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Slut-shaming
Posted by VenusianCartelThis thread is meant for those with a functioning brain. Not simpletons who can only handle one short sentence at a time.
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Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
This thread is meant for those with a functioning brain. Not simpletons who can only handle one short sentence at a time.
Door is thataway. Or stay and embarrass yourself even more.click to expand
If one is of the sort "i do what i please" one must also accept other ppl's prerogative of "i say what i please". If not, it's just hypocritical.
I kinda do believe in monogamy with the right person.
I kinda do believe in monogamy with the right person.
Posted by kreolYa, like that.Posted by Mr_Pinchylike free speech
If one is of the sort "i do what i please" one must also accept other ppl's prerogative of "i say what i please". If not, it's just hypocritical.
I kinda do believe in monogamy with the right person.
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Posted by Arielle83I'm actually not very familiar with your situation. Heh I'm not a chick after all, scrutinizing every single syllable other gals utter.
I've been slut shamed by men and women.
They're too concerned about what I'm doing with myself rather than worrying about their own lives.
It's pretty intolerant rather than ignorant to care about how people behave in their sex lives.
Just have sex if you want sex.
Don't use sex as a bargaining thing to get a relationship though, because then you're misrepresenting yourself.
What did you do that others immediately condemned?
Posted by tizianiWhat if the former simply can't help all the negative attention, and they just carry on - business as usual? But the negative attention persists.
For me the difference is just between those who whore themselves for themselves, and those who revel in the shame or even court negative attention from it.
I admire the former and tend to avoid the latter, only because the latter makes me think of how I used to provoke people as a kid just to court chaos.
Is the difference just in whether he/she pays attention to the negativity or completely ignores it?
@TaurusInShania I wanna hear from you about this because you're one of the reasons this topic has been on my mind today.
Posted by Arielle83So you were having great sex with your HUSBAND and simply shared the stories.......what's so slutty about that? It's not like it was your husband, as well as his brother, his cousin, his father or grandfather, the pool boy and the milkman.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowAll the sex I used to have with my husband.Posted by Arielle83I'm actually not very familiar with your situation. Heh I'm not a chick after all, scrutinizing every single syllable other gals utter.
I've been slut shamed by men and women.
They're too concerned about what I'm doing with myself rather than worrying about their own lives.
It's pretty intolerant rather than ignorant to care about how people behave in their sex lives.
Just have sex if you want sex.
Don't use sex as a bargaining thing to get a relationship though, because then you're misrepresenting yourself.
What did you do that others immediately condemned?
Leo mercury shock value
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Posted by Arielle83I still remember: "I sat on his face for two hours"! 😄
All the sex I used to have with my husband.
Leo mercury shock value
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by Arielle83I still remember: "I sat on his face for two hours"! 😄
All the sex I used to have with my husband.
Leo mercury shock value
Yeppp. The best.
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Good times. 😄
Posted by Mr_Pinchy2 hours— Is he a fish/human hybrid, breathing through gills or something?Posted by Arielle83I still remember: "I sat on his face for two hours"! 😄
All the sex I used to have with my husband.
Leo mercury shock value
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Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowpisces moon. drip, drip, drip...... 😆Posted by Mr_Pinchy2 hours— Is he a fish/human hybrid, breathing through gills or something?Posted by Arielle83I still remember: "I sat on his face for two hours"! 😄
All the sex I used to have with my husband.
Leo mercury shock value
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Posted by Arielle83Hey, i ain't judging either way.Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by Arielle83Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by Arielle83I still remember: "I sat on his face for two hours"! 😄
All the sex I used to have with my husband.
Leo mercury shock value
Yeppp. The best.
Good times. 😄
We hooked up once since we seperated.
I'm not emotionally in it anymore.
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Posted by UnusualVaginalDischargeHonestly, I'd hate to live in the ancient times. Extremely questionable personal hygiene, for starters.
People need to learn self discipline/self control rather than doing stuff in the moment that they will regret later on.
But that is for that individual to learn--not for me to be judgemental about
All is good in moderation--for mental and emotional health reasons
People slut shame or are judgmental because they are following the crowd and want to be accepted by society
Being judgmental of others is also a form of jealousy. When you did not get to do something or were not able to do something that someone else is doing all the time--you want that person to stop because it's unfair that you were punished but that person is not being punished.
It's none of my business what other people do as long as they're being responsible and not getting others sick.
And the other thing with the label slut comes the idea that you're full of stds. Usually people who take sex seriously and want a lot of it--use protection and get tested etc.
But, did you always feel that way for as long as you can remember or were you conditioned to believe that way through modern culture? Like, you saw people cheating on tv and you noticed the fallout was bad, so you started believing the same?
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
People need to learn self discipline/self control rather than doing stuff in the moment that they will regret later on.
But that is for that individual to learn--not for me to be judgemental about
All is good in moderation--for mental and emotional health reasons
People slut shame or are judgmental because they are following the crowd and want to be accepted by society
Being judgmental of others is also a form of jealousy. When you did not get to do something or were not able to do something that someone else is doing all the time--you want that person to stop because it's unfair that you were punished but that person is not being punished.
It's none of my business what other people do as long as they're being responsible and not getting others sick.
And the other thing with the label slut comes the idea that you're full of stds. Usually people who take sex seriously and want a lot of it--use protection and get tested etc.
Posted by RozaeonWell, pertaining to DXP there is such a thing as a block button if someone is being too descriptive. And you always have a choice whether to click on the thread or not when the topic is clear. So jumping into a discussion where you clearly dislike the topic at hand is pretty much sticking your hand into the fire, knowing full well you're gonna get burned - it's what I'd call mazochistic. And then crying foul, you got noone to blame but yourself. You knew what you were getting into. You = generally speaking, not you specifically.
I think that the main problem here is not tolerance or ignorance etc is the fact that people don't respect the point of view of others
And some other people don't know how to debate either, so it turns quickly into insults etc
It's not one-sided
For example, i have a very " archaic " mind when it comes to this subject but i'm open to discuss with someone that is more free than me so to speak, but i will not tolerate if someone come to me and say " you have to live your life this way because it's what we do nowadays "
Or even " oh you are disagreeing with what i say ? Get a dick ".
And i believe that whatever your sexuality is, you have to keep some things private. I find that really indecent to throw your sex life in the face of strangers like that
Posted by tizianiIsn't swinging sleeping around but in a far more controlled environment with often a very small selection of people? Like partner-swapping or open relationships. Sounds a bit limiting to me heh. And I gotta sayPosted by HeavyEntertainmentShowThat could boil down to any reason, so I'd have to just look at it from my point of view to not make too much wild general talk.Posted by tizianiWhat if the former simply can't help all the negative attention, and they just carry on - business as usual? But the negative attention persists.
For me the difference is just between those who whore themselves for themselves, and those who revel in the shame or even court negative attention from it.
I admire the former and tend to avoid the latter, only because the latter makes me think of how I used to provoke people as a kid just to court chaos.
Is the difference just in whether he/she pays attention to the negativity or completely ignores it?
I used to be on the swingers scene around Europe often and it courted negative attention from people who had their own ideas on what swinging is about with no experience of it. It's actually often really tame and boring, maybe you know.
One example I'll always remember was on here, Soul got affected by me mentioning it and started assuming I'd been having sex left right and centre. I was a voyeur, I'm not big on having sex. People were just offended maybe because they'd had more casual sex than I'd ever have, and had their own issues about who or what they'd banged.
But that wasn't limited to Soul or self- style d monogamous types. I used to draw in people who wanted to get onto the swingers scene just to make a mess of it. They go to one night in the club and then start being in everyone's face about it for an entire week afterwards, even looking for arguments, seeking out people who would shame them.
Same shit, different toilet. How is that any more open minded? To me it isn't.
So I took all that as a window to be more clear (with myself) about my draw to it, what I was trying to find out from that scene. I was courting chaos and personally, I feel it CAN be helped to cut that down or minimise it, that's my experience.
No one is going to agree or relate to every choice I made but I got to a point where I really accepted they don't have to.
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"People were just offended maybe because they'd had more casual sex than I'd ever have, and had their own issues about who or what they'd banged."
I've read it through several times and I'm still trying to understand it.......it's like......they believed your experiences were superior to theirs because they weren't careful enough who they had casual sex with?
And what about swinging appealed more to you than, say, sticking with casual sex with whoever?
Posted by xghyWell, we have been on this planet for thousands of years and it seems like we're going backwards.
what do you think? Is slut-shaming a sign of ignorance or is it something that should be done in order to provoke justified shame in a person who can't keep it in their pants?
Exercise freedom within limits. We aren't the only species with the capacity to be monogamous. I think the pressure to be monogamous confuses people which leads to cheating.
As for your comment about child prostitution, sadly that is still rampant in many countries. First slaves are those vulnerable- children, women and physically weak men. We are still developing as human beings, trying to learn how to use our brain into full capacity. Slut shaming isn't ignorant but there's a lack of acceptance. People are very one sided when they slut shame. Why is it one sided? All personal reasons but the social conditioning is a big part of it. We're too scared to think outside the borders of society because we're afraid to get banished from our comfort zone.
Too early.
The recent situation with my boy's cousin has certainly made me think about a lot of things. Since April, he'd been sending me pics of himself that I never asked for, and later, nudies, constantly propositioning me. He would just not stop, even after I made it crystal clear I was not available. Later I found out that my "innocent" boy had been encouraging him to do so as a test to see if I'd take the bait and show that I'm not as sincere about my commitment to him as I appear to be. Too bad for the both of them I passed with flying colors.
I mean, I find the cousin smoking hot but at the end of the day it's just sex. I can get sex anywhere if I feel like it. But my love for my boy is worth far more than that. That's my choice. And the truth is it would bother me very much if my boy started sleeping around.
But then I see situations like Taurusspunk's and they make me stop in my tracks, making me think "some people are really going overboard with their criticism of her". She's just living her life on her terms and she's not hurting anyone. I've seen one of her music videos, and I gotta say I kinda loved it. She's just having fun, and if being overtly sexual brings her joy, then more power to her. But it'd be easy to roll my eyes and just say "ugh what a ho".
And then I look at my boy, who's proven himself to be sexually insatiable these days. Just because he's up for it more or less 24/7, does that make him a slut or a ho?
Posted by Astrology101Guys have been slur shamed since the beginning of time...its just more accepted that they are that way.
Are guys even "slut-shamed"?
That's another can of worms.
I have never cared about swingers, people whom enjoy sex, or anything else taboo related. It is not my body, but theirs to what they wish. I have always stated that I believe monogamy is a choice for the human populace.
However, I also recognize, whether right or wrong, society will judge people more that do not tow the line so to speak. Or they judge those with freeier thinking based off of some personal experience that affected them negatively, so its sometimes not the person they are attacking, but its because what the person is doing triggers an emotional response based on that memory.
I also find people are more willing to criticize those that act one way, but state they are another. I.E. Say you're monogamous, project that to your partner, make them think you are, but cheat non stop because you do not really believe in monogamy.
However, I also recognize, whether right or wrong, society will judge people more that do not tow the line so to speak. Or they judge those with freeier thinking based off of some personal experience that affected them negatively, so its sometimes not the person they are attacking, but its because what the person is doing triggers an emotional response based on that memory.
I also find people are more willing to criticize those that act one way, but state they are another. I.E. Say you're monogamous, project that to your partner, make them think you are, but cheat non stop because you do not really believe in monogamy.
Posted by RozaeonOh don't worry about that. Sag rising lol, I can handle all the non-diplomatic crows. This isn't about calling out the judgemental people here. It's a broader-scope topic but I guess it can work that way too. I'd say it's more about making people shine that light of truth on themselves and take a hard look before they judge others.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI agree with thatPosted by RozaeonWell, pertaining to DXP there is such a thing as a block button if someone is being too descriptive. And you always have a choice whether to click on the thread or not when the topic is clear. So jumping into a discussion where you clearly dislike the topic at hand is pretty much sticking your hand into the fire, knowing full well you're gonna get burned - it's what I'd call mazochistic. And then crying foul, you got noone to blame but yourself. You knew what you were getting into. You = generally speaking, not you specifically.
I think that the main problem here is not tolerance or ignorance etc is the fact that people don't respect the point of view of others
And some other people don't know how to debate either, so it turns quickly into insults etc
It's not one-sided
For example, i have a very " archaic " mind when it comes to this subject but i'm open to discuss with someone that is more free than me so to speak, but i will not tolerate if someone come to me and say " you have to live your life this way because it's what we do nowadays "
Or even " oh you are disagreeing with what i say ? Get a dick ".
And i believe that whatever your sexuality is, you have to keep some things private. I find that really indecent to throw your sex life in the face of strangers like that
But when you are opening a thread asking for opinions or advices, you have to be aware that not everyone will agree with you, not everyone is diplomatic etc
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Posted by tizianiOh, 4 years of mental foreplay before I got to the real deal lol. But isn't it a bit exhausting to do that with more than one person in a short time?Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow"they believed your experiences were superior to theirs because they weren't careful enough who they had casual sex with"Posted by tizianiIsn't swinging sleeping around but in a far more controlled environment with often a very small selection of people? Like partner-swapping or open relationships. Sounds a bit limiting to me heh. And I gotta sayPosted by HeavyEntertainmentShowThat could boil down to any reason, so I'd have to just look at it from my point of view to not make too much wild general talk.Posted by tizianiWhat if the former simply can't help all the negative attention, and they just carry on - business as usual? But the negative attention persists.
For me the difference is just between those who whore themselves for themselves, and those who revel in the shame or even court negative attention from it.
I admire the former and tend to avoid the latter, only because the latter makes me think of how I used to provoke people as a kid just to court chaos.
Is the difference just in whether he/she pays attention to the negativity or completely ignores it?
I used to be on the swingers scene around Europe often and it courted negative attention from people who had their own ideas on what swinging is about with no experience of it. It's actually often really tame and boring, maybe you know.
One example I'll always remember was on here, Soul got affected by me mentioning it and started assuming I'd been having sex left right and centre. I was a voyeur, I'm not big on having sex. People were just offended maybe because they'd had more casual sex than I'd ever have, and had their own issues about who or what they'd banged.
But that wasn't limited to Soul or self- style d monogamous types. I used to draw in people who wanted to get onto the swingers scene just to make a mess of it. They go to one night in the club and then start being in everyone's face about it for an entire week afterwards, even looking for arguments, seeking out people who would shame them.
Same shit, different toilet. How is that any more open minded? To me it isn't.
So I took all that as a window to be more clear (with myself) about my draw to it, what I was trying to find out from that scene. I was courting chaos and personally, I feel it CAN be helped to cut that down or minimise it, that's my experience.
No one is going to agree or relate to every choice I made but I got to a point where I really accepted they don't have to.
"People were just offended maybe because they'd had more casual sex than I'd ever have, and had their own issues about who or what they'd banged."
I've read it through several times and I'm still trying to understand it.......it's like......they believed your experiences were superior to theirs because they weren't careful enough who they had casual sex with?
And what about swinging appealed more to you than, say, sticking with casual sex with whoever?
My best guess is they probably banged a few strangers and didn't know why, so they just expressed their feelings through my posts. Vicarious kind of thing. Or like someone once put it to me: self-loathing closet cases.
"And what about swinging appealed more to you than, say, sticking with casual sex with whoever? "
It's the mental rapport you build up first, mental foreplay.
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Posted by goatpukeJealousy for starters. Especially around here, the majority of the regulars are single and the majority of the single ones have been single for a long time, even forever.
no one should shame anyone for any reason, like what's the point?
Those in happy relationships will swap stories, but the single ones and those in UNhappy relationships will mock them for it. Because it reminds them of what their own life is lacking: happiness and warmth. That's why you have snakes like Gemitati turning on you like flipping a switch or life-long losers like Ands trolling you when your own life has significantly improved, trying to make you feel like you're not welcome here, like you're the odd one out. Because their lives suck and they are 100% miserable and they can't stand hearing how much happier you are these days.
The chicks turned on Arielle back in the day because she was having great sex, and they weren't having anything. Let's face it, dildos don't compare to the real thing. Gemitati was more than happy to hear about my boy, until her delusion finally faded and she realized she's not gonna get what she wants. Suddenly "everyone hates reading about Jed" according to her lol.
And Ands.........where do I start? He's been here for like 10 years, no life to speak of. I saw a thread from 10 years ago and they were already referring to him as the main DXP troll, which means he'd been at it for even longer. Shitposting and making threads about his own deluded fantasies, he's beyond salvation. Only a bullet in the head can fix his problems. He's almost 30 years old and he has nothing to show for it. The core definition of "loser", and these days he's obsessed with my boyfriend. If that's not tragic, I don't know what is.
Like I said above, some people are mazochists and keep tormenting themselves further by reading your stories instead of hitting that block button. Worst thing you can do to them is keep sharing your stories.
I say do as you please and as you see fit, just be prepared to accept the consequences or results of your actions.
Work kicking my but but here is my take...
I'm single... technically a female can do as she please if she is not in a relationship... yet texting a man or a few is considered being a slut even if you don't sleep with them or meet them (at least that's what's been portrayed of me though I don't give a shit ? Like I really don't) anywhose back to the matter at hand.
Why is it wrong for a woman to express herself how she feels? Are we so caught up in society or what we see (which what you see on social media is not true most of the times, being in the limelight has taught me that).
Because society trains us to view things a certain way, no one wants to step outside of the box... a woman who have a lot of male friends that may not even have sex but twice a year but goes against the grain is singled out for being "a hoe" when more than likely it's because females are intimidated by her and won't be her friend hence her having to have male friends instead.. sometimes I feel people only hate or shame what they wish they could be or don't have the courage to do.
I will never discriminate because the outside is nothing like the inside and if no one is gonna take the time to read the pages of a book and stop judging by cover alone... then you deserve to stay in the dark ??♀️
I'm single... technically a female can do as she please if she is not in a relationship... yet texting a man or a few is considered being a slut even if you don't sleep with them or meet them (at least that's what's been portrayed of me though I don't give a shit ? Like I really don't) anywhose back to the matter at hand.
Why is it wrong for a woman to express herself how she feels? Are we so caught up in society or what we see (which what you see on social media is not true most of the times, being in the limelight has taught me that).
Because society trains us to view things a certain way, no one wants to step outside of the box... a woman who have a lot of male friends that may not even have sex but twice a year but goes against the grain is singled out for being "a hoe" when more than likely it's because females are intimidated by her and won't be her friend hence her having to have male friends instead.. sometimes I feel people only hate or shame what they wish they could be or don't have the courage to do.
I will never discriminate because the outside is nothing like the inside and if no one is gonna take the time to read the pages of a book and stop judging by cover alone... then you deserve to stay in the dark ??♀️
Posted by Astrology101Men are equally shamed, but it's done more in private circles than in public. I'm not mounting a defense of men who cheat. It's just that in my experience men who cheat, sleep around alot, etc are not well thought of.Posted by beautifulsoul74Hmm it's really sad... there are some people who sleep around with married peeps... and it's usually the girl who is shamed in such scenarios. Not the men.Posted by Astrology101Guys have been slur shamed since the beginning of time...its just more accepted that they are that way.
Are guys even "slut-shamed"?
That's another can of worms.
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Posted by EvilHare
Freedom is a funny thing, isn't it?
If you feel you're entitled to live your life however you want, you must also accept the fact that not everyone is going to agree with your choices and they have the right to speak out against your choices.
so you assume that freedom can only come without tolerance?
interesting
Sometimes I slut shame
sometimes I don't
I don't try to pretend that I have any kind of moral standards when I'm just a human
sometimes I don't
I don't try to pretend that I have any kind of moral standards when I'm just a human
Posted by EvilHarePosted by hydorahWhere did I say that?Posted by EvilHare
Freedom is a funny thing, isn't it?
If you feel you're entitled to live your life however you want, you must also accept the fact that not everyone is going to agree with your choices and they have the right to speak out against your choices.
so you assume that freedom can only come without tolerance?
interesting
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tolerance requires to suppress the "right to speak out" against life style s that you don't like, as long as they don't actually affect the interests of society as a whole.
otherwise the larger groups will always oppress the minority groups
There is a difference between someone who likes to have casual sexual relationships and someone who is self-deprecating. A mutual acquaintance of my friends and I, just recently blew a friend in a bar bathroom while his friends watched and took videos. She also went topless and put his band stickers on her tits for them to post all over social media. She is 28. That isnt healthy sex... that is some psychological shit going on. I dont think people feeling negatively about that is slut shaming.
If someone wants to be non-committal and engage in casual sex with several people who cares?!
If someone wants to be non-committal and engage in casual sex with several people who cares?!
I don't slut shame I cheat shame.
I generally don't give a shit what someone does in that territory. Do I find it gross or wtf at times? Yeah. I couldn't be as "easy" as some who have no problem sleeping around like whatever. To each their own.
However, when they start whining about the negative consequences behind it and continue said behavior over and over, NEVER learning, well, then it's just stfu. What did you expect? You do X with type A dude and get treated like shit. Why do you continue to do X with type A dude??
Which turns on over to society being hypocritical. Girls are given more shit about approaching sex like a dude more than guys are. That's where the "slut shaming" comes into play. She goes out and acts EXACTLY like a guy with sex, but she's given the negative stigma. OR, the guys she sleeps with put that stigma on her because she graced their dick with her presence. THAT'S where the bs comes in on. It was one of my biggest gripes with the FWBs I got involved with. Hell, there was an infamous topic where a guy was calling out guys who talk shit on women who slept with them.
So that said, it's like well if you're going to hand it out like candy because you want to get laid all the time by multiple dudes, whatever floats your boat, but do NOT be shocked when the guy stigmatizes you and starts treating you like whatever. It's fucked, but it's the reality of the situation. It's why I don't want to bother with FWB anymore. I don't have an issue with the idea per se, but every time, it went from a cool situation to some horse shit because he developed some shitty attitude and it's like uh no. You don't get to do that fool. Cut off.
In regard to DXP, we've got a group of women who just do NOT learn EVER about this shit and they still keep doing the same shit over and over. It's like "I kept touching the stove and burning my hand. Over. And over. And over. Feel sorry for me!/I don't get it!"
Something else to consider along the dude front is if you imply sexual things, even joking or joking like one of the dudes, there are guys out there who flip it into "hay she's down to fuck" and throw you in that "I'm objectifying her" zone because you openly talked about sex. Therefore, you are now in the group who I want to ride my dick."
Overall, it's all fucked double standards set by society and perpetuated by some women and a lot of guys. Unfortunately, you have to learn that fine line where you can do you and without having to worry about hypocritical ramifications from the other gender. And unfortunately, there are a LOT of women out there who just fail to learn that after multiple interactions and that's just sad.
However, when they start whining about the negative consequences behind it and continue said behavior over and over, NEVER learning, well, then it's just stfu. What did you expect? You do X with type A dude and get treated like shit. Why do you continue to do X with type A dude??
Which turns on over to society being hypocritical. Girls are given more shit about approaching sex like a dude more than guys are. That's where the "slut shaming" comes into play. She goes out and acts EXACTLY like a guy with sex, but she's given the negative stigma. OR, the guys she sleeps with put that stigma on her because she graced their dick with her presence. THAT'S where the bs comes in on. It was one of my biggest gripes with the FWBs I got involved with. Hell, there was an infamous topic where a guy was calling out guys who talk shit on women who slept with them.
So that said, it's like well if you're going to hand it out like candy because you want to get laid all the time by multiple dudes, whatever floats your boat, but do NOT be shocked when the guy stigmatizes you and starts treating you like whatever. It's fucked, but it's the reality of the situation. It's why I don't want to bother with FWB anymore. I don't have an issue with the idea per se, but every time, it went from a cool situation to some horse shit because he developed some shitty attitude and it's like uh no. You don't get to do that fool. Cut off.
In regard to DXP, we've got a group of women who just do NOT learn EVER about this shit and they still keep doing the same shit over and over. It's like "I kept touching the stove and burning my hand. Over. And over. And over. Feel sorry for me!/I don't get it!"
Something else to consider along the dude front is if you imply sexual things, even joking or joking like one of the dudes, there are guys out there who flip it into "hay she's down to fuck" and throw you in that "I'm objectifying her" zone because you openly talked about sex. Therefore, you are now in the group who I want to ride my dick."
Overall, it's all fucked double standards set by society and perpetuated by some women and a lot of guys. Unfortunately, you have to learn that fine line where you can do you and without having to worry about hypocritical ramifications from the other gender. And unfortunately, there are a LOT of women out there who just fail to learn that after multiple interactions and that's just sad.
Posted by goatpukeLol it ain't like that, dawg. I enjoy putting people in their place. It's all in the name of entertainment.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowif you don't know them irl or consider them close you shouldn't let it affect you, just keep doing what makes you happy you're grown you don't need to answer to anyone especially on a forumPosted by goatpukeJealousy for starters. Especially around here, the majority of the regulars are single and the majority of the single ones have been single for a long time, even forever.
no one should shame anyone for any reason, like what's the point?
Those in happy relationships will swap stories, but the single ones and those in UNhappy relationships will mock them for it. Because it reminds them of what their own life is lacking: happiness and warmth. That's why you have snakes like Gemitati turning on you like flipping a switch or life-long losers like Ands trolling you when your own life has significantly improved, trying to make you feel like you're not welcome here, like you're the odd one out. Because their lives suck and they are 100% miserable and they can't stand hearing how much happier you are these days.
The chicks turned on Arielle back in the day because she was having great sex, and they weren't having anything. Let's face it, dildos don't compare to the real thing. Gemitati was more than happy to hear about my boy, until her delusion finally faded and she realized she's not gonna get what she wants. Suddenly "everyone hates reading about Jed" according to her lol.
And Ands.........where do I start? He's been here for like 10 years, no life to speak of. I saw a thread from 10 years ago and they were already referring to him as the main DXP troll, which means he'd been at it for even longer. Shitposting and making threads about his own deluded fantasies, he's beyond salvation. Only a bullet in the head can fix his problems. He's almost 30 years old and he has nothing to show for it. The core definition of "loser", and these days he's obsessed with my boyfriend. If that's not tragic, I don't know what is.
Like I said above, some people are mazochists and keep tormenting themselves further by reading your stories instead of hitting that block button. Worst thing you can do to them is keep sharing your stories.
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Like all bad behavior it stems from simply being unkind.
Or perhaps for men losing control ..or for women fear this behavior is now expected and they HAVE to be this way which is also not true.
So long as you are kind and not hurting anyone ...more power to ya ..
Or perhaps for men losing control ..or for women fear this behavior is now expected and they HAVE to be this way which is also not true.
So long as you are kind and not hurting anyone ...more power to ya ..
Posted by TaurusInShaniaYou're preaching to the choir. I mean, who wouldn't wanna rock out to "Nympho"—
Work kicking my but but here is my take...
I'm single... technically a female can do as she please if she is not in a relationship... yet texting a man or a few is considered being a slut even if you don't sleep with them or meet them (at least that's what's been portrayed of me though I don't give a shit ? Like I really don't) anywhose back to the matter at hand.
Why is it wrong for a woman to express herself how she feels? Are we so caught up in society or what we see (which what you see on social media is not true most of the times, being in the limelight has taught me that).
Because society trains us to view things a certain way, no one wants to step outside of the box... a woman who have a lot of male friends that may not even have sex but twice a year but goes against the grain is singled out for being "a hoe" when more than likely it's because females are intimidated by her and won't be her friend hence her having to have male friends instead.. sometimes I feel people only hate or shame what they wish they could be or don't have the courage to do.
I will never discriminate because the outside is nothing like the inside and if no one is gonna take the time to read the pages of a book and stop judging by cover alone... then you deserve to stay in the dark ??♀️
But at the same time we can't expect everyone else to automatically understand/get us. And we can't get mad because they're just not like us.
Personality-wise, there's no right or wrong. There's just "different". It's either compatible or clashing.
Posted by sierraleoone
slut-shaming ranges from improper dress code to sexual promiscuity (both real and perceived)
having been educated as a kid in something similar to a catholic nunnery..
we weren't allowed to wear skirts that went a little above our knees, fold our sleeves nor unbutton more than three buttons of our blouses
ive realized that it's more than anything else... a social tool that both sexes use in order to discredit someone- particularly women because the number one argument that shamers use have something to do with public perception as well as the possibility of indirectly inviting creepers or sexual molesters...
what inspires the shaming?
jealousy, resentment or simply just rigid, conservative minds
ive never really been one to flaunt my body shamelessly.. coz i personally consider it as bad taste and there are probably lots of women who'd disagree with me
but i also refuse to believe that men are just animals without control of their faculties.. that they'd see me kneeling on the pew while reciting my Hail Marys and decide to molest me later just coz of the way i folded my sleeves or unbuttoned the top of my blouse..
there's something to be said for moderation
wow so they didn't let you dress as a slut when you were a child? This is so awful.
I'm calling the unesco right now
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI can totally agree with that... and that damn gif got me going this morning ??Posted by TaurusInShaniaYou're preaching to the choir. I mean, who wouldn't wanna rock out to "Nympho"—
Work kicking my but but here is my take...
I'm single... technically a female can do as she please if she is not in a relationship... yet texting a man or a few is considered being a slut even if you don't sleep with them or meet them (at least that's what's been portrayed of me though I don't give a shit ? Like I really don't) anywhose back to the matter at hand.
Why is it wrong for a woman to express herself how she feels? Are we so caught up in society or what we see (which what you see on social media is not true most of the times, being in the limelight has taught me that).
Because society trains us to view things a certain way, no one wants to step outside of the box... a woman who have a lot of male friends that may not even have sex but twice a year but goes against the grain is singled out for being "a hoe" when more than likely it's because females are intimidated by her and won't be her friend hence her having to have male friends instead.. sometimes I feel people only hate or shame what they wish they could be or don't have the courage to do.
I will never discriminate because the outside is nothing like the inside and if no one is gonna take the time to read the pages of a book and stop judging by cover alone... then you deserve to stay in the dark ??♀️
But at the same time we can't expect everyone else to automatically understand/get us. And we can't get mad because they're just not like us.
Personality-wise, there's no right or wrong. There's just "different". It's either compatible or clashing.click to expand
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
Posted by Montgomery
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowExactly!Posted by Montgomery
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?click to expand
Your solution: SUCKS FOR YOU! is shared by
plenty of other men-- typically the ones who
are doing all the slut shaming, once there is
fallout (i.e. consequences).
Posted by MontgomeryContraceptives are there for a reason, hun. If you're gonna bang like rabbits, at least cum prepared.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowExactly!Posted by Montgomery
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
Your solution: SUCKS FOR YOU! is shared by
plenty of other men-- typically the ones who
are doing all the slut shaming, once there is
fallout (i.e. consequences).click to expand
Posted by julietteeNah... just pointing out the lack of follow-Posted by Montgomery
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
LOL you ask too much.
click to expand
through in this SJW tirade posing as a support
thread.
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowUmm...Posted by MontgomeryContraceptives are there for a reason, hun. If you're gonna bang like rabbits, at least cum prepared.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowExactly!Posted by Montgomery
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
Your solution: SUCKS FOR YOU! is shared by
plenty of other men-- typically the ones who
are doing all the slut shaming, once there is
fallout (i.e. consequences).click to expand
... they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate.
... monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species...
... "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species-
Posted by MontgomeryNot necessarily talking about right now, it had a broader scope. However, if you're concerned about overpopulation and its disastrous consequences, I gave you a way out 😄Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowUmm...Posted by MontgomeryContraceptives are there for a reason, hun. If you're gonna bang like rabbits, at least cum prepared.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowExactly!Posted by Montgomery
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
Your solution: SUCKS FOR YOU! is shared by
plenty of other men-- typically the ones who
are doing all the slut shaming, once there is
fallout (i.e. consequences).
... they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate.
... monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species...
... "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species-
click to expand
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowPosted by MontgomeryNot necessarily talking about right now, it had a broader scope. However, if you're concerned about overpopulation and its disastrous consequences, I gave you a way out 😄Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowUmm...Posted by MontgomeryContraceptives are there for a reason, hun. If you're gonna bang like rabbits, at least cum prepared.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowExactly!Posted by Montgomery
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
Your solution: SUCKS FOR YOU! is shared by
plenty of other men-- typically the ones who
are doing all the slut shaming, once there is
fallout (i.e. consequences).
... they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate.
... monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species...
... "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species-
click to expand
Never said a thing about overpopulation myth.
Posted by julietteePosted by MontgomeryPosted by julietteeNah... just pointing out the lack of follow-Posted by Montgomery
"Just because some people enjoy sex more than others, all of the sudden they're branded sluts and whores even though they're just doing what nature intended us to do: procreate. And furthermore, that monogamy is quite possibly against nature because we're supposed to spread our seed and our species, not confine ourselves to one person for the rest of our lives. And that "cheating" is the right thing to do for the progression of our species, because monogamy and slut-shaming are just some of the tools created to control the masses and turn us into obedient 9-to-5 little robots with no real thought of our own."
Have we covered how all of the illegitimate
children (that single women will be
unnecessarily and unfairly burdened with)
will be cared for in this liberating procreation
scenario?
LOL you ask too much.
through in this SJW tirade posing as a support
thread.
spreading the seed is an outdated argument, and claim that monogamy is not natural. it's a choice.
you can also be a serial monogamous "slut".
idk, this topic is boring and i wonder why it is still an issue in usa. i understand third world countries, but usa— all we talk about is slut shaming and racial issues. you should all come to europe for a dirty weekend 😄.
you in the UK?
Posted by juliettee
small town mentality. judging other's choices or whatever. i was judged because i sent my kid to kindergarten when she was 11 months old. cause i never married. i mean people with nothing smart to do will bother with other people lives. and we should care about them, why? let them shame, could't care less.click to expand
i dont think it's legal to put your baby not yet a toddler in "kindergarten"? 😕
maybe child care services yes.
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