I Need to Vent! And Yes its about the Pisces guy again! (Page 4)

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I've had 2 relationships with Pisces men and was married to one. They aren't nearly as bad as described above.

My sister and best friend were/are treated like Queens by their Pisces men. I also know a Pisces man who treats his very difficult wife very well.

My 1st husband Pisces was very good to me it's just that we were so young, (19 and 23), very responsible, talented and loving.

One of my bosses was a Pisces. Whenever his kids or wife were on the phone, he’d drop everything for them. Adored his family ❤️

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Wow!

What a lovely guy. That must be lovely to see ❤

I'd love this Pisces to be there for me.

Sadly he's a Parasite who lives off everyone. And no doubt he is staying with his partner until he finds his next victim/lover.

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Posted by pooface222

Posted by geminiflyby

You’re like the cautionary tale for anyone who considers cheating.

You’re angry and bitter now. So grab that flame thrower and scorch the rest of it down and tell the wife everything (if she doesn’t already know) and disappear into the sunset.

OR try to work on making a cordial relationship with your ex in order to gain more access to your daughter. Too bad you didn’t consider how your actions were going to affect her when you went running to the Pisces.

Actually I DID consider how my actions would affect my child THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!

In 2016, thought about co-parenting. And only seeing my child half the time. And about her life being split between 2 parents.

I didn't want that for her at all!

Or for myself!

So..

I tried talking to my husband.

The problem was his mum was dying.

So whenever I tried talking to him about our issues, as gently as I could, he would SNAP..

"MY MUMS DYING!"

So i acknowledged that and tried to explain how I'm feeling too.

I said "I'm lonely." I was referring to being a mum in the daytime where ok i get to meet other mums but i was trying to get back to being Me again.

I wanted to feel like Me. I wanted to feel like a Couple again. I already felt like a single mum back then too.

My husband refused to talk about anything!

His response was "I'M Lonely!"

Oh great so my feelings don't matter. Yet again!

Everything about you is me, me, me and me. You talk as if you are the only woman who has become a first time mom struggling to adjust or has had post partem depression. Newsflash - women have been dealing with it since the beginning of time. Not all are fortunate enough to have a husband who takes care of all the bills, shops, cooks, washes, cleans the house all while adjusting to being a first time dad with an ungrateful wife who cheats because it's still not enough for her. You are blaming everyone for your bad choices but yourself. You'll never be happy until you own up to what put you in the position you're in now.

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Wow!

How Nasty are YOU!??

You make me sound like I just sit on my backside all day while my husband dies everything - while I chest! WOW!

I have never Ever cheated in my LIFE!

EVER!

This time around i left my husband in every which way except Divorce!

We were in separate rooms and mot talking to each other!

I SHOPPED AND COOKED AND CLEANED AND LOOKED AFTER OUR LITTLE GIRL ALL DAY!

.Like Every Other Mother - NEWS FLASH right back at you!

THEN...

I went out to work at the gym 3 nights a week!

My husband Whinged and Complained that I'm going out 3 nights a week!!?

FFS I was home the other FOUR nights!

Yes he was struggling to be a first-time father but thats no need at all to

Yet he complained that I go out to EARN MONEY 3 sodding nights!

I was only only out for 3 hours a time!

And we were both around at the weekend!

I had Depression. Anxiety. Lonliness. Confusion. Anger. And Sadness.

YET...all he bloody cared about was Him Him Him and Him!

My priority is my child!' He hated that! He was so used to all my affection and cuddles and falling asleep together for years, that he expected me to just Snap back in the click of a finger to being that same woman again.

My entire life had changed - same as other women's do when having a baby..NEWS FLASH - so I was transitioning from being a,woman with a career and husband to being a mum with a baby to care for.

I can't just snap back to being the same woman I was in the blink of an eye. But he expected me to.

I guess that was his struggle..he just wanted his wife back. Like before.

And he would have got me coming back to him, if he didn't expect it to happen IMMEDIATELY!

It was clear he wanted me to be the little woman at home- as another person wrote on here - doing NOTHING else but being a Full-time Mother and Wife!

.So yeah..

I'm talking about myself lots on here.

Because back then with my husband it was ALL what HE wanted!

I had to live my life how HE wanted me to live it!

I felt swept under the carpet, along with our baby, as if nothing mattered but HIS needs!

For example..and I'll just give ONE because there are LOADS!

I was asked to cover a class at 1pm one day. Our babys nap time was 1230 (for 1hr 30mins), and she always slept well.

The class at for 45mins 3bdung at 1 45pm and he wanted me home at 2pm to get our baby out of bed.

Sometimes i didnt get home until 2.10pm so i get home and get YELLED at..

"YOU'RE 10MINS LATE!! I'M NOT DADDY DAY CARE! I'VE GOT WORK TO DO!"

Oh god forbid he had to look after our baby for 10mins!

What a bad person I am for letting him father our baby for 10mins!

But funny how he has time to Mow the Lawn, fix something round the house - during the week in his SOOO BUSY Working week!

Funny how he was only ever Busy when I am not around!

Its CONTROL!

How much did you make while working 3 evenings a week? Was it like £10 000 a year? Sorry, but this is not a serious job to pay for a mortgage, other bills, living expenses, distractions and holidays. It's more like a vocational hobby with pocket money as a bonus.

You practically accepted the job of being a housewife and a mother, with your (now ex) husband being the provider, so practically your boss. This is not control, it is what you signed for!

Pooface I agree with Undine about your 3 evenings a week job while caring for a newborn. If your husband has to work and you're making him 10 minutes late because you're late that is a problem considering he's the breadwinner. Sorry but your job sounds like a chance for you to get a break while making some spending money. You're complaining about him mowing the lawn and fixing things around the house; do you know how many women wish they had a man to do those things? If, your husband was so bad why are you now wanting him back?

Posted by Undine

How much did you make while working 3 evenings a week? Was it like £10 000 a year? Sorry, but this is not a serious job to pay for a mortgage, other bills, living expenses, distractions and holidays. It's more like a vocational hobby with pocket money as a bonus.

You practically accepted the job of being a housewife and a mother, with your (now ex) husband being the provider, so practically your boss. This is not control, it is what you signed for!

Hi..

What you are not understanding is that i was only working a few hours a week until our child started school/pre-school.

Then I would have got more work/teaching more classes, earning money on top of my current work.

So describing my work as a hobby is insulting because i was mainly looking after our baby until she was older and and school.

Then I can work more and earn more.

Before pregnancy i worked 15hrs a week earning about £18,000- £19,000 a year doing the same job in the gym.

I was trying to get back to earning that amount after having a baby.

I hope that makes sense.

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Posted by geminiflyby

You’re like the cautionary tale for anyone who considers cheating.

You’re angry and bitter now. So grab that flame thrower and scorch the rest of it down and tell the wife everything (if she doesn’t already know) and disappear into the sunset.

OR try to work on making a cordial relationship with your ex in order to gain more access to your daughter. Too bad you didn’t consider how your actions were going to affect her when you went running to the Pisces.

Actually I DID consider how my actions would affect my child THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!

In 2016, thought about co-parenting. And only seeing my child half the time. And about her life being split between 2 parents.

I didn't want that for her at all!

Or for myself!

So..

I tried talking to my husband.

The problem was his mum was dying.

So whenever I tried talking to him about our issues, as gently as I could, he would SNAP..

"MY MUMS DYING!"

So i acknowledged that and tried to explain how I'm feeling too.

I said "I'm lonely." I was referring to being a mum in the daytime where ok i get to meet other mums but i was trying to get back to being Me again.

I wanted to feel like Me. I wanted to feel like a Couple again. I already felt like a single mum back then too.

My husband refused to talk about anything!

His response was "I'M Lonely!"

Oh great so my feelings don't matter. Yet again!

Everything about you is me, me, me and me. You talk as if you are the only woman who has become a first time mom struggling to adjust or has had post partem depression. Newsflash - women have been dealing with it since the beginning of time. Not all are fortunate enough to have a husband who takes care of all the bills, shops, cooks, washes, cleans the house all while adjusting to being a first time dad with an ungrateful wife who cheats because it's still not enough for her. You are blaming everyone for your bad choices but yourself. You'll never be happy until you own up to what put you in the position you're in now.

Wow!

How Nasty are YOU!??

You make me sound like I just sit on my backside all day while my husband dies everything - while I chest! WOW!

I have never Ever cheated in my LIFE!

EVER!

This time around i left my husband in every which way except Divorce!

We were in separate rooms and mot talking to each other!

I SHOPPED AND COOKED AND CLEANED AND LOOKED AFTER OUR LITTLE GIRL ALL DAY!

.Like Every Other Mother - NEWS FLASH right back at you!

THEN...

I went out to work at the gym 3 nights a week!

My husband Whinged and Complained that I'm going out 3 nights a week!!?

FFS I was home the other FOUR nights!

Yes he was struggling to be a first-time father but thats no need at all to

Yet he complained that I go out to EARN MONEY 3 sodding nights!

I was only only out for 3 hours a time!

And we were both around at the weekend!

I had Depression. Anxiety. Lonliness. Confusion. Anger. And Sadness.

YET...all he bloody cared about was Him Him Him and Him!

My priority is my child!' He hated that! He was so used to all my affection and cuddles and falling asleep together for years, that he expected me to just Snap back in the click of a finger to being that same woman again.

My entire life had changed - same as other women's do when having a baby..NEWS FLASH - so I was transitioning from being a,woman with a career and husband to being a mum with a baby to care for.

I can't just snap back to being the same woman I was in the blink of an eye. But he expected me to.

I guess that was his struggle..he just wanted his wife back. Like before.

And he would have got me coming back to him, if he didn't expect it to happen IMMEDIATELY!

It was clear he wanted me to be the little woman at home- as another person wrote on here - doing NOTHING else but being a Full-time Mother and Wife!

.So yeah..

I'm talking about myself lots on here.

Because back then with my husband it was ALL what HE wanted!

I had to live my life how HE wanted me to live it!

I felt swept under the carpet, along with our baby, as if nothing mattered but HIS needs!

For example..and I'll just give ONE because there are LOADS!

I was asked to cover a class at 1pm one day. Our babys nap time was 1230 (for 1hr 30mins), and she always slept well.

The class at for 45mins 3bdung at 1 45pm and he wanted me home at 2pm to get our baby out of bed.

Sometimes i didnt get home until 2.10pm so i get home and get YELLED at..

"YOU'RE 10MINS LATE!! I'M NOT DADDY DAY CARE! I'VE GOT WORK TO DO!"

Oh god forbid he had to look after our baby for 10mins!

What a bad person I am for letting him father our baby for 10mins!

But funny how he has time to Mow the Lawn, fix something round the house - during the week in his SOOO BUSY Working week!

Funny how he was only ever Busy when I am not around!

Its CONTROL!

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Well aren’t you glad you rid of him. Weather ur with Pisces or not

Glad ur free

Posted by Undine

How much did you make while working 3 evenings a week? Was it like £10 000 a year? Sorry, but this is not a serious job to pay for a mortgage, other bills, living expenses, distractions and holidays. It's more like a vocational hobby with pocket money as a bonus.

You practically accepted the job of being a housewife and a mother, with your (now ex) husband being the provider, so practically your boss. This is not control, it is what you signed for!

I disagree my mom was at stay at home mother And my father never controlled her.

Posted by DonnaLibra

Pooface I agree with Undine about your 3 evenings a week job while caring for a newborn. If your husband has to work and you're making him 10 minutes late because you're late that is a problem considering he's the breadwinner. Sorry but your job sounds like a chance for you to get a break while making some spending money. You're complaining about him mowing the lawn and fixing things around the house; do you know how many women wish they had a man to do those things? If, your husband was so bad why are you now wanting him back?

Wrong just cuz your at home does t excuse being treated like shit. Being 10 minute late is human when you leave from work 15 minute before. It’s an unrealistic expectation and she shouldn’t be walking on eggshells in her own home.

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Posted by Undine

How much did you make while working 3 evenings a week? Was it like £10 000 a year? Sorry, but this is not a serious job to pay for a mortgage, other bills, living expenses, distractions and holidays. It's more like a vocational hobby with pocket money as a bonus.

You practically accepted the job of being a housewife and a mother, with your (now ex) husband being the provider, so practically your boss. This is not control, it is what you signed for!

I disagree my mom was at stay at home mother And my father never controlled her.

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Thank you for saying this x

I was always,going to increase my hours and warn earn more once our child was at school.

My job is not a hobby!

And being a full-time stay at home mum like your mum was, is a full-time job in itself. And thats fine x lots of women want that.

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Pooface I agree with Undine about your 3 evenings a week job while caring for a newborn. If your husband has to work and you're making him 10 minutes late because you're late that is a problem considering he's the breadwinner. Sorry but your job sounds like a chance for you to get a break while making some spending money. You're complaining about him mowing the lawn and fixing things around the house; do you know how many women wish they had a man to do those things? If, your husband was so bad why are you now wanting him back?

Wrong just cuz your at home does t excuse being treated like shit. Being 10 minute late is human when you leave from work 15 minute before. It’s an unrealistic expectation and she shouldn’t be walking on eggshells in her own home.

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Thank you again for understanding x

This is exactly what I've been trying to say here. I was very much walking on eggshells and I I shouldn't have been!

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Pooface I agree with Undine about your 3 evenings a week job while caring for a newborn. If your husband has to work and you're making him 10 minutes late because you're late that is a problem considering he's the breadwinner. Sorry but your job sounds like a chance for you to get a break while making some spending money. You're complaining about him mowing the lawn and fixing things around the house; do you know how many women wish they had a man to do those things? If, your husband was so bad why are you now wanting him back?

Wrong just cuz your at home does t excuse being treated like shit. Being 10 minute late is human when you leave from work 15 minute before. It’s an unrealistic expectation and she shouldn’t be walking on eggshells in her own home.

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Sorry we'll just have to agree to disagree. Making the main breadwinner 10 minutes late to their job is foolish when you only work 3 hours at a part time job. If the pt job is causing the main breadwinner to be late putting that job in jeopardy the pt job should end. A family cannot live on a 3 hour a day job.

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Pooface I agree with Undine about your 3 evenings a week job while caring for a newborn. If your husband has to work and you're making him 10 minutes late because you're late that is a problem considering he's the breadwinner. Sorry but your job sounds like a chance for you to get a break while making some spending money. You're complaining about him mowing the lawn and fixing things around the house; do you know how many women wish they had a man to do those things? If, your husband was so bad why are you now wanting him back?

Wrong just cuz your at home does t excuse being treated like shit. Being 10 minute late is human when you leave from work 15 minute before. It’s an unrealistic expectation and she shouldn’t be walking on eggshells in her own home.

Sorry we'll just have to agree to disagree. Making the main breadwinner 10 minutes late to their job is foolish when you only work 3 hours at a part time job. If the pt job is causing the main breadwinner to be late putting that job in jeopardy the pt job should end. A family cannot live on a 3 hour a day job.

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Err I said in a previous post that he somehow finds time to mow the lawn which takes well over 30mins and he would so it during his working day - eg not on his lunch break!

He would tell me how busy he is with work and that my 10mins is frustrating!

But its ok to mow the lawn in his SO BUSY schedule!

Its hypocritical!

Why doesnt he mow it at the weekend when we are all home doing family stuff.?

You cannot complain about someone making you a little late for work, Then take the p**s by doing something non-work related!

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Pooface I agree with Undine about your 3 evenings a week job while caring for a newborn. If your husband has to work and you're making him 10 minutes late because you're late that is a problem considering he's the breadwinner. Sorry but your job sounds like a chance for you to get a break while making some spending money. You're complaining about him mowing the lawn and fixing things around the house; do you know how many women wish they had a man to do those things? If, your husband was so bad why are you now wanting him back?

Wrong just cuz your at home does t excuse being treated like shit. Being 10 minute late is human when you leave from work 15 minute before. It’s an unrealistic expectation and she shouldn’t be walking on eggshells in her own home.

Sorry we'll just have to agree to disagree. Making the main breadwinner 10 minutes late to their job is foolish when you only work 3 hours at a part time job. If the pt job is causing the main breadwinner to be late putting that job in jeopardy the pt job should end. A family cannot live on a 3 hour a day job.

Why doesnt he mow it at the weekend when we are all home doing family stuff.?

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Oh that sounds like fun. Everyone else is having fun and he's mowing the lawn. Tell me again how much you love this man?

You need to be alone and figure things out for yourself. This is a train wreck and reading it gave me a headache. I can't imagine you're actually living it and haven't gone insane.

Go on No contact and LIVE. This dude is bad news and you know it.

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But if it actually did then yikes

It did so...

Yikes!

Posted by Mutya

You need to be alone and figure things out for yourself. This is a train wreck and reading it gave me a headache. I can't imagine you're actually living it and haven't gone insane.

Go on No contact and LIVE. This dude is bad news and you know it.

Exactly!

Its a total train wreck!

Sadly i cant go no contact because we have a child.

And divorce is Not always the answer / best route.

In divorce he is WORSE!

Because now i have no say because he is STILL controling me after divorce.

It would have been better to stay married and get long term counselling!

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Posted by Mutya

You need to be alone and figure things out for yourself. This is a train wreck and reading it gave me a headache. I can't imagine you're actually living it and haven't gone insane.

Go on No contact and LIVE. This dude is bad news and you know it.

Exactly!

Its a total train wreck!

Sadly i cant go no contact because we have a child.

And divorce is Not always the answer / best route.

In divorce he is WORSE!

Because now i have no say because he is STILL controling me after divorce.

It would have been better to stay married and get long term counselling!

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Okay so... You left your Aries husband to be with this married Pisces and went on to have a baby with him even after he refused to leave his wife? Am I getting this right?

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Posted by Mutya

You need to be alone and figure things out for yourself. This is a train wreck and reading it gave me a headache. I can't imagine you're actually living it and haven't gone insane.

Go on No contact and LIVE. This dude is bad news and you know it.

Exactly!

Its a total train wreck!

Sadly i cant go no contact because we have a child.

And divorce is Not always the answer / best route.

In divorce he is WORSE!

Because now i have no say because he is STILL controling me after divorce.

It would have been better to stay married and get long term counselling!

Okay so... You left your Aries husband to be with this married Pisces and went on to have a baby with him even after he refused to leave his wife? Am I getting this right?

She had a baby with the Aries. She thinks you’re telling her to go no contact with her ex husband, not the Pisces.

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Ohhh I didn't read that far because this story is just too crazy.

OP, go on NC with the Pisces if you haven't done that. As for the Aries, it's possible to be cordial while separated. I know several Aries men who are cordial with their ex wives, my dad being one of them. Just stop for a sec and be logical. I don't know you personally but you give off this vibe of being reactionary. I could be wrong.

some people are immune to advice.

@pooface222 would kill the corona virus by sheer ignorance.

1. It’s not true love if he can only handle you when you’re in a good mood and he disappears as soon as he doesn’t get that happy drug from you. I’m telling you… I’ve dated many men like this and they always run in bad situations and leave you to deal with them yourself. If he can’t handle any relationship drama, he definitely won’t handle any of your dier problems either. I learned this the hard way. So no, you didn’t scare him off. He’s selfish and doesn’t know what a relationship is supposed to mean.

2. He promised he would leave and he didn’t. So it means he still has feelings for her. That’s pretty much all you need to know. Never be with a man who lets you know he still has feelings for an ex (or in your case, a current… which is so much worse). No matter how wonderful you are as a woman, a man can never replace a woman he loves with you. That’s why they call it a rebound relationship once she’s an ex… those relationships don’t last. You can’t compete with a woman he already loves. You can only hang around and hope to get some crumbs.

3. Cheating is bad karma. You’ll see it again and again how cheating (either you cheating on your partner or cheating with him on his partner) will lead to dirty outcomes, even if the plans for happy ones. As my mom says, “If he’ll cheat for you he’ll cheat on you.” That’s a problem of character. If you want men with a clean character then you need to have a clean character yourself. Be afraid of harming others (your husband or his wife) because that bad energy will come back to you from somewhere. Finish relationships before you start new ones, and be sure as much as you can that your partner has finished his as well. The respect you give is what you receive. And even if you don’t find the love of your life, your principles and knowing you’ve always done the right thing will keep you warm.

My suggestion— tell him that you’re not okay with harming his partner this way. She should be free to be with a man who loves her, wh ther that’s him or a new man. Tell him you won’t see him or talk to him until he separates. And STICK to it. It’s never too late to build a character and everyone respects that in people, even people who don’t have any.

How's the Pisces?

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How's the Pisces?

😄

I honestly couldn't give a sh*t about the Pisces (as much as I love Pisces men. They are my favourite sign)

We haven't made love in more than 6 months and the last few times he came over it was to fix a broken shelf or cupboard in my place. He flirted with me. I ignored him. So when he left he looked a bit taken aback at the total lack o intimacy!

He came over for 2hrs last week. He stroked my thigh while we drank coffee at my dining table.

I didnt respond. When he left, he kissed me. Lightly. Then properly.i stupidly responded - properly - then was cross with myself when he left.

He came over again on Monday. Touching my thigh again. I ignored him. But ..after a few hours of him working and me just doing housework we ended up in bed.

It felt Wrong!

And we both knew it was wrong!

Hate myself now!

Never doing that again!

Big mistake!

I truly don't care!

I've lost my marriage & family for nothing !

For a sensitive emotional and supportive man who I thought would leave his partner!

Damn. So I don't want to sound crass, but all this agonizing and vacillating. You can sit in this situation and continue the drama, or you can make some choices, stop the bleeding and starting getting on with life (and emotional healing).

But I think there are deeper problems here. This craziness is only a symptom of other things that I won't even guess at. I'm wishing you health and healing, PF222.

But the Aries is still living with his gf right? I think you'd do well to find another guy and leave the Pisces and Aries to their women. Just get a new man or stay alone for a while. It will be good for you.

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Damn. So I don't want to sound crass, but all this agonizing and vacillating. You can sit in this situation and continue the drama, or you can make some choices, stop the bleeding and starting getting on with life (and emotional healing).

But I think there are deeper problems here. This craziness is only a symptom of other things that I won't even guess at. I'm wishing you health and healing, PF222.

There Are deeper issues - related to my relationship with my mother. Not going into it. Its another LONG story!

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Pooface I agree with Undine about your 3 evenings a week job while caring for a newborn. If your husband has to work and you're making him 10 minutes late because you're late that is a problem considering he's the breadwinner. Sorry but your job sounds like a chance for you to get a break while making some spending money. You're complaining about him mowing the lawn and fixing things around the house; do you know how many women wish they had a man to do those things? If, your husband was so bad why are you now wanting him back?

Wrong just cuz your at home does t excuse being treated like shit. Being 10 minute late is human when you leave from work 15 minute before. It’s an unrealistic expectation and she shouldn’t be walking on eggshells in her own home.

Sorry we'll just have to agree to disagree. Making the main breadwinner 10 minutes late to their job is foolish when you only work 3 hours at a part time job. If the pt job is causing the main breadwinner to be late putting that job in jeopardy the pt job should end. A family cannot live on a 3 hour a day job.

Why doesnt he mow it at the weekend when we are all home doing family stuff.?

Oh that sounds like fun. Everyone else is having fun and he's mowing the lawn. Tell me again how much you love this man?

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No!

I meant instead of (hypocritically), using work time to mow the lawn, why doesnt he so it at the weekend when we are all together at home and I can help him.

Eg by emptying the grass cuttings, or making him some coffee, and lunch for us all. You know...that kind of family stuff..being home together..doing stuff together.

He's an Aries so he loves conflict! I hate it! It felt like he almost created conflict deliberately!

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some people are immune to advice.

@pooface222 would kill the corona virus by sheer ignorance.

Making rude comments like yours, really doesnt help!

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But the Aries is still living with his gf right? I think you'd do well to find another guy and leave the Pisces and Aries to their women. Just get a new man or stay alone for a while. It will be good for you.

No. They don't live together. I have no idea how they met. She lives 1hr 30mins drive away. So he spends his time driving to her whenever I have our child.

It hurts so much knowing he does this! Because he used to do exactly this with me and before moving in together, i only lived 20mins away!

I loved him for it!

Always coming to see me ❤

Plus ..

I thought the Pisces would be with me.

He started off always coming to see me too. But..he basically sat around in his life with her, waiting for me to do everything- eg get divorced and get my own place - while he just slides in to my life, at the end.

I'm only just waking up to how INSANE it was of me to even consider leaving my marriage and family!

I had years of depression and anxiety and lonliness and much more to work though..hence why i could not truly see what I was trying to do!

Posted by pooface222

As most of you know on here, I stupidly left my Aries husband to be with this Pisces guy and now I'm alone because Pisces guy never left his partner.

Anyhoo..

This time around - after 7 years of "I'm in love with you. I want a relationship with you. I want a future with you" he has driven me INSANE!

The last month or so has been WEIRD! Even HE said to me (2 weeks ago) "I feel weird"

Yet he created the weirdness between us!

Back in October things were lovely between us.

Flirty. Friendly. Fun. Sexy. Relaxed.

However..it all went downhill. AGAIN!

And this same effing pattern has occurred over and over for years!

Eg things being great...then things going downhill.

Over and over!

So..

In November.

Something happened but I don't know what.

He told me on the phone he wanted us to talk. I agreed.

He was going to come over to mine. Then he didnt.

And he didn't explain Why either.

Then the weekend came and he was away with his partner. Silence from him the entire time (usually he texts or calls me).

Monday morning came (15th November), we were at my health club where I teach.

I came upstairs and saw him come out of the gym area. I was going towards the studio. I looked at him with Confusion after days of silence from him and now he's in the gym, not the studio!?

Then he left. And didn't come to my class 🥺

I emailed him with..

"So you've turned up and Walked off!"

He replied with..

"Apologies I can't talk right now.

Are you free around 1830?

I have a number of people around me who will be able to hear us.

Really sorry about earlier."



1830 Came and Went. We didn't see each other. He didn't call me either.

I finally called him around 2200. He didn't pick up. Or even text me.

I was angry. Hurt and Confused!

I don't think he even came to my class the next day at 0630.

He may have done but I can't remember.

And it kind of went Weird from there. Downhill!

So come December, we've barely seen each other, never gone for coffee, he's not come to my classes much, barely called me, barely come to my place, so there he was in my place fixing a cupboard door, and all I could give him was a cuddle.

I felt like I would break. Then we kissed. Then he carried on with my door.

I went to my kitchen to make coffee for us. He then stands in my kitchen doorway slouched against the doorframe looking all sexy and kissable, but weirdly for the first time I IGNORED him. I never do this to him.! I glanced over my shoulder and went back to making coffee then handed him a box of screws to finish fixing my cupboard.

I normally smile, melt inside and go to him and cuddle him and then we go to bed.

I had gone cold on him.

He felt rejected. He LOOKED rejected!

And I only noticed this on my driveway as he was leaving my place. He just stood there..his face looking lost.

And his body language showed stillness. And he said nothing. I finally hugged him but it just felt like an afterthought!

I felt awful after he'd gone because he clearly wanted my affection (and sex) and attention.

And honestly?? I wanted sex with him too. I'm not going to lie.

I'm in love with him x

But I'm sorry..i am effing sick of giving so much for him to expect MORE even he gives nothing!

And now after a few texts and calls he has blocked me!

HOWEVER..

I have come to realise that had I just RELAAAXED and not expected him to leave her and not cared so much about whether I see him or not, maybe he might have left her.

I've put so much pressure on him - how upset i am. How hurt I am.

I've actually been scaring him off and not realising!

I mean he obviously cannot deal with my emotions when I'm hurt.

I think my pained messages are why he ignores me so much. He's scared of my feelings.

When I'm happy and flirty he's fine and flirty and happy too.

So now I'm regretting sharing my pain with him. Because he has effing BLOCKED ME!

He has blocked me in the past - and I have blocked him too - but now he seems to have blocked Private number calls too!

I'm realising too late that I should have just kept things light and happy to his face no matter how much I want him to be mine!

He is always happy to be around me when I'm light fun and flirty.

And i like him being around me too.

I have driven him away!

I have f**ked up!

And now I'm a lonely depressed single mum 😪

Don’t be fooled by Pisces men’s ability to love bomb you into submission. It’s a huge red flag and they’re usually false promises. Move on, he isn’t a great catch.

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Pooface I agree with Undine about your 3 evenings a week job while caring for a newborn. If your husband has to work and you're making him 10 minutes late because you're late that is a problem considering he's the breadwinner. Sorry but your job sounds like a chance for you to get a break while making some spending money. You're complaining about him mowing the lawn and fixing things around the house; do you know how many women wish they had a man to do those things? If, your husband was so bad why are you now wanting him back?

Wrong just cuz your at home does t excuse being treated like shit. Being 10 minute late is human when you leave from work 15 minute before. It’s an unrealistic expectation and she shouldn’t be walking on eggshells in her own home.

Sorry we'll just have to agree to disagree. Making the main breadwinner 10 minutes late to their job is foolish when you only work 3 hours at a part time job. If the pt job is causing the main breadwinner to be late putting that job in jeopardy the pt job should end. A family cannot live on a 3 hour a day job.

Why doesnt he mow it at the weekend when we are all home doing family stuff.?

Oh that sounds like fun. Everyone else is having fun and he's mowing the lawn. Tell me again how much you love this man?

No!

I meant instead of (hypocritically), using work time to mow the lawn, why doesnt he so it at the weekend when we are all together at home and I can help him.

Eg by emptying the grass cuttings, or making him some coffee, and lunch for us all. You know...that kind of family stuff..being home together..doing stuff together.

He's an Aries so he loves conflict! I hate it! It felt like he almost created conflict deliberately!

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Aww, I must say this sounds so sweet to want to do that for your family. Well since they no longer live together maybe if you stay away from the Pisces and show love you will get your family back under the same roof. You need to stop being so needy though.

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Posted by pooface222

As most of you know on here, I stupidly left my Aries husband to be with this Pisces guy and now I'm alone because Pisces guy never left his partner.

Anyhoo..

This time around - after 7 years of "I'm in love with you. I want a relationship with you. I want a future with you" he has driven me INSANE!

The last month or so has been WEIRD! Even HE said to me (2 weeks ago) "I feel weird"

Yet he created the weirdness between us!

Back in October things were lovely between us.

Flirty. Friendly. Fun. Sexy. Relaxed.

However..it all went downhill. AGAIN!

And this same effing pattern has occurred over and over for years!

Eg things being great...then things going downhill.

Over and over!

So..

In November.

Something happened but I don't know what.

He told me on the phone he wanted us to talk. I agreed.

He was going to come over to mine. Then he didnt.

And he didn't explain Why either.

Then the weekend came and he was away with his partner. Silence from him the entire time (usually he texts or calls me).

Monday morning came (15th November), we were at my health club where I teach.

I came upstairs and saw him come out of the gym area. I was going towards the studio. I looked at him with Confusion after days of silence from him and now he's in the gym, not the studio!?

Then he left. And didn't come to my class 🥺

I emailed him with..

"So you've turned up and Walked off!"

He replied with..

"Apologies I can't talk right now.

Are you free around 1830?

I have a number of people around me who will be able to hear us.

Really sorry about earlier."



1830 Came and Went. We didn't see each other. He didn't call me either.

I finally called him around 2200. He didn't pick up. Or even text me.

I was angry. Hurt and Confused!

I don't think he even came to my class the next day at 0630.

He may have done but I can't remember.

And it kind of went Weird from there. Downhill!

So come December, we've barely seen each other, never gone for coffee, he's not come to my classes much, barely called me, barely come to my place, so there he was in my place fixing a cupboard door, and all I could give him was a cuddle.

I felt like I would break. Then we kissed. Then he carried on with my door.

I went to my kitchen to make coffee for us. He then stands in my kitchen doorway slouched against the doorframe looking all sexy and kissable, but weirdly for the first time I IGNORED him. I never do this to him.! I glanced over my shoulder and went back to making coffee then handed him a box of screws to finish fixing my cupboard.

I normally smile, melt inside and go to him and cuddle him and then we go to bed.

I had gone cold on him.

He felt rejected. He LOOKED rejected!

And I only noticed this on my driveway as he was leaving my place. He just stood there..his face looking lost.

And his body language showed stillness. And he said nothing. I finally hugged him but it just felt like an afterthought!

I felt awful after he'd gone because he clearly wanted my affection (and sex) and attention.

And honestly?? I wanted sex with him too. I'm not going to lie.

I'm in love with him x

But I'm sorry..i am effing sick of giving so much for him to expect MORE even he gives nothing!

And now after a few texts and calls he has blocked me!

HOWEVER..

I have come to realise that had I just RELAAAXED and not expected him to leave her and not cared so much about whether I see him or not, maybe he might have left her.

I've put so much pressure on him - how upset i am. How hurt I am.

I've actually been scaring him off and not realising!

I mean he obviously cannot deal with my emotions when I'm hurt.

I think my pained messages are why he ignores me so much. He's scared of my feelings.

When I'm happy and flirty he's fine and flirty and happy too.

So now I'm regretting sharing my pain with him. Because he has effing BLOCKED ME!

He has blocked me in the past - and I have blocked him too - but now he seems to have blocked Private number calls too!

I'm realising too late that I should have just kept things light and happy to his face no matter how much I want him to be mine!

He is always happy to be around me when I'm light fun and flirty.

And i like him being around me too.

I have driven him away!

I have f**ked up!

And now I'm a lonely depressed single mum 😪

Don’t be fooled by Pisces men’s ability to love bomb you into submission. It’s a huge red flag and they’re usually false promises. Move on, he isn’t a great catch.

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I'm glad you said that!

I am slowly realising - but FAR TOO LATE - that he just wanted to Use me! And was, as you said, love-bombing me!

This is made worse by him coming into my life when I was post-natal and my baby was only 4 months old!

He is a Demon!

I use to feel for you because you couldn’t see your way clear of the Pisces and I liked you but the more you talk about your ex husband and the excuses upon excuses of why you were entitled to cheat and how you’re so beaten down and lonely just makes me think, “good job!!!”. You deserve it all and more!

Enough is enough, stop with the pity party, stop with the excuses and own it. You made your bed, you lie in it!

Best thing for you to do is move on once and for all, cut the Pisces completely and learn to get along amicably with the Aries and his gf if that’s the case for your child and build a new life for yourself. One that involves taking all these lessons you have learned and apply them to the new you.

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I use to feel for you because you couldn’t see your way clear of the Pisces and I liked you but the more you talk about your ex husband and the excuses upon excuses of why you were entitled to cheat and how you’re so beaten down and lonely just makes me think, “good job!!!”. You deserve it all and more!

Enough is enough, stop with the pity party, stop with the excuses and own it. You made your bed, you lie in it!

Best thing for you to do is move on once and for all, cut the Pisces completely and learn to get along amicably with the Aries and his gf if that’s the case for your child and build a new life for yourself. One that involves taking all these lessons you have learned and apply them to the new you.

Thank you..

And I can see why you think its a pity party. But its really Not!

I am angry at myself for being so stupid when it comes to the Pisces! And yes - as you said - I couldn't see my way clearly. Now I can. But its too late.

I've lost my marriage, family and everything.

I do not and did not feel 'entitled' to cheat! I was trying to leave my husband and not doing a good job of it!

At the heart of it all was my child!

What's the best for Her??

Do I stay in the marriage and patch things up for her sake, despite always being the patcher-upper for years before pregnancy.! Go to couple therapy etc.

But knowing inside the Aries will likely find other ways to control me, and make me feel shi**y about myself - yet again!

Or..

Do I divorce and go with the Pisces who made me feel understood loved and cared for emotionally?

Those were my thoughts at the time when I first joined dxp back in 2016.

I definitely did not want to end up

,as a single mum with depression!

And now..sadly..I've ended up exactly where I don't want to be...as a single mum with depression!

All because I didnt go ahead with any of these decisions.

I still love my Aries husband ..and I know its a complete far cry from what I said 6yrs ago on here.

But..6yrs ago I was lost. Very depressed. Suffering bad anxiety too..and on top of that insecurity, Loneliness, sadness, confusion, anger and guilt.

I was crumbling and falling underneath all of that LOAD of painful emotion!

So now 6yrs later with most of this emotion nearly gone- sort of - I'm left with painful regret!

I always loved my husband..hence why I never left. I leave a rship when the love has gone!

I wasn't leaving.

I was going through a very hard painful time and believed I didn't love him BUT I was staying and thinking about how things used to be.

I was very confused. Hence i came on here.

I just wanted us to get back to the cute couple we used to be.

Even with his control. I found ways to manage him and loved him anyway.

Had i been able to wade though all of this Load of painful negative emotion back in 2016 I wouldn't be in this hell of a mess!

It just took me to have some Alone time to sort all of this out.

I've had alone time these last few years but. I've lost everything i loved. So this alone time has come too late.

So i miss my family and my marriage and it kills me inside.

I'm healing but I've lost everything!

She fucked him last week so it’s not like progress is being made here. I expect another 16 pages of “venting” though.

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some people are immune to advice.

@pooface222 would kill the corona virus by sheer ignorance.

Making rude comments like yours, really doesnt help!

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you can´t guilt trip me, hoe.

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She fucked him last week so it’s not like progress is being made here. I expect another 16 pages of “venting” though.

Once again..

Rude comments such as yours do not help. And are nasty.

If you cant be nice, be quiet.

And keep your unhelpful rudeness to yourself.

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some people are immune to advice.

@pooface222 would kill the corona virus by sheer ignorance.

Making rude comments like yours, really doesnt help!

you can´t guilt trip me, hoe.

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I'm not guilt-tripping you.

That's your perception.

I'm simply telling you to keep your rudeness to yourself!.

I find your saga eye opening and a warning to others.

You see what most people fail to do is realize nothing is perfect and truly accept it and be at peace with it.

I’m not saying you should have stayed in a comfortable yet somewhat toxic marriage but that if you were to want to leave them what would your alternative reality truly be? Would it truly be better, would it truly make you happier or are you just HOPING it’d be better?

That was your issue. You were really hoping it’d be better versus being confident it’d be better. And now here you are, just another woman slave to a man who wouldn’t fight for you. Also working jobs that you wouldn’t have had to. Is this really the alternative you wanted? Hopefully others can learn to evaluate their alternatives better before they throw themselves in a worse relationship predicament than their previous.

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I find your saga eye opening and a warning to others.

You see what most people fail to do is realize nothing is perfect and truly accept it and be at peace with it.

I’m not saying you should have stayed in a comfortable yet somewhat toxic marriage but that if you were to want to leave them what would your alternative reality truly be? Would it truly be better, would it truly make you happier or are you just HOPING it’d be better?

That was your issue. You were really hoping it’d be better versus being confident it’d be better. And now here you are, just another woman slave to a man who wouldn’t fight for you. Also working jobs that you wouldn’t have had to. Is this really the alternative you wanted? Hopefully others can learn to evaluate their alternatives better before they throw themselves in a worse relationship predicament than their previous.

You are exactly right..

Meanwhile, this Cap lady got her Pisces boy to marry her...

PS: she's stinking rich

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Meanwhile, this Cap lady got her Pisces boy to marry her...

PS: she's stinking rich

Lol! Typical!

Who are they?