Read between the lines (Page 6)

UPDATE!!!

LS, you are going to kill me!!! The Libra and I had part one of our talk we are supposed to have another one at a later time.

We hooked up again Friday night talked a little then shagged (as you guys call it) as usual it was awesome. I didn't regret it a bit though. Sorry LS I know I said I wouldn't. Was horny and a little drunk and so was he.

Anyway, my assumptions were correct. He said it was very difficult being friends with benefits with me because he started getting more emotional about me each time we were together and he needed to step off for awhile as he knew that wouldn't be good for either of us right now, I agreed and we decided that was the last of the shagging and we would still remain friends without the benefits. I don't want to hurt him. He is my buddy and that is what is important. We were supposed to discuss some other things and decided to do that later (I dunno, it may never happen, but the air is clear and I am fine). It was a good one for the road though!!!

**Peach shakes her head**

I think each time you see each other that is going to happen. If I am right, he is going to start avoiding you.

Just remember what I said, it's his bargaining tool and he is obviously using it to his advantage.

Why would that happen each time we see eachother? I tried to avoid it this time, but girl... I was horny 2 + weeks is a long time for me and the alcohol didn't help!!! We did sincerely talk about it and I think I might be able to stick to it. He can try, but if I don't give in, then what? If he avoids me that's OK if that is what he needs to do, however that unknown space is closed and whatever from here is whatever it will be.

HP, Bargaining tool?

page 16....i guess you don't listen to our advice. 😢

Oh, I listen, however I have my own mind and since I am the one involved, I know how to take advice and weigh it against what is actually going on and make a decision and believe me the final decision is the one I feel strongest about. We have been on this thing so long I can't remember everything, just as everyone else.

Good luck with everything, QS. I'm retiring to other threads. I spun my wheels enough on this one.

Good luck to you too. I think I am done. Just giving you guys an update. Thanks.

*** Why would that happen each time we see eachother? I tried to avoid it this time, but girl... I was horny 2 + weeks is a long time for me and the alcohol didn't help!!!

Because there will always be a reason you can use to justify sleeping together.

Hey guys had to post this here in case I needed to read between the lines. My libra friend (now without the bene's) sent this poem to me today... I am speechless and shocked and a little nervous and confused:

LS,HP,thelibran what the hell is this? I should probably take it as it is, but Libras always want you to read between the lines so what should I get. That we are great friends right? Nothing more, right?



"Portrait of a Friend"

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems, doubts,
or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
search for answers.

I can't change your past with all it's heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you,
and help you when you ask.

I can't prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, from me.
I can only pray for you, talk to you and wait for you.

I can't give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.

I can't tell you who you are.
I can only love you as my special friend.
Your Buddy.

did he write this? this doesn't sound like something a male would write.

HP, I truely doubt he wrote this, probably found it online somewhere. Who knows, just strange and shocking. LS and Libra gave their thoughts on it on the funny thing... post...

Weird huh?

tats some friendship poem from http://www.indianchild.com/friendship.htm


hehehehehe.. jus googled it. now go ahead tease him. 😉

I am not at all shocked that he found it somewhere online, hell I couldn't write a poem like that myself with all my passion. However, the effort to find it and send is major for a Libra and it is scary too.

To be honest, I don't know how I would feel about a guy sending me poetry. My grandda does but he is a poet.

I think it would depend on the quality of the poem.

I used to copy paste long time back. Now i write my own lines whenever need with sarcasm and humour mixed. So may be he is still in his early ages. 😉

thelibran ... come here ... I need to kick a man.

U Librans are nuts!!! LOL!!!

I sent an evite to him to a dinner/cocktail party I am having for Christmas Eve at my house. He viewed it, however no response. Ofcourse he was one of the last on my evite because of the weirdness between us. He probably won't come though. I told him to bring a friend with him.

Too bad, HP, LS, Libra and thelibran can't come to the party you guys would love my friends.. Hence a couple of libras are in that bunch :-)

any single leo men?

😉 🙂 😉 batting my eyelashes.

hey you can tell if someone has viewed their evite? I didn't know that. how?

hmmmm ... off to investigate.

He is the third person from the top ... does that mean he viewed it recently?

lol... but sometime in past i felt its pretty silly to copy paste nice poems when me myself can write well. trust me in this. librans can write well. esp with words tat rhyme.

Singele Leo men. aahh i can tell some story here. long time ago i had mentioned abt my leo frnd frm CZ who fell in love with a chinese libran girl frm HonKong. She was about to be engaged to some chinese dude and she somehow managed to stop that engagement and they both started intense love. Sometime later while discussing abt marriage she told him she cannot leave her parents back in HK and move to prague. So my old friend is busy learning mandarin to move to HK and get married to her.... see how much leo men can change for a libran girl.

Oh I know.

The Leo in question has started to worry about his finances and is suddenly working more. (This was not a concern when he first met me. Although the more I got to know him, the more he apologized for it.) He just moved into a bigger place by himself. And bought prints of where I grew up as a child partly because he knew I would like them, partly because he loves that part of the world, and "wants to wake up every morning and see something that reminds him of (that area)."

Which is all nice ... BUT ASK me out!!! Just ask me out!!!

Actually, he did ask me out and I declined ... which really disappointed him ... but ... ask me out AGAIN!!!

If we ever get this sorted, we will be two of the happiest people ever. I am convinced.

Actually, I may have turned him down the last three times he has asked. shit.

😢

Not on purpose.

shit.

LS, when sending/creating an evite you can chose an option that will automatically send you a notice to your email address when someone has responded. There is also an option that you can select that lets you view view what date someone viewed the evite, but hasn't responded.

Do you think I think of him less because he was the last person I invited. I added him after we cleared the air about our friendship, however I invited others about 3 weeks or so prior...

I dunno, my girlfriend who planned a wonderful B-day bash for me in Oct. added him to that evite. He viewed it didn't respond, she called him said he would be there, never showed. He called me 4 days later apologizing and said he and his ex got into a really big fight and his evening was thrown off. I accepted it as no big deal. Oh, and I had told him prior to bring her along to the party. We had started shagging by then, stopped because he and his ex made up and were working it out. After that argument they never got back together.

Oh, another comment: He also told me his ex (the Sag.) told him she could tell his mind was preoccupied with someone else and was he interested in someone else. He said, he told her, "I wouldn't be trying to make this work with you if that was so." - Why do you think he told me this. My response was: Wow, hmmmm.... Ofcourse this was awhile ago, again didn't know I should have been reading between the lines.

Sorry LS, **** Do you think HE thinks I think of him less....****

LS, why do you turn him down? I know you guys don't mean any harm but why do Libras turn people they care about down and go accept other people's invitations?

I don't think he would think you think less of him. Who knows the order they are invited?

It is always an honour to be invited!

hmmm ... so if your 411 is right ... that means leo boy has view his invite recently. hmmm ....

I don't know much about libra boys but they tend to tell you everything about their relationships. There are a little more forthcoming than I am for sure. Especially when heartbroken. (I tend to have no other lovers but you and promptly forget my whole dating history.)

We loooove talking about relationships. So I think he was just telling you what was on his mind. I don't think there was subtext to him telling you she thinks he was preoccupied. Libras process through talking it out with others. That is how we come to our conclusions. We need to bounce it off someone else to see how it sounds, wether it sounds true to us or not.

We can be high maintence in this regard. I always need sounding boards.

Because I wasn't around.

1) He once showed up at my mom's place. I was out.
2) the next night he called and wanted me to call, to do something, back but I didn't get in till 11:30
3) it was after 10 ... and I was tired.

LS, if you selected the option to see who has viewed your evite, then it will show what date he viewed it as well... Did you see that?

Thanks, for the advice that is what I thought. I love to listen, always there for my friends. I sometimes think they think I am their therapist. However, I tend to keep my own issues to myself. Except here... Weird huh—

It really depends on who asks me first. I have a crazy social calendar.

I generally don't break plans. I also have standing plans twice a week with two groups of friends. If I break these plans, they get mad.

Sooo, at the moment, I am single. Although I have a huge crush on a Leo, we are far from from an exclusive, committed, relationship. So on Fridays and Saturdays, I am on the prowl and will be flirting up a storm. If I invited him to these outings, I wouldn't be able to flirt with others. The moment we get more serious, I will be inviting him and my flirting days will be done.

Until then, I am a free agent.

see?

may be invitation went to spam folder due to some peculiar nature of it. cross chk in a mail if he got it. 😉

Yeah, but we aren't headed to a comitted relationship, so he can flirt and I wouldn't even mind joking with him about different girls he find attractive. We have that type of relationship... So, why not come to my parties, it is with groups of people and I asked him to bring a friend, so per your advice on previous posts... I should keep it as a social thing not one on one... I don't understand, but won't fret about it.

eerrr... i guess evite means electronic invitation..

but why do Libras turn people they care about down and go accept other people's invitations?




grrr...that happened to me...

LS, he also told me about this older woman who wanted him to meet her daughter and we laughed about how she invited him to a dinner at her daughter's house and he made a hilarious comment about: "You know how you can look at a person's parents and tell it is a roll of dice how their offspring will look, I wouldn't be sure if I would want to meet her daughter, anyway, I am not trying to be in a relationship right now anyway, plus she lives far, in Indiana and we are in Illinois." Roll of dice, I had him elaborate on that... Funny!!!! Anyway, I told him to go and tell me how it turned out and let me know if his assessment was correct. We will see, this was last weekend. Haven't spoken to him since Friday eve.

Just so you can see how our relationship is outside of shagging.

may b bcoz libra men dont like parties much like libra women. too noisy and crowded

Oh thelibra, that is bull!!! Every Libra man I know including my ex loves parties...

thelibra he got it in my case... It wouldn't show that it was viewed if he didn't.

BS, thelibran....

i always pretend am ok and go for parties bcoz of frnds. but real soon i start hating the noisy crowded atmosphere. also hv read somewhere tat libran guys cannot enjoy in a noisy atmosphere.

LS ask HIM out then!!!! Us Leos don't have THAT much front.....if he's asked you out 3 times and you weren't able, then maybe you should ask him— Tell him you'd like to take him up on one of his offers or something like that.....

Leos and Libra = perfect match 🙂

Now now Chatz.. are you making this Leo + Libra thingy up based on YOUR perfect union? I have not read that Leo's and Libra's are good together. I though Libra's were supposed to stay with AIR signs like Gemini or Aqua's.. Am I wrong?? Where'd you get this info??

LS like I mentioned in the other post, maybe you should ask him now?? be spontaneous, be exciting, be mad - us Leos LOVE that!!!! What have you got to lose? If the truth be known, he's probably waiting for you to make a move and feels a little rejected that you haven't accepted any of his invites (no matter what the times were, etc)