How do I appeal to a cancer man? Help!!

How do I appeal to a cancer man? Help!!

Well we have been friends for 8 months.I met him at a bar/lounge.He's on the Cusp of Leo and I'm a Virgo on the Cusp of Leo as well. We have been on one official date,but we've had two home dates together.About two months ago we decided to be intimate,but my nerves and lack of experience got the best of me.I ended up drunk texting him that I love him and he said "Thank you" .This was before we got intimate.I believe he expresses his feelings through physical contact,because I get that vibe when he's around me.But he's also very moody and unpredictable and I just don't know how to deal with sometimes.Everytime I stop talking to him he comes back around.I honestly don't know how to have this conversation with him because he's very stoic but he's also very sweet and nurturing

Unless he specifically tells you he has feelings don't assume he has them and just 'expresses feelings for you through physical contact'.

Sex is just sex.

Also what 'conversation' are you referring to? What is it you want to tell him??

I want to have an open conversation with him in regards to what's going on between us.

If this isn't leading anywhere then it's best I go my own way rather than waste both mine and his time.

But I haven't yet,I do subtly by cutting off communication and not initiating anything,but he always returns

Anyways I haven't had much experience and I'm 26

I've only been in one long term relationship for 8 years but that's ended about a year and a half ago and I refused to get involved with a man until I was ready but this sort of just happened

You have to pursue a lil more... what are his placements?

Sun:Cancer

Moon:Capricorn

Mercury:Cancer

Venus:Virgo

Mars:Gemini

ASC:Scorpio

Im not a very aggressive approacher but I really do like him.Maybe the fact that I said I love him scared him off a bit but he still sticks around.I just don't like to play this back and forth game and u would rather say how I fell as oppose to feeling regret of not saying anything at all

I am

Sun:Virgo

Moon:Aquarius

Mercury:Leo

Venus:Leo

Mars:Virgo

ASC:Capricorn

He usually comes full throttle when I don't give him any attention

Posted by NubianReena
I want to have an open conversation with him in regards to what's going on between us.

If this isn't leading anywhere then it's best I go my own way rather than waste both mine and his time.

But I haven't yet,I do subtly by cutting off communication and not initiating anything,but he always returns

Anyways I haven't had much experience and I'm 26

I've only been in one long term relationship for 8 years but that's ended about a year and a half ago and I refused to get involved with a man until I was ready but this sort of just happened

You need to stop wasting your time and be up front with him in what you want from him. Men appreciate when you are direct.

And if he can't give you a relationship wouldn't you rather know that now instead of getting more emotionally invested in someone who just wants you for your sex??

Let him chance you. When he does, give him the attention he wants for a little bit. Then give him space. Tease him a little.

If he loves you he'll say it back to you without hesitation.

I agree with many of the comments. Don't feel bad about needing time or stepping back. Be honest about it. Either he understands or he doesn't.

Posted by tnmnt
If you're starting to have doubts about a Cancer man, you're probably right.



Keep on being there and showing him that you care. Dating a Cancer is like sailing an ocean during the perfect storm. Keep on going. Be patient. To a certain extent though: don't be weak and don't disrespect yourself.

You're a cancer man with a Capricorn moon?

Are we able to message privately?

Idek how this works

Yes.Hes very serious

Posted by NubianReena
Sun:Cancer

Moon:Capricorn

Mercury:Cancer

Venus:Virgo

Mars:Gemini

ASC:Scorpio

Im not a very aggressive approacher but I really do like him.Maybe the fact that I said I love him scared him off a bit but he still sticks around.I just don't like to play this back and forth game and u would rather say how I fell as oppose to feeling regret of not saying anything at all

my cancer almost have the exact same placement. It's almost crazy.

my cancer

Sun:Cancer

Mercury:Cancer

Venus:Virgo

Mars:Gemini



Be there for him, give him attention, give him your time when he wants it . make him feel secure to trust you with his feelings. If he still doesnt tell you and make it clear he likes you after all you provide a safe environment to express it. he doesn't like or doesn't like you enough

if you want to play a risky game, let him lose you. just disappear or just be unhappy with him about something and pull back

if he likes you he'll come running and can't stay away. when he ask whats wrong you can open up n talk to him

im a virgo n honestly my chart is similar to your. are you sure we're not with the same guy lol?

Im a

virgo sun

Aquarius moon

scorpio Asc

Mars cancer

venus scorpio

mercury libra

when cancers love they love hard, and we aren't afraid to show it!

I agree with what others have said. Cancer men respond very well to directness. I told mine that I needed time to process. He actually said, "You are very direct" and laughed, I think because he wasn't used to someone being direct. Now he's coming back around, after giving me some space, and I feel ready for him this time. Make sure he knows how you feel, but don't cling. I know that Cancer men like to go slow, they like to look at a situation from all sides and figure out how you will fit in their life, and to know for sure they won't get hurt, before they can really invest in you emotionally.