Is there any way to sever the ties with a twin flame? (Page 2)

Posted by Koniucha

Posted by Palerio

Posted by Koniucha
Well I do hope the OP comes back to tell us why they can't be together. I am curious.

She said it but no one noticed it.

"They're not ready for each other just yet", they need to fully evolve first.

No substantial reasons usually prevent the two of you from staying together, you just can't explain it other way.

I guess. That is too vague for me, but ok.

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It is, that's why it's frustrating.

You click on every level, you both think about each other all the time, but you can't stay together because the other person has your same flaws. Being together would mean not growing since you would never reject your negative traits, hence evolve.

Basically everything is right and not right at the same time, you have no reasons for not being together but at the same time you have every reason in the world for not being together.

It's weird.

By the way I don't think Tiz has met his real TF, I'm pretty sure of that but i will explain later 😄

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Posted by Palerio
@tiziani

You're proactive in every department of your life, except with the person you spiritually love the most.

If I were as proactive as I am (right now) in my life with my TF, I wouldn't be with someone else, I would have married my TF already. You cope with your life and TF in two opposite ways, it's like having a split personality, which is why I'm saying you need to be "proactive to non-proactiveness", hence the sense of impotence.

Sultrykitty is the perfect example here.
She loves two men despite having spent her last 24 years to her husband's side. TWO MEN at the same time!

How can you find peace in a similar scenario? You can obviously still live your life but this is a kind of bond that goes beyond acceptance and control. It's more powerful than that. You start realizing how the energies in the universe shift and change direction. I see synchronicities among dxp's users every day, it's not just about you and your TF, you (spiritually) wake up completely and there's no turning back.

I like it, that I can notice all these things around me, but I can't deny it bothers me when I wake up thinking about my TF despite having the woman I love by my side.

the right approach should depend on the individuals, the intensity and interactions between the two.

it was impossible for me to leave it be. it was not always in the background. he came to the foreground every now and then and every time he did that and my life crumbled. i did walk over dead bodies and it was heading to a direction that the next one would be mine.

so, if it's death one way or the other, i chose to be proactive to take it head on, to kill it once and for all and sever the connection. i asked him to do so from his end also so it was not one sided. i thought i might not make it but i had to give myself a chance.

I'm really glad and grateful that i did.

anyway, this would the be last post for me on this topic.

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I meant being proactive is always the right approach in general.

Only then you decide if you want to sever the tie or not, it usually depends on how much you're "fine" dealing with pain indeterminately.

Posted by tiziani
and it just happened again, just now. The connection is too strange.

Did you feel the energy shift since we started talking about ours here on dxp?

It was pretty sensible.

Best way is to find a new one..

Here I am....

Posted by MlleFisk
Alright, admittedly i dont know shit about twinflames aside from what i've read on DXP. But i am curious about something despite my belief that its another bullshit newage woo-woo teachers try to sell those who feel lost. But...

Do you tell the other person "you're my twinflame..."? Because it from what ive observed, people seem to make these realizations when theyre in the midst of suffering and need to stick a label to their pain.

What if their response was, "Nah, bro. But i'm flattered you think i am though. Have a nice life." I would think that would be like 100x more crushing that just admitting to yourself you're just no good for each other.

I told mine she was karmic to me without having read anything about twinflames before, it's something you feel regardless of the label some folks may attach to it. I started using a bunch of vague terms to explain how I felt. After hearing my words she smiled even though she couldn't exactly grasp what I was saying. I even dreamt of our marriage and described the dress she was wearing to a T (notice that I obviously have, like 80% of guys, zero interest nor knowledge about clothes or stuff like that). She said it was exactly how she pictured it in her head. She's a Virgo thus she would have said something if she hadn't liked it in some way.

A year and half later, after digging into the argument I told her "Hey I don't care what you think, I just know you're my twin, whether you accept it or not".

She initially rejected the idea, she was confused but then she suddenly realized, after I decided to retreat for a month, what I was saying was true (now she acts all cute around me).

Some people may hide what goes on their mind saying "Nah bro, I'm flattered blablabla..." but still suffer because you have the power to make them suffer (I know i do), which goes obviously both ways. It's easier to accept it and come to a mutual understanding (no need for labels), although it's hard to justify why you don't actually crave a relationship with them despite sharing such an intense connection.

Admitting to yourself you're not good for each other when there's nothing off, when the two of you are together, it's not the easiest thing in the world to accept.

Posted by seraph
"Twin Flame" is an idea. The more attention you put into the idea, the more you'e confirming its perceived power.

Every thought and idea needs to check back with xomelindabelle for employment and verification. When you close up shop it has nowhere to go except into oblivion. You don't need to force it. You don't need to run toward or away from it. Just see it for what it is : a nothing, insubstantial idea. Go ahead and enjoy it, but just know what it is. Once you know its nature, it can't touch you, you have no interest in it. And what doesn't interest you has no effect on your peace of mind.

I have an ex I want to cut emotional ties with and his ability to affect me. He was NOT my twin flame....he better not have bloody been...but it's more like someone who had a deep affect on you.

It's weird .....when I felt about a year after ....i was getting somewhere .....he sent this bat shit crazy long message.....it was purely to see in a way if he could affect me.

Also confirmation that through the anger and the stuff...he had on a deeper level felt the same for me. But it was all him him. An apology that was all about how bad he felt and all the bad stuff he had going on since we broke up.

It discombobulated me. It brought it all back again. I never responded.

You can't be connected to someone when one person does not feel the connection. He wanted to see if he could affect me.

Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

This is bullshit by the way.

Posted by BlondeAmbition

Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

This is bullshit by the way.

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It's how it works.

Posted by Palerio

Posted by BlondeAmbition

Posted by xomelindabelle
I'm assuming that it's highly unlikely. But, my god; it's been seven years. I'm tired of yearning for something that is so consuming, and often times painful. The magnetic, palpable connection won't just dissipate. I feel his energy, even when I'm not near him.
Allow me to disclaim; I'm not the type to cling to something I can't have. But I've had a few people, including an empath and other highly intuitive people confirm that he most likely is in fact my twin flame.
So, anyone else experience this yet? Have any suggestions?

This is bullshit by the way.

It's how it works.

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Ok fair enough. :-)

My soulmate had better love me back or else I breaking out my inner psycho though. That's all i say!

@Koniucha

Nope, I've moved on and I'm with someone else now, I don't want my drive to go wasted when I feel like I have a lot to give.

I think I miswrite the last part of the post giving you a false impression of our status. By "together" I mean when we spend time together we act, think and smile like a couple, despite "not craving" anything else, you can both be attractive but when you're together you forget sex is great, you don't care. She's probably the most physically attractive person I know and I still don't care, it's disturbing. The connection is ridiculous, you always know in advance what the other person is going to say next.

I also went to Bruxelles (she's back in Rome now) to surprise her, then I bought her a flight ticket to Copenaghen (I found 50 euro on the street with her name on it) just to spend a few days with her. That's how driven I am when I think of her. After that she started acting cold (we just spent 3 days in Denmark do you really want to play that game?) thus I gave her the same treatment so that she could feel how much I was suffering. I wasn't suffering because I wanted to be in relationship with her, I don't (maybe in the past), I was suffering because of the push and pull, which is a lot stronger than you may think.

I pulled back voluntarily because she needed to understand that.

If we have a blast every time we're together (she can't control it, hate me or help but being drawn to me) and you act all cute and touchy in person (I don't anymore), is it that hard not to be erratic in your communication with me? It's the only thing that bothers me.

I'm fine not being with you, really, just please "let's remove the toxicity" from our "relationship", it will affect us both so don't force me to hurt you on purpose, I don't want to do that but I'm going to do that if cornered, I want something healthy. It takes years to realize you need to intensely suffer yourself to make the other person suffer with you and accept the connection, imagining she refuse to accept it. That's how treetrunked up it is.

You may even contact each other at improbable time at night (like 5 am in the morning), she does that, I used to. Then people ask you "why are you not together?" and you can't answer, you don't know, you're perfect for each other you just can't deal, right now, with that level of intensity.

Anyway I never think about having a future together, I don't self-sabotage actual relationships, although I know she's the one I'm marrying in a few years.

Posted by MlleFisk
You have no idea what you want, do you.

Nahhh, I'm not that messed up as it may sound.

I'm graduated (planning on getting another degree), I hold a job, I've got my own place in a nice neighborhood, a car and a girlfriend. I can pay for dinner when I'm lazy, or just cook a tasty dish myself when inspired.

Sure, I have lots of flaws, which are pretty manifest from my posts (I don't see the point in hiding them), but I'm 25/26 yo.

I think I'm doing all right for a guy of my age.

@Koniucha

Wishful thinking, probably no one.

I can't deny I have no idea what having a family feels like (I didn't really have one either) but I know I want my twin flame in the end, that's for sure.

I'm going to live my life for now, I won't force anything, I just know something will happen in a few years (2-3). We'll meet somewhere and think "fuck it" suddenly realizing we should have been together way before that day.