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Posted by PV&Jellaythanks, pv.
I don't. I have a lot of beautiful female friends who make me look like Cinderella's ugly step sister, but I dont see them as competition. And the men who chose them, would never have chosen me any way. I just get in where I fit in. The perks of beings average. What I find is that beautiful women are way more toxic and catty towards each other.
I wouldn't compare myself to them anyway. those friends of yours are chosen for a reason, and your time will come.
Posted by cliqueyyou are a very bad bad ....Posted by PV&JellayHow nicely put
I don't. I have a lot of beautiful female friends who make me look like Cinderella's ugly step sister, but I dont see them as competition. And the men who chose them, would never have chosen me any way. I just get in where I fit in. The perks of beings average. What I find is that beautiful women are way more toxic and catty towards each other.
We average women should all strive to be like pvjelly, because that's the healthy and balanced outlook on more beautiful women.
What a nice end to this thread 🙂click to expand
*smh*
Posted by lisabethur8
for women, mostly but men too can contribute.
do you feel threatened when there's another woman in the room that gets a lot of attention, or gets a lot of looks from men?
How much jealousy /envy do you have when you encounter this?
And what /why do you feel this way?
is it only because the men has chosen that woman are the men you want??
Does she make you insecure so badly that you want to hurt her?
not threatened maybe jealous and angry, but only if the girl is getting attention from someone i like. if she is getting attention from someone i am not interested in, does not bother me. okay if in a relationship and SO is doing this then definitely will feel anger and maybe insecurity. more than hurting the girl, will want to hurt the guy (or want him to get hurt) haha
I experience this.
especially at work. elsewhere I normally don't care, because I'm too oblivious to what goes on around me. however at work it's totally different.
I work retail but it's predominantly men. an electronic store. kind of typical where I'm at that it's mostly men with women sprinkled in each department. currently we have no women in the computers department (not that you care about these details but my Virgo moon is on a roll), a few in the mobile phone department where I work, front lanes, and a few in home theater.
anyways back to the point.
whenever we hire women into the mobile department, I get guarded. idk if it's jealousy or pride. I'm normally the center of attention, and I like to stay there. management likes me. I'm sociable. I get along with everyone in the store.
I blame my first house dominance and libra ascendant. I also have a Leo MC which probably doesn't help lol.
see, at a bar I'm like "ok whatever" because I'm doing my thing. they're doing theirs. I normally don't pay attention to other women at the bar or social settings. though I'll note maybe if I like a girls dress or notice if a woman is exceptionally attractive. if my crush talked to her maybe I'd feel some type of way, but at the same time I know I'd never make a move on a crush so I'd be rational enough to tell me I have no right to be jealous. I might be a bit sad, but I'd appreciate that id still have him as a friend. but I'd understand why he chose her. etc. in the workplace...totally different ballpark. I feel that my "throne" is "threatened".
it's super weird. new men don't bother me, because I get along with men in general very easily. women...I usually get along with them too. my whole "threatened" phase ends pretty quickly, because I realize my ego complex needs to take a chill pill. I end up becoming friends with my female coworkers. it's all in my head really. I get over it as fast as it hits.
probably that first house dominance mixed w my Leo MC makes me go into overdrive in the workplace.
my thought process is very bizarre. I have Uranus and Neptune in the 3rd, so I guess it makes sense that my brain is a weird place 😛
now if a girl starts flirting with my man....that's also another ballpark. I won't be upset if he doesn't act overly friendly back to her. but I'll get sulky and upset if he gets flirty with them. or if I perceive it to be flirting. I don't like competing with other women, so I don't. if a guy chooses to flirt with another woman over me, I disappear into the background (after being sad and sulky). if he wants me, he'll chase me. if he doesn't, he won't. that's my mindset on that matter. just happened recently actually... a "friend" of mine decided to flirt w my guy. well he said it was nothing and chased me again with an apology. however, I perceived it as disrespectful.
especially at work. elsewhere I normally don't care, because I'm too oblivious to what goes on around me. however at work it's totally different.
I work retail but it's predominantly men. an electronic store. kind of typical where I'm at that it's mostly men with women sprinkled in each department. currently we have no women in the computers department (not that you care about these details but my Virgo moon is on a roll), a few in the mobile phone department where I work, front lanes, and a few in home theater.
anyways back to the point.
whenever we hire women into the mobile department, I get guarded. idk if it's jealousy or pride. I'm normally the center of attention, and I like to stay there. management likes me. I'm sociable. I get along with everyone in the store.
I blame my first house dominance and libra ascendant. I also have a Leo MC which probably doesn't help lol.
see, at a bar I'm like "ok whatever" because I'm doing my thing. they're doing theirs. I normally don't pay attention to other women at the bar or social settings. though I'll note maybe if I like a girls dress or notice if a woman is exceptionally attractive. if my crush talked to her maybe I'd feel some type of way, but at the same time I know I'd never make a move on a crush so I'd be rational enough to tell me I have no right to be jealous. I might be a bit sad, but I'd appreciate that id still have him as a friend. but I'd understand why he chose her. etc. in the workplace...totally different ballpark. I feel that my "throne" is "threatened".
it's super weird. new men don't bother me, because I get along with men in general very easily. women...I usually get along with them too. my whole "threatened" phase ends pretty quickly, because I realize my ego complex needs to take a chill pill. I end up becoming friends with my female coworkers. it's all in my head really. I get over it as fast as it hits.
probably that first house dominance mixed w my Leo MC makes me go into overdrive in the workplace.
my thought process is very bizarre. I have Uranus and Neptune in the 3rd, so I guess it makes sense that my brain is a weird place 😛
now if a girl starts flirting with my man....that's also another ballpark. I won't be upset if he doesn't act overly friendly back to her. but I'll get sulky and upset if he gets flirty with them. or if I perceive it to be flirting. I don't like competing with other women, so I don't. if a guy chooses to flirt with another woman over me, I disappear into the background (after being sad and sulky). if he wants me, he'll chase me. if he doesn't, he won't. that's my mindset on that matter. just happened recently actually... a "friend" of mine decided to flirt w my guy. well he said it was nothing and chased me again with an apology. however, I perceived it as disrespectful.
nah, don't care.
I don't like attention either.
so you're not alone.
but I do get feelings of jealousy /envy from women.
is it because im married— and my husband isn't beating me?
*smh*
so you're not alone.
but I do get feelings of jealousy /envy from women.
is it because im married— and my husband isn't beating me?
*smh*
No, I would not feel threatened at all. In fact, I would feel a sense of relief that the attention has been taken off of me.
The only time when I would feel irritated or annoyed is when said woman would use the attention to try to manipulate a competition out of the situation. Especially if I do not wish to prove myself to anyone, and am more than happy to let the attractive woman take the floor. However, if they become catty or desperately try to engage me in a twisted battle of sorts then my irritation could easily turn into anger depending on the day and how far they would dare push my boundaries.
On second thought, if I see a woman getting a lot of attention because she is desperately throwing herself out there in such a way to garner said attention. Then yes, I would feel extremely annoyed if I was stuck within the same vicinity as said woman. The sheer level of desperation would be revolting to me or worse, the sheer level of idiocy in the men who would fall for such trickery.
If neither of the above, I may myself also admire the woman who is garnering all the attention from the men. Some women simply radiant an energy that is very charismatic, and I could appreciate that. Anything that is aesthetically pleasing to the eye, I would admire and if that happened to be in the form of a beautiful woman I would admire alongside with the men but from a far.
However, if it were my man who happened to be one of those men who garnered said attention then it would depend on the circumstance. If he completely forgets about me, rudely dismisses me, or began gawking at the woman then he would immediately be left on the spot and I would let him finish his business until he realises I am gone. I would hate to make a scene and there would be no point in doing so as it would be highly embarrassing.
The only time when I would feel irritated or annoyed is when said woman would use the attention to try to manipulate a competition out of the situation. Especially if I do not wish to prove myself to anyone, and am more than happy to let the attractive woman take the floor. However, if they become catty or desperately try to engage me in a twisted battle of sorts then my irritation could easily turn into anger depending on the day and how far they would dare push my boundaries.
On second thought, if I see a woman getting a lot of attention because she is desperately throwing herself out there in such a way to garner said attention. Then yes, I would feel extremely annoyed if I was stuck within the same vicinity as said woman. The sheer level of desperation would be revolting to me or worse, the sheer level of idiocy in the men who would fall for such trickery.
If neither of the above, I may myself also admire the woman who is garnering all the attention from the men. Some women simply radiant an energy that is very charismatic, and I could appreciate that. Anything that is aesthetically pleasing to the eye, I would admire and if that happened to be in the form of a beautiful woman I would admire alongside with the men but from a far.
However, if it were my man who happened to be one of those men who garnered said attention then it would depend on the circumstance. If he completely forgets about me, rudely dismisses me, or began gawking at the woman then he would immediately be left on the spot and I would let him finish his business until he realises I am gone. I would hate to make a scene and there would be no point in doing so as it would be highly embarrassing.
Posted by Prince_PiscesI don't have many girlfriends either. or guy friends.
I don't think I feel threatened or jealous towards anyone. It's usually them feeling that way towards me, which is one reason I don't really have any gay friends. Unless you just count the ones who want to fuck me.
and the few I do have are married now. lol
Posted by puhleezethis sounds normal to me.Posted by lisabethur8
for women, mostly but men too can contribute.
do you feel threatened when there's another woman in the room that gets a lot of attention, or gets a lot of looks from men?
How much jealousy /envy do you have when you encounter this?
And what /why do you feel this way?
is it only because the men has chosen that woman are the men you want??
Does she make you insecure so badly that you want to hurt her?
not threatened maybe jealous and angry, but only if the girl is getting attention from someone i like. if she is getting attention from someone i am not interested in, does not bother me. okay if in a relationship and SO is doing this then definitely will feel anger and maybe insecurity. more than hurting the girl, will want to hurt the guy (or want him to get hurt) haha
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@degenerate that's a long list you wrote...but I kind of agree with you. lol
Posted by TheLadyScorpioI don't like those types of women, throwing themselves at men.
No, I would not feel threatened at all. In fact, I would feel a sense of relief that the attention has been taken off of me.
The only time when I would feel irritated or annoyed is when said woman would use the attention to try to manipulate a competition out of the situation. Especially if I do not wish to prove myself to anyone, and am more than happy to let the attractive woman take the floor. However, if they become catty or desperately try to engage me in a twisted battle of sorts then my irritation could easily turn into anger depending on the day and how far they would dare push my boundaries.
On second thought, if I see a woman getting a lot of attention because she is desperately throwing herself out there in such a way to garner said attention. Then yes, I would feel extremely annoyed if I was stuck within the same vicinity as said woman. The sheer level of desperation would be revolting to me or worse, the sheer level of idiocy in the men who would fall for such tricks.
If neither of the above, I may myself also admire the woman who is garnering all the attention from the men. Some women simply radiant an energy that is very charismatic, and I could appreciate that. Anything that is aesthetically pleasing to the eye, I would admire and if that happened to be in the form of a beautiful woman I would admire alongside with the men but from a far.
However, if it were my man who happened to be one of those men who garnered said attention then it would depend on the circumstance. If he completely forgets about me, rudely dismisses me, or began gawking at the woman then he would immediately be left on the spot and I would let him finish his business until he realises I am gone. I would hate to make a scene and there would be no point in doing so as it would be highly embarrassing.
I like your description of those types of women who garner attention from men. I see/imagine a photo of my favourite scorpio woman/pisces moon, Gene Tierney. So beautiful and elegant. she doesn't have to WANT attention.
when I first saw her films with my grandma and mother, I fell in platonic love.
http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Gene_Tierney
Born: November 19, 1920, 5:15 PM
In: Brooklyn Heights (NY) (United States)
Sun: 27°18' Scorpio AS: 10°21' Gemini
Moon: 9°34' Pisces MC: 15°56' Aquarius
Dominants: Scorpio, Pisces, Capricorn
Neptune, Mercury, Uranus
Houses 6, 10, 5 / Water, Earth / Mutable
http://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Gene_Tierney
Born: November 19, 1920, 5:15 PM
In: Brooklyn Heights (NY) (United States)
Sun: 27°18' Scorpio AS: 10°21' Gemini
Moon: 9°34' Pisces MC: 15°56' Aquarius
Dominants: Scorpio, Pisces, Capricorn
Neptune, Mercury, Uranus
Houses 6, 10, 5 / Water, Earth / Mutable
Nope. I have lots of attractive friends. I don't usually notice guys checking me out, my friends have to tell me.
Posted by PV&Jellaycliquey is being sarcastic again i'm afraid. I think being confident helps men want a certain type of woman.Posted by lisabethur8Daww my time always comes. I'm single because I'm picky as heck.Posted by PV&Jellaythanks, pv.
I don't. I have a lot of beautiful female friends who make me look like Cinderella's ugly step sister, but I dont see them as competition. And the men who chose them, would never have chosen me any way. I just get in where I fit in. The perks of beings average. What I find is that beautiful women are way more toxic and catty towards each other.
I wouldn't compare myself to them anyway. those friends of yours are chosen for a reason, and your time will come.click to expand
a man who chooses you because you're shy, that's good! he loves you for you. i'm only confident because of my husband. If I weren't married I would have fake confidence. lol trying to prove i'm happy when i'm not happy inside.
Posted by Koniuchaait's something kind of subtle.Posted by lisabethur8What does your husband not beating you have anything to do with this scenario?
I don't like attention either.
so you're not alone.
but I do get feelings of jealousy /envy from women.
is it because im married— and my husband isn't beating me?
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hard to explain. When women see you doing ok, doing well and happy with a good man, and their lives are not happy, (this only happens I notice if they are unhappy) they will tear you down.
Posted by Greenteaif men are looking at me, it's an " energy" feeling though...I can feel their eyes on me. if they are too much intensity and I get the feeling someone is looking...it's a CREEPY feeling.
Nope. I have lots of attractive friends. I don't usually notice guys checking me out, my friends have to tell me.
then I turn and see they really are. and some never look away.
i'm obliviouis only if i'm around other people talking. because I pick up the energies of othr people around me and the energy of any one else outside is not " picked" up.
all those other energies of other people are then therefore picked up who are closer to me.
unless you feel someone boring holes into your back very intently for a long while then you feel it very intesnsely.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by TheLadyScorpioI don't like those types of women, throwing themselves at men.
No, I would not feel threatened at all. In fact, I would feel a sense of relief that the attention has been taken off of me.
The only time when I would feel irritated or annoyed is when said woman would use the attention to try to manipulate a competition out of the situation. Especially if I do not wish to prove myself to anyone, and am more than happy to let the attractive woman take the floor. However, if they become catty or desperately try to engage me in a twisted battle of sorts then my irritation could easily turn into anger depending on the day and how far they would dare push my boundaries.
On second thought, if I see a woman getting a lot of attention because she is desperately throwing herself out there in such a way to garner said attention. Then yes, I would feel extremely annoyed if I was stuck within the same vicinity as said woman. The sheer level of desperation would be revolting to me or worse, the sheer level of idiocy in the men who would fall for such tricks.
If neither of the above, I may myself also admire the woman who is garnering all the attention from the men. Some women simply radiant an energy that is very charismatic, and I could appreciate that. Anything that is aesthetically pleasing to the eye, I would admire and if that happened to be in the form of a beautiful woman I would admire alongside with the men but from a far.
However, if it were my man who happened to be one of those men who garnered said attention then it would depend on the circumstance. If he completely forgets about me, rudely dismisses me, or began gawking at the woman then he would immediately be left on the spot and I would let him finish his business until he realises I am gone. I would hate to make a scene and there would be no point in doing so as it would be highly embarrassing.
I like your description of those types of women who garner attention from men. I see/imagine a photo of my favourite scorpio woman/pisces moon, Gene Tierney. So beautiful and elegant. she doesn't have to WANT attention.
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Gene Tierney was a stunning beauty, I wish we got to see more of her work.
Ah, not only was she beautiful but the sheer strength she had in all that she faced and the life events that were thrown at her.
What a wonderful lady.
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@degenerate that's a long list you wrote...but I kind of agree with you. lol
yes, your great novelist is back. aka me. LOL.
yeah. I'm reading other responses and maybe I am not on the same wavelength as others in comprehending the question. my brain is elsewhere it seems. hopefully I answered correctly.
such as the social scene/setting. I agree with being on the spectrum of NOT wanting attention. I like to do what I'm doing and stay near my friends/be background noise. but I definitely notice things like "wow that dress is awesome- wish I could pull that off" (not really in an envious way but more in a admiring way), etc. I definitely wouldn't want to do harm to the poor girl lol. it's not right to be jealous of someone for just being pretty. unless they are flirting with my man. then there might be some issues. other than that, I don't think there's reason to be jealous. and anyone who wishes them harm is mean! and so wrong! there's no point in that.
the only place I like the be the queen is at work. but normally I take new hires under my wing anyways, male or female, because I don't want them to fail. our retail store is a mess with training. no one really gets trained. it's more like a sink and swim type job. I do what I can but still want to have my pedestal.
kind of weird. I never paid much attention to this question until now. nor have I realized how much my Leo MC really does affect my public persona/profession/career. makes sense. I have to be the queen at work. hilarious. and it's only retail. LOL. I'm such a weirdo. it's ok. once I come back down to earth, all is well.
hopefully I answered it right this time... haha.
@TheLadyScorpio, yes she is my favourite actress! today's actresses don't compare IMO.
anyway I gotta get to bed, hubby wants to sleep. so thanks for the replies!! have a great weekend, and happy 4th of july!!
anyway I gotta get to bed, hubby wants to sleep. so thanks for the replies!! have a great weekend, and happy 4th of july!!
Posted by lisabethur8Oh yes I know that feeling, there's times I catch men looking, and some keep it going, and inch their way closer.Posted by Greenteaif men are looking at me, it's an " energy" feeling though...I can feel their eyes on me. if they are too much intensity and I get the feeling someone is looking...it's a CREEPY feeling.
Nope. I have lots of attractive friends. I don't usually notice guys checking me out, my friends have to tell me.
then I turn and see they really are. and some never look away.
i'm obliviouis only if i'm around other people talking. because I pick up the energies of othr people around me and the energy of any one else outside is not " picked" up.
all those other energies of other people are then therefore picked up who are closer to me.
unless you feel someone boring holes into your back very intently for a long while then you feel it very intesnsely.
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I was just trying to answer your question, the no I don't get jealous bcuz I barely notice who's checking me out so I definitely won't notice who's checking out my friends or another attractive woman in the room.
I'll notice a goodlooking guy but I won't get jealous if he's checking out someone else, I haven't invested anything in him so why should I be, that's my logic. 🙂
Threatened? No.
If she's beautiful then she's beautiful. I would only feel some type of negative towards her if she was full of herself and sought attention or got jealous if I got attention.
It's not that serious in my opinion. If you're not interested in any of the guys, why get jealous? I don't flirt with anyone that I don't like, or if I'm unsure of the situation. Guys gravitate towards me for looks. But they stay for my personality. I can talk to guys and be normal so I'm often with the guys and girls equally. But mostly guys *shrug*
If there was a guy another woman liked, she can be woman enough to tell me. Shit, I would want to help her get the guy! Open communication is my way, not petty school girl drama.
If she's beautiful then she's beautiful. I would only feel some type of negative towards her if she was full of herself and sought attention or got jealous if I got attention.
It's not that serious in my opinion. If you're not interested in any of the guys, why get jealous? I don't flirt with anyone that I don't like, or if I'm unsure of the situation. Guys gravitate towards me for looks. But they stay for my personality. I can talk to guys and be normal so I'm often with the guys and girls equally. But mostly guys *shrug*
If there was a guy another woman liked, she can be woman enough to tell me. Shit, I would want to help her get the guy! Open communication is my way, not petty school girl drama.
@lisabethur8 I really like Gene Tierney too. I'm going to watch the documentary you posted tonight for sure!
I haven't been in that situation very often, or maybe I have but I've been oblivious. When I'm out somewhere I'm paying attention to the people I'm with and/or whatever I'm doing more than anything.
I can even be oblivious when men are checking me out - friends of mine are usually more aware of it than I am and point it out to me.
Anything I can recall that comes close to the situation described hasn't been threatening to me. I'm not interested in getting attention from lots of men at a time - too overwhelming. And I only want attention from decent guys, not just anyone.
It would only feel bad to me if there was a man I knew and was really attracted to and he paid a lot of attention to someone else instead in a way that made it clear that he was more attracted to/interested in them than to me. The rare times that's happened I've lost interest in the guy in question pretty quickly. It was clear I wasn't his thing therefore that can't work, time to move on.
Like some other posters have written, I can admire beautiful women, and be inspired by the beauty, maybe even get ideas about how to improve my own looks.
I can even be oblivious when men are checking me out - friends of mine are usually more aware of it than I am and point it out to me.
Anything I can recall that comes close to the situation described hasn't been threatening to me. I'm not interested in getting attention from lots of men at a time - too overwhelming. And I only want attention from decent guys, not just anyone.
It would only feel bad to me if there was a man I knew and was really attracted to and he paid a lot of attention to someone else instead in a way that made it clear that he was more attracted to/interested in them than to me. The rare times that's happened I've lost interest in the guy in question pretty quickly. It was clear I wasn't his thing therefore that can't work, time to move on.
Like some other posters have written, I can admire beautiful women, and be inspired by the beauty, maybe even get ideas about how to improve my own looks.
Don't care to be honest.
I admire beautiful women like nobody's business.
I think this might be a Leo trait too tho...
If my girls are looking good it's a pleasure to meh, we build each other up.
I can always spot the hot chick who's been alienated by other women and always make an effort to talk to her coz that fucking sux. It's kind of like being ostracised based on weight or race- superficial bias.
AND nobody else bothers because people assume if she's good looking that she must be getting the attention she wants.
It's true to some degree, but it may not be the right kind of attention.
Also, as an average joe myself, who generally lets the team down by never making an effort, I like to take advantage of what's known as the 'cheerleader effect'
Hotties make me look good too hahahahahaahah 😎
I admire beautiful women like nobody's business.
I think this might be a Leo trait too tho...
If my girls are looking good it's a pleasure to meh, we build each other up.
I can always spot the hot chick who's been alienated by other women and always make an effort to talk to her coz that fucking sux. It's kind of like being ostracised based on weight or race- superficial bias.
AND nobody else bothers because people assume if she's good looking that she must be getting the attention she wants.
It's true to some degree, but it may not be the right kind of attention.
Also, as an average joe myself, who generally lets the team down by never making an effort, I like to take advantage of what's known as the 'cheerleader effect'
Hotties make me look good too hahahahahaahah 😎
Posted by wagtailMe too, only I don't have any Leo or 5th house planets.
I admire beautiful women like nobody's business.
I think this might be a Leo trait too tho...
In my childhood and teen years I drew a lot, and usually it was beautiful women. I one time drew pictures for a modelling agency I made up, showing all of the models and I gave them exotic names.
Posted by CopperDovePosted by wagtailMe too, only I don't have any Leo or 5th house planets.
I admire beautiful women like nobody's business.
I think this might be a Leo trait too tho...
In my childhood and teen years I drew a lot, and usually it was beautiful women. I one time drew pictures for a modelling agency I made up, showing all of the models and I gave them exotic names.
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True. It's not exclusively Leo to admire beauty hahaha
How cool is that do you still draw? 🙂
If she has a nice phat juicy plump ass then that negates everything else
Posted by wagtailhaha, yes. I have Taurus and Libra influences so that maybe contributes. 🙂Posted by CopperDovePosted by wagtailMe too, only I don't have any Leo or 5th house planets.
I admire beautiful women like nobody's business.
I think this might be a Leo trait too tho...
In my childhood and teen years I drew a lot, and usually it was beautiful women. I one time drew pictures for a modelling agency I made up, showing all of the models and I gave them exotic names.
True. It's not exclusively Leo to admire beauty hahaha
How cool is that do you still draw? 🙂
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Thanks! I don't draw now, but maybe one day I'll get back into it.
Posted by CopperDovePosted by wagtailhaha, yes. I have Taurus and Libra influences so that maybe contributes. 🙂Posted by CopperDovePosted by wagtailMe too, only I don't have any Leo or 5th house planets.
I admire beautiful women like nobody's business.
I think this might be a Leo trait too tho...
In my childhood and teen years I drew a lot, and usually it was beautiful women. I one time drew pictures for a modelling agency I made up, showing all of the models and I gave them exotic names.
True. It's not exclusively Leo to admire beauty hahaha
How cool is that do you still draw? 🙂
Thanks! I don't draw now, but maybe one day I'll get back into it.
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You are indeed a Venusian Scorp 😎 😘
Posted by wagtailhaha, yes! 😎 😘Posted by CopperDovePosted by wagtailhaha, yes. I have Taurus and Libra influences so that maybe contributes. 🙂Posted by CopperDovePosted by wagtailMe too, only I don't have any Leo or 5th house planets.
I admire beautiful women like nobody's business.
I think this might be a Leo trait too tho...
In my childhood and teen years I drew a lot, and usually it was beautiful women. I one time drew pictures for a modelling agency I made up, showing all of the models and I gave them exotic names.
True. It's not exclusively Leo to admire beauty hahaha
How cool is that do you still draw? 🙂
Thanks! I don't draw now, but maybe one day I'll get back into it.
You are indeed a Venusian Scorp 😎 😘
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Posted by PV&Jellay
I don't. I have a lot of beautiful female friends who make me look like Cinderella's ugly step sister, but I dont see them as competition. And the men who chose them, would never have chosen me any way. I just get in where I fit in. The perks of beings average. What I find is that beautiful women are way more toxic and catty towards each other.
Me too. Either I make friends with them or are indifferent. No jelly here.
Im average but im sexy af lol
So while a 10 might walk into the room I'll get a little stiff but then I'll remind myself the number of admirers I have and relax that's there's enough for everyone.
So while a 10 might walk into the room I'll get a little stiff but then I'll remind myself the number of admirers I have and relax that's there's enough for everyone.
Nope..never jealous or uncomfortable but I know I'm attractive and have never had a hard time getting men. I have nothing to worry about and I don't care.
I'm going to try and answer as honestly as possible: yes, I feel threatened when a woman (whom I perceive to be more attractive than me) walks into the room and garners the attention, affection, and admiration from men. My mind immediately goes into comparison mode where I compare her to me, unjustly. That leads to feelings of envy: I love her clothes, she has such beautiful hair, her eyes are amazing, she has a beautiful voice. Truth be told, so do I! So I accept how I feel, and I repeat a mantra, such as:: "I am beautiful, I am kind, I am loved, and I am loving."
Positive self-talk such as the above mantra truly helps those feelings melt away, and I then smile and treat the woman kindly. My motto is: "If I think something positive about another person (woman), tell her." That counters any feelings of envy that crops up inside myself unwittingly and/or unwillingly.
I don't feel jealous as I do envy. The only time I remember feeling jealous was when there was a student in my class who I thought was smarter. I loved my professor's admiration and attention and didn't want to lose it.
My boyfriend is crazy about me, and there is a special level of security that comes along with it (that adds another layer to the feminist self-love.) I don't get jealous because my BF loves me too much, and so I am not afraid of losing him to another woman (just afraid of losing him myself.) While I don't seek out the attention of men nor want it, getting it is flattering to my ego (but if it's too intense, it's consistent, or it's prolonged) then I begin to feel stressed and want to retreat into my shell. It's nice knowing that men find me attractive, but that's all that my ego really needs - I don't want a follow-through of any kind because my Love's actions are all that I want.
Anywho, I have just come to accept that the green goblin is part of tenge human (female) condition; at least in my case. Accepting that has allowed me to manage it, and that has made me into a better woman (person), I hope.
Positive self-talk such as the above mantra truly helps those feelings melt away, and I then smile and treat the woman kindly. My motto is: "If I think something positive about another person (woman), tell her." That counters any feelings of envy that crops up inside myself unwittingly and/or unwillingly.
I don't feel jealous as I do envy. The only time I remember feeling jealous was when there was a student in my class who I thought was smarter. I loved my professor's admiration and attention and didn't want to lose it.
My boyfriend is crazy about me, and there is a special level of security that comes along with it (that adds another layer to the feminist self-love.) I don't get jealous because my BF loves me too much, and so I am not afraid of losing him to another woman (just afraid of losing him myself.) While I don't seek out the attention of men nor want it, getting it is flattering to my ego (but if it's too intense, it's consistent, or it's prolonged) then I begin to feel stressed and want to retreat into my shell. It's nice knowing that men find me attractive, but that's all that my ego really needs - I don't want a follow-through of any kind because my Love's actions are all that I want.
Anywho, I have just come to accept that the green goblin is part of tenge human (female) condition; at least in my case. Accepting that has allowed me to manage it, and that has made me into a better woman (person), I hope.
wow great responses.
to be honest it's NOT the beauty, but the person themselves.
and you get the feelings of nastiness because why—
I covet and desire too, but for some reason i'm not threatened by beautiful outward appearance of women.
that's not the issue.
so in reality, when I get shit on...it's because of what "I HAVE"....
and that might be inner happiness.
that's what i'm talking about too.
because even beautiful women have great sadness inside.
to be honest it's NOT the beauty, but the person themselves.
and you get the feelings of nastiness because why—
I covet and desire too, but for some reason i'm not threatened by beautiful outward appearance of women.
that's not the issue.
so in reality, when I get shit on...it's because of what "I HAVE"....
and that might be inner happiness.
that's what i'm talking about too.
because even beautiful women have great sadness inside.
Posted by CopperDoveIt's enjoyable but so very very sad.
@lisabethur8 I really like Gene Tierney too. I'm going to watch the documentary you posted tonight for sure!
Posted by wagtailI am the same way. and im not a leo.
Don't care to be honest.
I admire beautiful women like nobody's business.
I think this might be a Leo trait too tho...
If my girls are looking good it's a pleasure to meh, we build each other up.
I can always spot the hot chick who's been alienated by other women and always make an effort to talk to her coz that fucking sux. It's kind of like being ostracised based on weight or race- superficial bias.
AND nobody else bothers because people assume if she's good looking that she must be getting the attention she wants.
It's true to some degree, but it may not be the right kind of attention.
Also, as an average joe myself, who generally lets the team down by never making an effort, I like to take advantage of what's known as the 'cheerleader effect'
Hotties make me look good too hahahahahaahah 😎
edit - it might be because too, why I get on very very well with my cancer sun/pisces moon gf, she has leo venus and we "get" eachother without jealousy or envy.
d has Capricorn mars. I notice Capricorn doesn't get jealous either if it's their friend/bff.Posted by Greenteayes, I had a Cap sun gf, with aqua venus/mars,pisces moon, she's the same way. also my gf has cap mars.Posted by lisabethur8Oh yes I know that feeling, there's times I catch men looking, and some keep it going, and inch their way closer.Posted by Greenteaif men are looking at me, it's an " energy" feeling though...I can feel their eyes on me. if they are too much intensity and I get the feeling someone is looking...it's a CREEPY feeling.
Nope. I have lots of attractive friends. I don't usually notice guys checking me out, my friends have to tell me.
then I turn and see they really are. and some never look away.
i'm obliviouis only if i'm around other people talking. because I pick up the energies of othr people around me and the energy of any one else outside is not " picked" up.
all those other energies of other people are then therefore picked up who are closer to me.
unless you feel someone boring holes into your back very intently for a long while then you feel it very intesnsely.
I was just trying to answer your question, the no I don't get jealous bcuz I barely notice who's checking me out so I definitely won't notice who's checking out my friends or another attractive woman in the room.
I'll notice a goodlooking guy but I won't get jealous if he's checking out someone else, I haven't invested anything in him so why should I be, that's my logic. 🙂
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it has to be Capricorn energy with some other energy that doesn't mind at all.
Posted by lisabethur8Definitely! I didn't know about any of that until I watched it. I can understand why she struggled as she did.Posted by CopperDoveIt's enjoyable but so very very sad.
@lisabethur8 I really like Gene Tierney too. I'm going to watch the documentary you posted tonight for sure!
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Posted by Arielle83?? what's that supposed to mean. I wrote a response to this to konichua.Posted by lisabethur8Is it normal for men to beat women, where you're from, and that's why you think they're jealous cuz you don't get beat?
I don't like attention either.
so you're not alone.
but I do get feelings of jealousy /envy from women.
is it because im married— and my husband isn't beating me?
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if you read carefully, it is because of what "I HAVE".....
women covet. they desire. if they see something that they feel LACKING...they will tear down that woman.
why? well they are hurting inside.
I mean does it make any excuse that they tear that woman down??
it has NOTHING to do with beauty in my personal opinion. OK sure the woman is OK looking, decent even, but she's not a stunning supermodel.
shes just an average woman. who has inner happiness. and they see her happy with material things, or a good man on her side,
something that a lot of women COVET.
you can admire from afar, of course.
but some women go out of their way to tear you down.
it doesn't happen often of course, but I've been privy to it.
it has NOTHING to do with beauty in my personal opinion. OK sure the woman is OK looking, decent even, but she's not a stunning supermodel.
shes just an average woman. who has inner happiness. and they see her happy with material things, or a good man on her side,
something that a lot of women COVET.
you can admire from afar, of course.
but some women go out of their way to tear you down.
it doesn't happen often of course, but I've been privy to it.
Posted by SensitiveBlueswow you two have never felt these feelings before what I described below??Posted by Arielle83Seriously the arrogance of that post.Posted by lisabethur8Is it normal for men to beat women, where you're from, and that's why you think they're jealous cuz you don't get beat?
I don't like attention either.
so you're not alone.
but I do get feelings of jealousy /envy from women.
is it because im married— and my husband isn't beating me?
*smh*
LisaBerth show us your picture, we'll tell you if you're cute or not.
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then you don't understand. All you get is arrogance from me. when i'm trying to explain.
It has nothing to do with beauty at all.
and why are you getting that feeling that i'm arrogant?
do you get arrogace/ confidence confused? of course i'm gonna get pissed off that women do that to me.
Posted by SensitiveBluesthis!!!!Posted by Arielle83Oh ya that's freaking gross, i totally agree.Posted by SensitiveBlues
Right Arielle,
but surely i don't know why any woman would be jealous of someone just cause they're more attractive, every beautiful woman i know is nuts, absolutely ridiculously cray cray
lol
Well the babes are usually confident.
The trollops and chicks with daddy issues are in need of attention and insecure is what I mean.
I had a fat lady go up to my husband at a club and put her hands on his chest and tried to grab him. He pushed her so far away, she went flying like bugs bunny out of a cannon.
They chase whereas the confident ones are just chilling.
I me a friend of a friend out this fri. I had no interest in her cuz all she wanted to do was find divk and leave us. My Virgo friend told me she's that chick that gets depressed when she can't take a man home.
So I had nothing to chat to her about. She actually tried to get competitive with me when some bearded freak started chatting me up. She told him I'm married and should talk to her.
Stay away desperation!!!
my point tho still stands, and not say all beautiful women, but my sag friend makes me want to choke her, and she's hot and confident.
maybe its cause she's a sag tho and not cause she's so pretty
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it maybe a FIRE sign thing but i'm not a sag, and not a leo but I have Leonine traits I notice.
weird. You are supposed to have leo venus and leo moon. My gf is proud and arrogant and she's cancer /pisces moon with leo venus. You are so very different.
and Arielle you have aries rising.
people on here on dxp have said you are like an aries.
you are not like an aries at all, because they are also kind of PROUD and arrogant.
you would "GET" what i'm talking about.
and sensitiveblues hit it on the spot.
which is so freaking WEIRD since she is supposed to be leo dominant.
EDIT - so why is it my cancer sun/pisces moon gf with leo venus is PROUD, and has an arrogance and she gets ALOT of attention too.
but you both start tearing me down by being catty and saying that "i hate that shit and let me see the photo" of yourself.
it isn't about beauty at all. It's about CONFIDENCE.
people on here on dxp have said you are like an aries.
you are not like an aries at all, because they are also kind of PROUD and arrogant.
you would "GET" what i'm talking about.
and sensitiveblues hit it on the spot.
which is so freaking WEIRD since she is supposed to be leo dominant.
EDIT - so why is it my cancer sun/pisces moon gf with leo venus is PROUD, and has an arrogance and she gets ALOT of attention too.
but you both start tearing me down by being catty and saying that "i hate that shit and let me see the photo" of yourself.
it isn't about beauty at all. It's about CONFIDENCE.
Posted by degenerate_ingenuePosted by lisabethur8😆
@degenerate that's a long list you wrote...but I kind of agree with you. lol
yes, your great novelist is back. aka me. LOL.
yeah. I'm reading other responses and maybe I am not on the same wavelength as others in comprehending the question. my brain is elsewhere it seems. hopefully I answered correctly.
such as the social scene/setting. I agree with being on the spectrum of NOT wanting attention. I like to do what I'm doing and stay near my friends/be background noise. but I definitely notice things like "wow that dress is awesome- wish I could pull that off" (not really in an envious way but more in a admiring way), etc. I definitely wouldn't want to do harm to the poor girl lol. it's not right to be jealous of someone for just being pretty. unless they are flirting with my man. then there might be some issues. other than that, I don't think there's reason to be jealous. and anyone who wishes them harm is mean! and so wrong! there's no point in that.
the only place I like the be the queen is at work. but normally I take new hires under my wing anyways, male or female, because I don't want them to fail. our retail store is a mess with training. no one really gets trained. it's more like a sink and swim type job. I do what I can but still want to have my pedestal.
kind of weird. I never paid much attention to this question until now. nor have I realized how much my Leo MC really does affect my public persona/profession/career. makes sense. I have to be the queen at work. hilarious. and it's only retail. LOL. I'm such a weirdo. it's ok. once I come back down to earth, all is well.
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I agree with you on anyone who wishes them harm is just mean.
the story here about a woman going to gay men for bffs is terrible and she gets harassed. but my point wasn't really about beauty. If you notice, Gene Tierney is so gorgeous but she has an inner sadness. we love her because of her sadness. Not because we want her to be sad, but because we understand her sadness and want to comfort that.
and this is why dominant fiery men love me, CASE in point like this topic.
which in real ilfe has been consistently TRUE. not joking here.
because fiery men love confidence. I am married to a fire and water dominant man.
my first husband was fire and water dominant too.
the air dominants usually want to kick my ass and beat me to death.
this is what I notice.
that's why air dominants in astrology get with air dominants.
it's as if air dominant folks don't like "Confidence" or something.
I have no idea.
correct me if i'm wrong. It is just my personal experience.
I am highly incompatible with air dominants because my chart is more earthy/water and I have a strong packed fire house, fire houses.
which in real ilfe has been consistently TRUE. not joking here.
because fiery men love confidence. I am married to a fire and water dominant man.
my first husband was fire and water dominant too.
the air dominants usually want to kick my ass and beat me to death.
this is what I notice.
that's why air dominants in astrology get with air dominants.
it's as if air dominant folks don't like "Confidence" or something.
I have no idea.
correct me if i'm wrong. It is just my personal experience.
I am highly incompatible with air dominants because my chart is more earthy/water and I have a strong packed fire house, fire houses.
so astrology is going in MOTION here...
I can get along with female air dominants just fine, of course but the men, I don't know why they don't like that. it's the incompatibility. that's why they say in sun sign, it's not good with earth and water with air.
correct me if i'm wrong of course. lol i'm open to what you all experience. i'm only one person here with my own personal experience. lol
I can get along with female air dominants just fine, of course but the men, I don't know why they don't like that. it's the incompatibility. that's why they say in sun sign, it's not good with earth and water with air.
correct me if i'm wrong of course. lol i'm open to what you all experience. i'm only one person here with my own personal experience. lol
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do you feel threatened when there's another woman in the room that gets a lot of attention, or gets a lot of looks from men?
How much jealousy /envy do you have when you encounter this?
And what /why do you feel this way?
is it only because the men has chosen that woman are the men you want??
Does she make you insecure so badly that you want to hurt her?