He cheated and I took him back but ...doubt

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

I would say that a healthy relationship is built on trust. You have a valid reason to not trust him, having unlrotected sex with another women was disrespectful to you and with the girl knowing about it and still going through with it would make me also question if he's still with her. Initially I would say that if trust is lost, and you don't know if it will come back, its best to end it. Even if he didn't cheat, you may end up overthinking every action he makes and slowly going insane in if you truly can't trust this man. So its really up to you. Actually question yourself logically, forget the amount of time the both of you shared, the times you've been with each other and you're love for the other as he didn't think about that when he cheated (sorry I have no respect for people who cheat as its childish and hurtful to people) and question yourself if you could truly see yourself trusting him again, and what it would take for him to prove that he's going to be faithful. Don't just take his words, make sure he's showing in action. And make sure you also don't become someone your not due to your trust issues (as in being the gf who checks his phone or asks him where's he been). If it starts to change you, then I would say its best to call it quits for a bit.

Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

She isn’t a home wrecker. You don’t know what bullshit he fed her! She is least of your problems.

This mtrfkr IS!

How can you be sure now about him at all after this?

On the other hand...why did he strayed from you?

Are you meeting his needs?

Seems like everything is good except he needed addition to his sex life. Why? Are you sucking his dick as a favor? What is that you aren’t doing that he is craving and getting it in a side?

Think. If you are so loving him - how come you haven’t dissected this cheating problem yet IF you let him back?

Go to groupovenus and run your composite chart and SEE where could you be disconnected. Just read and pay attention to details.

Good luck.

Have a zero tolerance policy. Its the only way you create change.

Never should have taken him back.

She's not the problem. Your *man* is 😒 If she never told you, your ass WOULDN'T know so you should be THANKING her 🤷

You had your head in the clouds when I'm CERTAIN the signs were there.

To answer your question, no, you probably can't trust him. Especially because he was cheating FOR A WHILE 🤦

Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

This is just such a hard situation, I have a Gemini ex - to me, at the time he seems like the most royal person ever but and then I found messages too. I couldn't trust him since, to be honest, and we are no longer together, not because of that reason but we had so many ups and down I had to remove myself out of the situation.

I think your head is telling you to leave him and that you deserve better but your heart says otherwise. In my opinion, you should leave him and start fresh, don't waste more time with him. If he's truly your best friend/lover, he wouldn't hurt you and lied to you.

You sound like a sweet girlfriend from this topic, don't be a fool and hope for the best. You didn't do anything wrong, don't live your life worrying about your partner when you could be happy by yourself or with someone else who treats you right.

They must both be laughing at you in one hotel room rn. Idk how u haven't burnt his car already

Posted by mudra_

There's all the things I could say about this situation and that's on you if you want him back.

He didn't give 1 single fk about your health fking other chicks without a condom. Think about that.

This

He’s no respect for you

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Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

She isn’t a home wrecker. You don’t know what bullshit he fed her! She is least of your problems.

This mtrfkr IS!

How can you be sure now about him at all after this?

On the other hand...why did he strayed from you?

Are you meeting his needs?

Seems like everything is good except he needed addition to his sex life. Why? Are you sucking his dick as a favor? What is that you aren’t doing that he is craving and getting it in a side?

Think. If you are so loving him - how come you haven’t dissected this cheating problem yet IF you let him back?

Go to groupovenus and run your composite chart and SEE where could you be disconnected. Just read and pay attention to details.

Good luck.

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Men stray even when they’re getting plenty

They like variety

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They must both be laughing at you in one hotel room rn. Idk how u haven't burnt his car already

Yup

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Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

She isn’t a home wrecker. You don’t know what bullshit he fed her! She is least of your problems.

This mtrfkr IS!

How can you be sure now about him at all after this?

On the other hand...why did he strayed from you?

Are you meeting his needs?

Seems like everything is good except he needed addition to his sex life. Why? Are you sucking his dick as a favor? What is that you aren’t doing that he is craving and getting it in a side?

Think. If you are so loving him - how come you haven’t dissected this cheating problem yet IF you let him back?

Go to groupovenus and run your composite chart and SEE where could you be disconnected. Just read and pay attention to details.

Good luck.

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You know Gemitati, I read your first 3 lines and thought FUCK I am agreeing with you. then came line 4. Pray tell how do you have the nerve to question her on her short comings and why its her fault he strayed?

He strayed cause he is an ass.

@OP @Rremesha Cut your losses now. People who cheat, more often than not don't change and when they finally do they in their late 40's if you lucky.

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Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

She isn’t a home wrecker. You don’t know what bullshit he fed her! She is least of your problems.

This mtrfkr IS!

How can you be sure now about him at all after this?

On the other hand...why did he strayed from you?

Are you meeting his needs?

Seems like everything is good except he needed addition to his sex life. Why? Are you sucking his dick as a favor? What is that you aren’t doing that he is craving and getting it in a side?

Think. If you are so loving him - how come you haven’t dissected this cheating problem yet IF you let him back?

Go to groupovenus and run your composite chart and SEE where could you be disconnected. Just read and pay attention to details.

Good luck.

You know Gemitati, I read your first 3 lines and thought FUCK I am agreeing with you. then came line 4. Pray tell how do you have the nerve to question her on her short comings and why its her fault he strayed?

He strayed cause he is an ass.

@OP @Rremesha Cut your losses now. People who cheat, more often than not don't change and when they finally do they in their late 40's if you lucky.

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Ditto

It really isn’t her fault

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

She isn’t a home wrecker. You don’t know what bullshit he fed her! She is least of your problems.

This mtrfkr IS!

How can you be sure now about him at all after this?

On the other hand...why did he strayed from you?

Are you meeting his needs?

Seems like everything is good except he needed addition to his sex life. Why? Are you sucking his dick as a favor? What is that you aren’t doing that he is craving and getting it in a side?

Think. If you are so loving him - how come you haven’t dissected this cheating problem yet IF you let him back?

Go to groupovenus and run your composite chart and SEE where could you be disconnected. Just read and pay attention to details.

Good luck.

You know Gemitati, I read your first 3 lines and thought FUCK I am agreeing with you. then came line 4. Pray tell how do you have the nerve to question her on her short comings and why its her fault he strayed?

He strayed cause he is an ass.

@OP @Rremesha Cut your losses now. People who cheat, more often than not don't change and when they finally do they in their late 40's if you lucky.

Ditto

It really isn’t her fault

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It "will be" when he does it again though 😢 Hope it works out for them.

How can you trust someone who put your health at risk? And a pandora bracelet and flowers made you take him back? And what makes you think she was the only one? This dude is trash. Gemini men in general are trash I don’t care what anyone says.

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Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

This is just such a hard situation, I have a Gemini ex - to me, at the time he seems like the most royal person ever but and then I found messages too. I couldn't trust him since, to be honest, and we are no longer together, not because of that reason but we had so many ups and down I had to remove myself out of the situation.

I think your head is telling you to leave him and that you deserve better but your heart says otherwise. In my opinion, you should leave him and start fresh, don't waste more time with him. If he's truly your best friend/lover, he wouldn't hurt you and lied to you.

You sound like a sweet girlfriend from this topic, don't be a fool and hope for the best. You didn't do anything wrong, don't live your life worrying about your partner when you could be happy by yourself or with someone else who treats you right.

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What’s so hard about this situation besides her being betrayed lied to and her health put at risk? She’s should easily be able to end it, this ain’t love.

Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

He did admit it to you. So that’s great. You two need to get to the root of why he cheated. It’s sounds like you really want to make it work and people DO change. He isn’t some evil demon just because he cheated. (That’s mostly to everyone else) but at the very same time, it is REALLY hard to trust someone after they have cheated on you. I hope it works out ♥️ In that no matter your decision, you are happy.

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Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

She isn’t a home wrecker. You don’t know what bullshit he fed her! She is least of your problems.

This mtrfkr IS!

How can you be sure now about him at all after this?

On the other hand...why did he strayed from you?

Are you meeting his needs?

Seems like everything is good except he needed addition to his sex life. Why? Are you sucking his dick as a favor? What is that you aren’t doing that he is craving and getting it in a side?

Think. If you are so loving him - how come you haven’t dissected this cheating problem yet IF you let him back?

Go to groupovenus and run your composite chart and SEE where could you be disconnected. Just read and pay attention to details.

Good luck.

You know Gemitati, I read your first 3 lines and thought FUCK I am agreeing with you. then came line 4. Pray tell how do you have the nerve to question her on her short comings and why its her fault he strayed?

He strayed cause he is an ass.

@OP @Rremesha Cut your losses now. People who cheat, more often than not don't change and when they finally do they in their late 40's if you lucky.

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He is fucking around but he is staying with her.

Why? He likes/loves her and won’t leave for good.

So something is missing. Men are people too!

Keep denying it and you’ll get a stray!

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@Gemitati wrong ....and @sweetpea2977 WRONG.....

that woman is one of the main problems.... give her all the credit you cookie monsters want but the real question (besides the already obvious) is why the hell did she reach out to her (OP)? What were her intentions? Thing is, if a woman is truly done with whomever they are f-ing with they don't go around trying to break apart people's relationships.... if it was truly over, she wouldn't be going around peoples backs to get the information around.

Another reason why Virgos and Gems just don't mix well.

Personally I wouldn't stick around.... shat.... they both would be dead to me... like 100% dead.

You sound like a stupid-scorned-bird.

Didn't the op say that AFTER the woman told her, both she and the boyfriend "stopped"?

Which means, if she REALLY wanted to be a *homewrecker* she'd still be bangin' the dude and probably would've RUBBED that shit in the op's face again and again.

Everything isn't always black and white. Now, don't call me out of my name again simple-minded f**ktard.

Home wrecker? Are you kidding me? Are you sure you aren't the home wrecker? He's been with her since 2017 and you have to ask if you can trust him? He has a whole nother relationship going. If he's been seeing her since 2017 it's doubtful he's going to stop.

You are not wrong for trying to make your relationship work. It is your decision. If you truly love him and want it to work, all you can do is talk it out, then let it go. If you do not feel like you can trust him anymore, you may have to give yourself some space until you can figure out how to trust him again. Trust is key to any longterm relationship so if you dont have that, what do you have?? Infidelty happens unfortunately, and I think more when people are young and dumb. If it does not become a pattern, I do not see why you could not work through it. But thats what it is... work.

There def needs to be a serious talk about what risks he took with both of your bodies! You both need to be checked for STDs and aids and pray he didnt inadvertantly pass something on. If he wants a serious, longterm relationship, he needs to think in those terms. What he did was extremely dangerous to not only himself, but you as well. He needs to understand the severity.

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Posted by Rremesha

I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

She isn’t a home wrecker. You don’t know what bullshit he fed her! She is least of your problems.

This mtrfkr IS!

How can you be sure now about him at all after this?

On the other hand...why did he strayed from you?

Are you meeting his needs?

Seems like everything is good except he needed addition to his sex life. Why? Are you sucking his dick as a favor? What is that you aren’t doing that he is craving and getting it in a side?

Think. If you are so loving him - how come you haven’t dissected this cheating problem yet IF you let him back?

Go to groupovenus and run your composite chart and SEE where could you be disconnected. Just read and pay attention to details.

Good luck.

You know Gemitati, I read your first 3 lines and thought FUCK I am agreeing with you. then came line 4. Pray tell how do you have the nerve to question her on her short comings and why its her fault he strayed?

He strayed cause he is an ass.

@OP @Rremesha Cut your losses now. People who cheat, more often than not don't change and when they finally do they in their late 40's if you lucky.

He is fucking around but he is staying with her.

Why? He likes/loves her and won’t leave for good.

So something is missing. Men are people too!

Keep denying it and you’ll get a stray!

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Oh please. The fact the other woman sought her out and found her on IG already tells me this girl rat him out because she probably lay down terms and he said no.... or they had a bust up over jealousy. He only "admitted" to OP because she questioned him and he had no way of wriggling out of it. Not everyone is like you. Happy to fuck around regardless. Scorpio ahem. Cough. He is not staying with her. She is staying with him!... and why you ask? Because he can have his cake and eat it.

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I have been with my Gemini man since nov 2016. and our relationship was so perfect. I honestly could see myself having kids with him and getting married even after his birthday in June he said he wanted to settle down. I am so close to bf’s family and he is close to mine to the point that we sometimes sleep over at each other houses. I’m a Virgo ( Aug) and he is a Gemini (June) were not suppose to be compatible and sometimes he gets on my nerves but he makes up for it with his caring and loving side which I love so much.

Unfortunately over the summer in July I got a message from a girl on a fake account on Instagram claiming to be having an affair with my bf since June 2017 and I was honestly taken aback. He confessed after I showed him all the proof he had and he was having unprotected sex with her and meeting up with her at time that he was suppose to be with me but he would come late and for a couple of weeks I just didn’t want anything to do with him. But we’ve talked and he said he won’t do it again and she said the same and things have slowly gotten better he even for me a Pandora necklace for my birthday and flowers. But now I as we’re approaching 3 years I am sometimes feeling doubt because I don’t know if I can fully trust him again and I don’t know if I should continue because he hasn’t cheated on me and she knew about me the whole time and she didn’t say anything until the summer so she is the home wrecker because what girl does that knowing the guy is in a relationship?

Am I wrong for taking him back or should I give it time. We have so much history together, he’s my best friend and I love him so much I just don’t know what to do..

She isn’t a home wrecker. You don’t know what bullshit he fed her! She is least of your problems.

This mtrfkr IS!

How can you be sure now about him at all after this?

On the other hand...why did he strayed from you?

Are you meeting his needs?

Seems like everything is good except he needed addition to his sex life. Why? Are you sucking his dick as a favor? What is that you aren’t doing that he is craving and getting it in a side?

Think. If you are so loving him - how come you haven’t dissected this cheating problem yet IF you let him back?

Go to groupovenus and run your composite chart and SEE where could you be disconnected. Just read and pay attention to details.

Good luck.

Men stray even when they’re getting plenty

They like variety

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Let’s be honest...who does t? However it’s hose who love their partners control urges.

I have other questions here.

WHY did he tell her about unprotected sex?

Is he not very intelligent? Or he wanted out but families and OP were kind of ready to party wedding and he felt like he needed to her away?

Sometimes men pinned into the corner and can’t find their way out because the world (family and friends) are looking at them and shaking heads.

SHE TOOK HIM BACK! APPARENTLY she COULD live with that knowledge if him cheating unless he wouldn’t do it again.

I smell some cultural shit. Wondering if it’s all has to do with the way they were brought up.

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@Gemitati wrong ....and @sweetpea2977 WRONG.....

that woman is one of the main problems.... give her all the credit you cookie monsters want but the real question (besides the already obvious) is why the hell did she reach out to her (OP)? What were her intentions? Thing is, if a woman is truly done with whomever they are f-ing with they don't go around trying to break apart people's relationships.... if it was truly over, she wouldn't be going around peoples backs to get the information around.

Another reason why Virgos and Gems just don't mix well.

Personally I wouldn't stick around.... shat.... they both would be dead to me... like 100% dead.

You sound like a stupid-scorned-bird.

Didn't the op say that AFTER the woman told her, both she and the boyfriend "stopped"?

Which means, if she REALLY wanted to be a *homewrecker* she'd still be bangin' the dude and probably would've RUBBED that shit in the op's face again and again.

Everything isn't always black and white. Now, don't call me out of my name again simple-minded f**ktard.

i do what i want

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And so do I!

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@sweetpea2977

SUCKS MAJOR BALLS

Nope! I leave that for the slut buckets like you 😉

Its one thing to shit on your heart and destroy your trust in him by fucking around. Its a WHOLE NOTHER THING to fuck unprotected and put your health at risk.

This wasn't an alcohol fueled one night stand. This wasn't a one off fuck when y'all had an argument and he found another pussy to sooth his ego. This was a FULL BLOWN RELATIONSHIP he was hiding from you for damn near 2 YEARS!!

This dude only cares about his own self interest. He came clean cause he was caught. Don't get it twisted, if she hadn't blown up his spot he would've continued to fuck her raw and put your health at risk.

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@sweetpea2977

REALLY REALLY SUCKS BALLS

🤣🤣🤣 Immature, scorned 🤡 Thanks for the laugh 😋

bad idea, once trust is gone it's unrepairable. lets say i cheated on someone right, and they take me back and forgive me. I would still never respect them or look at them in that way because they took me back

also on your side will you be able to forgive him, the trust is kind of damaged

You guys don't have kids yet and you guys are young. Now is the time to get out and find someone loyal. You would've never known had it been for that girl, so obviously he's pretty good at cheating. Leave this scum

That girl on the side opened her mouth in my opinion because she wanted him and he didn't want her enough so she got pissed off and jealous and told his GF.

Horrible and hurtful situation..it's worse when you love someone. The line that he 'gave you a Pandora necklace ' made my skin crawl. Guilt buying and it's bloody disgusting and ignorant to fall for that when he's had his dick quite happily in someone else whilst he arrived 'late' to see you. What an arse.....

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That girl on the side opened her mouth in my opinion because she wanted him and he didn't want her enough so she got pissed off and jealous and told his GF.

Horrible and hurtful situation..it's worse when you love someone. The line that he 'gave you a Pandora necklace ' made my skin crawl. Guilt buying and it's bloody disgusting and ignorant to fall for that when he's had his dick quite happily in someone else whilst he arrived 'late' to see you. What an arse.....

I know about someone who cheated with my friend’s bf, and she ended up telling the girl’s sister about it eventually, because she felt so bad. Knowing the guy, he probably manipulated the hell out of her while they were sleeping together. Not every side chick has bad intentions if they choose to tell the gf about the affair, I guess is what I’m saying. She actually did the OP a favour, which the bf certainly did not. Him having the affair is the issue, not the side chick telling her about it.

The rest I agree with.

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Mmmm I'm on the fence with this because seriously if she had no feelings and wasn't annoyed with him, she would have left it. But she was emotionally involved and didn't do that girl favour in her eyes. She wanted her to dump him. That women had no loyalty to her. There nay be a small percentage that do. I agree he was an arse and manipulative.

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That girl on the side opened her mouth in my opinion because she wanted him and he didn't want her enough so she got pissed off and jealous and told his GF.

Horrible and hurtful situation..it's worse when you love someone. The line that he 'gave you a Pandora necklace ' made my skin crawl. Guilt buying and it's bloody disgusting and ignorant to fall for that when he's had his dick quite happily in someone else whilst he arrived 'late' to see you. What an arse.....

I know about someone who cheated with my friend’s bf, and she ended up telling the girl’s sister about it eventually, because she felt so bad. Knowing the guy, he probably manipulated the hell out of her while they were sleeping together. Not every side chick has bad intentions if they choose to tell the gf about the affair, I guess is what I’m saying. She actually did the OP a favour, which the bf certainly did not. Him having the affair is the issue, not the side chick telling her about it.

The rest I agree with.

Mmmm I'm on the fence with this because seriously if she had no feelings and wasn't annoyed with him, she would have left it. But she was emotionally involved and didn't do that girl favour in her eyes. She wanted her to dump him. That women had no loyalty to her. There nay be a small percentage that do. I agree he was an arse and manipulative.

OP deserved to know the truth. But maybe that’s just me who would rather know the truth, than having people lie to me (and I speak from experience).

I believe the one I know had pure intentions with telling my friend about the affair. I can’t say for sure about the side chick in this story, but I’m just offering a different perspective. Everything isn’t that black and white, different people have different intentions with their actions

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I agree with you but I think most do it because they are scorned. If a person had pure intentions they would not have been the side chick..

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That girl on the side opened her mouth in my opinion because she wanted him and he didn't want her enough so she got pissed off and jealous and told his GF.

Horrible and hurtful situation..it's worse when you love someone. The line that he 'gave you a Pandora necklace ' made my skin crawl. Guilt buying and it's bloody disgusting and ignorant to fall for that when he's had his dick quite happily in someone else whilst he arrived 'late' to see you. What an arse.....

I know about someone who cheated with my friend’s bf, and she ended up telling the girl’s sister about it eventually, because she felt so bad. Knowing the guy, he probably manipulated the hell out of her while they were sleeping together. Not every side chick has bad intentions if they choose to tell the gf about the affair, I guess is what I’m saying. She actually did the OP a favour, which the bf certainly did not. Him having the affair is the issue, not the side chick telling her about it.

The rest I agree with.

Mmmm I'm on the fence with this because seriously if she had no feelings and wasn't annoyed with him, she would have left it. But she was emotionally involved and didn't do that girl favour in her eyes. She wanted her to dump him. That women had no loyalty to her. There nay be a small percentage that do. I agree he was an arse and manipulative.

OP deserved to know the truth. But maybe that’s just me who would rather know the truth, than having people lie to me (and I speak from experience).

I believe the one I know had pure intentions with telling my friend about the affair. I can’t say for sure about the side chick in this story, but I’m just offering a different perspective. Everything isn’t that black and white, different people have different intentions with their actions

I agree with you but I think most do it because they are scorned. If a person had pure intentions they would not have been the side chick..

I wouldn’t know. The only personal experience I’ve had was when my ex cheated, and his girl told a friend about it, and her friend told me. The girl never told me directly, neither did he. I was happy I found out, though, even though I, like the OP, also took him back

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Yes but there is a slight difference here. She didn't sound scorned. She was properly glad to get rid of him. She knew he was an arse but at least you are away from him now. Nothing ever comes good from these types of things.

Geminis. My dad is one. Mom says he was obsessed with her for years, couldn’t stay away.. then one night exactly one year into their marriage he didn’t come home until morning. When she asked him about it, he became extremely angry. Fast-forward 11 years... she had three kids from him, she was sticking it out, they weren’t even sleeping in the same bed and he was always traveling for business and continued cheating. Eventually divorced. Married a woman he had cheated on my mom with.

I wonder why women don’t get turned off when they learn a man has cheated (especially without a condom, it’s basically him abusing your body...?) Think— it’s your turn to wear condoms now to protect yourself, even if you’re his actual girlfriend. Does this sound fair to you? What type of woman-loving man could put his naked thing in another woman, knowing fully well that he could get a disease (that he may pass to you) or get that other girl pregnant?? Forget the cheating... a man who doesn’t even use a condom completely disregards the chaos he could cause in your life. This is not long-term material.

I would get turned off and run from a guy like this, even if I was still angry and hurt. I think you should question why you think you should stay with him. Maybe it’s just an insecurity or out of habit. Don’t trust that anyone will change without therapy. And not even then..

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Geminis. My dad is one. Mom says he was obsessed with her for years, couldn’t stay away.. then one night exactly one year into their marriage he didn’t come home until morning. When she asked him about it, he became extremely angry. Fast-forward 11 years... she had three kids from him, she was sticking it out, they weren’t even sleeping in the same bed and he was always traveling for business and continued cheating. Eventually divorced. Married a woman he had cheated on my mom with.

I wonder why women don’t get turned off when they learn a man has cheated (especially without a condom, it’s basically him abusing your body...?) Think— it’s your turn to wear condoms now to protect yourself, even if you’re his actual girlfriend. Does this sound fair to you? What type of woman-loving man could put his naked thing in another woman, knowing fully well that he could get a disease (that he may pass to you) or get that other girl pregnant?? Forget the cheating... a man who doesn’t even use a condom completely disregards the chaos he could cause in your life. This is not long-term material.

I would get turned off and run from a guy like this, even if I was still angry and hurt. I think you should question why you think you should stay with him. Maybe it’s just an insecurity or out of habit. Don’t trust that anyone will change without therapy. And not even then..

Lol. One of my best guy friends who has been married for 10+is a genimi. He is a stupid cheat with social media and leaving wrappers in his car. What do you know his wife threatens but never leaves. WTF

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Home wrecker? Are you kidding me? Are you sure you aren't the home wrecker? He's been with her since 2017 and you have to ask if you can trust him? He has a whole nother relationship going. If he's been seeing her since 2017 it's doubtful he's going to stop.

I’ve missed that info! Like really??! I am wondering if he had met her parents as well? 🤔