My scorpio man broke up with me but still keeps in contact and remains friends

I was dating this scorpio man October 25th, yes he's a cusper for 8 months. I'm a Leo woman July 28th. Our relationship was amazing but we had a lots of issues towards the end because we had a lot of things happened that kind of piled up separately in our lives he went through a lot and I went through a lot financially physically family-wise and Friends wise but we still stuck it through with each other but my question is when we broke up we had a very amicable and nice break up we did not yell we did not scream we spent one last night together holding each other making love laughing and when we finally left each other the next morning we both cried but we kept in touch with each other I saw him the following day and the day after he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week and we talked almost every day we have been broken up two weeks at this point I'm just confused because he doesn't do normal Scorpio Tendencies when they break up like be mean or just not contact you not respond to your text messages or calls I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...and I do want my man back....what's some advice on how to do that...

Sorry so long...it's a lot of variables to this story as well and I will answer if questions are asked

Posted by Paradoxical_leo

he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week



I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...

He's not holding on cause he wants you back. He's still in contact cause your a client. He's not after the pussy he's after the money. Boy needs to pay his bills.

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Posted by Paradoxical_leo

he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week



I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...

He's not holding on cause he wants you back. He's still in contact cause your a client. He's not after the pussy he's after the money. Boy needs to pay his bills.

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Yeahhhhh I don't pay him though and he works our sessions around my schedule and he pays for my meal prep....sooooo

Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

Posted by Paradoxical_leo

I was dating this scorpio man October 25th, yes he's a cusper for 8 months. I'm a Leo woman July 28th. Our relationship was amazing but we had a lots of issues towards the end because we had a lot of things happened that kind of piled up separately in our lives he went through a lot and I went through a lot financially physically family-wise and Friends wise but we still stuck it through with each other but my question is when we broke up we had a very amicable and nice break up we did not yell we did not scream we spent one last night together holding each other making love laughing and when we finally left each other the next morning we both cried but we kept in touch with each other I saw him the following day and the day after he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week and we talked almost every day we have been broken up two weeks at this point I'm just confused because he doesn't do normal Scorpio Tendencies when they break up like be mean or just not contact you not respond to your text messages or calls I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...and I do want my man back....what's some advice on how to do that...

Sorry so long...it's a lot of variables to this story as well and I will answer if questions are asked

what's his placements??



he might be the type that is waiting around for his "true" love while keeping you on the string.

i'm skeptical because if a man isn't gonna throw you over his shoulder and say you're mine,my woman and put a ring on it...

he's hesistant because you are UNavailable in alot of ways for him and not for him...

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Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

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aw. that is sad.

he was crying.. because he knows this is the end...

it's so sad 😢

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Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

aw. that is sad.

he was crying.. because he knows this is the end...

it's so sad 😢

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So are you saying it's no chance of it coming back?

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Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

aw. that is sad.

he was crying.. because he knows this is the end...

it's so sad 😢

So are you saying it's no chance of it coming back?

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uh i dunno really..

i read this part:

he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal



he doesn't want more stress in his life...

from what i got. he wants to have freedom to love and enjoy his life, no more stress.

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Posted by Paradoxical_leo

I was dating this scorpio man October 25th, yes he's a cusper for 8 months. I'm a Leo woman July 28th. Our relationship was amazing but we had a lots of issues towards the end because we had a lot of things happened that kind of piled up separately in our lives he went through a lot and I went through a lot financially physically family-wise and Friends wise but we still stuck it through with each other but my question is when we broke up we had a very amicable and nice break up we did not yell we did not scream we spent one last night together holding each other making love laughing and when we finally left each other the next morning we both cried but we kept in touch with each other I saw him the following day and the day after he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week and we talked almost every day we have been broken up two weeks at this point I'm just confused because he doesn't do normal Scorpio Tendencies when they break up like be mean or just not contact you not respond to your text messages or calls I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...and I do want my man back....what's some advice on how to do that...

Sorry so long...it's a lot of variables to this story as well and I will answer if questions are asked

what's his placements??



he might be the type that is waiting around for his "true" love while keeping you on the string.

i'm skeptical because if a man isn't gonna throw you over his shoulder and say you're mine,my woman and put a ring on it...

he's hesistant because you are UNavailable in alot of ways for him and not for him...

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I have to go find them in my phone...but he has expressed about how he wants that one that love when we first started dating he said he felt I was the one like the universe pointed me out and said hey that's you go get her and take your time with her...we talked about life plans and marriage in the first 4 to 5 months...and I admit I played my part in the end but he had a point he started to.become unhappy but didn't really let me know I caught on slowly because his actions didn't change much we still had great chemistry and vibe and energy...I only started realizing when the intimacy started dwindling...I had attributed it to stress...because I was dealing with a lot too...

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Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

aw. that is sad.

he was crying.. because he knows this is the end...

it's so sad 😢

So are you saying it's no chance of it coming back?

uh i dunno really..

i read this part:

he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal



he doesn't want more stress in his life...

from what i got. he wants to have freedom to love and enjoy his life, no more stress.

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I meant renewal.not removal.BTW sorry for the typo...but you are right in your sentimentsearch he has said something along that line....but why stay friends with me and want to spend time...why say the door.could still be open we just need time but then switch to you're don't see a renewal in the foreseeable future but say you don't know what the universe has in store but still say you care for me want to spend time with me now after we get over our pain...talk to me pretty much every day multiple times has spent the night over here (no sex) and we still have a good report

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Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

aw. that is sad.

he was crying.. because he knows this is the end...

it's so sad 😢

So are you saying it's no chance of it coming back?

uh i dunno really..

i read this part:

he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal



he doesn't want more stress in his life...

from what i got. he wants to have freedom to love and enjoy his life, no more stress.

I meant renewal.not removal.BTW sorry for the typo...but you are right in your sentimentsearch he has said something along that line....but why stay friends with me and want to spend time...why say the door.could still be open we just need time but then switch to you're don't see a renewal in the foreseeable future but say you don't know what the universe has in store but still say you care for me want to spend time with me now after we get over our pain...talk to me pretty much every day multiple times has spent the night over here (no sex) and we still have a good report

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generally speaking, water is introverted, and needs alot of recharging time so if you or anyone else, give him stress, he needs to get away. but he is spending alot of time with you in the beginning and you and him talking about marriage. But something happened, if you burden him with too much, he won't like it. other than what you mentioned about financial burdens, i dont know what is going between you two that he needs to keep the door open but is disengaging himself.

It most likely just means he considers you a good person, and had a really good connection with but is not really the woman he feels is right at this moment. so he keeps you as a friend but no longer considers you as anything more serious right now.

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Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

Aww. Damn Leo. This gave me the feels. Ugh. I’m so sorry. The bittersweet.

That’s rough.

He gave you a lot of various reasons but they all have the same thread. He isn’t able to give you the kind of commitment where he could remain happily responsible to you. However much is due to his unresolved hurt with exes, the distance, his current feels, none of that matters, because it shouldn’t be your responsibility to help him heal himself. It sounds like there is a part of him which genuinely cares for you. But it’s not enough to give you what you need and what you deserve, and it sounds like he knows that.

This is also not fair to you. Not fair to still treat you like you’re together in small ways. Not fair to keep the door open but break up with you and still hang around like nothing has changed.

Since it was amiable, taking some time actually apart and maybe finding a new trainer might be helpful. Protect your heart sweet leo. Make yourself a priority and it will work itself out. Either he figures out what’s confusing him or you feel so great about yourself that you attract someone who can actually give you the love you need and deserve.

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Thank you for your words love they are appreciated honestly...actually has me over here crying again...it's only been 2 weeks but my heart still feels ripped out my chest he's a damn good man...then when the part came about he doesn't see a relationship renewal in the future but never know what could happen that was worse than the initial breakup like how do your feelings switch like that....he said he meant it at the time he said it but this was how he felt now...I think because of how emotional I've been about the break up which I know is the wrong thing to do but he's been there and comforted me a lot during the breakup...I think that pushed him away some and made him feel like he made a good decision but he's just still being there for.me and talking like we are still best friends like nothing happened...I mean of course we don't have any romantic interactions but it's like automatic friend switch like we've just been friends forever...like he's not effected at all...only time.I know he has feelings is whenever we leave each other how he looks at me and stares and his eyes get cloudy then sometimes he can barely keep eye contact because his eyes get red and I see tears well up...and he hugs me tight and for a long time....I cry toof and he just let's me

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Posted by Paradoxical_leo

he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week



I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...

He's not holding on cause he wants you back. He's still in contact cause your a client. He's not after the pussy he's after the money. Boy needs to pay his bills.

Yeahhhhh I don't pay him though and he works our sessions around my schedule and he pays for my meal prep....sooooo

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You really want him back? Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Time to cut him off 100% . Let him know what if feels like to not have you in his life.

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Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

aw. that is sad.

he was crying.. because he knows this is the end...

it's so sad 😢

So are you saying it's no chance of it coming back?

uh i dunno really..

i read this part:

he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal



he doesn't want more stress in his life...

from what i got. he wants to have freedom to love and enjoy his life, no more stress.

I meant renewal.not removal.BTW sorry for the typo...but you are right in your sentimentsearch he has said something along that line....but why stay friends with me and want to spend time...why say the door.could still be open we just need time but then switch to you're don't see a renewal in the foreseeable future but say you don't know what the universe has in store but still say you care for me want to spend time with me now after we get over our pain...talk to me pretty much every day multiple times has spent the night over here (no sex) and we still have a good report

generally speaking, water is introverted, and needs alot of recharging time so if you or anyone else, give him stress, he needs to get away. but he is spending alot of time with you in the beginning and you and him talking about marriage. But something happened, if you burden him with too much, he won't like it. other than what you mentioned about financial burdens, i dont know what is going between you two that he needs to keep the door open but is disengaging himself.

It most likely just means he considers you a good person, and had a really good connection with but is not really the woman he feels is right at this moment. so he keeps you as a friend but no longer considers you as anything more serious right now.

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What hurts is that I agree with you wholeheartedly...and yes I did play my part and I took accountability and apologized and know I took some things for granted he admits he had his parts to play too it's just that I gave him a chance to correct it but why was it not worth giving me my chance was it too far gone at that point he admitted he should've told me when he started losing happiness.....my question is now what can I do to fix it or get him back I feel like he is that one...I feel like he's what I've always wanted the one to be like...I just want my man back

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he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week



I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...

He's not holding on cause he wants you back. He's still in contact cause your a client. He's not after the pussy he's after the money. Boy needs to pay his bills.

Yeahhhhh I don't pay him though and he works our sessions around my schedule and he pays for my meal prep....sooooo

You really want him back? Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Time to cut him off 100% . Let him know what if feels like to not have you in his life.

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Soooo stop personal training and rely on my own in the gym lol jk no I fully understand what you mean and it's so hard cause when a Leo is into someone and cares it's hard to not wear our heart on our sleeve....and express our emotions....and it's hard to let go....so when he texts or calls just ignore him? I was going to just only reach out to him when he reached out to me first....give him his space and not reach out but respond when he hits me up...

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Posted by Ellygant

You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

Aww. Damn Leo. This gave me the feels. Ugh. I’m so sorry. The bittersweet.

That’s rough.

He gave you a lot of various reasons but they all have the same thread. He isn’t able to give you the kind of commitment where he could remain happily responsible to you. However much is due to his unresolved hurt with exes, the distance, his current feels, none of that matters, because it shouldn’t be your responsibility to help him heal himself. It sounds like there is a part of him which genuinely cares for you. But it’s not enough to give you what you need and what you deserve, and it sounds like he knows that.

This is also not fair to you. Not fair to still treat you like you’re together in small ways. Not fair to keep the door open but break up with you and still hang around like nothing has changed.

Since it was amiable, taking some time actually apart and maybe finding a new trainer might be helpful. Protect your heart sweet leo. Make yourself a priority and it will work itself out. Either he figures out what’s confusing him or you feel so great about yourself that you attract someone who can actually give you the love you need and deserve.

Thank you for your words love they are appreciated honestly...actually has me over here crying again...it's only been 2 weeks but my heart still feels ripped out my chest he's a damn good man...then when the part came about he doesn't see a relationship renewal in the future but never know what could happen that was worse than the initial breakup like how do your feelings switch like that....he said he meant it at the time he said it but this was how he felt now...I think because of how emotional I've been about the break up which I know is the wrong thing to do but he's been there and comforted me a lot during the breakup...I think that pushed him away some and made him feel like he made a good decision but he's just still being there for.me and talking like we are still best friends like nothing happened...I mean of course we don't have any romantic interactions but it's like automatic friend switch like we've just been friends forever...like he's not effected at all...only time.I know he has feelings is whenever we leave each other how he looks at me and stares and his eyes get cloudy then sometimes he can barely keep eye contact because his eyes get red and I see tears well up...and he hugs me tight and for a long time....I cry toof and he just let's me

Ooof. The feels.

Let me clear tho, you should in no way feel that you experiencing painful emotions is a mistake. And sharing that your hurt, that’s not pushing him away. That’s telling the truth about how you’re processing pain.

It seems like continuing to see each other is a breeding ground for resentment and confusion down the road, for you both.

Focus on yourself and what you need to do to heal yourself, work through your feelings. The relationship is over. Prioritize yourself girl. You’ll be glad later you focused more on how you feel rather than him.

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I feel you healing myself 100% but I do know that being in each others space right now constantly isn't good but what sucks is we honestly do still have a great friendship...when we aren't in our feels which isn't most of the time we are always laughing and talking and having fun....and he trains me in the gym I've cut it down to seeing him at the gym to like 2 times a week and the rest on my own....but just to cut him off completely would hurt because I lost a friend too...he became like one of my best friends...you say the relationship is over...I want him back....is this just a done deal in the eyes of another mind such as yours?

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he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week



I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...

He's not holding on cause he wants you back. He's still in contact cause your a client. He's not after the pussy he's after the money. Boy needs to pay his bills.

Yeahhhhh I don't pay him though and he works our sessions around my schedule and he pays for my meal prep....sooooo

You really want him back? Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Time to cut him off 100% . Let him know what if feels like to not have you in his life.

Soooo stop personal training and rely on my own in the gym lol jk no I fully understand what you mean and it's so hard cause when a Leo is into someone and cares it's hard to not wear our heart on our sleeve....and express our emotions....and it's hard to let go....so when he texts or calls just ignore him? I was going to just only reach out to him when he reached out to me first....give him his space and not reach out but respond when he hits me up...

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When he reaches out let him know that your still in your feels and in order to heal from the breakup (he initiated) you need to have space from him.

I'm still friends with my scorpio ex's. But than again I'm not in love with them anymore and nor are they with me.

I think " being friends " with someone you want to be with again probably isn't the best way.

You have to re-start that romantic attraction. Act like however you did in the first place that made him want you I guess?

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You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

aw. that is sad.

he was crying.. because he knows this is the end...

it's so sad 😢

So are you saying it's no chance of it coming back?

uh i dunno really..

i read this part:

he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal



he doesn't want more stress in his life...

from what i got. he wants to have freedom to love and enjoy his life, no more stress.

I meant renewal.not removal.BTW sorry for the typo...but you are right in your sentimentsearch he has said something along that line....but why stay friends with me and want to spend time...why say the door.could still be open we just need time but then switch to you're don't see a renewal in the foreseeable future but say you don't know what the universe has in store but still say you care for me want to spend time with me now after we get over our pain...talk to me pretty much every day multiple times has spent the night over here (no sex) and we still have a good report

generally speaking, water is introverted, and needs alot of recharging time so if you or anyone else, give him stress, he needs to get away. but he is spending alot of time with you in the beginning and you and him talking about marriage. But something happened, if you burden him with too much, he won't like it. other than what you mentioned about financial burdens, i dont know what is going between you two that he needs to keep the door open but is disengaging himself.

It most likely just means he considers you a good person, and had a really good connection with but is not really the woman he feels is right at this moment. so he keeps you as a friend but no longer considers you as anything more serious right now.

What hurts is that I agree with you wholeheartedly...and yes I did play my part and I took accountability and apologized and know I took some things for granted he admits he had his parts to play too it's just that I gave him a chance to correct it but why was it not worth giving me my chance was it too far gone at that point he admitted he should've told me when he started losing happiness.....my question is now what can I do to fix it or get him back I feel like he is that one...I feel like he's what I've always wanted the one to be like...I just want my man back

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judging from your past posts,you really really want him back .. well just from posting this and asking for help 😢

but im sorry, we don't have any way of pushing him to you back. The posters here have given you great advise that he wants his space and it is over.

you want to keep hanging on.. and to make things right,

i get that. To be honest, i feel that keeping you as a friend is more dangerous for you than for him. He has detached and disengaged but you haven't and that's not fair to you honestly.

he is one of those that don't cut it off... and maybe he is doing this for your own good. To cut off slowly,

instead of harshly and completely.

to give you some time. And also give him time.

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he's also a personal trainer and he trains me so we go to the gym two to three times a week



I guess I am just confused cuz most Scorpio cut you off why would he still hold on if he doesn't want me back...

He's not holding on cause he wants you back. He's still in contact cause your a client. He's not after the pussy he's after the money. Boy needs to pay his bills.

Yeahhhhh I don't pay him though and he works our sessions around my schedule and he pays for my meal prep....sooooo

You really want him back? Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Time to cut him off 100% . Let him know what if feels like to not have you in his life.

Soooo stop personal training and rely on my own in the gym lol jk no I fully understand what you mean and it's so hard cause when a Leo is into someone and cares it's hard to not wear our heart on our sleeve....and express our emotions....and it's hard to let go....so when he texts or calls just ignore him? I was going to just only reach out to him when he reached out to me first....give him his space and not reach out but respond when he hits me up...

When he reaches out let him know that your still in your feels and in order to heal from the breakup (he initiated) you need to have space from him.

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That is going to be so hard 😔

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I'm still friends with my scorpio ex's. But than again I'm not in love with them anymore and nor are they with me.

I think " being friends " with someone you want to be with again probably isn't the best way.

You have to re-start that romantic attraction. Act like however you did in the first place that made him want you I guess?

To restart that we would have to have constant communication we would talk often and for long periods daily....but I was very fun loving and open and cool and calm and collected so I can understand what you mean

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You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

Aww. Damn Leo. This gave me the feels. Ugh. I’m so sorry. The bittersweet.

That’s rough.

He gave you a lot of various reasons but they all have the same thread. He isn’t able to give you the kind of commitment where he could remain happily responsible to you. However much is due to his unresolved hurt with exes, the distance, his current feels, none of that matters, because it shouldn’t be your responsibility to help him heal himself. It sounds like there is a part of him which genuinely cares for you. But it’s not enough to give you what you need and what you deserve, and it sounds like he knows that.

This is also not fair to you. Not fair to still treat you like you’re together in small ways. Not fair to keep the door open but break up with you and still hang around like nothing has changed.

Since it was amiable, taking some time actually apart and maybe finding a new trainer might be helpful. Protect your heart sweet leo. Make yourself a priority and it will work itself out. Either he figures out what’s confusing him or you feel so great about yourself that you attract someone who can actually give you the love you need and deserve.

Thank you for your words love they are appreciated honestly...actually has me over here crying again...it's only been 2 weeks but my heart still feels ripped out my chest he's a damn good man...then when the part came about he doesn't see a relationship renewal in the future but never know what could happen that was worse than the initial breakup like how do your feelings switch like that....he said he meant it at the time he said it but this was how he felt now...I think because of how emotional I've been about the break up which I know is the wrong thing to do but he's been there and comforted me a lot during the breakup...I think that pushed him away some and made him feel like he made a good decision but he's just still being there for.me and talking like we are still best friends like nothing happened...I mean of course we don't have any romantic interactions but it's like automatic friend switch like we've just been friends forever...like he's not effected at all...only time.I know he has feelings is whenever we leave each other how he looks at me and stares and his eyes get cloudy then sometimes he can barely keep eye contact because his eyes get red and I see tears well up...and he hugs me tight and for a long time....I cry toof and he just let's me

Ooof. The feels.

Let me clear tho, you should in no way feel that you experiencing painful emotions is a mistake. And sharing that your hurt, that’s not pushing him away. That’s telling the truth about how you’re processing pain.

It seems like continuing to see each other is a breeding ground for resentment and confusion down the road, for you both.

Focus on yourself and what you need to do to heal yourself, work through your feelings. The relationship is over. Prioritize yourself girl. You’ll be glad later you focused more on how you feel rather than him.

I feel you healing myself 100% but I do know that being in each others space right now constantly isn't good but what sucks is we honestly do still have a great friendship...when we aren't in our feels which isn't most of the time we are always laughing and talking and having fun....and he trains me in the gym I've cut it down to seeing him at the gym to like 2 times a week and the rest on my own....but just to cut him off completely would hurt because I lost a friend too...he became like one of my best friends...you say the relationship is over...I want him back....is this just a done deal in the eyes of another mind such as yours?

In my opinion, it being just that, it seems like it’s a done deal for the foreseeable future.

I don’t think it’s impossible you’d ever be together again, but based on what you’ve written, it doesn’t seem likely you’d get back together anytime soon. If you did, it seems like it would be a year or many years down the road. Quite possibly after he (and perhaps you) dated others.

It’s hard to lose the friendship when you stop being lovers, but it’s a logical conclusion. If he or you started seeing someone else, it’d be difficult to maintain an authentic friendship yes?

If he did come back, he would need to show he’s steady and ready for something real since he was the one who lack confidence in the relationship.

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You,are right it would be hard and we have discussed it whether it would be beneficial for us to even try to maintain a friendship because he is one of those types to not be friends with women he's been with or talked to while in a relationship...this is the first relationship he's wanted to remain friends with and hasn't cut off immediately and that he still wants in his life...that's why it's so confusing for me and givespecially me hops

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You said it was amiable, who initiated the break up and what was the reasoning?

He initiated it...it's a lot but as condensed as I can make it is...we both went through a lot personally and together this year....most of the stuff we went through together was due to outside issues that occurred....his reasoning was a few different ones...we both had a lot going on and making changes I'm moving out of state next year and he felt although he cared deeply for me he felt he should be in love with me after 6 months of dating and he wasn't sure if our relationship would last long distance and get was scared of me moving and us not being able to sustain...also we had been having arguments...not a lot but they were big arguments in a condensed amount of time...he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal...he played his part too...felt like this wasn't the end...sorry rambling....but it was a few reasons...but we laughed and talked for an hour and both agreed and made love and held each other and the next day as we left each other we held each other soooo long and when I pulled back he was crying smh

aw. that is sad.

he was crying.. because he knows this is the end...

it's so sad 😢

So are you saying it's no chance of it coming back?

uh i dunno really..

i read this part:

he went through some bad financial hits and helped cause 1 of mine...said he felt jaded from past relationships and our up and down drained him some...told me I was his best friend and he felt like he was making a big mistake but felt this was something that needed to be done to help anything we have or could have and how this could make a better him.for me and us but he wants to remain friends and keep the door open for possible removal



he doesn't want more stress in his life...

from what i got. he wants to have freedom to love and enjoy his life, no more stress.

I meant renewal.not removal.BTW sorry for the typo...but you are right in your sentimentsearch he has said something along that line....but why stay friends with me and want to spend time...why say the door.could still be open we just need time but then switch to you're don't see a renewal in the foreseeable future but say you don't know what the universe has in store but still say you care for me want to spend time with me now after we get over our pain...talk to me pretty much every day multiple times has spent the night over here (no sex) and we still have a good report

generally speaking, water is introverted, and needs alot of recharging time so if you or anyone else, give him stress, he needs to get away. but he is spending alot of time with you in the beginning and you and him talking about marriage. But something happened, if you burden him with too much, he won't like it. other than what you mentioned about financial burdens, i dont know what is going between you two that he needs to keep the door open but is disengaging himself.

It most likely just means he considers you a good person, and had a really good connection with but is not really the woman he feels is right at this moment. so he keeps you as a friend but no longer considers you as anything more serious right now.

What hurts is that I agree with you wholeheartedly...and yes I did play my part and I took accountability and apologized and know I took some things for granted he admits he had his parts to play too it's just that I gave him a chance to correct it but why was it not worth giving me my chance was it too far gone at that point he admitted he should've told me when he started losing happiness.....my question is now what can I do to fix it or get him back I feel like he is that one...I feel like he's what I've always wanted the one to be like...I just want my man back

judging from your past posts,you really really want him back .. well just from posting this and asking for help 😢

but im sorry, we don't have any way of pushing him to you back. The posters here have given you great advise that he wants his space and it is over.

you want to keep hanging on.. and to make things right,

i get that. To be honest, i feel that keeping you as a friend is more dangerous for you than for him. He has detached and disengaged but you haven't and that's not fair to you honestly.

he is one of those that don't cut it off... and maybe he is doing this for your own good. To cut off slowly,

instead of harshly and completely.

to give you some time. And also give him time.

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That's the thing and also why he initially said he doesn't feel this is the end at first because every breakup he's had he has cut them.off immediately and would never be friends with them...with me.he kept the line of friendship and communication open and wants to still be in my life and help me with my goals and dreams and vice versa and i,do feel you on how it might hurt me more than him...to me it seems like he's moved on when I said something about it he said just because it's not visible like mine doesn't mean he isn't feeling or bothered and that we process emotions differently...he internalized his while mine are on front street....and yes I do want him back....I think a lot of this is still the fresh pain it's only been 2 weeks since our break up

I think you can stay friends. Eventually you go your separate ways, but I think 2 people can not be together anymore but still care as a friend. I have 2 scorps from the past that I'm still friends with. Every few years I bump into one and exchange pleasantries but it's no more than that. The other lives in a different state but he contacts me occasionally to see how I am or if he's in town to catch up. I'm still facebook friends with both. I wouldn't be in a relationship with either again, but they are both nice guys so I have no reason to hate them or erase them.

I don't know why people feel that you need to cut contact with someone when the relationship ends. If there was no intentional hurt done, it seems immature and really cold to me. It's like that saying, "people aren't loyal to you, they are loyal to the need of you. When that need changes, so does their loyalty".

Anyway, i think you should ask him if there's any chance He'll change his mind about the relationship or if he just genuinely wants to be friends. And if he says friends, believe him and don't expect anything more or hold your breath. Move forward with your own life. You can still be friends though.