I finally asked my virgo crush out

I finally found the courage to ask my Virgo crush out.

I had a crush on him for 4 months and would see him at his workplace maybe twice a month.

Every time I would see him he would get quite around me. But talkative with the guy friends.

Even a couple of his coworkers would try to flirt or talk to me but it was him that had my eye all along.

After 3 months I finally started short conversations with him which were nice he's very smart!

So the other day when I went in there and he tried to not speak but I started a conversation, made some jokes which he engaged in to break the ice.. the next day I texted him telling him I enjoyed our talk are you single. He texted me back "Hey! Yeah, I'm single." So asked if he was busy this weekend and that she go out some place I'm still pretty new to the area. He texted me back that "he was busy this weekend but we can chill sometime"

How long would be a good time to wait for a response to see if he is interested? The ball is in his court and I don't plan to text him again if I don't hear from him..which I hope isn't the case.

I am a Capricorn with Pisces Moon

He is a Virgo with Gemini moon

..Thoughts and experience for Capricorn Women Dating Virgo men

I don't know how I feel about that response he he gave......

Posted by Weeds
I don't know how I feel about that response he he gave......

Yes for me it wasn't like he said "I'm busy this weekend but next Tuesday would be good" right? But I do know that he does get the most gigs on the weekends. I think it is either he didn't have the funds or he's dealing with multiple women but... I don't hold either against him being that we haven't even gone on a date yet and we both are single.

Posted by DecFemCap

How long would be a good time to wait for a response to see if he is interested?

Or what?

There is no wait time. You make it sound like you gave him an ultimatum and now it's up to him to perform for you according to an expectation of yours, and now how long do you wait until you do what? exactly?

You haven't even gotten his attention yet, and already you're trying to control his movements.

You must be a living hell to date.

^ she's a pisces

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by DecFemCap

How long would be a good time to wait for a response to see if he is interested?

Or what?

There is no wait time. You make it sound like you gave him an ultimatum and now it's up to him to perform for you according to an expectation of yours, and now how long do you wait until you do what? exactly?

You haven't even gotten his attention yet, and already you're trying to control his movements.

You must be a living hell to date.

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Calm down babyboomer..I'm as fun as dating as you are..

And there is no or what or ultimatum. I'm simply asking what would a time frame to hear from someone to see if they are interested. Never asked a man out before so I was jus anxious I guess.

Posted by Sunsetvirgo
^ she's a pisces

I'm a Pisces moon..and?

I'll just do what the other person didn't do and answer the question....don't push a Virgo.....just be patient

I'll just do what the other person didn't do and answer the question....don't push a Virgo.....just be patient

When my virgo dude is busy, that's usually means he's really busy and I've learned not to bother him until he's free...so if you're just getting to know him especially, wait until his busy weekend is over at least...

Posted by breterpan
also.. not trying to bum you out or anything, but from my Virgo perspective, if I'm into going on a date or hanging out with someone new, I usually don't give such a vague response like "we can chill sometime." if I'm busy at the time you propose but I'm into it, I'd be like.. damn!! I can't make it this weekend but what are you doing (day that I'm free).

I usually say yeah sure, we can meet up sometime when I'm not enthusiastic about it at all

You guys are a CHALLENGE​ in the beginning...lol..

Posted by DecFemCap

Posted by Sunsetvirgo
^ she's a pisces

I'm a Pisces moon..and?

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I was talking about p-angel. You were asking Virgos about Virgos on the Virgo board. Just wanted u to know she wasn't a Virgo.

Posted by breterpan
also.. not trying to bum you out or anything, but from my Virgo perspective, if I'm into going on a date or hanging out with someone new, I usually don't give such a vague response like "we can chill sometime." if I'm busy at the time you propose but I'm into it, I'd be like.. damn!! I can't make it this weekend but what are you doing (day that I'm free).

I usually say yeah sure, we can meet up sometime when I'm not enthusiastic about it at all

This the text:

Me: Hey I enjoyed talking to you the other day, are you single?

Him: Hey my name! Yeah I'm single

Me: Cool! You busy this weekend? Let's go kick it some place still new to the area.

Him: Okay cool. This weekend is a little busy weekend but we can chill sometime.

Me: Okay cool. Well just hit me up and we play it by ear.

Him: Okay cool

You: Thoughts??

Exact words and puncuations

I think it would have been appropriate to go off on him as soon as that "sometimes"

"oh oh what what's this sometime business— I ain't good enough for you all the time?

I ain't good enough for a specific damn time for your ass? Why your ass single anyway? You got herpies or something? Can't get it up? Something must be wrong with you if all you got to say is "we can chill SOMETIME" you know what? Fuck your sometime. Maybe you can sometime be a man"

Posted by Weeds
I think it would have been appropriate to go off on him as soon as that "sometimes"

"oh oh what what's this sometime business— I ain't good enough for you all the time?

I ain't good enough for a specific damn time for your ass? Why your ass single anyway? You got herpies or something? Can't get it up? Something must be wrong with you if all you got to say is "we can chill SOMETIME" you know what? Fuck your sometime. Maybe you can sometime be a man"

LMAO!

Posted by DecFemCap

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by DecFemCap

How long would be a good time to wait for a response to see if he is interested?

Or what?

There is no wait time. You make it sound like you gave him an ultimatum and now it's up to him to perform for you according to an expectation of yours, and now how long do you wait until you do what? exactly?

You haven't even gotten his attention yet, and already you're trying to control his movements.

You must be a living hell to date.

And there is no or what or ultimatum. I'm simply asking what would a time frame to hear from someone to see if they are interested.

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Of course there is a "or what" .... that is exactly what you implied in the sentence. You don't get implications?

so, if you get a time frame and he doesn't respond in that period, then what?

It's as if you have another option open, and you'll wait this time frame .... and then what? chase him down again? ignore him? go kill his dog? what?



There is no time frame, yet you're asking this question and putting a question mark at the end to imply that you'll do something else if he isn't living up to your expectation.



the fact that you cannot even manage to get what you say .. isn't my problem. Maybe you should have paid more attention, rather than discriminating against generations.

What other groups of people do you call out to discriminate against?

Posted by Weeds
I think it would have been appropriate to go off on him as soon as that "sometimes"

"oh oh what what's this sometime business— I ain't good enough for you all the time?

I ain't good enough for a specific damn time for your ass? Why your ass single anyway? You got herpies or something? Can't get it up? Something must be wrong with you if all you got to say is "we can chill SOMETIME" you know what? Fuck your sometime. Maybe you can sometime be a man"

That would make a killer rap song Weeds

🙂

He's not serious about you. Had to learn this the hard way. They will give a date and if they don't he will string you along if you insist or it will never get anywhere. Back off and if he contacts you for a date then go for it, if not don't waste your time and go on other dates. The guy is out there Hun it just doesn't seem like it's him.

If you want something you'd go for it right? Like me wanting to get to know him better. But at the same time if he wants me ..he would have had a better response.. or at least try to keep in touch. So I'll just leave it there. Thank you for your input and I still feel great that I didn't let my fears stop me from asking a man out. I feel empowered either way!

Not quitting just not holding my breath either

Update:

It's been two weeks since I told him I'm interested in him...nothing.

So I assumed that you win some you lose some and began to move on.

But every time I post anything on social media he likes it!

Which I know that doesn't mean that he's interested necessarily but.

I posted a lot today and he liked everything! which I think was intentional to get my attention.

IDK.. I just needed to come out here and type it out to avoid doing something stupid like texting him.

I mean.. I gave him the ball in his hand by saying HEY OVER HERE! I like you! But he still hasn't texted me to even try to get coffee to see where this could go.. as friends or just taking this slow..wtf.

Anyway, I don't want to text him but I want to hear from him. I feel like he is playing games. I'm starting to learn if it its too difficult to get off the ground it won't fly well... but boyy I felt a connection with this man and man did I want it to at least get this tension to the airport you know? See if we could catch us a flight. LOL

But I think I just needed to come here to release it.

Comment if you like or just leave it be.

Peace.