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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?

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Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.
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Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.
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I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...
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When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.
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I don’t understand...
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.


I don’t understand...
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You indicated, and it appears to be true...

... certain energy attracts certain people. Just like our desires and energy we project are likewise met with persons who like our energy. That's what happens sometimes. We continue to meet a certain type of man because those are the type of men that are attracted to us.

But, they are not exactly the same. The Aries isn't impotent. But, if he were, would he make the choices your husband made.

It's time to reflect on what the similarities these men have. I started with birthdays... and, went on from there. That is what got me deeper into astrology... looking for hidden patterns in their charts, synastry, etc.

Obviously, you don't have to go that deep. But, the Scorpio likes your care and concern too... it may also be motherly to him.

See if there is a pattern or similarities with these men.

My ultimate similarity was I attracted Moon square Venus men.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.


I don’t understand...


You indicated, and it appears to be true...

... certain energy attracts certain people. Just like our desires and energy we project are likewise met with persons who like our energy. That's what happens sometimes. We continue to meet a certain type of man because those are the type of men that are attracted to us.

But, they are not exactly the same. The Aries isn't impotent. But, if he were, would he make the choices your husband made.

It's time to reflect on what the similarities these men have. I started with birthdays... and, went on from there. That is what got me deeper into astrology... looking for hidden patterns in their charts, synastry, etc.

Obviously, you don't have to go that deep. But, the Scorpio likes your care and concern too... it may also be motherly to him.

See if there is a pattern or similarities with these men.

My ultimate similarity was I attracted Moon square Venus men.
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I honestly appreciate you trying from the bottom of my heart but I don’t get any of this.

My husband is beta.

Scorpio and Aries are alphas.

My question is am I turning alpha man into beta by being too nice?

I think I should be more of a bitch on wheels and let them be men? But I can’t...I jist have to kiss the ass of the man if I am liking him a lot. Lol
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.


I don’t understand...


You indicated, and it appears to be true...

... certain energy attracts certain people. Just like our desires and energy we project are likewise met with persons who like our energy. That's what happens sometimes. We continue to meet a certain type of man because those are the type of men that are attracted to us.

But, they are not exactly the same. The Aries isn't impotent. But, if he were, would he make the choices your husband made.

It's time to reflect on what the similarities these men have. I started with birthdays... and, went on from there. That is what got me deeper into astrology... looking for hidden patterns in their charts, synastry, etc.

Obviously, you don't have to go that deep. But, the Scorpio likes your care and concern too... it may also be motherly to him.

See if there is a pattern or similarities with these men.

My ultimate similarity was I attracted Moon square Venus men.


I honestly appreciate you trying from the bottom of my heart but I don’t get any of this.

My husband is beta.

Scorpio and Aries are alphas.

My question is am I turning alpha man into beta by being too nice?

I think I should be more of a bitch on wheels and let them be men? But I can’t...I jist have to kiss the ass of the man if I am liking him a lot. Lol
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Was your husband an "alpha" when you met him?"

I love acts of service as a love language and you gave me cause to reflect. The men that delivered needed to feel appreciated so much so I felt... trapped or bought or bribed.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.


I don’t understand...


You indicated, and it appears to be true...

... certain energy attracts certain people. Just like our desires and energy we project are likewise met with persons who like our energy. That's what happens sometimes. We continue to meet a certain type of man because those are the type of men that are attracted to us.

But, they are not exactly the same. The Aries isn't impotent. But, if he were, would he make the choices your husband made.

It's time to reflect on what the similarities these men have. I started with birthdays... and, went on from there. That is what got me deeper into astrology... looking for hidden patterns in their charts, synastry, etc.

Obviously, you don't have to go that deep. But, the Scorpio likes your care and concern too... it may also be motherly to him.

See if there is a pattern or similarities with these men.

My ultimate similarity was I attracted Moon square Venus men.


I honestly appreciate you trying from the bottom of my heart but I don’t get any of this.

My husband is beta.

Scorpio and Aries are alphas.

My question is am I turning alpha man into beta by being too nice?

I think I should be more of a bitch on wheels and let them be men? But I can’t...I jist have to kiss the ass of the man if I am liking him a lot. Lol


Was your husband an "alpha" when you met him?"

I love acts of service as a love language and you gave me cause to reflect. The men that delivered needed to feel appreciated so much so I felt... trapped or bought or bribed.
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My husband was always a momma boy never alpha. And he snatched me for my momissh qualities. Lol

And when I was younger and more energetic I didn’t mind doing all I did.

I am from Europe and if you know European men - they are to be served.

When I’ve met Scorpio and in conversation he mentioned doing his laundry I was like 👀 why— You are married! He was as shocked at my reaction as I was at the fact that man doing laundry!!! Lol

And being in business with a lot of men I was questioning my actions. Why am I not helped around the house?

So I’ve met alphas and I loved that!

And I wanted it. To BE a woman!

Search continuing. But I am afraid I am screwing my alphas masculinity.

Is he going to feel the same if I stopped being this way? Does he like me for me or for my services?

It used to be ‘pretty lady’ and now it’s ‘my good woman’...lol
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.


I don’t understand...


You indicated, and it appears to be true...

... certain energy attracts certain people. Just like our desires and energy we project are likewise met with persons who like our energy. That's what happens sometimes. We continue to meet a certain type of man because those are the type of men that are attracted to us.

But, they are not exactly the same. The Aries isn't impotent. But, if he were, would he make the choices your husband made.

It's time to reflect on what the similarities these men have. I started with birthdays... and, went on from there. That is what got me deeper into astrology... looking for hidden patterns in their charts, synastry, etc.

Obviously, you don't have to go that deep. But, the Scorpio likes your care and concern too... it may also be motherly to him.

See if there is a pattern or similarities with these men.

My ultimate similarity was I attracted Moon square Venus men.


I honestly appreciate you trying from the bottom of my heart but I don’t get any of this.

My husband is beta.

Scorpio and Aries are alphas.

My question is am I turning alpha man into beta by being too nice?

I think I should be more of a bitch on wheels and let them be men? But I can’t...I jist have to kiss the ass of the man if I am liking him a lot. Lol


Was your husband an "alpha" when you met him?"

I love acts of service as a love language and you gave me cause to reflect. The men that delivered needed to feel appreciated so much so I felt... trapped or bought or bribed.


My husband was always a momma boy never alpha. And he snatched me for my momissh qualities. Lol

And when I was younger and more energetic I didn’t mind doing all I did.

I am from Europe and if you know European men - they are to be served.

When I’ve met Scorpio and in conversation he mentioned doing his laundry I was like 👀 why— You are married! He was as shocked at my reaction as I was at the fact that man doing laundry!!! Lol

And being in business with a lot of men I was questioning my actions. Why am I not helped around the house?

So I’ve met alphas and I loved that!

And I wanted it. To BE a woman!

Search continuing. But I am afraid I am screwing my alphas masculinity.

Is he going to feel the same if I stopped being this way? Does he like me for me or for my services?

It used to be ‘pretty lady’ and now it’s ‘my good woman’...lol
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Based on what you just posted, I dont see a pattern. Husband was a "beta" before you met him. Most people are "betas."

So, it seems you've just been triggered.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.


I don’t understand...


You indicated, and it appears to be true...

... certain energy attracts certain people. Just like our desires and energy we project are likewise met with persons who like our energy. That's what happens sometimes. We continue to meet a certain type of man because those are the type of men that are attracted to us.

But, they are not exactly the same. The Aries isn't impotent. But, if he were, would he make the choices your husband made.

It's time to reflect on what the similarities these men have. I started with birthdays... and, went on from there. That is what got me deeper into astrology... looking for hidden patterns in their charts, synastry, etc.

Obviously, you don't have to go that deep. But, the Scorpio likes your care and concern too... it may also be motherly to him.

See if there is a pattern or similarities with these men.

My ultimate similarity was I attracted Moon square Venus men.


I honestly appreciate you trying from the bottom of my heart but I don’t get any of this.

My husband is beta.

Scorpio and Aries are alphas.

My question is am I turning alpha man into beta by being too nice?

I think I should be more of a bitch on wheels and let them be men? But I can’t...I jist have to kiss the ass of the man if I am liking him a lot. Lol


Was your husband an "alpha" when you met him?"

I love acts of service as a love language and you gave me cause to reflect. The men that delivered needed to feel appreciated so much so I felt... trapped or bought or bribed.


My husband was always a momma boy never alpha. And he snatched me for my momissh qualities. Lol

And when I was younger and more energetic I didn’t mind doing all I did.

I am from Europe and if you know European men - they are to be served.

When I’ve met Scorpio and in conversation he mentioned doing his laundry I was like 👀 why— You are married! He was as shocked at my reaction as I was at the fact that man doing laundry!!! Lol

And being in business with a lot of men I was questioning my actions. Why am I not helped around the house?

So I’ve met alphas and I loved that!

And I wanted it. To BE a woman!

Search continuing. But I am afraid I am screwing my alphas masculinity.

Is he going to feel the same if I stopped being this way? Does he like me for me or for my services?

It used to be ‘pretty lady’ and now it’s ‘my good woman’...lol


Based on what you just posted, I dont see a pattern. Husband was a "beta" before you met him. Most people are "betas."

So, it seems you've just been triggered.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.


I don’t understand...


You indicated, and it appears to be true...

... certain energy attracts certain people. Just like our desires and energy we project are likewise met with persons who like our energy. That's what happens sometimes. We continue to meet a certain type of man because those are the type of men that are attracted to us.

But, they are not exactly the same. The Aries isn't impotent. But, if he were, would he make the choices your husband made.

It's time to reflect on what the similarities these men have. I started with birthdays... and, went on from there. That is what got me deeper into astrology... looking for hidden patterns in their charts, synastry, etc.

Obviously, you don't have to go that deep. But, the Scorpio likes your care and concern too... it may also be motherly to him.

See if there is a pattern or similarities with these men.

My ultimate similarity was I attracted Moon square Venus men.


I honestly appreciate you trying from the bottom of my heart but I don’t get any of this.

My husband is beta.

Scorpio and Aries are alphas.

My question is am I turning alpha man into beta by being too nice?

I think I should be more of a bitch on wheels and let them be men? But I can’t...I jist have to kiss the ass of the man if I am liking him a lot. Lol


Was your husband an "alpha" when you met him?"

I love acts of service as a love language and you gave me cause to reflect. The men that delivered needed to feel appreciated so much so I felt... trapped or bought or bribed.


My husband was always a momma boy never alpha. And he snatched me for my momissh qualities. Lol

And when I was younger and more energetic I didn’t mind doing all I did.

I am from Europe and if you know European men - they are to be served.

When I’ve met Scorpio and in conversation he mentioned doing his laundry I was like 👀 why— You are married! He was as shocked at my reaction as I was at the fact that man doing laundry!!! Lol

And being in business with a lot of men I was questioning my actions. Why am I not helped around the house?

So I’ve met alphas and I loved that!

And I wanted it. To BE a woman!

Search continuing. But I am afraid I am screwing my alphas masculinity.

Is he going to feel the same if I stopped being this way? Does he like me for me or for my services?

It used to be ‘pretty lady’ and now it’s ‘my good woman’...lol


Based on what you just posted, I dont see a pattern. Husband was a "beta" before you met him. Most people are "betas."

So, it seems you've just been triggered.


Triggered? By what or whom or how?
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By being called "a good woman," "a safe harbor."

As you said:

"...he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor."

Some women fear this of middle-aged men and older... choosing women as potential caregivers or nursemaids as they are planning for growing old.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


It's an interesting question. I don't know how you can know the answer though. Because i don't know if he could even know the answer himself.
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He knows for sure. He told me he is attracted to me. He knows if he likes me as sexual partner and my mothering him just a nice addition. Or he is enjoying being cared for and that is why he is attracted to me.

I just afraid to ask. But I will. Or maybe I will wait and see for myself.
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


Love to him may involve feeling safe and cared for... acts of service.

The big question is... What is love to you? You need to talk about it.

It seems you don't want a repeat of your current situation, huh?

Most importantly, should what you want out of love be based on rebound emotions? A comparison of previous partners?




Exactly! I don’t want repeating of the current. Noooo...

Seems like I have a ‘gift’ to turn men into something entirely different...

I can’t receive without feeling cheap and a moocher.

He spends money on me - I am feeling like shit. So I’ve bought something and I know he will be trying to give me money back...

So far he is a man.

But he is getting all lovey dovey and mushy and I am confused...

I just don’t want to turn him into a ‘son’...but apparently I am close already.


Are these rebound emotions?

Rebound emotions seem to be residual emotions from previous relationships failures.

They may be valid or they may just be irrational emotions.

Some say this is the very reason to not end and begin relationships back to back. Mind you, I don't necessarily agree. It really depends on the person.


I don’t know how to answer that.

I don’t think I’ve sone rebound...considering my long marriage...I had no chance...

Then Scorpio...and he is still in the picture I am just mad at him and I am not wasting anymore time...BECAUSE of the Aries and how different everything is with him.

I think I’ve derailed here from not wanting to be an Arieses mother...

I guess I started freaking out when he called me ‘my good woman’...


When I was divorced, I was triggered by an interaction. I was right. The man I was dating was born August 22nd and my husband is August 23rd. There were definite similarities. And, high school sweetheart was August 21st.

It was time for reflection.


I don’t understand...


You indicated, and it appears to be true...

... certain energy attracts certain people. Just like our desires and energy we project are likewise met with persons who like our energy. That's what happens sometimes. We continue to meet a certain type of man because those are the type of men that are attracted to us.

But, they are not exactly the same. The Aries isn't impotent. But, if he were, would he make the choices your husband made.

It's time to reflect on what the similarities these men have. I started with birthdays... and, went on from there. That is what got me deeper into astrology... looking for hidden patterns in their charts, synastry, etc.

Obviously, you don't have to go that deep. But, the Scorpio likes your care and concern too... it may also be motherly to him.

See if there is a pattern or similarities with these men.

My ultimate similarity was I attracted Moon square Venus men.


I honestly appreciate you trying from the bottom of my heart but I don’t get any of this.

My husband is beta.

Scorpio and Aries are alphas.

My question is am I turning alpha man into beta by being too nice?

I think I should be more of a bitch on wheels and let them be men? But I can’t...I jist have to kiss the ass of the man if I am liking him a lot. Lol


Was your husband an "alpha" when you met him?"

I love acts of service as a love language and you gave me cause to reflect. The men that delivered needed to feel appreciated so much so I felt... trapped or bought or bribed.


My husband was always a momma boy never alpha. And he snatched me for my momissh qualities. Lol

And when I was younger and more energetic I didn’t mind doing all I did.

I am from Europe and if you know European men - they are to be served.

When I’ve met Scorpio and in conversation he mentioned doing his laundry I was like 👀 why— You are married! He was as shocked at my reaction as I was at the fact that man doing laundry!!! Lol

And being in business with a lot of men I was questioning my actions. Why am I not helped around the house?

So I’ve met alphas and I loved that!

And I wanted it. To BE a woman!

Search continuing. But I am afraid I am screwing my alphas masculinity.

Is he going to feel the same if I stopped being this way? Does he like me for me or for my services?

It used to be ‘pretty lady’ and now it’s ‘my good woman’...lol


Based on what you just posted, I dont see a pattern. Husband was a "beta" before you met him. Most people are "betas."

So, it seems you've just been triggered.


Triggered? By what or whom or how?


By being called "a good woman," "a safe harbor."

As you said:

"...he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor."

Some women fear this of middle-aged men and older... choosing women as potential caregivers or nursemaids as they are planning for growing old.
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I am not ready to be loved as a future nurse. He is bit younger and acting even much younger. I don’t think he have ever thought of growing older yet. Well...I am going to have to ask straight up. 🙄
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Let’s say I’ve met aomekne who is divorced and the marriage wasn’t good in terms of she didn’t care much about him...so now I am a different type. I am wifey and motherly and he told me I’ve done more for him in a few months than his wife in 10 years...

He seems very much into us and make future happen and today he called me to say thank you for helping him with moving to new place, shopping together, I bought house warming girt and he went crazy because he is the one who spends money...👿

So what’s bothering me is that...could his feelings be based on me being ‘a good woman’ and nothing else?

He didn’t know me before he fell for me and he said he was attracted to me before he knew how good of a woman I am when in relashionships...however I don’t want to be loved as safe harbor.

How do I find out what’s really going on? He proclaimed he wants me to be his better half in 2 months...I am just afraid to ask. I think it’s too soon.

Yes I am talking about Aries/Aries/Pisces/Pisces...


It's an interesting question. I don't know how you can know the answer though. Because i don't know if he could even know the answer himself.


He knows for sure. He told me he is attracted to me. He knows if he likes me as sexual partner and my mothering him just a nice addition. Or he is enjoying being cared for and that is why he is attracted to me.

I just afraid to ask. But I will. Or maybe I will wait and see for myself.


Ah so the answer is there for you. I understand.

I would want to know.

But well ....that's not for everyone. You don't need to ask us then.
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I don’t think we ask here to get correct answer. It’s a search within hoping for clues from outside.
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Aries told his mother about me.

Now she is flying off handles asking questions...we had tons of laughs but I didn’t get an answer on why he had to do it?

I said did you tell her I am Jewish?

He said she would kill herself! Lol

I said why? She believes in Jesus doesn’t she? Does she know he is Jewish?

He said can you please don’t mention that when you meet her? 😂😂

I am feeling engaged...lmao