How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
Silent treatment
When he goes silent talking to him is like talking to a brick wall. It's exhausting
Posted by Libralady1985I drop those emotionally abusive motherfuckers.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
I make a continuous effort if that person means something to me to the point where I exhaust it. Then I shut off and you really really have to have a good explanation.
I do listen to the explanation though, only because I know what it feels like to be ghosted. I think that's the least I can do and if the explanation is not good enough, see you later.
I cant stand the whole ghosting, cutting people off shutting down emotions thing. People should be able to communicate, even though it can be considered that silence is a form of communication.
Then again I am a Leo and like things to be sorted so we both know where we stand.
I do listen to the explanation though, only because I know what it feels like to be ghosted. I think that's the least I can do and if the explanation is not good enough, see you later.
I cant stand the whole ghosting, cutting people off shutting down emotions thing. People should be able to communicate, even though it can be considered that silence is a form of communication.
Then again I am a Leo and like things to be sorted so we both know where we stand.
I'll make andeffort, but if the person continues giving me the silent treatment, I'll let them know to contact me when they are ready to talk like an adult. Then I leave them alone.
Give them the taste of their own medicine.. While uploading selfies with someone hotter.
Libras do not handle the silent treatment well. Want to see a terrible side of me? Pull that shit.
Posted by heliumfiascoYou and me both
Libras do not handle the silent treatment well. Want to see a terrible side of me? Pull that shit.
It depends on what the silence is about.
If it is an immature form of protest or stubborn refusal to discuss an issue we're having, I find it very frustrating.
But if it's just a result of needing some separation to cool off and process their thoughts, then many times, it's welcomed.
If it is an immature form of protest or stubborn refusal to discuss an issue we're having, I find it very frustrating.
But if it's just a result of needing some separation to cool off and process their thoughts, then many times, it's welcomed.
Posted by Libralady1985My husband used to try this on me.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
I just follow him and tell him very loudly that 'as long as we are living under the same roof - I will not accept any of this nonsense! You have to tell me what you want me to do - apologize or whatever and we make up and move on!'
So he had tried...lol
Posted by heliumfiascoBeen with enough Scorpios for this Leeb to handle it well. I still scream internally from time to time though 😆
Libras do not handle the silent treatment well. Want to see a terrible side of me? Pull that shit.
Posted by EvoxxxscorpioDon't say nonsense! You don't know me😉Posted by GemitatiNot gonna work with me.Posted by Libralady1985My husband used to try this on me.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
I just follow him and tell him very loudly that 'as long as we are living under the same roof - I will not accept any of this nonsense! You have to tell me what you want me to do - apologize or whatever and we make up and move on!'
So he had tried...lolclick to expand
Posted by DolluxxeI didn't know you can scream atPosted by heliumfiascoBeen with enough Scorpios for this Leeb to handle it well. I still scream internally from time to time though 😆
Libras do not handle the silent treatment well. Want to see a terrible side of me? Pull that shit.click to expand
Scorpio...lol
Posted by GemitatiI said internally scream. Not scream at a Scorpio. Those men will kill you as soon as you open your mouth.Posted by DolluxxeI didn't know you can scream atPosted by heliumfiascoBeen with enough Scorpios for this Leeb to handle it well. I still scream internally from time to time though 😆
Libras do not handle the silent treatment well. Want to see a terrible side of me? Pull that shit.
Scorpio...lolclick to expand
They show me silence, I'll show em the Ice Age.
Which is to say, I'm colder than ever. Also rude and cocky and arrogant towards you so to show my disapproval of said behavior.
Which is to say, I'm colder than ever. Also rude and cocky and arrogant towards you so to show my disapproval of said behavior.
Posted by DolluxxeI know! That's why I was surprised!!!Posted by GemitatiI said internally scream. Not scream at a Scorpio. Those men will kill you as soon as you open your mouth.Posted by DolluxxeI didn't know you can scream atPosted by heliumfiascoBeen with enough Scorpios for this Leeb to handle it well. I still scream internally from time to time though 😆
Libras do not handle the silent treatment well. Want to see a terrible side of me? Pull that shit.
Scorpio...lol
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Posted by EvoxxxscorpioAnd let's keep it this way! LolPosted by GemitatiWe don't know each other ?Posted by EvoxxxscorpioDon't say nonsense! You don't know me😉Posted by GemitatiNot gonna work with me.Posted by Libralady1985My husband used to try this on me.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
I just follow him and tell him very loudly that 'as long as we are living under the same roof - I will not accept any of this nonsense! You have to tell me what you want me to do - apologize or whatever and we make up and move on!'
So he had tried...lolclick to expand
Posted by GemitatiCaps tend to do this very often.Posted by Libralady1985My husband used to try this on me.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
I just follow him and tell him very loudly that 'as long as we are living under the same roof - I will not accept any of this nonsense! You have to tell me what you want me to do - apologize or whatever and we make up and move on!'
So he had tried...lolclick to expand
I'm the queen of silent treatment... ??...
when people "try" to do it to me, I just act like they don't exist. I can hold grudges very well, so I usually advise ppl not to give me the silent ??...
Because I already have a hard time opening up, so don't make me turn my faucet all the way off... ??
Knowing me I'll probably start cooking for myself, leaving the house at crazy times, have late phone conversations etc... —
when people "try" to do it to me, I just act like they don't exist. I can hold grudges very well, so I usually advise ppl not to give me the silent ??...
Because I already have a hard time opening up, so don't make me turn my faucet all the way off... ??
Knowing me I'll probably start cooking for myself, leaving the house at crazy times, have late phone conversations etc... —
Posted by rockyroadicecreamWhat's abusive about it?Posted by Libralady1985I drop those emotionally abusive motherfuckers.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!click to expand
Try to tell him directly how you feel. The issue at hand. Don't address the silent treatment because that's not the issue, that's secondary. Tell him then step back and let him do his part.
I'll be silent until I'm sure of what I want to say. Plus, it keeps things from getting so heated. It also keeps me from saying things I'll regret later
Posted by WhatthehellI just can't see how it's even controlling. Literally sitting there doing nothing isn't controlling anything. As a matter of fact, it's the complete opposite of controlling.Posted by SsupermanIt's abusive when it's used as a tool to control someone, to force them to dampen their emotions, stop talking, or lose you, as it were.Posted by rockyroadicecreamWhat's abusive about it?Posted by Libralady1985I drop those emotionally abusive motherfuckers.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
But silence doesn't always mean that. It can mean what you described or other things. Sometimes people are doing the above and aren't even aware of their own motives. To me, it's not a clear-cut case of abuser/abusee every time.click to expand
Posted by WhatthehellSo, it's ok to FORCE someone to communicate when and how you feel like it?Posted by SsupermanThe thing that you're controlling is the flow of communication. You are cutting her off, refusing to hear or share. That's emotional manipulation. Her only choices are to kowtow to you, and ignore her own needs, or to leave you.Posted by WhatthehellI just can't see how it's even controlling. Literally sitting there doing nothing isn't controlling anything. As a matter of fact, it's the complete opposite of controlling.Posted by SsupermanIt's abusive when it's used as a tool to control someone, to force them to dampen their emotions, stop talking, or lose you, as it were.Posted by rockyroadicecreamWhat's abusive about it?Posted by Libralady1985I drop those emotionally abusive motherfuckers.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
But silence doesn't always mean that. It can mean what you described or other things. Sometimes people are doing the above and aren't even aware of their own motives. To me, it's not a clear-cut case of abuser/abusee every time.click to expand
Now that's controlling
Posted by EvoxxxscorpioThose who are good - are the best!Posted by GemitatiScorpios are nice people cmon nowPosted by DolluxxeI didn't know you can scream atPosted by heliumfiascoBeen with enough Scorpios for this Leeb to handle it well. I still scream internally from time to time though 😆
Libras do not handle the silent treatment well. Want to see a terrible side of me? Pull that shit.
Scorpio...lolclick to expand
Posted by EvoxxxscorpioNah.. Usually it's them not getting their way.. Or can't apologize for what they said/did..Posted by Dolluxxelol I'll pull it if you deserve it lolPosted by heliumfiascoBeen with enough Scorpios for this Leeb to handle it well. I still scream internally from time to time though 😆
Libras do not handle the silent treatment well. Want to see a terrible side of me? Pull that shit.click to expand
They always break and end up contacting me first.
Libra woman rule: Iron fist in a velvet glove 😄
Posted by WhatthehellThen those issues are hers/his to bear. I know how it feels to be cutoff from communication. I tried to FORCE someone to open up and tell me what was wrong, made things worse.Posted by SsupermanOh no. Both people have to respect the other's boundaries. However, cutting off communication with someone you're in a relationship with is cutting off any means to fixing the relationship, if you're doing it to fix or punish or whatever. It fixes nothing. It just breeds resentment.Posted by WhatthehellSo, it's ok to FORCE someone to communicate when and how you feel like it?Posted by SsupermanThe thing that you're controlling is the flow of communication. You are cutting her off, refusing to hear or share. That's emotional manipulation. Her only choices are to kowtow to you, and ignore her own needs, or to leave you.Posted by WhatthehellI just can't see how it's even controlling. Literally sitting there doing nothing isn't controlling anything. As a matter of fact, it's the complete opposite of controlling.Posted by SsupermanIt's abusive when it's used as a tool to control someone, to force them to dampen their emotions, stop talking, or lose you, as it were.Posted by rockyroadicecreamWhat's abusive about it?Posted by Libralady1985I drop those emotionally abusive motherfuckers.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
But silence doesn't always mean that. It can mean what you described or other things. Sometimes people are doing the above and aren't even aware of their own motives. To me, it's not a clear-cut case of abuser/abusee every time.
Now that's controlling
Taking time to cool off is actually very reasonable. You just have to let your partner know that's what you're doing so she doesn't feel abandoned when she's in crisis.click to expand
Getting upset from someone taking time to think and process the situation means the person demanding instant communication is actually the controlling one. It's also a form of insecurity and a total lack of their partners feelings
Posted by WhatthehellI agree with it being both of your burdens. However, you can't demand that from your partner. What's that say about you? You should respect your partner and give them what they need (space to breathe). I'm fixed fire so I've struggled with this myself in the past and some as of now. I want it NOW! This is selfish behavior and it's not healthyPosted by SsupermanWhen you're in a relationship, the issues are the both of yours to bear. If you give the silent treatment when she needs you, that's an indication you're not ready to be in a relationship. Goes for women giving men the silent treatment too. It's "do it my way or I won't even look at you" behavior. Men usually do it from a distance. Not call, not pick up the phone, not text, etc. Women usually do it in person, sitting there on your couch, arms folded, lip out, either refusing to speak to you or giving you one-word syllables.Posted by WhatthehellThen those issues are hers/his to bear. I know how it feels to be cutoff from communication. I tried to FORCE someone to open up and tell me what was wrong, made things worse.Posted by SsupermanOh no. Both people have to respect the other's boundaries. However, cutting off communication with someone you're in a relationship with is cutting off any means to fixing the relationship, if you're doing it to fix or punish or whatever. It fixes nothing. It just breeds resentment.Posted by WhatthehellSo, it's ok to FORCE someone to communicate when and how you feel like it?Posted by SsupermanThe thing that you're controlling is the flow of communication. You are cutting her off, refusing to hear or share. That's emotional manipulation. Her only choices are to kowtow to you, and ignore her own needs, or to leave you.Posted by WhatthehellI just can't see how it's even controlling. Literally sitting there doing nothing isn't controlling anything. As a matter of fact, it's the complete opposite of controlling.Posted by SsupermanIt's abusive when it's used as a tool to control someone, to force them to dampen their emotions, stop talking, or lose you, as it were.Posted by rockyroadicecreamWhat's abusive about it?Posted by Libralady1985I drop those emotionally abusive motherfuckers.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
But silence doesn't always mean that. It can mean what you described or other things. Sometimes people are doing the above and aren't even aware of their own motives. To me, it's not a clear-cut case of abuser/abusee every time.
Now that's controlling
Taking time to cool off is actually very reasonable. You just have to let your partner know that's what you're doing so she doesn't feel abandoned when she's in crisis.
Getting upset from someone taking time to think and process the situation means the person demanding instant communication is actually the controlling one. It's also a form of insecurity and a total lack of their partners feelingsclick to expand
Posted by WhatthehellI totally feel ya and I did the same.Posted by SsupermanPosted by WhatthehellI agree with it being both of your burdens. However, you can't demand that from your partner. What's that say about you? You should respect your partner and give them what they need (space to breathe). I'm fixed fire so I've struggled with this myself in the past and some as of now. I want it NOW! This is selfish behavior and it's not healthyPosted by SsupermanWhen you're in a relationship, the issues are the both of yours to bear. If you give the silent treatment when she needs you, that's an indication you're not ready to be in a relationship. Goes for women giving men the silent treatment too. It's "do it my way or I won't even look at you" behavior. Men usually do it from a distance. Not call, not pick up the phone, not text, etc. Women usually do it in person, sitting there on your couch, arms folded, lip out, either refusing to speak to you or giving you one-word syllables.Posted by WhatthehellThen those issues are hers/his to bear. I know how it feels to be cutoff from communication. I tried to FORCE someone to open up and tell me what was wrong, made things worse.Posted by SsupermanOh no. Both people have to respect the other's boundaries. However, cutting off communication with someone you're in a relationship with is cutting off any means to fixing the relationship, if you're doing it to fix or punish or whatever. It fixes nothing. It just breeds resentment.Posted by WhatthehellSo, it's ok to FORCE someone to communicate when and how you feel like it?Posted by SsupermanThe thing that you're controlling is the flow of communication. You are cutting her off, refusing to hear or share. That's emotional manipulation. Her only choices are to kowtow to you, and ignore her own needs, or to leave you.Posted by WhatthehellI just can't see how it's even controlling. Literally sitting there doing nothing isn't controlling anything. As a matter of fact, it's the complete opposite of controlling.Posted by SsupermanIt's abusive when it's used as a tool to control someone, to force them to dampen their emotions, stop talking, or lose you, as it were.Posted by rockyroadicecreamWhat's abusive about it?Posted by Libralady1985I drop those emotionally abusive motherfuckers.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
But silence doesn't always mean that. It can mean what you described or other things. Sometimes people are doing the above and aren't even aware of their own motives. To me, it's not a clear-cut case of abuser/abusee every time.
Now that's controlling
Taking time to cool off is actually very reasonable. You just have to let your partner know that's what you're doing so she doesn't feel abandoned when she's in crisis.
Getting upset from someone taking time to think and process the situation means the person demanding instant communication is actually the controlling one. It's also a form of insecurity and a total lack of their partners feelings
This is where compatibility and maturity are important, I think. It's similar to having similar sexual appetites and needs, similar spiritual needs, similar monetary needs. You can be opposite about some things, but for a relationship to work, you have to have similar or complimenting style s in all of these areas. Maturity helps bridge any gaps.
I had the experience of not being mature enough to bridge the gap from my communications needs (need to communicate often, pretty much daily, need to know where the relationship stands, need to be told I'm loved, beautiful, needed, etc.) vs. the needs of someone much quieter, more detached, and in need of much more space. I tried so hard to meet him half-way, and then I tried to meet him all the way, and I totally fucked it all up.click to expand
Posted by rockyroadicecreamI'm glad you said that. My husband is a PRO at the silent treatment. When I told him how emotionally abusive it is, he turned around and told me that I am a victim and am not strong enough!?!Posted by Libralady1985I drop those emotionally abusive motherfuckers.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!click to expand
I told him 'there's not much I can do to make you talk arsehole! I ask you what's wrong...Nothing. I tell you what I think is wrong with you..Nothing. I say Talk to me..Nothing.'
Yup! Emotionally abusive arsehole!
Things don't happen TO people, they happen BECAUSE of people.
meaning ..... everything he does is a reaction from something you did/said. Just as right now, you are reacting from/off of him.
So, to say the silent treatment without owning your part of a relationship in where there are TWO people reacting off of each other is pretty ignorant on your part .. and clearly shows you are looking for validation to support your desire to ignore where you're fucking up.
there's a reason why he is ignoring you. A valid reason in his mind.
But, here you come and to portray a deception, with intentions of slanting perception in your favor.
any and all people with a smidgeon of common sense should realize that you've participated in bringing him to the point where he's icing you out, and should realize that you're being false and embellishing, if you're not telling the whole truth of it.
Basically, you just want people to attack his character ..... likely because you can't handle being responsible for your part.
Posted by P-AngelThat's quite the assumption ?
Things don't happen TO people, they happen BECAUSE of people.
meaning ..... everything he does is a reaction from something you did/said. Just as right now, you are reacting from/off of him.
So, to say the silent treatment without owning your part of a relationship in where there are TWO people reacting off of each other is pretty ignorant on your part .. and clearly shows you are looking for validation to support your desire to ignore where you're fucking up.
there's a reason why he is ignoring you. A valid reason in his mind.
But, here you come and to portray a deception, with intentions of slanting perception in your favor.
any and all people with a smidgeon of common sense should realize that you've participated in bringing him to the point where he's icing you out, and should realize that you're being false and embellishing, if you're not telling the whole truth of it.
Basically, you just want people to attack his character ..... likely because you can't handle being responsible for your part.
Posted by Libralady1985Posted by P-AngelThat's quite the assumption ?
Things don't happen TO people, they happen BECAUSE of people.
meaning ..... everything he does is a reaction from something you did/said. Just as right now, you are reacting from/off of him.
So, to say the silent treatment without owning your part of a relationship in where there are TWO people reacting off of each other is pretty ignorant on your part .. and clearly shows you are looking for validation to support your desire to ignore where you're fucking up.
there's a reason why he is ignoring you. A valid reason in his mind.
But, here you come and to portray a deception, with intentions of slanting perception in your favor.
any and all people with a smidgeon of common sense should realize that you've participated in bringing him to the point where he's icing you out, and should realize that you're being false and embellishing, if you're not telling the whole truth of it.
Basically, you just want people to attack his character ..... likely because you can't handle being responsible for your part.click to expand
You're quite ignorant, since you have zero awareness that his actions towards you are reactions from you.
But, then again ... if you were actually capable of realizing that, then you would have.
I'm currently going through the silent treatment with my cancer ex. Its been over two months. But i did say i wanted a clean break while she wanted to stay friends. So i guess she is respecting my wishes!
Posted by AerazoYes, they do.Posted by GemitatiCaps tend to do this very often.Posted by Libralady1985My husband used to try this on me.
How do you cope with the silent treatment?? It is like the loudest scream to me, I can't stand it!!!
I just follow him and tell him very loudly that 'as long as we are living under the same roof - I will not accept any of this nonsense! You have to tell me what you want me to do - apologize or whatever and we make up and move on!'
So he had tried...lolclick to expand
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