Strange Cap

Hi there,met this Cap in his 40's. Says he never falls in love, and he is there every time I need him. He took care of the darkest sides of my soul,the deepest joy and fears. He withdraws sex from me but gets mad as hell if I do it with someone else. He says I deserve punishment. But he stated clearly he does not want a relationship, so what's going on here!?

Is he a January Cappy? I was seeing a guy (48 years old) for three months -- no sex, no hot and heavy calls, no dates, he is a workaholic, and attended night school. He did ask me to "hang in there for him". I did; until the last month. I had ENOUGH! We're FB friends and he's just as busy; since he is a creature of habit and/or he met someone else he wanted to bed. This Cappy gave wet kisses (I'm PISCEAN and DON'T kiss like a fish!) and he had early stages of osteoporosis. I am VERY perceptive and I got turned off. I swam away.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: your Cappy is funny. This Cappy I am referring about had a live in girlfriend for about five years. This Cappy was turning to religion and I felt it was wrong for him to sleep w/women unless he married her first. Glad it wasn't me!!! 🍹 Maybe he feels the same. Eva shrugs shoulders.

Posted by ParisianCappy
you both 2 pornstar

Hope ITS not referring to me 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

Parisian Cappy, spare us the BS. Thanks.

Eva, hugs back. December cap. Of he would be honest, at least...I would know.

What hurts me the most is that I love him, I feel rejected but if I get out and live my life I'm punished. And by having a life I mean seeing female friends and dedicating my attention to something else rather than him. He is not a bad man. But I can't get to the heart of the matter.

So why being jealous?

Posted by sbbaby
So why being jealous?

It's in their nature to be that way... Maybe he's interested in you

Him telling you he has never been in love also sounds like he's a hard catch.. and he's a December cap..

OMG! I dated a December cap and he never ever had a relationship his entire life.. Didn't care to either.. Just alot of sex.... Mostly FWB.. During college we had a FWB relationship.. & 2 years ago he asked me when I would marry him.. It was too complicated.. so we went our ways.. He now has a girlfriend... & We are still great friends to this day but he often tells me we need to drop the "Losers" (our S/Os) and be with each other and he'd take care of me... Too much back and forth with him in our past tho. Way too much complication...

Thank you Poison. So it seems like he wants to play the hard catch....what should I do, ignore him?

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Posted by sbbaby
So why being jealous?

It's in their nature to be that way... Maybe he's interested in you

Him telling you he has never been in love also sounds like he's a hard catch.. and he's a December cap..

OMG! I dated a December cap and he never ever had a relationship his entire life.. Didn't care to either.. Just alot of sex.... Mostly FWB.. During college we had a FWB relationship.. & 2 years ago he asked me when I would marry him.. It was too complicated.. so we went our ways.. He now has a girlfriend... & We are still great friends to this day but he often tells me we need to drop the "Losers" (our S/Os) and be with each other and he'd take care of me... Too much back and forth with him in our past tho. Way too much complication...

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So what is your advice,should I run like hell?

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Posted by sbbaby
So why being jealous?

It's in their nature to be that way... Maybe he's interested in you

Him telling you he has never been in love also sounds like he's a hard catch.. and he's a December cap..

OMG! I dated a December cap and he never ever had a relationship his entire life.. Didn't care to either.. Just alot of sex.... Mostly FWB.. During college we had a FWB relationship.. & 2 years ago he asked me when I would marry him.. It was too complicated.. so we went our ways.. He now has a girlfriend... & We are still great friends to this day but he often tells me we need to drop the "Losers" (our S/Os) and be with each other and he'd take care of me... Too much back and forth with him in our past tho. Way too much complication...

So what is your advice,should I run like hell?

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If you're okay with your status with him I'd say stick around.. If he wants you to be around.. He will make it known.. Even when he ghosts.. they come back.. I'd say give it time.. Don't put all your eggs in one basket with him ... Continue to enjoy your life... I think the biggest thing with caps is you have to make yourself "unavailable"... Meaning.. do your own thing.. They like woman who make a life of their own.. Don't come off as needy..

Thank you so much!

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Posted by ParisianCappy
you both 2 pornstar

Hope ITS not referring to me 😡

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

nah op and his capricorn,

i'm sure she's secretly dont mind being punished

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I think she didn't get the "punishment" part. I'd have said, OK ?

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Posted by poison_ivy

Posted by sbbaby
So why being jealous?

It's in their nature to be that way... Maybe he's interested in you

Him telling you he has never been in love also sounds like he's a hard catch.. and he's a December cap..

OMG! I dated a December cap and he never ever had a relationship his entire life.. Didn't care to either.. Just alot of sex.... Mostly FWB.. During college we had a FWB relationship.. & 2 years ago he asked me when I would marry him.. It was too complicated.. so we went our ways.. He now has a girlfriend... & We are still great friends to this day but he often tells me we need to drop the "Losers" (our S/Os) and be with each other and he'd take care of me... Too much back and forth with him in our past tho. Way too much complication...

So what is your advice,should I run like hell?

If you're okay with your status with him I'd say stick around.. If he wants you to be around.. He will make it known.. Even when he ghosts.. they come back.. I'd say give it time.. Don't put all your eggs in one basket with him ... Continue to enjoy your life... I think the biggest thing with caps is you have to make yourself "unavailable"... Meaning.. do your own thing.. They like woman who make a life of their own.. Don't come off as needy..

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I've been with 2 December caps, both have been in long term relationships. and I mean 8+ yrs.

one with me, the other one with someone else.

I don't think that has anything to do with it.

They all work a lot.

is not just that they are not needy, but that they get the space they need to work and in return they are only committed to us or the gf.

I haven't had a cheating Cap.

I do know a few bit they are January caps if that makes a difference.

Just don't with Caps.

Cause they won't.

Until they will.

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Posted by Andalusia
Just don't with Caps.

Cause they won't.

Until they will.

Exactly

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I don't mean that negatively though. It's just the way the ones I know are.

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Posted by sbbaby
So why being jealous?

It's in their nature to be that way... Maybe he's interested in you

Him telling you he has never been in love also sounds like he's a hard catch.. and he's a December cap..

OMG! I dated a December cap and he never ever had a relationship his entire life.. Didn't care to either.. Just alot of sex.... Mostly FWB.. During college we had a FWB relationship.. & 2 years ago he asked me when I would marry him.. It was too complicated.. so we went our ways.. He now has a girlfriend... & We are still great friends to this day but he often tells me we need to drop the "Losers" (our S/Os) and be with each other and he'd take care of me... Too much back and forth with him in our past tho. Way too much complication...

So what is your advice,should I run like hell?

If you're okay with your status with him I'd say stick around.. If he wants you to be around.. He will make it known.. Even when he ghosts.. they come back.. I'd say give it time.. Don't put all your eggs in one basket with him ... Continue to enjoy your life... I think the biggest thing with caps is you have to make yourself "unavailable"... Meaning.. do your own thing.. They like woman who make a life of their own.. Don't come off as needy..

I've been with 2 December caps, both have been in long term relationships. and I mean 8+ yrs.

one with me, the other one with someone else.

I don't think that has anything to do with it.

They all work a lot.

is not just that they are not needy, but that they get the space they need to work and in return they are only committed to us or the gf.

I haven't had a cheating Cap.

I do know a few bit they are January caps if that makes a difference.

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Wow you have patience I see!! I agree they need their space and appreciate a woman that is understanding to the space they need..

My dad & sis are caps. Both January caps.. So I get to see the ways of a female & male cap.. both are very loyal to their S/O so I have never met a cheating cap. I think my Sag in Venus & Rising in Cap helps me be understanding to the space he needs as I need space also.. I'm not gonna lie, I'd want more time and he has stated the same but with caps, work and their career come first! They like to be comfortable with knowing they can provide for their S/O & family.. nothing wrong with that.. ?

I guess it really honestly depends on the person.. my December cap & I never made things official, as in had a title, but he's made it clear that when we dealt with each other he only wanted me and was loyal.. it was things on my end that made it complicated.. & 2, I was young, & didn't understand the slow pace. He said a title meant nothing to him, he knew he loved me & always will, with or without a gf.., & I know he'd never overstep his boundaries and cheat on his gf now.

My cap bf is a January cap.. & he def has no time to cheat.. his free time is given to me! ?