
Un petit pamplemousse
@SassyKiwi
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Posted by Truemara
No

Posted by WarAngel
Yup.

Posted by SassyKiwi
Sometimes I wonder if I'm jealous of people who are ok with never having kids. Imagine the amount of free time they have to do so many amazing things 😦

Posted by jazzykid
No, mainly because I’ve seen what it has done to my sister. lol
And when baby fever hits, I can pet her kids and leave.

Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by SassyKiwi
Sometimes I wonder if I'm jealous of people who are ok with never having kids. Imagine the amount of free time they have to do so many amazing things 😦
don't forget abundance of money 😂click to expand



Posted by hydorah
It doesn't really matter what you want or not.
If you were from an older gen, let's say 30 years older than me, you wouldn't have had time or leisure to be asking these question, you'd already be taking care of babies.
The gen 10 years older than me has had no more than two babies per family.
The current gen (20 y.o people), I think you guys will have a maximum of 1 (in average). But a lot of people this gen won't have kids.
The following gens, I don't know.

Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by jazzykid
No, mainly because I’ve seen what it has done to my sister. lol
And when baby fever hits, I can pet her kids and leave.
What has it done to your sister? I think child leashes are necessary!click to expand

Posted by jazzykidPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by jazzykid
No, mainly because I’ve seen what it has done to my sister. lol
And when baby fever hits, I can pet her kids and leave.
What has it done to your sister? I think child leashes are necessary!
She went from being one of the bravest people I know to someone who is constantly plagued by fear and worry. Some may be warranted, but most of it is not and just really excessive. Her entire life revolves around her children, and any me-time she allows herself to have is scheduled around their schedule. She’s an amazing mother. But also a very tired one.
The biggest deterrent is the fear and worry, for me.click to expand

Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by jazzykidPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by jazzykid
No, mainly because I’ve seen what it has done to my sister. lol
And when baby fever hits, I can pet her kids and leave.
What has it done to your sister? I think child leashes are necessary!
She went from being one of the bravest people I know to someone who is constantly plagued by fear and worry. Some may be warranted, but most of it is not and just really excessive. Her entire life revolves around her children, and any me-time she allows herself to have is scheduled around their schedule. She’s an amazing mother. But also a very tired one.
The biggest deterrent is the fear and worry, for me.
Oh no, I could be a worrywart too. Already thinking about having a camera glued to them 24/7 😐 It's more about not trusting others more than anything I think.click to expand

Posted by SassyKiwiPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by SassyKiwi
Sometimes I wonder if I'm jealous of people who are ok with never having kids. Imagine the amount of free time they have to do so many amazing things 😦
don't forget abundance of money 😂
Exactly! I think the average is like 300k behind each kid or something. Less for the siblings because of hand-me-downs.click to expand


Posted by cake
I have baby fever when I see one and reminisce my child's toddler years.
I prefer to baby sit nowadays but I'm open to adoption in the future when I'm a bit more stable and can afford an additional human being under my care.
They grow up so fast though and if you're a busy parent, a lot can be missed which really sucks in my opinion.

Posted by ScorpioDreams
Do I want kids? Most definitely!
Will I have kids? Probably not

Posted by Saul_of_Tarsus
The real question here is do your kids want you?
It's not my time yet. It may never be but I'll know when I know.

Posted by Undine
No. Hell no. There will be no mini Undine, ever! Maybe adopting if I’m old and bored.


Posted by LadyNeptune
All I know is that the couple we know who is the happiest and healthiest... longest relationship... happen to be childless. Coincidence?

Posted by Antiphates
Fuck no.

Posted by Earthyfire
I do . I just want to two. It’s finding a suitable partner for it that is the problem

Posted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreams
Do I want kids? Most definitely!
Will I have kids? Probably not
Where's the discrepancy?
Well I’m about past the child bearing age and single. I’d prefer to raise a child in a two parent home. I could always adopt of course, but I also don’t want to be 70 by the time my child graduates from high school.click to expand
Posted by jazzykid
No, mainly because I’ve seen what it has done to my sister. lol
And when baby fever hits, I can pet her kids and leave.

Posted by ATGRPosted by LadyNeptune
Meh, could go either way
More dogs / animals?click to expand

Posted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreams
Do I want kids? Most definitely!
Will I have kids? Probably not
Where's the discrepancy?
Well I’m about past the child bearing age and single. I’d prefer to raise a child in a two parent home. I could always adopt of course, but I also don’t want to be 70 by the time my child graduates from high school.click to expand


Posted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreams
Do I want kids? Most definitely!
Will I have kids? Probably not
Where's the discrepancy?
Well I’m about past the child bearing age and single. I’d prefer to raise a child in a two parent home. I could always adopt of course, but I also don’t want to be 70 by the time my child graduates from high school.
lots of teens needing good homes stuck in the foster system
That is very true and something I had never really thought about before. Definitely would not rule that option out.click to expand

Posted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreams
Do I want kids? Most definitely!
Will I have kids? Probably not
Where's the discrepancy?
Well I’m about past the child bearing age and single. I’d prefer to raise a child in a two parent home. I could always adopt of course, but I also don’t want to be 70 by the time my child graduates from high school.
lots of teens needing good homes stuck in the foster system
That is very true and something I had never really thought about before. Definitely would not rule that option out.
I think most states have a foster to adopt programs so you can make sure its a good fit. A bit of a different bond because many of these teens have family's and parents they have some sort of relationship with... even though the home is unfit for them and the parent is fighting addiction or is disabled or incarcerated etc. Your not replacing that bond as a parent, you are just becoming a new parent and support system for them.
There is a documentary series about this called The Day I Picked My Parents. I think Hulu might have it.
Thank you! I will be checking out that documentary.click to expand

Posted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreams
Do I want kids? Most definitely!
Will I have kids? Probably not
Where's the discrepancy?
Well I’m about past the child bearing age and single. I’d prefer to raise a child in a two parent home. I could always adopt of course, but I also don’t want to be 70 by the time my child graduates from high school.
Do you feel you've utilized your free time to the best extent from all the time you saved from not child rearing like others in your age?
That’s a tough question. On one hand no because I grew up in a very strict household and did not date throughout high school or college. I did not start dating until my mid twenties. I instead focused on my studies. Which I don’t regret, but I sometimes wonder if I had gotten an earlier start if things would be different and maybe I’d have a kid or two by now? I was/still am very introverted so I always found it difficult meeting new people as well. I’ve never been very social. I think that hurts me as well. On the other hand, I feel like I did utilize my time well because when I was younger I was not in the right mind frame, mature enough or financially stable enough to have and support a child. On some level I still feel as if I’m not ready, but are parents ever really 100% ready? Maybe some are....I don’t know.click to expand


Posted by RedbullPosted by saggurl88
Having kids is so hard in this era/decade. Daycare costs the same as rent or a mortgage.
It's not a good look unless you're a stay at home mom, in a 2 parent income or have people you can trust who will watch your kid/s while you work.
Otherwise it's expensive as hell. Kids are worth it, but it just seems like it was so much easier back in the day when grandma had like 17 of them!
Where are those days?! I would love to have a whole tribe of kids or have enough money to live off the land and be self sufficient.
Yeah its hard for me to get it just from the financial side alone the attraction some seem to have. Not even considering the crazy world and all the rest. Interesting how people can see things so differently.click to expand


Posted by saggurl88
Having kids is so hard in this era/decade. Daycare costs the same as rent or a mortgage.
It's not a good look unless you're a stay at home mom, in a 2 parent income or have people you can trust who will watch your kid/s while you work.
Otherwise it's expensive as hell. Kids are worth it, but it just seems like it was so much easier back in the day when grandma had like 17 of them!
Where are those days?! I would love to have a whole tribe of kids or have enough money to live off the land and be self sufficient.

Posted by PuzzlePiecesPosted by saggurl88
Having kids is so hard in this era/decade. Daycare costs the same as rent or a mortgage.
It's not a good look unless you're a stay at home mom, in a 2 parent income or have people you can trust who will watch your kid/s while you work.
Otherwise it's expensive as hell. Kids are worth it, but it just seems like it was so much easier back in the day when grandma had like 17 of them!
Where are those days?! I would love to have a whole tribe of kids or have enough money to live off the land and be self sufficient.
Not only this decade, mine were born 1995 & 2000. Took 2 income home & having a good job to pay for daycare then too. Didn’t have the luxury of parents to help. You do what you have to do to make it work. Kids are expensive & being a parent includes sacrifice in many ways, not just financial. It is what it is. People are still having babies & figure it out. Daycare is only for a few years & then when they are in school it’s better. Then come the interesting years 😂click to expand

Posted by SassyKiwi
Sometimes I get baby fever and want like 4 kids and dress them all cute and shit like tiny reindeers and believe it'll all be ok because kids practically raise themselves right... RIGHT ?
Then I have times where I'm like God I don't even have time for myself because maybe driving takes up way too much time in a day when I could just be teleporting to places if technologists and scientists got their shit together by now and use the saved time for SLEEP. I love sleep.
I AM SO CONFLICTED
Share with me your arguments for and against them. Dish me the dreaded scary reality of the tiny humans.

Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreams
Do I want kids? Most definitely!
Will I have kids? Probably not
Where's the discrepancy?
Well I’m about past the child bearing age and single. I’d prefer to raise a child in a two parent home. I could always adopt of course, but I also don’t want to be 70 by the time my child graduates from high school.
lots of teens needing good homes stuck in the foster systemclick to expand

Posted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreamsPosted by SassyKiwiPosted by ScorpioDreams
Do I want kids? Most definitely!
Will I have kids? Probably not
Where's the discrepancy?
Well I’m about past the child bearing age and single. I’d prefer to raise a child in a two parent home. I could always adopt of course, but I also don’t want to be 70 by the time my child graduates from high school.
Do you feel you've utilized your free time to the best extent from all the time you saved from not child rearing like others in your age?
That’s a tough question. On one hand no because I grew up in a very strict household and did not date throughout high school or college. I did not start dating until my mid twenties. I instead focused on my studies. Which I don’t regret, but I sometimes wonder if I had gotten an earlier start if things would be different and maybe I’d have a kid or two by now? I was/still am very introverted so I always found it difficult meeting new people as well. I’ve never been very social. I think that hurts me as well. On the other hand, I feel like I did utilize my time well because when I was younger I was not in the right mind frame, mature enough or financially stable enough to have and support a child. On some level I still feel as if I’m not ready, but are parents ever really 100% ready? Maybe some are....I don’t know.click to expand

Posted by Wizardz
I want kids and I imagine it will be like Mary Poppins except she would be my wife and I'd be the chimney sweep guy and take them on adventures in the day and she can be the sensible practical one

Posted by saggurl88
Having kids is so hard in this era/decade. Daycare costs the same as rent or a mortgage.
It's not a good look unless you're a stay at home mom, in a 2 parent income or have people you can trust who will watch your kid/s while you work.
Otherwise it's expensive as hell. Kids are worth it, but it just seems like it was so much easier back in the day when grandma had like 17 of them!
Where are those days?! I would love to have a whole tribe of kids or have enough money to live off the land and be self sufficient.

Posted by ImperfectStorm
How old are you? I waited until I was 34 to have my son and glad that I waited. I’m also content with just 1. Kids are way more work than dressing up in cute outfits. Lol they’re the most amazing gift and bring the most meaning to life, but it’s a lot…. So it’s ideal to wait until you’re really ready to put yourself last.

Posted by RedbullPosted by SassyKiwi
Sometimes I wonder if I'm jealous of people who are ok with never having kids. Imagine the amount of free time they have to do so many amazing things 😦
Always considered myself fortunate for that. I remember figuring it out as a lil kid when I realized you didnt have to have kids. Never even really been curious. For their and my benefit world is too crazy to me. Does seem to simplify things to me and take off a lot of pressure, at least seems that way. At the same time I love my life but there is constant stuff- financial, this and that and the other, all over the place like dont even come here. And it seems to be the way for me. Breeders and nonbreeders mentality? The thought of having a kid is kind of terrifying to me. I too have wondered sometimes what is the difference. But then as I get older I think of trying to be a positive inspiration and such to the youngers who are already here.
I must say having said all that- what do I know? at the same time.click to expand

Posted by bawlikestogomoo
If you sperm me, I can carry your kids 8)

Posted by Reincarnation2Posted by SassyKiwi
Sometimes I get baby fever and want like 4 kids and dress them all cute and shit like tiny reindeers and believe it'll all be ok because kids practically raise themselves right... RIGHT ?
Then I have times where I'm like God I don't even have time for myself because maybe driving takes up way too much time in a day when I could just be teleporting to places if technologists and scientists got their shit together by now and use the saved time for SLEEP. I love sleep.
I AM SO CONFLICTED
Share with me your arguments for and against them. Dish me the dreaded scary reality of the tiny humans.
It may be too late for you.
My astrological forecast of you only sees cats and boxed wine.
Kidding aside - how old are you?click to expand

Posted by Reincarnation2Posted by TxOgal
I do! Just today I realized I am really happy around children, such pure souls
31 is kind of old though.click to expand
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Then I have times where I'm like God I don't even have time for myself because maybe driving takes up way too much time in a day when I could just be teleporting to places if technologists and scientists got their shit together by now and use the saved time for SLEEP. I love sleep.
I AM SO CONFLICTED
Share with me your arguments for and against them. Dish me the dreaded scary reality of the tiny humans.