
MondayMorning
@MondayMorning
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Posted by Deedee86Thanks Deedee. I think sometimes that's the BS women tell themselves though to cover for a guy who's not that interested.
Maybe he's feeling overwhelmed. He went on a casual first date and ended up catching feelings.

Posted by MondayMorningPosted by Deedee86Thanks Deedee. I think sometimes that's the BS women tell themselves though to cover for a guy who's not that interested.
Maybe he's feeling overwhelmed. He went on a casual first date and ended up catching feelings.
It's still weird though.
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Posted by DolluxxeStrange, I'm the opposite in my relationships. I'm not all that fussed in the beginning. It's only as time goes on that I become more clingy.
If a Libra is genuinely interested, he would ask you for a second date again and would keep in touch.
We love our space only when a relationship has been established. During the early stages of dating though, we'd be glued to your hip.
The guy is probably talking to/dating other women. You're not a priority yet hence the silence.

Posted by MondayMorning
I got the rejection message this morning.
Fantastic night but he doesn't want a relationship!


Posted by MondayMorningHis moon is in aquarius? Okay do not text him or call him until he calls you. Are we clear? Do not. Wait.
Thanks everyone for replying.
Just to answer the question @2moon, he's 41 years old.
I did his chart with him on the date and he's alllll planets in Libra apart from a moon in Aquarius and Venus in Virgo - so I guess this guy is going to be reserved / slow with things?
I would have normally just messaged him, I am a pretty playful and chilled /confident person, but on the date he told me he had a fear of being needed and preferred independent women (bad experience with ex wife engulfing him that he seemed to have a fear of this) so I figured give him space and see what he does next so as not to freak him out because the date was pretty intense.
I'm not a particularly needy woman but I suppose the evaluation process after a good first date is the two questions (1) how do I feel about this person and (2) how do they feel about me. No one likes mixed messages on the latter I guess ha ha.
Also maybe worth noting, he was busy over the weekend, he had extensive weekend plans and part of that was seeing his kids for the first time in months after his ex wife had blocked contact and it was all very uncertain which he talked to me about. So maybe he was busy /dealing with emotional things that were a priority.
Maybe give it a couple more days and see what he does.
I think it's just that I actually really liked him and felt sure he did too so was walking on air and feeling happy and excited and now I feel a bit blue and deflated.

Posted by MondayMorningSorry it happened to you. There is no excuse for messing you around like that
It was very weird, he seemed so into me

Posted by jeanePosted by MondayMorningSorry it happened to you. There is no excuse for messing you around like that
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Posted by MondayMorningPosted by jeanePosted by MondayMorningSorry it happened to you. There is no excuse for messing you around like that
It was very weird, he seemed so into me
Thank you. I'm embarrassed by how much that stung! Never gets easier, but so rare for me to like someoneclick to expand


Posted by MondayMorningSounds like is just after lots of casual sex.
Thanks...
This is exactly what it said
"I had a really fun time with you. The conversation was great and the kissing was really fantastic. Although I feel bad that I just don't think I can do a relationship and I think that's what you want and probably deserve".
Yeah, it sucks. I know dating can be tough but at the same time when I go on a date I can usually tell how well it's going and like you say, why extend it so long only to reject the person afterwards?
Thanks for the support. I think it has just been SO long since I did that lovely stay awake all night talking / cuddling /kissing thing that it reminded me of how nice it was to feel that way about someone (SO rare for me) and I'd woken up all smiles and hopes and feeling potential and getting knocked down was a shock.
When he left here I honestly felt zero potential for rejection, so that was just plain weird.
I guess you can't get into anyone's head.

Posted by MondayMorningI'm sure he'll reach out soon - it does sound like he was pre-occupied ... I hope all goes well for you
Thanks everyone for replying.
Just to answer the question @2moon, he's 41 years old.
I did his chart with him on the date and he's alllll planets in Libra apart from a moon in Aquarius and Venus in Virgo - so I guess this guy is going to be reserved / slow with things?
I would have normally just messaged him, I am a pretty playful and chilled /confident person, but on the date he told me he had a fear of being needed and preferred independent women (bad experience with ex wife engulfing him that he seemed to have a fear of this) so I figured give him space and see what he does next so as not to freak him out because the date was pretty intense.
I'm not a particularly needy woman but I suppose the evaluation process after a good first date is the two questions (1) how do I feel about this person and (2) how do they feel about me. No one likes mixed messages on the latter I guess ha ha.
Also maybe worth noting, he was busy over the weekend, he had extensive weekend plans and part of that was seeing his kids for the first time in months after his ex wife had blocked contact and it was all very uncertain which he talked to me about. So maybe he was busy /dealing with emotional things that were a priority.
Maybe give it a couple more days and see what he does.
I think it's just that I actually really liked him and felt sure he did too so was walking on air and feeling happy and excited and now I feel a bit blue and deflated.

Posted by MondayMorningTrying to dissect why he hasn't called is an excercise in futility. Like deedee said, he may be surprised by the connection. If he's not looking for a relationship could be he's ghosted before he gets further attached.Posted by Deedee86Thanks Deedee. I think sometimes that's the BS women tell themselves though to cover for a guy who's not that interested.
Maybe he's feeling overwhelmed. He went on a casual first date and ended up catching feelings.
It's still weird though.
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Posted by tctasorry, just read the rest of the thread ...Posted by MondayMorningI'm sure he'll reach out soon - it does sound like he was pre-occupied ... I hope all goes well for you
Thanks everyone for replying.
Just to answer the question @2moon, he's 41 years old.
I did his chart with him on the date and he's alllll planets in Libra apart from a moon in Aquarius and Venus in Virgo - so I guess this guy is going to be reserved / slow with things?
I would have normally just messaged him, I am a pretty playful and chilled /confident person, but on the date he told me he had a fear of being needed and preferred independent women (bad experience with ex wife engulfing him that he seemed to have a fear of this) so I figured give him space and see what he does next so as not to freak him out because the date was pretty intense.
I'm not a particularly needy woman but I suppose the evaluation process after a good first date is the two questions (1) how do I feel about this person and (2) how do they feel about me. No one likes mixed messages on the latter I guess ha ha.
Also maybe worth noting, he was busy over the weekend, he had extensive weekend plans and part of that was seeing his kids for the first time in months after his ex wife had blocked contact and it was all very uncertain which he talked to me about. So maybe he was busy /dealing with emotional things that were a priority.
Maybe give it a couple more days and see what he does.
I think it's just that I actually really liked him and felt sure he did too so was walking on air and feeling happy and excited and now I feel a bit blue and deflated.
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Posted by MondayMorningJust saw this. What dating app did you meet him on?
I got the rejection message this morning.
Fantastic night but he doesn't want a relationship!

Posted by MondayMorningHe propably was. But he's more into running through lots of pussys...not just one. It's admirable that he was straight up and didn't lead you on and waste your time with the hope of a relationship in order to tap dat ass.
It was very weird, he seemed so into me



Posted by MondayMorningI don't think that's the case. Libras are pretty charming and socially adaptable. So it may have been he was humoring you and keeping the conversation goin in the hope that you would give it up.
@LadyNeptune
Or he thought I was SO awful he didn't want to do it again!
He was married, for a long time, divorce came through late 2015.


Posted by MondayMorningI don't really judge those that use apps, or online sites to find dates. However, Tinder is not somewhere I think anyone should try and meet someone of quality, and looking for something long term. Smash and dash is usually the ultimate goal on there.
Tinder - yes, I know - huge mistake. Have deleted it and will never meet a guy off there again for as long as I live.

Posted by MondayMorningThat explains it. He's not ready for anything serious.
@LadyNeptune
Or he thought I was SO awful he didn't want to do it again!
He was married, for a long time, divorce came through late 2015.

Posted by nikkistarI think tinder means different things in different countries. I'm guessing in the states it's a way to smash and dash. In the UK, I know of several people who have met their long term partners on it. They are all thinking about marriage and babies now.Posted by MondayMorningI don't really judge those that use apps, or online sites to find dates. However, Tinder is not somewhere I think anyone should try and meet someone of quality, and looking for something long term. Smash and dash is usually the ultimate goal on there.
Tinder - yes, I know - huge mistake. Have deleted it and will never meet a guy off there again for as long as I live.
I am sure, given time, you will find other men to date. And I am sorry you got rejected, but I do agree with @LadyNeptune that he only stayed hoping to get some. Sucks, but at least you figured it out before wasting your time.click to expand

Posted by jeaneYes I think it is very much different in other countries. In the US, it seems to be the go to app for smash and dash types.Posted by nikkistarI think tinder means different things in different countries. I'm guessing in the states it's a way to smash and dash. In the UK, I know of several people who have met their long term partners on it. They are all thinking about marriage and babies now.Posted by MondayMorningI don't really judge those that use apps, or online sites to find dates. However, Tinder is not somewhere I think anyone should try and meet someone of quality, and looking for something long term. Smash and dash is usually the ultimate goal on there.
Tinder - yes, I know - huge mistake. Have deleted it and will never meet a guy off there again for as long as I live.
I am sure, given time, you will find other men to date. And I am sorry you got rejected, but I do agree with @LadyNeptune that he only stayed hoping to get some. Sucks, but at least you figured it out before wasting your time.click to expand




Posted by MondayMorning
Thanks...
This is exactly what it said
"I had a really fun time with you. The conversation was great and the kissing was really fantastic. Although I feel bad that I just don't think I can do a relationship and I think that's what you want and probably deserve".
Yeah, it sucks. I know dating can be tough but at the same time when I go on a date I can usually tell how well it's going and like you say, why extend it so long only to reject the person afterwards?
Thanks for the support. I think it has just been SO long since I did that lovely stay awake all night talking / cuddling /kissing thing that it reminded me of how nice it was to feel that way about someone (SO rare for me) and I'd woken up all smiles and hopes and feeling potential and getting knocked down was a shock.
When he left here I honestly felt zero potential for rejection, so that was just plain weird.
I guess you can't get into anyone's head.




Posted by MondayMorningOr he made a decision and actually found a stronger connection with someone else whom he didn't tell you he was seeing as well. Either way, you dodged a bullet.
Come to think of it, what the heck was I doing dating a Libra with all planets in Libra and Venus in Virgo. Never going to be an emotional match for me. I noticed today anyway that the guy had taken down all his dating profiles, so maybe he was just not ready to date. I was silly for getting so upset about it. Maybe us Scorps are just so used to everyone falling under the spell we expect everybody to!

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On another note, looking at your birth chart you are perfect for me heheh.
Posted by OneKnightLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
Now, back to "Us" hehe. I never had a Scorpio. Too bad I figured out this zodiac thing too late. Your Venus is in Scorpio, just like every woman I ever fell in love with.
Even that underworld girl in your avatar looks Scorpio to me.
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Posted by nikkistarPosted by OneKnight
On another note, looking at your birth chart you are perfect for me heheh.
Posted by OneKnightLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
Now, back to "Us" hehe. I never had a Scorpio. Too bad I figured out this zodiac thing too late. Your Venus is in Scorpio, just like every woman I ever fell in love with.
Even that underworld girl in your avatar looks Scorpio to me.
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Posted by nikkistarVery true, he could have been pursuing someone else. Guess we'll never know.Posted by MondayMorningOr he made a decision and actually found a stronger connection with someone else whom he didn't tell you he was seeing as well. Either way, you dodged a bullet.
Come to think of it, what the heck was I doing dating a Libra with all planets in Libra and Venus in Virgo. Never going to be an emotional match for me. I noticed today anyway that the guy had taken down all his dating profiles, so maybe he was just not ready to date. I was silly for getting so upset about it. Maybe us Scorps are just so used to everyone falling under the spell we expect everybody to!click to expand

Posted by OneKnightI didn't get a message! I swear! I will try and write you one...Posted by MondayMorningNo you didn't. Such a Liar. I wrote you a private message and you never responded.
I've definitely formed a DXP crush.
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Posted by VampScorpI thought of that but I don't think so. If he was committed enough / liked someone else enough to remove all dating profiles then he'd not have been pursuing / with me. Well it would seem very weird to be playing the field on Friday and committed on Monday anyway.Posted by nikkistarVery true, he could have been pursuing someone else. Guess we'll never know.Posted by MondayMorningOr he made a decision and actually found a stronger connection with someone else whom he didn't tell you he was seeing as well. Either way, you dodged a bullet.
Come to think of it, what the heck was I doing dating a Libra with all planets in Libra and Venus in Virgo. Never going to be an emotional match for me. I noticed today anyway that the guy had taken down all his dating profiles, so maybe he was just not ready to date. I was silly for getting so upset about it. Maybe us Scorps are just so used to everyone falling under the spell we expect everybody to!
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Posted by VampScorpYeah, I know well enough to know no one is all bad. One thing I experience a lot dating at my age is that a lot of divorced men around 40 - 45 are pretty seriously commitment-shy. Maybe as a result of bad divorces or maybe they are divorced because they are that way! Whichever it is, the dating pool is saturated by a lot of men who'd prefer to have short / meaningless flings than anything deeper. It's not that the girls are wrong - it's that they are so busy flicking tinder looking for someone perfect and picking flaws in women they barely know that they really miss what's special.
@MondayMornjng - Yes I agree, we're very intuned with one another. I really like your analogy on cancers entering scorpios water too. Now go pursue a cancer!
I'll give the libra man credit. Regardless of his intentions he was honest with you and himself at the end of the day. Deleting his profile clearly shouts he's not ready to date so I say good for him, he's not all bad, just didn't work out for you two.
Also, I don't know all of your placements but I am Venus and Mars in Libra so I'm naturally drawn to libras. I have some wonderful libran friends, if you click it's a friendship for life, even when they go AWOL ?
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We had a first date and it seemed to go really well. He seemed quite nervous, fumbly at first and he is probably the first date I have met in a lot of years who showed up with a bunch of flowers and he kept saying really nice things to me, but sweet and not creepy.
I'd describe him as the nerdy type!
On the date he was giving all the signs of attraction; complimenting me, stroking my fingers, totally engaged on me and asking lots of questions and sharing lots of personal thoughts and ideas. He nervously went in for the kiss half way into the date and it was a great kiss. He went in for lots more kisses and walked me home holding hands then came up and talked with me for about 8 hours straight.
I was watching him and all the body language was saying the attraction was there. Pupils like saucers, leaning into me, trying to touch me, trying to impress me by telling me all his best achievements and all that. It was actually sort of adorable and I felt quite warmed to him and disarmed.
I was thinking I'd found a real gentleman and the conversation was seriously great - a bit of debate, a lot of philosophy and he was really smart and interesting and the conversation just flowed really easily.
We didn't have sex, but he did sleep over and he snuggled me all night, woke up and kissed me a lot more. Although we woke up early, he stayed with me until lunch, more talking and kissing and said he'd like to see me again and I agreed that I'd like that too.
And then nothing! Two days and not had even a text.
I'm so shocked he hasn't called.
Is this a classic case of me being played or him losing interest? We met through online dating and so I am feeling now like maybe he was disappointed with me in real life.