New Libra (Page 4)

HP, Chatz, I don't take it offensive or confusing that these guys share these things with you. It does't mean they aren't interested in you, just feel comfortable sharing with you.

uh huh at coming on strong from the start then backing off - grrrrrrrrr....I got sucked in by the charm....dunno why he would do that if he wasn't "ready" for a r/ship, particularly when I made it clear I wasn't after "casual"...grrrrrrrr@em

QS...that's exactly what I thought - I don't think its offensive.....just contrare!!! The more he tells me the safer it all is 🙂 If he were to be sneaky?? I'd have walked a long time ago but he tells me everything thats on his mind, how he feels, yada yada.....THAT'S a part of him I love dearly as Im not quite that open myself...something I'm slowly learning to be but again, if he wants that, HE has to be patient with me 🙂

i can see that...

last night, he said that he feels very comfortable around me - almost like we've known each other for longer than we have.

yes, the charm...and it doesn't even seem like he's trying.

that's the thing HP...they don't HAVE to try - it comes natural LOL.....just don't get sucked in too quickly...make him work a bit 😛

i like to flirt, but i'm scared to with him....not until i know what i want

Take your time - you really don't seem sure at all.....

no i'm not. just not used to this.

HP, just enjoy the time now and you will see later if he backs off or not... This time, try not to get too pulled in... That is hard with all the charm, I know.

he kinda made a date with me for 2 months from today.

oh and he was shocked that i'd never seen any of the Godfather movies, so he made reference last night that we'd have to make a day of watching all 3 godfather movies, on a rainy day.

um now i'm getting drunk texts from him.

What do they say?

one can only imagine LOL

HP, what do they say!!!

ok, i'm back....he ended up calling me

gawd he is a good Libran!!!! OMG

First message was around 9:30 and it said "Shakespeares rocks".

Shakespears is a bar near where we live.

So i Reply with "Have a drink for me" and I asked him if he was there with a buddy.

he replied with "Yes, Kevin. Another friend that believed in me when I needed. Just like you"

i replied with "See you are totally going to forget about me now that you have your old buddies back"

He replied "I call BS on that."

I didn't reply for a few minutes, so he followed up with another message that said "I'm looking forward to pizza and a movie".

So I replied with "Me too."

THen he called...

yeah he's into me. he sent me a good night email.

grr, i wish i wasn't so scared of committment and dating.

awwwww that's so sweet regardless 🙂

and why have they all been Libras lately?

i need to stop complaining and just enjoy it.

bah...why am i such a stubborn taury?

HP, seems like you found one without baggage. They will step up especially initially when they don't have baggage. Just learn from these posts don't get too comfortable too soon. Good you didn't go out with him. I think you not being avail. all the time intrigues him. They like a person who is has a life and not dependant on them to give them one.

Good stuff girl...

he has baggage. he went through a hard divorce and he feels comfortable telling me about it. but the rest that you say seems true.

QS is starting to sound like nicodemus! (Hey, we all learn from the best, nic')---anyway, she is so right on about not being too comfortable right away. Libras tend to make the rest of us more introspective and sensitive to our feelings, no matter what those feelings are; and they operate in an entirely different world of time. It might drive us nutz for two or three days not to hear from them and they'll just shrug like it's been five minutes. Valuable advice to me is to read / listen to this Board ESPECIALLY regarding what others have gone through in their relationships with their Libra friends and mates. Cuz it's right on.

Ok, someone read into this email:

Me: I love to cook stuff like that. I won a cooking contest for my homemade pizza. Yup, I'm just good in so many ways. 🙂
Him: well, we'll just have to wait it out and see, won't we?

Is he referring to my food or me being good in so many ways? I'm sorry, but I just can't read between these lines!

Ok, he sent another email:

"i actually wasn't wholly responding to chili quality...I'm actually lookin' forward to some homeade pizza. What can I bring? "

HOLY CRAP!

Other ways...

Again, other ways...

HOLY CRAP

Subtle about it... He means other ways. However he did say we have to wait and see... He seems to be Okay with waiting until you are ready, believe it or not I went throught that waiting until I was ready thing with my ex.. Although I did want to devour him onsite. He will tell you it was worth the wait.

Now I'm nervous about cooking my f'ing pizza for him.

I'm all giddy now and I have no idea why. 😄

what wine goes well with shrimp pizza?

"he replied with "Yes, Kevin. Another friend that believed in me when I needed. Just like you"

This is super important for us. I think what he is aluding to is the reason we are so picky with who we are with. We want someone we know will be there no matter what. Due to our tendancy to discover something, go full force, then let it go and do it all over again with someone else makes the really slow-moving, practical signs go crazy but we aint gonna give it up. It isn't just this specifically, but the principle of faith, blind faith if necissary to save a relationship. We need to be believed in. A muse of sorts.

*with something else* today isn't my day.

interesting.

HP, I think food means sex to Libras. Period. When they talk about food; sharing it, cooking it, how spicy, offering to make dinner, that's about as BLATANT as they get in their subtle signals about intimacy. Even as an Aries, if I'm offering to cook a meal for a lovely lass, I am wooing her to be "full" (satisfied) and comfortable (ready for a trip to someplace else comfortable). Okay. That's enough. ALMOST crossed the "too much information" line. Ha!

(Start talking "food" back to him and watch his eyes sparkle and his body start to slightly quiver---he may say he's getting "too hot" and open a door or window or actually run out of the room for a short time. FOOD will do that, y'know!).

Tom, I'm cooking for him. I'm a Taurus....we love food, so if food = sex , oh never mind... 😛

HP, I KNOW Taureans too. 'Can't fool me, dahlin'!

Hmm, got another email from him around 1 am this morning.
An excerp:

"did that guy from last week call ya? not to get in your personal business, but just curious. just trying to figure him out. not that it's a priority, but....ok, i'll shut up now."

not that it's a priority, but....but what? where was he going with that?

Yup HP, as I said he meant the other thing... Not food... He is showing he is interested and curious about what your involvement is witht the other guy... My libra friend does that when he is not even communicating... If he calls and I don't answer a couple times- I get this "I guess you were busy for awhile, or just fishing to see what I have been up to, or even ask what you do who you do it with— Just keep it vague...

It's kinda exciting, but kinda scary all at the same time.

Yay, HP! You got him on the run. Ha!

on the run?

In the palm of your hand?

Twisted around your little finger?

By the ballz?

COMPLETELY interested!

Bewitched, bothered and bewildered.

Usually what Libras do to us other signs.

tom, how can you read that much into those messages?

He's a GUY!

the thing is, and maybe I haven't made this clear on here, but I don't know where I want this to go with him. he's such a nice guy and so unlike these other men who have stumbled into my life. we have stated that we're just doing the "friends" thing right now. but you think he's giving signals for more?

ack, my darn taurus charm.

"we have stated that we're just doing the "friends" thing right now. but you think he's giving signals for more?"

I think you are reading too far into it. It is too soon to be sure of anything at this point. From where I am sitting it looks like he is going through the same thoughts you are. Wasn't expecting anything but realizes he could really like you given the opportunity. So...why don't you find out together? Stop thinking about putting those walls up so much, they are going to block your view.

As far as it being exciting yet scary..... I don't know about you but can you think of anything better?

thanks, nic. that's the perspective i needed.