Why would

someone act like this?

so there's this cheap asf guy who cheated on his gf. she was faithful and gave him a lot of freedom to do whatever he wanted. never relied on him financially ever nor nagged him about drinking or whatever. anyway, she found out and dumped him. (*dude cries after getting caught) she was faithful but he'd tell her dumb BS like: "maybe when we see each other again, you'll have a bunch of firstborn kids." (this was a time when they were having problems getting pregnant and she's never even had a single child ever like how is that even logical?). he's acted like he's so desperate to have kids.

then months later, he meets some other woman who has a child from a previous relationship. relies on him heavily with finances. sleeps with her and gets her pregnant in 3 months but never posts pics of them together with his face mask off. the next month, the girl can't contact him anymore. he was cold and barely made contact with her in general anyway. one time she posted a pic of herself with her pregnant stomach on his fb and he had her delete it telling her she looked 'slutty' but she suspects it's coz she got fat. he told her: "is that what you want? just have kids with different dads?" like after desperately wanting to get pregnant before, he just walks out? (*dude cries, accusing her of starting fights)

like wtf is this guy even about? is it the universal placements doing this? dude freakin had gone on 2 different worlds and still no wisdom?

Because some men are trash

There's movies based on this

I want to know why are these women are staying with this guy?

Posted by 51R60

If you're going to obsess over him with no end in sight, why don't you just get back together? Either you'll make it work, or you'll realize you didn't miss it.

can't help it when you get regular reports 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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Posted by 51R60

If you're going to obsess over him with no end in sight, why don't you just get back together? Either you'll make it work, or you'll realize you didn't miss it.

can't help it when you get regular reports 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

I'm serious though. Date him til you're over him. Why not?

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nah i'm over it, am just being petty 🙊🙊

Asking why someone does something is a fruitless exercise. Someone's intention is only truly known to them. This dude probably isn't even that introspective to know his own intent tho. As evidenced by saying one thing and doing the opposite and vice versa.

The only consistency he's got going for him is his desire to fuck raw and say the right things so women let him.

Posted by virgoOPPP

someone act like this?

so there's this cheap asf guy who cheated on his gf. she was faithful and gave him a lot of freedom to do whatever he wanted. never relied on him financially ever nor nagged him about drinking or whatever. anyway, she found out and dumped him. (*dude cries after getting caught) she was faithful but he'd tell her dumb BS like: "maybe when we see each other again, you'll have a bunch of firstborn kids." (this was a time when they were having problems getting pregnant and she's never even had a single child ever like how is that even logical?). he's acted like he's so desperate to have kids.

then months later, he meets some other woman who has a child from a previous relationship. relies on him heavily with finances. sleeps with her and gets her pregnant in 3 months but never posts pics of them together with his face mask off. the next month, the girl can't contact him anymore. he was cold and barely made contact with her in general anyway. one time she posted a pic of herself with her pregnant stomach on his fb and he had her delete it telling her she looked 'slutty' but she suspects it's coz she got fat. he told her: "is that what you want? just have kids with different dads?" like after desperately wanting to get pregnant before, he just walks out? (*dude cries, accusing her of starting fights)

like wtf is this guy even about? is it the universal placements doing this? dude freakin had gone on 2 different worlds and still no wisdom?

He has personal trauma giving him a split personality so to speak. He gets triggered and pushes people away. You will find the source in his childhood.

My gut says it has to do with his mother.

He is just a sick and abusive man. He enjoys power and when he can yield it he will. He just is empty inside. Doesnt feel anything and gets off to another persons pain. Doesnt matter what you do for him, the act itself is meaningless. Its the energy he drains from those ppl. If he has male friends, trust me they arent whatnhe considers "above" him and if they are he most likely has the most subtle jabs.



Some ppl are here purely to suck the life out of you

Posted by LadyNeptune

Asking why someone does something is a fruitless exercise. Someone's intention is only truly known to them. This dude probably isn't even that introspective to know his own intent tho. As evidenced by saying one thing and doing the opposite and vice versa.

The only consistency he's got going for him is his desire to fuck raw and say the right things so women let him.

when i think about it tho, why would he nag them to stop taking birth control pills? 🤔

Posted by Jan12girl

Are you going in the direction of thinking oh he loved me , he doesn't love her . He just messed up. Those are just mind games to make yourself feel better

a little bit. but someone told me that it's even worse that he cheated when we've known each other longer. he could barely make it 4 months with her but he's been with me for close to 2 years. someone told me: "it's not any better for you. might even be worse when you really think about it."

i'm kinda friends with this pregnant girl. like i know it's odd that we are but she's a nice girl. but from my observation, she's very clingy and needs a lot of validation/attention from him. she's just too available. you have to be a little cold and not always accessible to this dude. you need to always remind him that you have other options. he's that kind of guy that measures your value by how other men treat you. like why does he need to watch another man to know how to treat a woman or know how to act like a man?

shouldn't he know how to be one at 31?

but at the same breath, if other guys expressed attraction to you then he'll accuse you of 'motivating' their behavior.

Posted by cersei

Hey I have nothing but universal signs in my chart and I would NOT do this trashy low ish.

I want to know what you even saw in this guy because getting other women pregnant while he’s with you is just absolutely awful. Like I would feel so betrayed and heartbroken if I were you.

Then has the audacity to call other women a slut, like he isn’t?! Anyways I have no idea what his problem is.

oh no she got pregnant around 6 months after the breakup but yeah still a POS (she was not the sidechick, it was some other girl).

Posted by WarAngel

Everyday I come here, I become more convinced that some people like and want 'la mala vida'.

🤦🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

i didn't choose this life 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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Are you going in the direction of thinking oh he loved me , he doesn't love her . He just messed up. Those are just mind games to make yourself feel better

a little bit. but someone told me that it's even worse that he cheated when we've known each other longer. he could barely make it 4 months with her but he's been with me for close to 2 years. someone told me: "it's not any better for you. might even be worse when you really think about it."

i'm kinda friends with this pregnant girl. like i know it's odd that we are but she's a nice girl. but from my observation, she's very clingy and needs a lot of validation/attention from him. she's just too available. you have to be a little cold and not always accessible to this dude. you need to always remind him that you have other options. he's that kind of guy that measures your value by how other men treat you. like why does he need to watch another man to know how to treat a woman or know how to act like a man?

shouldn't he know how to be one at 31?

but at the same breath, if other guys expressed attraction to you then he'll accuse you of 'motivating' their behavior.

To me he sounds like a messed up and very very immature guy.

From what i know people behave as per their basic character. An ethical or a decent person no matter what kind of person he is with, will even break a relationship balancing his responsibilities . And i so look down on people who don't know how to behave with a pregnant women.

For once if you want to believe that you meant much more to him ,even then he will always act as per what's inside him. Until and unless that changes (which only is his responsibility ) he will be same with you or anyone else.

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and ironically, he think he's so mature.

we had this explosive fight that stressed me out so much that i started to bleed down there (only day that i've ever looked at his phone) coz i've been having this bad feeling about things. tbh i think i miscarried. then few months later, some girl tells me she's pregnant by him and that he's reversing the story- telling people that he got cheated on. hell i can't even keep the victim card, he just needs to look like a good guy.

sure i'll take the suffering but let people know the truth that i'm the victim here. i wanted everyone we knew to understand that he was not a good man. coz that's his only weakness- his reputation. so i molotov our reputations on social media. idc coz if you're innocent, then you'll survive the fire. dude couldn't show himself again on social media for months. even now, he has to wear a face mask.

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Posted by Jan12girl

Are you going in the direction of thinking oh he loved me , he doesn't love her . He just messed up. Those are just mind games to make yourself feel better

a little bit. but someone told me that it's even worse that he cheated when we've known each other longer. he could barely make it 4 months with her but he's been with me for close to 2 years. someone told me: "it's not any better for you. might even be worse when you really think about it."

i'm kinda friends with this pregnant girl. like i know it's odd that we are but she's a nice girl. but from my observation, she's very clingy and needs a lot of validation/attention from him. she's just too available. you have to be a little cold and not always accessible to this dude. you need to always remind him that you have other options. he's that kind of guy that measures your value by how other men treat you. like why does he need to watch another man to know how to treat a woman or know how to act like a man?

shouldn't he know how to be one at 31?

but at the same breath, if other guys expressed attraction to you then he'll accuse you of 'motivating' their behavior.

To me he sounds like a messed up and very very immature guy.

From what i know people behave as per their basic character. An ethical or a decent person no matter what kind of person he is with, will even break a relationship balancing his responsibilities . And i so look down on people who don't know how to behave with a pregnant women.

For once if you want to believe that you meant much more to him ,even then he will always act as per what's inside him. Until and unless that changes (which only is his responsibility ) he will be same with you or anyone else.

and ironically, he think he's so mature.

we had this explosive fight that stressed me out so much that i started to bleed down there (only day that i've ever looked at his phone) coz i've been having this bad feeling about things. tbh i think i miscarried. then few months later, some girl tells me she's pregnant by him and that he's reversing the story- telling people that he got cheated on. hell i can't even keep the victim card, he just needs to look like a good guy.

sure i'll take the suffering but let people know the truth that i'm the victim here. i wanted everyone we knew to understand that he was not a good man. coz that's his only weakness- his reputation. so i molotov our reputations on social media. idc coz if you're innocent, then you'll survive the fire. dude couldn't show himself again on social media for months. even now, he has to wear a face mask.

You will feel much better once you get above trying to show the world that he is a bad guy. Because when you are putting your energy into that ,you are giving him importance that he shouldn't deserve. If you are giving him too much of your mind space you are letting him enter your system. Greatest revenge is indifference , indifference from with in but that starts with indifference from outside. Ironically when you are truly indifferent , you no longer care about revenge .

Toxic situations are like some kind of a tease . They keep calling you, provoking you. You become a prisoner in some invisible room going round and round. The only distance you travel is within that room. You won't be free and at peace till you exit that room completely.

And what you expect from people by telling them what he is. You think people are so righteous that they will completely care. Some do but then those some are just few. Others are just looking for gossip . You will never get the support to satisfy you, from the world.

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idk what this sounds like to you but i want this dude to be stuck in a relationship. never single. i want him to always be struggling to maintain one. his forced commitment to somebody really appeases me.

Thank you for carrying on with this story that keeps dxpnet fascinated. Have you thought of writing a novel about him? Wizard could help 🧩

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Posted by virgoOPPP

someone act like this?

so there's this cheap asf guy who cheated on his gf. she was faithful and gave him a lot of freedom to do whatever he wanted. never relied on him financially ever nor nagged him about drinking or whatever. anyway, she found out and dumped him. (*dude cries after getting caught) she was faithful but he'd tell her dumb BS like: "maybe when we see each other again, you'll have a bunch of firstborn kids." (this was a time when they were having problems getting pregnant and she's never even had a single child ever like how is that even logical?). he's acted like he's so desperate to have kids.

then months later, he meets some other woman who has a child from a previous relationship. relies on him heavily with finances. sleeps with her and gets her pregnant in 3 months but never posts pics of them together with his face mask off. the next month, the girl can't contact him anymore. he was cold and barely made contact with her in general anyway. one time she posted a pic of herself with her pregnant stomach on his fb and he had her delete it telling her she looked 'slutty' but she suspects it's coz she got fat. he told her: "is that what you want? just have kids with different dads?" like after desperately wanting to get pregnant before, he just walks out? (*dude cries, accusing her of starting fights)

like wtf is this guy even about? is it the universal placements doing this? dude freakin had gone on 2 different worlds and still no wisdom?

He has personal trauma giving him a split personality so to speak. He gets triggered and pushes people away. You will find the source in his childhood.

My gut says it has to do with his mother.

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I agree

Most men I’ve known who have women issues have mother issues

Best avoided....

Posted by GammaArietis

I don’t think you can always explain the dynamics between two people. I dated a Sagittarius in my late teens. He was very mild mannered with me. Never even raised his voice. He dated my friend right after me and abused her in every way you can imagine. Some people trigger childhood wounds in you. Definitely not excusing abuse. How you handle those wounds determines if you’re a shit person.

Synastry is a powerful thing

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Posted by Jan12girl

Are you going in the direction of thinking oh he loved me , he doesn't love her . He just messed up. Those are just mind games to make yourself feel better

a little bit. but someone told me that it's even worse that he cheated when we've known each other longer. he could barely make it 4 months with her but he's been with me for close to 2 years. someone told me: "it's not any better for you. might even be worse when you really think about it."

i'm kinda friends with this pregnant girl. like i know it's odd that we are but she's a nice girl. but from my observation, she's very clingy and needs a lot of validation/attention from him. she's just too available. you have to be a little cold and not always accessible to this dude. you need to always remind him that you have other options. he's that kind of guy that measures your value by how other men treat you. like why does he need to watch another man to know how to treat a woman or know how to act like a man?

shouldn't he know how to be one at 31?

but at the same breath, if other guys expressed attraction to you then he'll accuse you of 'motivating' their behavior.

This is such an odd and warped situation.. your “kinda” friendship with the other girl sounds more like “keep your enemies close” type of situation. It wouldn’t be a bad idea to ask yourself your true motives for keeping this line of communication open. Remaining “friends” with her is really making it impossible for you to release this situation which is what makes me question if that’s really what you even want? She is basically your lifeline to this guy..

You paint her as this weak, spineless girl that is “too clingy, too available”, financially dependent, fat pregnant girl that he is ashamed of, while you were the victim, then you’re turning around trying to find reasons that might justify his actions. He called the mother of his child slutty… regardless of his subconscious reasoning for making the choices that he has, or regardless of what you think she could do better in the relationship.. none of that matters. You are truly the only person you can control in this situation and you should really be psycho-analyzing yourself and your own motives rather than trying to psychoanalyze the two of them.

At the end of the day, does it even really matter? As long as you occupy yourself trying to figure him out, you will keep overlooking the very obvious fact that he has been disgusting toward both you AND the pregnant girl, and there are no winners in this situation regardless of how you paint the picture.

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that's my opinion. in fact, i've even told her that she might try not to appear like that coz he's so emotionally-manipulative. and it wasn't me that said she's fat. it was her who said that she suspects that was the reason. and she has nothing to do with our breakup (it was another girl before her) so she and i share a common distaste for this hoe. i mean, women's body shape changes when they're pregnant and that's not her fault.

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Thank you for carrying on with this story that keeps dxpnet fascinated. Have you thought of writing a novel about him? Wizard could help 🧩

at most, this dude is a long footnote