Posted by Parkourler
I need to vent.
The honeymoonphase ended, and I realized, that she Pisses me off big time. I quietly endured her snapping, her blunt behavior, because I thought that I gotta rise up to the Occasion, be man enough
for her, I told myself I gotta be not butthurt, I gotta stand up for myself. I wasnt that bad actually, I quickly
calmed her down with hugs and jokes, sometimes I yelled back, that felt good. So we got along, until
I realized that these are not antics, she is aggressive and impulsive by nature.
You can be outside your Comfort zone to grow, but if being outside your comfort zone you have to
put up with behavior that is against everything you stand for, then I ve got no business there.
Being snapped very often, pisses me off big time. I am a gentle peaceful guy, deep inside. I dont
want to feel irritated all the time. Why THE treetrunk is it okay to be unfriendly to people? I know she doesnt mean to cause harm, she has a short fuse.
I dont like blunt talking. Bluntness can be funny, when she makes pretty mean jokes, but it also can
be downright, inconsiderate and ruthless.
I tried very hard to be unphased, because I kinda accepted the thinking: Hey, at least we are not fake,
you are too sensitive / weak if you cannot handle it. NO NO NO.
1. Yes you guys are not fake, but so what. It is possible to express harsh truth in a careful way.
Sometimes it is necessary to be blunt in order to snap the guy out, you gotta be careful not to be mean.
No, that has nothing to do with insecurity or not having balls.
I dont like impulsive Behavior, just jumping into the water without factchecking can cause serious blowbacks.
I guess Taurus and Aries are just not comfortable. I am so tired and burned out. My Conclusion:
Opposite people are only good for affairs, not for relationships, because that requires lots of talking things through, lots of fighting, we are unable to fulfill each others needs. I will only have relationships with Woman with who I have a lot in common, like cancer woman, or virgo woman. Unfortunately I have
to rule out Scorpio woman too.
I am so tired, I dont hold any grudges, I want her to have a relationship with a guy who is similar to her in terms of temper, interests, values etc because that will make her happy. Knowing that I will never be that guy, breaks my heart. We both deserve to be happy.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Next time don't be disingenuous and then blame the other person when they were being 100 from the start.
Posted by enfant_terrible
Congratulations. We need more dudebros like this in the 21st century.
Posted by UnicornSag
why even bother being with someone with whom you don't get along?
Posted by Parkourler
Jeses Christ, I answered your questions. Read again.
OK. So nothing positive?
We laughed a lot.
Then OK understand.
What you want fairy tale?
I want harmony and peace.
Can't you handle her?
At first, I couldnt butI learned, my conclusion is I dont want to handle her. I was unhappy. Read again.
For Aries and scorpio weak no need to apply. Yeah, that is the standard reply, If men cant handle them,
they are weak. My perspective is that some kind of behaviors are downright rude. I understand, label men as weak is easier than to take an honest, look in the mirror.
No thas has nothing to with weakness, I went from "weakness" to competence. I dont need this,
even If iam strong,whatever that means.
I understand you trust me but it takes time to smother together.
I agree,but if we are fundamentally incompatible then it takes ages, and lots of struggles. I d rather
struggle who is on the same wavelength with similar interests and values.
If you guys at the beggining that's OK, you both fighting for dominance. The key is to compromise. If she can't, maybe because no one showed her how to do so.
I tried that a lot of times, we had lots of concversations, she would just say no.
You aren't perfect my friend, nor I, or anyone else. Bare that in mind. In case is really nothing positive or at least equal out then yes nothing to do with each other. However you get together for some reason. Good to not forget that too.
Well yeah? I wrote about that?
The easiest always to give up and walk away.
The easiest way is to be judgemental right away.
Giving up can be a good thing, when you realize that its not worth it.
Posted by jeane
you need a libra.