Whats the hardest part about a relationship breaking up and letting go, for you?

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by TaurusVenusGirl on Wednesday, July 12, 2017 and has 23 replies.

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@MyStarsShine
9 Years25,000+ Posts

Just letting go of having the person in my life

I never found it easy to let go of anything, so i have begun to realize that part of myself needed working on. When i noticed a pattern with letting go of all the men i had in my life, i began to see there was something in me that needed healing.

Like you, i have those fixed difficult to let go placements

Sun Scorpio

Moon Taurus

Asc Aries

Venus Scorpio

Mars Taurus

Is there any hope for me in rships....lol.......single for 4 years and still learning

🙂

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@SPUNKYTAURUS
9 Years1,000+ Posts

Letting go.... it's just a Tauruses natural thing to not do lol... but when we do.... even if we are hurting inside you will never know. We are stubborn and strong.

Taurus sun

Taurus moon

Scorpio mars

Aries Venus

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@Teena
11 Years10,000+ Posts

I worry for the person. Not that I'll make their life better by being in it ..but I just always hope they'll be ok in every respect.

Scorpio/Taurus/Gemini/Sag/Cancer

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@TaurusBull1977
17 Years1,000+ Posts

It takes a mountain to bring down the walls of vulnerability.

Then I am dancing like a naive child, free from restraints, trusting you, loving you, giving you my heart, and never expecting much in return.

Then the sword cuts through the heart, and I am no longer in the childlike moment with you.

Now I am forced to grow up.

With a collage of emotions....and not just one fixed emotion.

Then it's rationalized.

...and the other person?

They just become a distant memory.

...And the grass begins looking greener on the other side.

Taurus Sun

Aries Venus

Gemini Moon

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@scorpiosnow
9 Years

I think for me it's the finality of it. Whether I break up or someone else does it - it's just the feeling of something dying, the feeling of loss. The feeling of helplessness.

Rising: Scorpio

Sun: Scorpio

Venus: Scorpio

Moon: Gemini

Mars: Leo

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@tcta
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by MyStarsShine
Just letting go of having the person in my life

I never found it easy to let go of anything, so i have begun to realize that part of myself needed working on. When i noticed a pattern with letting go of all the men i had in my life, i began to see there was something in me that needed healing.

Like you, i have those fixed difficult to let go placements

Sun Scorpio

Moon Taurus

Asc Aries

Venus Scorpio

Mars Taurus

Is there any hope for me in rships....lol.......single for 4 years and still learning

🙂

do you mean going from having someone in your life to not having someone and being alone ? or is it something else - and why do you let go - because they are not right for you ?

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@tcta
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by m200991
I don't find the actual act of breaking up and/or letting go to be all that difficult. Probably because things (typically) are done civilly, after having been discussed, and mutually decided upon. I'm super big on open, honest, clear communication, so the way I approach splitting up with someone isn't really an exception... and I wouldn't even be in a relationship with someone unwilling to communicate in a like way. It just makes the entire experience easy, lol.

On a sappy note though... I do have to throw away their pillows if they don't take them. I can do the whole be in bed alone thing post break-up, but there's something about the lingering smell on the pillow that presents itself as a challenge. /shrug

Pisces/Cancer/Sagittarius/Aries/Pisces

lol reminds me of my ex-Libra - he says the same thing and said he said that to his ex-wife - "and take your smell with you" lol

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@tcta
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by TaurusBull1977
It takes a mountain to bring down the walls of vulnerability.

Then I am dancing like a naive child, free from restraints, trusting you, loving you, giving you my heart, and never expecting much in return.

Then the sword cuts through the heart, and I am no longer in the childlike moment with you.

Now I am forced to grow up.

With a collage of emotions....and not just one fixed emotion.

Then it's rationalized.

...and the other person?

They just become a distant memory.

...And the grass begins looking greener on the other side.

Taurus Sun

Aries Venus

Gemini Moon

wow I love the way you express

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@saggurl88
13 Years25,000+ Posts

I'm usually the one ending the relationship so for me it's easy. I move on fairly quickly. Its the whole finding someone new for companionship, that's hard.

I keep it moving and can be pretty heartless when I'm done with you. I care so much when I'm with you and then it just switches off and I don't when I'm done.

I'm picky and could care less if you like me. I have to like you. I love instant chemistry and I find that I am drawn to intense people like myself. Then the chase begins.

Sag sun

Scorp venus

Libra rising

Cancer moon

Leo mars

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@tcta
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by saggurl88
I'm usually the one ending the relationship so for me it's easy. I move on fairly quickly. Its the whole finding someone new for companionship, that's hard.

I keep it moving and can be pretty heartless when I'm done with you. I care so much when I'm with you and then it just switches off and I don't when I'm done.

I'm picky and could care less if you like me. I have to like you. I love instant chemistry and I find that I am drawn to intense people like myself. Then the chase begins.

Sag sun

Scorp venus

Libra rising

Cancer moon

Leo mars

"I move on fairly quickly. Its the whole finding someone new for companionship, that's hard.

I keep it moving and can be pretty heartless when I'm done with you. I care so much when I'm with you and then it just switches off and I don't when I'm done."

me too unless I have gotten too many feels and 'm the one being left behind - because I wanted more and he left because he wasn't ready for more - daym ... man - it was easier getting a divorce lol

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@coldwateryvirgo
9 Years500+ PostsVirgo

Right before breaking up ... having to come to reality and do it . Once you break up and after it's not so bad.. the decision was made

But before you get to that .. when everything is falling apart , when you're unsure

It's the worst

Sun Virgo

Acs scorp

Moon aqua

Mars cancer

Merc libra

Venus scorp

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@MyStarsShine
9 Years25,000+ Posts

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Just letting go of having the person in my life

I never found it easy to let go of anything, so i have begun to realize that part of myself needed working on. When i noticed a pattern with letting go of all the men i had in my life, i began to see there was something in me that needed healing.

Like you, i have those fixed difficult to let go placements

Sun Scorpio

Moon Taurus

Asc Aries

Venus Scorpio

Mars Taurus

Is there any hope for me in rships....lol.......single for 4 years and still learning

🙂

do you mean going from having someone in your life to not having someone and being alone ? or is it something else - and why do you let go - because they are not right for you ?

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I don't mind being alone at all but i do mind being with the wrong person but it took me a long time in the past to move on....

New woman now 🙂

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@mzmee
20 Years1,000+ Posts

Why is it hard?

Knowing what we shared maybe shared with someone else

I wasn't good enough to be kept

Someone else will get to see their good and bad

The comfort of knowing the person is there after a long tiresome day

Having someone to share my deepest thoughts with

The person that knows the side of me everyone doesn't get to see is no longer around

The person that seen me at my most vulnerable is no longer around to protect me

Even after being hurt I give too many chances but in the end, I have to choose me or the hurt will destroy me from the inside out

Sag sun

Sag moon

Gem rising

Virgo mars

Cap Venus

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@tcta
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by MyStarsShine

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Just letting go of having the person in my life

I never found it easy to let go of anything, so i have begun to realize that part of myself needed working on. When i noticed a pattern with letting go of all the men i had in my life, i began to see there was something in me that needed healing.

Like you, i have those fixed difficult to let go placements

Sun Scorpio

Moon Taurus

Asc Aries

Venus Scorpio

Mars Taurus

Is there any hope for me in rships....lol.......single for 4 years and still learning

🙂

do you mean going from having someone in your life to not having someone and being alone ? or is it something else - and why do you let go - because they are not right for you ?

I don't mind being alone at all but i do mind being with the wrong person but it took me a long time in the past to move on....

New woman now 🙂

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I know what you mean - same here

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@TaurusVenusGirl
10 Years

Posted by Rindaroo
I have trouble letting go. I always stay too long, and give fifty million chances. Until I am getting hurt and realize I need to choose myself since I've been FAR too understanding.

Sag Sun

Aqua moon

Cap Mercury

Cap Venus

Cap Mars

I am surprised you feel this way with an Aqua moon. As they are known to so easily emotionally detach. What in your signs do you think you have trouble letting go?

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@TaurusVenusGirl
10 Years

Yep! All that Taurus as Scorpio will do that to you!

Posted by MyStarsShine
Just letting go of having the person in my life

I never found it easy to let go of anything, so i have begun to realize that part of myself needed working on. When i noticed a pattern with letting go of all the men i had in my life, i began to see there was something in me that needed healing.

Like you, i have those fixed difficult to let go placements

Sun Scorpio

Moon Taurus

Asc Aries

Venus Scorpio

Mars Taurus

Is there any hope for me in rships....lol.......single for 4 years and still learning

🙂

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@nats
16 Years500+ Posts

Find it much harder to let go than breaking up. Letting go of the person, the memories, the comfort, the life built with them and the daily communication.

Takes me a long time to fully let go and I mean a long time. I always have a small window of hope (unless I was completely done and ended it myself). I think for me the hardest part is knowing that I can't just call them up and be like let's hang. I also miss the affection a lot and the not having someone there to share everything with.

Gemini, Libra, Libra, Cancer, Cancer