Decline of social spaces?

Can anyone relate in your town? I know a lot of you probably have pretty good social lives. In my 'city' it's crap tbh, I'm feeling like moving back to my small country town because the place was honestly more social than the city. Maybe I just don't fit in here. But honestly it used to be a lot better here a decade ago when I lived here before. Who knows man.

How's your town.

just moved deeper into the countryside with my in laws and i've noticed that the connections here feel more intimate somehow like you get to really know your neighbors better. sometimes they'd even come by borrowing stuff or even trying to buy your horses or rabbits, rampant buying and selling of land pretty casually while sitting out on the porch. lots of little kids here too, great place to raise children or maybe it's coz our shop mostly attracts them but i really should've done this much earlier.

Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂

I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

Posted by Timone
Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂

I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

and it's easier to kill and bury a body in the wilderness.. but I do like the quiet, silence and quiet is essential for manifesting easier..

Posted by Timone
Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂

I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

I tend to think it's the opposite. You don't get any privacy living in a big city. I cannot even imagine living in close proximity to people and living too close to the highways where there's too much noise and a lotta horn blowing and trains rolling by and stuff. Who wants to live like that? I never in my life lived in a big city and um.....don't ever think I want to.

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Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂

I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

I tend to think it's the opposite. You don't get any privacy living in a big city. I cannot even imagine living in close proximity to people and living too close to the highways where there's too much noise and a lotta horn blowing and trains rolling by and stuff. Who wants to live like that? I never in my life lived in a big city and um.....don't ever think I want to.

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It depends on your neighborhood. Where I live it's quiet and I don't even know my closest neighbors.

I just know Im tired of driving and when my truck went down I tried to fix it but eventually I had to embrace living without a car though I still have transport from others. I started walking and discovered places and a life style I want to live going forward. Stuff needs to be walkable though to make it work.

I was born and raised in the city. Thought I was literally gonna die when my parents moved me to a rural town towards the end of middle school. I was gonna hop any plane, train , bus outta that one horse town the day after graduation.

IDK what happened exactly but here I am, still in this one horse town lol.

We visit the city for shopping and fun activities and such but I wouldn't want to live there at all anymore. People are very rude, show zero manners, the lines are ridiculous and most places are understaffed so everything takes longer anymore.

I can't imagine trying to teach kids to be respectful and mannerful when the observable adults don't behave that way.

Posted by Timone
Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂

I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

that's a good point too

but what if i work in a brothel and got my face cut up by an outlaw, which widowed rancher would avenge me on horseback?

city boys would never 🙎🙎

I miss suburbia & the beach, not really the city but in close proximity to all the things the big city offers.

I moved 17 years ago to the middle of nowhere. Okay not really but feels like it since I’m 5 to 6 hour drive from a big city. I grew up in Southern California. The big town here is the size or smaller than any one of those suburb towns. The town I live in feels very small but it’s like 20k people.. so not exactly a small rural town like those on the outskirts. It is very rural here though. I miss the SoCal activities but there is social activities here, more outdoor activities, dating is tough but in all reality isn’t it everywhere these days? You have to go out & find groups, friends etc I think. If I was in Socal it would be so much easier since I know so many people there since it is where I grew up. But I can go out & socialize with friends or groups I belong to when I choose to. Oh & there is the guy I’m dating too 😉

Young people don’t want to be out and about, it is a thing of the past

They all want to be quirky introverts content creating on tik tok, twitch, and only fans



*shakes cane*

I live in and grew up in this rural area and everyone knows each other and protects each other. I don't have kids but the kids here still play outside with each other without fear. Teenagers hang out, swim and water ski in the lake, horseback ride and ride their dirt bikes. Pretty much the same way me and their parents grew up.

There are loads of things to do here if you like the outdoors. I spent my 20s in Los Angeles and wish I had stayed here now that I've moved back. Too many people and waiting in line for everything was a drag.

I like both equally idk I can't pick one over the other.

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Young people don’t want to be out and about, it is a thing of the past
They all want to be quirky introverts content creating on tik tok, twitch, and only fans

*shakes cane*

Do you wear graphic tees?

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Yes a few times a month

In fact I just got a new horror one just for Halloween 😂

Posted by Timone
Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂

I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

100% I hate that about small towns, they can be really cliquey and people tend to take small issues way to seriously because they've got nothing else going on.

Posted by virgoOPPP
just moved deeper into the countryside with my in laws and i've noticed that the connections here feel more intimate somehow like you get to really know your neighbors better. sometimes they'd even come by borrowing stuff or even trying to buy your horses or rabbits, rampant buying and selling of land pretty casually while sitting out on the porch. lots of little kids here too, great place to raise children or maybe it's coz our shop mostly attracts them but i really should've done this much earlier.

Yeah good move, it will be a nice place to grow a family.

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Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂
I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

and it's easier to kill and bury a body in the wilderness.. but I do like the quiet, silence and quiet is essential for manifesting easier..

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The wilderness is a manifesting machine, you can start to manifest seeing animals or plants or finding old artifacts very very easily. It's much easier to believe it and get your mind into a place of wonder and imagination.

Social life definitely isn’t what it used to be some 10, 20 or even 30 years ago. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world. I’ve lived lots of different places.

I think people are less social and more introverted/autistic due to all technology.

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Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂
I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

I tend to think it's the opposite. You don't get any privacy living in a big city. I cannot even imagine living in close proximity to people and living too close to the highways where there's too much noise and a lotta horn blowing and trains rolling by and stuff. Who wants to live like that? I never in my life lived in a big city and um.....don't ever think I want to.

It depends on your neighborhood. Where I live it's quiet and I don't even know my closest neighbors.

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I live in a small neighborhood where we all know each other. It's just a handful of us. The only one of the bunch that tends to be the most loudest is my Virgo neighbor. He cool and by God he's hilarious as hell but also a big pain in the ass. It's hard for me to get upset at him. Other than that only noise I get here are roosters crowing particularly at dawn. I'm pretty used to that. But the big city noises and bright lights yall can keep.

Posted by borednbeautiful
Social life definitely isn’t what it used to be some 10,20 or even 30 years ago. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world. I’ve lived lots of different places.

I think people are less social and more introverted/autistic due to all technology.

I was always one of the less social ones. Even long before the internets became popular. I never really cared about socialising too much face to face. Despite having tons of girlfriends there was still times I wanted to be left alone.

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Social life definitely isn’t what it used to be some 10,20 or even 30 years ago. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world. I’ve lived lots of different places.

I think people are less social and more introverted/autistic due to all technology.

I was always one of the less social ones. Even long before the internets became popular. I never really cared about socialising too much face to face. Despite having tons of girlfriends there was still times I wanted to be left alone.

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That’s interesting. Why do you think that is?

I don’t think there’s less social places. I’ve watched 80s/90s teen movies and yeah malls are dying out in America. I’ve always been in the suburbs near the city. Personally as an introvert even if a place is full of people I’ll often keep to myself. It also gets harder and harder to befriend others as you get older. People just seem more closed off (even when they’re also feeling lonely). But populated places definitely give you more opportunities to create fresh relationships that don’t get influenced by all the neighbors/small community knowing your history and interfering.

So apparently extroverted people create social circles mostly through work and hobbies. There’s local group meetups for all sorts of things. It doesn’t matter what country you’re in. I’m part of this niche baby carrier group on Facebook with thousands of members and while Americans hadn’t had a local meetup yet, the Indonesians did and the Americans got all hyper wanting to plan their own now. I personally use social media very limitedly but just being able to connect with more people through the internet has opened up so much more socializing potentials, especially for introverts.

Posted by nanochip
In fact I just got a new horror one just for Halloween 😂

They make a huge deal of Halloween where I live. There are farms dedicated to their annual Halloween Hay Rides that are scary as hell. They have horror scenes set up all over their farms and it goes on and on and on. So much fun. They also do Hayrides during the Christmas season.

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Social life definitely isn’t what it used to be some 10,20 or even 30 years ago. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world. I’ve lived lots of different places.
I think people are less social and more introverted/autistic due to all technology.

I was always one of the less social ones. Even long before the internets became popular. I never really cared about socialising too much face to face. Despite having tons of girlfriends there was still times I wanted to be left alone.

That’s interesting. Why do you think that is?

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I was always like this for as long as I can remember. People gravitate towards me. While others has to try hard for attention, not me, whether I want it or not. People are interesting in me because I'm quiet. I guess you can say they want to know me and would like to hear me talk...say something. And it doesn't matter where I am. The city or the suburbs it doesn't matter.

I just know see the op put this thread in the Rhianna forum

Idk, I feel like after the pandemic more people are flooding to public places, which I'm still getting used to. So I'm seeing an intense increase. Back in 2018 I could go to the park or walking trail, and there would be no one. I could let my dog of her leash, and rarely have to put her back on it due to someone coming. Now in 2023, I can't even go to the park or walking trail without a ridiculous amount of people around. Even just going to the store is annoying. It seems there are more people out in public now then ever. I go to a bar, its literally shoulder to shoulder with people. You can't even chill and relax anymore. Even on weekdays. Idk where people got all this money to not have to work anymore, but I actually dislike it. Like I don't mind people in public, but it's too many in public spaces at this point. Like I went to a concert over the weekend, and strategically waited to leave my seat to hit up the bathroom and maybe get some food in the middle of the main show. That was always the best time to do your thing, because everyone is watching the show rather then mindlessly moving around. Yet it was so crowded all I could do was go to the bathroom, get a drink, and worm my way back to my seat. Crowded areas don't really bother me, but I find it annoying. Why so many people?

Also I'm not worried about sickness, or anything pandemic related. Never was, never will be. I'll also never get any kind of dumb worthless vaccination. That shit was 100% overestimated, over hyped, over feared, and the government is making billions because of it. Make people fear and hide in their homes for 2 years, slowly make everything cost twice as much, then release them back into society. That's why public spaces are overflowing with people spending money. You know it, I know it, we all know it. Only people who can't admit it are those living in denial with weak, weak little minds that can't accept the truth.

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I just know see the op put this thread in the Rhianna forum

We fell in love in a hopeless place

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Went to North Carolina house hunting or visiting freind but I don’t think I can make the move! I’d die of boredom

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Idk, I feel like after the pandemic more people are flooding to public places, which I'm still getting used to. So I'm seeing an intense increase. Back in 2018 I could go to the park or walking trail, and there would be no one. I could let my dog of her leash, and rarely have to put her back on it due to someone coming. Now in 2023, I can't even go to the park or walking trail without a ridiculous amount of people around. Even just going to the store is annoying. It seems there are more people out in public now than ever. I go to a bar, it’s literally shoulder to shoulder with people. You can't even chill and relax anymore. Even on weekdays. Idk where people got all this money to not have to work anymore, but I actually dislike it. Like I don't mind people in public, but it's too many in public spaces at this point. Like I went to a concert over the weekend, and strategically waited to leave my seat to hit up the bathroom and maybe get some food in the middle of the main show. That was always the best time to do your thing, because everyone is watching the show rather then mindlessly moving around. Yet it was so crowded all I could do was go to the bathroom, get a drink, and worm my way back to my seat. Crowded areas don't really bother me, but I find it annoying. Why so many people?

Also I'm not worried about sickness, or anything pandemic related. Never was, never will be. I'll also never get any kind of dumb worthless vaccination. That shit was 100% overestimated, over hyped, over feared, and the government is making billions because of it. Make people fear and hide in their homes for 2 years, slowly make everything cost twice as much, then release them back into society. That's why public spaces are overflowing with people spending money. You know it, I know it, we all know it. Only people who can't admit it are those living in denial with weak, weak little minds that can't accept the truth.

Saaaame. People have been flooding literally everywhere post pandemic like crazy even on week days. It’s become such a nuisance to go out anymore. I also wonder how people suddenly have all this money not to work anymore… I have began calculating what days I can go certain places that will have the least humans show up…

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Young people don’t want to be out and about, it is a thing of the past
They all want to be quirky introverts content creating on tik tok, twitch, and only fans

*shakes cane*

Do you wear graphic tees?

Yes a few times a month

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Ok my new theory is that you get old the moment you decide to stop wearing graphic tees 🤣 so you’re not in the grandma realm yet

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😆😆 I love my horror, band, and touristy graphic tees but idk, I see old people wear graphic tees all the time too. It’s all my 60 year old coworker wears

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In fact I just got a new horror one just for Halloween 😂

They make a huge deal of Halloween where I live. There are farms dedicated to their annual Halloween Hay Rides that are scary as hell. They have horror scenes set up all over their farms and it goes on and on and on. So much fun. They also do Hayrides during the Christmas season.

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Love it! I’m always on the spooky bandwagon. When I was a child, Halloween and creepy things and horror was always a huge source of fascination and interest for me. Now I really enjoy dark tourism. These days, Halloween has blown up in popularity, it’s all over social media, but I definitely liked it way before it was cool 😎

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Young people don’t want to be out and about, it is a thing of the past
They all want to be quirky introverts content creating on tik tok, twitch, and only fans

*shakes cane*

Do you wear graphic tees?

Yes a few times a month

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Ok my new theory is that you get old the moment you decide to stop wearing graphic tees 🤣 so you’re not in the grandma realm yet

😆😆 I love my horror, band, and touristy graphic tees but idk, I see old people wear graphic tees all the time too. It’s all my 60 year old coworker wears

Mentally they’re still young! 🤣

It’s when you say to yourself I’m too old to wear this Spice Girls t shirt and only wear plains that you check out of the young person mentality.

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Nice, yea but I’ve been rethinking my wardrobe lately though. On the opposite side, dressing below your age can be a major cringe. At 34, I shouldn’t be dressing like a tik tok 18 year old I don’t think. It’s hard to know how to dress as a woman at 34 so I’m wearing mostly black and neutrals a lot these days. Neutrals came back into style with a vengeance.

I guess it depends what you define as a social space. Malls are pretty much done with the online culture now and the theft.

There are tons of bars, but they're boring in my opinion. Overpriced food, average service and nothing that stands out. No features other than a TV.. Hell, it's a challenge just to find a pool table nowadays.

So yes, in that sense social spaces are on the decline along with hobbies. I can't tell you the amount of people I've met this year that don't do shit but work and go to the gym. Less and less people are collecting things, cooking, creating etc.

Work, travel and gym is the culture now.

Nothing else.

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Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂

I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

100% I hate that about small towns, they can be really cliquey and people tend to take small issues way to seriously because they've got nothing else going on.

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Live for the drama because everything else is so uneventful. 😂

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Posted by Timone
Maybe that's why I like big cities vs a small village where everyone knows everyone's business and you have no privacy. I'm pretty private and hate nosy neighbors and overall small talk for that matter. 😂

I love being in vibrant cities where there's a lot of people and you can just do a lot of people watching but I don't necessarily want to interact with them. 😜

that's a good point too

but what if i work in a brothel and got my face cut up by an outlaw, which widowed rancher would avenge me on horseback?

city boys would never 🙎🙎

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I was born and bred in the city, but moving to a small town near the country was the best thing I ever did. It really increased my quality of life significantly.

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In fact I just got a new horror one just for Halloween 😂

They make a huge deal of Halloween where I live. There are farms dedicated to their annual Halloween Hay Rides that are scary as hell. They have horror scenes set up all over their farms and it goes on and on and on. So much fun. They also do Hayrides during the Christmas season.
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Love it! I’m always on the spooky bandwagon. When I was a child, Halloween and creepy things and horror was always a huge source of fascination and interest for me. Now I really enjoy dark tourism. These days, Halloween has blown up in popularity, it’s all over social media, but I definitely liked it way before it was cool 😎

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This production is better than the ones I used to go to in CA at Knotts Scary Farm and Universal Studios Halloween Haunted House. Maybe because you're in the dark with only the moon out which is scary. Then ghouls, monsters and vampires running and jumping on and off the wagon, scenes with witches boiling people and more. Then the wagon stops in front of this 100 year old (haunted) house that was scary as fuck and on your exit, the Texas Chainsaw Massacre dude chases you back to your wagon with a chainsaw. Very scary. I was hoarse from screaming the next day.

I'm probably going to move back to the Northeast when I can swing it. I've got a nice place and job in a beautiful place with lots going on in one of the better states to live in (Colorado)..but I find that where I grew up is just more calm and peaceful with more genuine and educated types of people as well as still a sense of community. It's also (imo) the most beautiful part the country. Also, in the not so distant future, climate change is going to make certain parts of the country (the south, Southwest and Southern California, even the Pacific Northwest) unbearable to live. Midwest is too flat and boring except for parts of the upper Midwest so I think I will buy some land and house in a wooded part of New England.

Posted by borednbeautiful
Social life definitely isn’t what it used to be some 10, 20 or even 30 years ago. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world. I’ve lived lots of different places.

I think people are less social and more introverted/autistic due to all technology.

are you still in Italy or whatever, isn't it like a romance movie with people in the streets holding hands and some kids chasing each other on bikes and and old dude playing an accordion?

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Social life definitely isn’t what it used to be some 10, 20 or even 30 years ago. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world. I’ve lived lots of different places.

I think people are less social and more introverted/autistic due to all technology.

are you still in Italy or whatever, isn't it like a romance movie with people in the streets holding hands and some kids chasing each other on bikes and and old dude playing an accordion?

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Yes, however it’s a rather small city with an aging population 😭

I think I am one of the younger ones. And then there are high-school kids.

Ofc, almost everyone is married and doesn’t have much time for social stuff. It’s not as perfect as it looks in the movies, trust me…

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I live in a smaller city in the Midwest.. population of around 300k so it’s bigger than a small town but not a big city, by any means. I like the balance of having a healthy social life, but also ample places to find peace and solitude (metroparks, lakes, rivers, etc) I don’t think I would want to live in an overpopulated city like LA or NYC, the cost of living just isn’t worth it in my opinion. Super overrated.

I don’t think it’s so much a decrease of social spaces, but I have noticed everyone is on their phone, even while they’re out with friends. We are lacking in true connection and community. We are moving away from intimate connections and moving toward to isolation.. and many people portray a busy social life because it looks nice on social media, but a lot of times it’s just a facade.

Many people are isolated and lonely.. we’ve unfortunately adopted this unhealthy belief that we are better off alone and don’t need anyone.. but I’ll tell you most people who feel that way have probably just never had quality relationships. Because if you’ve had a solid support group, you will know without a doubt that having people in your corner aides in building resilience, healing, and overall quality of life. I have no shame in saying that I need my people and they need me. ❤️

Yeah I reckon there was an independence psyop to separate us.

I was raised on a housing estate and didn’t like it. Moved to a different country and had a family. I live rurally but within easy reach of three towns and a village

The social life is good here … lots of music, but you can also be quiet

It’s safe and the people are warm and welcoming.

I found a little bit of ✨heaven✨

🙏

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I live in a smaller city in the Midwest.. population of around 300k so it’s bigger than a small town but not a big city, by any means. I like the balance of having a healthy social life, but also ample places to find peace and solitude (metroparks, lakes, rivers, etc) I don’t think I would want to live in an overpopulated city like LA or NYC, the cost of living just isn’t worth it in my opinion. Super overrated.

I don’t think it’s so much a decrease of social spaces, but I have noticed everyone is on their phone, even while they’re out with friends. We are lacking in true connection and community. We are moving away from intimate connections and moving toward to isolation.. and many people portray a busy social life because it looks nice on social media, but a lot of times it’s just a facade.

Many people are isolated and lonely.. we’ve unfortunately adopted this unhealthy belief that we are better off alone and don’t need anyone.. but I’ll tell you most people who feel that way have probably just never had quality relationships. Because if you’ve had a solid support group, you will know without a doubt that having people in your corner aides in building resilience, healing, and overall quality of life. I have no shame in saying that I need my people and they need me. ❤️

Yeah I reckon there was an independence psyop to separate us.

Absolutely. 💯 you know how the saying goes… “united we stand, divided we fall.”

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Yeah like there is just these subtle things, move out of home immediately at 18. Make sure your mental health and all your ducks are in a row before even trying to have friends and relationships. That sort of thing.