i need to grow up

when i fall in love or i like someone so much i go 360 degrees to show them the opposite of how i feel because get scared. I couln't even figure out what scares me most, getting hurt? or commitments. I am sure my libra got me all figured out now, he's good at it and that jsut makes it worse. I guess i showed a cold feet and he's throwing it back on me? Libra just tend to mirror who they are talking to, I noticed, is it true? If you are nice, they get nice too and if you are cold they just mirror that...ahhhh

now i am confused...help!

FYI: If you go 360 degrees, you are going full circle. If you show them opposite, you're going 180 degrees. 😛

yes they do mirror. either that or they turn and go the other way.

OH yeah, I've noticed my Libra mirrors me in SO many ways! For example, when we stay the night together, sometimes I have to get up earlier for work and sometimes he does. I started a pattern of kissing him on the forehead before I leave and saying "have a good day" or something to that effect. After I did it a few times, he started to do it everytime he left while I was still sleeping. Then, I would stop doing it for a while, either thinking he needed to sleep or in a hurry or whatever, and he stopped. Once I started again, he started.

I've totally noticed that if I pull back at all, he also pulls back. If I am all about taking things a little deeper or if I am truly having tons of fun with him, he will respond in the same way. I'm curious to see how others on this board will respond to this dynamic.....

oh yeah hahaha i went over...kinda like over heaven to hell..

...very true to him too amorock..its sad..i just want them to have their own style ..copycats!

like run after me when i am running away, not run to the opposite side to match me...arggg

why am i running away anyway...sheesh!

It doesn't sound to me like you need to grow up . . everybody is afraid of stuff, that doesn't mean we're young or immature . . it just means we are human and some things make us feel vulnerable.

In actuality . . if you're afraid of two things: getting hurt & commitment . . then, I would think that a man who tries to mirror himself with you, would be less scarry. At least, for now, until you figure out within yourself that there is nothing to fear about interacting with the opposite sex.

If he was opposed to you, with these kinds of fears you have . . that would cause more chaos inside you because it would be forcing you to face the terror. But, if he's agreeing with you and trying to be compatible with you, then what is there to fear because these things AREN'T being thrown at you?

Does that make sense?

So, you can use this as a tool to strengthen yourself . . show confidence, let him give the mirror image . . pull from the power within yourself, and from what is being reflected onto you from him.

Personally, I was with a Libra for a while and I didn't experience this . . he was all himself, he was who he was and not me at all . . either way, don't run from your reflection within him for in reality . . that means you're running from yourself.

🙂

Whoa...deep

😛

Damn mirrors . . keep you running in circles

Oh, now I get it . . 360, lol

I also need to bloody well grow up...!

This thread came up in the right time and helped me quote the first lines while explaining this same phenomena to a gem. Beauty of timing!!!

definitely angel, thanks you are right. I had a quiet time this afternoon and i thought about everything that I learned from this forum (libra forum in general) and all the things that he's said and done, well he is very true to his sign..looking back..he acted nothing but like a libra and yes...I must be running away from myself. But nice thing i was able to run 360 as to be more objective, i am now actually looking at it from outside the circle...lol

a while ago while i was trying to think things through, i fet like a libra...i was actually deducing things..hahaha.I looked back to the things we did and our actions..as to why this and that happened and where did it spring from? and i saw a lot of this mirror things that i did not see before....and darn..i just realized I actually started this whole relationship thing?? i can't believe it, hahah it makes me laugh that i actually am the captain in this ship of love. I thought he injected the thought on me, but jeezz, I teased him first but not too much then he teased me more and we started to tease each other and everything..went juicy from there on. Then I also am the one who started calling him honey, as a joke of course, but its the start of us calling words of endearment and so on...hahaha can you believe it...i am so innocent! I also realized that I actually said goodbye to him a few weeks back...i said goodbye for good. God! then I thought it was him, but it was actually I! sheesh, I am glad i have acquired a new libran brain, i can think like this, i never dared to before...i just can't seem to focus..but now i have a libra brain.

HOW TO ACQUIRE A LIBRA BRAIN: read the libra forums, and learn their ways. its contageous.hahahahahahhahahahahaaaaaaaaa

i am seriously laughing like evil right now.

by the way his moon is in gem..which makes him super..air sign?? i kinda don't like that about him cause he can..be not loyal as gems?? what does moon do again?

the moon is the introverted personality, the way the "feel" about themselves and the world around them.

When I wrote above that I also need to grow up further up this page, this was A HINT to talk more and for someone to jump in. But I cannot be direct and ask for all of your attention because then I'd be needy. Even on DXP I'm indirect.

An afterthought...

you know you really need to grow up..but then you realized shoot what am i talking about so you took it back....hahaha jk

Why do you feel you need to grow up? Most people use the term to communicate a feeling of submitting to the social model, or less metaphorically that they simply need to be more responsible and give more attention to priorities than wants.

For the longest time my family was hoping I would grow up. And by grow up they meant assume 60+ thousand dollars in debt for a piece of paper that says I showed up somewhere and kept from druling on myself for four to six years. Perspective. I told them it would be growing up if I decided I wanted that for myself and earned it, otherwise it was just giving in. So.....clarify as to what you mean about growing up.

1 fine gem, I did not take anything back. It was an observation, and one at my own expense.

Nico, stop procrastinating and be serious! about a thing or two...

Nico, to stop procrastinating and be serious about a thing or two*

The original reads slightly differently...

What the hell are you talking about?

That I feel like cra-hap!!

"That I feel like cra-hap!!"

Have fun with that I'm gonna go...."be serious about a thing or two".

i need to grow up --meaning= i don't need to wear high hills anymore hahahahah

nic, be serious about a thing or two but not everything...lol

"nic, be serious about a thing or two but not everything...lol"

Exactly. I love when I do that.

It had nothing to do with either of you. I even corrected the error.

Jeez!

libra dear, hahaha i was just really joking...come back here baby..i got ya, but i need to learn to be serious about a thing or two...

..but i have another question..;(* well, as adviced i pulled back my bra a little bit, i mean gosh, i pulled back a little bit from my libra..there i got it right, anyway i am keeping my distance since i got a bit clingy the past week, i got a bit out of control so now i am playing it cool.

but he..since we didn't talk about what i am doing or stuff must have thought, i havent talked to him because of my busy schedule, but he adjusted his TIME: you know he's got a rouutine time of what time he goes to bed and what time he gets up, but now to have time with me, he goes to bed early now and get up earlier than ussual because california's time is like 3 hours behind...

hope im making sense ahhh im confused...the bottom line is he's adjusting he's sched to accomodate me? is that what it means— or he just want some change? so he get up at like 4 am now, to catch me at 7? before i leave..sweet! do you do that libra honeys?

My virgo ex and I worked completely opposite hours so I would stay up until she had to leave for work so we could have the morning time together. I don't do this for people unless I like them a lot so I would guess it is a god sign.

Yes, I can see myself do that, 1 Fine Gem...

kewl, thanks you guys...love you all.. love me libra

he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me! 🙂

infact he loves u and he is jus confused on "how much". Its ur gemini twin side which keeps doing this "he loves me, he loves me not" 😛

...lol.

i have questions, i know it sounds funny but i don't know a lot of things.

1.) how do you exactly feel when you miss/love someone?

cause i've never felt this before but whenever i miss my libra, or he misses me maybe? i feel it..i don't know if i am making sense but just wondering if you feel it physically, like your heart beating so fast and you just feel a little nervous..

its funny the other day, my heart was beating so fast i didn't understand why, the i looked at my cellphone and i saw my libra called me and i missed it, so now i feel like if he is thinking about me..i feel this way..i just get all nervous and my heart beats so fast it feels like it reaches up to my neck or something..but i am a very cool person and i seldom feel this way not even when i am speaking in front of a lot of people..i just dont understand it. he must have put a spell on me..ahh

do you feel that way too..can i validate this thought? or i am just crazy...

help!!!

1 Fine Gem

When I am in love I see the world through 'his' eyes.

He is always with me, like in my pocket. (Although of course he is not!)

The feeling of missing only comes alive when I see him. But because he's on my mind and with me all the time I don't miss him when he's not with me. Libra is good at that.

The real emotions only come out when together. When not together it's the head that keeps it going. So missing is not a 'live' feeling... But we think about you not-stop as in we can 'feel' you are with us. It's a complete feeling. This is when love is confirmed, of course. Feels very safe and extremely balanced. Don't need anyone - don't long for anyone - only him and if he cannot be here I might as well just be alone. A friend won't do...

wow..that's something..thanks, but yeah..i have to stop thinking..in my case its mor imagining..lol

but he gave me a surprised visit last night! OMG! he flew from LA?? to here ahhhhhh

we had an awsomemazing night! God i can't get enough of him..but he had to fly back thhis noon cause of work...but geez he came here just to be with me? wow! i'm in cloud nine! but i miss him more...ahhh

he said he will call me when he get to LA, in our case he always call when he says he will...i can't wait to hear his voice..

* But we think about you not-stop as in we can 'feel' you are with us.

I actually have constant mental converstations with the person.

OK, this explains a LOT. I remember wondering why my Libra didn't miss me when I was away - but he DID, he just say it until I said it first. The retreating thing makes a lot more sense to me now as well. I tend to think that if someone doesn't really have a drive to see that they don't want to, thus are becoming disinterested. I guess I need to learn that it's not ALL about me!! LOL!

So funny that you say "like in my pocket". My Libra uses that phrase ALL the time.

The more you get close to us, the more we tend to reflect you. 🙂 When we find nothing to reflect, we know we are missing someone...

When we find nothing to reflect, we know we are missing someone...—

can you break this down?? 😉

* But we think about you not-stop as in we can 'feel' you are with us.
* I actually have constant mental converstations with the person.*

Sparrow, I do that too!

The what you all refer to as 'retreating' is NOT retreating, girls! It's just that we don't realise that you need that phone call. We don't miss you when you're not there. We've got a built-in mechanism to deal with your absence: day dreaming, coming along in my pocket, listening to YOUR music, indeed conversations in the mind! We cannot be needy so we deal with it one way or another, and so everything is kept fresh and alive.

This is perhaps also why we'd be able to have a long distance relationship...

i need to grow up..at least 2 inches more..lol

Oh my gosh; I've just learned SO much in the last posts. Thank you. Libra, I could just sit under a tree and listen to your LIBRA wisdom all day. You all are really helping me understand the uniqueness of Libra girls.

and boys!! That was an awesome post Libra 🙂

Well, that is good to read. It's good for me too, because it makes me think about my flaws and the desire & opportunities to correct them. (And I am trying to be different with the people that deserve it e.g. tell them how I FEEL (what a nightmare by the way))

Libra is pretty much always positive, and so brushes under the carpet to stay positive a lot, and overlooks things as a result.

You're all doing great. I am learning a lot from you, in return.

Keep it up!

wow im going to agree w/the mirror thing to an extent.....if i feel like someone is being nice i'll b just as nice back, or if they're being affectionate (supposing i like the person in question) i will be just as back....it's not that we're mirroring so much , i think it's just the boundary thing we're testing....for example when my virgo friend is being aloof i will be just as aloof if not more....or if he's being affectionat e at the moment i will b too........i wouldnt want to do something that the other person is not comfortable doing

..in other words if someone is mirroring you its a positive thing?? do you think it's in our/the other person's favor or your just playing safe, or it comes naturally?

and do you mirror everyone or just the people you like

and oh if you've answered this before...i forgot...will never forget again...lol

Mirroring is a VERY good thing. Only with the ones we adore.