Reasons an Aqua would block you and act like you dont exist.

Hi

As part of my growing after breaking up with my ex who is an aqua, I would like to know reasons of why she would suddenly act as if I don't exist.

We broke up due to her parents not agreeing with our relationship and I do admit to chasing her to rectify the situation and get back with her. I do admit that I may have been pushy with her and she was the one that wanted a friendship and then made no effort.

Now the last time we spoke about our relationship she did say that she hopes she doesn't regret her decision.

Since then she has removed me on snap chat, insta and blocked me so I cant contact her.

She recently went through a phase or looking at me at work and I emailed her to ask to tell ive noticed this and if she has something on her mind. She responded by saying "I think that she is looking at me when she isn't and she may just be looking my direction for a work related matter" I said, ok cool, just wanted to clarify.

Now the one thing that was bugging me was I found out she was seeing her ex and I sent her an email saying that I have been told of this and if there was any dialogue between them two during our time together, and if she told my mate intentionally so it would get back to me. I didn't receive a response so I have just let it lie.

My question is, what are the reasons an aqua would block me, then go from ignoring me to acting funny around me at work, then back to me not existing?

Me ex is a very private person, and she told my friend enough details of her relationship for me to work out that it is her ex?

We broke up in September and the last conversation we had was in November.

Any advice is appreciated. I do still have feelings for her and if its over then I do want to learn from my mistakes, grow and move on.

Thanks in advance

why does her parents not like you?

some details?

@seraphlight - Did I go overboard with her? I did really love this girl and one of my closest mates did tell me that my behaviour towards her was completely out of character. My emotions did get the better of me. I admit it. Did I really scare her off? If so I would like to apologise and set things straight.

@lisabethur8 - it was an age difference. Before they found out about my age, there was no issue when it came to her family for me. Her family completely accepted our relationship but once they found out my age they said no. This resulted in my ex completely shutting down and becoming distant and not talking to me at all. I gave her space for about a month. When she told me it was over, I did try to reconcile but I wasn't constantly messaging etc. During that time when I did try and make an effort to reconcile she also said that she would talk to me and but never did.

On a separate note, I send her the email about her seeing her ex boyfriend for the following reasons.

- She broke up with him because his parents did not agree to the relationship so in effect it was a dead end.

- She got back with him very quickly after we broke up. I understand people have rebounds but what concerned was because it was a deadend between them two, was there any dialogue between them while we were together. The way she told my mate at work, she gave her enough information for me to work out she is back with her ex. Why would she tell a 3rd person and not come and talk to me about it?

she is dependent on her parent's wishes and desires,

so if you can't please her parents, then there's nothing you can do.

sounds like yet another weird aqua characteristics after a break up.. I went thru something similiar last year. One thing i learned from dating an aqua is that they are very selfish. For example, you will try to seek them they will ignore you but once they want something from you they will come running back lik nothing occurred. I would personally move on. If two people love each other they will make it work. Seems like maybe she. never loved you in that way. Let her go, let her fly into her magical weirdness lol

@lisabethur8 - yes I totally agree. My ex did say to me that she expected her parents to be shocked but didn't expect them to point blank refuse. I stopped existing in their house and they never mentioned me after they found out my age.

@Dracula - you could well be right mate. The problem is I work with this girl so I see her everyday. I did seek her and didn't get very far. She blocked me on social media and wots app within the first month of breaking up and then on the phone later. The last time I asked her to reconcile she said lets move on - so I agreed and never bothered her afterwards. She wanted to be friends and I asked her out for a coffee as mates (maybe she took that wrong). Nodded her head saying yes but her mouth said I will think about it. What is it she possibly wants from me? When she went from ignoring me to looking at me and acting uncomfortable around me I asked her if she had something on her mind and she just said I think she is looking at me. Do you think she will be back at some point if I go back to ignoring her? I doubt it because I have sent her an email asking about her ex, that's a pretty done deal, so if she did come back then that just un does all her work of blocking/ignoring me.

She did love me I don't doubt that she was amazing girlfriend, I just think the love she has for her folks is stronger which I can understand. In any essence its her loss and she will regret it one day, I know that because she has already said that to me. I just want to understand the reasons for her being so distant and ghosting me so that if we do ever talk Im prepared and can set a few things straight (not in a bad or aggressive way)

If she told you to move on than thats what she wants. Aqua females don't sugarcoat words or feelings when it comes down to what they really want. She may have looked at you because she might of thought about you at that moment, or she found out you know about the ex situation and was trying to see if you were mad from a reaction. Maybe she has a secret that you dont know about and she is feeling guilty, you never know. I would just move on, and not talk to her anymore.

She's just not that into you, sorry

Posted by dracula
If she told you to move on than thats what she wants. Aqua females don't sugarcoat words or feelings when it comes down to what they really want. She may have looked at you because she might of thought about you at that moment, or she found out you know about the ex situation and was trying to see if you were mad from a reaction. Maybe she has a secret that you dont know about and she is feeling guilty, you never know. I would just move on, and not talk to her anymore.

yeah that could be it.



some women don't feel "secure" about certain men. They can't trust deeply, and if there's no trust. never mind. she doesn't feel very secure about you, so she allows her parents to get in the way and it is better for her.

i'd move on.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by dracula
If she told you to move on than thats what she wants. Aqua females don't sugarcoat words or feelings when it comes down to what they really want. She may have looked at you because she might of thought about you at that moment, or she found out you know about the ex situation and was trying to see if you were mad from a reaction. Maybe she has a secret that you dont know about and she is feeling guilty, you never know. I would just move on, and not talk to her anymore.

yeah that could be it.



some women don't feel "secure" about certain men. They can't trust deeply, and if there's no trust. never mind. she doesn't feel very secure about you, so she allows her parents to get in the way and it is better for her.

i'd move on.

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exactly, totally agree with you

Posted by dracula
sounds like yet another weird aqua characteristics after a break up.. I went thru something similiar last year. One thing i learned from dating an aqua is that they are very selfish. For example, you will try to seek them they will ignore you but once they want something from you they will come running back lik nothing occurred. I would personally move on. If two people love each other they will make it work. Seems like maybe she. never loved you in that way. Let her go, let her fly into her magical weirdness lol

I agree I am guilty of ignoring people and contacting them when I need something. Very selfish of me.

Posted by aquarius_beauty
I feel like this is a three part topic. I wrote about it here:

Why is an Aquarius ignoring me?

https://aquariusinterpreter.tumblr.com/post/155471489303/why-is-my-aquarian-ignoring-me

How an Aquarius re-acts to heartbreak?

https://aquariusinterpreter.tumblr.com/post/155693303413/how-an-aquarius-re-acts-to-heartbreak

Aquarius after break-ups

https://aquariusinterpreter.tumblr.com/post/155745537373/aquarius-after-breakups

I read through them and very good insight. Love it!

Thanks for all the replies guys I do appreciate it.

The reality is I don't think anyone can compete with her folks. She is very close to them.

I don't understand her need to completely block me and then act like I exist to then acting like I don't exist again.

Wow..... that write up is amazing. My ex did exactly what was written when we broke up. She hardly spoke to me but accommodated me until she had enough. There was a few times where I asked her to talk to her folks again and she agreed and it was the last time I asked she said she didn't want to talk to them and lets move on.

So post break up the blocking me, ignoring me, looking at me etc is just her way of dealing with the break up? Its been almost 6 months now.

She definitely ghosted me... the thing about her being with her ex, theres a lot to say its not true, but would an aqua lie about such a thing and if so why and what do they want to achieve.

from my personal view, I just wish that we could talk and clear things up and just move on.

Hi.

After reading everything let me tell you this:

If for some reason we don't trust you - We are not gonna be there

If we see that there is no future for us being together - We are not gonna be there

If we simply don't like you - We are not gonna be there

Sometimes you will never know what the real reason is because 1. We know that even if you knew the reason, this is not going anywhere

2. If I say I do trust you or a future together you might still try very hard to make it happen and prove your point and prove me wrong but we see the "future" we can see ourselves not being happy with that person and feelings are not strong enough.

Because I can tell you that if an Aqua is really in love with you and she can see that the two of you can have a future together then, she will be there, she will stay there and work for it.

We don't like to rely on other people for our happiness. We are not the type of "let's try and see if you make me happy" we are the type that will say "I'm happy around you and you are happy around me...therefore we can be happy together"

Even without much effort we can see that being around certain people makes us feel happy and comfortable, that's where we are gonna be.



Rarely another person will influence an aqua per say her Parents decisions but if she does take them into consideration then there must be a different reason.

If she really loved you she would have done anything to prove to her parents that you are a good man who she will be happy with.

If it's been 6 months and she hasn't contacted you to "try again" she never will... I'm sorry..but as an Aqua when we move on... we move on completely.

Yes, she will act like nothing happened, like you guys are simply friends and even good friends without feeling awkward of having other feelings come up. Because in our heart and mind you no longer have that place, it doesn't mean that we still love you as a good person and friend.

I'm sorry but I think she moved on.

Posted by MrR78
I don't understand her need to completely block me and then act like I exist to then acting like I don't exist again.

You work together.... How is that hard to understand. She was most likely trying to keep things peaceful there.

Things end, she needed time to heal/move on. You work at same place and WILL see each other, she realized this and attempted to keep that work relationship intact. I'm assuming you took it as she was interested in working things out between you guys (your email about her "looking at you") that obviously didnt work so she went back to being her and doing her thing aka acting like you don't exist. She HAS moved on, you haven't. She knows this, hence the you dont exist thing.

She is trying to live her life... You feel like you don't exist because she's not meeting your view of how she should be, that's all on you dude. Move on.

6 months is a long time, but for an Aqua I know its not. they like to take things really slow. Im not saying that you should wait for her, not at all. Just try to be yourself, without her in your mind. Do not show her anything, I think it was a mistake you emailing her. Yes, maybe she was trying to reach you, but you should have waited to see what happens, or approach her face to face in a casual way. Not email her saying something like "what do you want?".

thats just my opinion. Im no expert in Aquas, but I've learned from my mistakes with mine.

So, again, DO NOT expect anything from her now. Do you thing and if she gives you some more SERIOUS hints, AND if you want something, then pursue. But not now. You will seem needy and clingy.

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Posted by dracula
sounds like yet another weird aqua characteristics after a break up.. I went thru something similiar last year. One thing i learned from dating an aqua is that they are very selfish. For example, you will try to seek them they will ignore you but once they want something from you they will come running back lik nothing occurred. I would personally move on. If two people love each other they will make it work. Seems like maybe she. never loved you in that way. Let her go, let her fly into her magical weirdness lol

"Some" aquas are very selfish

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Not some.Most Aquas are selfish. One sign that is very clever about their self interest is Aqua. They know what they need to do to get what they want. If they put you above their selfish need, they are into you.

@ Bav - I waited atleast 3 weeks before emailing her.

But yes all of you are right. I need to move on.

The only thing that bugs me is if she went back to her ex, because that was a dead end as his parents disagreed so it could not progress further.

Everyone else thank you very much for taking the time out and providing me with advice.

I really appreciate it

Posted by Capmercury87
Aqua here speaking for all aquas that plot to answer this,,,you are clingy as heck just reading this makes me feel like being alone where I can cleanse my chakras

He is not clingy, as I've been 🙂))) But its like something hit me 2 days ago and I realized it 🙂))) Its so good to detach your emotions 🙂

Btw, one question for the OP: as you guys work together, do you talk to each other? Or you work in the same place but not have work related things in common? Just curious...

We hardly talk to each other at all.

The shortened version of the story is this.

On 31 October when we last spoke, she did say to me that she could not imagine not talking to me and wanted to be friends. I said I wasn't sure and she said she understood. Her request seemed genuine as in it was not a fob off of any kind.

Two days later I agreed to being friends and made an effort with her. She gave me nothing back except for one day mid November where I waited for her and we had a pleasant chat. Through out that day looks were exchanged along with smiles and she emailed me. I responded it was all light hearted and then she just stopped communicating again.

So I left her to it she knows where I am and occasionally it was just a hello when our paths crossed, other times she would ignore me. Until recently where she was looking at me and I approached her asking if she had something to talk about like you already know.

So no we are back to pretending we don't exist to each other.

We work in the same department but different jobs so we do see each other very often during the day.

As for work related stuff we do have somethings that cross over, but I tend to avoid any interaction with her now.

Im asking this because although me and the Aqua work in different department, different floors, we have some work in common. And it might be my imagination, but sometimes I feel like she talks to me work related stuff over whatsapp, but there was no need for that discussion, she could have checked her email and not ask me this or that, or she could have emailed me, with a quick question/reminder.

On the other hand, this was how we rolled before June last year, when something sparked between us: talking 90% work related stuff in a casual manner, from time to time (every 3-4 weeks). But now seems like she is looking for pretexts to chat. Although I don't indulge her whims. Im not sure if its true, but I dont care that much anymore.

She might well be mate. I don't know how aquas work.

For example today as I was going to the gents she was coming out of the ladies, I did a half assed smile and was met with the same thing. Then later in the day I spoke with a work colleague and she turned around and looked.

Im going to give you the advice you gave me lol - Don't act unless there is something substantial.

I read somewhere that some aquas try and reach out so you make the first move - well in my case it backfired.

If its bugging you mate - just ask and especially now if you don't really care or have any intentions of getting back with her, then her answer shouldn't phase you.

As for your imagination, you may be right. Before I approached my ex, I had 2 people in the office I told just to make sure I wasn't being paranoid and they both agreed that I am getting looked at.

Who knows mate, just do what you think is right by you. You don't owe her anything, so if you finding out helps you then go ahead and ask, if it doesn't phase you then leave things as they are.