My leo man is upset,how to tame him?

Hi everyone! I'm new in this site and I came here coz I needed some help to rekindle my relationship.I'm a Virgo woman and my man is a leo.We've had a relationship very meaningful and we love each other very deeply and dearly,we've had ups and downs in our 9months relationship but we've been friends for more than 4yrs.He is exactly the man which is the character of a leo completely as he is.He is trustworthy,faithful,loyal,generous,helpful,.. And all the good characteristics of being a leo man,and also his mean side like being stubborn and pride.. He was been so proud of having me in his life and making his friends jealous everytime he showed my pics to them,we plans to settle in my country this coming march because we love each other soooo much,. But I'm scared now that this man of my life will leave me for a reason coz of admiting him that I lied once,the time when he bought for me something and he want to send it here in Brunei where I work (he's in new york) he wants my address here but I said I don't know (which I lied to him coz I know) the reason of lying is I don't want to take anything from him money or materials while we're away coz I don't get used to be a receiver of anything from men (I used to give) and also I lie to him about the address coz of my security reason for working in a foreign country (my employers is not allowing me to know the address coz they are very strict and they are muslim) and also I'm not allowed to have any contact to anyone.They know I have a mobile phone but they don't know I'm using their internet just to have a communication to my love ones and especially to my leo man,I also explain to him why I can't receive his gift for me coz like what I've said my employers is not allowing me for anything.. That's the reason he get mad at me because of lying about the address,. I don't want to lose my magnificent man,I think he is got blind of anger and drowning himself in stubbornness to understand my reasons.That's the only first time I lied to him coz I'm not the kind of girl who playing games in a relationship,I want everything to be real in every possible way.I'm praying to God to broaden his mind and restore his feelings back to me.. Please advice me.. The compatibility of virgo and leo is 80% because of fire and earth..

Did you tell him why you lied?

Yes I explained to him everything why I have to lie.. But I realize that Instead of refusing to give him my address,I should have better to give it to him but tell him not to send the gift for me,Atleast he knows my address and where I am,it's more important to letting him know my exact place than receiving his gifts,. I really appreciate that he bought something for me with all my heart,but I can't take it by the moment when he want to send it to to me coz I'm here in Brunei and he's in New York,it will take too much money and effort from by sending that,and we gonna meet this coming march in Philippines coz he want to settle there with me for good.I ruin his trust it's just because of a simple lie,it's not connected in our relationship about that lie,I have no intention to lie to ruin our relationship.. 😢

Right, I get where you're coming from. If he wants to be with you, then there's nothing left to do except for wasit for hi to get over it (: he'll forgive you

I did,he still upset.. 😢 he unfriended me in fb,he said it will take awhile for him to forgive me but he can't forget about the lies. He throws some bad words to me in messages and almost cursed me.. 😢 how he became so cold and heartless after all? We've been talking on cam giggling and happy talking about our plan living in Philippines a night b4 it happened..😢

I'm confused... how does your employer get to dictate what

you might receive at home?

I understand you can't receive it at work... but ?


Have you met this guy in person?

@montgomery we haven't met yet,but being friends in website for less than 5yrs b4 we became officially on last year of march til now we know each other so well,he tells me the history of his family even the secrets,his ups and downs everything about him and I do so,that's why he want to give up everything what he have in New York just to be with me coz he knows me well,I can say that revealing all our personalities each other is almost naked in our naked eyes,. We are just in other dimension of this world but our spirit and minds are connected.. I know from the start of our friendship the first time ever we talked in website as a friend he told me that there are 2things he don't like in this world a LIAR and a THIEF.. That address issue was happened few months ago and yes @jynja I'm working here in Brunei which is very strict and Muslim country and that's the reason why I can't received anything from outside of the country..

That's what I'm doing right now,I'm letting him to cool down.. And I hope that if he really loves me that much he should have to be open minded and understand my explanations about that lie issues and above all because he love me he should swallow his pride,. I'm not hurting him,but because of accusing me like this is my attitude of being a liar which is not and almost cursing me is very unacceptable for me who really love him and giving him respect.. I'm so down right now,figuring out about that issues where did I go wrong if I'm thinking about my security concern working in a foreign Muslim country.. 😢 😢

Posted by Jynja

Posted by Montgomery
I'm confused... how does your employer get to dictate what

you might receive at home?

I understand you can't receive it at work... but ?


Have you met this guy in person?

I imagine she worked in Brunei on contract or so?
So, they were responsible for her housing arrangements and amenities too.
Brunei is a Muslim country... From my understanding.

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Ahh... I see.

@Ryz

I think you just should have been honest about WHY

you didn't give him the address in the first place.

But I do think you were right to withhold it.

He should understand that-- I'm a little surprised

he's that hung up on principle, considering your

situation.

I'm with jynja... give him some time to come to

his senses.

When do you get to leave?

@jynja I did everything to him the explanations WHY from that moment when he want the address.. I did a mistake for that,I just realize now that instead of refusing to give it to him I should have let him know my exact place and tell him not to send the gift because of restrictions.. He knows my situation here,he knows my miserable life here and he understand that,he want to me to quit my job here and go home, and wait him in Philippines this coming march.. But I know that his ego was hurt so bad because of 'dishonesty' towards him and our love story like a fairy tales will all be gone with the wind.. He calls me Princess and he is my Knight... 😢

Posted by RyzTheVirgo

.... making his friends jealous everytime he showed my pics to them ....

I'm not the kind of girl who playing games in a relationship,I want everything to be real in every possible way.

.... because being a trophy is keeping it real

Posted by RyzTheVirgo

... he can't forget about the lies.

plural?

so, it's more than one lie

I just lied once and that's all about the address,I typed it 'lies' coz thats what he said in his message,I don't where did he get the other one.. lol! I hate liars coz it's not my character..

Honey, there are much too many fish and CATFISH in the sea to settle for someone who's been a liar. Yes yes we all deserve forgiveness, we all make mistakes and I can riddle you with the "love conquers all" quotes but realistically, any form of dishonesty in a friendship or relationship oughta stop some wheels on the track. That's perfectly normal. That's perfectly fair.

It's perfectly normal and fair for him to hault right in his tracks & let his imagination & insecurities get the best of him. Now, you've opened up the "I wonder what else she's lied to me about?" can of worms that some relationships never rebound from

Nowadays so many people are so dishonest when engaging in these half way around the world online romances & since prolonged instances of long distance dating is already impersonal, it makes it that much easier to walk away from the computer as well as the person behind it when you feel some sense of betrayal or distrust. Again, perfectly normal.

Do I think you're the worst person on earth? No. If he loves you, is this worth you losing him forever? My answer is no, HOWEVER you never know when your lie will be someone's last straw. You never know when your lie will be the push they needed to go back into a shell, refusing to trust again.

Most people have been lied to by so many people in their lives (family, friends, coworkers, enemies, peers, etc.). 1 of the best things about companionship is finding someone who does NOT do/bring all the bullsh***t that others who don't care about you as much bring to your life. To continue engaging with someone who brings the same bullsh***t totally defeats the purpose of being in a relationship.

To you it may be "JUST 1 lie," but to him, that 1 lie is a big deal. And again, feeling such an immense sense of betrayal over 1 lie is justifiable when you consider that some people live their lives hoping to avoid future liars like those in their past

Chances are, he'll forgive you & you guys will start over. But in the meantime, say your peace, make your apologies but then back off & give him some space. Pressuring or guilting him into speaking/being with you again won't work.

Leos like 100% honesty and loyalty. As with others on here, explain fully and truthfully then leave him be. He'll come round once he's had a chance to calm down. They are usually very forgiving if you are sincere but let him come to you.

Oh.. And I know you haven't met him yet, but you cannot tame a leo 😉

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