Posted by sweetpea2977
Dating ONLY a month and you're already questioning your level of patience? Wow. Take it easy/slow down. New relationships are exciting.........but so is the journey. Why rush it? You're already considering commitment but what was this relationship established on a month ago? Ex., FWBs? Then you say, "...I take it as his feelings are fluctuating." But again I ask, WHAT are you two ESTABLISHING yourselves as? 🤔
Posted by jeane
yeah, slow down. not hearing from him throughout the day doesn't mean he has gone cold on you. it just means you're not the centre of his existence.
things look like they are going well. enjoy the process. he's already talking wife and you are setting yourself up to be one. the reality is you've known each other only a short time. just take time getting to know one another before putting all this pressure and expectation on where it is going.
Posted by Shayboog11Posted by jeane
yeah, slow down. not hearing from him throughout the day doesn't mean he has gone cold on you. it just means you're not the centre of his existence.
things look like they are going well. enjoy the process. he's already talking wife and you are setting yourself up to be one. the reality is you've known each other only a short time. just take time getting to know one another before putting all this pressure and expectation on where it is going.
You are right. Sometimes I can get ahead of myself, that I rush the parts I should be enjoying. Thank youclick to expand
Posted by LadyNeptune
When you say you see him several times a week does that mean date time? Quality one on one? Or is it all about business.
Posted by jeanePosted by Shayboog11Posted by jeane
yeah, slow down. not hearing from him throughout the day doesn't mean he has gone cold on you. it just means you're not the centre of his existence.
things look like they are going well. enjoy the process. he's already talking wife and you are setting yourself up to be one. the reality is you've known each other only a short time. just take time getting to know one another before putting all this pressure and expectation on where it is going.
You are right. Sometimes I can get ahead of myself, that I rush the parts I should be enjoying. Thank you
i can understand that. it's normal to be excited and start daydreaming about the future but it's that buddhist teaching that unhappiness is caused by craving. you start expecting too much too soon and it's "why didn't you call me?" "why are you pulling away?" "when are you moving in?" "you don't teat me like a queen anymore" and it's enough to drive any sane person away.
just keep doing what you are doing - having boundaries and having fun and he'll want to be around your energy. whatever you are doing is working. don't switch it up now.click to expand
Posted by Shayboog11Posted by jeanePosted by Shayboog11Posted by jeane
yeah, slow down. not hearing from him throughout the day doesn't mean he has gone cold on you. it just means you're not the centre of his existence.
things look like they are going well. enjoy the process. he's already talking wife and you are setting yourself up to be one. the reality is you've known each other only a short time. just take time getting to know one another before putting all this pressure and expectation on where it is going.
You are right. Sometimes I can get ahead of myself, that I rush the parts I should be enjoying. Thank you
i can understand that. it's normal to be excited and start daydreaming about the future but it's that buddhist teaching that unhappiness is caused by craving. you start expecting too much too soon and it's "why didn't you call me?" "why are you pulling away?" "when are you moving in?" "you don't teat me like a queen anymore" and it's enough to drive any sane person away.
just keep doing what you are doing - having boundaries and having fun and he'll want to be around your energy. whatever you are doing is working. don't switch it up now.
Oh, I am so stealing that! Those were some amazing words of wisdom and I super appreciate it. "Unhappiness is caused by craving" - That is so real!click to expand
Posted by AgentP911
OP,
What is your astro chart? Plus his chart?
If you don't know, go to astro.com and complete the birth info. Then come back and post the result. Specifically planet placement of moon, Mercury, venus, Mars. Anything more including ascendant (birth time dependent) is a bonus.
Posted by jeanePosted by Shayboog11Posted by jeanePosted by Shayboog11Posted by jeane
yeah, slow down. not hearing from him throughout the day doesn't mean he has gone cold on you. it just means you're not the centre of his existence.
things look like they are going well. enjoy the process. he's already talking wife and you are setting yourself up to be one. the reality is you've known each other only a short time. just take time getting to know one another before putting all this pressure and expectation on where it is going.
You are right. Sometimes I can get ahead of myself, that I rush the parts I should be enjoying. Thank you
i can understand that. it's normal to be excited and start daydreaming about the future but it's that buddhist teaching that unhappiness is caused by craving. you start expecting too much too soon and it's "why didn't you call me?" "why are you pulling away?" "when are you moving in?" "you don't teat me like a queen anymore" and it's enough to drive any sane person away.
just keep doing what you are doing - having boundaries and having fun and he'll want to be around your energy. whatever you are doing is working. don't switch it up now.
Oh, I am so stealing that! Those were some amazing words of wisdom and I super appreciate it. "Unhappiness is caused by craving" - That is so real!
i think buddhists say it much more eloquently but yes, that suffering comes from desire is one teaching that has always stuck with me.
as a consequence i try to appreciate what i have now at this very moment. life is going to change. for better or worse, it won't always be this way.
(i like - you can't put your foot in the same river twice too actually...)click to expand
Posted by greylaternPosted by Shayboog11
Hey Hey,
Shay here and I need some advice on my new Taurus. I'm a 33 year old scorpio, and I have been dating a 27 year old Taurus man the past month. We met while I was at work, and we ended up having a brief but deep conversation that left me super intrigued, and I instantly grew an attraction for him despite the age gap. He left without asking for my number even though we made that eye contact like we both knew the interest was there..lol. As a Scorpio, that mystery hooked me instantly. A few weeks later, he called to follow up about business and I took the call. We handled business and at the end of the call he asked me to call him as soon as I got off work, and I did. (I normally don’t mix my honey with my honey but, hey). We ended up having the best conversation over the phone for maybe and hour, then before you knew it, we were together, having more bomb conversation in person about an hour later. I told him off rip, “I’m looking for something serious, so I’m waiting on sex”. He said he was not worried about it, and that he wasn’t going anywhere, and we have been rocking ever since. I see him several days out of the week, I met a family member or two, and he has fallen in love with my cooking. He admitted he was an introvert, but he opens up to me about financial hardships he goes through, family issues, and his dreams and aspirations. I’m really feeling dude, and we know we have been in some compromising situations sexually, and let’s just say we connect on ever level.... I just know that Taurus men have a stubborn vibe to them; And not stubborn in a negative way, but they take their time before making a decision that take them out their comfort zone. And there are times that he distances himself; I may not hear from him as much throughout the day etc. As a Scorpio, I think too hard and too much, so sometimes I take it as his interest is fluctuating. I just know I would like a commitment in the near future, but I don’t want to rush him either. Should I continue to be patient with my Taurus Boo? Is this how Taurus men feel out for a potential relationship? And are Scorpio’s and Taurus’ even compatible long term wise? Thanks in advance, y’all!
Low contact doesn't mean less or lack of interest from a Taurus who is feeling secure in the relationship. The place you hold is yours. Just remember he is not you. Behaviors may not have the same meaning with him as you. If someone else starts talking and cooking for him without your knowledge, then worry lol.
If he starts asking who, what,when, and where, it's because he wants to know what's going on not that he doubts you. If you rely on him for something and he takes pride in it don't go somewhere else for it without talking to him and letting him know. (Territory). When the connection gets weak and they are invested they get needy and want to recharge/reassert it. When content they are pretty chill.
Yes jealous means you care Scorpio. Don't need to hold back. Honestly it's a turn on when expressed right. Feel free to pee on him in some way but don't restrict him.
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Posted by EvatheDiva52
Great advice WITHOUT a birth chart (yours and his). When I date, I don't ask for his time, place of birth, then run to Astro. OP got the "Aha!" moment and will work on her end (being patient and not jealous). In the long run she will win!
🤗 cyber hugs
Love,
Eva
Posted by Shayboog11Posted by EvatheDiva52
Great advice WITHOUT a birth chart (yours and his). When I date, I don't ask for his time, place of birth, then run to Astro. OP got the "Aha!" moment and will work on her end (being patient and not jealous). In the long run she will win!
🤗 cyber hugs
Love,
Eva
Thanks for the positive vibes boo! 😘click to expand
Posted by aquatar1
I'm a taurus and i like my space and peace. I dont wanna talk to my s/o 24/7 or see them 24/7. Also I often feel like I'm annoying people so I dont reach out sometimes. If hes giving you all positive signals otherwise then just relax. You should give him his space, keeps things interesting and fresh. 🙂 Dont worry
Posted by AgentP911
I was going to provide some info on the birth charts you posted but it looks like you've hidden it now.
When I dated, I would use astrology and birth charts, where possible, to gain further and additional insight and understanding into a potential partner. Why would I not?
Astrology is a great tool which can provide a wealth of information in addition to conversation, actions, social media etc.
This IS an astrology forum after all, and OP was requesting assistance based on the initial sun signs which, as some will know, is only a fraction of a birth chart. Why only look at a fraction of a picture when you can look at a little bit more?
A sun sign Taurus with a Venus in Pisces, Aries, Taurus, Gemini or Cancer will be COMPLETELY different in their love style s thus the advice or insight given, from an astrology point of view, will be different.
But hey, what do I know! 🙄
Posted by Lakeslady330
Slow down. Let him lead this. Relax in his interest. He is interested. I'm with a Taurus and I think they like to be in control of the timing, direction. Just relax.
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