI disagree.. and you're on an unrelated tangent.Posted by MontgomeryNo it isn't that simple. I understand that some people are complicated creatures, and it takes more than just straightforwardness to gain their trust. But that doesn't mean that they cannot be dealt with. In fact, Leo's appear to be the ones who are less able to express themselves. Now why is that?Posted by crocodileIn this case, I think it is.Posted by MontgomeryIt is not that simple. You probably know that too. So what about a little honesty game here?Posted by TheAviatorSimple enough... if you're still dating someone
Yeah. He constantly asks for assurance and compliments. He wants attention. I give it to him. But at this stage, I am unclear to whether he is genuinely interested or using me just for emotional support. He keeps flirting and using all these emoticons but I feel like he is being superficial. I hate Leo guys. My ex was also a Leo and acted the same way.
you not only resent, but HATE, the problem is
yours.
His biggest crime appears to be using too
many emoticons-- and yours is being overly
suspicious due to gross insecurity.
??❤—
If you look at OP's history, you'll see just a
few posts down, her long winded *confession*
about this situation.
Cut / dried.
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Posted by crocodileNo that is exactly how I feel at that moment. Thanks for your half-assed assumptions though. Tell me who hurt youPosted by enfant_terribleIn other words, you are incapable of expressing exactly what you feel? You have to come up with exaggerations to alter the perception of people? What is the problem? Lack of ability to construct speech?Posted by TheAviatorIt's not lying it's being emotionally flamboyant. We like to express our feelings outwards even if those feelings are just a fleeting crush.. just as say Scorpio people never give you the satisfaction of fully expressing theirs.
What my Leo says are overly exaggerated, flowery and fake. I prefer them to be genuine to me, and I want the truth rather than fake promises and compliments..
You just don't understand our style , is all.click to expand
Posted by seraphFundamentalsPosted by crocodileYou're overthinking it.Posted by seraphRelationships aren't something that is just a raw compatibility. No human being is fixed. It is also a place where growth and learning happens too. People "learn" to tolerate each other. Therefore, conflicts, learning and "molding" is a natural part of relationships. There is no happiness in just "going with the flow". Flow isn't a relationship.Posted by TheAviatorYour past, your fears, your trust issues... they all creep up on you and your relationships. Because you think you have these "issues." You think they're real. In many ways, and in fact in all the important ways, we are the authors of our own experiences – whether joys, disappointments, successes, failures, and so on.
I want to see where things go. Only time will tell if his words are true or not. I thought bending over and respecting a Leo would gain me genuinity and honesty. But I don't feel like he appreciates what I do for him.
You're making personal/romantic relationships too high-stakes. You want too much, you expect too much – specifically in terms of "THIS will make me happy, and finally things will be the way I dream of them to be", etc. It isn't a lying Leo or anyone else that's really the problem here. It's you – and more generally, us. We're all guilty of this at one time or another. Because it's part of our conditioning, unfortunately. That is, until we understand.
You're hanging on too tight internally. Who can have trust issues? They who place conditions on their happiness. They who look to others to help make life a certain way for them.
Look at your first few posts in this thread. How are they even remotely healthy?Posted by TheAviator
I feel that they are all fake and I can't trust them. I don't know why, as a Sagittarius, that I seem to attract them. What my Leo says are overly exaggerated, flowery and fake. I prefer them to be genuine to me, and I want the truth rather than fake promises and compliments. I don't know why he would waste his time doing this and I don't trust him at all.Posted by TheAviator
Yeah. He constantly asks for assurance and compliments. He wants attention. I give it to him. But at this stage, I am unclear to whether he is genuinely interested or using me just for emotional support. He keeps flirting and using all these emoticons but I feel like he is being superficial. I hate Leo guys. My ex was also a Leo and acted the same way.Posted by TheAviator
I am trying to stay away from Leo guys. The good ones are my friends. My friend Leos are very faithful, loyal and honest. Strangely, I feel that there is something off about my partner. I don't know if he is socially awkward or trying to match my words that I feed to him. Or if he wants to be admired for his fake personality. They are all high maintenance and clingy.Posted by TheAviatorSo which is it? Him? All of them except the ones you happen to like? The very fact that you hate – and seemingly indiscriminately at that, is part of the problem here. You can't express yourself clearly because you've sunk so much of yourself into this that it's twisting your thinking.
Strangely I have a Leo moon but I hate Leos and don't consider myself one. I can be fine with being friends with Leos though.
Romantic relationships are there to enrich that which already needs no enrichment. They're there to be enjoyed and tasted as they come into your life – and if they stay, so much the better, but they must be allowed to go as well. People – whether good or bad, saints or sinners, aren't meant to be grabbed and held on to like grim death.
The more you shop your wants and needs around to others like old luggage, the more disappointed you'll be.
They who bind to themselves a joy
Do the winged life destroy;
They who kiss the joy as it flies
Live in eternity's sunrise.
~ William Blake
If anything, what you're quoting is a plea for perspective – and really, the reality: romantic relationships are only a fraction of the totality of human life. They are, even at the best of times, wonderful variables, but variables nonetheless. All subject to change. Irrefutably. Lose yourself – your self-worth, joy, and expectations in even the most exciting and satisfying impermanence... and you'll end up like 50-60% of folks agonizing over their relationships on the web. Just look around you. And hardly any of them are "learning" anything. In fact, if you look reallllly closely, they aren't learning sweet f all, just repeating the same mistakes with someone else. Ice cream is ice cream, however many flavours you go through.
When you have no more deep, mystifying (to you) questions about what others are doing to you and how on earth you can change them and "improve" them and "work" on yourself only to find that you're still you, change this that and the other, etc., then you're well on your way. It's then that relationships of all sorts take on the nature of play and ease. No requirement to keep meeting needs and fulfill someone else's dreams and expectations. Some will naturally gravitate toward such a person, and the connection will be natural and easy, and... such a person will lose some others. Oh well. Not everyone is meant to stick around, and it's really this truth that needs to be "tolerated", as you say, or put more accurately, accepted wholeheartedly.
The most important learning of all does not occur side-to-side, or even looking upward, but looking inward, at one's own ideas about oneself – which are then projected outward to create a "world" and a "life." When that work is well underway in earnest, everything else is gravy.click to expand
Posted by MoonshineLeoThis would be why so many lie and try to paint themselves in a different light than they are.
Everyone thinks we have all these admirers and we get all this attention
Posted by Fafa"Sware?" Really? And you want to be taken seriously?
People lie period. Has nothing to do with signs. People will sware to God all aquarians are honest people. False. I've met some men who have told a lot of tales . They say Gem, pisces, libra men live to lie. Sorry hun it ain't just Leo men. It's a human thing.click to expand
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