Are Virgos super sexual?...

my boyfriend and I have a great sex life - but I know he does self love in privacy in the bathroom at least daily in the mornings if not at least 5x/week.

we have sex almost every other day.

also when i've asked him about it (or doing things together) he's almost embarrassed about it and won't admit to it - only that he does that when I'm not around but I know it's true (I can sometimes hear it).

I also know he looks at porn daily and likely self loves involves that - again he denies he looks at it when he's w/me but once we got really drunk and he admitted to all of this only to deny it the next day (?!)

Just wondering if they are very sexual people?....and if that is something perhaps they would hide include daily porn watching?

He's a Virgo; I'm a Cancer. He's 35 and I am 40.

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How can you tell if it's normal behavior or an addiction?

As a girl I really don't know what men do in this regard.

So yeah unsure why he hides it at 35. I don't mind he does it but hiding it is strange. Sometimes we can do things together!? No he wants it to be alone time.

Yes I agree. I mean like I said we have a great relationship physically and emotionally. He does please me.

Also I looked up his search history once just to make sure it's not something bad and it's not - normal "guy" stuff so unsure why he feels the need to hide it and lie about it.

it depends on what is in his mars and moon signs. Cant really generalize some sun signs sexuality unless they are scorps, aries, and sags 😉

Self love is important me time.

The only issue I see here is him lying to you about it. Why does he feel the need to hide it from you. Maybe focus more on that.

Bad Santa vibes?

So I'm not bothered by it - I think LadyNeptune hit it on the head - the hiding and lying about it is strange and I don't get that.

He's not super religious so that's not it.

He denies it adamantly even when I have said I don't mind if it doesn't interfere w/us - it's natural and I'm fine with it. He will go into a whole "Babe I don't do this around you or when we are together (we basically live together but not actually)...so I don't know what to think about that!

@moonrvr46 - can you give us both your charts - moon, mars, venus?

That will help make a better determination on him

5 times a week? I would be happy getting it 2-3 times a week. I realize most women dont have a high sex drive like me - (unless they also have a sag mars too) If Im dating someone unless they are sick or having their period, sex 7 times a week would be great ideally.

But again I know most womens sex drive is not as high as mine, so 2 to 3 times a week is something I can compromise on. I know he doesnt complain about getting it more, but he shouldnt

That is very rare you find a woman that would have sex 5 times a week. he should count his lucky stars.

Im in that guys shoes too, if im getting sex below what I would like (but dont want to burden my partner with my libido) i would do self love too But I would own it. Your girlfriend is not just your friend she is your lover as well. Honesty is the best policy here.

I’m always in the mood so I never say no.

I wasn’t trying to make him feel bad. I agree and I was telling him he doesn’t need to hide it when he’s doing it. Like if you want privacy you can go to a bedroom and do the same. I do not care. Honestly I’m very sexual so might be fun to do together sometimes but he won’t.

The reason I brought it up is because we went through a phase where he was doing that more than having sex and it was impacting us. I get sometimes you just want to wank off but I have needs too.

Also from what I understand sex is better than masterbating for guys?

Haha thanks.

I’m a girl with a high sex drive. I can self move and go have sex twice a day.

Maybe I have issues?! Lol.

I’m a cancer. Moon is Aquarius. Rising is Leo.

I sure what his are.

Not shaming him. Trying to tell him as long as we are good he’s good too - I get wanting to do a self quickie.

I have seen history. Big boobs. Normal stuff.

What?! What is that??

Virgos are sexual in my experience. Probably the most sexual sign I've been with. They are always open about things too.

As far as private time that's his business not yours. I rarely ask about it unless I think I caught him or if hes home alone I might joke and ask if he did or is doing it.

Not everyone is comfortable masturbating in front of others or talking about it in detail. I don't like doing it in front of my lovers and I don't get off playing with myself in front of them... if I do it in front of them its mainly to endulge them and their fantasy but I'm not getting off on it and would rather not do it.

Only time I'll talk about it is if im feeling sassy and might mention the fact that I got myself off but won't talk about how or what I was watching or thinking about.

I also don't get off by watching them do it nor do I want to.

Point is...its not everyone's cup of tea and you pushing him to talk about it is probably making things worse. I'd be so annoyed if I were him.

Posted by moonrvr46

Honestly I’m very sexual so might be fun to do together sometimes but he won’t.

Its his alone time tho. So suggesting you want to 'do it together' kinda defeats the purpose.

Posted by blackphvse

Posted by LadyNeptune

Self love is important me time.

The only issue I see here is him lying to you about it. Why does he feel the need to hide it from you. Maybe focus more on that.

The fact that she made this post tells me she doesn't approve. He likely knows that and may be embarrassed. I wouldn't wanna talk about self love with someone who was going to try to make me feel shame about it.

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True. Or he was in a relationship in the past where he was shamed for masturbating/watching porn and is hesitant to talk about it freely because of that baggage he's still carrying.

moonrver46 -

What is your mars? Just curious. Because usually in my experience, people with a aqua moon (unless they have mars in scorp, sag, aries or leo), tend to veer towards a medium-low sex drive.

Virgos like what we like. Unfortunately, many signs can't keep up. It's simply one of the love expressions to us, and we have a healthy balance in each. Keep up or keep it pushing...

Well I can keep up - problem is that sometimes he chooses that over sex...I don't get it but whatever.

Posted by moonrvr46

my boyfriend and I have a great sex life - but I know he does self love in privacy in the bathroom at least daily in the mornings if not at least 5x/week.

we have sex almost every other day.

also when i've asked him about it (or doing things together) he's almost embarrassed about it and won't admit to it - only that he does that when I'm not around but I know it's true (I can sometimes hear it).

I also know he looks at porn daily and likely self loves involves that - again he denies he looks at it when he's w/me but once we got really drunk and he admitted to all of this only to deny it the next day (?!)

Just wondering if they are very sexual people?....and if that is something perhaps they would hide include daily porn watching?

He's a Virgo; I'm a Cancer. He's 35 and I am 40.

I'm more intrigued by the fact that you refer to masturbating as "self love", and your boyfriend feels he has to hide that he is engaging in something very natural.

As for your question, I have found Virgos to be very sexual and passionate if they feel comfortable and safe to express themselves.

He does it for variety. He gets tired of looking at the same woman over and over so he jacks to porn.