Ladies Is Not Being A Drinker A Dealbreaker..

In this instance?

6 years ago I was hit head on by a vehicle when walking across the street. I had broken arms, legs and it took me a year and a half to recover from it.

The only thing that didn't heal was an internal injury. When I tried drinking again, one shot of liquor gave me stomach cramps for hours.

I got over it by the next day didnt think nothing of it. Next weekend tried a mixed drink and I was in complete agony within an hour, and was bedridden for the day.

Went to a doctor did some tests and found my stomach endured some trauma where its sensitive to certain liquids, which include alcohol and certain soft drinks like Mountain Dew.

So this has made things awkward ever since with the opposite sex. I've met women in the past who are drink alcohol of some kind be it wine or what not.

Then offer me and I have to decline. I sometimes think women will have this perception that i will judge them for drinking when I could care less.

Or that I'm some boring homebody who wont want to go out. When I have no issue going out if they want to go for a drink or clubbing.

Im just curious to hear your thoughts

No, rather, I find it a turnoff if the guy drinks too much or drinking holds too important a role in his social life. But drinking is not a hobby of mine, so I'm not exactly looking for a drinking buddy (if you don't love eating, though, that might be a problem).

There's nothing unattractive about a guy who doesn't drink, as long as it isn't used as an excuse to never go out, or talk and engage with people. It's more impressive to me if a guy doesn't require alcohol to have a good time.

be proud of who you are and how far you have come in life - drinking or not drinking doesn't determine who you are ... I just started dating a guy who is my age (old lol) and he's never touched the stuff - I am a very light drinker - haven't had a drop in 9 months or so and I'm not even thinking about it - so I could care less ...

Not it's not a deal breaker. I love it if a man don't drink/ or drink much as having been exposed to people with an addiction to alcohol it's not a good sight.

My Fiancé has a stomach complaint so is on heavy tablets for his condition and one of that is he can't have alcohol..I always feel bad because he doesn't drink much to begin with and he loves having a beer at dinner.

The plus side is look how much money you'll be saving?

a coma would have been less trouble

Good question. I LOVE wine. I have a glass or a cold one pretty much everyday. I've had partier boyfriends or just ones that loved lots of booze on weekends and some just a little everyday.

I fell inlove with a non drinker. I sometimes miss sharing a really good bottle of red with someone I love, but honestly, it's not worth the tradeoff. He's healthy and aware. It's worth way more. My friends were SHOCKED me with a non-drinker, but I'm learning to love it.

Outside what I mentioned, he is social and good energy, so a person hardly notices in that regard. So stay up and full of energy and trust me, the ladies won't care. They'll be happy at the end of the night when you're not sloppy, or when you wake up looking fresh and ready to do things. In the end, that's all that matters.

Posted by hydorah
a coma would have been less trouble

sorry, I mean using a comma in the sentence would have made the title clearer

Posted by hydorah

Posted by hydorah
a coma would have been less trouble

sorry, I mean using a comma in the sentence would have made the title clearer

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LOL I'm glad you made that clarification!

Fell in love with my Fiancé because he is nothing like my past.. he rarely drinks and especially now that I'm pregnant he has pretty much stopped drinking at all. He said he doesn't want his daughter to grow up with a Father who drinks.

His Father did not drink and he could always count on him. He wants to be that way for his daughter as well.

I adore when a person does not need to drink a lot or at all in order to have fun in life.

It would only be a deal breaker for someone who is an alcoholic... like someone already said.

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
If not being a drinker is a deal breaker for someone, they are an alcoholic.

This!!! She's an alcoholic. ?

Ummm nope, not a deal breaker at all. In fact its a plus...you can be the DD.

Questions: what do YOU want in your woman? Drinker ok?

Oh no. This is awesome. Perfect DD

I wouldn't complain

You should explain this story though so she understands and doesn't think you're in the 12 step program

Thanks for your replies everyone. First, I don't usually tell a girl about why I dont drink in the beginning, because it implies potential baggage.

It can make what should be a fun outing into something unnecessarily heavy. Example - I went out one time with a girl. Was a second date and we went to grab some food after we had gone paintball shooting with some other peeps.

We were having a good time and were in the process of eating when I declined wine. She asked why so I explained my situation. Her response is "that's intense" and then proceeded to be polite but distant the rest of the date.

And she never contacted me back when I called for a followup. That is why Im guarded on that. I'm thinking now though I'll just say I have a health condition and leave it at that.

I dont care if I'm a girl Im dating is a drinker as long it doesnt veer into alcoholism. Aside from the fact Im not into watching someone destroy themselves, it's plain boring when your after work hours life revolves around alcohol all the time

I'm a spontaneous person not big on routine and like to do new things every weekend. Like one weekend maybe go camping or go dancing, or some sort of physical activity.

Going to the bar every single weekend instead of maybe every couple of weeks is boring to me.

And one last thought, excessive drinking makes people age prematurely. I take care of my appearance and expect someone else to do the same. I'm not into bumping wrinkles.

Now the dealbreaker for me is substance abuse. I dont mind casually dating a pothead but I wont get in a relationship with one. I HATE the smell. If you live in Cali like I do, pot now smells like skunk or to me, an unwiped ass.

I've seen people get too into it and become stupid and completely lazy. Hey if that's someone's jam, godspeed to them. But if they expect me to deal with it full time in a relationship I'm speeding out the door.

And any other drugs are dealbreakers too. I'm not into Real Housewives drama. Relationships can be complicated but they should never qualify to be a reality show.

I don't drink a drop of alcohol. It is not my thing.

I have never had an issue getting a date or not, even though I don't drink.

I enjoy my wine in the evenings. I'm not interested in dating someone in recovery because I would constantly tiptoe around them out of empathy... Been there, done that.

As for someone not drinking because of a medical issue. Whole other story. I'm cool with it as long as I'm not being judged for my 'habits'. I don't consider that as baggage, unlike someone who is a recovering alcoholic.

I prefer guys who don't drink

Again, I want to clarify I'm cool with someone drinking. My only issue is if they are drinking just to get drunk on a daily basis.



It's one thing to deal with the stresses of the day by drinking a couple of beers or glass of wine. But when you are getting shit-faced all the time instead of once every couple of weeks, that is a problem.

I'm in my mid-thirties, so if anyone does their due dilegence, you know your body organs weaken and slow down during that age period.

That is the time you need to be careful about what goes into your body. As you can be more suceptible to diseases and cancers.

Example from this website -http://www.webmd.com/digestive-disorders/digestive-diseases-pancreatitis#1

"Chronic pancreatitis. Chronic pancreatitis is long-lasting inflammation of the pancreas. It most often happens after an episode of acute pancreatitis. Heavy alcohol drinking is another big cause. Damage to the pancreas from heavy alcohol use may not cause symptoms for many years, but then the person may suddenly develop severe pancreatitis symptoms."

And this little tidbit from this website - https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/alcohol-facts/health-effects-of-alcohol/effects-on-the-body/is-alcohol-harming-your-stomach/ -

“In the longer term, alcohol is associated with an increased risk of cancer of the mouth, tongue, lip, throat, stomach, pancreas and colon,” says Dr Moriarty. “Other digestive problems caused by drinking too much include acid reflux – where stomach acid burns your throat. Alcohol can also contribute to developing a peptic ulcer – a painful, open sore in your stomach lining.”

People in their 30's need to be more vigilant in their health. But for some reason people still have that mentality from their 20's they are invincible.

Nothing wrong with drinking but when you do it excessively in your 30's there is a price to pay eventually.

I would rather have a good quality of life myself.