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Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

That is a common belief among people that are okay with settling. I believe it is possible to have a relationship that is firing on all cylinders. The key is to know that it's worth waiting for, and not placing any obstacles in your path that may keep you from seeing it when it does come along.

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Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

Thats impossible.

Ok statistically improbable to find someone who is balanced in all those levels, let alone all those levels in alignment with yours.

But idk, it seems like a perfect partner is what you are asking.

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No, not perfect, I don't want perfect

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Posted by AllegoryAddict
That is a common belief among people that are okay with settling. I believe it is possible to have a relationship that is firing on all cylinders. The key is to know that it's worth waiting for, and not placing any obstacles in your path that may keep you from seeing it when it does come along.

Are you a capicorn?

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I am.

Posted by AllegoryAddict
That is a common belief among people that are okay with settling. I believe it is possible to have a relationship that is firing on all cylinders. The key is to know that it's worth waiting for, and not placing any obstacles in your path that may keep you from seeing it when it does come along.

yea, settling equals giving up in my mind, I just can't do that.. it's practically impossible for me to do that lol

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Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

it's extremely unlikely that you will find your 100% match/ideal.

but you will find someone that you want to compromise with and accept for who they are, simply because you love them.

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I have found that, ppl that I was able to compromise with & accepted them for who they were & still love them .. it didn't work out .. they didn't have all those things I stated .. that's why I feel the way I do or at least part of the reason

It's true you probably can't, but only bc people change who they are from one period in their lives to the next. I suppose at some point you'd be synced, but that will most likely change overtime.

Just get a cat or dog, you will be happier.

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It's true you probably can't, but only bc people change who they are from one period in their lives to the next. I suppose at some point you'd be synced, but that will most likely change overtime.

Yea of course, ppl do change through different periods In their life .. I feel if we both have an understanding on all these things we can get through it

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Just get a cat or dog, you will be happier.

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My dog passed away a few months ago, I'm still not ready

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Posted by justagirl
Just get a cat or dog, you will be happier.

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My dog passed away a few months ago, I'm still not ready

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🤗 sorry to hear that.

I was just trying to be funny and had no idea....

As for your op, EXO said it best imo, it's about compromise, any healthy relationship is.

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Posted by justagirl
Just get a cat or dog, you will be happier.

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My dog passed away a few months ago, I'm still not ready

🤗 sorry to hear that.

I was just trying to be funny and had no idea....

As for your op, EXO said it best imo, it's about compromise, any healthy relationship is.

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It's ok , yes I love compromising.. I do it a lot .. but how do I compromise with someone that is terrible in bed or doesn't understand me emotionally or is always agreeing with me ?

Posted by tiziani
I think it's impossible to feel for sure whether I have since it takes time.

Even when it does happen, it's unusual enough of a feeling that you end up imbalancing each other sometimes, for a small moment.

Yes I can see that happening

Posted by drunkghost
i think it's possible you just gotta be patient and wait for the right opportunity but you also have to be exuding balance in all that you seek

like you can't be low on physical, emotional, spiritual, and intellectual levels and seek high vibes off someone else

Yes agreed

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Posted by justagirl
Just get a cat or dog, you will be happier.

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My dog passed away a few months ago, I'm still not ready

🤗 sorry to hear that.

I was just trying to be funny and had no idea....

As for your op, EXO said it best imo, it's about compromise, any healthy relationship is.

It's ok , yes I love compromising.. I do it a lot .. but how do I compromise with someone that is terrible in bed or doesn't understand me emotionally or is always agreeing with me ?

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The sex, teach him what you like. The understanding you emotionally is a tough one, sometimes no matter how much you try, you will not be on the same page, but maybe you can find middle ground, without sacrificing who either of you are. "Yes people" drive me crazy, have no advise there.

Posted by Katana
Yes I think it's possible to experience that type of connection with someone for a certain period of time but eventually it'll fade. Time changes things, people change.

Most of the time though I think it's inevitable to have to compromise and adjust our perspectives when it comes to what/who fulfills us romantically at different points in our lives as our preferences change and we change as individuals.

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Lots of good points made in this thread.

I'd like to know more about having a spiritual connection with a partner- what that means to different people.

I think all this is possible and I've met women like this, but you're also asking them to be single too?

That's the hardest part, because people that good don't stay single for long.

Posted by AllegoryAddict
That is a common belief among people that are okay with settling. I believe it is possible to have a relationship that is firing on all cylinders. The key is to know that it's worth waiting for, and not placing any obstacles in your path that may keep you from seeing it when it does come along.

This^.

Knowing how to attract the right person can be a challenge for many people. A lot of people settle because they are too afraid of being alone. Then there are people are far too picky and haven't figured out the difference between having high standards and being totally unrealistic. Just know that finding the right person takes time and patience.

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Posted by CopperDove
Lots of good points made in this thread.

I'd like to know more about having a spiritual connection with a partner- what that means to different people.

It's a good question and one I get caught out on because I haven't given enough thought to it.

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That's what I realized too.

Some people say that they have a sense that their relationship is fated -- so it isn't just chance or free will that lead to meeting their partner -- but I know that there must be many other ideas of what spiritual connection means.

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Posted by justagirl
Just get a cat or dog, you will be happier.

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My dog passed away a few months ago, I'm still not ready

🤗 sorry to hear that.

I was just trying to be funny and had no idea....

As for your op, EXO said it best imo, it's about compromise, any healthy relationship is.

It's ok , yes I love compromising.. I do it a lot .. but how do I compromise with someone that is terrible in bed or doesn't understand me emotionally or is always agreeing with me ?

The sex, teach him what you like. The understanding you emotionally is a tough one, sometimes no matter how much you try, you will not be on the same page, but maybe you can find middle ground, without sacrificing who either of you are. "Yes people" drive me crazy, have no advise there.

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Yes ppl drive me insane lol

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Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

I think every single person on this planet is capable of loving and nurturing those around them in all these aspects. Its not a matter of compatibility its a matter of choice.

What one person lacks can always be brought out by another which creates balance.

The real question is are we really holding to our true and best nurturing nature?

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Yea you're right, are we holding to our true nature ? It's a question many ppl should ask themselves

Posted by CopperDove
Lots of good points made in this thread.

I'd like to know more about having a spiritual connection with a partner- what that means to different people.

I'd like to know as well , I've only found this type of connection through platonic relationships

Posted by AriesJo
I think all this is possible and I've met women like this, but you're also asking them to be single too?

That's the hardest part, because people that good don't stay single for long.

Yes of course, they have to be single

Posted by Chuckcem
Knowing how to attract the right person can be a challenge for many people. A lot of people settle because they are too afraid of being alone. Then there are people are far too picky and haven't figured out the difference between having high standards and being totally unrealistic. Just know that finding the right person takes time and patience.

Completely agree.. I was never afraid of being alone.. I don't consider myself to be picky at all, I just like what I like

Posted by SofiaV87
Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

Can you give a little on one of these? Like rank them or something?

I often have to give on intellectual... with wisdom and good judgement. Because, I am intellectual yet, naive.

People have had to give a little when it comes to the "emotional" with me. But, they like the irritation a bit... me being a woman. Guys would scream and kiss me.

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Posted by SofiaV87
Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

Can you give a little on one of these? Like rank them or something?

I often have to give on intellectual... with wisdom and good judgement. Because, I am intellectual yet, naive.

People have had to give a little when it comes to the "emotional" with me. But, they like the irritation a bit... me being a woman. Guys would scream and kiss me.

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No particular rank , I would see it & feel it as I was getting to know the person .. I'm thinking it would all just blend lol

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Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

Can you give a little on one of these? Like rank them or something?

I often have to give on intellectual... with wisdom and good judgement. Because, I am intellectual yet, naive.

People have had to give a little when it comes to the "emotional" with me. But, they like the irritation a bit... me being a woman. Guys would scream and kiss me.

No particular rank , I would see it & feel it as I was getting to know the person .. I'm thinking it would all just blend lol

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Well, I guess "balanced" means different things to different people.

For me, it's a man that excels in the areas I may be weak - someone in the guardshack, watchtower. I loved when they take time to know my weaknesses and set on watching over me... but, at a distance...

What does "balanced" mean to you?

Physical is practically not on my radar.

Posted by Ellygant
For me, it's not about finding someone who meets a standard of qualifications. It's meeting someone who makes that concept totally invalid. Someone who has an independent energy that when combined with my own creates something on its own, both within the relationship and ourselves individually.

And someone who sees me honestly enough that they'd consider surrendering other options for a lifetime, just for a chance to change, grow and create a legacy with me specifically.

The couples who's marriages I envy most repeatedly say their spouse is not what they envisioned for themselves nor the complete wishlist, but more. They describe the relationship bringing benefits and challenges to the table they couldn't even conceive of on their own. That's what I hope to be lucky enough to find.

Yeah, my husband is all fantasy. Not practical at all. But, I knew it when I was fantasizing.

I had so many roads in life to choose from, I couldn't expect someone to fit them all before I even decided. So, got a mutable man that will rock n' roll with me as I keep shape shifting.

I was just thinking about this today, how much he just rolls with me and is down for whatever.

I had to give myself one test to help me make up my mind about any man... "can I be homeless with this ninja?"

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Posted by CopperDove
Lots of good points made in this thread.

I'd like to know more about having a spiritual connection with a partner- what that means to different people.

I'd like to know as well , I've only found this type of connection through platonic relationships

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How would you describe your experience of a spiritual connection in platonic relationships -- what has it been like, and how did you identify it as spiritual vs other kinds of connections?

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Posted by Chuckcem
Knowing how to attract the right person can be a challenge for many people. A lot of people settle because they are too afraid of being alone. Then there are people are far too picky and haven't figured out the difference between having high standards and being totally unrealistic. Just know that finding the right person takes time and patience.

Completely agree.. I was never afraid of being alone.. I don't consider myself to be picky at all, I just like what I like

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Right, I'm the same. I actually have friends who have found that right person for them. For them it's a perfect match physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc. So knowing people who have achieved such success in love makes it REALLY difficultr for me to settle for anything less.

Just keep bettering yourself and putting yourself out there.

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Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

Can you give a little on one of these? Like rank them or something?

I often have to give on intellectual... with wisdom and good judgement. Because, I am intellectual yet, naive.

People have had to give a little when it comes to the "emotional" with me. But, they like the irritation a bit... me being a woman. Guys would scream and kiss me.

No particular rank , I would see it & feel it as I was getting to know the person .. I'm thinking it would all just blend lol

Well, I guess "balanced" means different things to different people.

For me, it's a man that excels in the areas I may be weak - someone in the guardshack, watchtower. I loved when they take time to know my weaknesses and set on watching over me... but, at a distance...

What does "balanced" mean to you?

Physical is practically not on my radar.

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Yea, I love how u put that, "watching over me but at a distance" .. that's what I like .. i like it when a man can teach me in a way that isn't domineering.. cuz trying to intimidate me is never going to work lol when u say physical isn't on your radar, do u mean body type wise ?

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Posted by CopperDove
Lots of good points made in this thread.

I'd like to know more about having a spiritual connection with a partner- what that means to different people.

I'd like to know as well , I've only found this type of connection through platonic relationships

How would you describe your experience of a spiritual connection in platonic relationships -- what has it been like, and how did you identify it as spiritual vs other kinds of connections?

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I've had friends that I know I was supposed to meet in my life, this closeness I felt with them over time, believing in God like I do, their vibes were intertwined with mine, I felt great mutual respect- we go away from each other & come back without having to explain anything

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Posted by Chuckcem
Knowing how to attract the right person can be a challenge for many people. A lot of people settle because they are too afraid of being alone. Then there are people are far too picky and haven't figured out the difference between having high standards and being totally unrealistic. Just know that finding the right person takes time and patience.

Completely agree.. I was never afraid of being alone.. I don't consider myself to be picky at all, I just like what I like

Right, I'm the same. I actually have friends who have found that right person for them. For them it's a perfect match physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc. So knowing people who have achieved such success in love makes it REALLY difficultr for me to settle for anything less.

Just keep bettering yourself and putting yourself out there.

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I have friends that have found it as well. Even if I didn't know anyone personally , I would still believe that this can be found

Posted by Ellygant
For me, it's not about finding someone who meets a standard of qualifications. It's meeting someone who makes that concept totally invalid. Someone who has an independent energy that when combined with my own creates something on its own, both within the relationship and ourselves individually.

And someone who sees me honestly enough that they'd consider surrendering other options for a lifetime, just for a chance to change, grow and create a legacy with me specifically.

The couples who's marriages I envy most repeatedly say their spouse is not what they envisioned for themselves nor the complete wishlist, but more. They describe the relationship bringing benefits and challenges to the table they couldn't even conceive of on their own. That's what I hope to be lucky enough to find.

Yes, this sounds beautiful .. I don't look at it or see someone as a standard of qualifications .. that would be like not looking at them as a person , more like, I know I can give all these things , are they going to give them to me the way i I like it? The way they like it? The way we like it? Together?

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Posted by CopperDove
Lots of good points made in this thread.

I'd like to know more about having a spiritual connection with a partner- what that means to different people.

It's a good question and one I get caught out on because I haven't given enough thought to it.

That's what I realized too.

Some people say that they have a sense that their relationship is fated -- so it isn't just chance or free will that lead to meeting their partner -- but I know that there must be many other ideas of what spiritual connection means.

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Maybe this sounds crazy, but I think spiritual connection can happen with sex. I mean spiritual connection is an ultimate thing(at least in my head)..n sex for me is too sacred and something which happens after getting connected in all the other possible ways. I feel it's a final and ultimate binding force. Not saying other aspects of a relationship aren't important. Of course they are too important coz they help us(or me) reach this point.

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Lots of good points made in this thread.

I'd like to know more about having a spiritual connection with a partner- what that means to different people.

It's a good question and one I get caught out on because I haven't given enough thought to it.

That's what I realized too.

Some people say that they have a sense that their relationship is fated -- so it isn't just chance or free will that lead to meeting their partner -- but I know that there must be many other ideas of what spiritual connection means.

Maybe this sounds crazy, but I think spiritual connection can happen with sex. I mean spiritual connection is an ultimate thing(at least in my head)..n sex for me is too sacred and something which happens after getting connected in all the other possible ways. I feel it's a final and ultimate binding force. Not saying other aspects of a relationship aren't important. Of course they are too important coz they help us(or me) reach this point.

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That doesn't sound crazy to me at all. I think it can happen with sex too. I had a discussion with a Taurus friend of mine, who has mostly earth in his chart, so he's very practical as you'd expect, but also very spiritual and he shared something similar.

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Lots of good points made in this thread.

I'd like to know more about having a spiritual connection with a partner- what that means to different people.

It's a good question and one I get caught out on because I haven't given enough thought to it.

That's what I realized too.

Some people say that they have a sense that their relationship is fated -- so it isn't just chance or free will that lead to meeting their partner -- but I know that there must be many other ideas of what spiritual connection means.

Maybe this sounds crazy, but I think spiritual connection can happen with sex. I mean spiritual connection is an ultimate thing(at least in my head)..n sex for me is too sacred and something which happens after getting connected in all the other possible ways. I feel it's a final and ultimate binding force. Not saying other aspects of a relationship aren't important. Of course they are too important coz they help us(or me) reach this point.

That doesn't sound crazy to me at all. I think it can happen with sex too. I had a discussion with a Taurus friend of mine, who has mostly earth in his chart, so he's very practical as you'd expect, but also very spiritual and he shared something similar.

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That's cool to know I'm not alone ?

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Posted by SofiaV87
Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

Thats impossible.

Ok statistically improbable to find someone who is balanced in all those levels, let alone all those levels in alignment with yours.

But idk, it seems like a perfect partner is what you are asking.

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Exactly! Otherwise, this would be heaven without any problems.

Posted by Tauruswithspunk
If it's possible then why are we in our 20s and 30s and still ain't find that "match" ?

I don't think it's impossible because I feel some people do find them in their lifetime... but everyone won't. So you could be looking for the rest of your life.

You're right, everyone won't find all these things for various reasons. One of them being that they're not open to it , u have to be open to it first .. bring it to u & your life

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Relationships with my friend. She said u can't find a person that will be emotionally, physically, spiritually & intellectually balanced with u, that it's not possible to have all of it. I beg to differ .. what are u guys thoughts on this ?

Thats impossible.

Ok statistically improbable to find someone who is balanced in all those levels, let alone all those levels in alignment with yours.

But idk, it seems like a perfect partner is what you are asking.

Exactly! Otherwise, this would be heaven without any problems.

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If 2 ppl find each other & come together in all these aspects I mentioned, doesn't mean that there won't be any problems.. that would be strange if there wasn't any issues, that's not a real relationship to me

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Posted by Tauruswithspunk
If it's possible then why are we in our 20s and 30s and still ain't find that "match" ?

I don't think it's impossible because I feel some people do find them in their lifetime... but everyone won't. So you could be looking for the rest of your life.

You're right, everyone won't find all these things for various reasons. One of them being that they're not open to it , u have to be open to it first .. bring it to u & your life

More like think positive and you'll attract positive to you type of thing. I feel yah.

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Yes but it's more than thinking positive, way more

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Posted by Tauruswithspunk
If it's possible then why are we in our 20s and 30s and still ain't find that "match" ?

I don't think it's impossible because I feel some people do find them in their lifetime... but everyone won't. So you could be looking for the rest of your life.

You're right, everyone won't find all these things for various reasons. One of them being that they're not open to it , u have to be open to it first .. bring it to u & your life

More like think positive and you'll attract positive to you type of thing. I feel yah.

Yes but it's more than thinking positive, way more

Elaborate on being "open"

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Envision this person u want in your life, take care of yourself, put yourself in the right atmosphere, have your life set up in a way that there is room for this person - things like that

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Spirituality >

Does spirituality exceed everything for u ?

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Posted by xghy
Spirituality >

Does spirituality exceed everything for u ?

Hard to answer because if you ask people to list what they look for, all domains are mentioned except for spirituality. Not everything will be marked on the checklist but the top 3 essentials should be at the very least.

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Yes, more ppl nowadays seem not to care about the spiritually aspect in a relationship.. most of the friends I surround myself with are all spiritual

Relationships are about compatibility...cooperation...communication...compromise...



...they are also about confrontation and consequences...

...no one is perfect... if there is a problem...you confront... ...you communicate...

...then you cuddle... lol

There is a lot more to it but sometimes there isn't...

...some people are just more compatible than others... ...physical connection is the most primal...mental connection is next... ...then you have an emotional connection... ...spiritual connection should be expected in a relationship... ...to be on the same page...to be in unison... ...to open one's mind, body, and soul to someone else ...should expect the same in return...

...if you don't expect this..then you are settling...

Posted by Piscis_Hominis
Relationships are about compatibility...cooperation...communication...compromise...



...they are also about confrontation and consequences...

...no one is perfect... if there is a problem...you confront... ...you communicate...

...then you cuddle... lol

There is a lot more to it but sometimes there isn't...

...some people are just more compatible than others... ...physical connection is the most primal...mental connection is next... ...then you have an emotional connection... ...spiritual connection should be expected in a relationship... ...to be on the same page...to be in unison... ...to open one's mind, body, and soul to someone else ...should expect the same in return...

...if you don't expect this..then you are settling...

Communication is incredibly important for me.. I can't be in any type of relationship with a person if they don't know how to communicate

havent met that person yet so far lol