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What you find cute and adorable now about looking after him and how he doesn’t do all these things for himself will be your bone of contention in the end.
Not really the hole you should be digging for yourself!
Not really the hole you should be digging for yourself!
Posted by sweethearts
What you find cute and adorable now about looking after him and how he doesn’t do all these things for himself will be your bone of contention in the end.
Not really the hole you should be digging for yourself!
I do all of these things for myself right now. If I ever lived with him, there’s no difference. Okay. More laundry. I love cleaning. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Especially after all he does do.
Gross.
You'll Choose you can either be his mommy or his girlfriend. You can't be both.
You'll Choose you can either be his mommy or his girlfriend. You can't be both.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by sweethearts
What you find cute and adorable now about looking after him and how he doesn’t do all these things for himself will be your bone of contention in the end.
Not really the hole you should be digging for yourself!
I do all of these things for myself right now. If I ever lived with him, there’s no difference. Okay. More laundry. I love cleaning. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Especially after all he does do.click to expand
That is the same argument every other woman made in your shoes at the beginning in honeymoon phase. Fast forward 20 years... he leaves his clothes lying around and never puts it in the laundry, won’t put the toilet seat down, doesn’t help with the cleaning, uses the last of the milk, leaves an empty container in the fridge, I’m his wife not his mother blah blah blah
Heard it, seen it, done it.
No no no....you only do things a little at a time. He's gonna take advantage and you're gonna resent him. All that give give give will burn you out quick...and what exactly are you getting in return?
If you must do these things...have him do it with you. It's his shit and he needs to learn to be responsible.
Signed-
The sign of service
If you must do these things...have him do it with you. It's his shit and he needs to learn to be responsible.
Signed-
The sign of service
Posted by LostinmyMind11
No no no....you only do things a little at a time. He's gonna take advantage and you're gonna resent him. All that give give give will burn you out quick...and what exactly are you getting in return?
If you must do these things...have him do it with you. It's his shit and he needs to learn to be responsible.
Signed-
The sign of service
I’m doing it now because I’m not working. When I start working, I will be going to his house a lot less and probably won’t be cleaning much. I don’t clean much when I’m spending time with him. Just when he was at work or mowing when I was there.
Getting in return? A happy boyfriend who is putting in even more effort and time than he has before all of this. He offered to pay me and he cooks for me. He cleans too. He cleans the areas where people go. Kitchen, living room, and half bathroom. He doesn’t clean the rooms only he goes in or the closets and cabinets. His bedroom wasn’t dirty. It just wasn’t organized for example his dresser had a bunch of clothes and random things on top of it. He got upset when I called him a pig and said he’s in survival mode from working 15+ hour days. He shows me his steps. Always around 20,000. He works really hard right now. What’s wrong with helping him??
Posted by sweetheartsPosted by pinkbird03Posted by sweethearts
What you find cute and adorable now about looking after him and how he doesn’t do all these things for himself will be your bone of contention in the end.
Not really the hole you should be digging for yourself!
I do all of these things for myself right now. If I ever lived with him, there’s no difference. Okay. More laundry. I love cleaning. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Especially after all he does do.
That is the same argument every other woman made in your shoes at the beginning in honeymoon phase. Fast forward 20 years... he leaves his clothes lying around and never puts it in the laundry, won’t put the toilet seat down, doesn’t help with the cleaning, uses the last of the milk, leaves an empty container in the fridge, I’m his wife not his mother blah blah blah
Heard it, seen it, done it.click to expand
You act like he doesn’t clean anything. He cleans some things. I’ve been dating him for 3 months and in his house every week and only last week noticed the two dirty rooms (bathroom and laundry) and closet.
Posted by BlueStar
No. I cannot do it. I always clean up after myself but I’ll let it stay dirty rather than be someone’s chore slave.
I would expect someone to be able to do all those things by the time they are my age. Otherwise I consider it a serious flaw.
That said I’m not the neatest*** person so I’m not completely OCD about it.
It puts the fork in the dishwasher.
Posted by Hypnotoad
Cleaning his house is wife material not mothering.
Mum's gonna yell at you and tell you to clean your room lmfao.
Very true. Don’t all wives help clean the house? Don’t all wives shop for their husbands?
I’m dating him with the intent to find a husband. That’s my goal since I’m 31. I’m not dating for fun.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by sweetheartsPosted by pinkbird03Posted by sweethearts
What you find cute and adorable now about looking after him and how he doesn’t do all these things for himself will be your bone of contention in the end.
Not really the hole you should be digging for yourself!
I do all of these things for myself right now. If I ever lived with him, there’s no difference. Okay. More laundry. I love cleaning. I don’t think it’s a big deal. Especially after all he does do.
That is the same argument every other woman made in your shoes at the beginning in honeymoon phase. Fast forward 20 years... he leaves his clothes lying around and never puts it in the laundry, won’t put the toilet seat down, doesn’t help with the cleaning, uses the last of the milk, leaves an empty container in the fridge, I’m his wife not his mother blah blah blah
Heard it, seen it, done it.
You act like he doesn’t clean anything. He cleans some things. I’ve been dating him for 3 months and in his house every week and only last week noticed the two dirty rooms (bathroom and laundry) and closet.click to expand
Honey, you do you.
All I’m saying is, it’s a recurring theme some 20 years later. Men will allow you to mother them, it’s one way to win them over being the domestic housewife.
However, if you accept that role then be happy to have that role forever and don’t complain later when there are children and he still doesn’t do anything to help and the children add on top.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by LostinmyMind11
No no no....you only do things a little at a time. He's gonna take advantage and you're gonna resent him. All that give give give will burn you out quick...and what exactly are you getting in return?
If you must do these things...have him do it with you. It's his shit and he needs to learn to be responsible.
Signed-
The sign of service
I’m doing it now because I’m not working. When I start working, I will be going to his house a lot less and probably won’t be cleaning much. I don’t clean much when I’m spending time with him. Just when he was at work or mowing when I was there.
Getting in return? A happy boyfriend who is putting in even more effort and time than he has before all of this. He offered to pay me and he cooks for me. He cleans too. He cleans the areas where people go. Kitchen, living room, and half bathroom. He doesn’t clean the rooms only he goes in or the closets and cabinets. His bedroom wasn’t dirty. It just wasn’t organized for example his dresser had a bunch of clothes and random things on top of it. He got upset when I called him a pig and said he’s in survival mode from working 15+ hour days. He shows me his steps. Always around 20,000. He works really hard right now. What’s wrong with helping him??click to expand
Nothing wrong with helping here and there...but youre not his mom and he needs to figure out how to work and take care of other shit himself or this will be your dynamic and you will resent him for him. Mark my words.
Posted by HypnotoadPosted by pinkbird03Posted by Hypnotoad
Cleaning his house is wife material not mothering.
Mum's gonna yell at you and tell you to clean your room lmfao.
Very true. Don’t all wives help clean the house? Don’t all wives shop for their husbands?
I’m dating him with the intent to find a husband. That’s my goal since I’m 31. I’m not dating for fun.
Not in 2020 baby, these days it's all "A man should be all this and a woman doesn't have to be anything at all"click to expand
I know. I’m totally not into feminism in that way. I like gender roles. I don’t want to do manly things. I want to do traditional female roles
Posted by BlueStarPosted by HypnotoadPosted by pinkbird03Posted by Hypnotoad
Cleaning his house is wife material not mothering.
Mum's gonna yell at you and tell you to clean your room lmfao.
Very true. Don’t all wives help clean the house? Don’t all wives shop for their husbands?
I’m dating him with the intent to find a husband. That’s my goal since I’m 31. I’m not dating for fun.
Not in 2020 baby, these days it's all "A man should be all this and a woman doesn't have to be anything at all"
Women have always been in charge of this and invisible labor. All we are asking for is shared responsibility.
Realistically if you just clean up after you use something it’s not that hard.
I do 95% of the cooking so I don’t do the dishes. We trade in laundry but my kid does her own.
It’s all about sharing the load.
But I still make the appointments, when the boys lived with us took time off work to handle all 3 kids dr and dentist appointments. I’ve always worked longer hours too. I do a lot of the planning and it gets exhausting.
But men usually don’t even expect to do any of that and they end up just not doing anything.
Which whatever if you don’t want to do it fine but I’m not doing it for you.
Another reason why I was very hesitant about marrying a Korean man is that a lot of their moms will baby them until they are 30 and then they get babies by their wives. It’s a reason a lot of Korean women are not getting married too.
Like just view it as a part of life instead of “helping” a woman with her “responsibility”.click to expand
You are asking. I’m not asking because things are not uneven. Again. I’ve been dating him for 3 months and only this week I noticed a few extra dirty rooms that I don’t use. It’s a one time thing I cleaned his whole house because my ocd wouldn’t allow me to not complete it and I’m not working right now so why not. I’m bored anyways. His house is 4 bed 3.5 bath. Helping someone isn’t a mean thing.
Posted by Arielle83
I’d never date a guy that has a messy place and can’t cook.
Says he has no survival skills.
Not very alpha.
And if I was bored and cleaned up his place, because it was disgusting, I would of taken the $ $
But I’d never be with someone that has 3 bathrooms, but overused them, to out of commission, because too lazy to clean.
You def snooped when he told you not to look.
Even that is looking like a mom.
It sounds like you infantilize men in general. Even when you’d post about superficial stuff or how you offer sex.
Didn’t snoop. He was in the shower and I said something to him from outside, but he couldn’t hear me so I opened the door to be heard and that’s when I saw that room. I’ve walked by it every time but it’s always dark or the door is half shut.
I was doing his laundry which he knew about so that’s when I saw that room.
He has two master closets. His was full and neat btw with all the clothes on hangers so I decided to put his suitcase in the other one and that’s where I saw a mountain of clothes on the floor.
The 2 extra bedrooms are never used. Nothing is in there except beds and one is a workout room.
So no. Not snooping 3 months later. I honestly thought he was hiding an ex gfs things or money when he said not to look around. So I never did.
The rest of the house has always been decent. That’s why I never suspected he had any cleaning issues. Plus he’s always cleaning his boat throughly. So I never questioned this.
Posted by BlueStarPosted by pinkbird03Posted by BlueStarPosted by HypnotoadPosted by pinkbird03Posted by Hypnotoad
Cleaning his house is wife material not mothering.
Mum's gonna yell at you and tell you to clean your room lmfao.
Very true. Don’t all wives help clean the house? Don’t all wives shop for their husbands?
I’m dating him with the intent to find a husband. That’s my goal since I’m 31. I’m not dating for fun.
Not in 2020 baby, these days it's all "A man should be all this and a woman doesn't have to be anything at all"
Women have always been in charge of this and invisible labor. All we are asking for is shared responsibility.
Realistically if you just clean up after you use something it’s not that hard.
I do 95% of the cooking so I don’t do the dishes. We trade in laundry but my kid does her own.
It’s all about sharing the load.
But I still make the appointments, when the boys lived with us took time off work to handle all 3 kids dr and dentist appointments. I’ve always worked longer hours too. I do a lot of the planning and it gets exhausting.
But men usually don’t even expect to do any of that and they end up just not doing anything.
Which whatever if you don’t want to do it fine but I’m not doing it for you.
Another reason why I was very hesitant about marrying a Korean man is that a lot of their moms will baby them until they are 30 and then they get babies by their wives. It’s a reason a lot of Korean women are not getting married too.
Like just view it as a part of life instead of “helping” a woman with her “responsibility”.
You are asking. I’m not asking because things are not uneven. Again. I’ve been dating him for 3 months and only this week I noticed a few extra dirty rooms that I don’t use. It’s a one time thing I cleaned his whole house because my ocd wouldn’t allow me to not complete it and I’m not working right now so why not. I’m bored anyways. His house is 4 bed 3.5 bath. Helping someone isn’t a mean thing.
Can he afford a cleaning service?click to expand
Yes but he won’t hire a stranger to come into his house when he’s not home. And he’s never home. A representative from the census came to his house Monday and her first comment was I can’t believe you are here I came at least 10 times.
Posted by HypnotoadPosted by BlueStarPosted by HypnotoadPosted by pinkbird03Posted by Hypnotoad
Cleaning his house is wife material not mothering.
Mum's gonna yell at you and tell you to clean your room lmfao.
Very true. Don’t all wives help clean the house? Don’t all wives shop for their husbands?
I’m dating him with the intent to find a husband. That’s my goal since I’m 31. I’m not dating for fun.
Not in 2020 baby, these days it's all "A man should be all this and a woman doesn't have to be anything at all"
Women have always been in charge of this and invisible labor. All we are asking for is shared responsibility.
Realistically if you just clean up after you use something it’s not that hard.
I do 95% of the cooking so I don’t do the dishes. We trade in laundry but my kid does her own.
It’s all about sharing the load.
But I still make the appointments, when the boys lived with us took time off work to handle all 3 kids dr and dentist appointments. I’ve always worked longer hours too. I do a lot of the planning and it gets exhausting.
But men usually don’t even expect to do any of that and they end up just not doing anything.
Which whatever if you don’t want to do it fine but I’m not doing it for you.
Another reason why I was very hesitant about marrying a Korean man is that a lot of their moms will baby them until they are 30 and then they get babies by their wives. It’s a reason a lot of Korean women are not getting married too.
Like just view it as a part of life instead of “helping” a woman with her “responsibility”.
Sounds like a headache, I don't want anyone to do anything for me at all I love being completely self sufficient. I feel like anyone doing anything for me is a form of control tbh, or something they can hold over me. I been manipulated like that before, or at least I felt like I was being manipulated.
Otherwise it just makes me feel like shit that I can't do it myself or be on top of things...I have ADHD so I literally am never on top of my game in that department because all my energy and effort is going towards work and I've nothing left, but I do my best and that gives me a sense of responsibility for myself. There's probably some Jordan Peterson video that is relevant here but I cbf trying to find it.click to expand
He has ADHD too. Interesting. I understand where you’re coming from and if you were my boyfriend then I’d understand that and not do these things for you. The difference is he does appreciate it. It’s not something I will do often. Definitely not to that extent again. So I feel good I made him happy
Posted by Arielle83Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Arielle83
I’d never date a guy that has a messy place and can’t cook.
Says he has no survival skills.
Not very alpha.
And if I was bored and cleaned up his place, because it was disgusting, I would of taken the $ $
But I’d never be with someone that has 3 bathrooms, but overused them, to out of commission, because too lazy to clean.
You def snooped when he told you not to look.
Even that is looking like a mom.
It sounds like you infantilize men in general. Even when you’d post about superficial stuff or how you offer sex.
Didn’t snoop. He was in the shower and I said something to him from outside, but he couldn’t hear me so I opened the door to be heard and that’s when I saw that room. I’ve walked by it every time but it’s always dark or the door is half shut.
I was doing his laundry which he knew about so that’s when I saw that room.
He has two master closets. His was full and neat btw with all the clothes on hangers so I decided to put his suitcase in the other one and that’s where I saw a mountain of clothes on the floor.
The 2 extra bedrooms are never used. Nothing is in there except beds and one is a workout room.
So no. Not snooping 3 months later. I honestly thought he was hiding an ex gfs things or money when he said not to look around. So I never did.
The rest of the house has always been decent. That’s why I never suspected he had any cleaning issues. Plus he’s always cleaning his boat throughly. So I never questioned this.
You like his things, so you’re cleaning them because you’re trying to nest in his place.click to expand
Eh his house is okay. I wouldn’t move in unless we dated for a year. It’s only been 3 months and I don’t leave any personal belongings there. I did it because I can’t let him live that way - mainly the bathroom because that room was a health hazard. Then I got carried away. Again I’m not working. Ask my friends I’ve been very bored and nothing to do. I’ve also cleaned my brothers house for him the beginning of July.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Arielle83Posted by pinkbird03Posted by Arielle83
I’d never date a guy that has a messy place and can’t cook.
Says he has no survival skills.
Not very alpha.
And if I was bored and cleaned up his place, because it was disgusting, I would of taken the $ $
But I’d never be with someone that has 3 bathrooms, but overused them, to out of commission, because too lazy to clean.
You def snooped when he told you not to look.
Even that is looking like a mom.
It sounds like you infantilize men in general. Even when you’d post about superficial stuff or how you offer sex.
Didn’t snoop. He was in the shower and I said something to him from outside, but he couldn’t hear me so I opened the door to be heard and that’s when I saw that room. I’ve walked by it every time but it’s always dark or the door is half shut.
I was doing his laundry which he knew about so that’s when I saw that room.
He has two master closets. His was full and neat btw with all the clothes on hangers so I decided to put his suitcase in the other one and that’s where I saw a mountain of clothes on the floor.
The 2 extra bedrooms are never used. Nothing is in there except beds and one is a workout room.
So no. Not snooping 3 months later. I honestly thought he was hiding an ex gfs things or money when he said not to look around. So I never did.
The rest of the house has always been decent. That’s why I never suspected he had any cleaning issues. Plus he’s always cleaning his boat throughly. So I never questioned this.
You like his things, so you’re cleaning them because you’re trying to nest in his place.
Eh his house is okay. I wouldn’t move in unless we dated for a year. It’s only been 3 months and I don’t leave any personal belongings there. I did it because I can’t let him live that way - mainly the bathroom because that room was a health hazard. Then I got carried away. Again I’m not working. Ask my friends I’ve been very bored and nothing to do. I’ve also cleaned my brothers house for him the beginning of July.
You still find it ideal.click to expand
Mostly, except I don’t like the showers........
One shower is used by his dad who comes up once every other week for work and stays with my bf for a day or two. So I won’t use that one. My bfs shower needs fixing - tiles are coming off, still needs special lightbulbs so dark in there, and the tub still doesn’t look great even though I scrubbed it. Think it needs bleach?? My bf only took a shower in the master bath once and said it was freezing.... there’s no door on this room, high ceilings, tile on shower floor.
And the garage is filled with stuff that needs to be in there. So shoveling my car in the winter sounds awful. I have a car port in my apartment complex right now.
Posted by MissKrabs
Once I had a messy bf years ago and I did help him couple of times, but when I saw it all went back like it was I gave up.
But I see a picture in my mind of that bathroom, and his fabulous solution, what stinks just lock it lol, and that wardrobe that stinks, ewwww. And working 15h + is inhumane.
Lol fabulous solution. He really did have me fooled for 3 months 😂
Posted by MissKrabsPosted by pinkbird03Posted by MissKrabs
Once I had a messy bf years ago and I did help him couple of times, but when I saw it all went back like it was I gave up.
But I see a picture in my mind of that bathroom, and his fabulous solution, what stinks just lock it lol, and that wardrobe that stinks, ewwww. And working 15h + is inhumane.
Lol fabulous solution. He really did have me fooled for 3 months 😂
he didn't stink? LOL
you do you.click to expand
His hair stunk so that’s why I bought him shampoo. He also had long covid hair at that time. He always wore clean clothes. He kept doing one load of laundry a week and wore the same clothes over and over again.
This momming thing felt like my purpose - the feeling that he needed someone to not only care about him, but show him what caring looks like.
But now.... it’s at a different level. His mom has ovarian cancer and we find out if it spread to her stomach on Monday.
But now.... it’s at a different level. His mom has ovarian cancer and we find out if it spread to her stomach on Monday.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by pinkbird03Posted by PeakSoy
Women do this?
Lmao 😂
Yep.
Lmao...I am doing this all the time and I’ve done this with my ex Cap because he wasn’t able to do anything nor he wanted to. When his father visited he always gave him hard time for not doing shit around the house...I didn’t mind a lot...
Our Libra child is dating now and she had vacationed with her father and his wife and she told me that daddy is such a high maintenance and she isn’t spending her life serving man like your mom’...
With Aries...well...he was doing just fine in his own keeping every household chore done mainly because due to a custody battle - child services were checking and he was a good housekeeper.
Then...I’ve entered his life and of course...from being ‘nobody ever made coffee for me’ he became ‘are you walking the dog’?..😂😂😂
When I am here with them - I am totally in control of everything that i am considering ‘women territory’...
And I get shit from women who are believing in men need to take care of themselves...but they can talk their heads off!
I am enjoying doing what I am doing because that’s how I was brought up.
My Moms Moro was - if you want man to rush home after work - make home his safe heaven!
Don’t nag. Make dinner and let him rest.
If he doesn’t like house chores - he needs to make money for you to hire professionals who can put up shelf or fix the faucet etc.
And my father always came home with flowers!
Honey! You can’t be good for everybody. I expect more women will shit on you because of feminism and equality! My ass! Those are the women who are bitching because they can’t FIND a man who will appreciate them because they don’t show men that they care!
Woman is creator of cozy home. Men are providers. If woman bitching that she is working hard and need him to do half - he will find his safe harbor elsewhere because let’s face it - men love peace! And food. And sex. That’s about it!
So as a woman - work less. Be a woman more!
And before you start showing your feminist side - show your feminine side!
And again - most women here bitching about ban men! Most men bitching about shortage or women who care...I am sure we won’t do this. Because out men are happy! ❤️👍
Yes, and I think that’s very important. To contribute to a man’s happiness rather than being me, me, me! I once had a guy question what do you bring to the table? But it’s really not until now that I’m discovering what I do have to offer other than a decent job and sex. I’m also at that age where it’s not about dating, it’s about building a future to see if marriage and kids are a possibility. I like ur moms motto. Home life is very important and I don’t want him to feel stressed when he gets home. I haven’t cooked for him yet though mainly because I’m not there on his workdays. He gets home too late and works very early.click to expand
So are you saying that a,woman should provide a home for a man and a cosy home life etc?
Posted by WarAngelPosted by pinkbird03
This momming thing felt like my purpose - the feeling that he needed someone to not only care about him, but show him what caring looks like.
But now.... it’s at a different level. His mom has ovarian cancer and we find out if it spread to her stomach on Monday.
I get it, you're nesting like a motherfucker. Just be careful you don't let it go too far. I'm built the same way - it took me 5+ years to snap out of that delusional state.
It's never going to be 50/50 all the time, but that's what you should strive for.click to expand
Chill. I haven’t cleaned his house or do any chores since this forum began. He’s been doing his own laundry.
Posted by pooface222Posted by pinkbird03Posted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by pinkbird03Posted by PeakSoy
Women do this?
Lmao 😂
Yep.
Lmao...I am doing this all the time and I’ve done this with my ex Cap because he wasn’t able to do anything nor he wanted to. When his father visited he always gave him hard time for not doing shit around the house...I didn’t mind a lot...
Our Libra child is dating now and she had vacationed with her father and his wife and she told me that daddy is such a high maintenance and she isn’t spending her life serving man like your mom’...
With Aries...well...he was doing just fine in his own keeping every household chore done mainly because due to a custody battle - child services were checking and he was a good housekeeper.
Then...I’ve entered his life and of course...from being ‘nobody ever made coffee for me’ he became ‘are you walking the dog’?..😂😂😂
When I am here with them - I am totally in control of everything that i am considering ‘women territory’...
And I get shit from women who are believing in men need to take care of themselves...but they can talk their heads off!
I am enjoying doing what I am doing because that’s how I was brought up.
My Moms Moro was - if you want man to rush home after work - make home his safe heaven!
Don’t nag. Make dinner and let him rest.
If he doesn’t like house chores - he needs to make money for you to hire professionals who can put up shelf or fix the faucet etc.
And my father always came home with flowers!
Honey! You can’t be good for everybody. I expect more women will shit on you because of feminism and equality! My ass! Those are the women who are bitching because they can’t FIND a man who will appreciate them because they don’t show men that they care!
Woman is creator of cozy home. Men are providers. If woman bitching that she is working hard and need him to do half - he will find his safe harbor elsewhere because let’s face it - men love peace! And food. And sex. That’s about it!
So as a woman - work less. Be a woman more!
And before you start showing your feminist side - show your feminine side!
And again - most women here bitching about ban men! Most men bitching about shortage or women who care...I am sure we won’t do this. Because out men are happy! ❤️👍
Yes, and I think that’s very important. To contribute to a man’s happiness rather than being me, me, me! I once had a guy question what do you bring to the table? But it’s really not until now that I’m discovering what I do have to offer other than a decent job and sex. I’m also at that age where it’s not about dating, it’s about building a future to see if marriage and kids are a possibility. I like ur moms motto. Home life is very important and I don’t want him to feel stressed when he gets home. I haven’t cooked for him yet though mainly because I’m not there on his workdays. He gets home too late and works very early.
So are you saying that a,woman should provide a home for a man and a cosy home life etc?click to expand
Not be the sole provider. But to look after him in ways he does not because some men don’t look after theirselves. My mom shops for clothes for my dad. Never see him doing it. Not only this. But to love, support, and be the rock that’s there no matter how rocky the waters get.
My bf doesn’t have a lot of family and he’s not close to the ones he does have. He’s not even close with his parents. He talks to his mom daily but the conversations aren’t too warm. His behavior towards them isn’t always nice but I see it as him seeking their attention. Especially his mothers. I see a man who acts tough on the outside but is very sensitive on the inside. I don’t think many people know about his sensitive side.
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
Who wants a manchild?
Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
but at what cost are those muscles.......
leave you feeling like a mom? i guess it depends on how much it bothers you.
you should make an ultimatum if it bothers you that much. and then demand he clean up after you to make up for all the crap you had to take.
leave you feeling like a mom? i guess it depends on how much it bothers you.
you should make an ultimatum if it bothers you that much. and then demand he clean up after you to make up for all the crap you had to take.
Posted by twinkletoes
but at what cost are those muscles.......
leave you feeling like a mom? i guess it depends on how much it bothers you.
you should make an ultimatum if it bothers you that much. and then demand he clean up after you to make up for all the crap you had to take.
Doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t clean often. Haven’t in 3 weeks.
I think you’re reading the old messages. My newest one is where I’m struggling. His mom has cancer. That breaks my heart.
FYI everyone
I left my wet swimsuit on his boat. He took it home and hand washed it for me.... He said he didn’t want to ruin a $ 100 swimsuit 😂😂 I wouldn’t even have done that - washing machine would have been fine. I never asked him to do anything with it. So he’s thoughtful when he gets the opportunity to be.
I left my wet swimsuit on his boat. He took it home and hand washed it for me.... He said he didn’t want to ruin a $ 100 swimsuit 😂😂 I wouldn’t even have done that - washing machine would have been fine. I never asked him to do anything with it. So he’s thoughtful when he gets the opportunity to be.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.click to expand
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foods
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foodsclick to expand
Sounds more like a generational thing.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foodsclick to expand
Is it that he can’t cook or doesn’t care enough to bother with it?
My dad could wear the same shirt all week and not care. My bf wore socks with holes in it and didn’t care.
Maybe myself and other women care too much about some things.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foods
Is it that he can’t cook or doesn’t care enough to bother with it?
My dad could wear the same shirt all week and not care. My bf wore socks with holes in it and didn’t care.
Maybe myself and other women care too much about some things.click to expand
Couldn’t....he was never allowed to learn or bothered to learn
He was meticulous with hygiëne, the way he dressed actually ...
Posted by IsoldePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foods
Sounds more like a generational thing.click to expand
Hopefully
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by IsoldePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foods
Sounds more like a generational thing.
Hopefullyclick to expand
Really think it is, since gen x there’s been a shift. It’s not equal for sure but at least in the western world there’s some progress in the right direction.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foods
Is it that he can’t cook or doesn’t care enough to bother with it?
My dad could wear the same shirt all week and not care. My bf wore socks with holes in it and didn’t care.
Maybe myself and other women care too much about some things.
Couldn’t....he was never allowed to learn or bothered to learn
He was meticulous with hygiëne, the way he dressed actually ...click to expand
That seems a bit strict.
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foods
Is it that he can’t cook or doesn’t care enough to bother with it?
My dad could wear the same shirt all week and not care. My bf wore socks with holes in it and didn’t care.
Maybe myself and other women care too much about some things.
Couldn’t....he was never allowed to learn or bothered to learn
He was meticulous with hygiëne, the way he dressed actually ...
That seems a bit strict.click to expand
I didn’t see him complaining lol
Aries man that liked women fussing over him
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foods
Is it that he can’t cook or doesn’t care enough to bother with it?
My dad could wear the same shirt all week and not care. My bf wore socks with holes in it and didn’t care.
Maybe myself and other women care too much about some things.
Couldn’t....he was never allowed to learn or bothered to learn
He was meticulous with hygiëne, the way he dressed actually ...
That seems a bit strict.
I didn’t see him complaining lol
Aries man that liked women fussing over himclick to expand
Lol funny. My dad and bf are aries. Must be a thing haha
Posted by MaraiPosted by pinkbird03
FYI everyone
I left my wet swimsuit on his boat. He took it home and hand washed it for me.... He said he didn’t want to ruin a $ 100 swimsuit 😂😂 I wouldn’t even have done that - washing machine would have been fine. I never asked him to do anything with it. So he’s thoughtful when he gets the opportunity to be.
Damn, forget the ring. That's commitment 😂click to expand
Lol I know. I was surprised by that one!!
Posted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pinkbird03Posted by MyStarsShine
Men that don't look after themselves.....I blame the mother for not teaching them the basics...
Who wants a manchild?
He looks after himself. He owns one business, a second seasonal business, and has been in the process of starting another business that got Covid got in the way of. He’s tired after work, but still works out and has more muscles and abs than any other guy I know. Can’t hate on him for not wanting to clean 24/7. I’m lazy after work and I have 1 job.
So no I don’t think he’s a manchild.
I wasn’t referring to him but my dad, your dad and other men who are treated like babies by their wives.
Its actually quite cruel ... after my mother passed, my father was unable to cook so lived on tinned foods
Is it that he can’t cook or doesn’t care enough to bother with it?
My dad could wear the same shirt all week and not care. My bf wore socks with holes in it and didn’t care.
Maybe myself and other women care too much about some things.
Couldn’t....he was never allowed to learn or bothered to learn
He was meticulous with hygiëne, the way he dressed actually ...
That seems a bit strict.
I didn’t see him complaining lol
Aries man that liked women fussing over him
Lol funny. My dad and bf are aries. Must be a thing hahaclick to expand
Oh, it's a thing alright 😀👦
Posted by pinkbird03
FYI everyone
I left my wet swimsuit on his boat. He took it home and hand washed it for me.... He said he didn’t want to ruin a $ 100 swimsuit 😂😂 I wouldn’t even have done that - washing machine would have been fine. I never asked him to do anything with it. So he’s thoughtful when he gets the opportunity to be.
😱😱😱 what are you doing woman!! Hand rinse only. Never ever ever EVER throw in the washer machine. Sacrilegious.
Hang dry.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by pinkbird03
FYI everyone
I left my wet swimsuit on his boat. He took it home and hand washed it for me.... He said he didn’t want to ruin a $ 100 swimsuit 😂😂 I wouldn’t even have done that - washing machine would have been fine. I never asked him to do anything with it. So he’s thoughtful when he gets the opportunity to be.
😱😱😱 what are you doing woman!! Hand rinse only. Never ever ever EVER throw in the washer machine. Sacrilegious.
Hang dry.click to expand
Lol ok 👌 will do from now on!!
Posted by PeakSoyPosted by ibreatheoxyginPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by ibreatheoxyginPosted by GemiAwesomeAssPosted by ibreatheoxygin
you are a fucking maid baby
So what?
Describe you. 🤔
you send me some pics first then well talk
That’s stupid. I said describe your happy single status...not your hip size...
and i asked you to get naked
Ah man 28 days ago people were asking gemitati to get naked
Bet you wouldn’t be asking that of her today chief 😅click to expand
Why what happened?
Update: ever since I cleaned his house, he’s actually been keeping it up!! He told me he cleans for about 15 minutes a night and said it was the least he could do after I worked so hard on it. 🙂
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