Posted by TheLadyScorpioYes.Posted by Smidge
Tell him to gtf over it 🤐
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Posted by TheLadyScorpioWe don't like being seen as needy and/or weak.
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Why must Ram Gents be insufferable, is kindness so very offensive ? What is your verdict ?
Posted by TheLadyScorpioFriends with benefits ?
Further Update:
He told me he is not looking for anything serious at the moment (though his actions said otherwise, are we not supposed to look at actions instead of words ?). That he really liked me, and that he thought I was great. We could be friends, and see each other from time to time.
He was the one that was public, territorial, sensitive, and offended when I was casual before. As soon as I show a little investment. He responds with this.
Why ?
Posted by MyStarsShineApparently not that either @MyStarsShine, I would have been fine with that too because I would simply demote him in my life to that level. However, he cannot accept the fact that I am accepting of his honesty and the situation. He told me he does not want to be serious. When someone tells me that, I will take them for their word.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Further Update:
He told me he is not looking for anything serious at the moment (though his actions said otherwise, are we not supposed to look at actions instead of words ?). That he really liked me, and that he thought I was great. We could be friends, and see each other from time to time.
He was the one that was public, territorial, sensitive, and offended when I was casual before. As soon as I show a little investment. He responds with this.
Why ?
Friends with benefits ? click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioHe sounds confusing .....Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioFriends with benefits ? click to expand
Further Update:
He told me he is not looking for anything serious at the moment (though his actions said otherwise, are we not supposed to look at actions instead of words ?). That he really liked me, and that he thought I was great. We could be friends, and see each other from time to time.
He was the one that was public, territorial, sensitive, and offended when I was casual before. As soon as I show a little investment. He responds with this.
Why ?
Apparently not that either @MyStarsShine, I would have been fine with that too because I would simply demote him in my life to that level. However, he cannot accept the fact that I am accepting of his honesty and the situation. He told me he does not want to be serious. When someone tells me that, I will take them for their word.
He is now refusing to let up, and tells me he likes me a lot, he thinks I am great etc. Which is nice, but I am not hurt once everything is clear. I am in no uncertain stance, asking him out right if that friendship includes sex or not. I prefer to be clear. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineI do not believe in deluding myself. If a man tells me he does not want to be serious, I will believe him, even despite his actions, and him being strange.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShineApparently not that either @MyStarsShine, I would have been fine with that too because I would simply demote him in my life to that level. However, he cannot accept the fact that I am accepting of his honesty and the situation. He told me he does not want to be serious. When someone tells me that, I will take them for their word.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Further Update:
He told me he is not looking for anything serious at the moment (though his actions said otherwise, are we not supposed to look at actions instead of words ?). That he really liked me, and that he thought I was great. We could be friends, and see each other from time to time.
He was the one that was public, territorial, sensitive, and offended when I was casual before. As soon as I show a little investment. He responds with this.
Why ?
Friends with benefits ? click to expand
He is now refusing to let up, and tells me he likes me a lot, he thinks I am great etc. Which is nice, but I am not hurt once everything is clear. I am in no uncertain stance, asking him out right if that friendship includes sex or not. I prefer to be clear. click to expand
He sounds confusing ..... click to expandclick to expand
Posted by IamTheRam@IamTheRam, I did not ask for words. I took action, and made soup without telling him. However, I do not know his full schedule and will not wait for him for hours at his doorstep, to give it to him. I have things to do.
What @Ram416 said.
Why did you asked for Words ?!...This is Aries it doesn't work at all when it's too soon...and you said it yourself that we are about Actions.
What did i said about not asking this type of things to an Aries ?...When a woman asks me for Words and i am not ready...it's imediate what comes in my mind..."Disengage !!!" lol
How everything wold have been diferent if you actualy showed up and\or called him a piece of shit for not taking your soup and what you bought...he wold've eat that soup untill the end lol
When it comes to Words you will have to wait for him to tell you the Words first and never ask for it...spontaneous ?!...the moment you ask...oh well, you will have a bad time.
This is the heaviest masculine energy on the zodiac, he needs to think that he is doing things...because he wants to lol doesn't mean you can't fool him to thinking he is still in *charge* when you are the one rolling up all the dices ^^
But then you asked for the status of rship and he backed off...you know how long it takes for me to realise that i am actualy dating or realy like someone ?...once it took years...lol and it was me that asked..."are we dating ?"...lol
It depends on so many things, the stage of the rship, the bond, or even if he believes you are the right woman for him or still debating on it.
But it takes time and aloooottttt of patience...i mean alot...we are not easy at all, very arrogant, cocky and incredibly selfish sometimes.
You know what you have to do now, right ?...completly ignore him lol
He will get back to you and over it, you will see. ^^
Posted by TheLadyScorpioIs he still texting you after that serious rship thing ?Posted by IamTheRam
What @Ram416 said.
Why did you asked for Words ?!...This is Aries it doesn't work at all when it's too soon...and you said it yourself that we are about Actions.
What did i said about not asking this type of things to an Aries ?...When a woman asks me for Words and i am not ready...it's imediate what comes in my mind..."Disengage !!!" lol
How everything wold have been diferent if you actualy showed up and\or called him a piece of shit for not taking your soup and what you bought...he wold've eat that soup untill the end lol
When it comes to Words you will have to wait for him to tell you the Words first and never ask for it...spontaneous ?!...the moment you ask...oh well, you will have a bad time.
This is the heaviest masculine energy on the zodiac, he needs to think that he is doing things...because he wants to lol doesn't mean you can't fool him to thinking he is still in *charge* when you are the one rolling up all the dices ^^
But then you asked for the status of rship and he backed off...you know how long it takes for me to realise that i am actualy dating or realy like someone ?...once it took years...lol and it was me that asked..."are we dating ?"...lol
It depends on so many things, the stage of the rship, the bond, or even if he believes you are the right woman for him or still debating on it.
But it takes time and aloooottttt of patience...i mean alot...we are not easy at all, very arrogant, cocky and incredibly selfish sometimes.
You know what you have to do now, right ?...completly ignore him lol
He will get back to you and over it, you will see. ^^
@IamTheRam, I did not ask for words. I took action, and made soup without telling him. However, I do not know his full schedule and will not wait for him for hours at his doorstep, to give it to him. I have things to do.
I never asked about the status of the 'relationship', in fact I never mentioned it. He took it upon himself to talk about it, he wrote me telling he did not want anything serious. His told me those words, I never pushed or asked him. Then he wanted to be friends, and see each other from time to time. He kept asking if I would want the same too. I was accepting of his words, and believed him.
But now he will not let go, and keep telling me I am great, that he thinks I am incredible, he likes me a lot etc. I am not hurt, even told him this. Except, I need to know if that friendship he wants, does it include sex or not. He needs to be clear. If not, I will look elsewhere for sex.
I am fine with demoting him to a friend but why can he not tell me if that friendship, includes sex or not ?
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Posted by IamTheRamMost Rams, if not all encouraged me to make him soup, including you. 😐Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by IamTheRam@IamTheRam, I did not ask for words. I took action, and made soup without telling him. However, I do not know his full schedule and will not wait for him for hours at his doorstep, to give it to him. I have things to do.
What @Ram416 said.
Why did you asked for Words ?!...This is Aries it doesn't work at all when it's too soon...and you said it yourself that we are about Actions.
What did i said about not asking this type of things to an Aries ?...When a woman asks me for Words and i am not ready...it's imediate what comes in my mind..."Disengage !!!" lol
How everything wold have been diferent if you actualy showed up and\or called him a piece of shit for not taking your soup and what you bought...he wold've eat that soup untill the end lol
When it comes to Words you will have to wait for him to tell you the Words first and never ask for it...spontaneous ?!...the moment you ask...oh well, you will have a bad time.
This is the heaviest masculine energy on the zodiac, he needs to think that he is doing things...because he wants to lol doesn't mean you can't fool him to thinking he is still in *charge* when you are the one rolling up all the dices ^^
But then you asked for the status of rship and he backed off...you know how long it takes for me to realise that i am actualy dating or realy like someone ?...once it took years...lol and it was me that asked..."are we dating ?"...lol
It depends on so many things, the stage of the rship, the bond, or even if he believes you are the right woman for him or still debating on it.
But it takes time and aloooottttt of patience...i mean alot...we are not easy at all, very arrogant, cocky and incredibly selfish sometimes.
You know what you have to do now, right ?...completly ignore him lol
He will get back to you and over it, you will see. ^^
I never asked about the status of the 'relationship', in fact I never mentioned it. He took it upon himself to talk about it, he wrote me telling he did not want anything serious. His told me those words, I never pushed or asked him. Then he wanted to be friends, and see each other from time to time. He kept asking if I would want the same too. I was accepting of his words, and believed him.
But now he will not let go, and keep telling me I am great, that he thinks I am incredible, he likes me a lot etc. I am not hurt, even told him this. Except, I need to know if that friendship he wants, does it include sex or not. He needs to be clear. If not, I will look elsewhere for sex.
I am fine with demoting him to a friend but why can he not tell me if that friendship, includes sex or not ?
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Is he still texting you after that serious rship thing ?
And you are right about not waiting at his doorstep.
You did not asked...but that's most likely how he saw all of the thing. What for you it was just a kind gesture, for him he saw it as..."are you trying to *trap* me ?". Hence his reply, and that's the only reason i see for him to reply like that and tbh, that was also how i saw your reply to him.
It doesn't mean at all that this was the reason that you replied to him like that ! I am just trying to tell you what he might have seen in all of that, so you can better understand wtf is going on.
Rship can be such a mess...nobody wants to give in...both are afraid of what might happen...arfff..
I think that you shouldn't ask about anything of the freinds situation, he will most likely be evasive.
As for the sex...if you want more from him, you will have to skip the sex part...that is realy my best advice to you...and that's how you take control of everything.
The most important part now, is actualy you asking yourself what is that you realy want from him. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioI think rams wanna be loved even babied secretly but they hate mushiness ...lol but appreciate kindness
@Smidge
@tino
@WolfInRamsClothing
@Cancan26
@IamTheRam
Why must Ram Gents be insufferable, is kindness so very offensive ? What is your verdict ?
Posted by TheLadyScorpiothis is very interesting ...I response a very very very similar response ...complaints of I don't need that, or I don't like this soup but since I was literally on his doorstep I was greeted with the
Update:
Wrote him to see how he was doing, if he felt better. Told him, I have something to drop off. He asked what it was, if it was a gift again (previously I gave a small gift as thanks, it was inexpensive and more thoughtful) and I told him it was chicken soup. He rejected it, and said he does not like soup but thanked me. In which I replied that actually it was not just soup, but other things too. I just wanted him to feel better and I can not ever be nice, can I?
He figured I was angry, which I was and still am. He immediately wrote back to say that I am nice, that I really am. Of course, he wrote affectionately and all. Nonetheless, I told him that since he does not want the soup it must mean he does not want any of the kind gesture and told him I will have the soup myself. No response so far.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioSounds like he has a lot of baggage, and somewhat cowardlyPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioHe sounds confusing ..... click to expandPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpio
Further Update:
He told me he is not looking for anything serious at the moment (though his actions said otherwise, are we not supposed to look at actions instead of words ?). That he really liked me, and that he thought I was great. We could be friends, and see each other from time to time.
He was the one that was public, territorial, sensitive, and offended when I was casual before. As soon as I show a little investment. He responds with this.
Why ?
Friends with benefits ? click to expand
Apparently not that either @MyStarsShine, I would have been fine with that too because I would simply demote him in my life to that level. However, he cannot accept the fact that I am accepting of his honesty and the situation. He told me he does not want to be serious. When someone tells me that, I will take them for their word.
He is now refusing to let up, and tells me he likes me a lot, he thinks I am great etc. Which is nice, but I am not hurt once everything is clear. I am in no uncertain stance, asking him out right if that friendship includes sex or not. I prefer to be clear. click to expand
I do not believe in deluding myself. If a man tells me he does not want to be serious, I will believe him, even despite his actions, and him being strange.
He needs to be clear with me, now he keeps going in circles. I need to know if this is a friendship with benefits, cause if I do not get the sex. I will look elsewhere for it. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioI didn't said that the problem was the soup, I said that the problem was your reply to him when you were *mad* at him 🙂Posted by IamTheRamPosted by TheLadyScorpioIs he still texting you after that serious rship thing ?Posted by IamTheRam
What @Ram416 said.
Why did you asked for Words ?!...This is Aries it doesn't work at all when it's too soon...and you said it yourself that we are about Actions.
What did i said about not asking this type of things to an Aries ?...When a woman asks me for Words and i am not ready...it's imediate what comes in my mind..."Disengage !!!" lol
How everything wold have been diferent if you actualy showed up and\or called him a piece of shit for not taking your soup and what you bought...he wold've eat that soup untill the end lol
When it comes to Words you will have to wait for him to tell you the Words first and never ask for it...spontaneous ?!...the moment you ask...oh well, you will have a bad time.
This is the heaviest masculine energy on the zodiac, he needs to think that he is doing things...because he wants to lol doesn't mean you can't fool him to thinking he is still in *charge* when you are the one rolling up all the dices ^^
But then you asked for the status of rship and he backed off...you know how long it takes for me to realise that i am actualy dating or realy like someone ?...once it took years...lol and it was me that asked..."are we dating ?"...lol
It depends on so many things, the stage of the rship, the bond, or even if he believes you are the right woman for him or still debating on it.
But it takes time and aloooottttt of patience...i mean alot...we are not easy at all, very arrogant, cocky and incredibly selfish sometimes.
You know what you have to do now, right ?...completly ignore him lol
He will get back to you and over it, you will see. ^^
@IamTheRam, I did not ask for words. I took action, and made soup without telling him. However, I do not know his full schedule and will not wait for him for hours at his doorstep, to give it to him. I have things to do.
I never asked about the status of the 'relationship', in fact I never mentioned it. He took it upon himself to talk about it, he wrote me telling he did not want anything serious. His told me those words, I never pushed or asked him. Then he wanted to be friends, and see each other from time to time. He kept asking if I would want the same too. I was accepting of his words, and believed him.
But now he will not let go, and keep telling me I am great, that he thinks I am incredible, he likes me a lot etc. I am not hurt, even told him this. Except, I need to know if that friendship he wants, does it include sex or not. He needs to be clear. If not, I will look elsewhere for sex.
I am fine with demoting him to a friend but why can he not tell me if that friendship, includes sex or not ?
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And you are right about not waiting at his doorstep.
You did not asked...but that's most likely how he saw all of the thing. What for you it was just a kind gesture, for him he saw it as..."are you trying to *trap* me ?". Hence his reply, and that's the only reason i see for him to reply like that and tbh, that was also how i saw your reply to him.
It doesn't mean at all that this was the reason that you replied to him like that ! I am just trying to tell you what he might have seen in all of that, so you can better understand wtf is going on.
Rship can be such a mess...nobody wants to give in...both are afraid of what might happen...arfff..
I think that you shouldn't ask about anything of the freinds situation, he will most likely be evasive.
As for the sex...if you want more from him, you will have to skip the sex part...that is realy my best advice to you...and that's how you take control of everything.
The most important part now, is actualy you asking yourself what is that you realy want from him. click to expand
Most Rams, if not all encouraged me to make him soup, including you.
That I should show I cared, because frankly before I was the casual one. He kept investing, and was rather sensitive / territorial / wanting to be seen publicly with me / trying to make me jealous. I was unsure until recently, because of his actions and investments, that maybe more would be nice. Before, he was the one that pushed whilst I remain at a bit of a distant.
So why are you backtracking now, saying that you also see the soup as my attempt to trap him, that I am doing too much ?
It is kindness, not a trap. I say what I mean, there is not extra agenda.
I am not afraid, I know exactly what I want. My life is good, alone. I have my friends, my life, my work, and my independence. He knows this, he always said I was strong and independent. Though I do want a relationship if there is the possibility for it. I am also fine with a friendship or friends with benefits. However, he needs to tell me which, so I could categorise him. I am not pressuring him for more, I told him this.
I do not think that is too much to ask, it is only adult, to be clear.
Is honesty so hard to believe and accept ?
Yes, he is being evasive still. He will not answer the sex question, if he will not answer in the near future. I will look for sex elsewhere, and leave him be until he chooses to return.
He wants to be my friend, to hang out from time to time, if I like that too. He kept asking if I like that. For bloody hells sake, he needs to be more blunt and tell me exactly what he wants.
Why ask if I would like that ? Why evade such a simple sex question (answer is only yes or no) ? Why would he fear answering ?
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Posted by MyStarsShineIt may be stars, you could be correct. However, what ever it may be, analysing too much though tempting may serve to hurt me rather than help me. He may perceive me as dramatic, or desperate simply by asking for clarity as I did. Even though that may not have been my intent, but we can not control how others see us.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShineI do not believe in deluding myself. If a man tells me he does not want to be serious, I will believe him, even despite his actions, and him being strange.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpio
Further Update:
He told me he is not looking for anything serious at the moment (though his actions said otherwise, are we not supposed to look at actions instead of words ?). That he really liked me, and that he thought I was great. We could be friends, and see each other from time to time.
He was the one that was public, territorial, sensitive, and offended when I was casual before. As soon as I show a little investment. He responds with this.
Why ?
Friends with benefits ? click to expand
Apparently not that either @MyStarsShine, I would have been fine with that too because I would simply demote him in my life to that level. However, he cannot accept the fact that I am accepting of his honesty and the situation. He told me he does not want to be serious. When someone tells me that, I will take them for their word.
He is now refusing to let up, and tells me he likes me a lot, he thinks I am great etc. Which is nice, but I am not hurt once everything is clear. I am in no uncertain stance, asking him out right if that friendship includes sex or not. I prefer to be clear. click to expand
He sounds confusing ..... click to expand
He needs to be clear with me, now he keeps going in circles. I need to know if this is a friendship with benefits, cause if I do not get the sex. I will look elsewhere for it. click to expand
Sounds like he has a lot of baggage, and somewhat cowardly click to expandclick to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineYes stars, I will leave him be. My pride is at stake, and I refuse to embarrass myself. We are kind, but Stinger women are not pushovers.
I agree with Ram.....leave him be....or rather just leave him alone totally
You could do a lot better, ma'am
Posted by TheLadyScorpioJust remember your worth and remember the dating scene these days is a junglePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioSounds like he has a lot of baggage, and somewhat cowardly click to expandPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpio
Further Update:
He told me he is not looking for anything serious at the moment (though his actions said otherwise, are we not supposed to look at actions instead of words ?). That he really liked me, and that he thought I was great. We could be friends, and see each other from time to time.
He was the one that was public, territorial, sensitive, and offended when I was casual before. As soon as I show a little investment. He responds with this.
Why ?
Friends with benefits ? click to expand
Apparently not that either @MyStarsShine, I would have been fine with that too because I would simply demote him in my life to that level. However, he cannot accept the fact that I am accepting of his honesty and the situation. He told me he does not want to be serious. When someone tells me that, I will take them for their word.
He is now refusing to let up, and tells me he likes me a lot, he thinks I am great etc. Which is nice, but I am not hurt once everything is clear. I am in no uncertain stance, asking him out right if that friendship includes sex or not. I prefer to be clear. click to expand
He sounds confusing ..... click to expand
I do not believe in deluding myself. If a man tells me he does not want to be serious, I will believe him, even despite his actions, and him being strange.
He needs to be clear with me, now he keeps going in circles. I need to know if this is a friendship with benefits, cause if I do not get the sex. I will look elsewhere for it. click to expand
It may be stars, you could be correct. However, what ever it may be, analysing too much though tempting may serve to hurt me rather than help me. He may perceive me as dramatic, or desperate simply by asking for clarity as I did. Even though that may not have been my intent, but we can not control how others see us.
At the moment, I think it is best that I simply disappear and ignore him. Out of sight, out of mind. Focus on channeling my energies, keeping a positive vibration by doing things I love, my work, and friends that care. Self love, and kindness to oneself. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpio❤️Posted by MyStarsShine
I agree with Ram.....leave him be....or rather just leave him alone totally
You could do a lot better, ma'am
Yes stars, I will leave him be. My pride is at stake, and I refuse to embarrass myself. We are kind, but Stinger women are not pushovers.
Will share the abundance of kindness and love that I have with those around me who care instead, friendships. Must channel positivity, and not let negativity shroud me over this despite the disappointment that I feel. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by bmoon8Yes @bmoon8, I took it upon myself to not let my anger or disappointment get the better of me. The soup was made with kindness, and care. So I chose to share the entire stockpot with my friends and had some for myself, to soothe. Their honest appreciation, and happiness while enjoying it filled me with love and positivity. It did not go to waste. 😆
What an asshole to reject your soup. Dick move. You are better off without him. Hopefully you meet some better Rams.
Posted by ufoThank you for responding @ufo. 🙂
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Posted by TheLadyScorpioJust curious, where are your moon and mars?
One negative Ram Gent situation is replaced by a positive Ram Lady situation.
The former an undefined situation to walk away from, to the latter, a budding friendship to build on.
Fire energy remain persistent in my life, for that I am grateful.
Perhaps, this positive new friendship may bring me the soothing energy needed to heal the previous disappointment.
The unfortunate factor being, they both know each other.
Posted by bmoon8Thank you dear @bmoon8, you are really kind to say that. I appreciate the generosity of your words, have to admit I needed that compassion. 🙂Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by bmoon8Yes @bmoon8, I took it upon myself to not let my anger or disappointment get the better of me. The soup was made with kindness, and care. So I chose to share the entire stockpot with my friends and had some for myself, to soothe. Their honest appreciation, and happiness while enjoying it filled me with love and positivity. It did not go to waste.
What an asshole to reject your soup. Dick move. You are better off without him. Hopefully you meet some better Rams.
Besides, my soup was bloody delicious. Why be rash and waste it, I am glad I did not let him affect me enough to toss it all out.
Hopefully I will meet better Rams in the future. I would love to. click to expand
Oh good. I am happy for you that you didn't let it affect you negatively. And that the soup was enjoyed by you and your friends. He is the stupid one out of the deal and I blame his Pisces moon for the majority of it... especially the part where he could not accept kindness from you. Weird. You are a catch and deserve a lot better. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by WolfInRamsClothingYou're her new best friend 😄
Any news with a Ram? Sorry, scorp lady, felt like sheet yesterday. I should catch up What's going on...
Posted by bmoon8By nothing at all, as in never see me again ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by bmoon8Thank you dear @bmoon8, you are really kind to say that. I appreciate the generosity of your words, have to admit I needed that compassion.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by bmoon8
What an asshole to reject your soup. Dick move. You are better off without him. Hopefully you meet some better Rams.
Yes @bmoon8, I took it upon myself to not let my anger or disappointment get the better of me. The soup was made with kindness, and care. So I chose to share the entire stockpot with my friends and had some for myself, to soothe. Their honest appreciation, and happiness while enjoying it filled me with love and positivity. It did not go to waste.
Besides, my soup was bloody delicious. Why be rash and waste it, I am glad I did not let him affect me enough to toss it all out.
Hopefully I will meet better Rams in the future. I would love to. click to expand
Oh good. I am happy for you that you didn't let it affect you negatively. And that the soup was enjoyed by you and your friends. He is the stupid one out of the deal and I blame his Pisces moon for the majority of it... especially the part where he could not accept kindness from you. Weird. You are a catch and deserve a lot better. click to expand
The new Ram lady that has returned with a budding friendship. She has the same Sun and Moon combination as you. Though I am cautious with her, since she and the Ram gent know each other. They work together.
Well, of course I am disappointed and hurt over how the entire situation played out because he gave no clarity. The choices were simple, friendship, friends with benefits, a commitment, or nothing at all. It was rather black and white. However, since he will not serve me at the moment. Positivity is what I must lean into, and to continue to share / spread love with those that care, even in my own pain.
Why would you blame his Merman Moon ? click to expand
You're welcome.
I think it's a difficult moon sign for an Aries to have and it would cause him to want to be someone's rock. He would have difficulty accepting or receiving that reciprocated back to him. It would make him sensitive, wishy washy, and not clear with boundaries. Hence, why he was evasive in answering your question. I would take the evasiveness as a coward's way of saying, "nothing at all" and move on. He should have made it clear to you when he had the chance. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by WolfInRamsClothingRead the updates, in the last few pages @WolfInRamsClothing. 🙂
Any news with a Ram? Sorry, scorp lady, felt like sheet yesterday. I should catch up What's going on...
Posted by Ram416Yes, come be my female Ram friend. 😄Posted by WolfInRamsClothing
Any news with a Ram? Sorry, scorp lady, felt like sheet yesterday. I should catch up What's going on...
You're her new best friend click to expandclick to expand
Posted by WolfInRamsClothingWhat did you do to him ?Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by WolfInRamsClothingRead the updates, in the last few pages @WolfInRamsClothing.
Any news with a Ram? Sorry, scorp lady, felt like sheet yesterday. I should catch up What's going on...
It took a turn for the worse. I am now recuperating what is left of my pride and dignity, in much sadness and pain. I feel as if I was blinded to everything, doubts on everything I perceived of his actions and words (his actions showed all this romantic interest, his words constantly changed).
However, I knew what I saw was not wrong. Almost, as if I was taken for a merry go round and played. Not quite sure, if I was even fooled. click to expand
Oh little scorp, don't make things complicated. Ok, I will go and read the updates.
I wish I found dxp before my scorp, I ruined everything 😐. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by WolfInRamsClothingHard to judge from so little information but he might not have been a match for you.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by WolfInRamsClothingWhat did you do to him ? click to expandPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by WolfInRamsClothing
Any news with a Ram? Sorry, scorp lady, felt like sheet yesterday. I should catch up What's going on...
Read the updates, in the last few pages @WolfInRamsClothing.
It took a turn for the worse. I am now recuperating what is left of my pride and dignity, in much sadness and pain. I feel as if I was blinded to everything, doubts on everything I perceived of his actions and words (his actions showed all this romantic interest, his words constantly changed).
However, I knew what I saw was not wrong. Almost, as if I was taken for a merry go round and played. Not quite sure, if I was even fooled. click to expand
Oh little scorp, don't make things complicated. Ok, I will go and read the updates.
I wish I found dxp before my scorp, I ruined everything 😐. click to expand
First of all he likes fat girls. Geez, I would never think this could happen to me. Most often Taurus guys hit on my. They appreciate my elegant taste and figure. Scorp told me to gain 80 lbs what was that—?
He cried because of a movie. It's so weird for me, because I would never cry because of a movie. And here it is, this 2 m tall thing cried in front of me because of a movie. He attacked me with, "you think I have no feelings" thing, geeez, I had to pretend I cried too . click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioYou don't have to thank me at all 🙂
Of course, @IamTheRam you have been more than patient in explaining everything to me, as best you could within the boundaries of astrology. You have my appreciation for your kindness.
You are most definitely correct. It is the mismatch of his actions and words (normally, men say a lot but do not show it, this was the opposite), that nag me more than my wanting to push for a relationship. It is the lack of certain knowledge that bothers me. It is not about relationships or love anymore but mutual respect.
I am simply disappointed that he is not like me, I do as I say. He does not.
His pushing for friendship after the raw rejection, is too painful. Combined with his inability to state what kind of friendship he wants, and it is too much for me. I require clarity, and he could not give it to me. It is not hard to say whether or not he wants sex or without sex, but he chose evasiveness. At this moment, I cannot stand by the door waiting for him to walk through. I need to walk away for my own sake.
The affection words he kept intensifying when I pulled away and try to regain distance / detachment after the rejection, makes me feel both offended, and sad. Those affectionate words does not soothe, it is not fair. If he wants less, his words should match it. His words should mirror my distance, and detachment. Him trying to pull me closer with affectionate words, and being nice. Serves to create more pain, for me.
I meant it when I repeatedly said I do not intend to do anything and will go into silence, the cold of winter combined. I will keep him out of sight, to hopefully be out of mind.
Yes, the ball is in his court. He cannot have me and give me nothing either. He cannot wish to keep me in murky undefined connection to satisfy himself. That is selfishness I do not need or deserve. It does not serve me nor would that be what I want in my life. If he wants me, he will have to seek me out, and show he has clarity to give. Any less, and I cannot accept.
The pain will pass in time, will update if anything arrises.
Your words will be taken to heart, thank you for the honesty. Even if you had to speak of the lesser traits of your own sign.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioWow he's weird
Nothing but cold silence between the two of us, @IamTheRam.
Recently, I went to one of the places under the company that he works for and manages (I was dressed to the nines. As initially, I was supposed to go to an awards ceremony at a different location but did not, was not in the mood). Mostly because that day, was the anniversary of someone in my life who I had really cared about, she had passed away years earlier. I had rather spent the time, remembering and commemorating her.
Walked in, not caring if he was there or not, even if he was, I enjoyed the place. I was not about to change where I go in life to avoid him. He does not have that control or such an important factor in my life to affect it so. The moment he saw me, he looked both surprised and shocked that I dare show up. I carried on as I would, socialising with the people at the place, since I am friendly with them. He looked almost petrified, and I was thinking - bloody hell, I will not talk to you, bother you, look at you or cling to you if that is why you think I am here. You are not the reason that I am here.
He kept shrinking further and further away, into the darkest corner he could find but still looking and listening intently as I talked with others. Such strange behaviour, I was merely being myself. There is a lovely outdoor area attached to the place, and only one exit. As soon as he knew I was about to go out, he purposely dragged someone else nearby the exit to talk. I was frankly not in the mood to deal with him, or his energy.
The mere thought of him mistaking and having the same misconceived notion that I was going to try to trap him again, by appearing so as to wrangle him to talk to me, exhausts me. I was more focused on keeping the spirit and memory of the one who passed away, alive. That person was more so on my mind. I walked right pass him, even though he was facing me and inches away. As if, he was invisible. When I say - winter is here, I meant it. Especially when a Stinger woman does not want to deal with you or your energy in that moment.
If he truly wanted to be a friend. He did not have to look both shocked or petrified, and he did not have to be so passive aggressive about being in my vicinity. He could have had the courtesy to say hello, since he chose not to. I will not throw myself at him to be friendly again. After all I do have pride and a backbone. The ball was left in his court last time, he could very well step up if he wanted to, or if he truly cared to be a friend.
Throughout my entire time there, he never approached me but I could hear the gift I gave him being used, still. Then he began appearing walking in around where I sat, but always in a way as if to purposely ignore me in turn. He got more and more strange as time went by, taking his suit jacket off, then unbuttoning the buttons on his shirt, then pacing. Then sitting very much far away, the furthest he could be but directly facing where I sat. My back was to him, I was not in the mood to even face him. Then he smoked, far more than he ever usually would, he looked very stressed and a mess frankly.
What else I found strange was that, it seems everyone at the place knew about me. They told me I was famous, in which I questioned as to why, they said I was special. When I tried to press further, they only smiled. It was all too vague and I could not get a proper response out of anyone. All very strange.
Why look shocked or petrified, or shrink away and ignore me in turn, unable to approach me ?
Yet keep circling around me whilst using my gift still ?
What did he expect, that I would throw myself at him, so he could say I am too much again, as if I was the one in the wrong for merely being kind or friendly ?
Not again, tell a Stinger woman you do not want her, she will take your word and leave you cold. If you do not want my friendliness, I would take everything back. Leaving you to drown, and watch you pitifully sink, without remorse.
Though truth be told even now, I still crave closure, an answer. I do not want him, more so than the fact that I want to hash it out with him and get my truth out. At this point, I do not care what he says as much as me being able to tell him he perceived my actions incorrectly, and my intent was otherwise. The urge to blow up, and simply say this to him, has been growing ever stronger. Honestly, I do not know how much longer I could hold it in before, I verbally tear him a new one for unjustly assuming I would even trap a man into a relationship. Such a deed would be too far beneath me.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioOh wow, that is funny
@MyStarsShine
That sounds about right. Funny you called him so, a friend of mine, said the very same thing.
Posted by MyStarsShineI am not dear stars. He merely happened to be there, that day.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
@MyStarsShine
That sounds about right. Funny you called him so, a friend of mine, said the very same thing.
Oh wow, that is funny
Why are you bothering with him? A strong woman like you needs a MAN, not a 🐭 click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpio..but by talking and writing about him, you are still keeping him in your life in some waysPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpio
@MyStarsShine
That sounds about right. Funny you called him so, a friend of mine, said the very same thing.
Oh wow, that is funny
Why are you bothering with him? A strong woman like you needs a MAN, not a 🐭 click to expand
I am not dear stars. He merely happened to be there, that day.
I chose that place, because the view and something about it reminded me of the one I was commemorating. Also, it was hard not to notice someone as they flitted around you, then kept distance, and then flitted around you again.
Yes, men are so hard to find these days. Rare commodities, I tell you. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineYou are not wrong at all, that is true but I am stubborn about my own truth.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpio
@MyStarsShine
That sounds about right. Funny you called him so, a friend of mine, said the very same thing.
Oh wow, that is funny
Why are you bothering with him? A strong woman like you needs a MAN, not a 🐭 click to expand
I am not dear stars. He merely happened to be there, that day.
I chose that place, because the view and something about it reminded me of the one I was commemorating. Also, it was hard not to notice someone as they flitted around you, then kept distance, and then flitted around you again.
Yes, men are so hard to find these days. Rare commodities, I tell you. click to expand
..but by talking and writing about him, you are still keeping him in your life in some ways
Try cut the chords with him in all ways
Better to wait for a match than run around with 🐭🐭🐭
click to expandclick to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineYou are not wrong at all, that is true but I am stubborn about my own truth.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpio
@MyStarsShine
That sounds about right. Funny you called him so, a friend of mine, said the very same thing.
Oh wow, that is funny
Why are you bothering with him? A strong woman like you needs a MAN, not a 🐭 click to expand
I am not dear stars. He merely happened to be there, that day.
I chose that place, because the view and something about it reminded me of the one I was commemorating. Also, it was hard not to notice someone as they flitted around you, then kept distance, and then flitted around you again.
Yes, men are so hard to find these days. Rare commodities, I tell you. click to expand
..but by talking and writing about him, you are still keeping him in your life in some ways
Try cut the chords with him in all ways
Better to wait for a match than run around with 🐭🐭🐭
click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioFixed hell ... I get thatPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpio
@MyStarsShine
That sounds about right. Funny you called him so, a friend of mine, said the very same thing.
Oh wow, that is funny
Why are you bothering with him? A strong woman like you needs a MAN, not a 🐭 click to expand
I am not dear stars. He merely happened to be there, that day.
I chose that place, because the view and something about it reminded me of the one I was commemorating. Also, it was hard not to notice someone as they flitted around you, then kept distance, and then flitted around you again.
Yes, men are so hard to find these days. Rare commodities, I tell you. click to expand
..but by talking and writing about him, you are still keeping him in your life in some ways
Try cut the chords with him in all ways
Better to wait for a match than run around with 🐭🐭🐭
click to expand
You are not wrong at all, that is true but I am stubborn about my own truth.
Something about how unjust it was, to be mistaken, and then accused. It still bothers me. How dare someone accuse me of so. As if, if I do not let it out, I will explode. It has nothing to do with him, more so than the fact that it has to do with me. I have to sort myself out, in order to let that go.
It is a process, I am working on it. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioWhat do you know....it seems that he really got feelings for you heheh you got this TLS !! 😆
Nothing but cold silence between the two of us, @IamTheRam.
Recently, I went to one of the places under the company that he works for and manages (I was dressed to the nines. As initially, I was supposed to go to an awards ceremony at a different location but did not, was not in the mood). Mostly because that day, was the anniversary of someone in my life who I had really cared about, she had passed away years earlier. I had rather spent the time, remembering and commemorating her.
Walked in, not caring if he was there or not, even if he was, I enjoyed the place. I was not about to change where I go in life to avoid him. He does not have that control or such an important factor in my life to affect it so. The moment he saw me, he looked both surprised and shocked that I dare show up. I carried on as I would, socialising with the people at the place, since I am friendly with them. He looked almost petrified, and I was thinking - bloody hell, I will not talk to you, bother you, look at you or cling to you if that is why you think I am here. You are not the reason that I am here.
He kept shrinking further and further away, into the darkest corner he could find but still looking and listening intently as I talked with others. Such strange behaviour, I was merely being myself. There is a lovely outdoor area attached to the place, and only one exit. As soon as he knew I was about to go out, he purposely dragged someone else nearby the exit to talk. I was frankly not in the mood to deal with him, or his energy.
The mere thought of him mistaking and having the same misconceived notion that I was going to try to trap him again, by appearing so as to wrangle him to talk to me, exhausts me. I was more focused on keeping the spirit and memory of the one who passed away, alive. That person was more so on my mind. I walked right pass him, even though he was facing me and inches away. As if, he was invisible. When I say - winter is here, I meant it. Especially when a Stinger woman does not want to deal with you or your energy in that moment.
If he truly wanted to be a friend. He did not have to look both shocked or petrified, and he did not have to be so passive aggressive about being in my vicinity. He could have had the courtesy to say hello, since he chose not to. I will not throw myself at him to be friendly again. After all I do have pride and a backbone. The ball was left in his court last time, he could very well step up if he wanted to, or if he truly cared to be a friend.
Throughout my entire time there, he never approached me but I could hear the gift I gave him being used, still. Then he began appearing walking in around where I sat, but always in a way as if to purposely ignore me in turn. He got more and more strange as time went by, taking his suit jacket off, then unbuttoning the buttons on his shirt, then pacing. Then sitting very much far away, the furthest he could be but directly facing where I sat. My back was to him, I was not in the mood to even face him. Then he smoked, far more than he ever usually would, he looked very stressed and a mess frankly.
What else I found strange was that, it seems everyone at the place knew about me. They told me I was famous, in which I questioned as to why, they said I was special. When I tried to press further, they only smiled. It was all too vague and I could not get a proper response out of anyone. All very strange.
Why look shocked or petrified, or shrink away and ignore me in turn, unable to approach me ?
Yet keep circling around me whilst using my gift still ?
What did he expect, that I would throw myself at him, so he could say I am too much again, as if I was the one in the wrong for merely being kind or friendly ?
Not again, tell a Stinger woman you do not want her, she will take your word and leave you cold. If you do not want my friendliness, I would take everything back. Leaving you to drown, and watch you pitifully sink, without remorse.
Though truth be told even now, I still crave closure, an answer. I do not want him, more so than the fact that I want to hash it out with him and get my truth out. At this point, I do not care what he says as much as me being able to tell him he perceived my actions incorrectly, and my intent was otherwise. The urge to blow up, and simply say this to him, has been growing ever stronger. Honestly, I do not know how much longer I could hold it in before, I verbally tear him a new one for unjustly assuming I would even trap a man into a relationship. Such a deed would be too far beneath me.
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