Narcissists and embarassment

My mom is a narcissist. she invited me and my husband for dinner today. She said she found old photos of me when I was maybe 15 on vacation in a bikini. She told me how pretty it was and pointed out details like what color the bikini was so that I would remember. She said she wanted to show my husband.

I immediately gave her a disapproving look, and said “no, you don’t need to show him.” She insisted that it was pretty, then I said it’s inappropriate because I was underage then.

So with that information, was I overreacting? Please take note of your initial reaction to this, then read on.

Now, I’ll give more details. The year those photos were taken, my mom had my dad put them up on the karaoke monitor for their family dinner party. I told her to take it down before people showed up, but people were already coming in and she didn’t care. My dad is just oblivious or thinks nothing of my feelings either, so he didn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to work the monitor because my dad had set it up.

Aside from that, my mother has always embarrassed me, and whether it’s on purpose or just in her blood, I don’t know. It might be cultural. But I do know that she was extremely self conscious of her body as a young woman because I saw photos of her from before she had me, in her bikini, and she looked really bashful, covering up her stomach. She also told me she was bulemic, said it in a way that it’s obvious she has a rudimentary understanding of what bulemia is. She would say she made herself throw up, but never mentioned bulemia. I guess where she’s from(not the USA), it’s not discussed as an eating disorder. But I can only imagine she knows what it’s like to be self conscious and she should be able to translate those feelings into some understanding of why I wouldn’t want her to show my photos to all her friends who were obviously much older than me. My worst assumption is that she is so effed up in the head that she only knows how to deal with her own feelings by making me feel as small as her. I was initially the one who wanted to wear the bikini and it was sort of like an important step in becoming comfortable with my body, because for a long time she would pick out what I was supposed to wear and control me in such ways.

I detached myself from her a decade ago and I have no issues with self image, but it’s irritating that she’s still the same old idiot. She will probably text my husband the photos at some point, but I don’t care. If she does at least I will know she’s a piece of shit. I just can’t help wondering if I’m gona turn out to be as retarded as her, embarrassing my kid without any awareness or control over it. It’s also giving me a new perspective on how/why everyone does that to other people and I’m disgusted by how I have done things like that to my own friends, even if it seemed inconsequential to me. Ughhh too much truth for dxp?

Oh yeah, and since this is the astrology and relationships forum, I’ll add that I have Chiron conjunct the ascendant. So it makes sense.

Posted by Arielle83

Bikini pics are normal down here in Oz.

I don’t understand how being 15 in a bikini is inappropriate to show your husband. It’s you, not someone else.

Your mom doesn’t understand why you’re self conscious, because she’s older and prob would kill to be younger again, like you.

At least your mom isn’t Mary Shieler. That’s a mom you shouldn’t talk to.

I duno, I looked like a child at 15 though. Maybe that’s the difference. She’s done a lot of questionable shit. When her friend was dying she hung up a pic of me on her bulletin board of cards and letters, and it was so big it took up half the board. It made her daughter so mad she drew marks on my face and I don’t hold it against her because that’s just so dumb.

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

I would hope he doesn’t show off their bikini photos to all his friends?

Posted by BlueVelvet

My mom is a narcissist. she invited me and my husband for dinner today. She said she found old photos of me when I was maybe 15 on vacation in a bikini. She told me how pretty it was and pointed out details like what color the bikini was so that I would remember. She said she wanted to show my husband.

Your mom is not a narcissist. My mom is/was. She destroyed. You speak of your mom's past insecurities, issues with self-image. Narcissists think they are god.

I immediately gave her a disapproving look, and said “no, you don’t need to show him.” She insisted that it was pretty, then I said it’s inappropriate because I was underage then.

So with that information, was I overreacting? Please take note of your initial reaction to this, then read on.

This is like the baby, infant, picture of my with my legs spread before a diaper was put on. I destroyed it but, it was not inappropriate and I owned my own warped embarrassment. Think about art, paintings, sculptures, photos. No, you in a bikini as a girl is not inappropriate. Just like my infant picture, or a picture of my husband as a country boy swimming at the lake at his family farm, in his jockies. Perverts think inappropriate things at such pictures.

Now, I’ll give more details. The year those photos were taken, my mom had my dad put them up on the karaoke monitor for their family dinner party. I told her to take it down before people showed up, but people were already coming in and she didn’t care. My dad is just oblivious or thinks nothing of my feelings either, so he didn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to work the monitor because my dad had set it up.

Family pictures are often embarrassing.

Aside from that, my mother has always embarrassed me, and whether it’s on purpose or just in her blood, I don’t know. It might be cultural.

Family are prone to embarrass us. My mother does the same, so do my uncles. You gotta own your feelings.

But I do know that she was extremely self conscious of her body as a young woman because I saw photos of her from before she had me, in her bikini, and she looked really bashful, covering up her stomach. She also told me she was bulemic, said it in a way that it’s obvious she has a rudimentary understanding of what bulemia is. She would say she made herself throw up, but never mentioned bulemia. I guess where she’s from(not the USA), it’s not discussed as an eating disorder.

You are not describing a narcissist.

But I can only imagine she knows what it’s like to be self conscious and she should be able to translate those feelings into some understanding of why I wouldn’t want her to show my photos to all her friends who were obviously much older than me. My worst assumption is that she is so effed up in the head that she only knows how to deal with her own feelings by making me feel as small as her.

She is living through you. You were not as self-conscious as she was... to the point of bulimia. She is proud of you as she wishe she could be of herself. Seeing you unabashed in your bikini might be healing to her. You are not receiving her feelings. You seem to lack empathy for your mother as an individual. When we become adults, we must begin to see our parents as people. Shed that one-way child view of them as just parents.

I was initially the one who wanted to wear the bikini and it was sort of like an important step in becoming comfortable with my body, because for a long time she would pick out what I was supposed to wear and control me in such ways.

I detached myself from her a decade ago and I have no issues with self image, but it’s irritating that she’s still the same old idiot.

She rejoices in your "important step in becoming comfortable with my body." She missed that step. She didn't make it through like you. She living vicariously through you in that moment and it's healing. Alot of women have this issue. Your mothee joins millions of "idiots."

She will probably text my husband the photos at some point, but I don’t care. If she does at least I will know she’s a piece of shit. I just can’t help wondering if I’m gona turn out to be as retarded as her, embarrassing my kid without any awareness or control over it. It’s also giving me a new perspective on how/why everyone does that to other people and I’m disgusted by how I have done things like that to my own friends, even if it seemed inconsequential to me. Ughhh too much truth for dxp?

Oh yeah, and since this is the astrology and relationships forum, I’ll add that I have Chiron conjunct the ascendant. So it makes sense.

Absolutely correct! Chiron conjunct the ascendant. Do mom's chart too. It will help you see her as an individual. Maybe garner some empathy.

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Posted by BlueVelvet

My mom is a narcissist. she invited me and my husband for dinner today. She said she found old photos of me when I was maybe 15 on vacation in a bikini. She told me how pretty it was and pointed out details like what color the bikini was so that I would remember. She said she wanted to show my husband.

Your mom is not a narcissist. My mom is/was. She destroyed. You speak of your mom's past insecurities, issues with self-image. Narcissists think they are god.

I immediately gave her a disapproving look, and said “no, you don’t need to show him.” She insisted that it was pretty, then I said it’s inappropriate because I was underage then.

So with that information, was I overreacting? Please take note of your initial reaction to this, then read on.

This is like the baby, infant, picture of my with my legs spread before a diaper was put on. I destroyed it but, it was not inappropriate and I owned my own warped embarrassment. Think about art, paintings, sculptures, photos. No, you in a bikini as a girl is not inappropriate. Just like my infant picture, or a picture of my husband as a country boy swimming at the lake at his family farm, in his jockies. Perverts think inappropriate things at such pictures.

Now, I’ll give more details. The year those photos were taken, my mom had my dad put them up on the karaoke monitor for their family dinner party. I told her to take it down before people showed up, but people were already coming in and she didn’t care. My dad is just oblivious or thinks nothing of my feelings either, so he didn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to work the monitor because my dad had set it up.

Family pictures are often embarrassing.

Aside from that, my mother has always embarrassed me, and whether it’s on purpose or just in her blood, I don’t know. It might be cultural.

Family are prone to embarrass us. My mother does the same, so do my uncles. You gotta own your feelings.

But I do know that she was extremely self conscious of her body as a young woman because I saw photos of her from before she had me, in her bikini, and she looked really bashful, covering up her stomach. She also told me she was bulemic, said it in a way that it’s obvious she has a rudimentary understanding of what bulemia is. She would say she made herself throw up, but never mentioned bulemia. I guess where she’s from(not the USA), it’s not discussed as an eating disorder.

You are not describing a narcissist.

But I can only imagine she knows what it’s like to be self conscious and she should be able to translate those feelings into some understanding of why I wouldn’t want her to show my photos to all her friends who were obviously much older than me. My worst assumption is that she is so effed up in the head that she only knows how to deal with her own feelings by making me feel as small as her.

She is living through you. You were not as self-conscious as she was... to the point of bulimia. She is proud of you as she wishe she could be of herself. Seeing you unabashed in your bikini might be healing to her. You are not receiving her feelings. You seem to lack empathy for your mother as an individual. When we become adults, we must begin to see our parents as people. Shed that one-way child view of them as just parents.

I was initially the one who wanted to wear the bikini and it was sort of like an important step in becoming comfortable with my body, because for a long time she would pick out what I was supposed to wear and control me in such ways.

I detached myself from her a decade ago and I have no issues with self image, but it’s irritating that she’s still the same old idiot.

She rejoices in your "important step in becoming comfortable with my body." She missed that step. She didn't make it through like you. She living vicariously through you in that moment and it's healing. Alot of women have this issue. Your mothee joins millions of "idiots."

She will probably text my husband the photos at some point, but I don’t care. If she does at least I will know she’s a piece of shit. I just can’t help wondering if I’m gona turn out to be as retarded as her, embarrassing my kid without any awareness or control over it. It’s also giving me a new perspective on how/why everyone does that to other people and I’m disgusted by how I have done things like that to my own friends, even if it seemed inconsequential to me. Ughhh too much truth for dxp?

Oh yeah, and since this is the astrology and relationships forum, I’ll add that I have Chiron conjunct the ascendant. So it makes sense.

Absolutely correct! Chiron conjunct the ascendant. Do mom's chart too. It will help you see her as an individual. Maybe garner some empathy.

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I wasn’t asking for confirmation that she’s a narcissist. I know she is one from other experiences. That was meant to give some background for this one instance but everyone for some reason wants to assume the best, ignoring the details. I have done the research on narcissism thanks.

Posted by halalbae

In all seriousness, Ive looked into my patients natal chart and concluded that mothers of Gemini Moon people usually are very emotionally distant due to the moon/moms mental space or overall personality. There is no heavy familial signatures that are extreme. Moms were typically more immature or lack nurturing qualities

Wow you must be a genius! No one with a gemini moon has shitty moms! Great observation.

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Posted by BlueVelvet

My mom is a narcissist. she invited me and my husband for dinner today. She said she found old photos of me when I was maybe 15 on vacation in a bikini. She told me how pretty it was and pointed out details like what color the bikini was so that I would remember. She said she wanted to show my husband.

Your mom is not a narcissist. My mom is/was. She destroyed. You speak of your mom's past insecurities, issues with self-image. Narcissists think they are god.

I immediately gave her a disapproving look, and said “no, you don’t need to show him.” She insisted that it was pretty, then I said it’s inappropriate because I was underage then.

So with that information, was I overreacting? Please take note of your initial reaction to this, then read on.

This is like the baby, infant, picture of my with my legs spread before a diaper was put on. I destroyed it but, it was not inappropriate and I owned my own warped embarrassment. Think about art, paintings, sculptures, photos. No, you in a bikini as a girl is not inappropriate. Just like my infant picture, or a picture of my husband as a country boy swimming at the lake at his family farm, in his jockies. Perverts think inappropriate things at such pictures.

Now, I’ll give more details. The year those photos were taken, my mom had my dad put them up on the karaoke monitor for their family dinner party. I told her to take it down before people showed up, but people were already coming in and she didn’t care. My dad is just oblivious or thinks nothing of my feelings either, so he didn’t do anything. I didn’t know how to work the monitor because my dad had set it up.

Family pictures are often embarrassing.

Aside from that, my mother has always embarrassed me, and whether it’s on purpose or just in her blood, I don’t know. It might be cultural.

Family are prone to embarrass us. My mother does the same, so do my uncles. You gotta own your feelings.

But I do know that she was extremely self conscious of her body as a young woman because I saw photos of her from before she had me, in her bikini, and she looked really bashful, covering up her stomach. She also told me she was bulemic, said it in a way that it’s obvious she has a rudimentary understanding of what bulemia is. She would say she made herself throw up, but never mentioned bulemia. I guess where she’s from(not the USA), it’s not discussed as an eating disorder.

You are not describing a narcissist.

But I can only imagine she knows what it’s like to be self conscious and she should be able to translate those feelings into some understanding of why I wouldn’t want her to show my photos to all her friends who were obviously much older than me. My worst assumption is that she is so effed up in the head that she only knows how to deal with her own feelings by making me feel as small as her.

She is living through you. You were not as self-conscious as she was... to the point of bulimia. She is proud of you as she wishe she could be of herself. Seeing you unabashed in your bikini might be healing to her. You are not receiving her feelings. You seem to lack empathy for your mother as an individual. When we become adults, we must begin to see our parents as people. Shed that one-way child view of them as just parents.

I was initially the one who wanted to wear the bikini and it was sort of like an important step in becoming comfortable with my body, because for a long time she would pick out what I was supposed to wear and control me in such ways.

I detached myself from her a decade ago and I have no issues with self image, but it’s irritating that she’s still the same old idiot.

She rejoices in your "important step in becoming comfortable with my body." She missed that step. She didn't make it through like you. She living vicariously through you in that moment and it's healing. Alot of women have this issue. Your mothee joins millions of "idiots."

She will probably text my husband the photos at some point, but I don’t care. If she does at least I will know she’s a piece of shit. I just can’t help wondering if I’m gona turn out to be as retarded as her, embarrassing my kid without any awareness or control over it. It’s also giving me a new perspective on how/why everyone does that to other people and I’m disgusted by how I have done things like that to my own friends, even if it seemed inconsequential to me. Ughhh too much truth for dxp?

Oh yeah, and since this is the astrology and relationships forum, I’ll add that I have Chiron conjunct the ascendant. So it makes sense.

Absolutely correct! Chiron conjunct the ascendant. Do mom's chart too. It will help you see her as an individual. Maybe garner some empathy.

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Explain how I should empathize with this.

When her friend was dying in the hospital she hung up a pic of me on her bulletin board of cards and letters, and it was so big it took up half the board. It made her daughter so mad she drew marks on my face and I don’t hold it against her because that’s just so dumb.

If you know anything about narcissists, you know they either have a golden child or a scapegoat. She made me the golden child. Showed me off to EVERYONE, forced me to perform at all the religious meetings and forced me to emcee when I was like 10, while normally it was adults who did that. She thought it was so cute though, and everyone else just backed off and let her do what she wanted. When she pissed off some people for being too self involved, she created a new district where the meetings would be held at our house and she could have me perform without interruption.

All you retards are now thinking so what, some parents are strict and proud of their kids. Fuck off, you have no idea of the difference between narcissism and strict parenting. You are the reason narcissists exist - while they are infantilizing their children and abusing their partners, they appear harmless and innocent to the people who don’t know them.

My mother was an absolute dick to my dad. Ordered him around and whined that he never did anything for our family, meanwhile he was doing everything while she would come home at midnight, not from working late but finding other shit to do. But when the weekends came around she would pretend to be a real mom to our religious friends. She has done a lot of stupid shit and everyone I know has confirmed that they always knew there was something up with her so I don’t need you all to be acting like you know my mom better than I do. Bring on the boo hoos. I’m just confirming that this is another case where you’re all bs-ing yourselves with your Dr. Phil attitudes. You’re all dumb but i’m worse for expecting you not to be.

my mom is an aquarius and so fucking embarassing. A total narcissist, thankfully I'm old enought that I don't care

Since you have all the answers, just close the thread. Just dramatic. Ridiculous.

Posted by hydorah

my mom is an aquarius and so fucking embarassing. A total narcissist, thankfully I'm old enought that I don't care

Good for you. At your age I’m guessing she’s pretty much dead. So it’s a non issue.

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Posted by hydorah

my mom is an aquarius and so fucking embarassing. A total narcissist, thankfully I'm old enought that I don't care

Good for you. At your age I’m guessing she’s pretty much dead. So it’s a non issue.

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you don't know my mom she's so petty and won't stop with the snide remarks

Posted by Nope

Since you have all the answers, just close the thread. Just dramatic. Ridiculous.

If u have nothing to add, why are you responding? Gtfo

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Posted by hydorah

my mom is an aquarius and so fucking embarassing. A total narcissist, thankfully I'm old enought that I don't care

Good for you. At your age I’m guessing she’s pretty much dead. So it’s a non issue.

you don't know my mom she's so petty and won't stop with the snide remarks

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Oh wow you have developed a hard shell to make you impervious to the world’s shit bullets. Congratulations

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Posted by Nope

Since you have all the answers, just close the thread. Just dramatic. Ridiculous.

If u have nothing to add, why are you responding? Gtfo

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I added that you are being ridiculous. Everyone that gave their opinion without malice ended up with you calling them dumb just cause you didn't agree. Just stupid.

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my mom is an aquarius and so fucking embarassing. A total narcissist, thankfully I'm old enought that I don't care

Good for you. At your age I’m guessing she’s pretty much dead. So it’s a non issue.

you don't know my mom she's so petty and won't stop with the snide remarks

Oh wow you have developed a hard shell to make you impervious to the world’s shit bullets. Congratulations

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thanks, aquarius moms are the worst

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Posted by Nope

Since you have all the answers, just close the thread. Just dramatic. Ridiculous.

If u have nothing to add, why are you responding? Gtfo

I added that you are being ridiculous. Everyone that gave their opinion without malice ended up with you calling them dumb just cause you didn't agree. Just stupid.

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Gtfo. U expect me to thank them for making assumptions and making jokes. But calling them dumb is crossing the line? Go fuck yourself.

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my mom is an aquarius and so fucking embarassing. A total narcissist, thankfully I'm old enought that I don't care

Good for you. At your age I’m guessing she’s pretty much dead. So it’s a non issue.

you don't know my mom she's so petty and won't stop with the snide remarks

Oh wow you have developed a hard shell to make you impervious to the world’s shit bullets. Congratulations

thanks, aquarius moms are the worst

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You are so funny! Ha hahaha ha ha

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Posted by Nope

Since you have all the answers, just close the thread. Just dramatic. Ridiculous.

If u have nothing to add, why are you responding? Gtfo

I added that you are being ridiculous. Everyone that gave their opinion without malice ended up with you calling them dumb just cause you didn't agree. Just stupid.

Gtfo. U expect me to thank them for making assumptions and making jokes. But calling them dumb is crossing the line? Go fuck yourself.

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Lol, aww.

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Posted by Nope

Since you have all the answers, just close the thread. Just dramatic. Ridiculous.

If u have nothing to add, why are you responding? Gtfo

I added that you are being ridiculous. Everyone that gave their opinion without malice ended up with you calling them dumb just cause you didn't agree. Just stupid.

Gtfo. U expect me to thank them for making assumptions and making jokes. But calling them dumb is crossing the line? Go fuck yourself.

Lol, aww.

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How bout not telling people to close their threads. Who gives a fuck what u want.

Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

Posted by Arielle83

Do narcissists not like being wrong or challenged?

Oh good one. I see where this is going! Fuck off. U are obsessed with shitting on people. Go find a toilet.

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Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

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I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Posted by VenusRetrogade

U just hate ur mum in general. Shes not doing anything wrong. Shes just being a typical mum showing u off coz its how she shows she loves u.

Her mom loves her even she is hateful bitch of a daughter as she is...but some people just can’t help hating their parents...

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Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

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Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

I think there is some money to make on DXP if you are a shrink

I will leave this up so everyone has somewhere to shit today.

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Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

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Your opinion is obviously not included in the convo. I thought that was an unspoken understanding here.

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Posted by BlueVelvet

Wow you must be a genius

Thanks I get that a lot

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I think OP is bipolar. Her angry shit and love of an argument without substance is just strange AF!

I don’t remember anything positive or useful from her. Shit then arguing with everyone who is calling her out on her shit. That’s all.

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Posted by BlueVelvet

I just can’t help wondering if I’m gona turn out to be as retarded as her, embarrassing my kid without any awareness or control over it.

I feel for you, and I doubt it. I don't believe we are doomed to become our parents. Your mom sounds aggressive and either indifferent to or purposefully stomping on your boundaries, which I relate to but I don't give my mom a reaction now and just avoid/ignore her. Consider your mom might have awareness/control over her actions. I used to give my mom the benefit of the doubt until I realized her lapse of being considerate only extends to few, and people she respects receive more careful treatment.

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Maybe that’s why we keep coming to places like dxp. The shitfest is just so familiar.

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Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

Your opinion is obviously not included in the convo. I thought that was an unspoken understanding here.

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And you thought wrong. As always!

Open your own forum that will call ‘My Shit’ and make your own rules. But for now here - just DEAL WITH IT! And STFU!

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Posted by BlueVelvet

Wow you must be a genius

Thanks I get that a lot

I think OP is bipolar. Her angry shit and love of an argument without substance is just strange AF!

I don’t remember anything positive or useful from her. Shit then arguing with everyone who is calling her out on her shit. That’s all.

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Then everyone here is bipolar. Nice try! You think u r any better?

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Wow you must be a genius

Thanks I get that a lot

I think OP is bipolar. Her angry shit and love of an argument without substance is just strange AF!

I don’t remember anything positive or useful from her. Shit then arguing with everyone who is calling her out on her shit. That’s all.

Then everyone here is bipolar. Nice try! You think u r any better?

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Of course I am better! I don’t shit on my mom for no reason! So I AM better! 🖕

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Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

Your opinion is obviously not included in the convo. I thought that was an unspoken understanding here.

And you thought wrong. As always!

Open your own forum that will call ‘My Shit’ and make your own rules. But for now here - just DEAL WITH IT! And STFU!

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If there are no rules, then deal with me reacting to your stupid uninformed bs. I am looking for insightful responses and I am perfectly fine with telling people to fuck off if their opinion isn’t showing any sign of insight. The people who are responding are more likely to have bipolar disorder. Can’t handle me telling them to fuck off after they troll me? Sorry I should be worshipping your asses for being such dicks right? You all have been on dxp way too long to think YOU are normal for shitting on people 24/7

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Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

Your opinion is obviously not included in the convo. I thought that was an unspoken understanding here.

And you thought wrong. As always!

Open your own forum that will call ‘My Shit’ and make your own rules. But for now here - just DEAL WITH IT! And STFU!

If there are no rules, then deal with me reacting to your stupid uninformed bs. I am looking for insightful responses and I am perfectly fine with telling people to fuck off if their opinion isn’t showing any sign of insight. The people who are responding are more likely to have bipolar disorder. Can’t handle me telling them to fuck off after they troll me? Sorry I should be worshipping your asses for being such dicks right? You all have been on dxp way too long to think YOU are normal for shitting on people 24/7

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You can’t have usefull insight on a bullshit! You shitting on your mother and going berserk when people shitting on you...what did you expect?

No! Seriously? What were you looking for? ‘Poor dear your mom IS shit?’ I don’t think you’ll get any!

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that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

Your opinion is obviously not included in the convo. I thought that was an unspoken understanding here.

And you thought wrong. As always!

Open your own forum that will call ‘My Shit’ and make your own rules. But for now here - just DEAL WITH IT! And STFU!

If there are no rules, then deal with me reacting to your stupid uninformed bs. I am looking for insightful responses and I am perfectly fine with telling people to fuck off if their opinion isn’t showing any sign of insight. The people who are responding are more likely to have bipolar disorder. Can’t handle me telling them to fuck off after they troll me? Sorry I should be worshipping your asses for being such dicks right? You all have been on dxp way too long to think YOU are normal for shitting on people 24/7

You can’t have usefull insight on a bullshit! You shitting on your mother and going berserk when people shitting on you...what did you expect?

No! Seriously? What were you looking for? ‘Poor dear your mom IS shit?’ I don’t think you’ll get any!

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Fair enough. It’s totally normal to be infantilized by a mother... right? Sorry but not for me. When I tell someone don’t do this with my property, I expect to be listened to, and if that isn’t normal enough to you then I don’t know what is. If everyone here finds that normal then I can see why they’re acting like children here.

Posted by ValleysofNeptune

I don’t know what your relationship with your mom is exactly like since I haven’t experienced it obviously, but growing up my mom was controlling so I can see how this would be annoying if it’s part of a pattern of her not respecting what you want. And if you asked her not to show him the pic she probably should respect that I guess...it just doesn’t seem like a big deal from my perspective because it’s your husband. At least your mom isn’t showing pictures of you as a kid to a girl you just barely started seeing like my mom did once 🙈😬😬😬😬😬

So yeah I get how it can be annoying. Like people here are acting like you’re making too big a deal out of it which maybe you are a little bit, but on the other hand if you’re mom is so insistent on showing him a pic you asked her not to she’s kind of making things too big a deal too

Thanks, see this is an example of a response that doesn’t shit on me but still expresses a different opinion. Why’s that so fucking hard for everyone else?

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that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

Your opinion is obviously not included in the convo. I thought that was an unspoken understanding here.

And you thought wrong. As always!

Open your own forum that will call ‘My Shit’ and make your own rules. But for now here - just DEAL WITH IT! And STFU!

If there are no rules, then deal with me reacting to your stupid uninformed bs. I am looking for insightful responses and I am perfectly fine with telling people to fuck off if their opinion isn’t showing any sign of insight. The people who are responding are more likely to have bipolar disorder. Can’t handle me telling them to fuck off after they troll me? Sorry I should be worshipping your asses for being such dicks right? You all have been on dxp way too long to think YOU are normal for shitting on people 24/7

You can’t have usefull insight on a bullshit! You shitting on your mother and going berserk when people shitting on you...what did you expect?

No! Seriously? What were you looking for? ‘Poor dear your mom IS shit?’ I don’t think you’ll get any!

Fair enough. It’s totally normal to be infantilized by a mother... right? Sorry but not for me. When I tell someone don’t do this with my property, I expect to be listened to, and if that isn’t normal enough to you then I don’t know what is. If everyone here finds that normal then I can see why they’re acting like children here.

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Yep! Everybody here are children and you are an adult who used 10 insults agains your mother in one post! 👌

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Posted by besarlalluvia

that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

Your opinion is obviously not included in the convo. I thought that was an unspoken understanding here.

And you thought wrong. As always!

Open your own forum that will call ‘My Shit’ and make your own rules. But for now here - just DEAL WITH IT! And STFU!

If there are no rules, then deal with me reacting to your stupid uninformed bs. I am looking for insightful responses and I am perfectly fine with telling people to fuck off if their opinion isn’t showing any sign of insight. The people who are responding are more likely to have bipolar disorder. Can’t handle me telling them to fuck off after they troll me? Sorry I should be worshipping your asses for being such dicks right? You all have been on dxp way too long to think YOU are normal for shitting on people 24/7

You can’t have usefull insight on a bullshit! You shitting on your mother and going berserk when people shitting on you...what did you expect?

No! Seriously? What were you looking for? ‘Poor dear your mom IS shit?’ I don’t think you’ll get any!

Fair enough. It’s totally normal to be infantilized by a mother... right? Sorry but not for me. When I tell someone don’t do this with my property, I expect to be listened to, and if that isn’t normal enough to you then I don’t know what is. If everyone here finds that normal then I can see why they’re acting like children here.

Yep! Everybody here are children and you are an adult who used 10 insults agains your mother in one post! 👌

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Oh so this is really about you being butthurt since you are a mom and you probably do the same shit to your kids 😂 you shouldn’t be offended. You probably aren’t anything like my mom.

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Wow you must be a genius

Thanks I get that a lot

I think OP is bipolar. Her angry shit and love of an argument without substance is just strange AF!

I don’t remember anything positive or useful from her. Shit then arguing with everyone who is calling her out on her shit. That’s all.

Thats a heavy label. She might genuinely try to understand her relationship with her mom but most Virgo women remind me of little chihuahuas barking when they try to get their point across/diss people

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You remind me of an idiot

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that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

OP is definitely has a problems...it screams out loud!

I’m glad to know I has a problems. THANKS

Please note: it’s not a single person opinion.

Your opinion is obviously not included in the convo. I thought that was an unspoken understanding here.

And you thought wrong. As always!

Open your own forum that will call ‘My Shit’ and make your own rules. But for now here - just DEAL WITH IT! And STFU!

If there are no rules, then deal with me reacting to your stupid uninformed bs. I am looking for insightful responses and I am perfectly fine with telling people to fuck off if their opinion isn’t showing any sign of insight. The people who are responding are more likely to have bipolar disorder. Can’t handle me telling them to fuck off after they troll me? Sorry I should be worshipping your asses for being such dicks right? You all have been on dxp way too long to think YOU are normal for shitting on people 24/7

You can’t have usefull insight on a bullshit! You shitting on your mother and going berserk when people shitting on you...what did you expect?

No! Seriously? What were you looking for? ‘Poor dear your mom IS shit?’ I don’t think you’ll get any!

Fair enough. It’s totally normal to be infantilized by a mother... right? Sorry but not for me. When I tell someone don’t do this with my property, I expect to be listened to, and if that isn’t normal enough to you then I don’t know what is. If everyone here finds that normal then I can see why they’re acting like children here.

Yep! Everybody here are children and you are an adult who used 10 insults agains your mother in one post! 👌

Oh so this is really about you being butthurt since you are a mom and you probably do the same shit to your kids 😂 you shouldn’t be offended. You probably aren’t anything like my mom.

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I don’t like watching anybody’s kids pictures so I don’t show mine. I have low tolerance for people who thinks everyone wants to see their pictures!

There is FB! Knock yourself out!

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I don’t know what your relationship with your mom is exactly like since I haven’t experienced it obviously, but growing up my mom was controlling so I can see how this would be annoying if it’s part of a pattern of her not respecting what you want. And if you asked her not to show him the pic she probably should respect that I guess...it just doesn’t seem like a big deal from my perspective because it’s your husband. At least your mom isn’t showing pictures of you as a kid to a girl you just barely started seeing like my mom did once 🙈😬😬😬😬😬

So yeah I get how it can be annoying. Like people here are acting like you’re making too big a deal out of it which maybe you are a little bit, but on the other hand if you’re mom is so insistent on showing him a pic you asked her not to she’s kind of making things too big a deal too

Thanks, see this is an example of a response that doesn’t shit on me but still expresses a different opinion. Why’s that so fucking hard for everyone else?

That’s what usually happens on page 4. The opposition to the opposition

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this is actually a brilliant post so I'm quoting it

I'll probably quote it outside this thread too before some cray cray person closes the thread, won't name names

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Wow you must be a genius

Thanks I get that a lot

I think OP is bipolar. Her angry shit and love of an argument without substance is just strange AF!

I don’t remember anything positive or useful from her. Shit then arguing with everyone who is calling her out on her shit. That’s all.

Thats a heavy label. She might genuinely try to understand her relationship with her mom but most Virgo women remind me of little chihuahuas barking when they try to get their point across/diss people

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Not by calling her mom names in every sentence! She won’t understand shit if her mom all of that!

She already made up her mind about that woman. I am wondering what else horrible her mom had done except those pictures?

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that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

I would hope he doesn’t show off their bikini photos to all his friends?

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ok.. that’s not the same thing though?

Narcissist is a word that gets thrown out pretty commonly today when it shouldn't. Narcissism isn't what you call someone who is an asshole or someone you don't like. It is a diagnosable psychological/personality disorder that has to meet very specific criteria in order to be diagnosed. From what you posted there isn't enough evidence to give a valid opinion, and even then, thats all it is unless your mother has seen a professional. It could be your mother has narcissistic traits w/o being an actual narcissist, or maybe she's just selfish and irresponsible.

Also I've come to realize it's uncommon for some people on here to give objective perspective or advice. So yes you might not get a lot of that kind of insight. I can't really say much more except I'm sorry your relationship with your mother isn't that great. But at least you can better yourself from seeing how she acts, right?

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Your mum does not sound like a narcissist. If she was, it would not be your photo she would be showing around, but her own.

Narcissists evolve everything around themselves and they do put down others, but not in the ways you described. Narcissistic abuse is actually a real thing and what you’ve written sounds more like a mother who loves her child, but might not be the best at expressing it.

Parents and family members have been known for being embarrassing when it comes to baby photos and I know it’s really annoying, but it’s normal. If you don’t like it, then you’re doing the right thing by expressing your concern.

It’s getting annoying when everyone here claims to know what a narcissist is but doesn’t. I have done the research and narcissistic parents are a totally different realm of narcissism from what people know as typical narcissism. There’s a reddit forum dedicated to children of narcissists. I have spent years learning about it and experiencing it so I don’t know why everyone is sitting on their throne of “you know nothing but I know everything”.

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that you think it’s inappropriate makes you sound like the one with a problem tbh. how is your husband gonna look at ur kids?

I would hope he doesn’t show off their bikini photos to all his friends?

ok.. that’s not the same thing though?

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I mentioned that my mom did that in the middle of the post.

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Wow you must be a genius

Thanks I get that a lot

I think OP is bipolar. Her angry shit and love of an argument without substance is just strange AF!

I don’t remember anything positive or useful from her. Shit then arguing with everyone who is calling her out on her shit. That’s all.

Thats a heavy label. She might genuinely try to understand her relationship with her mom but most Virgo women remind me of little chihuahuas barking when they try to get their point across/diss people

Not by calling her mom names in every sentence! She won’t understand shit if her mom all of that!

She already made up her mind about that woman. I am wondering what else horrible her mom had done except those pictures?

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I already responded to a couple others about what other things she has done. Did you or are you going to pick out your kids clothes until they’re 16 years old? Do you constantly dictate what they should do every weekend until they’re 16, and then disappear all week to go cheat on your husband? Do you, every now and then take your children along with you when you cheat on your husband and leave them in the car for an hour while they hang out or suck some dick(who knows what she did). Do you bring back presents from the guys you cheat with that we’re supposedly given to your kid and leave them on display for your husband to see? Do you somehow make all your female friends suspicious and mistrustful of you and have they confronted you on it in front of your kids? Have you left your kids with 80 year olds who have dementia, only to be yelled at by their family that they can’t be taking care of a child?

I have lots more where that came from.

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This psychotic bish was on my ass for months for "calling people dumb" and thinking I was sooo smart aka - trolling hydorahs tag in an IQ thread. But she's literally calling everyone dumb in this thread, stating that only SHE knows and has done research on narcissism, and that's quite alright LOL

Hypocritial stupid azz bish

If they actually knew about narcissism they would know what i’m talking about. You and I both know people here pretend they have knowledge that they don’t. Who is more likely to have learned about narcissism? Someone who has reason to believe her own mother is one, or some dxpers who just want to yack on a forum?

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This psychotic bish was on my ass for months for "calling people dumb" and thinking I was sooo smart aka - trolling hydorahs tag in an IQ thread. But she's literally calling everyone dumb in this thread, stating that only SHE knows and has done research on narcissism, and that's quite alright LOL

Hypocritial stupid azz bish

You call people dumb for talking about things relevant to their own lives, having experiences you don’t know about. I’m calling people dumb for making assumptions on what they don’t know about. Get it straight. I know it’s a bit complex.