Is there any way to sever the ties with a twin flame?

I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

Yeah.... stop being dumb and thinking its your twin flame!

Wait until menopause then you'll probably lose interest.

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Lol that's not actually what I was getting at


I'll put it this way: if you believe in twin flames (or even just ballpark area of soulmates), if you know the effects that someone out there is having on you really messes with your day - why on earth would you ever want to sever ties with that person on any level? It's like severing ties with yourself. It IS severing ties with yourself.

That's what twin flames are about.

Acceptance and reading up on this area (outside of all the New Age-y crap online) is the only helpful suggestion I can make because it worked for me and others.

In two years she's gonna be like "My twin what? No." this is all just causing more pain.

What @Tiziani said. It's working for me. It is what it is, we go on with our lives separately. I love my man ( who is not the tf), and the amount of time "living in" the mind-fark that is the twin flame experience has to be minimized to a few moments of recognition.

Being physically away has helped the most, but even then just accepting that I feel blessed to have that happen to me and to focus that energy on the life I built for myself in this life has been the key.

Letting that love shape the life I already have, and integrating it. Not fighting it and not wishing things were different.

had a painful karmic connection with someone years ago so i had to give it title "twin flame" to explain my failure to think straight. i even saw him in my dream back in medieval period lol talking about 12 house neptune imagination lol

so yes. the tie can be severed. the only way i could do it was to cut off, delete and destroy EVERYTHING as if both of you were dead.

i'm very happy now lol

Posted by seraph
"Twin Flame" is an idea.

Not sure about this one.

I really don't think it's just an idea.

twin flame or not. it's your responsibility to make yourself happy in this life time.

Well.. IDK much about twin flame but I have had connection..felt a connection.. TBH, sometimes I feel we all have different connections with many people we love.. Twin flame though. I can never feel sure about it. If it was that powerful, the both should've ended up together? Anyway..

I think its best not to think too much about it. If you feel any connection - fine. Just be an observer rather than get consumed by your "feeling" . Enjoy the unknown deep connection, be grateful you could feel this way with one person..for getting a taste of what connection is.. ..and that's that.

After all.. Even if you feel connection and cannot live with that person, its better for you to just not get so caught up in it. And, there are other things to do.. These connections etc are just small part of your very big life... Dont entangle yourself in it.

I believe universe takes care of connections..
Let them happen, let it be... Just accept..never get too caught up.

The concept of twin flame doesn't factor in control

I mean if you can control it, it's not really much of a twin flame then is it.

If then you might as well subscribe to the idea of multiple soul mates.

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Yeah.... stop being dumb and thinking its your twin flame!

this is why you my homie 😄 😉

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Yeah.... stop being dumb and thinking I'm your homie!

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I mean if you can control it, it's not really much of a twin flame then is it.

If then you might as well subscribe to the idea of multiple soul mates.

that's one reason i don't "believe" in beliefs

it was the hardest thing i ever had to do. thoughts of knocking my head to unconscious so the pain / longing would stop were constant. good thing the sag rising (natural born optimist) and pisces mars (love addict) saved me lol

The concept is heavily commercialized, so in my mind it looks more like Twin Flame (TM).

Posted by Scruffles
If he was really your twin flame or soul mate he would have reciprocated your affections. This connection you feel is one-sided and all in your head. As long as you keep it there you are closing yourself off to a real mutual connection.
As to how to get rid of it... pretend he died. 😄

Reciprocity without follow through can happen too. Did in my case, from both sides.

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If he was really your twin flame or soul mate he would have reciprocated your affections. This connection you feel is one-sided and all in your head. As long as you keep it there you are closing yourself off to a real mutual connection.
As to how to get rid of it... pretend he died. 😄

Reciprocity without follow through can happen too. Did in my case, from both sides.

Perhaps I'm a hopeless romantic but I don't think it's a soul mate connection if the relationship doesn't get off the ground and/or last.

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I never would've believed it possible ro truly love 2 men at the same time either until it happened. And I'm not a die hard romantic. Never in my 45 years has anything like what I experienced ever happened, and I used to think like you too.

It messes with your head big time.

Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

Date other men

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Until u understand this

That was so beautiful !!! Love 😉

Posted by Scruffles
If he was really your twin flame or soul mate he would have reciprocated your affections. This connection you feel is one-sided and all in your head. As long as you keep it there you are closing yourself off to a real mutual connection.
As to how to get rid of it... pretend he died. 😄

actually the common belief of twin flame is that it's very rare for twin flames to end up together unless this life time is their last reincarnation. it's common to hear unbearable painful twin flame stories. Here is some excerpt from some twin flame site:

"many of these attempts at reunion are unsuccessful because the individual people are not quite ready for the intensity of a twin flame union. It is more intense than any other union, and this intensity is at a soul level, not as much in the physical or even emotional bodies. This doesn't mean that there isn't a good attraction at those levels as well, but the strongest attraction is of spirit. This is one of the distinguishing characteristics of a twin soul. Many people think they have met their twin because the attraction is so intense, but it is a karmic attraction, one of need or bodily desire rather than the Divine Love of twins.

Your chance of meeting and staying with your twin depends on how evolved your soul is, and how much of your baggage from this and past lives you have cleared. The biggest reason twins have to separate after coming together is their individual emotional baggage. Because in the presence of your twin, there can be nothing between you, nothing blocking your closeness. This means that everything comes up for healing that you haven't previously healed. Everything!

When twins reunite, both of them experience an acceleration of their spiritual growth and awakening."

the experience opened me up emotionally so i'd say it was awakening. i however understand the power of human mind and what it can create so i don't think it's necessary to define or put a name on a profound experience.

Posted by Scruffles
If he was really your twin flame or soul mate he would have reciprocated your affections. This connection you feel is one-sided and all in your head. As long as you keep it there you are closing yourself off to a real mutual connection.
As to how to get rid of it... pretend he died. 😄

It is mutual. He still finds any possible way to rope me back in when I pull away. It's not all in my head as if it's a delusion.
A part of the twin flame connection is separation. To grow and evolve without the two souls merging yet.
It's a part of the process; lack of follow through and dancing around our feelings has been a commonality on both ends.

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If he was really your twin flame or soul mate he would have reciprocated your affections. This connection you feel is one-sided and all in your head. As long as you keep it there you are closing yourself off to a real mutual connection.
As to how to get rid of it... pretend he died. 😄

Reciprocity without follow through can happen too. Did in my case, from both sides.

Perhaps I'm a hopeless romantic but I don't think it's a soul mate connection if the relationship doesn't get off the ground and/or last.

I never would've believed it possible ro truly love 2 men at the same time either until it happened. And I'm not a die hard romantic. Never in my 45 years has anything like what I experienced ever happened, and I used to think like you too.

It messes with your head big time.

Yes, I know that's possible and that's not what I meant.

I don't think either one of them was your soul mate.

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One is a soulmate and one is a twin flame. I have no doubt. Soulmate been with for 24 years, twin flame met almost 2 years ago, haven't seen or spoken with for 4 months now.

Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

Regardless of whether or not twin flames actually exist (I'm still on the fence about that myself), this link actually helped me release my past love:


Compliments of @starlover.

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If he was really your twin flame or soul mate he would have reciprocated your affections. This connection you feel is one-sided and all in your head. As long as you keep it there you are closing yourself off to a real mutual connection.
As to how to get rid of it... pretend he died. 😄

Reciprocity without follow through can happen too. Did in my case, from both sides.

Perhaps I'm a hopeless romantic but I don't think it's a soul mate connection if the relationship doesn't get off the ground and/or last.

Isn't that what sultry was saying? Some relationships can never get off the ground and yet they last.

I thought she was talking about wavering reciprocity which imo isn't a soul mate connection.

Similarly, relationships that can never get off the ground only last in peoples' heads, like in the OP's.

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In a sense that's true. It may never have been a romantic relationship. I never had one with my tf either but extenuating circumstances on both sides prevented it. But there's still a connection that can be quite strong. There's something different about it that can be described but not fully unless you've experienced it.I've had crushes, infatuations and fantasies before; this is nothing like those.

Even if it's not supposed to happen (a relationship) it doesn't mean that it isn't a SM or TF scenario. When it doesn't end up in a relationship you still have to deal with reality and move on.

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If he was really your twin flame or soul mate he would have reciprocated your affections. This connection you feel is one-sided and all in your head. As long as you keep it there you are closing yourself off to a real mutual connection.
As to how to get rid of it... pretend he died. 😄

Reciprocity without follow through can happen too. Did in my case, from both sides.

Perhaps I'm a hopeless romantic but I don't think it's a soul mate connection if the relationship doesn't get off the ground and/or last.

I never would've believed it possible ro truly love 2 men at the same time either until it happened. And I'm not a die hard romantic. Never in my 45 years has anything like what I experienced ever happened, and I used to think like you too.

It messes with your head big time.

Yes, I know that's possible and that's not what I meant.

I don't think either one of them was your soul mate.

One is a soulmate and one is a twin flame. I have no doubt. Soulmate been with for 24 years, twin flame met almost 2 years ago, haven't seen or spoken with for 4 months now.

What's the difference between a soul mate and twin flame?

Can a twin flame be a best friend, for example, without the romantic connection?

I was under the impression a soul mate is a twin flame by default. A twin flame with benefits.. TFWB.

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Soulmates are different, and actually more likely to stay in your life aa a lover, friend, relative, or some other close relationship.

A twin flame is a part of you, so much like you that it can be hard to face "yourself" and your flaws. There's an instant recognition of that person, and a very deep understanding. You might have similar life experiences, the same life goals, you may look similar or react to situations the same way. There's a sychronicty between you that's almost creepy. But it feels so natural right away. One of you will have feminine energy, the other will have male energy. There's a yin/yang that os magnetic. Often you experience telepathy between you or can connect in some pyshic way.

Soulmates often

why lost faith in love?

i love my hubby so much and it does not hurt like the karmic or flame connections lol. Every time i think of hubby face i smile. that's true love.

Posted by Scruffles
This thread is making me lose faith in love. 😐

I hope I never meet my true soul mate/twin flame.

Or hopefully I already have and it's my cat.

Your cat could be your soulmate. We have lots of soulmates, only 1 twin flame. But most people don't ever meet their twin.

Have faith in love. :-)

Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

Why can't you be with your twin flame?

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"Twin Flame" is an idea.

Not sure about this one.

I really don't think it's just an idea.

We can build as many castles around it as we like. The more we "storify" the idea, the greater its significance. We keep thinking "twin flame"... the more "twin flame" happens.

Once we quit feeding the idea with our expectations and projections, it's just another well into which we can *choose* to put our energy into, or not.

But some folks really like the idea, and enjoy exploring it and living out the drama when it's taken to be real in and of itself.

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Before answering, have you ever experienced a similar connection in your life?

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If he was really your twin flame or soul mate he would have reciprocated your affections. This connection you feel is one-sided and all in your head. As long as you keep it there you are closing yourself off to a real mutual connection.
As to how to get rid of it... pretend he died. 😄

actually the common belief of twin flame is that it's very rare for twin flames to end up together unless this life time is their last reincarnation. it's common to hear unbearable painful twin flame stories. Here is some excerpt from some twin flame site:

"many of these attempts at reunion are unsuccessful because the individual people are not quite ready for the intensity of a twin flame union. It is more intense than any other union, and this intensity is at a soul level, not as much in the physical or even emotional bodies. This doesn't mean that there isn't a good attraction at those levels as well, but the strongest attraction is of spirit. This is one of the distinguishing characteristics of a twin soul. Many people think they have met their twin because the attraction is so intense, but it is a karmic attraction, one of need or bodily desire rather than the Divine Love of twins.

Your chance of meeting and staying with your twin depends on how evolved your soul is, and how much of your baggage from this and past lives you have cleared. The biggest reason twins have to separate after coming together is their individual emotional baggage. Because in the presence of your twin, there can be nothing between you, nothing blocking your closeness. This means that everything comes up for healing that you haven't previously healed. Everything!

When twins reunite, both of them experience an acceleration of their spiritual growth and awakening."

the experience opened me up emotionally so i'd say it was awakening. i however understand the power of human mind and what it can create so i don't think it's necessary to define or put a name on a profound experience.

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Beautifully put; that's exactly what I'm experiencing currently and have been since I met him. Granted, the pain of not being together at this juncture in our journey is hard to cope with. However, the more I research the tf connection, the more I can accept that this isn't it for us. I realize now, that there's no severing the ties. All I can do is accept where he and I are at this point in time -- it's not over. So trying to end our connection or as you said, define it isn't necessary. I will continue to acknowledge him as my TF but panicking and wanting to block him out only increases the pain.

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Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

Why can't you be with your twin flame?

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It's not time, yet. Clearly we both still have some evolving to do; twin flames don't really ever come together to seal the bond until the ultimate preparedness has been established.

Posted by Scruffles
This thread is making me lose faith in love. 😐

I hope I never meet my true soul mate/twin flame.

Or hopefully I already have and it's my cat.

Or I think many majority of the people should just believe and have faith in love without relying too much on ideas like twin flames and soul mates and psychic connections. Just love for love sake.

maybe*

but yes I have a lot of soulmates, all of my cats!

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Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

That same Scorp dude you keep writing about?

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Hmm, not sure if I've written about him recently; there's a lot I've posted about on here lol air dominant problems. But yes, it is him.

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This thread is making me lose faith in love. 😐

I hope I never meet my true soul mate/twin flame.

Or hopefully I already have and it's my cat.

Or I think many majority of the people should just believe and have faith in love without relying too much on ideas like twin flames and soul mates and psychic connections. Just love for love sake.

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I agree! Believe me, this is not something I wished for lol I had no actual knowledge of this until I shared with a couple of people that I couldn't let this person go. And that opened the door to learning about this soul connection.
I'm always open to love for love's sake; if it finds me, fantastic. But I'll still have my twin flame, whether I like it or not. And that's ok.

I think that's just it. The idea behind Twin Flame also describes the unhealthiest of relationships or at least it can and we usually only hear one side of the story to it (usually the person describing it). I mean realistically speaking, if you were hit by a bus today and had amnesia, the twin flame would cease to exists. Twin flames are meant to be painful, you are NEVER meant to be together, EVER. I feel like a lot of people then use this idea to justify lost love for the sake of hanging on to it.

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I think that's just it. The idea behind Twin Flame also describes the unhealthiest of relationships or at least it can and we usually only hear one side of the story to it (usually the person describing it). I mean realistically speaking, if you were hit by a bus today and had amnesia, the twin flame would cease to exists. Twin flames are meant to be painful, you are NEVER meant to be together, EVER. I feel like a lot of people then use this idea to justify lost love for the sake of hanging on to it.

Would it really though? I thought the basis behind twin flames is that the connection still goes on no matter what. I mean even on a realistic level, if we're talking about matter.

But personally what I take out of soulmates is that no relationship is meant to last forever. That's just my personal take on it, we're always changing and sometimes we change apart, sometimes we're lucky enough to change together. When people hang on to just one version of who someone is or was I always felt that's kind of the anti-thesis of the whole thing lol

But I get there are a lot of new age types out there that will willfully exploit that and give people a justified belief to hold onto something.

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Well connection is meant to last through a few life times apparently. I mean sure even in a vegetative state the connection might be there. As much as I love getting into the metaphysical I don't think it's worth the time or effort. I thought for the longest time my first was my twin flame then tada I decided to see someone else and it all got better from there.

Maybe these are just labels of sorts, "twin flames", "soul mates". etc. and I highly believe it's just a label to make ourselves feel better on a grander scale.

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"Twin Flame" is an idea.

Not sure about this one.

I really don't think it's just an idea.

We can build as many castles around it as we like. The more we "storify" the idea, the greater its significance. We keep thinking "twin flame"... the more "twin flame" happens.

Once we quit feeding the idea with our expectations and projections, it's just another well into which we can *choose* to put our energy into, or not.

But some folks really like the idea, and enjoy exploring it and living out the drama when it's taken to be real in and of itself.

Before answering, have you ever experienced a similar connection in your life?

Of course.

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I don't intend to be rude, I actually enjoy reading most of your posts on dxp, however I still think you're razionalizing/oversimplifying the matter a bit too much here.

When you meet your "twin flame" (I personally see a person and not a label), as you said you build castle, you destroy them, you rebuild them, again and again. You start thinking it's all in your head ("is the other person feeling the same?"), you feel sick, as a result you start focusing on your life (having other relationships too), until you put your butter together and the itch still remains.

That is the moment when you realize it's not a simple idea/crush/projection anymore.

It's real, very real, and you're not crazy.

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http://www.throughnightsfire.com/SaturnNeptuneconnections.html

we had neptune-saturn opposition and a composite chart with millions of oppositions lol. electric went through my body when we touched and time stopped when we sat next to each other. i would walk over dead bodies to be with him. i lost my logical engineering mind. THAT, was a dangerous love.

Ha! My tf has his saturn conjunct my Neptune, and our Venuses are conjunct his Saturn and my Neptune, all within a couple degrees if not exact.

My 8th house, his 6th.


Ahhh scratch the Neptune...it Uranus. Not much better though! 😛

@xomelindabelle

here is some food for thought for you... if you don't sever the ties and he / the longing comes back to you when you have a SO, what are you going to do? walk over dead bodies to be with him? how many times and how many dead bodies in this life time if he comes and goes??

i say take control of you own life and happiness.

anyway, whatever you decide to do, best of luck. i know it's hard.

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She fully accepted it from what I read too, but still after 7 years the itch comes back every once in a while.

The feeling of rest is more like apathy.

Now I don't personally like that feeling of *allow it to just be*, it goes against my nature and probably her too, which is why sometimes you wish you could sever the connection.

Being stong-willed, most times, is not enough to find peace.

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She fully accepted it from what I read too, but still after 7 years the itch comes back every once in a while.

The feeling of rest is more like apathy.

Now I don't personally like that feeling of *allow it to just be*, it goes against my nature and probably her too, which is why sometimes you wish you could sever the connection.

Being stong-willed, most times, is not enough to find peace.

I think they call that the Russian dynastry mindset, or Russian mafia mindset. I can't remember.

"Making any move is always, by default, better than making no move at all"

When that's your nature then yes, being at peace would mean not fighting your nature. Which would mean devoting attention to it.

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Cool!

I thought it was called the "Hey Gandhi I admire you, I really do, but i don't want to be like you" mindset.

@tiziani

What I find disturbing is that karmic relationships are meant to make you proactive to life, which is the best part, but on the other end, imagining you can't be with your TF, they make you "proactive to non-proactivness" when dealing with her/him.

Does it make sense?

Accepting feels like surrendering to a greater force, almost a sense of impotence if you ask me.

It's interesting how we react to words...welfare vs charity, a mistress's allegations vs twin flames. One would not hesitate to diss the first and glorify the second.

But putting this aside or the question of their existence, I find the way people handle them very telling.

A) People who will put their life on hold, walking around like zombies and cheating themselves of all other options. Suffering/Yearning/longing glorified. I do not think a connection deemed so strong to transcend reason would allow for either recipient to suffer so in this case, I thing the mind longs for delusion and not for any connection. They feel it's a contract that should be upheld. A lot like martyrdom/devoting yourself to a religious cause. It feels foggy and it drains you of energy

B) People who acknowledge it and keep on living life, while holding it like a certainty in their heart. That this person or these people exist out there and it gives them comfort to know they exist. They can manage life with a smile on your face at this certainty in their heart. You needn't cling for dear life or yearn for what you know in your heart it's true. These are the people that will allow themselves and the other person the opportunity of living this life as they want to, without any stipulations of a contract between them. They won't dwell on it. The fog shapes into something solid in their mind.

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@tiziani

imagining you can't be with your TF, they make you "proactive to non-proactivness" when dealing with her/him.

Does it make sense?

Yup.

If you're person A, there will be no way to sever ties because you never want to, it's the only think you can grasp, the existence of ties.

If you're B, there are no ties to be severed because your mind and soul are at peace at all times.

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If you're person A, there will be no way to sever ties because you never want to, it's the only think you can grasp, the existence of ties.

If you're B, there are no ties to be severed because your mind and soul are at peace at all times.

There is a way to sever ties and end the suffering.

People choose not to because it's too painful when they try.

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It's not even a matter of how much you suffer, it's about killing a part of yourself.

There is a difference between something too painful and suicide.

Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

Interesting. What's a twin flame?

@tiziani

That's the right approach, I intend trying not to affect other people around you by falling back into old habits, it's how I'm currently handling my situation as well.

The problem is that as much as you don't affect others because you're staying proactive or paying attention to details, you're still affected yourself, even if you don't let it transpire in any way. You're proactive in every department of your life, except with the person you spiritually love the most.

If I were as proactive as I am (right now) in my life with my TF, I wouldn't be with someone else, I would have married my TF already. You cope with your life and TF in two opposite ways, it's like having a split personality, which is why I'm saying you need to be "proactive to non-proactiveness", hence the sense of impotence.

Sultrykitty is the perfect example here.
She loves two men despite having spent her last 24 years to her husband's side. TWO MEN at the same time!

How can you find peace in a similar scenario? You can obviously still live your life but this is a kind of bond that goes beyond acceptance and control. It's more powerful than that. You start realizing how the energies in the universe shift and change direction. I see synchronicities among dxp's users every day, it's not just about you and your TF, you (spiritually) wake up completely and there's no turning back.

I like it, that I can notice all these things around me, but I can't deny it bothers me when I wake up thinking about my TF despite having the woman I love by my side.

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@tiziani

What I find disturbing is that karmic relationships are meant to make you proactive to life, which is the best part, but on the other end, imagining you can't be with your TF, they make you "proactive to non-proactivness" when dealing with her/him.

Does it make sense?

Accepting feels like surrendering to a greater force, almost a sense of impotence if you ask me.

P.s. Screw Spalletti

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Free Sadiq!

Posted by Koniucha
Well I do hope the OP comes back to tell us why they can't be together. I am curious.

She said it but no one noticed it.

"They're not ready for each other just yet", they need to fully evolve first.

No substantial reasons usually prevent the two of you from staying together, you just can't explain it other way.