BaeMaxx
@BaeMaxx
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Fellow 88 dragon here, what can I say? We are perfect lol
But seriously the way people perceive you, especially coworkers, is typically far from reality. I wouldn't let it bother you too much. Being viewed as having your shit together is not a bad thing at all. There are much worse perceptions out there.
But seriously the way people perceive you, especially coworkers, is typically far from reality. I wouldn't let it bother you too much. Being viewed as having your shit together is not a bad thing at all. There are much worse perceptions out there.
i feel you girl šš
people think they know pain but they've never been the eldest daughter in a non-white household. you're both the trophy and the bank account. the 2nd mother and the therapist. your feelings forever invalidated coz you're the straight A family honor upholder.
that's why when i got older, i moved crazy FAR. distanced myself in every way i can. in the beginning, i had withdrawals and would revert to trying to please them until i realized that only my parents really mattered and everyone else can just š¤”š¤”
people think they know pain but they've never been the eldest daughter in a non-white household. you're both the trophy and the bank account. the 2nd mother and the therapist. your feelings forever invalidated coz you're the straight A family honor upholder.
that's why when i got older, i moved crazy FAR. distanced myself in every way i can. in the beginning, i had withdrawals and would revert to trying to please them until i realized that only my parents really mattered and everyone else can just š¤”š¤”
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
Posted by GemiMay
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
What are you babbling about now?
Crusty and dried up hating on younger women cause you mad about all those years you wasted unhappy in your failed marriage. Your fault! Not ours. Suck it up buttercup.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMay
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
What are you babbling about now?
Crusty and dried up hating on younger women cause you mad about all those years you wasted unhappy in your failed marriage. Your fault! Not ours. Suck it up buttercup.click to expand
You are the one who is bubbling! Same shit! For years. From post to post. Zero imagination. Bad sex. Mediocre man. Resorted to weed to cope with his skills and looksā¦
How am I envy THATā
You have NO idea whatās gonna happen to you at my age. You might be lonely with old dogs because your Gem will leave your miserable ass and find some hot Latina who is wet unlike you!
So what am I envying here exactly? Look at your mother! Even she doesnāt envy you!
And BTW you arenāt 28ā¦THAT WOULD BE HALF OF MY AGE AND you suck at math or itās bad weed? Keep on smoking your youth away believing itās a great way to live.
I am going to a Friday night dinner and after that I will have passionate sex! Envy youā¦ššššš
Posted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMay
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
What are you babbling about now?
Crusty and dried up hating on younger women cause you mad about all those years you wasted unhappy in your failed marriage. Your fault! Not ours. Suck it up buttercup.
You are the one who is bubbling! Same shit! For years. From post to post. Zero imagination. Bad sex. Mediocre man. Resorted to weed to cope with his skills and looksā¦
How am I envy THATā
You have NO idea whatās gonna happen to you at my age. You might be lonely with old dogs because your Gem will leave your miserable ass and find some hot Latina who is wet unlike you!
So what am I envying here exactly? Look at your mother! Even she doesnāt envy you!
And BTW you arenāt 28ā¦THAT WOULD BE HALF OF MY AGE AND you suck at math or itās bad weed? Keep on smoking your youth away believing itās a great way to live.
I am going to a Friday night dinner and after that I will have passionate sex! Envy youā¦šššššclick to expand
The irony of you following me from thread to thread to @ me and continue to talk the same sad delusional shit. Make sure to bitch at your man tonight about how lazy he is with the maintenance of his own home. Give our ears a rest. Maybe he is into shrieking shrew, you never know.
I honestly feel a bit saddened for you because your comebacks all have to do with how you claim the current dude your with is responsible for your happiness. I said it before, I'll say it again. Until you can be happy with yourself and by yourself, jumping from dick to dick isn't going to fill the void of sadness and discontent with your own life. Your just repeating the same patterns and, lucky for us, word vomiting about it here.
I do see growth tho, I'll allow you that. Before it was taking you years to realize the dude you choose was dud. But we are down to 3 months. Progress.
Posted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMay
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
What are you babbling about now?
Crusty and dried up hating on younger women cause you mad about all those years you wasted unhappy in your failed marriage. Your fault! Not ours. Suck it up buttercup.
You are the one who is bubbling! Same shit! For years. From post to post. Zero imagination. Bad sex. Mediocre man. Resorted to weed to cope with his skills and looksā¦
How am I envy THATā
You have NO idea whatās gonna happen to you at my age. You might be lonely with old dogs because your Gem will leave your miserable ass and find some hot Latina who is wet unlike you!
So what am I envying here exactly? Look at your mother! Even she doesnāt envy you!
And BTW you arenāt 28ā¦THAT WOULD BE HALF OF MY AGE AND you suck at math or itās bad weed? Keep on smoking your youth away believing itās a great way to live.
I am going to a Friday night dinner and after that I will have passionate sex! Envy youā¦šššššclick to expand
Um your math is wrong. They said they were born in 88ā¦ that does not equal 28 šš
Ah itās just them saying you do so much well. You know itās okay, and a good thing. People are just jealous sometimes I think. Just do you, and donāt worry about it. People judge others from their own perspective. You know based on how they feel about themselves. There really isnāt much you can do about that. So carry on !! š
Posted by BaeMaxx
A bit of background about my chart. I'm a Gemini with lots of earth. Virgo moon. Libra MC. Gemini Mercury in 6th House. I'm also the eldest daughter.
Anyway, growing up my parents have always regarded me as lucky, smart and capable. Apparently, because I was born in May (a lot of people born in May are successful or so they said), I was born in the year of the dragon (88 - whatelse can be luckier than an 8? Lol). And they had high expectations of everything I touch: school, work and even the man I choose to date. For some reason, I have always viewed myself this way too and in a way, it helped because I was confident (on the outside lol), I challenged myself and did quite well. My sister would always tell me she can't live the same life I'm living because she's not as good as I am with things and it breaks my heart everytime she says it. My siblings all think I'm the favorite because I'm an overachiever. When my mum tells them "why don't you be like your sister" and they end up saying "well she's different. She's not like the rest of us" or they say "when God showered blessings in this life, she was right there at the front and took a lot of it".
At work the other day when a coworker was doing impressions of every member of the team for fun, when it got to me he slowed down and said "She's perfect. Shes just quiet. She does things really well. I can't fault her" and I didn't know how to react to it. I'm obviously not a God. But that word perfect.... For some reason, it reminded me of all my struggles for the sake of looking "perfect" on the outside. And I guess even when I do struggle, people tend to minimise it because they think I'm still living a better life than this or that person they know. It's like my struggles aren't even worth it. I got fired once and my mum just said you'll find a better job than that. She didn't even asked why or how I got fired. She just expected I will sort myself out.
I don't want people to view me that way. Its the constant pressure that I have things under control that makes me worried about making mistakes. I want them to know I'm still clumsy or I make mistakes at work or that I don't have it under control. But then I constantly worry as well that if they find out I'm not perfect, what are they going to think? Am I gonna be a disappointment?
I've got one friend who knows about my struggles and the things I don't get in life and she's my true friend because she's seen the bad, the ugly and we're still friends. But I have a hard time opening up to others about myself because I don't want to disappoint them. I don't even know what to like about me if not my achievements.
Anyone living in this constant cycle? It gets tiring sometimes.... More mentally and emotionally than anythingelse.
when i first read this, i had to make sure you werenāt my uncle lol š ( i was like since when did he get dxp?? lol tf š) honestly though, you sound just like him. Heās a sag with a Virgo moon (nov 24, year of the pig tho)
He used to be an accountant and was really great with numbers and precision (which virgo placements tend to be) People at work used to put him on a pedestal because he always went above and beyond what heās supposed to do. The downside of that was people tended to dump more work on him because they knew he came through/delivered every single time.
The more work he did well, the more work got dumped on him. People asked him to do jobs that werenāt even his and he couldnāt say no. He did them all.
He eventually exhausted himself and ended up in hospital for heart attack symptoms.
he was in that stressful Iife style for about fifteen years. He is now retired and living peacefully. His favorite past time now is visiting botanical gardens and nature reserves (going on hikes). He says nature is really healing for him and has done wonders to reduce his stress.
Growing up in a strict household being told you only mean something if you achieve something big is probably what turned my uncle into this perfectionist with shaky self esteem. he never complained about much either. virgo moons tend to give off a self-sufficient vibe to others. and theyāre not the best at asking people for help either.
my advice would be to realize that people wonāt stop loving you even if you arenāt perfect.
Virgo energy tends to equate their self worth with āservice to othersā.
so theyāre afraid of being seen as āuselessā.
being useful to others is great, but it shouldnāt be the only way for you to measure your worth.
(also, people who donāt know my uncle well tend to think he is lucky and blessed with god given abilities but the reality is, he just works ten times harder than everyone else and thatās why he does so much better than everyone else, but people donāt tend to see that. it frustrates him.)
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMay
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
What are you babbling about now?
Crusty and dried up hating on younger women cause you mad about all those years you wasted unhappy in your failed marriage. Your fault! Not ours. Suck it up buttercup.
You are the one who is bubbling! Same shit! For years. From post to post. Zero imagination. Bad sex. Mediocre man. Resorted to weed to cope with his skills and looksā¦
How am I envy THATā
You have NO idea whatās gonna happen to you at my age. You might be lonely with old dogs because your Gem will leave your miserable ass and find some hot Latina who is wet unlike you!
So what am I envying here exactly? Look at your mother! Even she doesnāt envy you!
And BTW you arenāt 28ā¦THAT WOULD BE HALF OF MY AGE AND you suck at math or itās bad weed? Keep on smoking your youth away believing itās a great way to live.
I am going to a Friday night dinner and after that I will have passionate sex! Envy youā¦ššššš
Um your math is wrong. They said they were born in 88ā¦ that does not equal 28 ššclick to expand
It doesnāt!
Itās her math thatās fucked up! Self proclaimed āperfectā pothead @LadyNeptune!
She said she is half of MY age. Which would be 28 and she is NOT 28ā¦she is THIRTY fucking FOUR!
Posted by GemiMayPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMay
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
What are you babbling about now?
Crusty and dried up hating on younger women cause you mad about all those years you wasted unhappy in your failed marriage. Your fault! Not ours. Suck it up buttercup.
You are the one who is bubbling! Same shit! For years. From post to post. Zero imagination. Bad sex. Mediocre man. Resorted to weed to cope with his skills and looksā¦
How am I envy THATā
You have NO idea whatās gonna happen to you at my age. You might be lonely with old dogs because your Gem will leave your miserable ass and find some hot Latina who is wet unlike you!
So what am I envying here exactly? Look at your mother! Even she doesnāt envy you!
And BTW you arenāt 28ā¦THAT WOULD BE HALF OF MY AGE AND you suck at math or itās bad weed? Keep on smoking your youth away believing itās a great way to live.
I am going to a Friday night dinner and after that I will have passionate sex! Envy youā¦ššššš
Um your math is wrong. They said they were born in 88ā¦ that does not equal 28 šš
It doesnāt!
Itās her math thatās fucked up! Self proclaimed āperfectā pothead @LadyNeptune!
She said she is half of MY age. Which would be 28 and she is NOT 28ā¦she is THIRTY fucking FOUR!click to expand
Hmm just read this post & not following every bit of the war you two seem to have. But I think she was probably rounding, talking generally not specifically.
Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by GemiMayPosted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by GemiMayPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by GemiMay
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
What are you babbling about now?
Crusty and dried up hating on younger women cause you mad about all those years you wasted unhappy in your failed marriage. Your fault! Not ours. Suck it up buttercup.
You are the one who is bubbling! Same shit! For years. From post to post. Zero imagination. Bad sex. Mediocre man. Resorted to weed to cope with his skills and looksā¦
How am I envy THATā
You have NO idea whatās gonna happen to you at my age. You might be lonely with old dogs because your Gem will leave your miserable ass and find some hot Latina who is wet unlike you!
So what am I envying here exactly? Look at your mother! Even she doesnāt envy you!
And BTW you arenāt 28ā¦THAT WOULD BE HALF OF MY AGE AND you suck at math or itās bad weed? Keep on smoking your youth away believing itās a great way to live.
I am going to a Friday night dinner and after that I will have passionate sex! Envy youā¦ššššš
Um your math is wrong. They said they were born in 88ā¦ that does not equal 28 šš
It doesnāt!
Itās her math thatās fucked up! Self proclaimed āperfectā pothead @LadyNeptune!
She said she is half of MY age. Which would be 28 and she is NOT 28ā¦she is THIRTY fucking FOUR!
Hmm just read this post & not following every bit of the war you two seem to have. But I think she was probably rounding, talking generally not specifically.click to expand
Rounding 56 to 68 isā¦pretty far fetched rounding donāt you think?
Posted by LadyNeptune
Fellow 88 dragon here, what can I say? We are perfect lol
But seriously the way people perceive you, especially coworkers, is typically far from reality. I wouldn't let it bother you too much. Being viewed as having your shit together is not a bad thing at all. There are much worse perceptions out there.
Haha! I think because I complain less about the work and I just try to get things done that's why they think I'm "perfect". They don't see that daily, I struggle as well. I have a child I look after while I work and I feel like 24 hrs isn't enough. I guess it could be worse š¬ lol
Posted by virgoOPPP
i feel you girl šš
people think they know pain but they've never been the eldest daughter in a non-white household. you're both the trophy and the bank account. the 2nd mother and the therapist. your feelings forever invalidated coz you're the straight A family honor upholder.
that's why when i got older, i moved crazy FAR. distanced myself in every way i can. in the beginning, i had withdrawals and would revert to trying to please them until i realized that only my parents really mattered and everyone else can just š¤”š¤”
I moved away too as I feel like it was getting harder to live my life with everyone just looking at what I do and if I will do well.
Posted by GemiMay
Poor dear! You can always quit job, go on welfare and give birth to a child by man out of race who is in jail and while he is in jail start drinking or somethingā¦
There is a world of opportunities outside of parents house.
Ask @LadyNeptune
Hahaha that's crazy š¤£
Posted by GenerousBalance
I think you're just a hard worker with a Virgo Moon, probably criticize yourself a lot which always push you forward but it's also a lot of pressure to bottle up, maybe it's better to find healthier ways to express what frustrates you, like writing or even talking to a specialist.
I also have mercury in the sixth house and it's work on the brain, you never stop thinking and overthinking about your career (basically everything not just that) and the need to have control over everything, so there's that.
I agree with you. I never stop thinking. Hahaha. Like at work, if I need to do something I have a list in my head and a process I follow. I need to tick all the boxes before I can relax a bit. Otherwise, I feel like I didn't do enough and it stresses me out. My alarm goes off every 2 hours daily and that's meeting, feeding, nappy change alarms just so I don't forget anything. And I sure am hard on myself. Which I need to stop doing.
Posted by Bumboklaat
89 Dragon. Air sign with mostly Earth. I was kinda the same in my younger years. Over the years I've learned to be less disciplined and inhibited. I'm naturally good at lots of things as well but its just cause I put in full effort even in the less significant things. Forceful at most things but I enjoy being lazy. I don't know any other way
I'm still in that cycle at the moment. High pressure job which I love and hate at the same time. Im always self motivated but at times I get tired and I imagine what life is like when I can just sit down and not worry about anything. I wanna be lazy too and get away with it!!!
Posted by serenidadPosted by BaeMaxx
A bit of background about my chart. I'm a Gemini with lots of earth. Virgo moon. Libra MC. Gemini Mercury in 6th House. I'm also the eldest daughter.
Anyway, growing up my parents have always regarded me as lucky, smart and capable. Apparently, because I was born in May (a lot of people born in May are successful or so they said), I was born in the year of the dragon (88 - whatelse can be luckier than an 8? Lol). And they had high expectations of everything I touch: school, work and even the man I choose to date. For some reason, I have always viewed myself this way too and in a way, it helped because I was confident (on the outside lol), I challenged myself and did quite well. My sister would always tell me she can't live the same life I'm living because she's not as good as I am with things and it breaks my heart everytime she says it. My siblings all think I'm the favorite because I'm an overachiever. When my mum tells them "why don't you be like your sister" and they end up saying "well she's different. She's not like the rest of us" or they say "when God showered blessings in this life, she was right there at the front and took a lot of it".
At work the other day when a coworker was doing impressions of every member of the team for fun, when it got to me he slowed down and said "She's perfect. Shes just quiet. She does things really well. I can't fault her" and I didn't know how to react to it. I'm obviously not a God. But that word perfect.... For some reason, it reminded me of all my struggles for the sake of looking "perfect" on the outside. And I guess even when I do struggle, people tend to minimise it because they think I'm still living a better life than this or that person they know. It's like my struggles aren't even worth it. I got fired once and my mum just said you'll find a better job than that. She didn't even asked why or how I got fired. She just expected I will sort myself out.
I don't want people to view me that way. Its the constant pressure that I have things under control that makes me worried about making mistakes. I want them to know I'm still clumsy or I make mistakes at work or that I don't have it under control. But then I constantly worry as well that if they find out I'm not perfect, what are they going to think? Am I gonna be a disappointment?
I've got one friend who knows about my struggles and the things I don't get in life and she's my true friend because she's seen the bad, the ugly and we're still friends. But I have a hard time opening up to others about myself because I don't want to disappoint them. I don't even know what to like about me if not my achievements.
Anyone living in this constant cycle? It gets tiring sometimes.... More mentally and emotionally than anythingelse.
when i first read this, i had to make sure you werenāt my uncle lol š ( i was like since when did he get dxp?? lol tf š) honestly though, you sound just like him. Heās a sag with a Virgo moon (nov 24, year of the pig tho)
He used to be an accountant and was really great with numbers and precision (which virgo placements tend to be) People at work used to put him on a pedestal because he always went above and beyond what heās supposed to do. The downside of that was people tended to dump more work on him because they knew he came through/delivered every single time.
The more work he did well, the more work got dumped on him. People asked him to do jobs that werenāt even his and he couldnāt say no. He did them all.
He eventually exhausted himself and ended up in hospital for heart attack symptoms.
he was in that stressful Iife style for about fifteen years. He is now retired and living peacefully. His favorite past time now is visiting botanical gardens and nature reserves (going on hikes). He says nature is really healing for him and has done wonders to reduce his stress.
Growing up in a strict household being told you only mean something if you achieve something big is probably what turned my uncle into this perfectionist with shaky self esteem. he never complained about much either. virgo moons tend to give off a self-sufficient vibe to others. and theyāre not the best at asking people for help either.
my advice would be to realize that people wonāt stop loving you even if you arenāt perfect.
Virgo energy tends to equate their self worth with āservice to othersā.
so theyāre afraid of being seen as āuselessā.
being useful to others is great, but it shouldnāt be the only way for you to measure your worth.
(also, people who donāt know my uncle well tend to think he is lucky and blessed with god given abilities but the reality is, he just works ten times harder than everyone else and thatās why he does so much better than everyone else, but people donāt tend to see that. it frustrates him.)click to expand
Your uncle and I are definitely the same lolololol amongst everyone in my team, I'm the one that's overloaded with work all the time. I make 5 digits bonus in a quarter which is good for my family financially. But that means that I'm actually operating like 4 people: a 2 person job plus my job as a mum and a wife. I don't want to get sick. It happened to me few years ago and I took a one year break to look after myself. And I was single back then. Its harder now because I have a child. And I also very rarely ask for help. If I can do it, I'd rather do it myself because I hate being a burden to others.
This reminds me of other āproblemā threads āI am so pretty - men afraid of meāā¦so them gorgeous women just masturbate because men feelingā¦canāt DO kind of menā¦ššš
Posted by GemiMay
This reminds me of other āproblemā threads āI am so pretty - men afraid of meāā¦so them gorgeous women just masturbate because men feelingā¦canāt DO kind of menā¦ššš
Hahaha. I think being pretty can be a problem too lol. My problem really is how do I relax when I also feel the burden of expectations on me.
Posted by BaeMaxxPosted by serenidadPosted by BaeMaxx
A bit of background about my chart. I'm a Gemini with lots of earth. Virgo moon. Libra MC. Gemini Mercury in 6th House. I'm also the eldest daughter.
Anyway, growing up my parents have always regarded me as lucky, smart and capable. Apparently, because I was born in May (a lot of people born in May are successful or so they said), I was born in the year of the dragon (88 - whatelse can be luckier than an 8? Lol). And they had high expectations of everything I touch: school, work and even the man I choose to date. For some reason, I have always viewed myself this way too and in a way, it helped because I was confident (on the outside lol), I challenged myself and did quite well. My sister would always tell me she can't live the same life I'm living because she's not as good as I am with things and it breaks my heart everytime she says it. My siblings all think I'm the favorite because I'm an overachiever. When my mum tells them "why don't you be like your sister" and they end up saying "well she's different. She's not like the rest of us" or they say "when God showered blessings in this life, she was right there at the front and took a lot of it".
At work the other day when a coworker was doing impressions of every member of the team for fun, when it got to me he slowed down and said "She's perfect. Shes just quiet. She does things really well. I can't fault her" and I didn't know how to react to it. I'm obviously not a God. But that word perfect.... For some reason, it reminded me of all my struggles for the sake of looking "perfect" on the outside. And I guess even when I do struggle, people tend to minimise it because they think I'm still living a better life than this or that person they know. It's like my struggles aren't even worth it. I got fired once and my mum just said you'll find a better job than that. She didn't even asked why or how I got fired. She just expected I will sort myself out.
I don't want people to view me that way. Its the constant pressure that I have things under control that makes me worried about making mistakes. I want them to know I'm still clumsy or I make mistakes at work or that I don't have it under control. But then I constantly worry as well that if they find out I'm not perfect, what are they going to think? Am I gonna be a disappointment?
I've got one friend who knows about my struggles and the things I don't get in life and she's my true friend because she's seen the bad, the ugly and we're still friends. But I have a hard time opening up to others about myself because I don't want to disappoint them. I don't even know what to like about me if not my achievements.
Anyone living in this constant cycle? It gets tiring sometimes.... More mentally and emotionally than anythingelse.
when i first read this, i had to make sure you werenāt my uncle lol š ( i was like since when did he get dxp?? lol tf š) honestly though, you sound just like him. Heās a sag with a Virgo moon (nov 24, year of the pig tho)
He used to be an accountant and was really great with numbers and precision (which virgo placements tend to be) People at work used to put him on a pedestal because he always went above and beyond what heās supposed to do. The downside of that was people tended to dump more work on him because they knew he came through/delivered every single time.
The more work he did well, the more work got dumped on him. People asked him to do jobs that werenāt even his and he couldnāt say no. He did them all.
He eventually exhausted himself and ended up in hospital for heart attack symptoms.
he was in that stressful Iife style for about fifteen years. He is now retired and living peacefully. His favorite past time now is visiting botanical gardens and nature reserves (going on hikes). He says nature is really healing for him and has done wonders to reduce his stress.
Growing up in a strict household being told you only mean something if you achieve something big is probably what turned my uncle into this perfectionist with shaky self esteem. he never complained about much either. virgo moons tend to give off a self-sufficient vibe to others. and theyāre not the best at asking people for help either.
my advice would be to realize that people wonāt stop loving you even if you arenāt perfect.
Virgo energy tends to equate their self worth with āservice to othersā.
so theyāre afraid of being seen as āuselessā.
being useful to others is great, but it shouldnāt be the only way for you to measure your worth.
(also, people who donāt know my uncle well tend to think he is lucky and blessed with god given abilities but the reality is, he just works ten times harder than everyone else and thatās why he does so much better than everyone else, but people donāt tend to see that. it frustrates him.)
Your uncle and I are definitely the same lolololol amongst everyone in my team, I'm the one that's overloaded with work all the time. I make 5 digits bonus in a quarter which is good for my family financially. But that means that I'm actually operating like 4 people: a 2 person job plus my job as a mum and a wife. I don't want to get sick. It happened to me few years ago and I took a one year break to look after myself. And I was single back then. Its harder now because I have a child. And I also very rarely ask for help. If I can do it, I'd rather do it myself because I hate being a burden to others.click to expand
if you have a family who loves you, thatās all the more reason to slow down. your family needs you to be around 10, 20 years from now. remember who youāre working hard for and āwhyā youāre working hard. i used to tell my uncle, āthe company wonāt care if you dropped dead tomorrow but we (your family) obviously will.ā
some family/relatives are toxic nightmares to be around and i wish more people can admit that. no amount of hallmark holiday movies can convince me otherwise. one of the things that i really hate and still find baffling even now is getting accused of 'pretending to be asleep' by my uncle like wtf who cares? like i have to be awake to show respect like i'm on guard duty or smthng. this dude straight up nags me behind bathroom doors too. and then he acts confused about why i avoid doing favors for him.
like bruh if you're asking for a favor, at least have the decency to be fake nice to me about it.
like bruh if you're asking for a favor, at least have the decency to be fake nice to me about it.
Posted by BaeMaxx
A bit of background about my chart. I'm a Gemini with lots of earth. Virgo moon. Libra MC. Gemini Mercury in 6th House. I'm also the eldest daughter.
Anyway, growing up my parents have always regarded me as lucky, smart and capable. Apparently, because I was born in May (a lot of people born in May are successful or so they said), I was born in the year of the dragon (88 - whatelse can be luckier than an 8? Lol). And they had high expectations of everything I touch: school, work and even the man I choose to date. For some reason, I have always viewed myself this way too and in a way, it helped because I was confident (on the outside lol), I challenged myself and did quite well. My sister would always tell me she can't live the same life I'm living because she's not as good as I am with things and it breaks my heart everytime she says it. My siblings all think I'm the favorite because I'm an overachiever. When my mum tells them "why don't you be like your sister" and they end up saying "well she's different. She's not like the rest of us" or they say "when God showered blessings in this life, she was right there at the front and took a lot of it".
At work the other day when a coworker was doing impressions of every member of the team for fun, when it got to me he slowed down and said "She's perfect. Shes just quiet. She does things really well. I can't fault her" and I didn't know how to react to it. I'm obviously not a God. But that word perfect.... For some reason, it reminded me of all my struggles for the sake of looking "perfect" on the outside. And I guess even when I do struggle, people tend to minimise it because they think I'm still living a better life than this or that person they know. It's like my struggles aren't even worth it. I got fired once and my mum just said you'll find a better job than that. She didn't even asked why or how I got fired. She just expected I will sort myself out.
I don't want people to view me that way. Its the constant pressure that I have things under control that makes me worried about making mistakes. I want them to know I'm still clumsy or I make mistakes at work or that I don't have it under control. But then I constantly worry as well that if they find out I'm not perfect, what are they going to think? Am I gonna be a disappointment?
I've got one friend who knows about my struggles and the things I don't get in life and she's my true friend because she's seen the bad, the ugly and we're still friends. But I have a hard time opening up to others about myself because I don't want to disappoint them. I don't even know what to like about me if not my achievements.
Anyone living in this constant cycle? It gets tiring sometimes.... More mentally and emotionally than anythingelse.
It's your earthly dominations. And the Virgo moon, only add insult to injuries. It make sense since people tend to see earth folks as those who got it all. Whereas (let's just say) if water was my most dominant people would be pouring their hearts out at me. Or anybody with water dom.
I don't know. I hope I'm talking some sense here.
Posted by BaeMaxxPosted by LadyNeptune
Fellow 88 dragon here, what can I say? We are perfect lol
But seriously the way people perceive you, especially coworkers, is typically far from reality. I wouldn't let it bother you too much. Being viewed as having your shit together is not a bad thing at all. There are much worse perceptions out there.
Haha! I think because I complain less about the work and I just try to get things done that's why they think I'm "perfect". They don't see that daily, I struggle as well. I have a child I look after while I work and I feel like 24 hrs isn't enough. I guess it could be worse š¬ lolclick to expand
If the coworker commenting that you are perfect is higher up, maybe its time to ask for that yearly performance review and raise. Cause they said it, your perfect. And perfect employee deserves pay to match lmao
Posted by GenerousBalancePosted by BaeMaxxPosted by GenerousBalance
I think you're just a hard worker with a Virgo Moon, probably criticize yourself a lot which always push you forward but it's also a lot of pressure to bottle up, maybe it's better to find healthier ways to express what frustrates you, like writing or even talking to a specialist.
I also have mercury in the sixth house and it's work on the brain, you never stop thinking and overthinking about your career (basically everything not just that) and the need to have control over everything, so there's that.
I agree with you. I never stop thinking. Hahaha. Like at work, if I need to do something I have a list in my head and a process I follow. I need to tick all the boxes before I can relax a bit. Otherwise, I feel like I didn't do enough and it stresses me out. My alarm goes off every 2 hours daily and that's meeting, feeding, nappy change alarms just so I don't forget anything. And I sure am hard on myself. Which I need to stop doing.
Oh yeah I feel you, the thinking never stops.
I used to over work myself then I get home and have no energy to do anything for myself, but now I've been working less hours and I'm trying to make the most of it, doing things that relax me like cooking, watching movies or series or just doing nth basically, maybe I got a bit a lazy but honestly I don't miss that work chaos.
Maybe you can dedicate at least one day a week just to relax, do sth fun with your kid, have a spa day massages can be relaxing and you work hard during all the week so it's kind of a reward for all of that and you don't have to feel guilty about it.click to expand
I'm trying to work less as well! It's why I didn't want to go back full time. I work 4 days a week. However, I still do the tasks equivalent to 5 days hahaha. I do need to have some fun with my son and my husband. I can't wait for Christmas break. We will go to the family farm in the suburbs and its quiet there. Just chickens, kangaroos and organic fruits and veggies. Hopefully that will relax my mind.
Posted by Jumpin_JupiterPosted by BaeMaxx
A bit of background about my chart. I'm a Gemini with lots of earth. Virgo moon. Libra MC. Gemini Mercury in 6th House. I'm also the eldest daughter.
Anyway, growing up my parents have always regarded me as lucky, smart and capable. Apparently, because I was born in May (a lot of people born in May are successful or so they said), I was born in the year of the dragon (88 - whatelse can be luckier than an 8? Lol). And they had high expectations of everything I touch: school, work and even the man I choose to date. For some reason, I have always viewed myself this way too and in a way, it helped because I was confident (on the outside lol), I challenged myself and did quite well. My sister would always tell me she can't live the same life I'm living because she's not as good as I am with things and it breaks my heart everytime she says it. My siblings all think I'm the favorite because I'm an overachiever. When my mum tells them "why don't you be like your sister" and they end up saying "well she's different. She's not like the rest of us" or they say "when God showered blessings in this life, she was right there at the front and took a lot of it".
At work the other day when a coworker was doing impressions of every member of the team for fun, when it got to me he slowed down and said "She's perfect. Shes just quiet. She does things really well. I can't fault her" and I didn't know how to react to it. I'm obviously not a God. But that word perfect.... For some reason, it reminded me of all my struggles for the sake of looking "perfect" on the outside. And I guess even when I do struggle, people tend to minimise it because they think I'm still living a better life than this or that person they know. It's like my struggles aren't even worth it. I got fired once and my mum just said you'll find a better job than that. She didn't even asked why or how I got fired. She just expected I will sort myself out.
I don't want people to view me that way. Its the constant pressure that I have things under control that makes me worried about making mistakes. I want them to know I'm still clumsy or I make mistakes at work or that I don't have it under control. But then I constantly worry as well that if they find out I'm not perfect, what are they going to think? Am I gonna be a disappointment?
I've got one friend who knows about my struggles and the things I don't get in life and she's my true friend because she's seen the bad, the ugly and we're still friends. But I have a hard time opening up to others about myself because I don't want to disappoint them. I don't even know what to like about me if not my achievements.
Anyone living in this constant cycle? It gets tiring sometimes.... More mentally and emotionally than anythingelse.
It's your earthly dominations. And the Virgo moon, only add insult to injuries. It make sense since people tend to see earth folks as those who got it all. Whereas (let's just say) if water was my most dominant people would be pouring their hearts out at me. Or anybody with water dom.
I don't know. I hope I'm talking some sense here.click to expand
I get what you're saying. I think being earth Dom makes someone appear stable and reasonable. I like it because it makes me stray away from plans less. But there's also a negative side to it which is the obsession to push through with the plan no matter what. Double edged sword lol
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by BaeMaxxPosted by LadyNeptune
Fellow 88 dragon here, what can I say? We are perfect lol
But seriously the way people perceive you, especially coworkers, is typically far from reality. I wouldn't let it bother you too much. Being viewed as having your shit together is not a bad thing at all. There are much worse perceptions out there.
Haha! I think because I complain less about the work and I just try to get things done that's why they think I'm "perfect". They don't see that daily, I struggle as well. I have a child I look after while I work and I feel like 24 hrs isn't enough. I guess it could be worse š¬ lol
If the coworker commenting that you are perfect is higher up, maybe its time to ask for that yearly performance review and raise. Cause they said it, your perfect. And perfect employee deserves pay to match lmaoclick to expand
I know right š quite honestly, I'm good at my job now but I always think of whatelse I can do that won't give me this much pressure and I'd still get to live the life I want. I'm contemplating going back to study something else at some point. Something I can do on my own and not have other people watching me lol maybe an accountant?
Posted by GeminiJim
I don't know you but you always seem funny and have a good way of making things lighthearted and fun and I like your vibe. So when you said idk what there is to like about me except my achievements, I like that about you and I don't have a clue about your achievements š but then I don't know how much of it is an act, as you say
Hahaha is that me or is that Imyourbae? š For some reason there were two of us with Bae in our usernames hahaha
Posted by GeminiJimPosted by BaeMaxxPosted by GeminiJim
I don't know you but you always seem funny and have a good way of making things lighthearted and fun and I like your vibe. So when you said idk what there is to like about me except my achievements, I like that about you and I don't have a clue about your achievements š but then I don't know how much of it is an act, as you say
Hahaha is that me or is that Imyourbae? š For some reason there were two of us with Bae in our usernames hahaha
Oh yeh - I think it was haha
Oh well I'm sure you are funny too š¤£click to expand
Hahahaha šš¤£ I try to be but not as funny as Imyourbae lololol she's brilliant hahaha
Posted by GeminiJimPosted by BaeMaxxPosted by GeminiJimPosted by BaeMaxxPosted by GeminiJim
I don't know you but you always seem funny and have a good way of making things lighthearted and fun and I like your vibe. So when you said idk what there is to like about me except my achievements, I like that about you and I don't have a clue about your achievements š but then I don't know how much of it is an act, as you say
Hahaha is that me or is that Imyourbae? š For some reason there were two of us with Bae in our usernames hahaha
Oh yeh - I think it was haha
Oh well I'm sure you are funny too š¤£
Hahahaha šš¤£ I try to be but not as funny as Imyourbae lololol she's brilliant hahaha
You're a Gem if I am right about that
I think we always are seen differently to who we are. Idk why. We're strong people in a certain way. Resilient but that sometimes means we have our own secret identity which is not what others seeclick to expand
I completely agree with you on this. I think we have so many layers and everyone just see a portion of who we are.
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At work the other day when a coworker was doing impressions of every member of the team for fun, when it got to me he slowed down and said "She's perfect. Shes just quiet. She does things really well. I can't fault her" and I didn't know how to react to it. I'm obviously not a God. But that word perfect.... For some reason, it reminded me of all my struggles for the sake of looking "perfect" on the outside. And I guess even when I do struggle, people tend to minimise it because they think I'm still living a better life than this or that person they know. It's like my struggles aren't even worth it. I got fired once and my mum just said you'll find a better job than that. She didn't even asked why or how I got fired. She just expected I will sort myself out.
I don't want people to view me that way. Its the constant pressure that I have things under control that makes me worried about making mistakes. I want them to know I'm still clumsy or I make mistakes at work or that I don't have it under control. But then I constantly worry as well that if they find out I'm not perfect, what are they going to think? Am I gonna be a disappointment?
I've got one friend who knows about my struggles and the things I don't get in life and she's my true friend because she's seen the bad, the ugly and we're still friends. But I have a hard time opening up to others about myself because I don't want to disappoint them. I don't even know what to like about me if not my achievements.
Anyone living in this constant cycle? It gets tiring sometimes.... More mentally and emotionally than anythingelse.