Are pisces patient and kind

I met a pisces male got on so well. I have realised since meeting him that I sabotage good relationships. I upset him then when he wanted space I bombarded him with messages. I agreed to chill then bombarded him again. In the end he blocked me and said sorry this is too much. I decided I needed help and have made an appointment to speak to someone about abuse I experienced as a child and never dealt with. I changed my number and then messaged him to tell him I was sorry and I was going to see someone. I expected him to think I was mental. But instead he unblocked me straight away. Are pisces this patient and kind with everyone or does he maybe think something of me. Thanks x

Thanks. Im trying not to do anything until I have spoken to someone to find what the link is to my abuse as a child and why I want to ruin a good relationship. He hasn't messaged me but I'm too scared now to do anything more.

What's your sun sign?

I'm a taurus x

I think Pisces men are automatically drawn to people with difficult issues (e.g. mental, emotional, psycholocial, addiction issues). They want to heal the person. For example, a Pisces friend of mine met a random girl in a coffee shop who was an alcoholic. She was crying in the coffee shop because she couldn't pay her rent and was kicked out by her landlord. My Pisces friend took this random girl home to live with him so that he could take care of her. She was arrested for a DUI, violated her probation multiple times and was in and out of the jail for the next 3 years. He told me that things finally ended with her when she went completely psycho and attempted to kill him with a knife and then kill herself (If I remember it right, her explanation was that she wanted to end her life because it was too hard to live and she wanted him to go with her). He distracted her, called the cops, and she was arrested. Then, he moved away...

I think your Pisces is probably in love with you after you disclosed your issue to him...

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I think Pisces men are automatically drawn to people with difficult issues (e.g. mental, emotional, psycholocial, addiction issues). They want to heal the person. For example, a Pisces friend of mine met a random girl in a coffee shop who was an alcoholic. She was crying in the coffee shop because she couldn't pay her rent and was kicked out by her landlord. My Pisces friend took this random girl home to live with him so that he could take care of her. She was arrested for a DUI, violated her probation multiple times and was in and out of the jail for the next 3 years. He told me that things finally ended with her when she went completely psycho and attempted to kill him with a knife and then kill herself (If I remember it right, her explanation was that she wanted to end her life because it was too hard to live and she wanted him to go with her). He distracted her, called the cops, and she was arrested. Then, he moved away...

I think your Pisces is probably in love with you after you disclosed your issue to him...

Almost identical to my situation besides meeting at coffee shopping and the killing part. She's an alcoholic and druggie. The writing was on the wall. Hindsight is really 20/20.

Posted by Michele
I met a pisces male got on so well. I have realised since meeting him that I sabotage good relationships. I upset him then when he wanted space I bombarded him with messages. I agreed to chill then bombarded him again. In the end he blocked me and said sorry this is too much. I decided I needed help and have made an appointment to speak to someone about abuse I experienced as a child and never dealt with. I changed my number and then messaged him to tell him I was sorry and I was going to see someone. I expected him to think I was mental. But instead he unblocked me straight away. Are pisces this patient and kind with everyone or does he maybe think something of me. Thanks x

Not a Pisces, just a guy. Astrology aside, check out attachment style s (aka attachment theory). Everyone has an attachment style that develops throughout childhood. It's basically linked to how your relationship developed between you and your primary caregiver. This of course can manifest later in your adult relationships.

It sounds like due to your childhood that you may have an anxious attachment style . This means you're constantly seeking validation and approval from outside sources (generally lovers) to fill the emotional void that was created in childhood. It stems from receiving infrequent, sporadic, or even non existent emotional validation as a child. As a result you constantly feel the need for someone to "soothe" you.

I've also known another Taurus woman with this attachment style . Taurus energy with an anxious attachment style manifests in a person being extremely needy and pushy about their desires. It can be overwhelming for anyone really, not just a Pisces, to deal with partner who is "anxious".

Links to help you out:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment- style -impacts-your-relationship

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

Usually Pisces are very caring & understanding .. u probably hit a soft spot in his heart

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Posted by Michele
I met a pisces male got on so well. I have realised since meeting him that I sabotage good relationships. I upset him then when he wanted space I bombarded him with messages. I agreed to chill then bombarded him again. In the end he blocked me and said sorry this is too much. I decided I needed help and have made an appointment to speak to someone about abuse I experienced as a child and never dealt with. I changed my number and then messaged him to tell him I was sorry and I was going to see someone. I expected him to think I was mental. But instead he unblocked me straight away. Are pisces this patient and kind with everyone or does he maybe think something of me. Thanks x

Not a Pisces, just a guy. Astrology aside, check out attachment style s (aka attachment theory). Everyone has an attachment style that develops throughout childhood. It's basically linked to how your relationship developed between you and your primary caregiver. This of course can manifest later in your adult relationships.

It sounds like due to your childhood that you may have an anxious attachment style . This means you're constantly seeking validation and approval from outside sources (generally lovers) to fill the emotional void that was created in childhood. It stems from receiving infrequent, sporadic, or even non existent emotional validation as a child. As a result you constantly feel the need for someone to "soothe" you.

I've also known another Taurus woman with this attachment style . Taurus energy with an anxious attachment style manifests in a person being extremely needy and pushy about their desires. It can be overwhelming for anyone really, not just a Pisces, to deal with partner who is "anxious".

Links to help you out:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment- style -impacts-your-relationship

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

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You're so full of knowledge! I just looked into this because I'm actually dealing with a similar scenario right now. I would consider myself as having an anxious-preoccupied style but lately I've been struggling with my view towards relationships.

"Normally" I'm quite desperate to fall in love with someone and tend to be very clingy. After my last breakup I see myself as being more fearful-avoidant. I feel like I need to be in a relationship but when I have potential with someone I immediately shut down.



It's been really difficult to understand why I'm like this now. It put a lot of my thoughts and feelings into words.

I'm "seeing" a Pisces now... I don't know if you could even say that because I distance myself. Anyways, he majored in psychology which is interesting after reading this. I've felt like this entire time he's been trying to dissect my brain and he's actually pointed out a lot of my insecurities I didn't even realize I had.

This thread creeps me out. He truly has tried to understand and be patient with my issues while trying to fix me. We're actually having a discussion about this currently via text.

I feel like this is the epitome of this thread haha

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Posted by Michele
I met a pisces male got on so well. I have realised since meeting him that I sabotage good relationships. I upset him then when he wanted space I bombarded him with messages. I agreed to chill then bombarded him again. In the end he blocked me and said sorry this is too much. I decided I needed help and have made an appointment to speak to someone about abuse I experienced as a child and never dealt with. I changed my number and then messaged him to tell him I was sorry and I was going to see someone. I expected him to think I was mental. But instead he unblocked me straight away. Are pisces this patient and kind with everyone or does he maybe think something of me. Thanks x

Not a Pisces, just a guy. Astrology aside, check out attachment style s (aka attachment theory). Everyone has an attachment style that develops throughout childhood. It's basically linked to how your relationship developed between you and your primary caregiver. This of course can manifest later in your adult relationships.

It sounds like due to your childhood that you may have an anxious attachment style . This means you're constantly seeking validation and approval from outside sources (generally lovers) to fill the emotional void that was created in childhood. It stems from receiving infrequent, sporadic, or even non existent emotional validation as a child. As a result you constantly feel the need for someone to "soothe" you.

I've also known another Taurus woman with this attachment style . Taurus energy with an anxious attachment style manifests in a person being extremely needy and pushy about their desires. It can be overwhelming for anyone really, not just a Pisces, to deal with partner who is "anxious".

Links to help you out:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment- style -impacts-your-relationship

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

You're so full of knowledge! I just looked into this because I'm actually dealing with a similar scenario right now. I would consider myself as having an anxious-preoccupied style but lately I've been struggling with my view towards relationships.

"Normally" I'm quite desperate to fall in love with someone and tend to be very clingy. After my last breakup I see myself as being more fearful-avoidant. I feel like I need to be in a relationship but when I have potential with someone I immediately shut down.



It's been really difficult to understand why I'm like this now. It put a lot of my thoughts and feelings into words.

I'm "seeing" a Pisces now... I don't know if you could even say that because I distance myself. Anyways, he majored in psychology which is interesting after reading this. I've felt like this entire time he's been trying to dissect my brain and he's actually pointed out a lot of my insecurities I didn't even realize I had.

This thread creeps me out. He truly has tried to understand and be patient with my issues while trying to fix me. We're actually having a discussion about this currently via text.

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That still makes sense actually. So it sounds like you're definitely anxious and not fearful-avoidant for two reasons. 1) Fear-avoidant generally stems from trauma or abuse, so it looks similar but has some major differences (I can explain later). 2) Anxious attachment has a hard time being stable in relationships. Basically someone who is "anxious" needs constant validation and stimulation, but there are also degrees.

Imagine that all of the attachment style s are on a gradient. On one end there is avoidant, then fearful avoidant, then secure (which is pretty broad), then secure-anxious, anxious, then anxious-avoidant. An "anxious" person who is closer to the "secure" attached (which I've dubbed secure-anxious) needs constant validation, but can work with a partner who understands this need. Hence it's possible for an anxious person to become more secure by being validated by a secure person.

A person who is completely anxious (let's dub this "true anxious") though will have a harder time with this. "Truly anxious" people need validation because they have strong internal belief that they are not "good enough". This stems from the infrequent or nonexistent validation they received as children. So "true anxious" people wind up finding more detached or "avoidant" partners attractive because it cements this belief. The anxious person tends to recreate the conditions they experienced when they were a child by finding a partner who will not validate them.

When a "true anxious" person finds a secure person though, the opposite occurs. The secure person's validation confuses the anxious person who, not feeling satisfied with the validation they are receiving, gets bored and shuts down. It's similar to why abuse victims stay in abusive relationships. The abusive relationship matches what the abuse victim believes is "normal". So it is for a "true anxious" person who seeks out avoidant relationships over secure ones.

Basically when you've shut down you were responding to a contradiction in your inner belief system. A secure person doesn't make sense to you, while an avoidant person does.

Thank you so much for your help. I think I'm the detached option. I cannot handle a good man. I seem to able to only have relationships with abusive men. It's such a mess. I never thought something that happened so long along affects me today. I really don't know what to do now re the pisces man im scared to contact him. I'm seeing the counsellor tomorrow so maybe I should wait till after that. X

I don't need constant validation but I never believe I'm good enough as you say. Infact im often thinking this guy is too good for me why would he want me. Then as you say I will seek out someone who treats me bad avoids me and I feel it's ok. Iv spent my life just being abused physically, emotionally even sexually a few years ago when a guy spiked my drink. I'm starting to see why I have such a difficult time with a secure stable man. But I do want this. I don't get bored as he has a great personality I just feel it's not gonna work out im not good enough. I have only just stopped seeing my mother as I believe this may register that it's not right. And like u said I have seeker my mums approval and love all my life and she treats me like she hates me X

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Thank you so much for your help. I think I'm the detached option. I cannot handle a good man. I seem to able to only have relationships with abusive men. It's such a mess. I never thought something that happened so long along affects me today. I really don't know what to do now re the pisces man im scared to contact him. I'm seeing the counsellor tomorrow so maybe I should wait till after that. X

I think this is more common than not. Both men and women tend to fall back into this type of relationship because it's comfortable, as much as it is uncomfortable.

You reached out and apologized, showing you have morals, of course he will care and get back to you, that's who we are, just don't take it for a weakness, we are not weak ( contrary to popular belief)

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I don't need constant validation but I never believe I'm good enough as you say. Infact im often thinking this guy is too good for me why would he want me. Then as you say I will seek out someone who treats me bad avoids me and I feel it's ok. Iv spent my life just being abused physically, emotionally even sexually a few years ago when a guy spiked my drink. I'm starting to see why I have such a difficult time with a secure stable man. But I do want this. I don't get bored as he has a great personality I just feel it's not gonna work out im not good enough. I have only just stopped seeing my mother as I believe this may register that it's not right. And like u said I have seeker my mums approval and love all my life and she treats me like she hates me X

You sound like me and my mum ?

You know how to reach out to a Pisces don't you ?

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I feel like this is the epitome of this thread haha

whatever you do, keep trying to stay off the scripts and live a more balanced and comfortable life - just keep trying ... it is a long journey but each day brings you closer to feeling the pain in your heart ... if you slip a bit, just get back on that wagon again ... walk, don't run ... you will have help in relieving that pain if you don't push people away - and someday you will see the rainbow and be overjoyed with gratefulness

Thanks for your advice. I'm seeig a counsellor tomorrow goodness knows what will happen but I'm looking forward to moving in the right direction. And I have also stopped seeing my mum. Someone once told me the definition of madness is doing the same thing but expecting different results. This is different for me so im hoping to see different results. No I afraid I don't know how to reach out to a pisces? How do u? I messaged him earlier to thank him for unblocking me and said hope he's having a good week and he's well. I'm seeing the counsellor tomorrow and hope he has a nice day. I haven't heard anything but I feel calm and have a lot to concentrate on outside of his reply. I will be proud not sending another message and accepting the silence. That usually sends me crazy. I'm I can accept it I have already improved xx

You need to look at yourself and remember all the things you've done caring for other people, all the thongs people have appreciated about you!

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Posted by whatisthisallabout
I think Pisces men are automatically drawn to people with difficult issues (e.g. mental, emotional, psycholocial, addiction issues). They want to heal the person. For example, a Pisces friend of mine met a random girl in a coffee shop who was an alcoholic. She was crying in the coffee shop because she couldn't pay her rent and was kicked out by her landlord. My Pisces friend took this random girl home to live with him so that he could take care of her. She was arrested for a DUI, violated her probation multiple times and was in and out of the jail for the next 3 years. He told me that things finally ended with her when she went completely psycho and attempted to kill him with a knife and then kill herself (If I remember it right, her explanation was that she wanted to end her life because it was too hard to live and she wanted him to go with her). He distracted her, called the cops, and she was arrested. Then, he moved away...

I think your Pisces is probably in love with you after you disclosed your issue to him...

your last statement is quite irresponsible. op already mentioned her over the top reactions...stand by to comfort her later.

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Pisces I know they just have a lot of love for people who are suffering. I didn't say he fall for her because of her "over-the-top reactions", I said he may have fallen for her knowing what issues she's going through. I didn't encourage over the top reactions in my last statement. My point is her disclosing of her issues.=> It is the issues op is going through that may have made the pisces fall for her and care for her deeply already.

And since she's getting help, I don't see why the Pisces wouldn't want to stand by her side and help her through her journey.

Thanks so much. What you said is how I react to being ignored. I freak out. I start panicking. This may sound strange but whatsapp makes it worse for me. When I see the tick that they have read the message and are online talking to someone else I freak out as you say. I am much calmer with texting as I can't see them online ignoring me and speaking to someone else. I have now come off whatsapp it drives me crazy. I mentioned before that I text him yesterday to thank him for unblocking me. Yes I am a little disappointed he hasn't replied but that's all. I feel calm and not hysterical. And haven't sent a second message. I probably know he'll be gone forever if I do and I know he has unblocked me there is no reason to panick. I hope my counsellor is good too its very encouraging that your life changed from it. I also have a huge block list on my phone. I do this thing where if they put a foot wrong I block them. It can be anything even not replying for a day or two. For me it makes me feel like I have dodged a bullet there quick get rid of them completely. But I can now see that was my way of avoiding them. With the pisces male I tried to block him too. I did it twice but I couldn't do it. This is when I have discovered im freaking out. I have 49 blocked contacts some are even friends. After I was raped a couple of years ago I moved back to my mum and dads. Thank heavens she was ok for a month but after that she went back to her nasty self. She was on my case telling me I was crap picking on me. My dad threw me out I had no phone and no where to go. I asked my friend if I could stay at hers for a couple of days she said I couldn't as there were boxes in one room and her husband gets ready in the other room. I never spoke to her again. So now on top of my avoidant attached issues I have trust issues and no value issues. They are not as deep routed so I can get past them much easier im sure but they do not help with the attachment avoidant thing xx

Just to make it clear my drink was spiked I cannot remember the event so I am very lucky and I believe it isn't as traumatic as being able to see what happened but I was affected for at least two years after xx

Don't read to much into him unblocking you. Lean on him as a friend for now and focus on healing. Counseling is a great first step.

Thanks lady your right. But I don't really know how to lean on him when he hasn't replied. I have to just concentrate on myself x

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Posted by Michele
I met a pisces male got on so well. I have realised since meeting him that I sabotage good relationships. I upset him then when he wanted space I bombarded him with messages. I agreed to chill then bombarded him again. In the end he blocked me and said sorry this is too much. I decided I needed help and have made an appointment to speak to someone about abuse I experienced as a child and never dealt with. I changed my number and then messaged him to tell him I was sorry and I was going to see someone. I expected him to think I was mental. But instead he unblocked me straight away. Are pisces this patient and kind with everyone or does he maybe think something of me. Thanks x

Not a Pisces, just a guy. Astrology aside, check out attachment style s (aka attachment theory). Everyone has an attachment style that develops throughout childhood. It's basically linked to how your relationship developed between you and your primary caregiver. This of course can manifest later in your adult relationships.

It sounds like due to your childhood that you may have an anxious attachment style . This means you're constantly seeking validation and approval from outside sources (generally lovers) to fill the emotional void that was created in childhood. It stems from receiving infrequent, sporadic, or even non existent emotional validation as a child. As a result you constantly feel the need for someone to "soothe" you.

I've also known another Taurus woman with this attachment style . Taurus energy with an anxious attachment style manifests in a person being extremely needy and pushy about their desires. It can be overwhelming for anyone really, not just a Pisces, to deal with partner who is "anxious".

Links to help you out:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment- style -impacts-your-relationship

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

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Great post. Would you think about using this post to create a thread in the relationship forum...it could help others

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Posted by Michele

I expected him to think I was mental.

That sounds manipulative.

If your only intention of telling him about the abuse you suffered as a child was to get him to have a certain impression of you ... then that's deceptive.

Further .. you even said that you don't know if there's a connection between you being so insufferably smothering, and your childhood. You just self diagnosed yourself, and then are prompting him to feel for you accordingly.

Once he realizes you're fake ... you're finished. period.

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.... a couple of years ago I moved back to my mum and dads.

Thank heavens she was ok for a month but after that she went back to her nasty self. She was on my case telling me I was crap picking on me.

My dad threw me out I had no phone and no where to go.

I asked my friend if I could stay at hers for a couple of days she said I couldn't as there were (excuses)

Honestly, you just sound like a pity freak, who's looking for attention.

You had no qualms being with your mother, so long as YOU needed her.

And a person who is nasty, is this way all the time. They don't pretend to be sweet for month unless they are trying to get something from someone and faking it. Any person with a smidgeon of experience with psychology realizes that your mother didn't fake being who is she to you for a month.

What likely is the truth is that after a month, you became your miserable self and started whining again about how you're a victim of life. btw, that becomes intolerable real quick .. because we all have life obstacles. It doesn't make you a victim.

To add to this theory of it being you who is the problem ...... even your father tossed you aside without the means to care for yourself.

Even your friend had excuses as to why you're not welcome.



You're the common denominator here, it's YOU who is fucked up.



Thus far, you are full of excuses for yourself, presenting to us that you've been victimized by life ... and that's a bunch of bullshit. The only thing I see here is that you are refusing to accept that it's up to you to make someone of yourself, so you're trying to force other things/people to be accountable for you.



Once a person comes in here and comments about how every person in their life shuns them ...... that is the sign on the wall that everyone should realize .... you're full of shit, and looking to be validated as a victim, when you're not.

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Posted by Michele
I met a pisces male got on so well. I have realised since meeting him that I sabotage good relationships. I upset him then when he wanted space I bombarded him with messages. I agreed to chill then bombarded him again. In the end he blocked me and said sorry this is too much. I decided I needed help and have made an appointment to speak to someone about abuse I experienced as a child and never dealt with. I changed my number and then messaged him to tell him I was sorry and I was going to see someone. I expected him to think I was mental. But instead he unblocked me straight away. Are pisces this patient and kind with everyone or does he maybe think something of me. Thanks x

Not a Pisces, just a guy. Astrology aside, check out attachment style s (aka attachment theory). Everyone has an attachment style that develops throughout childhood. It's basically linked to how your relationship developed between you and your primary caregiver. This of course can manifest later in your adult relationships.

It sounds like due to your childhood that you may have an anxious attachment style . This means you're constantly seeking validation and approval from outside sources (generally lovers) to fill the emotional void that was created in childhood. It stems from receiving infrequent, sporadic, or even non existent emotional validation as a child. As a result you constantly feel the need for someone to "soothe" you.

I've also known another Taurus woman with this attachment style . Taurus energy with an anxious attachment style manifests in a person being extremely needy and pushy about their desires. It can be overwhelming for anyone really, not just a Pisces, to deal with partner who is "anxious".

Links to help you out:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment- style -impacts-your-relationship

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

Great post. Would you think about using this post to create a thread in the relationship forum...it could help others

🙂

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Not a bad idea, though I'd have to figure that out. There's a LOT of material on attachment theory. I find people are usually more receptive to information like this when they have a question or problem they are looking to address.

There is always someone living life far worse than us. P Angel is confirmation of this. There's me a victim been abused all my life and yet I wouldn't dream of treating someone in such a manner. Pity is what I feel for the person who abuses. See when I am free of this I will move forward to be the loving girl I am and lead a happy fulfilling life. Where as the abuser will continue there miserable existence pushing their negativity on those who are vulnerable. Remember everyone someone who abuses is just that an abuser. And what they say has no significance unless you allow it. I choose to understand your comments to be neither helpful nor significant P Angel. I wish you a lovely day.

MY stars shine I would be very happy to put something on the relationship forum. I will include something positive as I continue through my journey xx 🙂

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Posted by Michele
I met a pisces male got on so well. I have realised since meeting him that I sabotage good relationships. I upset him then when he wanted space I bombarded him with messages. I agreed to chill then bombarded him again. In the end he blocked me and said sorry this is too much. I decided I needed help and have made an appointment to speak to someone about abuse I experienced as a child and never dealt with. I changed my number and then messaged him to tell him I was sorry and I was going to see someone. I expected him to think I was mental. But instead he unblocked me straight away. Are pisces this patient and kind with everyone or does he maybe think something of me. Thanks x

Not a Pisces, just a guy. Astrology aside, check out attachment style s (aka attachment theory). Everyone has an attachment style that develops throughout childhood. It's basically linked to how your relationship developed between you and your primary caregiver. This of course can manifest later in your adult relationships.

It sounds like due to your childhood that you may have an anxious attachment style . This means you're constantly seeking validation and approval from outside sources (generally lovers) to fill the emotional void that was created in childhood. It stems from receiving infrequent, sporadic, or even non existent emotional validation as a child. As a result you constantly feel the need for someone to "soothe" you.

I've also known another Taurus woman with this attachment style . Taurus energy with an anxious attachment style manifests in a person being extremely needy and pushy about their desires. It can be overwhelming for anyone really, not just a Pisces, to deal with partner who is "anxious".

Links to help you out:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment- style -impacts-your-relationship

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

Great post. Would you think about using this post to create a thread in the relationship forum...it could help others

🙂

Not a bad idea, though I'd have to figure that out. There's a LOT of material on attachment theory. I find people are usually more receptive to information like this when they have a question or problem they are looking to address.

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Maybe some do have questions ?

Thank you cuteness. I hope ur ok too. At the moment I am absorbing the silence and learn that every day im moving away from the person I taught myself to be to survive x

What do u mean by questions my stars shine. Questions from who x

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Posted by Michele
I met a pisces male got on so well. I have realised since meeting him that I sabotage good relationships. I upset him then when he wanted space I bombarded him with messages. I agreed to chill then bombarded him again. In the end he blocked me and said sorry this is too much. I decided I needed help and have made an appointment to speak to someone about abuse I experienced as a child and never dealt with. I changed my number and then messaged him to tell him I was sorry and I was going to see someone. I expected him to think I was mental. But instead he unblocked me straight away. Are pisces this patient and kind with everyone or does he maybe think something of me. Thanks x

Not a Pisces, just a guy. Astrology aside, check out attachment style s (aka attachment theory). Everyone has an attachment style that develops throughout childhood. It's basically linked to how your relationship developed between you and your primary caregiver. This of course can manifest later in your adult relationships.

It sounds like due to your childhood that you may have an anxious attachment style . This means you're constantly seeking validation and approval from outside sources (generally lovers) to fill the emotional void that was created in childhood. It stems from receiving infrequent, sporadic, or even non existent emotional validation as a child. As a result you constantly feel the need for someone to "soothe" you.

I've also known another Taurus woman with this attachment style . Taurus energy with an anxious attachment style manifests in a person being extremely needy and pushy about their desires. It can be overwhelming for anyone really, not just a Pisces, to deal with partner who is "anxious".

Links to help you out:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment- style -impacts-your-relationship

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

Great post. Would you think about using this post to create a thread in the relationship forum...it could help others

🙂

Not a bad idea, though I'd have to figure that out. There's a LOT of material on attachment theory. I find people are usually more receptive to information like this when they have a question or problem they are looking to address.

Maybe some do have questions ?

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Hm, I'll ponder it a bit to see how I can approach the topic.

No problem 🙂 x